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How to Know He Thinks About You a Lot (16 Signs You Are on His Mind)

I get a lot of questions from women wanting to know how their guy feels and if he’s thinking about her.

Men aren’t always so easy to read, if they were, I wouldn’t have this job!

When you don’t know how a man feels about you it can drive you crazy- you feel insecure and unsure of how much to put into the relationship. You’re worried about being blindsided and ending up broken-hearted.

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When you like a guy and you’re thinking about him all the time, you want to know if he feels the same. Sometimes you may want it so badly that you see things that aren’t even there!

I’m here to help and I’m going to share my researched and proven ways to know if a guy is thinking about you a lot.

Watch The Video: 16 Signs He Thinks About You A Lot More Than You Know

1. His family knows all about you

His friends and family seem to know exactly who you are, and not only that, they know things about you.

They know you went to Costa Rica last summer or that you won a national poetry prize in high school. Whatever it is, they just seem to know things. If they know things, it’s because your guy is telling them things and if he’s telling them things, it means you’re on his mind, a lot.

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2. He’s reminded of you … often

When we like someone, literally everything, even the most obscure things, remind us of them.

He may send you funny jokes or memes or articles that you’d enjoy. Maybe he sends you funny tweets he comes across on Twitter or ridiculous theories about who knows what on Reddit.

The point is- things remind him of you, he always seems to have something he wants to share with you.

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3. He’s always genuinely happy to see you

It’s easy to spot a man in love or a man on his way to being in love.

He just has this look of ease and happiness around the woman. If he lights up around you and is always happy to be in your presence, it’s a sign he thinks about you a lot and really cares about you.

I have a guy friend who literally dated all of Manhattan. No one was ever good enough, every girl he dated had some fatal flaw and we thought he was destined for life as a permanent bachelor.

Then he started dating someone he really liked and shocked all of us by getting engaged within a few months- and of course, I had to ask… why her? I mean, she was lovely and had a lot going for her, but so did all those other girls.

He said what it came down to was that he was always excited to see her and he never really felt that with the other girls. He was just always happy to see her, he always look forward to their dates, he always felt a little nervous excitement before seeing her … and he always felt really good around her.

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4. He remembers things about you … specific things

The number one way to know if someone likes you is if they remember the details about you.  This is probably the biggest tell.

He remembers the story about how you got that scar on your knee, he remembers the name of your first dog who meant so much to you, he remembers your favorite kind of flower and how you take your coffee.

When we like someone and want them in our life, our brains light up anytime they tell us anything. We store that information somewhere accessible because we plan to utilize it. Our brains are wired to store information that is meaningful and significant to us. This is why you can remember what you wore on your first date with your boyfriend, but not what you ate for breakfast last Wednesday.

When a guy isn’t into you, you’ll notice you keep having the same conversations with him. He may ask what you do for a living even though you’ve told him three times already.

If he remembers things about you, it’s a sign he thinks about you, a lot. 

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5. He follows your social media accounts

Not only does he follow your social media accounts, but he also pays attention to them.

When a guy consistently likes or comments on your social posts it’s a clear sign he likes you and thinks about you a lot. But some guys are a little trigger shy with the liking and instead, he may mention things he saw in your social media, maybe he says “So I saw you went to that new brunch place, how was it?” or “That trip you took to Thailand looked like a lot of fun.”

I actually have a personal story on this.  So my husband and I dated In high school and then weaved in and out of each other’s lives for years, but nothing came of it. Then one summer we had yet another run-in in the park. After, I messaged him on Facebook to open the door a bit for him to ask me out about.

He didn’t, but I noticed later in the summer he was liking things I was posting on Facebook while I was on a trip to Italy. I remember telling my friend “He’s thinking about me and I think he likes me again.” She thought I was delusional, but a few days after I got back, he asked me out. And now we’re married with two kids!

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6. He goes out of his way to make you happy.

Men love a happy woman, and love being the reason a woman smiles. If he goes out of his way to do special things for you to make you smile, it’s a major sign he thinks about you a lot.

You get bonus points if he remembers specific things that make you happy and does them, because like I said earlier, when a guy likes you and thinks about you, he remembers the details.

7. He wants to know everything about you

When we like someone and can’t stop thinking about them, we want to know everything – every scar, every scratch, and every story. We literally can’t get enough.

When you like someone, your mind is naturally on them all the time, and we crave to fill-in the gaps and find out more. This also explains why we compulsively stalk them online, we want to know everything!

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8. Shares himself with you

He’s vulnerable with you, he opens up and lets you in.

He lets you see the real him, the man behind the mask. In psychology, this is known as the shadow self. The shadow self is the hidden part of ourselves that we may not want to admit to having, or sides of ourselves we don’t show anyone.

If a man shares that side of himself with you, it’s a strong sign he’s invested in you.

9. Asks your opinion and really values your opinion

He doesn’t just decide things and fill you in after the fact, he factors you into his life.

This is how to know if someone is thinking about you, they factor you in. You’re the main thought, not an afterthought.

10. You have inside jokes

He may have cute nicknames for you or playfully tease you about things. When you have your own little jokes, it’s a sign of a deeper intimate connection. It also shows he has a special way of interacting with you that’s different from how he is with anyone else.

11. He craves your touch

Men are physical beings. If you likes you and thinks about you a lot, he will most likely be thinking about touching you, and craving that touch.

When you’re with him, you may notice he can’t seem to keep his hands off you, either purposefully or “accidentally.”

12. He’s focused on you

When he’s with you, he doesn’t look at his phone or try to edge his way out of the conversation or cut things short. You have his full attention. He is locked in and focused on you and only you.

13. Tells you he’s been thinking about you

Now this one sounds obvious but there is something I want you to be aware of. If he says he’s been thinking about you but does nothing to back it up, meaning he disappears for days or weeks at a time and treats you like an afterthought, then he probably hasn’t been thinking about you.

Talk is cheap. You can’t just take what he says at face value. You have to look at it in the context of everything else. If he exhibits several of the signs on this list, he most likely means it when he says he’s been thinking about you a lot. If he says he thinks about you a lot and his actions back that up, you can believe him.

An important thing to remember is that men typically communicate through actions more than words.

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14. He thinks you’re hilarious

When we like someone, we tend to just get a case of the hysterics, even if they’re not that funny. Being around someone we like causes us to feel almost giddy, so we can’t help but laugh or giggle at almost everything that comes out of their mouth, save for the serious stuff, hopefully.

15. He takes an interest in your interests

He listens to your favorite band, reads your favorite book, and he immerses himself in your world and your likes.

He shows a genuine interest in the things you like and in the people you like. He’s curious about you and wants to know the depths of who you are.

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16. You just know he’s crazy about you

One thing you’ll hear us say again and again on A New Mode is when a guy likes you, it’s obvious!

If you have you ask, you already have your answer most of the time.

Trust your gut, she usually knows what’s up!

What do you think the most obvious sign a guy is thinking about you is? Let me know in the comments! And do you think I missed any key signs? Drop me a comment and let me know.

I hope after reading this article you can recognize the signs he’s thinking about you a lot. Whether he’s into you or not, it’s really important for you to be aware of the one key moment in any relationship that determines if it will last forever, or if you will wind up heartbroken. At some point, he will start to pull away and may lose interest. He’s not as responsive to you, he’s not as excited by you, and it feels like you’re losing him … do you know what to do in this situation? If not, you need to read this next: If He’s Pulling Away, Do This...

The next issue you need to be aware of is at some point, your guy will ask himself: is this the woman I want to spend my life with? His answer will determine the fate of your relationship. Do you know what inspires a man to commit, and what makes a woman stand out from the rest in his eyes? If not, you need to read this right now: The #1 Things Men Desire in a Woman

Written by Sabrina Alexis

I’m Sabrina Alexis, the co-founder, and co-editor of A New Mode. I love writing relatable, insightful articles that help people understand relationship dynamics and how to get the love they want. I have a degree in psychology and have spent the last 10 years interviewing countless men and reading and studying as much as I can to better understand human psychology and how men operate. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Facebook or Instagram.

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Yes, all 16 reasons are all true for me.. yup he’s the one..

Reply June 19, 2021, 9:26 pm

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