He needs visual

Hi, I will try to make it brief.

Bf of 6 years, told me last night that he needs visual to have sex.

We always have sex in the living room, lights on, TV on everything bright. But sometimes I want to have sex in our bedroom in a more romantic way. Candle lights or just a dim lamp in the corner. NOT pitchblack (And I explained that to him) But for him that’s not bright enough. He even called me “old”. I was initiating last night and it totally changed my vibe when he said that. I feel like he can’t use touch and his mind to be more intimate that he needs to see my parts in the brightest white light to be aroused.

He told me it should be a good thing that he wants to “see me” rather than the opposite. He even asked me if I’m insecure about something on my body. Lol. Been with this man for 6 years he has seen my whole body it’s not insecurity it’s just moods and vibe.

Bottom line I just don’t want to think that he only has sex and doesn’t “make love” anymore. I know we’ve been together a while and things do get boring etc..but he does nothing to spice anything up he always expects me to, and I do of course occasionally but why can’t we balance it out? Now I have to always be in the brightest light in the house for him to want me? Might as well hand him a torch.

Any thoughts or experience on this topic is greatly appreciated.