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Ask a Guy: Signs a Guy Likes You

I’ve been getting mixed signals from a guy I work with.  He’s funny and nice to me… but he’s an easy guy to like.  He flirts with me, but I can’t tell if he’s just charming in general or if it’s because he’s attracted to me and interested…

I’d love to know what you’d consider the biggest, best, most clear signs a guy likes you… I just want to be sure whether or not he’s into me before get too excited…

OK, so clearly you like this guy, otherwise you wouldn’t be asking me for signs he likes you…

So let’s get the obvious, tell-tale signs out of the way because that’s what you came here for:

  • He finds excuses to talk with you
  • He speaks to you “differently” than he speaks to others
  • He tries to impress you (either subtly or not-so-subtly)
  • He compliments you with words like sexy or beautiful or hot or gorgeous or cute, etc.
  • He talks to you outside of the place where you met him in (outside of work or school, for example)
  • He jokes around with you and if he teases you, it’s the type of teasing that makes you laugh
  • He’s suggested you two hanging out or doing something together
  • He seems to watch you or stare at you

I could go on and on with a list, but what I’ve given you above captures the best, surefire signs he’s into you.

QUIZ: Does He Like You?

With that said, I don’t think a list of signs is the best information I could give you…

I say that because in many cases, women fall into the trap of what I call playing emotional detective.

The phrase “playing emotional detective” refers to when a woman obsesses over looking for signs and clues for how the man feels about her…

When she sees good signs, she’s elated.  When she doesn’t see good signs… or sees warning signs… she’s terrified.

As she rides the emotional roller coaster of good signs and bad signs, she becomes increasingly dependent on the guy acting a certain way or it will ruin her mood.

QUIZ: Are You Accidentally Destroying Your Love Life?

This is a trap for a few huge reasons:

  1. Most guys do a ton of stuff they’re not even thinking about… which the admiring woman interprets as some sign or secret message to decode.
  2. When a guy likes you, it’s obvious… Stop obsessing over details, men aren’t subtle.
  3. It’s way more powerful to assume he likes you than to walk on eggshells, constantly testing the waters to see if you measure up.

Here’s the deal…

I’ve sat around with dudes in my living room, at barbecues and pool parties.  These guys are telling raunchy jokes, talking about sports and openly scratching their balls in public.

It always amazes me when I hear women talking about signs and signals a man is sending them, as if they’re trying to decipher the Da Vinci Code.

Listen… that guy who you like is just a guy… he’s not a psychological mastermind… he’s more likely the guy who was just scratching his balls twenty minutes ago and laughing at “Family Guy.”

MORE: 5 Things Every Girl Needs to Know About Guys

Relax… stop obsessing… stop analyzing… stop making men complicated.

One of the biggest reasons that I loathe having conversations with women about the signs a guy is sending is because usually people (men and women) see what they want to see and project their own meanings and interpretations onto things.

I’ve studied psychology as my most devoted passion for the past 14.5 years… and I still can’t read people’s minds…

So I’m here to tell you that you can save yourself 14.5 years if you stop playing emotional detective and instead take on this far more effective strategy:… (continued – Click to keep reading Ask a Guy: Signs a Guy Likes You)

Written by Eric Charles

I'm Eric Charles, the co-founder and co-editor of A New Mode. I love writing articles to help people free themselves from suffering and have clarity in their love life. I have a degree in Psychology and I've dedicated the last 20 years of my life to learning everything I can about human psychology and sharing what gets people out of struggling with life and into having the life they really want. If you want to contact me, feel free to reach out on Facebook or Twitter.

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What if a guy sits across from you and pulls his chair so close–no table in between–that his feet are immediately touching your feet. And then he leaves them there for a bit. Is there any circumstance where that would NOT be flirting?

Reply May 8, 2021, 6:54 pm

Eric Charles

Sounds like flirting.
The whole point of flirting is that it could be interpreted as interest or it could be an innocent mistake. Flirting exists so people can test the waters and have plausible deniability in the event they other person isn’t into it.
That’s what the whole flirting dance is. One person does something that could be interpreted either way, the other person does something back that could be interpreted either way (if they’re interested), they volley back and forth and at some point it becomes obvious that the two of you would have never brought it this far unless you were both into each other.
If it’s flirting, it’s not supposed to be completely obvious.
Rather than trying to interpret if something is flirting or not, put out your own ambiguous signals and see what happens.

Reply May 9, 2021, 3:26 pm


“Rather than trying to interpret if something is flirting or not, put out your own ambiguous signals and see what happens.”
This is such great advice, thank you! I have been trying but 1. I am bit shy and 2. He runs a little bit hot and cold.

Reply May 10, 2021, 6:59 pm

Eric Charles

It’s fine if you’re shy. The whole purpose of flirting is to test the waters without putting yourself out there in an uncomfortable or embarassing way. If you feel like you’re risking embarassment, it’s too far. It should feel like you’re innocently giving him opportunities to flirt back… and if he doesn’t, it’s innocent enough that you could play it off like you didn’t mean it like that.

Reply May 11, 2021, 9:40 am


You give the BEST advice! Thank you for taking the time to do so. The way you explained it makes so much sense to me! I have to remind myself to do it because I just freeze. But what you said really helps :)

May 29, 2021, 10:11 am

Eric Charles

Thank you, I’m glad to hear it!

May 31, 2021, 10:37 am


A guy I know professionally rubbed the area under about an inch below my eye gently with his thumb as if he was examining it or removing something. He then gently touched the whole side of my face with his cupped hand. The whole thing lasted maybe two seconds.

How do you read this behavior? Please tell me what you think! Was he flirting? I had just looked in the mirror, so I don’t think anything was on my face.

Reply May 8, 2021, 9:09 am

Eric Charles

Definitely flirting.

Reply May 8, 2021, 11:36 am


Is it okay that I forgot to look him in the eye when he was doing this? I am afraid it might have taken away from the flirty moment? It was a bit early in the morning and I was not on point/prepared for the move he made!

Reply May 29, 2021, 10:12 am


Also, may I ask, do you think he has feelings for me? Or could touching my face just indicate attraction?

Reply May 29, 2021, 10:18 am

Eric Charles

You’re making way too big a deal over every tiny detail, like it’s some kind of make or break moment.

When you’re dealing with people, you want to be nice and loose. Flowing. Easy-going. Not making a big thing over any individual interaction or detail.

That’s not to say that you’re reckless or careless, you just know that the overall picture is more important than any one individual detail.

Think of interactions more like music. Music builds. Music flows. Music has movement to it. Music has a hook to it.

A musician would never make music if they played one note and then obsessed over if that one note was perfect or not.

Stop obsessing over individual details. Flirting happens easily over the course of ongoing, comfortable conversations and interactions.

Having crushes is counterproductive. It’s better to be attracted to someone after you see you can have smooth, easy interactions with them. Prior to that, why even have them on your radar?

Reply May 31, 2021, 10:44 am


A guy that I like recently broke up with his girlfriend and it was for a reason that wasn’t reasonable.. Ever since he broke up with her he has been acting really nice to me. He touches me sometimes when he doesn’t need to (not in a sexual way). We recently made eye contact and we smiled at each other.. we stared at each other for about 3 seconds till it got awkward… He did have a girlfriend before which is making me doubt that he actually likes me. He has been showing so many signs of him liking me but I don’t want to embarace myself… He knows he touches me and sometimes I touch him ( when I mean touch I mean like he sometimes grabs my shoulder, or puts his knee touching mine) and when he realizes I’m touching him he doesn’t do anything… Does he like me?

Reply February 1, 2017, 7:43 pm


Em yea I’m a boy :-3

Reply February 1, 2017, 7:44 pm


I would say he’s interested.

Try to get a number.

Reply August 2, 2017, 1:11 pm


I have a crush on someone, and everyone in our batch (I think?) noticed it. Before, we hated each other a lot after he knew that I have a crush on him. He avoided me and make me feel small when we were in grade school and now, he is my classmate this 9th grade and he became my seatmate. He teased me a lot, said I love you once, asked me if he can court me, catched him staring at me all the time (my friend saw it too) but the problem is he is not over with his ex (I think?) Is he into me? or he is just playing with my feelings?

Reply November 7, 2016, 8:09 am


i just want to say thank you for the tips you gave an my girlfriend are back together again.

Reply October 26, 2016, 6:45 am


i have a crush on this girl and i really like her and i hope she and i will be together in the future.i really like her and ido not know how to tell her that.

Reply October 26, 2016, 6:47 am


— this is really awesome..

Reply October 10, 2016, 1:14 am


I’ve liked this guy since I was in 5th grade and now I’m a freshman and he’s a junior now and he’s always known I’ve liked him because I’d always make it super obvious I did when I was around him. And he always flirted with me and stuff when we still had the same bus he’d tease me for being short he still does he’d play with my hair and tickle me and ect. And now I sit with him at the breakfast table and the other day he put his hat on me and later that day one of my friends asked him if he liked me and he said “I like her a lot” but I’m not sure if he was kidding because I was there and someone else told me he didn’t like me. And now every time he passes me in the hallway he’ll touch me either on the shoulder with his hat or he’ll move my hair or touch me some other way. And its just so confusing to actually tell if he does because I am not confident at all so I have a hard time believing my friends that he likes me so does anyone have any advice for me? I’m too chicken to ask him myself I die when I get to sit beside him because my friends push me basically in his lap lol.

Reply August 13, 2016, 1:02 am

this girl

There is this guy we have never met we only studied in a neighbouring school,together and we live in,the same hometown..we have been in touch texting and calling for the past 5 yrs…I hv seen his photos and I hv seen him physically once.
we flirt sometimes…chat sometimes…we have always had plans to meet but it has never happened..recently He dreamed about me how I looked beautiful and ended,up making out…my feelings for him is complicated I don’t know what I really feel but I know I really like him..does he like me back???can he see me in another way than just a friend..
I want him to ne more than a friend to me

Reply July 4, 2016, 11:34 am

oh well me

you are sure fluttered by his interest. he obviously invests time on you but i think he is confused as well. question: did you recently had a crash on someone else and it crossed your mind the idea to get over him through this guy you mention above? if so i really dont judge you but just because i had a similar experience im telling you this. if you truly liked this guy you would never be confused. there is no in between feelings, you either like him very much or not. and just because you have felt fluttered all this time it doest me you are into him. xoxo!! :)

Reply August 9, 2016, 2:53 am


5 years is a long time!

Cut to the chase and ask out – for anything. Make it clear what you want. You’ll realise he IS or IS NOT interested.

Reply August 2, 2017, 1:13 pm


there is this guy at work, he is married and so am I but both of us unhappy in our marriages but stick it out for the kids, when I started working for the company he would talk to me regularly and made eye contact but he suddenly stopped, he avoids eye contact and says things in the office that are to indicate he cannot stand me…. how did things go from eye contact and subtle flirting to this with out me changing anything about myself, I have the biggest crush on this guy and really thought that sometime in the future there could be something between us

Reply June 28, 2016, 5:59 am


Got a situation with a “bi” guy and it is driving me nuts. Was in my local pub one night. Very drunk to the point I was asking random people if they were gay lol. My best mate pointed out this guy who was floating around beside us and reckoned he was interested. Made a bit of an ass of myself for a bit asking him then this other guy gives me a look and starts talking to me. Ask him and he said he was straight. Asked him about the other guy and he says he didn’t know. Later found out they were friends. Didn’t give too much thought after that although in hindsight kind of seemed like the other guy felt left out when I was asking other folks. Anyways roll on a couple of weeks and I bump into them again. Apologise to his mate for last time. He doesn’t even remember lol. I wasn’t even really interested in him just extremely drunk. Other guy being really friendly again. Happened to ask him if he’s gay again and he tells me he’s bi this time but looking for girls tonight. Bump into him in the toilet. Standing staring into each other’s eyes and chatting. He’s literally pawing at me and me him. Kind of makes me think of like at school punching each other on the arm to let each other know you’re interested. Was so tempted to kiss him there and then but didn’t wanna scare him off or make him feel uncomfortable as folks were walking in and out so eventually he walks out. Talk to him again briefly after this and he says he’s not gay. He was heading off at this point with his friends so I gave him my business card and said give me a call. No call received. Roll on another few weeks. I turn up at the pub and go to the toilet. Guess who’s there lol. Some foreign guy giving him hassle for supposedly deliberately flicking a cigarette butt at him. The guy I know says it was an accident and apologises. Foreign guy keeps on at him so I tell him to leave him alone. Wee guy thanks me n hugs me. I tell him I done it cos I like him. More hugs n staring into each other’s eyes. One of his friend of a friend’s walks in. Doesn’t see anything really but sure he suspected something was going on. I go back out and go to the bar and he goes over to his best mate then comes over to same bit of the bar as me with his mate. Says to his mate that this is the guy that gave me his card. Walks away with his pal after talking to me for a minute or two. Next thing another guy from the foreign group grabs him and starts shaking him about so I jump over and pull the guy back from him then when others got him too I jump to pull the guy I like back as he was a bit angry by this point. Calm him down and tell him to stay right there while I get the bouncers. They come in and drag the other guy out and have a word with the guy I like to find out what happened. I go out for a smoke and the wee guy is singing my praises to his pals and shouts me over then invites me to go to the club they’re off to with them. Sit down in the club and he sits right beside me up against me. I give him a look and he starts laughing and says he’s not gay then leans in and hugs me and kisses me on the neck. I say I know you’re not gay, you’re bisexual. He says he’s bisexual but… then this girl drags him away. Didn’t wanna cause him any hassle so let it go till later. See him on the dance floor when am going out for a smoke and say to him to come out for one but he thinks I’m leaving and says I’m staying here tonight but here’s my number, call me and I’ll meet you next weekend. Also any time he shakes hands with me there’s this delay letting go like he’s trying to keep in contact longer. Anyways texted him towards the end of the week but kept it innocent. Says he’d be out on Saturday but doesn’t. Didn’t reply when I texted on Saturday. Ends up texting me back during the week again but not much since. Heard from his mates they were all out Saturday there but none of them appeared so I sent a pretty forward text on Saturday night but no reply. Don’t know what to make of it. Is he gay, bi, straight, shy? Does seem shy when stuff seemed like it was about to happen and when I ask him about gay/bi stuff. Don’t want to scare him off but I am someone who generally says what I’m thinking. I’ve always made sure not to say anything about stuff while his mates are within earshot though as wouldn’t want to be the one to out him. Pretty sure he hasn’t told them he’s even bi. Advice? Thoughts?

Reply May 18, 2016, 1:33 pm


Hi, i’ve seen the trends and its soothing. What confuses me is this in my area there is a guy who just stares at me a lot… He doesn’t talk to me or flirt He maintains eye contact and stares. I guess that’s how i noticed him

Reply April 25, 2016, 6:33 pm


There is a guy in my class that I really like I stare at him a lot and when I do he always catches my eye or raises his eyebrows one and he said hey do u want to come to my house as a joke I said no he said yeah I bet you would party too hard I knew what that meant and I didn’t like it he talks to me sometimes I flirt with his friends on accident because I’m just really nice to guys that I know or who are needy I hope he likes me I am planning on telling him soon but I’m scared he won’t talk to me after.

Reply April 10, 2016, 10:51 pm


I’m having trouble with this. I’m in my early 20’s and there’s a guy (also in his 20’s, roughly same age as me) on the course we’re doing. I would classify us as acquaintances rather than friends. We don’t speak outside the course, I don’t have his number or know much about him besides the basics (I don’t even know if he’s in a relationship etc or not – he doesn’t appear to use things like facebook), but he winks at me a lot. I haven’t noticed him winking at anyone else. A few times he’s been stood or sat in front of me and turned around and winked at me, last Monday he did it again and subtly waved at me and I swear I heard (but don’t know 100% for sure) him asking the guy next to him “would you?” in reference to me, which would seem like obvious signs but.. nothing else.

Apart from general friendliness we don’t have much communication. He doesn’t deliberately try to sit near me or anything (actually he did once, during a brief break between lectures in the canteen, he cracked a sexual joke about barebacking, but was talking to other people more than me) He’s closer to other people (guys and girls) than me.

I have a bit of a crush on him but I’m trying not to read into anything. The thing is, this course ends next month, and while we’ve applied for the same uni and course, I’m not sure if I’ll even see him again.

Reply March 26, 2016, 12:46 am

Lydia Vaughan

Hi ok I am in high school and this guy’s has been acting really weird lately like he’s really shy but I know his young brother and hes not shy bu his younger brother has been treating me differently. This guy that is shy I think he likes me but not sure he smiles all the time at me and finds reasons why he wants to talk to me. He gets my books and papers for me all the time, and she is very quiet it’s hard for him to hold a conversation sometimes. His younger brother has been giving me weird looks and treating me differently like he’s been nicer to me and always smiles at as well. Just not sure if this shy guy likes me or if he’s just being nice. Please help me.

Reply March 22, 2016, 10:21 pm


heres how my story goes about a guy at our class,we r in 9th grade and we have been classmate for 2 years now n if other boys like try to punch me or something he will always punch them back n say dnt touch her n he laughs n i catch him starting at me,and he compliments me on things tat other dont n we were once seeing a graduation book of ma sister n he sayed he rly wanna read about wat may sister wrote n but he txts me first n he is z one who ends it so does he like me or is he jst being a friend

Reply March 8, 2016, 12:38 pm


So I’m 19 and he’s 21 and we became chemistry lab partners in college. When I first met him it was through a mutual friend and I had a hard time getting documents from online and gladly emailed me everything I needed. Even when we’re not in class and we see each other in like the library he always motions me to sit with him. Whenever we talk we laugh SOOOO much. One time after lab he brushed my back with his hand to say goodbye. We have only been friends for 3 weeks but we are hitting it off so well already. Whenever we talk we always make direct eye contact.

Reply February 2, 2016, 9:38 pm


I am probably playing emotional detective and reading too much into stuff he is doing. I have tried to push the feelings away because he is younger than me but I feel like I am still becoming obsessed. We work together and when I don’t see him for even a day I feel miserable. I believe that he knows I am attracted to him because when we were talking I blushed bright red and he smiled with a knowing look in his eye. Ever since then he has been either flirting with me or playing with me probably because he likes to see me turn red. He stares into my eyes and we have this sort of staring contest. He often pats me on the back, playfully punches my arm, and touches my fingers with his when we hand each other stuff.

Reply November 8, 2015, 4:04 pm


There is this guy I’ve been seeing lately, I don’t talk to him just a smile and hello. The truth is he is a bus driver and on weekends I tend to go out on the bus instead of driving. Anyways every time we pass each other we lock eyes neither him or I look away once I was walking buy him and we both turned to look at each other I think he’s cute but scared to tell him that I’m interested what do I do or do these signs mean he’s also interested? Thank you in advance.

Reply October 12, 2015, 1:18 am


Hey everyone! So where do I begin? I’m 19 & I met angel who’s 20. We met about a month ago & we hit if off very quickly, he’d flirt with me everyday, do the touchy feely, complain that I was too far from him that day, he’d always wait after work with me until someone picked me up, & he’d offer me a ride in his car & motorcycle which I accepted and what can I say the motorcycle ride was romantic I held onto him so tight and he reminded me that there’s no need to be scared, at a red light he’d grab on to my leg & feel me up. I’m an active person as well as angel & he asked one day if I was available to jog I declined that day & agreed to reschedule for another day but that day was extremely hot so we had to reschedule again which is very hard since he has 2 jobs….. Then fast forward to this very awkward day at work, I have a friend who’s always in the mix of our “relationship” she has no friends besides me & he doesn’t hang out with me until she’s gone every morning when we see each other well give each other a hug but the other day was super awkward he gave me a hug and sped away which he never does he’ll always ask what position I’m doing today & all that good stuff, at break he was talking with another girl, after work he just left which he never does, when I got home I texted if he wanted to go for a jog but, declined saying ” um maybe next time” I’m afraid we’re drifting apart I mean I really like him….. I just want to know some of your thoughts on this!! Thanks

Reply September 23, 2015, 5:32 am


I met this guy, Nathan, on holiday. We became good friends quickly. He was really kind and cheeky and I really liked him but I wasn’t sure if he liked me. I regret not telling him how I feel now because I don’t have his number or surname so I have no way to talk to him again. my advice would just be tto go for it. If he doesnt like you, its his loss. X

Reply August 7, 2015, 3:06 pm


hi there, im 17 and currently have been friends with my best guy friend for 3 years now. over the last year we have become extremely close wher we are just constantly around each other. he stands close to me and looks me in the eye while talking to me,he makes me laugh, he is always fidgety and brushing his hand back with his hair. he is kinda protective, well he is and he has the kindest heart. im scared i might be falling for him, and i dont know if hed like me…Help me pleaseeee :)

Reply July 21, 2015, 9:30 am

perfer not to say

im a nice girl and I like this boy@my afterschool activities. smtimes im a bit mean to him and he accepts. he makes silly comments that are funny ans make me laugh. I want to know if he like me. I like him so much I don’t mean to be mean it just happens

Reply July 18, 2015, 10:14 pm


Men can be a subtle as anything. I might write an e-mail to girl asking for something I could probably work out for myself. My subtlety is rather than just writing back “Thank you” I will add an extra comment, even if it’s a closed comment. This is my subtle indication of interest. I know that women might not read it that way and just think “it’s just a comment.” But that’s me. If I’m not interested I would just write a “thank you”

Reply July 7, 2015, 5:43 am


There is a guy at work who I think is interested in me only because of his body language and the way he stares at me. He tends to stand close to me or opposite me while in the elevator. He always initiates conversations with me. When there is another attractive woman close by he pretends not to notice her and shifts his face towards me. Only thing is that I think he is dating someone. I have occasionally seen him with another woman during lunch but he doesn’t really talk to her while I am there and he keeps staring at me. Other people have mentioned seeing him with the same female and how he talks to her and jokes with her but every time I see them together he never looks at her and avoids talking to her. I thought maybe I was wrong in thinking he was attracted to me. He is also friendly with everyone so that is why I am confused.

Reply June 20, 2015, 11:50 pm


Hello. So I have this guy friend amd were really close. Were always laughing and making jokss at each other. He somstimes acts in a very caring way and its so sweet. I think that I might have feelimgs dor him but im not sure he feels the same way. What should I do
Ps. Not very confident

Reply June 12, 2015, 8:35 am


when you laugh at his jokes, touch him on the arm while you are laughing. See how comfortable he is with this

Reply July 7, 2015, 5:47 am


How can I make a guy commit to me only.

Reply June 3, 2015, 7:34 pm


If he doesn’t commit to you only, then he is not romantically interested. We men are quite happy and able to have a number of women at once without having any romantic attachment to them whatsoever. If we have romantic intention then we will generally stick with you only

Reply July 7, 2015, 5:50 am


Hi! I went to my male friends 21st in September 2014 and I kissed one of his friends from college there.. I liked him as soon as I saw him and he’s the one that made the move on me.. I was the driver that night and I dropped him back to my friends house that he was staying at and we kissed again. I met up with him again with my friend that I know him through and a few others 2 weeks later. We haven’t met up since then because I’m doing my Leaving Cert and he is a very big farmer but we are still talking.. We both want to see each other during the summer.. I think about him everyday and I miss him like mad.. But I don’t know if he has the same feelings for me as I do for him? Anyone able to help?? :)

Reply June 2, 2015, 1:12 pm


Ok I’m 13 and I like a guy. We have 2 classes together, Business and Tech Graph. I’m the only girl in my tech graph class and there are about 15 guys. I love the people in my class – it’s so fun. The guy I like is sitting right in of my (alphabetical order) he’s a class clown and he is always joking to his friends before class and if I drop something, his is the first to bend down and pick it up for me.

One day, just

Reply April 11, 2015, 9:20 am


thanks this is help a lot i just asked if he liked me had now were going out

Reply March 19, 2015, 2:23 am


Ok i dont know if he likes me but I saw sighns he did. i’m not a stalker. well on instagram he follows everyone besides me and he knows me ????. Then, he is so loud when i’m not near him and then when i am near him he is shy and quiet ????. and when boys like you they are very shy and quiet and he is loud like a monkey :). And once the summer 2014 he looked at me straight at my green eyes and smiled and then blushed…. That was weird….. i told my friends that and she said he probably liked me a long time ago and hes over me I got very sad and cried. But i WILL always like him ????

Reply February 17, 2015, 9:22 pm


i know how you feel julia i’ve liked a guy for ages but i still cant tell if he likes me although my friends think he does

Reply March 26, 2015, 9:01 am


I have class with a guy and we talk a lit during the week but on the weekends we don’t talk so I’m not sure if he like me but I like him a lot so I’m not sure wat I should do.

Reply February 15, 2015, 10:00 pm


how do you know if a guy likes u

Reply February 14, 2015, 3:14 pm


I have a guy who is constantly winking on me when he sees me,and whispering me “regards Ko” as what visayan dialect says he always whispering me that everytime i passed by him and it happened during my high school days. After few months or years we haven’t see each other anymore,and things now are getting complicated cause i am not yet legally separated with my husband yet,and he has a son also but there not married yet, this past few days weve met accidentally it’s our first time to talk to each other,and he ask my number and without thinking back i gave my phone number to him,..few minutes after we talk he started to call me and texting me,and he even fitch me and offer for a free ride i like him maybe because he was the first one who let me feel how to be Inspired,,he wanted me to go out with him but i am afraid on what will happen next i don’t want him to know that i like him too. What will i do?please advice.

Reply February 8, 2015, 6:18 am


My friend told the guy that I like him while I’m just beside my friend. He greeted me “hi!” and I did not said even a single word.
It’s so embarassing. But honestly, I know that the guy likes me too because It’s really obvious. I always caught him looking at me. He bumped into me and I don’t know if its accident or what? and I saw him talking to his friends. and his friends are looking to me and so on..
but I felt dissapointed, because he is not supposed to know it. what am i gonna do? if i meet him? it’s awkwarddd. thanks.
please help me out

Reply February 1, 2015, 9:49 pm


Just what I needed to read.Women over think way too much when it comes to a guy they like.It will ruin everything!The man I like is a workaholic,down to earth movie buff(just to get an idea) whom I feel is one of the sweethearts that have been emotionally ripped apart.You have all been that girl that breaks his heart whether its unintentional or unavoidable,cause you realize alittle too late he’s not the one for you.Mr.Charles this web page calmed my over active brain to the max!He’s sweet, I’m not your typical girl who can’t function correctly without being fake as can be.THOUGH,when you start to psycho analyze and “play detective” you’ll ruin your chance.Be yourself!your original sexy! its unique authentic true and he”ll love it.However,if your gut tells you he’s a twat 9\10 he must be.Whether its the gangsta,the office whore,or your general slut magnet guy who has to stick everyone he sees.You KNOW.Ladies all ages don’t ignore your inner self this is our natural defense mechanism against the people who want to devour you emotionally or physically.;) -The regulator think on.Pleasant posting

Reply January 23, 2015, 10:19 am


This is a ridiculous post. Most of those “signs” are signs he wants a fling. Different than liking a girl.

Reply January 19, 2015, 4:35 am


Hey! I need an opinion!! I have a friend who is gay (male) and I am a girl. We became really close. He was sending messages every day during Christmas holidays, so I was answering back. We are almoast every day together, holding hands. I can say, he became my best male friend. He always takes my hand first. Sometimes he does that after we drink, but he does that when we are not drinking as well. He kissed me couple of times. Few days ago when we were out, he became silent. Thats not his natural behaviour, so I asked what was wrong. He said that he is in love with me. I asked him since when and he said since always. I asked him if he was joking and he said no. He was really, really serious when he said those things. Later on the way home I asked him one more time if he really ment it, but he didnt want to talk about it again. I took his hand and we talked normaly about other things. We met for coffe today and he was all into me, really looking at my eyes withouth taking them from me. If he was hetero, I would be 100 precent sure that he is into me.
Anyway, I asked him if he really ment that what he said few days ago, but he said that he was just joking and how I even can think that he ment it for real. He also tried to convince me that he said in other context, but I am sure what I heard. It was clear as a day that he said he is in love. He even tried to say that I imagined all thing, because I am maybe in love with him. He is generaly really honest person, but when it comes about his own sexuality, he sometimes changes stories. Few month ago,he told me that he was attracted to some girl and that she made him to think that he maybe wasnt gay. He also said that all of us are bit bisexual and friends can be sexually attracted to each other… Couple of month later, he denied all of that as well, like he is not bisexual, he is just gay… He easly changes stories. Do u have any clue why he would denie it all?? He is married with a gay guy and I am married as well. We are in our late 20 es. I really like him as a friend and nothing more, but I would like if he can admit it at least, so we can talk about it.
I am generally very relaxed with him, because I know that he is gay, so holding his hands doesnt seem like someth. wrong. He knew that I broke up friendship with one of my male friends because he fell in love with me. Maybe that can be some reason why he doesnt want to admit?? I just dont understand why he denies his feelings if he admitted all before?

Reply January 14, 2015, 11:25 pm


I’ve never been through something so complicated.To me though,it sounds like he doesn’t want to be gay forever.Some bi people are just promiscuous and prefer the company of both sexes.You could be the climax in his life that changes him forever.Relax listen and respond to him.If a guy SAYS something like I LOVE you don’t over think take it in.guys say exactly what they mean to unless he’s a fibber who never says anything factual.If he said he loves you it must be his true thoughts.Don’t push him but don’t lose grip.Spend more time together have a drink or 2 then talk about how YOU feel and what your looking for.His response to that will sort your feelings.Don’t waste time or love it’s too precious.-The regulator

Reply January 23, 2015, 10:45 am


I have a few questions
1.a guy make’s me laugh all the time is that bad

Reply January 2, 2015, 2:25 pm


So this guy???? i dont know him much but i seen him like alot of time and he tends to stare at me and one day he came up to me and like kina got my attention and on this very day at night i went to a dance and he was there and he was standing hy the door way and he knew i wanted his attention and i knew he wanted mine too so i looked back and look at him and idk he winked? Idk but it was sloweley blink or wink them he kinda had that smile embarassing smile i need answers does he like me or what ?

Reply December 31, 2014, 4:11 am


well i like this guy but i dont know if he likes me back. he teases me, stares at me alot, txts me alot but idek if he likes me back. i like him alot but i dont know if he feels the same

Reply December 26, 2014, 5:12 pm


Thank you very much for the article. I think we women need to have more confidence and rely on facts. The man who deserves is the one who truly says no more looking. I’m here.

Reply November 30, 2014, 5:06 am

nsho chi

wonderful :-)!

Reply November 7, 2014, 4:44 pm

Suzel so True

“When she sees good signs, she’s elated. When she doesn’t see good signs… or sees warning signs… she’s terrified.”

I think you meant to say disappointed, not terrified!

Reply November 2, 2014, 9:57 pm


Okay well if the boy you like is standing in line
And his friends tuch him and point and me wat dose that mean

Reply October 5, 2014, 12:37 pm


There’s this boy named Connor and he likes my friends (I think) but in 2nd grade(I’m in 4th) I was teasing my friend about that she had a boyfriend and Connor said” so what u have one to” I said “who he ” he said “u”

Reply August 9, 2014, 4:51 pm


Ali.The fact is your beginning to experience the want for a boys attention.Girls mature waaay earlier than boys.Listen to me.I’m 22 and been in your EXACT place.You hear it always don’t grow up to fast you listen but don’t hear.I wish I was your age.I would have paid attention in math.IGNORE the jealous ugly mean girls who wish to see you cry who wish to ruin your days to come.Boys will come around and want your attention later on.Right now little boys that’s what they are little boys are thinking about running,playing,looking at nakey people on the TV.They don’t want a girlfriend.Young lady be happy you have all the time in the world to have a boyfriend be a kid.One day you’ll have to work pay bills and stress.Be free happy be a child.Don’t grow up fast sweetie. Love -Ms.experience

Reply January 23, 2015, 10:33 am


Great point. The world will not end if his one guy doesn’t have the hots for you! He’s still cool to be around and fun to hang with. So be cool. If he doesn’t want you that way, someone else will.

Reply July 7, 2014, 3:13 pm


That was brilliant! Especially the advice about assuming that the man I question already likes me. It helped calm me down whenever I was around my office crush last year. It restored my self-confidence & faith in my self-worth.

Reply January 12, 2014, 9:04 am


I think the compliments of ‘beautiful, gorgeous, sexy etc’ are cliched. Personally I’m over them, I’d rather a guy compliment aspects of my personality and for who I am.

I feel more appreciated and comforted in the thought that he likes me than any compliment on my appearance.

Reply October 22, 2013, 6:35 am


damn that was brilliant!!!!! I was doing the doing the exact thing you were talking about ” paying emotional detective ” . A guy has been (what I think ) is flirting with me, he does everything on the list you wrote except for actually asking me out, which is the reason why I am confused. so thank you very much for your blog, I am going to take your advice and see how the cards fall…..
thx again :)

Reply July 16, 2013, 1:13 pm


So I’m curious how did it turn out? I’m in the exact situation as u, this guy who flirts with me in office but never ask me out, and I don’t know whether he’s making jokes or really likes me…

Reply October 27, 2014, 12:16 am


Is he single?
If single, a little flirt is ok.
If he is not, demand respect.
don’t play the game

Reply November 5, 2014, 1:42 am


According to colleagues he has a girlfriend, but when I asked him if he has a gf, he never replies to my enquires. I hate all these gestures of him flirts with me in the office, but when we were in maybe the lift or pantry, we barely even talk…

Reply November 6, 2014, 8:55 am

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