So you’ve got a guy you’re friends with and somewhere along the line you develop feelings for him. Unfortunately, he only sees you as a friend.

Tough situation. It happens to guys and it happens to girls and oftentimes, it can cause more heartbreak than an actual breakup.

Why?

Well maybe one (or all) of these scenarios apply to your situation. You get along better with him than anyone else. You “get” each other. He’s the only guy that you’ve ever felt truly understands you and with whom you can truly be yourself. He’s cute, he’s funny, and when he’s around you, he completely lets his guard down.  You get to see him as the man he truly is – an unguarded version of himself that he hides from the world and only seems to let you see.

You trust each other.  You might even say that you love each other. And you love every little thing about him… you can talk for hours or even just be with each other in silence… and you know exactly what the other person is thinking.

So why, in the midst of this seemingly perfect situation, aren’t you any more than friends?  Or worse, why (when you told him how you felt about him) does he say, “I really love you. You’re the most important girl in the world to me and I’ll always be there for you but I can’t be in a relationship with you – we need to just be friends.”

Well, I’ll give you a few reasons and I’ll also give you the ultimate pull-no-punches guide to getting out of the friend zone.

If you’re going through a breakup right now, I know exactly what you’re feeling. That burning ache in your chest. The constant thoughts about your ex. The overwhelming urge to pick up your phone and text them.

I’ve been helping women through breakups for over 22 years, and I can tell you something with complete confidence: The No Contact Rule is about to become your best friend.

Let me walk you through exactly what this rule is, why it works so powerfully, and how to use it to not only heal your heart but potentially set the stage for your ex to come crawling back, begging for another chance. [continue reading…]

I’ve been getting mixed signals from a guy I work with.  He’s funny and nice to me… but he’s an easy guy to like.  He flirts with me, but I can’t tell if he’s just charming in general or if it’s because he’s attracted to me and interested…

I’d love to know what you’d consider the biggest, best, most clear signs a guy likes you… I just want to be sure whether or not he’s into me before get too excited…

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Maybe this sounds familiar…

Things start off amazing with this guy. The chemistry is electric.

He’s texting you all the time, making plans, showing up consistently.

You feel that spark of connection that makes you think, “This could really be something special.”

Then suddenly… something changes.

His texts become less frequent. He cancels plans or is vague about making new ones.

That eagerness you felt from him? It’s fading.

And now you’re left wondering what happened and what you might have done wrong.

I’ve spent the last 22 years helping women navigate this exact situation, and I can tell you that when a man pulls away, it’s happening for one of three specific reasons.

And it’s rarely what you think it is.

I’m going to break down exactly what’s really happening when he goes distant, because once you see the full picture, you’ll not only understand why it’s happening but exactly what you can do about it. [continue reading…]

There is this guy who I see often but have never actually spoken to. The only contact has really been him indirectly talking to me. One time he told someone that I was a “good kid”, when I was standing right next to him.

He also stares at me sometimes and then doesn’t look away when I catch his glace. There are other things along those lines as well.

Does he like me or am I overreacting?

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Have you ever wondered why the guy you’re with acts like he loves you one day, but the next day you’re not so sure?

Maybe you’re frustrated because no matter how hard you try, you can’t seem to figure out what’s really going on inside his head.

It feels confusing and exhausting—like you’re always guessing, always wondering what he’s actually feeling.

If that sounds familiar, you’re in the right place.

Most love advice articles out there talk about attraction mainly in terms of biology—things like physical features, pheromones or basic instincts.

But what they’re not telling you is what happens psychologically that makes a man genuinely fall in love and choose a woman for a committed relationship.

It’s not just about attraction or chemistry; it’s about certain qualities and behaviors in you that signal to him, deep down, you’d be good for him in the long run.

These are the signals that speak directly to his emotional wiring, making him feel like you’re the woman who brings out his absolute best.

Essentially, he’s subconsciously scanning for these signals to be there and when they are, love happens.

In this article, I’m going to show you exactly why men fall in love, explained in a way that’ll finally make sense.

You’ll see clearly why he does what he does, why he acts the way he acts and most importantly, you’ll understand how to become the woman who naturally brings out his deepest feelings. [continue reading…]

Believe it or not, getting your ex-boyfriend back isn’t that hard.

In fact, getting an ex to come back can actually be really easy with a couple tricks.

If you’re fresh off a breakup this might sound impossible, but it’s true.

I’ve seen it happen thousands of times – a woman follows these specific steps and her ex comes crawling back, sometimes literally begging to get back together.

It happens so predictably that I’m always amazed more women don’t know about this.

The tricky part isn’t getting him back – it’s keeping him once he’s back.

Most women who get back with their ex-boyfriends end up losing him again. I’ve seen this pattern play out over and over.

They’re thrilled when he comes back, but within a few months (sometimes even weeks), they’re dealing with another painful breakup.

Why does this happen?

Because the same problems that destroyed the relationship before are still there. Nothing’s changed.

If you want to get him back and keep him, you need a proven plan that works. And more than that, you need to know the mistakes you must avoid if you want him back.

This is why I’m not just going to show you how to get your ex back – I’m going to show you exactly how to get him back in a way that leads to a stronger, healthier relationship than you had before.

In this article, I’m going to give you a complete 5 step plan that covers everything.

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You’ve noticed it—the texts that once flooded your phone, the excitement in his eyes when he saw you, the spark you felt whenever you were together… It all feels different now. You’re wondering why he stopped chasing you and the uncertainty is driving you crazy.

But before panic sets in, there’s something important you need to know: the end of the chase doesn’t always mean the end of interest. In fact, the shift you’re feeling might actually be a sign of deeper connection, a natural progression into something more real and authentic.

Of course, sometimes the change means trouble—so how do you tell the difference?

That’s exactly what we’re going to talk about here. I’m going to show you exactly why he stopped chasing, what’s really happening in his mind and what you can do right now to regain control of the relationship’s direction. [continue reading…]

There’s a guy who I’m really interested in, but there are all sorts of women throwing themselves at him and I need to stand out from the crowd.

I am not unattractive, but I don’t feel like I’m necessarily the hottest woman in the room either… I think I can look good if I really put in the effort.  I don’t have trouble with guys in general, but I really want this particular guy and since there’s competition, I really want to know how to seduce a man and how to hook a man’s interest.  Can you tell me what works best?

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You sent a text hours ago. No response. You check your phone for the twentieth time. Still nothing. And now you’re wondering: “Why hasn’t he texted back? Is he losing interest? Is something wrong?”

I get it. It’s frustrating. It’s confusing. And it can drive you absolutely crazy.

Why do guys take so long to text back?

The truth is, there’s actually a pattern to how men text that 99% of women don’t know. Once you know it, you’ll always know what he’s really thinking behind his texts to you.

Let’s get into what’s really going on when a guy doesn’t text back and why it can drive you crazy. [continue reading…]

You’ve been seeing this guy for a while now, and things seem to be going well. But there’s a nagging feeling in the pit of your stomach that something’s not quite right.

Maybe you’re wondering if he’s really in it for the long haul or if you’re just spinning your wheels in a relationship that’s going nowhere.

I get it. It’s a tough spot to be in, and it’s totally normal to feel uncertain. But here’s the thing: when a guy is truly committed to you, it shows in his actions, not just his words.

I’m going to break down the seven major signs that he’ll never commit, so you can stop second-guessing yourself and start seeing the situation for what it really is. [continue reading…]

You’ve been feeling it for a while now. He’s been pulling away, and suddenly he drops the bomb: “I need space.”

Your heart sinks, and your mind races. Is this the end? What should you do?

First, take a deep breath.

This situation isn’t as dire as it might seem right now.

In fact, when you handle it right, you can turn things around and come out stronger on the other side. [continue reading…]

You’re stuck. You can’t stop thinking about him. Every notification makes your heart race, hoping it’s him. But deep down, you know the truth: he’s not into you. And it hurts like hell.

I get it. Over the years, I’ve helped thousands of women navigate this exact situation. It’s one of the most common and painful experiences in dating. You’re not alone and you’re not crazy for feeling this way.

Here’s what most people don’t understand: it’s not about rejection. It’s about disappointment. You built up hope, imagined a future with this guy and now that dream feels shattered. But I’ve got good news for you: your dreams aren’t dead. They just need to be replanted.

In this article, I’m going to show you how to do that. I’ll give you practical, actionable steps to not just get over him, but to create a life you love – with or without a man

You might be thinking, “Eric, I’ve tried to move on before. Nothing works.” I hear you. But the strategies I’m about to share aren’t about willpower or just “getting over it.” They’re about rewiring your brain and shifting your focus in a way that makes moving on inevitable.

The best part? As you follow these steps, you’ll become more attractive, confident and ready for a real relationship when the right guy comes along.

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Every day, I hear from women who are frustrated with their love lives. They’re smart, successful, and have so much to offer – yet they struggle to understand the men they’re with.

Why won’t he commit? Why does he need so much space? What’s really going on in his head?

I’ve been a relationship coach for over 2 decades, and I’ve heard these questions countless times.

When I first started coaching, I was surprised by how much women misunderstood about men’s emotional experiences. It wasn’t that women weren’t trying. They just didn’t have the right roadmap.

That’s why I’m writing this article. Most relationship advice is so focused on solving an immediate problem that there isn’t much great content about how to understand men.

The thing is, when you understand men better, you avoid having almost all relationship problems in the first place.

Trust me, once you see these patterns, you’ll never look at your relationships the same way again.

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My ex broke up with me last month after being together for over a year. The last few months were rough because his grandmother passed away after being in the hospital for a few months. I tried to be there for him but he totally withdrew and would reject my advances and we started fighting a lot because of it.

He told me he loves me, but felt like I was smothering him and he needed to find himself. I told him I would give him space while he figured things out but he said he couldn’t ask me to do that. I asked if there was a chance for us once he got things sorted and he said he isn’t sure if he sees a future. He said he worships the ground I walk on and should never change because I was perfect in the relationship and will go far in life whereas he feels like he has nothing to offer since he is grieving and stuck in a job he doesn’t like.

He suggested we stay friends but I told him that would be too hard on me and he said I can contact him anytime. I know I came across needy over the last couple of months and am wondering if there’s anything I can do to get him back. Should I text him? Try to stay friends? Is there any hope of getting him back?

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You’re trying everything to make your relationship work. You’re attentive, caring and always there for him. But something’s off. He’s pulling away, and you can’t figure out why.

I’ve seen this scenario play out countless times. Women come to me confused and hurt, wondering why their best efforts seem to backfire. They’re doing what feels right, but it’s pushing their man further away.

Here’s the truth: what many women think will draw a man closer often does the opposite. It’s not your fault – our culture doesn’t teach us how men really think and feel in relationships.

When I talk about ways women push men away, I’m not pointing fingers. I’m sharing insights I’ve gathered from years of coaching and countless real-life examples. This isn’t about making excuses for men or criticizing women. It’s about showing you what works and what doesn’t, so you can have the love life you really want.

In this article, I’ll show you 15 common behaviors that push men away. Some might surprise you. Others might feel uncomfortably familiar. But don’t worry – I’m not just highlighting problems. I’m giving you practical solutions.

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My ex and I had a perfect nine months: no fights, some arguments of course, but everything was great.

I was always worried a little about this ex girlfriend. She left him for another guy and he never got over it… or over her I guess.

When she became available again, he left me for her!  I don’t understand what happened … I just know I want him back.  What should I do?

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The first question most women ask after a breakup is: can I get my ex back? It can be hard to think of anything else when your emotions are running high and you feel like you’re still in love. But the first question you should really be asking yourself is: do I want to?

The answer to the first question is maybe. There is always a chance, but missing him isn’t enough. You can’t get back together without doing any inner work and expect things to be different. Nothing has changed on the inside, so nothing has changed on the outside, either. If you get back together just because you miss him, you’re in serious danger of getting into an endless on/off cycle, driven entirely on emotions, and you could waste years of your life.

Assuming it is a good idea to try to get him back, is it even possible? It is, and here are 12 good signs you have a shot.

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Love it or hate it,  texting is our main mode of communication these days. Given that, we basically have access to one another at all times, which can be a blessing or a curse.

When it comes to getting your ex-boyfriend back, texting can work to your advantage, making him miss you and want you back, as long as you use it wisely and know what you’re doing.

Of course, there is more to the story. You can’t just text your ex and then poof! He comes crawling back. The perfect text sent at the right time is what will pave the way for success. (If you want your ex back, you should also be sure to read this article on how to get your ex back in five steps when you’re done here.)

Texting your ex does pose a risk. The risk being that he rejects you or just doesn’t answer. You should always be prepared for that possibility and just be OK with it. If you won’t be able to handle things not turning out the way you want, then you aren’t ready to get back together with your ex in the first place and need to spend more time on your own working through things.

So let’s get into it and talk about how to get your ex back with a few simple texts:

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Breakups are never easy. Never clean-cut. Never painless. Even in the most amicable situations, there is healing to do, whether you get back together in the end or not.

A lot of the pain we experience when a relationship ends is the result of our own illusions about the relationship, about our ex, and about ourselves. Sometimes, it’s hard to let go of the self-image you created as part of a couple. And you can feel like a break-up is not only severing the relationship but also dismantling your own image of who you are as a person.

When we see relationships as a part of our identity and as something to be gained or lost, it is inevitable we will suffer when it comes to an end.

Right now, however, you might not be in a place where you can start true healing. Maybe you’re confused. Maybe you are questioning your own feelings for your ex. Maybe you are second guessing the breakup itself – thinking of scenarios where things could have gone differently.

Believe me, I get it. I’ve been there enough times – somewhere stuck between wanting him back, wanting him to want me back, and hoping for us to get back together in the future.

And it doesn’t help when your ex is sending you mixed signals.

MORE: Hidden Signs Your Ex Still Loves You 

If you are in the same scenario, the first step towards ultimate healing could just be getting clarity on what’s happening on his side of the street.

Does he actually miss you or are your own desires or confusion clouding your judgment?

If you want to know for sure that your ex misses you and get the information you need to move forward, read the following surefire ways to tell you are still on his mind. If he checks several items on this list, he is definitely still thinking about you.

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“Nothing ends nicely. That’s why it ends.” – Tom Cruise

Who has ever had a friendly, lighthearted breakup? One where both people calmly and without emotion decided it was time to make a clean break? Closure tied up in a pretty bow?

Not anyone human. Or, at least, not any human coming out of a relationship that held any meaning for them.

Since breakups can be a whirlwind of confusion, betrayal, and heightened emotions of all kinds, figuring out how to proceed afterward can be just as tied up with angst. For the first week, you don’t even recognize the person you are. When you share your life with someone, some of your identity becomes intertwined with them. When they are gone, your whole reality shifts.

What can make that process even harder is when your ex decides to muddy the waters by showing signs he wants you back. You’re left to wonder if he’s just going through the same turmoil of the breakup you are, or if his actions are legitimate.

MORE: How to Get Your Ex Back in 5 Steps Guaranteed (With Testimonials)

If he does truly want to get back together, is that really a good idea? How do you know when, or if, you should act on some of these potential “signs?” Are they even real signs?

For advice on identifying these clues (and what to do about them), read on.

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“The hottest love has the coldest end.” -Socrates.

Breakups are never easy. In fact, knowing you might never hold the person you love again is one of the hardest things a person can do.

After a breakup, you might feel helpless and scared he’s gone forever. You may have realized you made a big mistake or wish you’d done things differently and could rewind the clock to have another chance with him.

As for him? His post-breakup behavior might be confusing. For example, on the one hand, he texts and calls you telling you how much he misses you… and on the other hand, he ignores you and purposefully posts pictures of himself with another woman on social media knowing you will see it. Or he blocks you on Facebook and then sends you an emotional text while he’s drunk one night.

You might ask yourself: “Does he still have feelings for me or not? I just want to know!”

I am going to give you the “hidden” signs that your ex does still have feelings for you.

In addition to giving you the signs, I’m going to give you tips underneath each sign so that you can have the best chance of getting him back (if this is what you want).

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The end of a relationship can stir up a variety of emotions, doubts, and fears. It can have us question our ability to find love again or even our worthiness of love in the first place.

That’s why it can be so hard to let go. We fear that the relationship we had was our one shot at true love. So, we over-analyze things. We put our ex on a pedestal. And sometimes, we hold onto “what-ifs” as an escape from the reality of what’s in front of us. I know; I’ve been there.

The truth is, the only way to get the relationship you want is to let go of the past; put down the shoulda…coulda…wouldas and trust that you have everything you need to generate love in your life in a powerful way. You can only do this, however, if you are willing to drop the stories you’ve created about how things should have happened and open yourself to the possibility of what could be next.

MORE: Hidden Signs Your Ex Still Loves You (Even If He Says He Doesn’t)

The most important thing is to be honest with yourself first. Are you ready to move on or are you still holding onto something you no longer have? After my last relationship, this was one of the hardest questions for me to answer because I knew I had to face the fact that things were over, and it was time to move on. And fortunately, that realization was exactly what ushered new love into my life.

In order to have the relationship you desire, you must make room in your heart to receive it. When you’re filled up with thoughts, wishes, and fantasies about your last relationship, there’s little space for new love to enter.

If you are not sure if you are still hung up on your ex or if you’re ready to move on, these next 15 signs will definitely help you get clarity.

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“I’ve been seeing this guy for a little while now and it seems like sometimes he’s interested and sometimes he’s not. I feel like I don’t really have him and I feel like I don’t know how to hold his interest and make him want me more.

I notice this the most when we’re texting. Sometimes he’s there texting back and forth with me, sometimes he disappears for hours or days or doesn’t really seem to engage in the conversation.

MORE: Exactly How to Get a Guy to Text You Back

There are all kinds of videos and articles about text messages that make him want you, but a lot of the advice seems unrealistic or ridiculous. Can you tell me what works to make a man interested over text?”

What does it take to get a man to truly commit and want only you? It’s a question I’ve been asked more times than I could count.

What men desire most is a woman who inspires them to be their best self. Being that woman is a much different mindset than what most women typically do these days.

So what’s the major error that trips women up? It’s their focus. Instead of focusing on the feelings and experience they create for the man, the woman fixates on her own wants, her own worries, her own fears.

And amidst this completely self-absorbed mindset consumed by what she wants, it’s no wonder that she’s unable to hook a man’s interest in a significant way, one that goes beyond just hooking up.

Sure, that woman might cook him dinners, perform in bed, and tell him how much she likes him, but none of that stuff penetrates a man’s psychology on a deep and meaningful level.

Forget about just getting commitment. When you understand and master the art of tapping into the deep parts of a man’s psyche, he will want to move mountains to possess you.

MORE: 5 Signs He’ll Never Commit to You

Men don’t start out there when they first meet a woman, though. She needs to reach him at that level by recognizing his ambitions, his fears, his motivations, his “mission” in life and where he ultimately wants to “win.”

Here are four ways to reach a man deeply and make him want to commit and devote himself fully to you. [continue reading…]

Dating isn’t always black or white, especially when it comes to exclusivity. Sometimes it can feel like you’re a couple, but you just can’t say for sure.

So how do you know if you’re an official couple yet? Is it something that must be declared on social media? Is it when the other person deletes their dating apps? Sometimes it feels like you’re exclusive, but until you have “the talk,” you can’t know for sure.

Naturally, no one loves being the first one to bring this topic up. You don’t want to come across as clingy or desperate. If things are going really well, it’s tempting to avoid any potential rocking of the boat.

MORE: How to Tell If You’re Exclusive (Without Needing to Ask)

Even with all that said… you want to know! Is he seeing other people or not? If you’re not ready to bring up the subject directly, check out these signs he’s seeing other people.

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It’s a terrible, sinking sensation, one you wish you could ignore … that feeling when you suspect your man wants to break up.

None of us want to experience that. Sometimes, our understandable reluctance ends up blinding us to the reality of a situation. It’s easier to claim you can’t tell if he wants to break up than to admit you just don’t want to see the facts.

We get it! It’s deceptively easy to slip into denial on this one.

MORE: How to Get Over Even The Worst Break Up

But by keeping yourself honest and open to seeing the truth, you do both yourself and your partner a favor. It could be that your relationship is 100% salvageable if you act now. Or maybe it’s time for you to move on to something that’s a better fit. Either way, you deserve the truth.

Here are the top 11 signs he wants to break up:

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A lot of women are afraid to compliment men because they’ve been told that it’s unattractive to show too much interest.

This just isn’t true. If a guy likes a girl and she shows interest, that’s a good thing! That makes him happy and makes him want to take things further. What’s unattractive is a needy woman who bends over backward to please a guy and prove she’s worthy of his attention because she doesn’t feel good about herself and his approval will mean she’s “worthy.”

MORE: What Men Want to Hear From Women (But Would Never Admit) 

If you like a guy and are pretending to not be interested in order to get him to like you that just tells him you’re immature and he’ll probably lose interest real quick. Now at the same time, coming on too strong and not leaving him any room to pursue you can also be a bit much so don’t take things too far.

But compliments are great. They feel great. Just think about the last time someone paid you a genuine compliment. It’s an amazing feeling.

Read on for compliments that will really reach your man and make him feel good.

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What are the signs a man wants to be with you and is serious about you?

We’ve all had this thought — I mean, no one wants to waste their time and end up broken-hearted. There is nothing worse than being blindsided, and this happens all too often. You meet a guy, let yourself be overcome by fluttery feelings and you ride a wave of high hopes for what the future will hold … only to discover he doesn’t feel the same and doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you.

Discovering a guy you like doesn’t like you back is crushing. Conversely, discovering a guy you like really likes you back and wants to be with you and wants a serious relationship with you is exhilarating and quite possibly one of the most amazing feelings in the world.

MORE: 5 Signs He’s Never Going to Commit 

Fortunately, there are some pretty strong telltale signs that a guy is serious about you, they’re things that pretty much all guys do when they really like a woman.

And here they are…

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