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11 Undeniable Signs He’s In Love With You

He loves me … he loves me not … if only finding the answer were as simple as plucking petals off a flower. So what makes it so hard to determine if a man truly loves you?

A lot of us have ideas about what love should be, what it should look like, and how it should feel. A lot of the time these ideas are plain wrong (we can thank romantic comedies for that). As a result, some of us might not recognize the real thing when it comes our way.

Maybe it’s because of these grand visions of love that have been implanted in our minds, but it could also be the result of being burned too many times in the past and having walls up when it comes to either giving love or being able to receive it.

The point is, love is a tricky thing. A guy can say he loves you and not truly mean it, and a guy can love you a lot but not be ready to say it.

Love, as beautiful as it is, can also be scary, and a lot of us keep our guard up until we’re sure he feels a certain way in order to keep from getting hurt. As the saying goes, before you fall in love, make sure there is someone there to catch you.

The trouble with this is that when you get caught up in trying to figure out if a man loves you, you can no longer be present in the relationship. Instead of connecting, you are stuck in your own worried thoughts, and those thoughts produce fears and insecurities that ultimately block you from getting the love you want.

So how do you know if a man is truly in love with you? If he shows these 11 signs, then it’s pretty safe to say he is.

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Signs He Loves You:

1. The way he looks at you.

He looks at you like you’re a unicorn, like he can’t believe you exist. He may even come right out and tell you, “I can’t believe someone like you exists.”

It isn’t a look of lust and desire (although he will feel that as well!). Instead, it’s marked by a certain level of awe, serenity, and inner calm. It’s a look reserved only for you.

It’s not only the way he looks at you; it’s the frequency. He can’t stop looking at you; whether you’re together or across the room from each other, his gaze will always be oriented toward you.

2. He wants to give to you.

Real love is about giving, not taking. This is why parents typically love their children more than their children love them. You would think it would be the opposite. From birth through our teenage years (and sometimes beyond!) kids take and parents give. Every parent (myself included!) will tell you that you never know real love until you have a child, and that’s because this kind of love is all about giving. Nothing will knock the selfish out of you quite like being completely responsible for tiny helpless people!

When you love someone, you want to give that person everything you have. This isn’t about material possessions. You want to give by being the best you can, you want to make them happy, to enhance their life, you want to do things for them that will make them happy.

Love isn’t merely a feeling; it’s a verb and it comes across in actions. The biggest action that indicates a man loves you is when he gives you all he can.

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3. He treats you like a priority.

Everyone is busy; we all have work or school or other commitments. When a man loves you, he will make spending time with you a priority. And if he really doesn’t have time, he’ll make sure to let you know when he will.

When a man loves you, you’re the most important person in his life and he makes sure to carve out a place in it for you. You’re not an afterthought or a backup plan. You are it for him.

4. He wants to immerse himself in your life.

He wants to meet your family and all of your friends, and he really wants them to like him. He makes an effort to get to know them and make a good impression. He wants to know all about your passions and hobbies and tries to connect to these areas of your life as much as possible.

At the same time, he also wants to immerse you in his life and for you to meet all of his people. He wants you to be best friends with everyone he’s close to and he wants the people in his life to love you the way he does.

More than that, he includes you in his bigger life plan. He doesn’t speak about the future vaguely; instead, he makes it clear that he envisions a future with you in it.

MORE: How Men Show Their Love

5. He really sees you.

He notices things about you that others don’t (maybe he even sees things that you don’t!) He notices how you interact with others, how people feel in your presence, how your mind works, how you process emotions, how you express yourself. He pays attention to all the little details and he remembers them. He appreciates the full scope of who you are, the good and the bad.

He doesn’t just love you, he loves things about you.

Really loving people doesn’t mean you love the way they make you feel (although many people believe that’s what love is), it’s about loving them for who they are at their core. This sort of love has nothing to do with how good that person makes you feel about yourself. That’s not to say someone you love can’t or won’t make you feel good about yourself, but you can’t truly love people only because they make you feel good. That’s a very selfish kind of love, a love that feeds your need to feel good in the moment, not a life-changing, deep love.

When someone really sees you, he sees not just everything you are but everything you want to be, and he’ll let you know when you’re falling short.

The catch? This may actually make you feel bad about yourself. If you’re being a jerk to strangers, treating a friend poorly, or not living up to your obligations somehow, someone who loves you will let you know. It may not feel good, but it’s a sign that he really sees you, all of you, and cares about you. (I go into greater depth on this in my article on what no one tells you about being in a good relationship.)

6. Your happiness is as important to him as his own.

Your happiness may be even more important! When you love someone, really love someone, their happiness is your happiness. This is especially true for men who need to feel like they can make a woman happy.

If you tell him that something makes you unhappy and he keeps doing it, this is not a sign that he’s in love with you. A man who loves you will avoid doing things that make you unhappy and will learn the things will make you happy, and he’ll make an effort to do those things.

7. He misses you when you’re apart.

Men typically fall in love in a woman’s absence, not her presence. A man can shower you with all the love in the world while he’s with you because it’s nice to be with someone else and to connect and be affectionate, but what is he like when he’s not with you? Does he miss you? Does he make an effort to reach out? Or does he disappear for days on end and then tell you he’s sorry, he’s just been “super swamped?”

When you love someone, you yearn for their presence and miss them when they’re gone. It doesn’t mean you are constantly thinking about them every waking minute, because that would be an unhealthy obsession, not love, but the thought of them always lingers in the background. Things remind you of them, something happens and you want to tell them, you just feel a constant connection even when you’re apart.

When a man is in love with you, he’ll be in touch. He’ll send you funny things he finds online or links to articles he thinks you’d like, or he’ll tell you about something funny that happened to him that he thought you’d appreciate. You don’t ever wonder what black hole he’s fallen into. He’s just there, and you dont doubt he’ll stay there.

8. He keeps you in the loop.

I remember very early in my relationship with my husband I knew he really cared about me because he would always keep me in the loop, even when it wasn’t necessary. For instance, before our third date, I texted him to confirm the time and he didn’t respond for about 45 minutes and when he did he apologized for the delay and said he was out with friends and not checking his phone.

I don’t consider 45 minutes to be that significant of a time lag and didn’t need the explanation, but it made me feel cared for and it showed me that he considered me someone important and didn’t want me to think that something else was more important. He would do considerate things like that constantly, and that’s how I knew he loved me long before he even said it.

When a guy loves you, he won’t ever leave you hanging. He’ll keep you informed about what he’s up to, not because he has to, but because he wants to.

9. He’s there for you even when it’s inconvenient.

Being in love is easy when everything is going great and it’s all smooth sailing, but what happens when you hit a rough patch, or when you need him? How does he respond when there is a problem, when he needs to be there for you even if there are other things he would rather be doing?

Love is other-focused; it’s not about one’s own needs and desires, it’s about factoring in someone else.

When a man loves you, nothing will be more important than being there for you when you need him. It may not always be his ideal scenario, but he’ll step up and be there.

10. He doesn’t give up.

He puts his all into the relationship and really commits to making it work. When you love someone, you don’t quit without a fight.

I remember at the beginning of my relationship with my husband, a lot of my deep-seated relationship fears started bubbling to the surface. I had been blindsided by breakups in the past; I’d had men tell me they loved me and then they left me. It’s hard to just forget such things and wipe the slate clean.

Even though this relationship was totally different from anything else I’d ever experienced, those fears lingered. I remember one conversation where I brought this up to him, and he told me that if this relationship didn’t last, it would be a mutual parting and we would both see it coming. He wasn’t going to just leave; he was going to put in everything he had. He did and so did I, and fortunately it all worked out!

MORE: 10 Signs He’s a Keeper

If a man says he loves you but doesn’t want to try anymore, or gives up because he thinks it’s too hard, then it probably wasn’t true love. You don’t give up on love unless you have put everything you have into making it work, and it was just impossible (and this is something that both people will usually be able to clearly recognize).

There are obviously times where someone can truly love you, but because you’re just not right for each other, or maybe because you aren’t willing to put in the necessary effort, that he will walk away even though he loves you, but only after giving it his all.

11. You don’t worry how he feels—you just know.

Similar to what I said in my article about how to know if a guy likes you, when a guy loves you, you just know. It’s obvious to you and to everyone around you. You’ll have a feeling of peace and calm and just knowing.

When someone truly loves you, his behavior and way of being with you won’t arouse feelings of insecurity/fear/anxiety/worry in you (as long as you yourself are emotionally healthy. If you’re prone to having those feelings no matter what, then they are probably generated within you).

Check in with yourself and see where it’s coming from. Usually, when we feel uneasy, like the rug is going to be pulled out from under us, it’s because the relationship isn’t standing on a stable ground because the guy isn’t sure of how he feels. When someone loves you, he shows it and you just know it, even before he says it.

I hope after reading this article you’re totally clear on the signs a man is in love with you. But before you go, I need to tell you that there’s a crucial period in your relationship that will determine if you and he end up together, or if the relationship falls apart. At some point, he will start to back off. He may lose interest, he may pull away, he may suddenly need space. Do you know how to handle it when he does this? If not, be sure to read this: If He’s Pulling Away, Do This...

The next problem you may run into is when he gets to the point where he asks himself: Is this the woman I want to commit to for the long-term? The fate of your relationship lies in the answer to that question. Do you know how men decide if a woman is girlfriend, or even wife, material? The type of woman that a man wants to commit himself to? If not you need to read this next: The #1 Things Men Desire in a Woman

These Are the Biggest Signs He’s In Love With You:

  1. The way he looks at you.
  2. He wants to give to you.
  3. He treats you like a priority.
  4. He wants to immerse himself in your life.
  5. He really sees you.
  6. Your happiness is as important to him as his own.
  7. He misses you when you’re apart.
  8. He keeps you in the loop.
  9. He’s there for you even when it’s inconvenient.
  10. He doesn’t give up.
  11. You don’t worry how he feels—you just know.

Written by Sabrina Alexis

I’m Sabrina Alexis, the co-founder, and co-editor of A New Mode. I love writing relatable, insightful articles that help people understand relationship dynamics and how to get the love they want. I have a degree in psychology and have spent the last 10 years interviewing countless men and reading and studying as much as I can to better understand human psychology and how men operate. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Facebook or Instagram.

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Reading all these comments makes me feel so sad for some of y’all ladies. . .
I have a boyfriend who has told me he loves me, he looks at me with love in his eyes, he always tries to respond, we text or talk every. single. day.
He rubs my feet, puts his arm around my shoulder and rubs my shoulder and back, and I never even asked for it. . .
I am just reminded how grateful I am for him. ❤️

Reply April 2, 2024, 6:57 pm


Well I have this guy who actually likes me but is scared if falling in love with me what do I do?

Reply August 3, 2021, 4:57 am


Have been dating this guy for over 3years now, everything has been cool still I gave birth, he stop calling and claim he is busy, he finds it difficult to reply my messages, I just don’t understand him anymore, he is always asking for time. Should I just move on as a single mother or continue to be with him

Reply July 10, 2021, 4:56 pm


I am seeing a guy, he has all these qualities. I don’t know how to react to the situation he is 6 years elder to me. He is 30 and I’m 24, does this age barrier matter in our relationship?

Reply March 21, 2021, 2:21 am


I had something to do with this guy in my office, like we kissed and had a foreplay. He told me he has a girlfriend before we kissed but I did not believe him because he wasn’t serious about it. So a month after we kissed that was when he told me that the person he’s in a relationship with is my colleague in the office, I was so upset, and before he told me he had already told his girlfriend what happened between us and all along I’ve been greeting and smiling at her. When both of them are in the office I usually live the office for them because I wasn’t comfortable with the whole thing anymore

On Thursday his girlfriend entered our office so I left immediately she entered, so later on he asked me what the issue was because I was moody through out the day, I told him it was nothing. He asked me if I like him, I told him I never said that. When I got home that day, he called me but I did not pick immediately, he asked why it was taking me time to pick his call, I told him it was nothing. He asked if he should stop calling me, I told him if he wants to, that’s it’s his choice to make so he ended the call. I called him back so I told him what the issue was because I told my boyfriend what happened between me and the guy and he stopped calling me, we don’t communicate like we used to, so I spoke to the guy about everything. So this guy in my office spoke to me and I thought everything was okay between us

When I got to work on Friday his attitude towards me changed, I asked him a question he acted as if I was disturbing him, so I asked him what the problem was several times he said it was nothing. But I knew something was wrong, so I asked him if I should stop talking to him he said yes, till today we’ve not spoken to each other and we stay in the same office everyday…..I think am starting to like him

Reply March 1, 2021, 12:34 pm

Winnie leo

Hello,Am 15 years,i have a crush he is my classmate he was a new student in our class that term,he don’t normally talk with me apart from greeting me and walk away,when he is coming my direction my heart always beat and when he is around me it’s still beat,when he is absence i will be sad and lonely and i think i have a feeling for him,when he took at me he will blinks and look away please is this call love or influtation?

Reply December 8, 2020, 3:30 am



My name is Ashley and I’m 23. I met this guy in college who was my classmate in 3 classes, but we never spoke. He used to stair at me very deeply and that’s how I realized he had a crash on me. As the times passed I felt a crash on him too. He used to chase me in library or cafe but not outside the college. I always wanted him to take the first step and start the conversation because I’m a very calm and somewhat shy person and never been in relationship before. He had many of these sign that you have mentioned above. Second year, finally, I got the courage to randomly go to him and ask his name. Yep, I was so focused on my studies that I didn’t even know his name. Gosh! He told me his name and said the reason of asking. I answered, “nothing, just asking “ and I walked away. That’s it! He continued staring at me and I continued waiting so he can at least say hi. He never did. I graduated and never saw him again.. It’s been a year and I am still kind of waiting to see him again in my life. I have no idea about this feeling. Now I met another guy in my workplace, who is a bit like him, he stairs at me, but we rarely talk for a minute and that’s it. I don’t know if he is in a rea lion ship or not but the way he acts towards me and never speaks of any girl in his life, clearly shows that he is currently in no relationship. But this is what I think. I’m very confused if I should for get about the college guy and move on, confused about giving a chance to the guy in my workplace or not? But I’m afraid he would be the same and only stair at me that’s it. If I give him the chance and then I figure out he is not interested, Idk, have no idea about anything. I’m just supper confused what I should do and how I should feel.

Reply September 29, 2020, 12:35 am


My boy friend don’t do any of these

Reply July 26, 2020, 9:05 am


Leave him… he is not worth your time…. be with someone you know who will love you.

Reply October 6, 2020, 7:23 am


A young guy I admire so much who was my manager some years back, recently reviewed his intention towards me. Although years back, he usually ask for my pictures which he did again recently but when I asked why, he said it’s just to be seeing my face.
He asked to know if I’m still the nice girl he used to know, and I said yes. Although before he made his intention know to me, our discussion also lead to me telling him about guys allover me but I don’t what them.
He said he is always busy working on his goals. But does that stop him from not picking my calls or even replying my text messages after I had agreed to be in a relationship with him and also told him I love him too?
Please I’m confuse

Reply May 29, 2020, 7:46 am


OK I love this guy, he has told me he loves me, he tells me am not his type of girl, he showed
a pic of the girl he said he’s dating,he spends 75% of his day with me, he tells his friends am his future wifey, even his bro, but he hasn’t told me anything about that but he has told his friends and bro,one of his friend confined in me and his bro told me not to tell his bro about him telling me, m confused, is he in love with me truly or he’s just kidding about it

Reply May 19, 2020, 12:32 pm

Chizaram Acho

I love a guy, we have been dating since one month now. But is hardly we talked things out, as in chat when we are both together, he loves pressing his phone more than talking to me about himself

Reply May 6, 2020, 9:03 am


I have a boyfriend who claims to love me so much but same times he does not call me and when I ask him he says he is always busy with work so iam confused

Reply May 5, 2020, 3:09 pm


Am in love with two guys who treat me like a queen both never allow me to get angry but there is no way I can date the both of them. Please I want to know which of them who loves me more

Reply May 5, 2020, 2:08 pm


I met and dated the guy I’ve always wanted and dreamed of being with. It happened unexpectedly and we met through mutual friends. The relationship was amazing; we loved being in each other’s company, we got along really well, spent lots of quality time together, cared deeply for one another, had upmost trust, incredible passion, and we were both so committed to each other. It was so real and genuine, he felt like the one. But circumstances put stress and pressure on our relationship. We were both young and studying in school. He didn’t know what he wanted to do with his life yet and I struggled with insecurities within myself. That’s when we had communication problems. Our relationship came to an end. It wasn’t until I was self reflecting that I realized that I was always looking to him because I was insecure and constantly needed reassurance. I realized that if I wasn’t confident in myself, no matter what he said, I would still be insecure. I needed to learn to love myself before I could love him. We ended the relationship in a very sudden matter, both of us still loving the other. But even I knew that getting back together without change is not a good idea. I know that we both needed to do some growing before we can ever be together. In his last letter to me he wrote that he was thankful that I was apart of his life and that he wishes me happiness and the best moving forward. The letter seems like he was closing a chapter in his life. I’m struggling on whether to keep hoping or to let go of him. I want to keep the doors open so that maybe we can get a second try in the future. I don’t want to let go of him, what should I do? Is he thinking about me as much as I’m thinking about him? We’re currently on our “no contact” period.

Reply January 23, 2020, 5:56 pm


Hi after my marriage of 23 years failed I decided to walk away , 5 months in and I crossed paths with my first love after 25 years of saying our goodbyes . We dated for four years but unfortunately due to wrong timing things didn’t work out until recently he got in touch with me again , could this be the right timing ? I surely hope so as they say you never forget your first love .
Regards Maria

Reply January 15, 2020, 7:50 pm



I’ve been dating a guy for nearly one year, but i’ve Known him for 4.

Our realtionship started off very shaky. Before we had made it official I had found a girl waiting for him in his bed, he begged and pleaded and I had forgave him.

After 6 months of him showering me with love, gifts and an amazing friendship I found out through a friend that he has a 1 year old daughter. He’s reason being that he didn’t want it to ruin our realtionship. It took me two weeks to forgive him and move on.

Now 9months in, my strongly religious mother has voiced that should would like to meet him because she’s very aware that I stay at his house twice a week and knows of his past.

I discussed this with him and he said he would happily meet her and my father but cannot promise me marriage because it hasn’t been up to one year.

He loves to spend time with me and I have met some of his close family members however he’s very secretive with his phone and something makes me feel so unsure.

This is my first realtionship at 25 and he’s also 25.

What do I do??

Reply September 24, 2019, 12:30 pm


He doesn’t love you. His child should have been brought up in the first one or two conversations. And then when he knows he is serious about you, then he would introduce you to the child. If you’re having sex with him before marriage, you’re playing yourself. Sex, believe it or not, is a wife benefit. Regardless of how you feel about having sex before marriage, men out women in a certain category once they have gotten sex. Sex is the ultimate goal for men, sad to say. They do care about us women, but it’s the prize.

If marriage is your goal and it isn’t his, not to say that his mind can’t change later (I know my ex’s mind did once he fell in love and once he saw I wasn’t nudging from my standards), but usually it’s a sign that it isn’t work out, be aide your beliefs, morals, and values are not aligned.

You feel unsure about him and his phone because your intuition is telling you something about his behavior in general. You suspect foul play, and you’re probably right.

If a man can hide important things (like a child) from the beginning, think of what else he will hide from you throughout the relationship. You are young and so is he. He is still figuring himself out as a young man. He doesn’t know much about how to keep a woman. But you my dear, can develop standards. Create them and don’t budge. The boys that aren’t meant to be in your life will disappear quickly; but the MEN will pursue because a man respects a woman who respects herself.

Reply September 25, 2019, 3:37 am


I know it’s hard, but let him go. Letting him go means cutting off all access to him including blocking him on your phone and all social media accounts. The blocking for a form serves as a protection for you and will also help you not respond to his mind-gaming texts of sweet nothings and pleas to talk to him. You are young and have 60 more years to come across love. Love is literally everywhere. Don’t worry. Focus on you and becoming a better person on all levels for the one that is meant for you. That man will come when you aren’t looking for him.

Reply September 25, 2019, 3:41 am


You are worthy girl!!!! Leave his ass!!! You dont owe him a explanation why you are leaving either. Boy Bye!

Reply November 23, 2019, 9:25 pm


Hie. Currently l am dating a guy l am having a lot of issues with. I feel like our love is not genuine because we both have indifferences. My last relationship was ok, it was way more than ok until we broke up. With my current guy l feel like we are having forced conversations and l feel so bored most of the times. He is not sentimental in any way. No gifts or any romantic gestures. The only thing he knows best is taking you out to eat and it’s now a boring gesture. What do l do with this person? I feel like breaking up with him but in a nice way. I have tried to tell him how l feel about it but nothing has changed.

Reply July 27, 2019, 9:19 pm


To be honest my dare, its best if you let it go. firstly he dosnt love you or values what you guys have. Conversation is like the pillow stone to a good relationship,if you have to force a convo with your guy hes definitely not the one. First you have to value yourself and love your self and ensure you know your worth. Then after that you’ll know what to do when things like this happens.

Reply December 9, 2019, 12:33 pm


We have been friends for more than three years now. We cared for each other’s as a friend . I have other male friends too but he seems to care for me more than anyone else. I knew all the girls he had dated but through all those times too our friendship was sailing smooth . But after we graduated from college he always says he missed me and asked me if I miss him too . And he texts me more than college days and he also set me up to meet his sisters and family . At last he proposed to me and confess his feeling to me but I ask him why he love me and he said because I cared for him . And I m confused so I told him I understand his feeling but I valued our friendship more and I was not ready to lost it. And he backed himself and told me that I was right and he end up with his previous girlfriends because he lacks commitment and he is scared if something of that kind happens to me again due to life accidental situations . He said he don’t want to hurt my feelings and he’ll continue to care for me like he always did . Does this means he truly loves me ? I’m so confused please help me .

Reply June 14, 2019, 3:13 pm


My name is seun from Nigeria
I am married to a man that is 21 years older than me
I married him because I thought he will take care of me
But I realised after marriage that doesn’t love me
He talks to me like I am not a human being
He doesn’t give me money
He nags answer complain about everything I do
I don’t have what to do
We have a son together
I want to leave the marriage but I am afraid
I don’t even know why
What can I do??

Reply June 11, 2019, 7:01 pm


Why? Why are you still with him? The age difference is a big deal. You are an old soul, it seems that way… but if he makes you feel inadequate, and NAGS about everything you do, WHY are you still with him? Is it your son? Worst reason to stay with someone…your kids. I was married for 23 years. Staying with someone for your kids is BAD. And you know what, kids will resent you for it. I say TALK to him and let him know how you feel. If he’s still an asshole….leave and tell him WHY you are leaving. Trust me, he’ll respect you for it. Good luck

Reply October 17, 2019, 3:44 am


I met a guy early this year ,we have been cool together as friends ,we attend the same church and he always wanna talk or see me after church services we became so close that people think we’re a couple buh we’re just friends. My problem now is I think I’m in love with him bcoz of the way he treats me he calls me always and we discuss about almost everything ,he’s caring,buys me gift hang out with me, he always want me around him even with his family and friends and so on ,though we’re both single buh I don’t know if he loves me or he’s just being a good friend .please advise me should I let him know how I feel or I should just keep it to myself. Thanks in advance

Reply May 16, 2019, 2:27 pm


Hey girly,
Why don’t you tell him how you feel? You’ve got nothing to lose.
I’m always here for a chat :)

Reply July 31, 2019, 11:42 am


I had all of these things with my man. He didn’t always say a whole lot of the “right” things. But he saw me. And loved me and my life. He made very special gifts that spoke to my soul. He shares his deepest secrets with me. I have never felt sinaure and so loved
And then all of a sudden we both. Specially him for incredibly vulnerable one night. He told me how horrible he thinks of himself. And I listened and lifted him up. I told him I loved him. We both knew he was moving a couple hours away for a job
He had to take. And then he came to me all emotional. And said he’d been super emotional about me for days after our vulnerable night. And he said he had all these fears of having a long distance relationship. And how I have so many options. And I asked if he thought he needed to do this on his own?? He said he thought he did. We cried and held each other for an hour. He asked for videos of songs I had written for him. I asked if he could still give me a very special birthday present for me. He took pictures of us. And then he left. It hurt. And I admit. We have not stopped seeing eachother. But it has not been the same. He is not the same. Neither am I. I am scared now. It I am still his only friend and his person to talk to. He doesn’t open and share to anyone but me. And he is going through the worst time of his life. I love him dearly. Oh so much. But I want to give him his space too. Which he does seem to need too. But never in my life have I been so sure someone loved and cherished me. Even after my very worst breakdown a couple weeks ago. I was crying and not understanding. It was terrible and I’m ashamed of myself. But even after he got home. He reached out to me. To tell me he would keep all the special things and notes and cards I had drawn. He has kept all my stuff. Even some little underwear I left when I was over there. He has al my stuff. I love him. But I struggle with this idea of space. How can a man so obviously care deeply. Soooo deeply. And then up and need space and push me away.

Reply April 15, 2019, 6:20 am


Why are we asking questions here, it’s stupid. Why was this platform created.

Reply June 11, 2019, 11:29 pm


I love a guy but don’t knw whether he love BT with time he collected my WhatsApp num and text me to come outside to meet him unfortunately I didn’t go later again he text to come and meet him BT he was on a call and he apologize for keeping waiting later another day I went to his room as ususal we talk I notice he touches my face and said he like touching my thick face sorry does it mean he love me also

Reply April 14, 2019, 10:02 am


am in a relationship over a year now,my bf dnt always call me and d one calling him all dis while,he will tell me that he is broke he dnt have enough with him but unfortunately he tell me that he is an orphan that he takes goog care of himself bt i knw his family his sis and his grandma,he dnt care abt me he dnt hav my time for once,even if he is online he will nt greet me,bt he always tell me he love me and me to be his wife,please i need ur advice did he truly love me or nt becus am confused

Reply January 11, 2019, 10:44 am


Am from Nigeria I found this article so interesting… I had a girl I feel for she’s my bestie she is in relationships but her boyfriend want sex which she’s not ready to give bcoz she want sex after marriage… Now her By is acting strange he doesn’t call her unless she called she complains about her boyfriend to me always….as time goes on I begin to love her everything you wrote on this page is similar to what we have share together sometime she ask me if I miss her I’ll say I always do miss you…. She is pretty cool and caring she is more closer to me than my girlfriend bcoz I also had issue with my gf bcoz she doesn’t call me too..my gf is not romantic she doesn’t make me feel like her bf but this girl am telling you about makes me feel like a man as if am a full grown man but am just 22

Reply August 21, 2018, 11:52 pm


Am from Nigeria I found this article so interesting… I had a girl I feel for she’s my bestie she is in relationships but her boyfriend want sex which she’s not ready to give bcoz she want sex after marriage… Now her is acting strange he doesn’t call her unless she called she complains about her boyfriend to me always….as time goes on I begin to love her everything you wrote on this page is similar to what we have share together sometime she ask me if I miss I’ll say I always do miss you…. She is pretty cool and caring she is more closer to me than my girlfriend bcoz I also had issue with my gf bcoz she doesn’t call me too..my gf is not romantic she doesn’t make me feel like her bf but this girl am telling you about makes me feel like a man as if am a full grown man but am just 22

Reply August 21, 2018, 11:47 pm


Since he is not caring, why waste your Time.. pls move on ok cuz you deserve to be treated Nice..caring is good sign of love so why. Wasting your time

Reply January 16, 2019, 6:33 pm


I met this guy last year december 2017 and he claimed he loves me and he hardly call,i mostly do the calling,then i got angry and told him we should seperate and we stopped talking for almost 4months,then he suddenly shows up and says i am unique and he still loves me

Reply August 21, 2018, 3:29 pm


I broke up wif my bf 2 mths ago, while trying 2 get ova d heart break, his friend showed up and start showing me love, care even tho he neva woo me. One day we end up romancing eachoda, now my bf is begging me 2 cum bak buh am confused. i love my bf and i have feelings 4 diz guy also. Kindly Advice Me

Reply August 20, 2018, 10:44 am

Jennifer sparks

Date them both. It’s not about what people think but how you feel if your bf loves you he will only want you to be happy while seeing your feeling for the other guy through l.

Reply November 30, 2018, 1:10 am


have to go through, he will never call only about twice in two months we have been apart,.always complains about money. I am the only one to always call .when together he will always check on me and show all about his love he feels…is he real

Reply July 26, 2018, 11:59 am


My neighbour and her ex just broke up and her ex is now eyeing me..He has been proposing to me for quiet a while now.He says he never enjoyed his relationship because his ex was a stubborn and rude girl so his looking for someone calm like me.I like him but not love.Can i go ahead and accept? please help

Reply June 2, 2018, 6:59 pm


I have a guy am dating at the moment we met two months ago and I live in his house not because I want to but because he wants me to, he does not hide anything from him to his bank, phone and some other things but he nag at me a lot and we do fight over money cause we do the same work.. please how can I handle this? I want this relationship

Reply April 25, 2018, 12:23 pm


when the guy you’ve loved for the past 8 years but never dated starts acting indifferent about you only to tell you that he loves the old you better please what does it mean and what should be done about it… he’s my first love tho… BT we’ve not dated…. its been 8 years and I feel like I can’t love anybody else…. I dunno what to do… I need help please… I’m tired of dis whole love stuff

Reply January 7, 2018, 7:09 pm


I just broke up with my ex because he was a broke night and he is not dat boxed up, but he’s a very caring and loving person … after a month I met this new guy who always told me dat he loves and care for me, after a week, we had sex, and after some days he started acting strange like when I call him he’s always saying he’s busy and he doesn’t call me or sometimes he calls me once in three days, and when I msg him he won’t reply, he will always tell me he’s busy and he’s been acting strange, and when I try to ask him why, he’ll always lie to me dat he’s acting strange because he is broke and his clients don’t pay him and he doesn’t have airtime to call me… pls should I leave him or continue with d relationship or should I go back to my ex? because, my ex still wants me back…

Reply December 27, 2017, 8:39 am


Am a 17 year old girl and my boyfriend is 19.We have been dating for five months now,wen i first met him,he seemed to be quiet nice but i later discoverd some faults in him,i found out that he was actually alot into girls nd we quarreled but he later apologised and assured me that he will change for the better.He gave me his password to all his social media accounts and since then,things hav been quiet ok and he claims that i have changed him for the better..I love him alot and he claims to love me too but am still having my doubts wether he truly means his words or just pretending.He even assured me that he would love me to be his wife 6years from now.after we complete our college level and i felt good. but my question is,is our relationship going to last with all these temptations of life? Can we make it?

Reply December 13, 2017, 8:04 am

Rozii jade

Hey girl have controversy all over, marry him ass soon as possible coz there is turbulance in the gf bf relation , coz no control no rules of true relations r applied in such relation

Reply December 25, 2017, 3:33 pm


thanks alot for the advice.;)

Reply January 2, 2018, 5:19 pm


Search up Katarina Phang. She’ll tell you it’s best never to ask where the relationship is going. Go on, have a go. He might even shorten that six years to three.

Reply March 8, 2018, 5:21 pm


Quit cos u both are too young, in the long run he’ll definitely find a better person and u too.There can’t be true love until you’re both matured,for now infatuation is in play. The best lover you can ever have who can never break your heart or disappoint u is Jesus. This is the truth.

Reply June 18, 2018, 6:45 am


100% agree!!!!

Reply June 26, 2018, 11:04 am


i have a friend, he claim to love me but whenever i ask him of anything he said he don’t have. but he wants to sleep with me i refuse just because he is doing me well……. me i refuse to do him well too… but my plan now is to leave him and find another person that can take care of me. but my question is does he truly love me.

Reply November 15, 2017, 5:06 am


i have a friend, he claim to love me but whenever i ask him of anything he said he don’t have. but he wants to sleep with me i refuse just because he is doing me well……. me i refuse to do him well too… but my plan now is to leave him and find another person that can take care of me. please advice me on this.

Reply November 15, 2017, 5:05 am


You made the right decision.

Reply November 30, 2017, 8:42 pm


i have a friend, he claim to love love but whenever i ask him of anything he said he don’t have. but he wants to sleep with me i refuse just he is doing me well……. me i refuse to do him well too… but my plan now is to leave him and find another person that can take care of me. please advice me on this.

Reply November 15, 2017, 5:04 am


Why do u do sex with a man who is not your husband

Reply November 3, 2017, 6:56 am


and my boy friend he dn,t call me i,m the who call but he call its only i didn,t call that day or he want to come to me is it nomal

Reply November 2, 2017, 4:27 am


My bf did call me but l away call him when l ask he say he is sorry for not call an so confused l not know if he true love

Reply October 13, 2017, 8:21 pm


My bf did not call me but l away call him some time he tell me he will call me but he will not l will be the one to call when l ask he away say he is sorry for not call and so confused l not know if he love me or not

Reply October 13, 2017, 8:16 pm

Ina Cole

I was often told if you love someone let them go. If they truly love you they will come back.
In my case he did but something changed ,he changed …He would say he loves me but has no feeling behind he’s words. I asked him to prove he’s love for me as I did for him many times.He said, He gave he’s all to me and yet he is unable to show me t love we once shared.I feel that he uses me and he doesn’t care about me.

Reply August 24, 2017, 12:36 pm


Do some research on narcisstics and their supply. I just had that happen to me and now after realizing…. I was a supply to his low self esteem. Thank you

Reply October 30, 2017, 2:24 pm


We dated for 4 years now He’s seeing the other girl and they call each other every time I’m away He is saying they are friends They call each other more than 30minutes Is he on to her

Reply August 13, 2017, 5:38 pm


I dated him for four years now We have a daughter together I love him He calls that other girl all the time I’m not with him They call each other One day he called her trying to prove me they’re nothing but they were talking nice to each other The girl sent know I was listening Even today they keep calling to each other He says they are not dating What should I do…does he still love me

Reply August 13, 2017, 5:31 pm


I’ve had a crush on a guy for 4 years and he still doesn’t feel the same way…. I know that’s random but it made me think about it

Reply September 24, 2017, 1:07 am


I just playing agame Connie
Don’t play others feelings

Reply July 26, 2017, 5:50 pm

christina constantinou

I found your article very interesting, most of it related to my man loving me, who I have been with just over two years now. But it seems I haven’t met any of his family. He has no parents alive, although he has siblings and children. He is not close with them, although he see’s his son most weekends. He seems to keep his private life to himself, and not mention me to his family. He does all the wright things, apart from this part of him. Could please give me your advice on this.

Thank you


Reply July 17, 2017, 5:24 pm


For lov

Reply July 12, 2017, 11:34 pm


Wow! These are actually true signs! Im at a point in my relationship with Jacob that were talking about marriage sometime in the future. Just out of curiosity, i dared to read this article. Jacob is absolutely all of these. Which is why i love him. Needless to say ladies, think long n hard if he came up short. I also put my best childhood friend in the same line of question… Only one of these matched up . So this definitely will give an accurate view on true love or infatuation or just good friends. Thankz for posting!

Reply July 11, 2017, 6:12 pm


i think that falling in love is a very seriously feeling that u can having a pain so i encourage boys or girls to be careful during their dating

Reply June 25, 2017, 8:12 pm


Plan and simple. I’m old so I know from lots of experiences. Love is love. Its a yes or no. If they let you go leave. Don’t waste your beautiful life. Women let him come to you. Let yourself be loved. Men if you love her you better show her she is loved or someone else will.

Reply June 15, 2017, 10:51 am

Aysha Muhammad

I have bf we love each other he’s from Afghanistan BUT I’m.Philippines and I am single mom I have 3kid’s and my bf parent’s they don’t accept me Cox I Have kid’s they want virgin and my bf said to me to forget him Cox his parent’s don’t accept me and he can’t do anything for us to save our relationship BUT me going crazy.

Reply June 14, 2017, 3:09 pm


My boyfriend broke up with me on the 30th of May.
His reasons were that him and I have different views on life and that he is filled with uncertainty about relationships in general, he once asked me why people have to put themselves through the most by being inlove with one person and then having their hearts broken. I really love him and we shared a lot of personal stories together, he told me that I’m his heart in human from and that he would split oceans for me. I believe everything he told me is true but what I don’t understand is that he says he loves me deeply and he hopes and has faith that I am the one for him but he doesn’t want to be on a relationship. I really dont understand what all of this means we’ve been together for 4 months and we still speak as “friends” and he mentioned that our separation may be temporarily and not permanent.

I love him and need him to want to get back with him. Please help me

Reply June 8, 2017, 4:44 pm


My situation is so similar . I had to read this twice to make sure I didn’t write this. I suggest that you let the friendship go. Having an ongoing friendship is a waiting to keep you waiting without asking you to wait. I could be wrong. We are all different people, with that being said I don’t think anyone can really help you. Only give you insight on what they went through and how they have dealt with the issue.

Reply June 9, 2017, 1:45 pm


As a man, I suggest you give him some space at this moment, if he loves you, he will be back for you, if he doesn’t come back to you, then I think you just need forget him, wait for the guy who worth your love.

Reply June 21, 2018, 5:02 am


Every single one is shown. It’s all true. Too bad he’s straight.

Reply June 1, 2017, 11:51 pm


I have been dating this 4 a year and some month now, he introduced me to his family but not every member yet, he knows my mum and my mum knows him, we lived happily, but all of a sudden something happen that there was not enough money to take care of ourselves, he was depending on his mum, becos he’s father his late, and during this of time we started fighting, slapping each other and I discovered so many lie, but I love him so much. I just want to know if he still love, the same way he because he really help me a lot when I needed help, I don’t want to me a wrong guy. he even promise to marry me when am done with school, he engaged me, pls I need your advice

Reply June 1, 2017, 9:37 am


Stay with him, he stayed with you when you didn’t have it. He lied to impress you because he loves you. Not because he’s cheating. A man is a human being not a superhero he needs someone to lean on also.

Reply June 4, 2017, 5:28 pm

Emmanuel Ijeoma

I will advice you give some gap and watch him. If he need you he will take you home

Reply May 14, 2017, 11:28 am

Emmanuel Ijeoma

I will advice u give him some space for now,minimize everything both calling,charting and watch him. If he really need u he will take u home.

Reply May 14, 2017, 11:24 am


I am dating with a guy it’s now 2yrs he always tell me he loves me so much and includes me in his future plans too I really love him too but he doesn’t introduce me to his family and friends yet whenever I talk about it he says I should wait and am far we meet when I get my vacations but am proud he always tell him he Wil be offline but mostly a day can’t go with chatting with him secondly it’s me with money more than him and the one giving support sometimes plz help does he really love me or not? Am worried of being heart broken again have tried to trick him so many times but I don’t get any negative information

Reply May 14, 2017, 3:37 am


Hi guys i have a bf be dating for 8months now he takes me out introduce me to friends and familly but has become wild n rude to me bt he tells me almost all the time that he loves me please help me does he really love me?

Reply May 11, 2017, 7:09 pm

Heidi van Os de Man

My husband works with alot guys outside and see alot of people where he works,
the guys always talk about women and there mistresses am afarid they might tell my husband too have one also or maybe he did am so afraid what should i do please help me because i always try make him happy and look sexy

Reply May 7, 2017, 3:40 am


Honey if your husband loves you no one can or will influence him to cheat.

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Reply May 6, 2017, 2:23 pm


Hi, Sabrina, how are you… it’s been like long time since I told you about my ex and now I get over it. After 6 months and I am starting to meet this guy that’s is 2 years younger than me, we met at the bar he bought me drinks and we danced the night away, then he asked my contact, that’s it, I refused to go back to his place either kiss him even he asked me to. The next day he sent me ,essages, which was leading to the next appointment which we went for a movie, he texted me every day, and I always reply back and forth, still haven’t got to bed together after that, then he keeps sending me messages that he likes my smile, he likes my eyes which I believe it’s true because I have pretty eyes, haha… he was asking me whether I have bf or no and he said that he likes me, he does like me, he said… then we went hang out again for a movie but the surprising thing is, he invited his friend, which is I think it’s second date, but then I think again, I made a decision that he only hang out with me. Then he asked me to go back to his place but I refused because, it was not a date or as I say date equals to nice dinner but it was not, so… but the thing about him is, he never tried to kiss me again, or asked about my personal life. I don’t know where should I put this thing, and I think it’s definitely not going anywhere, but I like him anyway…. please give me enlightenment… thank you

Reply April 23, 2017, 8:53 am


I love this article… I didn’t believe it would be helpful but it turned out great
I have a guy,he seems to like me from his actions. Calls regularly, goesnout of his way to help me with stuff I need him to do etc. My worry is that,he doesn’t talk abt himself,he has not introduced me to anyone… I asked hi. One Time.. What I am to him and he said… I ask too much questions. Please am worried. I don’t want to waste time being with a wrong man. Any advice?

Reply April 21, 2017, 10:20 pm


He always stare at me (good way ) he tries to copy the things I do ! When we are in going to make a queue he always wait for me to stand (even tho is starts packing his bag and all till I leave ) he don’t even stand up till I .. he always reads books but when I go to drink water or something he just leave it and come with me I know one girl is crushing at him and I dunno whether he loves me or her as she accidentally went to wrong place he was laughing at her (not rude ) she changed her seat from me to him help me

Reply April 20, 2017, 9:09 am


My guy love me a lot..after reading this am 100% sure he due love me..He give me every thing I wanted, but sometimes I will ask him to give me money, he will be delaying me…..saying today, tomorrow. Ad now I have breakup wit him coz he didn’t give me the money I ask for…..ad am really in love wit him¤»» pls did I do the right thing? I need an answer

Reply April 8, 2017, 6:13 am


No you didn’t .. just go to him maybe he may not have money you love the money or him?

Reply April 20, 2017, 9:10 am

Sujata Sahu

Don’t know what love means.. Bt after reading this I guess everyone s exceptions will be heigh.. for me lv is just dreaming.. and excepting dat.. accept him the way he /she is..

Reply March 24, 2017, 9:40 am


luv your article its gud to knw hw somebody feels for u

Reply March 20, 2017, 7:39 am


When someone is in love he knows.you can’t be unsure or need someone to tell you.

Reply March 18, 2017, 12:41 pm


Man, now i know how he really feels, he doesnt show any of that to me

Reply March 17, 2017, 1:11 pm


hmmm my guy loves me very much and even scored 11/11in this context, but he cheated on me with another gal.Anyway,i am a virgin and he’s not so I was thinking that probably he did that because we have not being having sex. Pls I’m I right??

Reply March 14, 2017, 8:42 pm


Hi I met this guy from the net and the first day we chat on cam he request to see me from head to toe and since 1 year now he still request I show him my nakedness although I have not showed him but I want him to change from that attitude

Reply March 14, 2017, 8:23 pm



Reply April 20, 2017, 9:12 am


i’m finally married to my fiance Samuel!

Reply March 9, 2017, 9:42 pm


I jst love this article.. even i love a person but i dnt knw he loves me or not..i love him truely…i m crazy for him..all ur love signs are matched with the person i love…and i think he loves me too….

Reply March 9, 2017, 11:52 am


I had a guy we had spent like 3 weeks in love when I told him dat i hv a kid his reaction wasn’t good from there he changed totally but keeps on telling me dat he has my feelings so am confused I need ur help guys

Reply March 9, 2017, 11:05 am


I have been with a great guy for 6 years. Occasionall y he will say things like “well we’ll be married by then”.. Etc. he lives with me at my house and pays all the bills. He is loving, kind, awesome really. However he has some huge hang up about me getting to know his kids… 19 and 23. He is like this with everyone. His own mom does not know them. He has 2 friends, he sees rarely. He is always invited to be with my family. We go out often and he displays affection all the time. However we had a fight the other day… I asked why he hasn’t proposed yet. He said it’s just a piece of paper. He is divorced and went thru alimony and child support and she had affairs in him. That being said, he is shy so we never get together with other couples. He has introduced to his kids and I went to dinner with them once. I feel strongly the kids were ok with me. Anyway he says he just can’t do it. He says he can’t explain his feelings regarding the kids,,, regret, sorrow… I don’t know. Am I wrong to want a proposal and to know those he loves the most? It’s killing me to stand my ground, yet try to understand there r issues there. Please note that I have anxiety and depression so I am not always a day at the beach, thanks

Reply March 8, 2017, 9:33 am


I’ve been dating this person for almost two years. But I have something to ask, he has never taking me to meet his family or just to even meet his mom and I’ve talked to him about that and all he says is ” I’m not that type of person who does that” or ” why does it even matter to you” I honestly just want to know if he wants something serious with me, something I just feel that he is just hiding me from them. Am I asking for to much? I really want to know

Reply March 4, 2017, 7:54 pm


U not asking for too much hun but if he can’t show to his parents den he is nt serious n wat u should ask urself is wat does he mean by he is nt dat type of person???it means jt one thing he is not the serious type girl let him go

Reply May 11, 2017, 7:16 pm


I really love this dude, but he is just there wanting me to do all the talking, does he love me or am forcing it.

Reply March 4, 2017, 5:25 pm

Siphokazi Ntlantsi

If a man hid his child to u is he love me?

Reply March 4, 2017, 9:58 am


smetymz yes ..smetymz no ..he may hid his child to you fr a while to save yr relationship n den later he tellse you da truth ..dont gudge him jst be patient gve him smetym n see.

Reply March 4, 2017, 4:44 pm

Siphokazi Ntlantsi

If my man he is a calessness guy
How I see his love?

Reply March 4, 2017, 9:48 am


hve guy whom i love so mch n he says dt he loves me too bt he is so cute n dont show too mch intrests in women bt failed to believe in hs word dt he realy loves me ..dont know wat to do i alwys feel lke he is usng me..what should i do to be sure that he realy loves me as i do

Reply March 4, 2017, 5:46 am


Sorry sweetie. If a guy really loves you. He’s gonna want to hear your voice.

Reply February 20, 2017, 11:05 pm


Am a single mother but still in my twenties and am in a relationship. But I don’t know if my partner loves me the way I do love him.. He prefers us charting on Whatsapp than he calling and am really confuse cause I don’t want to be heart broken again, I have really passed through a lot and I just want to be happy… Please what should I do???

Reply February 3, 2017, 5:14 am


I don’t really where to rate my guy, we’ve been together during our university days as casual friend ,never did he express any tin to me, though he tries tobe ccloser to me then, after about 1-2years he stated making advances through social network ,calls too, I gave in, and it was all distance stuff, we haven’t seen, due to work schedule, and now I have grown in love with him, now, I don’t understand him hr calls, but seldom, he promised marriagr, am yet to understand

Reply January 25, 2017, 9:47 am


You know…I clicked on this link expecting to be disappointed. To read down this list and have my heart sink a little more with every action he doesnt do.
But instead, on this morning where I am down and depressed and frustrated…I realize in the big picture..he really does love me.

Reply January 21, 2017, 10:24 am


This Indian boy I have known online for about a year says he wants to marry me cause he is crazily in love like never in his life. He is finding the way to come to the USA even without my help cause I told him I can’t do anything, but he wants to make sure I will marry him that I’m not playing. He is 22 and I’m 42. I look good for my age much younger actually than I’m. I have two daughters and can’t have more kids. He says that he is happy with that. That my kids are his. He speaks in a very mature way for his age. But I’m really scared that he is only using me to come and get his papers. One thing is that he doesn’t want his parents to know for now even when they are helping him to come. I know Indians are very attached to their culture and like marriages among themselves. That scares him. And I know he doesn’t want to disappoint them. He is very cute and I don’t want to fall in love and suffer. Please advise.

Reply January 11, 2017, 11:11 pm


You are old enough to be his mother. You are also a fool, and incredibly selfish. This young man could have a wife his age and children. 10 years from now, he won’t think it’s so pretty. Don’t ruin his life if you care about him.

Reply February 20, 2017, 11:09 pm


He is for sure just using you for papers, you are a mature woman you’re supposed to know this, cut all contact with this guy immediately before you do anything you might regret.

Reply February 22, 2017, 12:58 pm


i don’t think so… Age gap doesn’t matters if a guy truly loves you… try to understand his feelings…
never loose a true love cos u won’t get it again. life gives only one chance.. try to give him chance to express his love to you..

Reply May 16, 2017, 4:08 am


I have been seeing a man for almost 1year
I’ve known him for over 3years.
He is 8 years younger than me. I’m 68 years old and I’m wondering if his love is true? He really is great to me. Calls me all the time, he is very funny we laugh often and have a lot in common
We hold hands in public. When making love,it’s great. My past relationships failed
I don’t know what to think
Please help

Reply January 9, 2017, 3:56 pm


Love is not measure by experience or by age . If he treats you well , has deep affection for you regardless of your past realtionships theirs a reason its in your past. Live your life in the present and if he makes you laugh and have alot in common that is amazing sounds to me youve got something great.

Reply March 20, 2017, 11:06 pm


there is a guy I have be dating for 4yrs , i am see him with another girl . if ask him about the girl , he told me that he don’t have any business with the girl.
but the girl sent him love messages and he sent the girl love messages too . he call her love ,baby ,sweetheart and so many of them.
the guy is telling that he love me but i don’t believe him. friends pls pls help me out of this,

Reply December 21, 2016, 2:51 pm


I really like this guy and he likes me to, A LOT. He said he loves me at least three times he always sends me sweet texts and offers to buy me things like, chocolate and flowers. I see him almost every day but I won’t see him for the coming ten days, he always looks at me like he is fascinated and I had found out he likes me for a long time, recently he hasn’t been responding to my texts but he says it because his aunt is visiting and I know his aunt is visiting. We have had a silly breakup before but it was all a joke. What should I do?

Reply December 23, 2016, 3:03 am


girl , I know it’s gonna be hard but you NEED TO LEAVE HIM ! if he’s out cheating on you with other women then he doesn’t love you . if he tells her I love you then he tells you he loves you then it’s not love ! I think that you need to leave him because you need someone that appreciates you . one mans trash is another mans treasure . there is another man who is waiting to spoil you . you deserve better !

Reply January 9, 2017, 9:39 pm


You shouldn’t even be wondering. This man is lying to you. Find someone who thinks you are the ONLY one for him.

Reply February 20, 2017, 11:11 pm


Recently, the tears have hit my pillow. A man I once laid beside in bed; who loved me for who I was; made me laugh like a hyena; is now no longer a part of my life. I’m a sucker for love, what can I say. Yet, I failed to realize that the man I loved, didn’t love me. And it was all thanks to the golden rule: Rule #1 The Way He Looks at You.
He always looked at me, never blinking an eye, starting into my eyes.
He didn’t even know who I was, I was a stranger to him. He had 2 glass eyes.

Reply December 16, 2016, 1:47 pm


I read this after my girlfriend told me off for not looking at her like a unicorn. I don’t even like unicorns.

This is definitely insightful, but maybe at best about 50% accurate. A lot of this list could fall under the title “What makes a good Personal Assistant”.

I love my girlfriend more than anything and always want her happy.

The simple fact is that, like women, men are individuals with individual thoughts, actions, emotions, and motivations. You can’t pigeon-hole all men into one ‘type’, just like you can’t do the same with women. Imagine if a man wrote an article that said all girlfriends should look at their boyfriends like they’re a dragon, with awe and wonder like he’s the only guy you’ve ever seen or that girl doesn’t love you. Pretty ridiculous right?

Reply December 15, 2016, 9:19 am


He is so serious in the beginning, he talks very mature and always asked of d family, he share with ma goals asked me of all ma siblings. He do call always, he’s som1 that told me to stay out of sex until marriage but i refused and made him sex me…. presently he can stay from morning till night without hearing from me and if he will cal is just once a day compare to before am lost… am i in love or what? I no more see the love in the air tho we do chat on whatsap

Reply December 14, 2016, 11:39 am


My B/F does most of the 11 things but he likes sex too much.We have sex almost everyday and that makes me feel like am just being used. I’m confused pls what do i do

Reply December 9, 2016, 5:30 am


a guy has sex with a woman and then says it is showing affection between very good friends..what is that?

Reply December 8, 2016, 9:30 am


That is the guy giving you a line. Dump him for someone who will claim you and want you for his own. Friends don’t have sex.

Reply February 20, 2017, 11:13 pm


U right dr friends don’t have sex dump d bastard he is probably just using u

Reply May 11, 2017, 7:25 pm


I’m not sure he loves me alot of the signs are true he tells me he loves me i tell him i love him too
I just can’t tell cause we are young love

Reply November 28, 2016, 9:55 pm


Please I need your advice I have a guy that I have dated for good 6yrs now I don’t know weather his love me as I love him he have not take to his parents or any of his siblings which am not bothered about that but any time the guy upload pic on facebook people will be commenting but if I do he will delete it out this evening I suppose tag a pic to his facebook wall he deleted it again please is guy real love me or am forcing myself to him or what I can’t tell am serious cry to God to help me out of this, we normally have sex any time we meet each other I have not Diane Him sex for one day but I have decide to Disney sex for him now I hope am making the right choice because I know him like have sex with me but not proud of me please I need good advice now

Reply November 25, 2016, 6:34 pm


please! i need help. we’ve been friends for almost 2months. and 1month and 3weeks super close. as in super duper close that we sleep together hugging only each other. share in my towel and shampoo. he’s always in my room. he always give what i want. one night somethings happened i told him that i like him. he said he’s confused. coz he’s in a relationship with someone. and said that he’s just making fun of us. and after that he became more sweet. he’s hugging me in front of their friends.

Reply November 18, 2016, 10:11 pm


Eish even me I have problem here with mypartner he told people that m his sister he said he shy to tell them true

Reply November 16, 2016, 1:59 pm

ADXRHDU @sarwer Bhai

Love is every thing

Reply November 9, 2016, 7:04 am


when boys love….

Reply October 28, 2016, 8:21 am


I am suffering, mam. I think I am in love with a girl but I am not sure. Last time she texted me, I didn’t even reply. I am just worried about her feelings and her family. But the effect of staying away from her is affecting me coz I still didn’t say that I love her, I guess? So is this love.

Reply October 11, 2016, 2:42 pm


Guys… everything is so simple! Soooo simple!
If the man loves a woman… no matter what… he will do his best to be with her. Not from time to time – all the time. As close as possible. And he will hear her when listening. And see when looking for….
Simple as that!
All the rest behavior – not true love.
Thats it.

Reply September 17, 2016, 3:49 am


Wow this is so true. I have a crush on a girl and this is exactly the way I feel! We work together and are friends -but I’m working hard to get out of the friend zone!

Reply August 28, 2016, 6:18 pm


Run, run, run! This guy is a head f**ker. Life is too short to waste your time with this type of creep.

Reply August 12, 2016, 6:34 pm


Can you do anything to MAKE him love you?

Reply August 5, 2016, 1:54 pm


It really depends on the person/situation. There are things you can say or text to him. I’ll leave a link to a helpful guide below:
Are you already seeing him?

Reply August 13, 2016, 7:06 am


Hey Sabrina
your aticle is awesome swt sis ,it really helped me and i hope am gonna find one like those advise

Reply August 5, 2016, 8:09 am


I live with my mate in the same house and I think we like each other but he has a lady and sometimes tells me he really likes me. we do most things together except sleeping on same bed. please is it love and what should I do.

Reply August 3, 2016, 4:20 pm

Five star

What should you do? Anything beside reciprocate that feeling outwardly, at least currently as he as a lady. If he truly loves you, he will choose you over her. People say you can be intimately in love with two people but just never at the same degree. FALSE! Intimate (relationship between lovers) love is about giving someone your all. It cannot be split between two people. So Mabey he really loves you and doesn’t love her. But do not act on what he says or expresses. It is wrong to engage as he has a significant other. You can always inquire if he is serious about you. If he is, he has to make a decision between two people. However, this can lradio him to breaking his significant other’s heart. How would she feel? Then again, if he truly doesn’t love her, she hasn’t lost anything. But one should get rid of the old before exploring the new.

Reply August 10, 2016, 3:38 pm


Did a women write this

Reply July 31, 2016, 5:01 am


There is this boy that i hav a crush on nd he likes me too but when is he going to ask me out i have been waiting for 3yrs now

Reply July 30, 2016, 10:08 am


I’ve been dating this guy for 8 years.. We actually live together.. I have stuck by his side even when he wasn’t working. He hurt me by conversations with other women behind my back in the past like he was living another life and not in the same household.. He never last takes me out.. We don’t travel.. We don’t even go to the movies.. When he says let’s watch a movie he goes to sleep.. I have a son and he never supported anything I had to do on my job or even my son sporting events..graduation etc… No my son is not his.. I’m tired of feeling like I’m just going through the motions .. All he does is go to work and when he off doesn’t even initiate any time to have fun.. He says I’m too busy.. Which is an excuse from having to fulfill my single mother duties and responsibilities ..he says why should he stop doing what he’s doing to please me when I don’t have anything to do at the time.. That’s crazy .. He is just hanging out while I’m at home but that’s the time when we can do while he’s off and I’m off.. I work in education so we know how much time I get off really.. I really want to stop wasting my time .. I’ve told him I’m not happy and I want out.. He acts like I’m just playing.. I really want to be by myself . I can’t continue to live like this.. Then he wonders why I don’t want to be imitate.. I have no reason to .. This can’t be love.. What is this?

Reply July 28, 2016, 12:59 am


I think you’re used to living with him and being with him. For him it’s probably also comfortable coming home and having you there. A relationship is about being there for each other even if you don’t “feel like it” and giving up things you love for your partner (cause you love them more!). This guy sounds like he’s taking you for granted and that is a very dangerous place to be. Even in healthy relationships- taking for granted makes one forget how amazing their partner is and that could lead to hurting their partner. being in a relationship is about not being selfish, putting your partners needs first.. sounds like you need to be on your own.. and maybe find someone else that would actually appreciate you and love you for who you are. ‘Next time you tell him you’re leaving- do it!

Reply November 7, 2016, 9:37 am


being that I am on the outside in and looking in I would say that this gentleman of yours sounds like a prime example of a narcissist. If you haven’t done research on narcissist relationships please look into it. It could explain a lot.

Reply July 26, 2016, 10:54 pm


I dont know is it he truthly love me or just like me. Sometimes we hangout together and the way he treat me was like “i’m yours baby girl” but till know he never told me that he love me. I’m just scared cause i’m very confusing with his way. I dont want to end up by getting hurt. I dont know should i stay or forget him.

Reply July 20, 2016, 2:38 pm


Love is tricky…..you can be sure about someone
But the next minutes he hurts you…

Reply July 20, 2016, 6:31 am


Well my bf definitely does not love me

Reply July 1, 2016, 9:46 pm


my guy does everything listed in the article. i dont know if it is because of my heartbroken past but i find it difficult to trust him even though i love him so much n he shows he loves me too. btw, we live far apart but see time to time

Reply June 14, 2016, 4:18 pm


@lost and confused be smart cut it off if he still has not made it official in 3 month he won’t change. Sadly in today’s society men want the benefits but, no relationship why because sadly we but not all pit our heart into the situation of hopes to have a relationship with this person. If he is on a dating site trust me if he deleted that one there’s another one. Be strong get you some girlfriends to hang with cut it off. It’s obviously you love him but, sadly he don’t love you or respect you. You gave him a special piece of your self yet he still is seeking other women. I feel after 3 months a man should know if he want something or not. Beither strong and don’t limit your self to getting half of it when you can have it all.

Reply June 11, 2016, 9:11 am

Henrietta Sasu


Reply June 7, 2016, 9:51 am


Careful. This description also describes a narcissist in his “love bombing” stage.

Reply May 21, 2016, 3:29 pm

Lost and Confused

Ok so now after reading many articles on here, I’m starting to wonder about this incredibly mixed emotion situation that I am in with this guy now for almost 2 years.
Long story short, we started off “Dating/hanging out” as he liked to call it. We did that for about 3 months. Things were good, I would come over about once or twice a week. We would chill, eat some dinner, watch a movie and then I would spend the night. We would spend some time hanging out in the morning and then I would go home. When I wasn’t with him, we would talk (mainly through text) the rest of the time. After 3 months he vanished from my life. come to find out he was talking to some girl he met on a dating site and well I guess they started dating.
I moved on, didn’t really care that he ditched me, I guess I was pretty much expecting it. He was the first guy I had been with since my child’s father (almost 8 years). After a few months passed, he popped back up into my life and of course I stayed very distant when it came to him. I stayed that way for several months before finally starting to open back up and trust him. Within that time I actually moved closer to him (was only a 5 min drive down the street, now we are neighbors) Since moving, him and I have gotten EXTREMELY close and for the longest time, I was the only female in his life….. He really acted as if we were a couple. Not making any decisions without my input. Telling me where he’s going when he would leave that house. He would even check in with me when he’s out and about. All of that was done completely on his own, his doing, not once did I ever ask him to do any of that.
A few months ago, he was going to move half way across the US. Well I finally got the nerve up to tell him that I love him. No, he didn’t say it back. However, he did end up changing his mind about moving the very next day. If I had anything to do with that, I don’t know. I think that timing on his decision was rather coincidental.
Well, the end of last month, I found out he was getting on a dating site again. Granted him and I are not a couple, he claims he doesn’t want to be in a relationship. He claims he has me and doesn’t need to have any other females in his life. He claimed he was only getting on the site when he was bored, just flipping through the pictures. What really pissed me off was that he was jumping right on there after we would have sex and I would go home.
So here for almost 2 years I’m thinking we are exclusive with each other so I don’t talk to, hang out with, or have sex with any other men but he loses his mind and starts doing this. We argued for 2 weeks because he started lying to me about the whole situation. Claimed he wasn’t talking to anyone, yet tells me hes going to a family members house but was really supposed to go meet her.
Long story short, I called him out on his lying and I told him that if he wanted things to stay the same between him and I he needed to get rid of the site. Well, he choose to get rid of the site and not speak to the girl anymore. It upset him to see how upset things made me but what confuses me is, if he wants me still in his life. He wants to still sleep with me, hang out with me, have me around all the time; why not just make me his girlfriend and be done with it. I mean come on he got rid of his dating site because I told him to. That has to say something, right!?!?!

Reply May 17, 2016, 11:20 am


@lost and confused be smart cut it off if he still has not made it official in 3 month he won’t change. Sadly in today’s society men want the benefits but, no relationship why because sadly we but not all pit our heart into the situation of hopes to have a relationship with this person. If he is on a dating site trust me if he deleted that one there’s another one. Be strong get you some girlfriends to hang with cut it off. It’s obviously you love him but, sadly he don’t love you or respect you. You gave him a special piece of your self yet he still is seeking other women. I feel after 3 months a man should know if he want something or not. Beither strong and don’t limit your self to getting half of it when you can have it all.

Reply June 11, 2016, 9:15 am


I met a guy on a personals site. He lives on the other side of the country. I’m female 59 he’s male 56. We stated out e-mailing then texting. He calls me several times a day and we text on and off all day. After 3 weeks he told me he loves me I said it back. He’s moving to my city in July I will pick him up at the airport. He wants to be in a relationship. Here’s my problem I am a plus size woman and he says that’s ok but I tried to tell him how Big I am but I don’t think he really gets it I’m really afraid once he sees how big I am he won’t want to be in a relationship with me I don’t know what to do. I’m trying to lose some weight

Reply April 29, 2016, 12:12 am


You size has nothing to do with love. If you have shared photos of yourself and been honest with him, it is not an issue to him. I am in my mid 30s, also a plus size woman (3x) and my husband has never had an issue with my size, not even in our most angry moments has he said anything about my weight, and we have been married twelve years. Also, on a regular basis I am approached by very attractive men before they see the wedding ring, some try anyway.
He may be the one, he may not be, but if you love yourself it will show and THAT is very attractive .

Reply May 1, 2016, 4:32 am


So this is a pretty complicated situation. I need input please. I’m going to try to sum it up. I was with the father of my child for 7 years after I left him I got with a guy from college we were together for 2 years. He started breaking up with me for silly reasons then we would end up getting back together. The last time he had broken up with me he said he never wanted to be with me again. So after 3 weeks of him not talking to me I had a one night stand with the father of my child. My ex had started talking to me again we hung out I ended up telling him what happened. I also told him I was pregnant it wasn’t his. He was mad but we still hung out through my pregnancy until the last month he wouldn’t respond to me. So after I had my baby he contacted me again and when my kids would go with their dad we would hang out.we hung out one night and hooked up he told me he loved me still. When I asked him he said he was drunk, so I told him it was to much I still had feelings for him. After a week or so he started taking to me again.I still hung out snuggled with him when I didn’t have my kids. Then one day I went there and found heels there from another girl he said I shouldn’t be mad cause we were not having sex. So I told him I couldn’t do that. We started talking again he said he is no longer with anyone else we have hooked up but he says he doesn’t want a relationship but still does everything he did when were in one I still hang out with him and his friends. I’m just confused. Any advise? He sends me mixed feelings but says he doesn’t want to talk about it.

Reply March 31, 2016, 9:43 pm


These paragraphs consist of the following idea:
Basically, he found out I googled “the signs he is in love with me”.

Here is in detail: I think I’ve been reading this article more than 10 times for the past 2 months. Well, I read basically most articles online related of “signs he is in love with me”. I’ve only been with the guy I’m dating now for nearly 5 months, though we really clicked and he satisfied if not all, most of the list. I’ve met his parents 2 months ago and turned out I’m the first girl he brought home. He makes me really happy and we really bring out the best of each other.
Though he hasn’t said I love you. I started googling about the “signs”. Yesterday, while being ill staying at home the entire day, I opened again this site and any other sites to read again (though I know what are they by heart) the problem was.. I fell asleep when I was googling and only closed my laptop I did not exit all the tabs. When he came last night to check on me, I opened my laptop, forgetting what I did and thus he saw my google search. I was shocked. He looked at me only replied with “really?” I only looked at him I was speechless and he only said “Weirdo”. Last night went pretty awkward. I didn’t want to talk about it.

Today he’s being really nice to me (even nicer than usual, though the usual is more than enough), helping me with my household because I’m still ill and kept on mentioning he is helping me because he likes me.
The thing is, when is too soon to say I love you? I am confident about his actions that set aside all doubts but I want to hear him say it. What should I do now that now he knows something is up?
Thank you.

Reply March 30, 2016, 8:48 pm


ok so heres it. its been a year of him asking me to meet up and stuff…but he doesnt talk to me directly and we have had a LOT of moments… but hes a player and i dont want him to play with me. i have feelings for him. WHAT SHOULD I DO? OR WHAT DO YOU SAY?

Reply February 15, 2016, 7:49 pm


Run..run far..trust me never waste time on a player he’ll just play you

Reply February 22, 2016, 10:01 pm

Five star

They say everyone is capable of change. I believe love can be worth the risk. However, you shouldn’t get involved in a relationship wishing for someone to change. Also, if that person truly loves you he will change for the better if it means making you happy. There isn’t one answer to this. Please be smart with your decision. Broken hearts are not easily mended.

Reply August 10, 2016, 4:04 pm

Marianna Amoro

I agree with all of it…thanks..

Reply February 3, 2016, 1:08 am


I Love Hearing Dat

Reply January 20, 2016, 4:18 pm


yes this guy who i was married to at first he was so sweet and i was so crazy about him and i feel that i never have to worry about anything as he looked as the type that would never hurt yr feelings…then bout 3 mnths after we married, i found out that he had so many of those young and beautiful girls in his page on fb. There
s this particular he gets in touch with and deleted messages after they done. I feel so hurt that my husband now and then gets to look at this girls pretty pictures and if he truly loves me he would never wants to look at another woman…is this true??? im so confused what love is as the way my husband is doing things to me

Reply January 18, 2016, 10:18 am


He can love you with all his heart and still look at other women. Looking is normal, all mend do it even if they don’t admit it. If he is talking with them that is a huge deal breaker, especially if he hides it from you. There is a difference between Facebook and pornography which is anonymous/ impersonal.

Reply May 1, 2016, 4:37 am


I’m so confused. Been reading different articles on this website and I am not sure what to feel anymore. There is a man in my life that shows a lot of the “signs” he likes or even loves me. It’s as if he knows we could be so much more if he wouldn’t keep fighting against his feelings yet at the same time he treats me like his girlfriend. But on the other hand, when we are apart I read articles like these and it makes me realise he is just being nice and gentle. Nothing more. Are my feelings and intuition incredibly off or is there something more between us? Thought I could handle it and just enjoy. I guess I can’t.

Reply January 5, 2016, 8:24 am


I’ve been reading your suggestions about relationships and I really grateful for the insights you presented to me. I have a problem that bothers me a lot. I have been in contact with a guy who seems to be interested in me, but we are just not there. He is immensely busy at work and now I am quite busy at school. I find myself in a pretty awkward situation: if we enter into a relationship, the long distance will probably frustrate me, while I am still quite hesitant in letting him go. I feel terrible because neither choice is desirable for me. We are now in two far away cities and almost have no opportunity to see each other in person. I don’t know whether this will change in the future. This really bothers me to the extent that I couldn’t fully devote myself to the study work at hand. What should I do to let myself get rid of this problem?

Reply November 24, 2015, 1:02 am

Shy Girl

There is this guy I met at work who initially seemed really into me and he still is but may be not as much as before. He is a genuinely nice and caring guy and I get that he likes me, as a person. We have a certain comfort level with each other since the beginning but I cannot tell if he likes me romantically or not. We come from very different backgrounds and from what I can tell he is reserved and doesn’t give himself enough credit so I feel like he might think I am way out of his league. I don’t know how to let him know without coming on too strong since as a person I am also reserved. Can you please help?

Reply November 23, 2015, 11:08 am


Hey Sabrina

I met a guy at work and just as I was about to leave for a new job he declared his feelings for me at an overnight retreat.
Long story short we slept together that night and then the next day he told me he’d made a mistake because he still had a girlfriend who he wanted to break up with. We agreed he’d break up with her.

We live a bit of a distance apart but we saw each other a few times and he told me he’d fallen “100% stupidly for me”. Then he went quiet and it turned out he had a pre booked holiday with his ex and he didn’t know how to tell me he was away with her. Also that she still lived in his house but would be moving out.

When he came back we saw each other a few more times and it was always great and he’s told me he wants us to spend the rest of our lives together however we can’t start things until his ex moves out. He wants to protect us from any negativity and he’s also trying to keep any nastiness away from his sons.

Now I haven’t heard much from him in weeks. I’ve seen him very briefly and he’s always very pleased to see me, very affectionate and maintains that we are still heading towards the future.

I know his ex is an ex because of her Facebook but all of this has taken 4 months and still I’m waiting in the sidelines. He definitely shows some of the love signs but he definitely isn’t putting me first… However he seems to be trying to do the right thing but others… Please help

Reply November 22, 2015, 3:39 pm

Five star

If u ask me she’s taking rather long to move out. If it is evident that she seems to be over the relationship because of her Facebook, ask yourself why is she still in the house? Looks like someone or something is keeping her there. I believe he really does not want her to leave. I know this might sound harsh but it seems as though she is the one who wants to end things but he is relunctant to let her go. You may be the second option when she does decide to leave. Their minds are not fully made up and him being a father is only one contributing factor. Ask him if he’s sure about moving on with you. If he responds “yes”. Simply say “prove it”. After saying this the anticipated response should be something you see not hear

Reply August 10, 2016, 3:57 pm


Great article Sabrina, particularly the last point. I just knew my guy loved me. We had been dating for a couple of months but then I had to move away. I never had the guts to bring up the “what happens next” conversation and neither did he. I think it’s because he doesn’t want an LDR. This makes me feel like he never truly loved me because he won’t even try or fight for the relationship, whereas I’m willing to give it my all in order for me not to lose him.

Reply November 21, 2015, 3:47 pm


U baliwi

Reply July 26, 2017, 5:47 pm


I truly enjoied read this article.
I scored my guy at a 10-11. We have been dating for 10 month’s we are about 4 hours from each other. He works long hours and most weekends. I’m a full time student as well as a single parent. I still finr to travel on the to see him but he has never visited me. He always check to see how I’m doing and even tells me he loves me each time we speak most time says it first and I can feel the smile on his face through the phone. He opens doors, rubs my back, we have a pretty go line of communication we dont yell or curse at each other when we have with each other. The one problem we have. I haven’t met anyone in his family but his brother and I feel that was for validation. Do we have a problem or should I be patient.

Reply November 21, 2015, 3:47 pm


Sabrina, I’m very impressed with your emotional intelligence and writing. I didn’t know what it truly meant to be in love until I met Eileen. It was fun to read your article and realize I do an 11 out of 11 and we actually call each other unicorns because we didn’t think the other existed haha.

Also, your article about Why Guys Cheat was spot on, this coming from someone who has never cheated. You made some bold statements that are not PC but 100% true. I saw you got a lot of slack in the comments and wanted to give positive feedback. One of the things I love about my girl is how she makes me feel. She makes always me feel like I’m a stud and like I have the biggest cock in the room (sorry to be vulgar, but she’s really smart and knows what she’s doing). I’m so devoted to her I almost completely stopped masturbating so I am always ready for her and when I do I only think of her. It sounds ridiculous but it’s a decision I made to keep myself mentally “in the game” – something I’ve never been before. It’s also an attitude I’ve heard from other guys who are truly devoted.

In short, she makes me feel like man. I believe a vital role women need to play is to build up their man. The challenge is for the man not to let it go to his head and not take his awesome woman for granted. If a guy can manage this, he’ll show his love and affection all the time because she is the source of his ego (not just his penis).

Reply November 19, 2015, 7:34 am

Sabrina Alexis

Wow, thank you so much for your awesome feedback and your honesty- it’s always great when a guy can just tell it exactly like it is! Sounds like you’re in a great relationship and also that your girl has a good understanding of a concept Eric and I talk about over and over again, the importance of making your man feel valued and appreciate (and also like the sexiest stud on earth!).

Reply November 20, 2015, 2:47 pm



I love reading your articles because they always hit home perfectly. My problem here is my man will not committed to a title yet because he wants us to spend more time together and do things to mk sure that’s what we want. However he told me he loves me, and I love him. We have a history together as we were great friends in HS then lost touch for 22 yrs. Our feelings are very strong and we just get each other BUT he works all the time and when he’s not working he has his son so he never makes time for me. He says he will start doing that and when I ask when we can spend time together he says very soon but it doesn’t happen. He’s the only man I have ever trusted because of past relationships. I really want this, I believe we can be an amazing couple and can be happy together for the rest of our lives. But how long do I wait….we started talking 8 mos ago, but he just told me he loved me last week. Idk what to do? I’m alone, I want a relationship and I don’t want to give him up but will be ever make the time for me? Ever make me a priority?

Reply November 16, 2015, 8:50 pm


Hi Cynthia, this is a tough situation; You want something more significant from him and he wants the status quo. What you can’t do is be an awesome girlfriend (even thought he won’t give you that title which is very telling and demeaning) and mistake niceness for kindness. Never be bitch or desperate, but you may need to be more coy to see if he’s willing to make an effort. If he’s not then you do not have a healthy long term relationship on your hands.

Reply November 19, 2015, 7:43 am

Sabrina Alexis

Ahh, I totally feel for you because I have been in that situation… where a guy said he loved me but couldn’t commit to me. The fact is, if it’s real love then there is nothing that will stop him from committing! And when a man loves you, he makes time for you and he factors you in and does all the other 11 things I wrote about in this article. Don’t hang onto the fact that he said he loves you, words are meaningless unless they are backed up by actions. It’s much easier to say than do. I know you have feelings for him and you love him, but it sounds like this situation is making you miserable and not giving you want you want and need and you deserve better. Don’t sell yourself short, by hanging onto this guy you might be overlooking a really amazing guy who can give you the love you want. (And btw, I was hung up on a guy who wouldn’t commit for almost a year. Then finally i decided to let go and to stop chasing guys who don’t want me and me and my now husband started dating a few weeks after this epiphany!)

Reply November 20, 2015, 2:52 pm


Hi Sabrina
I love reading your articles and I find them amazingly helpful.you are doing a great job making people find there right love.
I would like to tell you my situation I am in love with a guy Its been 3months we met and i am 2years elder to him.
I met him in a house party with my cousins and office friends I was never into him from the very first day but I think he was as he offered drinks to me spoke to me a more than others could.
Then we were not in contact for 3days we never shared our numbers wherein my sister saved his no into my cellphone own her own and then I called him by mistake where he seemed equally intrested in me.
We used to talk for hours nights dats went off he said he likes me and his feelings through emojis his eagerness when he used to ask me to come up for every party showed he likes me cuddling and kissing taking care of me while I was drunk …looking into my eyes .I could see that liking for me in his eyes while dancing together he used to sing for me n send me his pictures when I was off his site but he told me about his complicated relationship 7months of relationship he said they r not in contact she lives miles away from him they talk once in a week bcuz her family never wanted her to marry my guy.He tells me that he wants to come out of this complicated thing but it’s her tears which stops him to do that so she was nnot important at that time I could see that Now,after 2months I can see he has been changing
Not with his actions and words but he says she is bck into his life as she says we will see wat ever the future is till the time she gets married she will not leave him and he says I never committed to you (akriti) that’s me.He felt sorry apologize for denying the words he said to me he says he wants me in his life as his friend and dnt want to loose me.Now what I feel is love for him and I am unable to forget him he talks to me meets me the same way but sometimes I could see He is not talking To me the way he used to but I can also feel that he likes me through his actions he is so much attracted towards me and stays with me whenever we meet .

Please advice what can I do as per your article he scores 8-9 but what should I do shall I wait

Reply November 30, 2015, 5:05 pm


I have been with my bf for 2 years now. I’m now 23 and he is 45. He divorced after 8 years of marriage and has a son. I’m not independent yet, I live with my parents, etc. At the same time, I decided to not tell them because he is old and we have different religions, but because I choose to be with him, I’m waiting to become independent and see how things go, and will introduce him. I just graduated college.
He seems to understand since day 1, but whenever we have a plan, I usually get there late and since it happens involuntary, I don’t tell him ahead.
Lately, he doesn’t call me more often as he used to , although I know he’s busy with work and has his son every other weekend and days, I just feel like he changed. I once met his best friend.He told me once that out of all the women he dated, I’m the one that he trusts the most. He never told me he loves me, but he seems to care and tells me that I’m his and he protects me, but I don’t feel it. I gift him and his son more than he does, but I have not met his son yet. He says he wants to get to a point where he can trust me with his son, but I’m not available. I don’t do weekends over, but try to be with him even once a week when he does not have his kid. I somewhat have his IG and email account, and read and saw how he teases other women, asking on dates, etc.
We were supposed to have a weekend over, he agreed first and then found out he’lll have his son. He said he asked a few people if they could keep his son for the weekend, but everyone seems busy. I told him it’s okay, we can reschedule. But now I found out he has a ticket for 4 people going to an event on that same weekend. I’m confused.
Texted him if we can meet before the weekend, although he read the message, it’s been 30 hours and still no response. We used to always talk on the phone, see each other, date times, etc. and when I observed that I was the one to call the most, I stopped calling often.He said I’m different from the one he met. I try my best and all I can do on my power, he talks about the future and usually says if I’m lucky, we’ll experience it together. But on the messages of other girls that I saw, he promised them dates to places and tells them if they’re lucky, they will do it. He even booked a hotel for the weekend. Saw a restaurant post where he commented that he’ll be there with his date on that same weekend.
Is there any advice?

Reply May 26, 2021, 3:01 pm

Rajvir kaur

My guy scores 11 out of 11. I am truly blessed??

Reply November 16, 2015, 7:22 pm

Rajvir kaur

Great article????

Reply November 16, 2015, 7:06 pm

lizz njeri

Sabrina what if he scores 10 out of 11of those. but catch,he is married.am in a country where poligamy is practised

Reply November 16, 2015, 4:00 pm


How do you feel about being the other woman and there being other other woman? Personally I wouldn’t even be entertaining him.

Reply February 22, 2016, 10:04 pm


Hey sabrina,

Where do you get your ideas :)?

Reply November 14, 2015, 11:00 pm


Do NOTopen your legs to ANYONE that is NOT your husband!!

Reply December 17, 2016, 4:11 am


Haha. that’s correct

Reply July 26, 2017, 5:48 pm


Awesome article, Sabrina! Loved, loved, LOVED it! It made me feel all warm and fuzzy inside, and I’m happy to report my guy scores at least an 8/11 (or even 9). :)

Reply November 14, 2015, 3:22 pm

Sabrina Alexis

Aw good. I love love hearing that :)

Reply November 20, 2015, 2:52 pm


Aw good. I love love hearing

Reply August 15, 2016, 10:12 am


I think this guys into me I’ve slept with him I got a boyfriend should I tell him or let him find out on his own

Reply November 13, 2015, 3:44 pm


Connie, no decent or halfway intelligent man would ever date a girl who cheated on her BF for him. For him, you’re a fling and it will never be anything more.

Despite how much a guy may like you, he will always know you are they type of girl who can’t be trusted and not the type of girl to date. History doesn’t always repeat itself but t does have a rhythm.

Reply November 19, 2015, 7:08 am


Agreed. Do your bf a favor and leave him after being honest.

Reply February 22, 2016, 10:02 pm

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