How to Tell if Someone is in Love With You
While loving and being loved by someone is about as good as it gets in life, it’s also a risk. How can you fully let your guard down with someone if you’re not absolutely sure they’ll return your feelings? In an ironic twist, if you don’t do that, the other person won’t be able to fall fully for you. Being in love is a give and take in the deepest kind of trust you can have with another person.
It’s not possible to fall in love in an entirely safe way. There’s got to be a sliver of crazy involved when you give someone the power to break your heart. The best you can do is choose your partner wisely.
If you’re struggling to figure out whether or not a guy loves you, chances are he’s not the right one. In reality, the best guy for you won’t make you doubt his feelings. At the same time, there are signs you can look for when deciphering what those feelings are.
Here’s our list of 24 signs that he loves you.
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Little Ways to Know Someone Loves You
1. He’s totally comfortable being himself around you.
It’s not easy to fearlessly be yourself around everyone. We naturally tend to have different hats we wear depending on who we’re around. It’s only with your genuine friends and loved ones that you’re able to fully let your guard down and be your quirky self.
For this reason, if the guy you’re with seems to have no trouble showing you his authentic self, this is a sign of real trust and comfort.
2. He finds little ways to show you he cares.
Not every gesture of love has to be grandiose. In fact, it can be in the small details that you really see someone’s love for you.
Maybe he leaves work an hour early and brings home a supply of cold meds when he finds out you’re sick. Or perhaps he rolls out of bed ten minutes before you just so you can wake up to the smell of your favorite coffee. In the grand scheme of things, it’s the little things that count.
3. He’s honest with you, even when it’s hard.
Sometimes telling someone what they need to hear is difficult. That fact is never truer than when it comes to someone you intensely care about. Have you ever had to tell a friend a hard truth because you knew it would serve them well in the long run? If it was only someone you had a light association with, you probably wouldn’t make the effort.
If your guy (gently!) tells you the truth when you need to hear it, he’s a keeper.
4. He lets you know that you’re on his mind.
How often do you think about someone, perhaps wonder how they’re doing, but don’t actually follow up with a message or phone call? Despite how good it feels when someone does that for you, we sometimes fail to return the favor.
A guy who’s in love will let you know. It could even be something super simple, such as a mid-day text along the lines of: “Hey, hope your day is going well.”
5. He’s secure in your relationship.
There’s nothing worse than an overly insecure partner who loses his mind if you don’t text back right away. Besides the annoying logistics of this, it’s also upsetting because it’s clear he doesn’t fully trust you.
When a guy is stable and unthreatened in the relationship, it makes you feel solid in it as well. A loving relationship will always include having confidence in each other.
6. He gives you alone time when you need it.
Everyone needs some personal space every once in a while. Some people need it more than others. In some cases, such as a heated argument, a little distance can save you from saying something you’ll soon regret.
Additionally, having occasional time apart makes you value the time you do have together. It’s healthy to have alone time, and a guy who loves you will understand that.
7. He always wants the best for you.
What’s best for one person in the relationship isn’t always what’s ideal for both. Sometimes one person has to sacrifice what would personally make them most happy in order to benefit their partner.
While a relationship should include compromise from both people, it’s a great sign if your guy actively shows that he wants what’s best for you – even if that doesn’t serve him. It could be that a certain promotion at work will mean less time at home, but he’ll still support you 100%.
8. He shows interest in even your “weird” hobbies.
All of us have at least one interest or hobby that is a little outside of the box. It’s that one activity that you wouldn’t necessarily boast about at a cocktail party. It’s also one of the beautiful quirks that makes you “you.”
When a man loves you, he’ll want to know about everything you’re passionate about. Whether it’s painting anime characters or racing ferrets, he won’t brush off your unique interests.
9. He apologizes – sincerely – when he’s in the wrong.
Nobody wants to admit they’re wrong about something. Doing so requires a grace and humility that you’re probably not going to cultivate with someone you’re only mildly interested in.
By being willing to say he’s sorry, a guy can show you he cares more about you than about winning an argument. Of course, this apology only counts if it’s genuine and not just a manipulation for a further goal.
10. He looks for ways to make your life easier.
Is there a certain pesky chore that you always leave till last because it’s your least favorite? It could be separating the recycling or unloading the dishwasher. Whatever it is, there’s a good chance that a man in love will be willing to do that chore you hate the most.
Looking for ways to make your loved one’s life a little less stressful is a sign of devotion. You probably do the exact same thing for him. It’s one of the smaller benefits of having that special person in your life.
11. He wants the whole world to know you’re together.
We’re not all huge fans of PDA, whether it be making out on the subway or posting a sickeningly lovey-dovey selfie on social media every other day. While excessive highlighting of a relationship is tiresome, a little can go a long way.
Simply holding your hand as you walk down the street can make you feel special and admired. When he eagerly introduces you as his girlfriend, it shows he’s proud of you and the relationship.
12. He’s unselfish with you.
It’s intoxicating to be with someone who honestly puts your needs above his own. He can show this intention in seemingly small-scale ways. Maybe he always offers you the last piece of pizza or suggests the movie he thinks you most want to see.
When a man lovingly does this kind of thing, it makes you keen to reciprocate. If both people are chomping at the bit to do something kind for the other, your relationship is golden.
13. He makes a big deal about your accomplishments.
Even if you’re the shy type who doesn’t like a big fuss made about them, a guy who loves you will make sure that fuss is made. He’ll be the first to tell people about your successes and congratulate you.
This includes doing something special on important days, such as birthdays. Whether you insist you don’t need anything or not, he’ll find a way to mark the occasion for you.
14. He prioritizes you.
You can always tell when someone has carved out a meaningful space for you in their life. When other engagements pop up, he’ll never bail on pre-existing plans with you. If you really need him, he’ll drop what he needs to in order to be there for you.
Most days, life tends to pull us all in a million different directions at once. Where we place our priorities and time really show what (and who) we value.
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15. He shares what’s going on in his life.
Men tend to keep their worries and problems to themselves more than women do. Sometimes it’s hard for a guy to open up and confess what’s bothering him. He’ll never do this with someone he doesn’t feel safe admitting vulnerabilities to.
If your man shares all parts of his life with you, he’s made a purposeful decision to let you in. Take this gesture seriously, because it’s a tough thing for many men to do.
16. He misses you.
Absence can make the heart grow fonder, but it can also show you that you’re fine without someone. It is very telling, one way or the other. When time apart has an impact on him, this shows substantial affection.
He’ll demonstrate this feeling by letting you know you’re missed. It could be an enthusiastic kiss as soon as you walk in the door, or a “missing you” text. Instead of letting days go by without communication, he’ll take an active role in the relationship.
17. He listens to you.
There’s a huge difference between nodding your head along when someone’s talking and actually listening to them. A legitimate listener will wait until you finish talking before crafting his response, instead of formulating it while you speak.
An engaged listener is a rare commodity in this distracted world we live in. Listening takes effort, and you don’t exert effort with someone you aren’t invested in.
18. He surprises you with spontaneous gestures.
Valentine’s Day. Birthdays. Anniversaries. These are all massive cues for a guy to show you his affection. What’s more touching is when he does something to make you feel loved on a random Tuesday afternoon.
Coming home to an unexpected bouquet of flowers or being surprised with a weekend getaway is so sweet and exciting. It shows you that, regardless of the date on the calendar, he’s thinking of you and how to brighten your day.
19. He remembers your conversations.
It’s touching when someone refers back to something you mentioned in the past because it shows they really digested what you had to say. Instead of letting it go in one ear and out the other, he made a mental note.
Maybe on your birthday, he buys you tickets to see that band you mentioned you loved two months ago. A gift like that is much more significant than a generic one that could have been for any girl. It shows he took the time to remember what’s actually important to you.
20. He makes an effort with your friends and family.
Even though meeting and spending time with loved ones can be an intimidating part of a relationship, it’s hugely necessary. When you care about someone, you try valiantly to put your best foot forward with their circle of people.
Nervous or not, a man who cares about you will work to win over all your friends and family. Bonus points if he succeeds, because if the people who love you also love him, that’s a very positive sign.
21. He sees the real you.
Have you ever been in a relationship where it seemed like the guy liked an idea of you more than the actual you? Both genders can be guilty of creating a fantasized version of a person in their mind. Instead of studying and learning about someone, it can be easy to create a version you like in your mind.
This doesn’t do anyone any favors in the long run. Relationships built on romanticized notions have no ground to build upon. For this reason, a guy who makes the effort to get to know the real you is one who should be valued.
22. He makes spending time together easy.
Chemistry is a head-scratching concept. You can’t quite put your finger on it. What is it that makes hanging out with certain people so easy, yet with others it feels like pulling teeth? A man who looked perfect online could end up being your most awkward first date of all time.
When you’re with the right person, the one you have a natural rapport with, it just feels easy. Instead of staring at your feet, you’re engaged in swift conversation. Even when you’re not talking, the silence is comfortable.
23. He makes you feel it.
If you find yourself straining to see the signs of authentic love, you’re probably not experiencing it. The reality is that love is shown through actions, through the way a person makes you feel.
A man in love will make sure you know it. Instead of doubting yourself and the relationship, you will feel secure and desired. If you don’t feel this way, or if he seems to enjoy keeping you guessing, it’s time to move on to better things.
24. He tells you.
Is there any better feeling than being so overcome with affection that you just can’t stop yourself from saying “I love you?” It’s terrifyingly exciting the first time, but it’s still powerful every time after.
A guy in love will not be too cool to tell you he loves you in front of other people. He’ll remind you regularly, through both words and actions.
I hope this article clarified exactly how to know if he loves you. But there is more you need to know if you want that love to last. At some point, a guy will ask himself: Is this the woman I want to commit myself to? The answer will determine everything. Do you know how a man decides a woman is “the one”? Do you know what inspires a man to want to commit? If not, you need to read this article next: The #1 Things Men Desire in a Woman
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Take The Quiz: Does He Really Love You?
24 Ways to Know When Someone Loves You:
- He’s totally comfortable being himself around you.
- He finds little ways to show you he cares
- He’s honest with you, even when it’s hard.
- He lets you know that you’re on his mind.
- He’s secure in your relationship.
- He gives you alone time when you need it.
- He always wants the best for you.
- He shows interest in even your “weird” hobbies.
- He apologies – sincerely – when he’s in the wrong.
- He looks for ways to make your life easier.
- He wants the whole world to know you’re together.
- He’s unselfish with you.
- He makes a big deal about your accomplishments.
- He prioritizes you.
- He shares what’s going on in his life.
- He misses you.
- He listens to you.
- He surprises you with spontaneous gestures.
- He remembers your conversations.
- He makes an effort with your friends and family.
- He sees the real you.
- He makes spending time together easy.
- He makes you feel it.
- He tells you.