Texting is our main mode of communication these days so it makes sense that’s where you would look when trying to figure out how a guy feels about you.
It’s incredibly frustrating to just sit around and wonder how he feels about you. You can see there just might be something between you but don’t quite know where he stands.
While texting is popular, it is not always clear what is being communicated. You have a disadvantage with texting because you can’t read his body language or hear the tone of his voice. You can’t pick up on subtle nuances as you can in person.
Even still, there are clear signs that he likes you that you can discover through text messages. So let’s dig in and take a closer look at the signs a guy likes you through texting.
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How to Tell If a Guy Likes You Through Texting:
1. He wishes you weren’t texting
He doesn’t want to text, he wants to see you! He drops hints that he would prefer to be with you instead of simply communicating over text, and what he’d be doing if he was there right now. You mention that you’re craving Mexican food and he tells you if he was there, he would whip up his famous guacamole.
He makes it clear that he would much rather do something together and not just write back and forth. He might text something like, “I wish you were here.” When you mention you have plans, he might respond, “Man, I have to work tonight, otherwise I would totally crash!”
2. He uses flirty emojis often
Some guys aren’t into using emojis, so don’t stress if your potential guy sticks to words only. Some guys may send them to be cute, but not all guys are into this sort of thing so don’t read too deeply into it.
However, if he is liberal with his usage of flirty emojis — think anything involving a heart or a winky face– he’s most likely trying to flirt and be cute.
3. You text throughout the day
Do you guys basically go back and forth via text all day? It might not be every minute of the day because that’s not sustainable, but basically, you’re in one long conversation that starts and stops all day. If so, that’s a very good sign.
Most guys don’t like to text for no reason. If they’re texting, it’s for a purpose, usually to make a plan or find out information. If he’s texting all day aimlessly, then the goal is to further a connection with you because he likes you.
He may not have anything in particular to say, but he wants to just let you know that he’s around and see how you are at that moment. That’s a good sign!
4. He initiates texts
Try to see who starts your texting conversation. Does he reach out first or do you normally start the conversation? Does he try to engage you in conversation or does he simply reply to your initiation? If he initiates and replies quickly, then it’s a strong sign he’s interested and he likes you.
5. He texts you back
It’s an awful feeling when you text someone and you are hoping for a quick reply but that person takes hours or even days to get back to you. People are busy. Things come up where you can’t have your phone out but it only takes a few seconds to send a quick reply.
Does he leave you hanging or does he text you back quickly? If he takes days to write back, he’s either avoiding you or something is really wrong. But, if he texts back regularly, it’s because he wants to talk to you, most likely because he’s interested in you.
6. He texts you first thing in the morning
To get that special text right when you wake up is an awesome feeling. It means he’s thinking about you right when he wakes up and you make him smile. You are the first thing on his mind and he’s excited to say hello before he starts his day.
7. He wants to know more about you
What does he text you? Is he just talking about sports, the weather, his friends, or is he asking questions about your life? If he asks about your family, friends, and what you enjoy doing with your time, he likely is interested in you. He might even send you follow-up questions later about something you mentioned in a previous text. He is paying attention to who you are and remembering details.
8. He sends you things that will make you laugh
Does he make you laugh in person? Hopefully, he is trying to do the same even when you are not together through texts. He wants to make you laugh and make you smile even when he can’t be next to you. Maybe he sends you an inside joke in the form of a funny gif or meme. He could send you a quote from a movie that you both really like or have watched together or a hilarious article. It could be something totally random with no relation to anything. The point is, he reaches out with funny things in order to make you smile.
9. You have inside jokes
It is so nice to have someone who just gets you. You feel so special when that sibling or a friend who knows you really well send you just one line over text and gets you to belly laugh. When the guy you are interested in starts doing the same, he likely has a thing for you. He might send messages using bitmojis or emojis that are only funny to the two of you. His inside jokes might reference a time you were hanging out or a special nickname for you.
Nicknames are a major flirting tool. It’s his way of being cute and connecting with you, or creating something intimate that only you share. If he gives you a nickname and uses it often, he’s trying to create that close connection with you.
10. He texts you goodnight
What’s better than getting a text from a guy you like just as you’re getting into bed and calling it a night?
If a guy texts you before bed it means he’s thinking about you … and wants you to be thinking about him.
This is a really good sign that he likes you, a goodnight text is just more intimate than another kind of text. It’s not something you send to just anyone.
11. He texts you out of the blue
Does your phone ding randomly and you see that it is this guy you like? Does it seem he finds random things to tell you or ask you questions out of the blue? If so, he is likely looking for a reason to reach out to you when really he has no real reason other than just wanting to talk to you.
12. He compliments you
When a guy likes you, it becomes obvious when he starts mentioning specific things he notices about you. Does he mention that he likes your perfume scent or your hair? Does he text you to say you looked nice the last time he saw you? Does he remember the color of your eyes?
Guys know a way to a woman’s heart is through compliments, at least one way! And when a guy likes you, he’ll like a lot of things about you and won’t be able to stop himself from sharing those things.
13. He sticks to his plans
It feels awful to have someone that you like makes plans with you and then bail out last minute. If he likes you, he will confirm his plans by texting you something like, “We are on for seven tomorrow night, right?” Some guys can be vague and just want to hang out without a clear plan but if he wants a relationship, he will likely nail down a specific date and time. He also won’t cancel simply because something better comes up.
When it comes to you, he’s reliable and he follows through. Now he may be like that in his everyday life, but it will be more apparent with you.
14. He tells you about his life
Does he texts you details about his day? Does he talk to you about things he has done, his best friends, and things he would like to do in the future?
If he lets you in, he likely wants to know you more and cares what you think. He’s also not hiding things which is a great sign he wants you around.
15. He texts you when he’s drunk
This is a tricky one. If he is drinking, then he might be in a vulnerable state and want to text with you. Alcohol doesn’t necessarily bring out the truth, it brings out our emotions, and lowers our inhibitions. If a guy suddenly can’t hide his feelings whenever he has a few too many, then he most likely has feelings for you.
But, if he only texts you when he is drunk, that’s a red flag. So look at this sign in the context of all the others.
16. He says he likes you
At some point, clarity will come. If a guy gets signals back from you that you are interested, he will let you in on how he feels and come out and say he likes you.
He might take a little time to be this direct but eventually, he will say it outright in his own way. Hopefully, this will come in person first and then confirmed through a text message later.
17. He texts you whenever something important happens
Do you hear about something significant in this guy’s life right away or days after it happens? If your guy includes you on the big and small stuff, it’s a strong sign he considers you someone important in his life. He wants you to celebrate with him and lets you know via text right after he finds out something noteworthy.
18. You just know
Do you get butterflies when you get a text from him? Does your face light up when you hear your phone ding? Perhaps you just know that something special is already happening with this special guy. Like we always say, when a guy likes you it’s obvious. Guys don’t hide interest. It will come across via text, when you see him in person, and basically in everything.
Now if he doesn’t pursue you, then it’s possible he likes you but he just doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you. If a guy likes you and wants you, he will make it known, as long as you’re giving him at least some signals that his interest is reciprocated so he doesn’t worry about being rejected if he makes a move.
I hope this article gave you clarity on how he feels. Before you make any decisions, you need to be aware of two key moments in every relationship that will determine if it lasts, or if you get your heart broken. At some point, a guy will ask himself: Is this the woman I want to commit to for the long term? The answer will determine everything. Do you know what makes a man decide that a woman is girlfriend material, as opposed to just a fling? Do you know what makes a man want to commit? If not, you need to read this article next: The #1 Things Men Desire in a Woman
The second relationship issue almost every woman will face is when he seems to lose interest and starts to withdraw. He doesn’t text back, he is less attentive, and something is just off. He seems like he’s pulling away and you might lose him completely— do you know what to do about it? If not, read this right now If He’s Pulling Away, Do This...
Take The Quiz: Does He Like You?
How To Tell If He Likes You Through Texting:
- He wishes you weren’t texting
- He uses flirty emojis often
- You text throughout the day
- He initiates texts
- He texts you back
- He texts you first thing in the morning
- He wants to know more about you
- He sends you things that will make you laugh
- You have inside jokes
- He texts you goodnight
- He texts you out of the blue
- He compliments you
- He sticks to his plans
- He tells you about his life
- He texts you when he’s drunk
- He says he likes you
- He texts you whenever something important happens
- You just know