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Is He Flirting With Me? Here Are 13 Signs He Is

It’s not always easy to tell if a guy is flirting or just being friendly. When someone flirts with you, it’s an amazing feeling. It makes you feel attractive and desirable. It can send a warm jolt of electricity through your body. Whether it’s verbal flirting, like playful banter, or physical flirting such as playful touches, flirting is fun!

But what if you don’t know if he’s flirting with you? It’s not always easy to tell if he’s attracted to you or if he’s just being nice.

First and foremost, don’t obsess over it. This never does any good and if anything, may cause him to lose any attraction he felt toward you. Instead, just relax and have fun.

To help guide you a bit, here are the biggest signs that he is definitely flirting with you.

13 Signs He’s Flirting

1. He Treats You Differently

Some guys are naturally flirty. They flirt with everyone, as it’s just a mode of being to them. When a guy likes you, however, his way or flirting with you will be different. Watch how he interacts with others, then compare it to the way he is with you. You’ll see a difference.

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2. He Remembers What You Say

The guy you’re talking to remembers everything so well. When a man remembers what you say, it can be a sign of flirting. He remembers the details, such as your first pet, your favorite flower, the name of your best friend, and that funny story you told him last week. When we like someone, we want to know everything about them and pay close attention to what they say.

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3. That Special Sort of Smile

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You catch his eye from across the room and his smile changes, even if he was already smiling! When a guy is flirting with you, his smile will change. It’s not the same old smile he gives everyone else. His eyes might light up or a gleam may enter his eyes. And when he talks to you he can’t stop smiling, almost to the point where it looks like his face hurts. It’s a real, genuine sort of smile, one that takes over his entire face.

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4. He Tries to Figure Out Your Relationship Status

If a guy tries to gauge your relationship status, he’s into you and he’s flirting with you. This one’s a dead giveaway. He wants to see if you’re available in case he wants to take things further.

He might say things like:

“A girl like you can’t be single!”

“Are you here with your boyfriend or just your friends?”

“Your boyfriend is a lucky guy.”

“Are you here alone?”

“I hope I’m not taking your boyfriend’s seat.”

You get the gist!

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5. Sneaky Touches


When a guy likes a girl, he can’t help but try to touch her. Playful touching is actually a huge turn on for a man. Not inappropriately, mind you.

He does it in small, subtle ways – an arm on her shoulder, a high-five that lingers just a little too long, a hand on her knee, a soft stroke of the cheek, picking lint off her shirt, removing a loose hair from her arm sleeve. If you find he can’t quite keep his hands off you, he is definitely flirting with you.

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6. Body Language Cues

One of the biggest indicators that he’s into you is body language. When he’s flirting, he’ll lean into you while talking with you. Other body language indicators include angling his body toward you, making eye contact, and keeping his feet faced towards you. He may also tilt his head.

7. He Seems Flustered


He’s cute when he talks and rambles on some subjects, then turns red. Lucky you, beautiful girl, you can turn even the most confident guy into a flustered, bumbling mess when he’s flirting with you.

8. He Fidgets When He’s with You

He messes with the hole in his jeans or his jacket zipper when he’s talking with you. Guys tend to forget what to do with their hands when talking to a girl they like and often fidget. It’s a way to work off too much excitement or nervous energy.

A guy might fidget with his clothing, play with his hair, get shifty, or seem a little uncomfortable. However, it’s important to note that this doesn’t always mean he’s trying to flirt. He might be an awkward guy. If he’s a pretty confident guy in general, and only acts like that around you, then you’re onto something.

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9. He Tries to Impress You

When a man flirts, he normally won’t stay humble. Instead, he’ll try to impress you. He’ll talk himself up by mentioning his big promotion, his band, his sick apartment, or any of his talents. This may come across as bragging and maybe a little arrogant, but don’t be put off, be flattered! It means he’s trying to impress you because he’s into you.

10. He Tries to Make You Laugh


Guys tend to joke when they’re flirting with you to make you feel comfortable with them. It’s also a great way to break the ice and feel more comfortable. When a guy is flirting with you, he’ll bring out his best jokes, his funniest stories, his cleverest quips, punchiest anecdotes, anything to get you laughing!

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11. He Gently Teases You

This is the adult equivalent of pulling a girl’s pigtails on the playground.

He doesn’t tease you in a rude or malicious way. It isn’t meant to hurt your feelings or even make you cry. He teases you in a fun, light-hearted, playful, or joking way such as mocking the way you speak or pronounce some words, teasing you about your favorite book, movie, or band, playfully disagreeing about how a food he doesn’t care for is better than a food you like, pointing out little things like the freckles on your cheeks or the mole on your neck, and even giving you nicknames.

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12. He Compliments You

This is an obvious one, especially if he compliments your appearance. He may say you’re beautiful, gorgeous, lovely, sexy, etc. Guys don’t give out compliments freely. They give them to those they find attractive. If a guy compliments you, he’s flirting with you.

13. You Feel that Familiar Flutter


There’s a strange sort of enchantment hanging in the air when you talk to him. This is the chemistry between you both. You know it’s flirting when the interaction between you two isn’t like other interactions you have. Your heart feels light and airy and you feel happy.

There is a certain electricity when you talk to him and it leaves you buzzing all night.

Flirting is great, but note that flirting doesn’t necessarily mean that he wants to be in a relationship with you. He might only find you attractive and enjoy your company. Don’t read into it too much. Even if he is flirting and you say yes to all the signs on this list, if he isn’t asking you out, then he isn’t interested in taking things past the flirting stage.

Now if you do get past the flirting stage and into the relationship stage, there’s more you need to know. he first is that at some point, your guy may start to pull away. You notice he seems less engaged, he’s a little cold toward you, he’s withdrawn, and it seems like he’s losing interest. Do you know how to handle it so you bring him back instead of pushing him further away? If not, read this next:
If He’s Pulling Away, Do This... 

Next, there will come a point when a guy asks himself: Is this the woman I want to commit myself to? His answer will determine everything. Do you know what makes a man see a woman as girlfriend/wife material? Do you know what inspires a man to commit? If not, you need to read this too: The #1 Things Men Desire in a Woman

The Biggest Signs He’s Flirting With You:

  1. That special sort of smile.
  2. He treats you differently.
  3. Sneaky touches.
  4. Body language cues.
  5. He remembers what you say.
  6. He tries to figure out your relationship status.
  7. He seems flustered.
  8. He fidgets when he’s with you.
  9. He tries to impress you.
  10. He gently teases you.
  11. He compliments you.
  12. He tries to make you laugh.
  13. You feel that familiar flutter.
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Thx! This site helped a lot for me! :)

Reply April 20, 2021, 3:45 pm

Garrett Duffy

As a guy this looks like a description of a guy doing a GOOD job of flirting with you. The truth is most guys that are trying to are just lousy at it. That’s why it’s hard to tell. We get s**t advice frim our friends that are girls (just-be-yourself is the worst advice imaginable) and manipulative advice from men. You don’t need to know if a guy is flirting. You need to know if a guy wants sex or a commuted relationship. Talk about how much you love kids. The sex seekers ought to run away. Just an idea.

Reply September 20, 2019, 12:14 pm

Julie Lovorn

If a man says his on a date but then tells you he is not 1. Why would he lie about that? Is that to make jealous that another woman would want him. 2 Why would start rearranging your apartment. Does he want to make the place his or is he having medical issues.

Reply June 26, 2019, 8:41 am


This helps a lot, thanks! Love this site!

Reply November 1, 2017, 7:40 am

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