“Does he like me?” I think we’ve all asked ourselves this question at one point or another!
It’s not always so straightforward. There will be times when you’re positive he likes you… and other times where it seems like maybe he doesn’t like you, maybe he’s just being friendly, or maybe he’s just shy or insecure. Maybe maybe maybe, the maybes can drive you nuts!
Though it can seem confusing, there are several ways to tell if a guy likes you for sure. When you know what to look for, answering “does he like me?” will be a snap.
How to Tell If A Guy Likes You — Signs He Likes You
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1. He Finds Excuses to Talk to You or Be Around You
He comes up to you when he sees you and initiates a conversation. He might ask what seem like random questions or questions he doesn’t necessarily need to ask you, things he could ask anyone. (And sometimes other people could provide a better answer, especially if it’s something totally random you clearly would know nothing about!)
If he’s more forward he’ll go a step farther and initiate a time for you two to hang out. If he’s on the shy side, he will do it too, but he may need more green light signals from you before he goes for it.
2. He Tries to Find Out Your Relationship Status
If a guy meets a girl he likes, the first thing he’ll want to know is if she’s available. He may come right out and ask if you have a boyfriend. He also might use a modified version such as asking if you are single, if you’re on a lot of dating apps, or if you’re here with your friends or boyfriend. He might throw in playful statements such as, “A girl like you can’t possibly be single!”
3. He Acts Differently Around You
You’ve seen him with his friends. He’s cool and laid back, possibly crass, until he sees you. When he’s around you his entire demeanor changes. He stops swearing and uses more intelligent language.
When a man likes a woman, he puts on his best behavior. He goes out of his way to try to impress you, from bragging to doing silly or even dangerous stunts to attract your attention.
If you want to know if a guy likes you, compare his normal behavior to his behavior when he’s around you. You’ll always see a difference, no matter how slight, in the way a man acts when he is interested in a woman.
4. He Wants to Know Everything About You
He wants to know your entire story from front to back. He wants to know your opinions on everything. He wants to know about your family, your likes, and dislikes.
He asks a ton of questions and acts interested in your answers. He hangs on your every word. He will ask you a lot of questions about yourself and your life. He shows genuine interest in who you are as a person. He invests his time in learning about you and he remembers what you tell him.
When we like someone, we can’t get enough of them, we need to know everything.
5. He Seems a Little Uncomfortable
Maybe he avoids you, maybe he gets very quiet and a little awkward, maybe he gets fidgety or seems flustered. He just seems like something is riling him up, and that something could very well be you.
It’s possible he’s just a shy guy, or he might feel intimidated by you. Either way, just be friendly and open and this should help him relax.
If he avoids you, it’s also possible that he just doesn’t like you, so if he isn’t showing any of the other signs on this list that’s probably the case
6. He’s Always Happy to See You
He spots you from across the room and his eyes light up. When a man likes a woman, he’ll be genuinely happy to see her and be around her. He’ll smile and light up when you’re around.
7. He Finds Excuses to Touch You
When you like someone, you’re drawn to them. You want to get as close as possible to them. This goes for both men and women. They want to get as close to you as possible, which can lead to some “accidental” touching.
This touching may be fun and playful, such challenging you to an arm wrestling match, or it might be something as simple as a high-five that lingers just a little too long. Maybe he wipes an alleged smudge off your face or picks a piece of “lint” off your shirt. Whatever the case, if he likes you, he’ll try to find ways to touch you. He won’t be able to stop himself from touching you.
8. He Remembers the Details
When you talk he pays attention, asks questions, and remembers what you said. When we like someone, we listen to them and absorb what they say. He listens to what you say and remembers everything you tell him. He remembers every story and every detail, from the smallest to the most significant. He’ll remember everything you tell him: where you went to high school, what you majored in at college, that traumatic surprise party, the name of your first pet etc. etc.
9. He Jokes Around with You
You can’t help but laugh when you’re with him because he tells you so many jokes. When a man likes you, he will be playful towards you. He might tease you to make you laugh. Whether it’s joking or teasing, he will find whatever way he can to make you laugh.
Just watch the way he interacts with other girls, and people in general. He might just have a flirty, jokester personality and may just like making people laugh. If the way he jokes around is different with you than with anyone else, he likes you.
10. He Gets a Little Green
You see him staring at you when you talk to other guys and sometimes even glaring at other guys when they aren’t looking. If he gets jealous when you talk to other guys or bring up other guys, it’s a sign he likes you. He’ll notice when other guys check you out or comment on your social media and may act almost territorial.
11. He Gets Your Contact Information
This one is a pretty obvious telltale sign that he likes you. (However, it’s not foolproof. A guy can get your number and never call, so look at it in the context of the other signs.)
If a guy is genuinely interested, he will take it a step beyond flirty interactions and will get your information so you can go out on a proper date. If he gets your information and doesn’t call, then he probably found you attractive, but decided not to pursue things, which can happen for a variety of reasons.
12. He Follows You on Social Media
When he likes you, he’ll follow you on social media. He sends you friend requests, follows your Instagram, and add you on Snapchat. He likes your posts and leaves comments. He looks at your account frequently, even commenting on old posts of mentioning things he’s seen on your profile, such as your trip to Costa Rica.
He’s basically using social media to learn all about you (as I mentioned earlier, when we like someone we can’t get enough). He’s trying to figure out your story because he’s hoping to be a part of it.
13. He Compliments You
You almost can’t fit through the door after spending time with him because your head is so big from all those compliments! He comments on your appearance using words like hot, sexy, gorgeous, cute, beautiful, lovely, etc. He might also compliment your personality, style, or sense of humor. Guys don’t normally throw compliments around. When he likes you, he has a lot of positive feelings toward you, and he won’t be able to stop himself from sharing.
14. He Introduces You to the People Closest to Him
He invited you to his cousin’s birthday last weekend and you met his parents and grandparents. When a guy likes you, he wants you to meet the people closest to him: his family and friends.
He brings you into his world. He wants you to like the people who are part of his life and wants them to like you. His family or friends have probably already heard of you. Upon meeting them, you might even hear, “It’s so nice to meet you! I’ve heard so much about you.”
15. He Stares at You
You catch him looking at you, but he tends to look away after a few seconds. When a guy likes a girl, she’ll catch him staring at her or watching her. He looks at you in wonder, not only in lust. He lusts for you on some level, but when he likes you, he sees you beyond just the physical aspect.
16. He is Totally Focused on You When He’s with You
When he’s with you, he almost runs into poles and people. That’s just how focused he is. He doesn’t check his phone. He doesn’t look on Facebook or any other social media. He focuses on you.
17. He Doesn’t Want to Let You Go
When there are lulls in your conversation, he finds new things to talk about. He doesn’t want the conversation to end. If you’re at a party, he doesn’t want that to end. He wishes his time with you were longer because he enjoys spending his time with you. Time stops existing when he’s with you.
18. He Doesn’t Talk About Other Girls
He doesn’t bring up other girls when he talks to you. In fact, if a guy casually talks about other girls with you, it’s a sign he probably considers you a friend and not anything more.
When a guy likes you, he won’t talk about how hot other girls are, or other girls he’s seeing or wants to date (don’t delude yourself into thinking he’s just trying to make you jealous because he likes you so much). A guy who likes you also won’t check out other girls in front of you.
19. He Opens Up to You
You spend a lot of time talking to him and he talks about his hopes and his fears. When a guy likes you, he’ll open himself up to you. He lets you in on some closely guarded secrets. He opens up to you emotionally.
He’ll also do a fair share of opening up about his accomplishments in order to impress you, another big sign he likes you!
20. His Body Language Cues You In
When a man likes you, he leans in when conversing with you, maintains eye contact, and points his feet toward you. He might mirror you, copying your body language such as crossing his arms if you are.
He will also look at you after telling a joke or funny story to see your reaction (because your reaction is the only one that matters to him.)
21. He’s Always Around
You run into him at the store, in the gym after your yoga class, or at the mall. He pops up places you’ll be. He finds reasons to be close to you. He appears where you may have told him you were going or where he overheard you talking to a friend about. He may even make friends with your friend group to hang around you. One of the surest signs a guy likes you is that he’s always …. there.
22. He Goes Out of His Way for You
You mentioned you need to install your AC unit and he immediately jumps at the chance to do it for you. If a guy does things like this for you, especially if it’s super inconvenient for him, he’s either a saint or he really, really likes you.
Another part of this is he prioritizes you. He drops his plans and other important things for you and is there for you if you ever need him.
23. He Acts Interested in the Things You’re Interested In
When a man likes a woman, he’ll act or become interested in whatever she’s interested in. So, if he’s suddenly taking the yoga class you’re in or signing up for your Relay for Life team, the signs he likes you are stacking up.
24. He Tells You He Likes You
He tells you he likes you. This is pretty obvious. He likes you. He may also try to disguise it by telling you that he likes to spend time with you, likes to go places with you, or likes to do activities with you.
Talk is cheap, though. It’s easy to say you like someone, it’s a different story to show it and men communicate through actions more than words. If he tells you he likes you and shows it by demonstrating some of the other signs on this list, then he means it.
25. It’s Obvious
He spends all his time with you, wants to talk to you all the time, and you two text like maniacs. It’s obvious to everyone around, including you, that he likes you.
If you’ve concluded that he likes you with the help of this article, congratulations! Now, go show him what you’re made of. If you’ve concluded that he doesn’t, don’t fret. You will find the right guy for you and when you do, it will be clear and obvious. It will feel effortless. You will just mesh and see each other clearly and coming together will just make sense on every level.
Exactly How to Tell If a Guy Likes You
- He finds excuses to talk to you or be around you.
- He tries to find out your relationship status.
- He acts differently around you.
- He wants to know everything about you.
- He seems a little uncomfortable.
- He always happy to see you.
- He finds excuses to touch you.
- He remembers the details.
- He jokes around with you.
- He gets a little green.
- He gets your contact information.
- He follows you on social media.
- He compliments you.
- He introduces you to the people closest to him.
- He stares at you.
- He is totally focused on you when he’s with you
- He doesn’t want to let you go.
- He doesn’t talk about other girls.
- He opens up to you
- His body language cues you in.
- He’s always around
- He goes out of his way for you.
- He acts interested in the things you’re interested in.
- He tells you he likes you.
- It’s obvious