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How to Escape From an Awful First Date

There was once a time when women’s sole initiative role in the human mating ritual involved nothing more than dropping a silken handkerchief in the presence of her objet d’amour – an olden day version of the “bend and snap” – thereby prompting him to retrieve it and engage her in some polite conversation.

Today we play a much more proactive part in the dating world. This evolution is, for the most part, a positive improvement. We can now go after what – or rather whom – we want, rather than resorting to passive aggressive Victorian “subtleties” involving superfluous floor-bound accessories.  On the other hand, it is on to handle those situations in which we wish to extricate ourselves from the reach of gentlemen showing us unwanted attention… Preferably, while still maintaining the grace and decorum befitting a twenty first century lady.

So here it is. The quick ‘n easy exit strategy. How to escape from an insufferable first date. [Click to continue reading…]

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How to be Friends With an Ex

Can you be friends with an ex? It’s an age old question with one very popular answer: NO.  Well I’m hear to counter that notion and to tell you that yes, exes can be friends.

How do I know this? Well one of my exes is actually now one of my best friends. As well as my business partner. That’s right, I’m talking about Eric Charles, our beloved relationship guru. Once upon a time, Eric and I we were a very serious couple and, without going into too many of the gory details, we had a seriously awful breakup.

Whenever I tell people I started this site with my ex, I get the same horrified look followed by the same burning question: “HOW?!”  And most people just assume we started the site while we were together and are now stuck in some sort of joint custody nightmare. Nope. We started the site long after our relationship ended and soon after our new-found friendship came to be. Eric isn’t the only ex I’ve been able to be friends with, there actually are a few of them. [Click to continue reading…]

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Introducing Cheek’d: A New Way to Meet Your Mate

Have you ever spotted someone, felt that undeniable attraction, and then panicked at the prospect of approaching them and striking up a conversation? Of course you have, we’ve all been there. Approaching a member of the opposite sex is terrifying no matter what your gender. If you chicken out and let that person slip away you can either draft up a Missed Connection post for Craigslist and hope for the best or let thoughts of what might have been run rampant, neither of which is an ideal scenerio.

A few weeks ago a friend of mine introduced me to Cheek’d, an innovative new offline/online dating concept that makes it a little easier to connect with the given object of your affection. [Click to continue reading…]

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ANM Book Review: “51 Things You Should Know Before Getting Engaged”

The more and more you think you understand the opposite sex, alas, you realize you don’t. So when it comes to a serious relationship, how do you know if that person is the “one?”

I was confronted with that question after dating my boyfriend for four years. It was that time in the relationship when you think, “Hmm, is this the person I’m spending the rest of my life with?” Some people claim you “just know” but I didn’t feel strongly one way or the other. At this day in age, I don’t know if it’s even that simple. Anyone of reasonable intelligence can justify both sides to themselves. [Click to continue reading…]

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Ask a Guy: He Says He’s “Too Immature” For Me

I’ve been with my boyfriend for 5 months.  He’s 23 and I’m 26. When we started going out, I was applying for grad school and he was going to be traveling for a couple of months. He said if I missed him a lot he would send for me and I was welcome to join him at any time.

About three months into the relationship, I told him I really liked him and he said, “Who says I’m coming back?”  (Big change from just a couple of months…)

Now he wants to see if he can live in NZ permanently. I told him I’d miss him and he said he’d miss me too, but wanted to try it as it was something different. When I said I wanted to come with him, he said that he thinks he’s too immature for me and doesn’t know what he wants in life.

What’s the deal?

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Ask a Guy: An Old Ex is Back, But Is He Serious?

I have known this man for 25 years. I dated him before I got married to another man and he also married someone else. We both recently divorced our spouses, him in 2006 and me 2009. A friend told him I was divorced and he emailed me. We talked and emailed for about 6 months and then got together. It was a little awkward, but we had a great time after I relaxed. We got together again about a month later and it was great.

While I was still married,  we talked several times a day. Now we talk about once a week and e-mail. My question is: How do I know if he has any serious thoughts about me? He gets very uncomfortable if I try to even ask how he feels. He said he is not sleeping with anyone but me and is happy by himself.  One time when I asked, he said he considers me his companion and lover. What does that mean?

Another problem is that we live several states away, but there are no kids or reasons not to see each other. He said he will share real estate with someone, but no marriage and told me he is not ready to move where I am. Is it worth continuing this?

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