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Ask a Guy: Signs He Does Not Like You


I read your “Does He Like Me” post (very helpful!), but my question is:  Can you help me decode signs a guy doesn’t like me?

There’s this guy I really like from work. We’ve talked a few times – he’s really cute. To be honest, I have a total crush on him!

Problem is, he’s been more stand-offish lately and I’m afraid I blew it, but maybe I’m just being paranoid. Can you let me know common ways to tell if a guy isn’t interested?

I haven’t had a crush in a while. Count yourself lucky – it’s nice to have crushes.

Stand-offish isn’t exactly a promising sign, but who knows? Let’s go through the checklist of ten ways to tell a guy is not into you:

1. He’s not around you.

This is the biggest sign of whether or not a guy is into you. If he’s not into you, he won’t be “around.”

It’s funny – guys will act 100 different ways around the girl they like… they’ll even completely ignore her! Or tease her. Or be annoying.

But if they’re into her, it’s not a matter of how they’re acting. It’s the fact that one way or another, they always just seem to be acting that way around her.

He’ll find reasons to be close to you. He’ll always just seem to end up in the same parts of the room as you.

You may not have noticed it before, but once you start paying attention you’ll completely notice it. And if you don’t see that tending to happen with this guy, it’s a sign he does not like you.

2. He talks to you about being interested in other girls comfortably.

So maybe you and him talk on a regular basis. If he talks to you about other girls, or a relationship with a girl, casually and comfortably, that’s a likely sign he’s not into you (in a romantic sense, at least).

Now, a guy might talk about how another girl is hot randomly, and sometimes that can be innocent. However, if you notice that he not only talks about other girls, but talks about liking a girl on more than just a physical level, or wanting to date her, then that’s a very clear sign he’s not interested in you.

3. He has no interest in talking to you.

This is plain enough. If he doesn’t have an interest in talking to you, it’s pretty much a given that he’s not interested.

But don’t assume he’s not interested based on something like him not texting you back immediately. Guys and their texting habits can be tricky, and you can’t use that to assess his level of interest.

If he has ample opportunity to talk to you and never acts on it, that’s a sign he’s not interested. On that same note, if you talk to him and he always finds a way to stop talking to you, or always lets the conversation fizzle out and die, then it’s very likely a sign he doesn’t like you in a romantic sense.

4. His body language/general behavior.

Negative body language cues include: avoiding eye contact, positioning his body away from you, not engaging in the conversation (non-verbal signs of this are him not smiling while talking to you, or not nodding and showing active interest in what you’re saying), maintaining distance from you, looking around the room while talking to you… It’s usually pretty obvious when someone isn’t focused on you.

If he does any of these things, he most likely isn’t interested. There’s enough dating advice / flirting tips stuff out there that beats those points into the ground, so I’m not going to spend time talking about body language.

5. He’s always busy. No rain check. He sets up dates last minute, he keeps rescheduling, he flakes constantly on you – if any of this sounds familiar, he’s not that into you (as they say). Missing a date or two is one thing, but if this is a regular occurrence then it becomes telling. A guy will make the time for a girl he’s interested in. Period.

6. There’s no difference between how he talks to you vs. other friends. Casual tone of voice. When a guy is interested in a girl, there’s always a slight difference in the way he interacts with her. It may be subtle, but you’ll notice it. He’ll have some special way of talking to her, or extend some special kind of attention to her that he doesn’t generally extend.

The best thing you can do to tell if a guy likes you is pay close attention to how he interacts with others in general. Which brings me to my next point…

MORE: 5 Telltale Signs He Likes You

7. He flirts with you… but he flirts with everyone else, too. This is where I see a lot of girls get confused. They get all wound up because some guy totally swept them off their feet. He got her number, they had a charming conversation, she texts him and…

Nothing! Where did he go?

The problem is this particular guy flirts with every girl. That’s just his way of being.

In fact, I used to have a habit of calling girls pet names like sweetheart, “hun,” and stuff like that. I thought it was affectionate and nice, but I meant it in a platonic way.

I didn’t realize it, but I ended up leading girls on and they took it to mean I was into them and started crushing back on me. I honestly wasn’t talking to them this way to be flirtatious, but it came off that way.

I learned my lesson, and the lesson I want to impart here is that you have to pay attention to how the guy interacts with others in general, not just with you.

8. He’s a friendly, outgoing guy in general. Similar to above. Pay attention to how he interacts with others.

9. He doesn’t talk about feelings, doesn’t say “I love you,” or says he’s “not sure what he feels” (a.k.a. I know what I feel and you would not respond well if I told you).

This is more in the realm of relationship problem advice, but I figure it’s worth mentioning here.

If you’re dating, or “seeing,” a guy and it’s been going on for several months, the common warning sign that he’s not really invested is if he doesn’t share his true feelings with you.

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Pamela

I was dating a guy for the last 7 months. Just like your article says, he would put me down, make me feel like shit about where I am in life, and then he would do nice things that would make me forget about our roller coaster. We “were” monogamous for the last 3 months -trying to see if we can work on being in a committed relationship. I had doubts checked his phone and saw that he had raw sex with a women who has a boyfriend. I’ve been completely torn since I thought we were trying. Like your article he was unsure about me and has his own issues to work on.

My question is–why do guys that have their own mental issues put women down? I had never been with someone who put me down like he did, or that made me feel insecure. Confused as to what really happened. Clearly he’s not that into me, but why the manipulation.

Reply November 20, 2014, 1:16 pm

katty

I have a guy but its alot more complicated.After the break up he was really messed up with what he said because one girl tryed to claim him as his gf when I really was his gf after agrueing I found out he didnt love her and wherent together and me and him broke up after argueing. Later on she started saying where in a relationship with him and he whent along with it knowing he doesnt love her or care about her. His family loves me and hates her.he told me multiple times he cares and loves me just hes being childish then I heard his family saying he wants to bring his gf to his house but his family dont want her in the house. He has plans for me in the futer which I dont know if its real or not.the girl doesnt even message him as much as I do and doesnt visit him.he keeps saying to me I wont do anything to her and I just dont know anymore everyday I feel like I’m not the person he truely loves like I’m always in the way.

Reply November 16, 2014, 1:00 pm

Joyce

A neighbor has shown interest by talking on the phone, texting and dinner dates. My problem with this is…..He lost his wife of nineteen years ONLY three months ago. I Feel that he is moving way too fast and doesn’t seem to have mourned or grieved properly. He shows sign that he is interested in a relationship because he has told his children and a few friends about US, but I feel like giving up on the US until he grieves properly.

Reply November 15, 2014, 8:01 pm

JJ

If it’s a red flag for you, then you should listen to your conscience, especially this early in. Tell him you’d rather stay friendly neighbors for now. I think it’s too soon also. If you lost the love of your life, having another relationship after a few months wouldn’t feel right. He’s probably lonely and would like female interaction, but he should seek out healthy male friendship for now. If you want, talk to him about how he feels, and his thoughts on dating so soon after being widowed.

Reply November 16, 2014, 6:11 am

Sapphyreopal5

I don’t understand why people assume everyone’s the same when it comes to grieving. May be the guy is lonely and is having a hard time with being alone, or may be their marriage wasn’t all that great before she died. You never know what happens behind closed doors, even if you live next door. If that’s how you want to go about it that’s your choice, but don’t assume everyone grieves the same way or has to take many years to get over the loss of their significant other. It’s foolish to assume we’re all the same. Ever think about that, or did you put him in your shoes as to what you think he should do (instead of you putting yourself in his shoes as you should)?

Reply November 16, 2014, 10:09 am

JJ

You’re right, not everyone is the same. If their marriage wasn’t good, it’s reasonable that his grieving process may be affected by that. We don’t want to judge others, but without knowing any details you’re left with your own assumptions – such as the obvious – why is he trying to go on dates only 3 months after his wife of 19 years has passed? If his marriage was bad, then why? There’s a difference between judgement and discernment. There’s lots of possibilities, therefore its’ hard to put myself in his shoes.

Generally speaking, Joyce doesn’t feel comfortable with it so it stands to be solid advice to go with your conscience and take a step back just to make sure he’s not in rebound mode. She’s looking out for herself too. I wouldn’t let romantic feelings cloud things until I knew him much better. I never said she should avoid him, but instead be “friendly neighbors”. Joyce indicated that the guy seems interested in a relationship, not just neighborly chit chat. There’s a big difference there. SO: go with your gut and be a friendly neighbor. Just be sure he understands no romance until you’re more comfortable.

Reply November 16, 2014, 4:53 pm

Ash

How do I post a question the forum?

Reply November 14, 2014, 9:45 pm

anisha

i met this guy on facebook, and i started lykng him and therefore started flirting with him…he responds to my flirt and he has told my frnd that he likes me and wants to propose me but he wants some time….what does this mean??? do he really likes me??? i love him alot and cannot forget him…what shud i do???

Reply November 14, 2014, 12:24 am

JJ

Propose after talking on facebook? Sounds a bit fast to me. You shouldn’t do anything. Let him make the moves. Don’t get your hopes up.

Reply November 14, 2014, 10:42 pm

dwell

This guy and I met in party, we had sex but from the beginning he said he’s not looking for gf, he’s an expat, intern in my country. But we always met like once every 2 weeks, sex and conversation. always in his place. at first im ok to be his sex buddy, but then I like him more. We’ve been like that for almost a year. this sounds ridiculous but I believe him not doing much with other girls, because he is kinda guy who spend his time in library. but he has something with girl, I always believe it wont more that he was with me. His facebook not has many activities from other girls, and no add activity from other girl from my country. We always have good conversation, and he would hug me for almost one hour after sex. Well yesterday was last time I saw him, because I had to go for a year, and he will have to move out from my country soon. As usual, sex and conversation, I never said I like him and neither him. He just had long stop yesterday when I said I had to go, silent for few minutes and held my hand, I really hoped he would say something, but at the end he just kissed me and had sex again. We said goodbye, and he said that he was sure that we would meet me again. and I am clueless, I would like to believe he has a feeling to me but he never introduced me with his friend, never go out together, although he’s ok I post things in his fb wall and give “like” to his sister photos. I cant say that I like him, im worried I ruin everything :(

Reply November 12, 2014, 12:33 pm

JJ

Many times, feelings end up following sex. Sex is the most intimate act you can have with another person, so it’s not a mystery why people end up having feelings afterward. He obviously likes having sex with you, talking with you afterward, etc., but he doesn’t want you to be his. If he felt love for you, he would remain in contact with you over distance, he would plan things out for future dates, etc. Doesn’t sound like he has those kinds of feelings though, judging by your description of him. You should either tell him you’re interested in pursing more with him, and if he can’t, then break contact – for your own emotional health. If you were fine being his sex buddy at first, and I hate to say it this way, then you set yourself up for being used by him. In fact, you were both using each other for sex, and it doesn’t always end well. Draw some boundaries for yourself in future relationships. If the guy doesn’t like those boundaries, then he doesn’t care about you and you can move on knowing you did right.

Reply November 13, 2014, 8:42 pm

Elaine

Wow….. Can’t believe I am writing this but guess everyone needs advice from time to time. I am an older lady working at a grocery store part time. Began to like a guy MUCH younger than me. In fact, when he found out my age tears actually welled up in his eyes. He has introduced me to his mom and she has come into the store to eyeball a few times since. Long story short…..I tried to turn off my affections but my heart would not listen. He came in back of me one day and says he wanted me to view him as older and I was the only reason he continued to work there. I did not respond because I did not know what to say to that. Anyway…..he would pop up everywhere I was at work and seem to flirt with me. I wrote him a note just letting him know I cared and that I would like to meet up with him for lunch. Left the note on his truck. He got the note and came running into the store yelling my name. I said to him in a low low voice…..” don’t embarrass me” I had a customer and he was charging towards me like a football player. The next day…..ICE COLD. I approached him and told him I did not mean to make him feel bad or reject him but I was shy and I did not want us to get in trouble with the manager. He now acts like he does not know me. Days have passed and he goes out of his way to avoid me. My heart is broken……I asked him if he read the note and he told me he still had it in his truck. Yeah….sure. The other employees to my dismay seemed to know he liked me as they would give me messages and I would just smile. I am a very private person and cannot believe I liked someone so young. Very heartbroken over his actions but confused by them as well. Never meant to like anyone at my workplace as this situation has made things uncomfortable for both of us. Any suggestions would help.

Reply November 12, 2014, 12:11 am

JJ

I’ve been through something similar myself recently. I tried to turn my heart off like you did and it didn’t work either. I hate when it gets awkward, but that’s the risk you take with coworker relationships. I’m not sure how young this guy is, but it sounds to me like he was offended at your response to his immaturity. He feels like you’re embarrassed by his feelings for you. Any decent person should know that relationships like these need to be very private until ready to disclose to everyone else. Also, you should be aware if there is a company policy for coworkers who date. Make sure you abide by it if there is one. He doesn’t like the fact that you seemed a bit embarrassed by his excitement, but he should know that you’re interested anyway so it shouldn’t be a big deal. You already approached him and set the record straight, so you covered yourself. You should work on letting this go and allow him to get over his shame. Perhaps in time things will lighten up between the two of you. If not, it’s not your fault he responded this way to you, so don’t blame yourself. He’s a bit immature apparently. Find a guy closer to your own age maturity-wise.

Reply November 13, 2014, 8:08 pm

Kay

Okay so a guy who I didn’t really know too well approached me one day and started talking to me and whenever he sees me after school he continues to do so. I started liking him and, he shows pretty much all of the signs and I was pretty much 100% positive that he was into me(WAS being the main point here). He shows all of the signs of liking me in person, he treats me differently, he’s protective of me, he always keeps the conversation going, asks me questions, breaks the touch barrier, focuses on me, etc, etc. But online he’s only messaged me once, and he’s always commenting on this one girl’s statuses, and liking her pictures and she does the same to him. I thought that he liked me, but now I’m not so sure. Help?

Reply November 9, 2014, 7:55 pm

JJ

He’s attracted to you in some way, that’s why he approached you. He’s interested to a degree, but you’re probably not the only one he’s interested in. He may be weighing his options, trying to figure out who he’ll ask out. Just be patient. Be kind. Don’t put all of your eggs in one basket with this guy though. If he wants you bad enough, he’ll make a move.

Reply November 11, 2014, 6:36 am

Pearl

I really need a heavy dose of advice :( please let me know if someone can help me preferably a guy with experience with girls and relationships :’( I just feel so heartbroken and I don’t know how to feel about my relationship atm….this whole post just confused me… especially because I’m having a HUGE fight with my boyfriend of 4 years… :(

Reply November 9, 2014, 2:21 am

J

Hi Pearl. I can offer advice if you’d like. Maybe offline?
The post actually doesn’t clearly reflect things I have done in my interactions with women – but I’m not the average guy. I’ll respond to the items I disagree with in the article:

1. “He’s Not Around You”: I was super into a girl I worked with, downright CRAZY about her…and I steered clear of her like she had a contagious disease. That’s how nervous interacting with her made me feel. I fumbled with my words. My hands were shaky. I constantly talked about myself lol. All the wrong things to show a girl. Avoiding her made sense to me because the further away I was from her the more calm I was haha.
3. “He has no interest in talking to you.” Wrong. See #1 above.
4. “His body language/general behavior.” This is difficult. If you’re nervous, you might be looking all over the place. It depends. The girl I liked would say hi to me, then look away before I could make eye contact. Or, she would talk to me while looking down or off to the side, even after approaching me first. If she’s interested but just nervous, it could be the same for a guy too. It was with me.

Reply November 9, 2014, 4:00 pm

Janice

@Morgan: because.. They only like you for sex! Duhhhh

Reply November 5, 2014, 12:42 am

shaz

Very childish attitude and comments towards people that have problems, some serious can cause lasting damage and even harm, so comments like yours are best kept to yourself.

Reply November 5, 2014, 8:01 am

ana

I first off want to let you know that reading everything you have to say makes me feel so much better, it’s empowering and brings me back to reality…
I’ve been in a relationship with my boyfriend for 4 years, we have lived together and have gone through so many stages together, we’ve been through the good and the bad but always there to help eachother and most importantly being there for eachother when we need eachother the most, two nights ago we had a talk, he’s been so distant and I told him we needed to talk, he couldn’t even look me in the eye and he said he felt like we are a married couple, that he needed a break and time to work on himself and be selfish? Then he said he had fallen out of love with me , I’m the type of person that holds on to all the stuff said :( I started crying and asked him what hapoened, I found out not to long ago he had started talking to a friend who was interested in him and I had confronted him about that and they ended up not talking anymore so I asked him if there was someone else, they had plans to meet up and hangout and at that moment that was extremely painful but we decided to move on, now I’m lost Idk if I’m wasting my time with him anymore I still love him very much but if in continue in this relationship any longer the pain will be worse :( what’s confusing me is after he dropped me off he wanted me to kiss him? He said he did love me and that we could work it out.. is this normal for a guy to think like that ? Should no let go of the voices in my head or just cut ties? I’m so confused and hurt :(

Reply November 4, 2014, 9:50 pm

shaz

Yes you are bound to be feeling hurt right now and so upset, he wanted you to kiss him because he still loves you and is mixed up” some guys dont like the thought of getting to settled and would like to know if there is something better out there for them, he basically wants his cake and eat it at the same time, if he gos off he wants to know he can come back and that you will have him back! so his just checking to see if you still love him by wanting you to kiss him, Id say for get him and move on, he wants something more and is after something more than what he has with you, he wants to play the field so to speak! and hopes you will be there waiting for him if it all gos wrong. How ever painful it may be for you id cut all contact and try to move on , hoping that you will find some one who DOES deserve you as he clearly does not.

Reply November 5, 2014, 7:51 am

Ana

So in a situation where you have a talk and you give him an ultimátum, he decides he wants to work things out he doesn’t want to break up, he would just like me to make it interesting again like before? What does that mean? To show up at his house in costume lingerie? Lol I’ve tried looking up new restaursnts, walks to the park I just don’t know what direction to go towards, what does it mean when a guy asks you to make it interstitial again?

Reply November 7, 2014, 12:27 pm

JJ

In the early stages of relationships, they’re always interesting. It may or may not be directly related to you as a person. One problem with your relationship may be that you have been living a “mini-marriage” without actually being married. That’s why he said he felt like he was in a marriage. It works for some but not for others. What do you want? What does “Work things out” mean? Marriage? Here’s the deal: 4 years is PLENTY of time for both of you to know if you want to marry each other. If he hasn’t married you by now, he feels that you’re not special enough to be taken off the market. The ultimatum should be something like: “Lets get engaged and married within 6 months or breakup”…unless you’re fine living together and never getting married. Obviously he’s not ok with the mini-marriage – he’s getting bored and the easiest thing to do when you’re not married but bored of your g/f is to ditch and jump onto the next interesting ride. Relationships require actual work, which he doesn’t seem interested in. Sounds more like he wants you to take the reigns and spice things up while he measures up your efforts with other women available to him.

With that being said, you can still try different things to make things “more interesting”, such as some of the things you mentioned. You may want to consider showing him you mean business by moving out. You also should cut down time with him, it will make your time together more meaningful. I honestly think he’s strayed a lot because he doesn’t feel like he will lose you. I had a gut feeling I should’ve told my best friend he was going to lose his g/f of 3 years if he didn’t marry her, but I didn’t say anything thinking it wasn’t my business. Then almost 3 more years go by and he lost her. He DESPERATELY wanted her back too…he even proposed on a whim but she had already moved on with another guy. They were living together and having sex (mini-marriage), she was supporting him, etc. Many guys will take whatever they can get from a girl and drag their feet. It’s sad, but it’s the truth. Some guys recognize what they have is a special thing, and they put a ring on the finger asap. There really needs to be more boundaries regarding dating or else marriage can lose its value. Wish you the best

Reply November 9, 2014, 4:57 pm

shaz

Some guys “love” being in love, and a new love excites them so much that they seek another partner or seek a different sort of love just to get that new love feeling back again.. (falling in love for the first time with some one) is so special and excites both partners you know the feeling ? after some time that feeling is not there anymore …. some guys love that feeling and crave it as well as seek it else where time and time again till they are satisfied and no longer crave the first love reaction, an old love does nothing for them unless you both make it exciting again… but this is a hard one, how ? and even if you do some sort of role play or something different in the relationship, you can not keep up the interesting new love for very long …he will always want more until he has had enough of the first love feeling and settle.

November 11, 2014, 7:35 am

Morgan

Why do guys always tell you they use to like u afterwards but never told you they liked you the time they did this has happened to me a lot ?

Reply November 4, 2014, 6:25 pm

shaz

Get to know a guy for a while first, i mean really get to know them!…. if they want sex, the first week or days you know there only after one thing!! and as soon as they get it, they dump you, Thats why its happening to you alot, there is more to a relationship than just sex, so explore that with your new man first. never give them what they want, a great relationship is built up on friendship then love, and sex comes much later.

Reply November 5, 2014, 7:56 am

Piper

I met this guy online and immediately we hit it off. We would text each other in paragraph format! About 2-3 months later, her told me that he liked me (this was prior to meeting) and I sort of felt the same way for him. We did end up meeting and hung out the entire day together! It was a good meet up because i took my friends and we all went out to the beach and had a really good time. After that, everything was going great we started to really have interest in one another, we continued texting and communicating with one another a lot more. The second time we met, we had decided to meet up half ways in a poor little town (we didn’t expect for it to be the way it was) and we had spent the whole day together and did little cute fun things, we pretty much tried to make the best of it and enjoy each others company! I got home and we said good night but the next day I had noticed that our texting wasn’t as fun like it used to be. It felt to me like he had lost interest. I asked him and he said that he still was interested in me, yet i just wasn’t sensing that from his side of the conversation. This went on for about half a day almost a full day. We began to text again more but I keep sensing that he’s not into me and that maybe he doesn’t want to tell me yet because he doesn’t want to hurt my feelings. We live about 4 hours away from each other! This is the first time I have ever been exposed to what a long distance relationship could be like. As weird as it may seem, but before he wouldn’t go on his fb and now he’s beginning to go on in constantly, i think it’s maybe to communicate with other girls? It’s interesting because he also had mentioned, after our last meet up, which was this weekend that he wanted to take things slow. That the reason for him not even holding my hand was because he didn’t want me to flip out. I’m not sure, it could’ve also been that he lost interest because i’m really shy and i find it hard to hold up a conversation when i am shy. Once i’m no longer shy, i break those barriers and can be myself 100% which is really outgoing and goofy!! What do you guys think? Not enough information?

Reply November 4, 2014, 5:38 pm

Tam

I think it’s best to just have fun and not think about how much he likes you too much. You are a confident woman and you don’t need that validation from him. I wouldn’t invest too much energy and thought into him yet and talk to other guys too since he didn’t make you his girlfriend yet. Best to assume he likes you and have fun.

Reply November 7, 2014, 11:08 am

l

My boyfriend(now ex-boyfriend) broke up with me this past Thursday, after being together for 9 months. He said that he wasn’t happy anymore, and that he didn’t want to be tied down. He is 17 and I am 15. I lost my virginity to him, and he lost his to me. I am very confused because he would tell me that he loved me, and he was acting normal until Thursday. Now I look at his snap chat best friends and it’s #1, his girl bestfriend, and #2 is a girl he had a thing with before me ): I check to see who’s he’s following he followed 4 girls on instagram ): and in his snapchat story he looked happier then ever, this is killing me, the pain is just terrible. I have depression, and I just started taking depression medication. I have been thinking of suicide more then ever. I feel as if he just no longer loves me, or cares about me, and that is killing me. I cannot deal with this pain any longer. I don’t know what to do. I have skipped the past 2 days of school, if I have to see him with someone else, it will kill me. He hardly got any girls before me. I’m so heartbroken and hurt. What do I do, I just want him to still care about me… ):

Reply November 3, 2014, 3:13 pm

JJ

There is more in life than this, don’t worry! I can’t imagine your pain, especially since it seems like this guy was your first real experience with deep-rooted love. There’s so much I want to say, but I want to keep this simple…you need to figure out how to move in a positive direction or else this will destroy you.
1.) Begin to find a way to refocus your mind on other things in your life. The heart is a great thing, it can survive tremendous heartbreak. You will prolong the process, and hurt yourself more, if you dwell on it. It’s out of your hands anyway. You have to respect his decision, though you may not like it. Read through some blogs on other people’s experiences with gut-wrenching breakups, it may help you feel like you’re not alone and there could be some good advice there. Also, find several things in life that are positive and encouraging to “reprogram” your thought-life. There’s an old saying “As a man thinks, so he is.” Your mind is so powerful – harness the power to your advantage and channel it by doing other constructive things/thoughts.
2.) Forgive him! Seriously. Don’t fault yourself, or him. Forgive yourself also. Now is the time, at 15 years old, to begin doing this habitually. A broken heart that doesn’t deal with pain properly by choosing to forgive (and be forgiven) can lead to a bitter, wretched heart. You don’t want that. It’ll stay in there until you deal with it, and many will tell you how many years/decades they spent bitter over a broken heart when they could’ve released themselves via forgiveness. Choose it today. Choose it tomorrow. Choose it forever.
3.) Commit some good quotes to memory so you have something to come back to when the depression comes swooping in. I like poetry and bible verses. I also like stories of epic challenges that were overcome through much adversity (Ernest Shackleton’s voyage to the antarctic, Joseph and his 11 brothers in the book of Genesis, for example).
4.) Put it in perspective. Though your pain is intense, look around at a world that is full of people in more dire situations: The infant children left on the street with no food and no family, victims of rape/incest, orphaned children with nobody to come visit them, etc. Maybe choose to volunteer at a few local shelters, libraries, churches, etc.
5.) Don’t follow him. Follow other things that will be inspiring and help you grow as a person. Following him has caused you nothing but despair. Don’t waste your time on a past you can’t change. Learn from it and move on.

You’re so young, now is a great time to challenge yourself to work through this. Doing these things may be more difficult than drugs but will produce long lasting results that you can share with other young girls as you get older. They will need someone to light the way in a world that can be so dark. I wish you the best!

Reply November 3, 2014, 9:08 pm

death by heartache

I could not have said that any better. You are a wise lady. I have lost my strength and to hear you speak so gently brought tears to my eyes. So thanks for sharing with us all.

Reply November 5, 2014, 6:14 am

JJ

You’re most welcome. I’m actually a guy – but no biggie. Thanks for the kind words. You’ve lost your strength too? You could be in a very good position right now actually…see 2 Corinthians 12:7-10. I’m trying to commit this to memory for my own sake.

Reply November 6, 2014, 9:38 pm

Online problems

Hi guys i dont know how to put this whole situation into words but here i go, Basically I met a guy online in a chat room and we hit it off, he was one of the first people i had spoken to in the room, i only spoke to him when i was in the room but we spoke everyday. i got his skype and we messaged each other alot, thing is i know hes had little friend ships with other girls before me online as he was in the room 3 months longer then me. But we had become awesome friends and i found it hard to not talk to him everyday and he didnt seem to mind as he would always reply. problem is from day 1 he made sure i knew he didnt want a relationship online and i was the same and would assure him i wouldnt “fall in love” lol. Months later i realise i have feelings for this guy and i tell him and he tells me he would love to date me too but we live too far and its just not realistic i agree with him as we live across the world from each other and circumstances just wont allow us to meet. We flirt alot and stuff but he wont show me his face, i know its odd how i can fall for a guy ive never seen besides in one picture but i have i dont go for looks i go for personality and he has one of the best out there. He has mic’d with me so i know hes a guy lol but i cant help but feel like the other girls who also havent seen him. he assures me that i am one of the only girls online he has grown to truly care about but he still treats me like the others, he said he doesnt want his real life getting influenced by whats online and i understand that but now whenever i mention him not cam’ing he says “this really bugs you doesnt it? if it does bug you that much just dont talk to me alot then”
He doesnt understand that i have tried to avoid him but i always find myself coming back, hes not a bf but i do care about him and want to be in his life and want him in mine. How can i tell him this without him using the “dont talk to me then” reply.
Oh also i call him by his name when we talk on mic or in skype but he always calls me my chat name which is odd because he knows my real name, i find it annoying because it feels like he doesnt see me as a person and i used to correct him but i just dont do it anymore.
I know he wants to talk to me too because i left chat because id wait for him and it was getting too much for me to do that and i told him that the only reason i went was to talk to him he said i was the only reason he went there too and he hasnt even been back since even though ive popped in a few times. he has talked to me on skype. I just find it hard to like him so much and for him to not trust me enough to cam (he has seen me on cam many times). i dont even know if he likes me or if hes using me for stress relief. every time i make a joke about saving myself for him he replies with “you need to find yourself a real man not one online” i know he knows its a joke but i feel like he makes a conscience effort to remind me we will never work out. Help me its been 8 months :’(

Reply November 1, 2014, 3:11 pm

Shaz

You are being “USED” this guy is either married or in a relationship already and is looking for fun, he is using you for a bit of fun as that what the guys call , sex chat. Dump his ass before you really get hurt . There are many online esp on social sites, that look for girls to get there rocks off, if they start sex chatting dump them! you are worth more than a bit of fun!! and no woman should be treated like this by any man.

Reply November 1, 2014, 4:36 pm

Online problems

We arent dating so i cant dump him and i find it hard to dump him as a friend, we never talk about anything sexual and if it is its literally just a little flirting like me saying im gonna marry him as a joke. i know i sound like im sticking up for him but he is honestly a great guy and i dont know how seriously i should take the no camming thing, i might just not reply to a message he sends on my skype for a few days and then tell him i cant deal with it if he doesnt cam but i also dont wanna be that girl that is forcing him into a corner to get what she wants. Thank you so much for replying its given me alot to think about but i feel like i need a way to get him to open up and just cam already.

Reply November 2, 2014, 2:40 am

shaz

Seems to me your mixed up , one minute you care and have feelings and even joke that you love this guy, but honestly … the fact is you do love this guy” you are acting in a manner to say that you do. Even being on the defensive mode proves it, He is what he is and you clearly have problems yourself to deal with, decide if you do actually want this guy as a friend or not, because thats all its going to be and it will not be anything other than just friends, so stop complaining his not camming you. Men dont like playing games,. and your clearly playing games.

Reply November 2, 2014, 7:04 am

Vickie Van

Ok. I met this guy who I really like. We talked for s couple of months before we got intimate. The intimacy turned out to be great, especially to him, we had an altercation and stop talking for about two weeks. I really was ready to move on but suddenly I started to miss him, so I texted him and told him I missed him. He called me immediately. We talked and texted for about 2 more weeks before we saw each other again. During these two weeks he told me he missed me, he loved me, and he wanted me intimately again. The feeling were mutual. So we ended up seeing each other and fulfilling each others needs. The next day after, I didn’t hear from him by text or by phone. This worried me a little , because for we seen each other it was a daily keeping in touch. The day after next I texted him and asked how he was doing, he answered ok. Then nothing. So I asked him were we still talking. Later when I talked to him he said he didn’t feel good so I left it alone. The next day I asked him was anything wrong he said yeah he just can’t forget about what happened between us that caused him to leave his job. So he was putting the blame on me. All the time I thought he had forgiven me because he had moved on and found another job in his profession immefiately and said forget those people he was about to leave them anyway. So we continue to talk. Now I started having problems at work and wanted to change companies also. ( truck driving) I tell him what I’m going through, he gives me dierections to get my way back to terminal and I drop truck off. So when I get home we talk he really didn’t want to engage in a long conversation, so I text him something I really wanted him to know cause I felt he wasn’t really responding to me. We end up say harsh things to each other and him telling me to get a life! After this I told him I really didn’t want to fight and could we still remain friends, possibly me being a girlfriend if he cared. He text me back and ask could we still be intimate. I tell him he ismy only partner and I wanted him. He asks again, can he have more pu__y? I asked him is that all he wants from me he says no. So I ask him what else does he want, he says pu__y and money! I asked him is he trying to pimp me cause I’m not a whore he says no. I also let him know I need money too! I tell him a couple of things I need money for right now and he doesn’t respond, and I never asked him for anything. He still doesn’t respond. So I send a text telling him if he ever decide that I’m a decent enough woman to consider being a girlfriend of he’s and we can communicate, get along with each other and have fun , plus share our finances together he could give me a call. So far it’s been about 3 days and its driving me insane that I haven’t heard from him. I’m just wondering will he ever call?

Reply October 27, 2014, 7:00 pm

shaz

Dump this scumbag !!! and also tell him – every body is responsible for there own actions in life , and not to hold you to blame for his fu”k ups!. This guy just wants money and sex and your being easy, thats why he comes back because you give him what he wants, its clear he does not want a relationship with you as he would be calling and texting you, instead your doing all the running (so to speak) so its one sided. Get RID asap, your worth more and are better than he is, ,you will find some one soon who does deserve you !!!

Reply November 1, 2014, 4:48 pm

Yuki

I have a crush on someone. He goes to the same college with me. Since we come from different countries, I thought that it’s not a good thing to have relationship with him. When we first met, he showed me some hints that he was kind of interested in me. I totally ignored him at that time. He is a nice guy and he is friend with most of people I know . I mean my friends. We got to know each other through friends. I told my friends to come to my birthday treat party because they made surprise birthday video for me . He came too because he was in the video ! Then, we did not know each other I mean introduce ourselves ! I was shocked when I saw him in the video. He said happy birthday to me and also told that he wants to be close with me. At the party , he sat right in front of me with the help of friends cos they changed seats when he came ! I cooked something at the party but I cooked really bad. So, I apologized to people who came . And he asked me i really cooked the foods and he ate every foods I cooked even some are burnt and some are too salty . He gave me compliment that it’s delicious and helped me washing dishes after the party. After that, I feel like he is really nice n kind and my feelings for him grew bigger and bigger . He always come and say hi whenever he meets me . Always says that I m pretty but actually I m not ! He acts shy when he sees n talks to me. Those made me think that he is interested in me. On his birthday, many friends made a surprise party n I was there ! There were so many people wish him happy bday ! So, I was not that distinct among those people but he found me n came to me and thank me . I had Bday present for him but I m afraid people would find out I love him ! So, I took my present back with me. I could not sleep the whole night , feeling sad n confused what to do . Finally, I decided to give him a card at least ! When I gave a Bday card to him, he was so happy (I swear) he was so happy and told me “this is the best I’ve got” ! I was so surprised to hear that because I gave him just a bday card ,nothing else big n special! I asked him why and he was hesitate to give me answer n then said “oh because it is a letter “! That does not make any sense , does it? He also sent me message saying that he likes my hair because it’s pretty ! When I say congrats to him for something n he replied that congrats is the gift for him ! Whenever I said something on my FB wall, he did something related with that . For example, I posted that I wanna go to a place n later he posted the photos of that place ( he went there) ! So, those things he did made me really confused if he likes me or not ! Sometimes I think he does not like me cos he does nothing to improve our relation. But sometimes I think that he likes me for what he has been acting ! I would like to know if there is a little chance of knowing that he likes me or he liked me ! Help please :) thanks

Reply October 20, 2014, 1:20 am

raven

I started a job at a smoke shop almost 3 yrs ago. A group of Native American guys came in who were lo ud and obnoxious and would come in every day and make a dent in the quiet.By the 3rd day i decided that the only interesting man that walked in the door was one in that group. Will they pretty much disappear except for the one. He grew up and lives right down the street.He is an on and off customer as he lives on a res a lot of the time with his grandparents. But this on an off customer spends time with me. Talks to me.At the time I met him he was getting past a 7 yr relationship. (Thats done.Been clarified.) He stops in the store even if he is not buying anything to say Hi when he is in town even if it is just hi and bye or he spends time. I took 3 mos. off work and saw him walking down the street once.I came back to work. He started showing up.Sometimes to buy smokes and would be in a hurry. But other times he would just stop buy and lean on my counter for 15 to 20 minutes. In feb he had to go up north. About 3 weeks ago his brother who unknowst to him has become my little buddy over the 2 plus yrs as well comes in says says i was told to say hello to you make sure I say hello to you. he said hit him up on facebook. So I did. Went to his timeline. Ran onto another person I know who is now a friend on and off fb. No coincidences. more to that but..He started posting stuff and I fell in love with him. We were all over his timeline and news feed. His phone got shut off.HE was on an off a few times didn’t comment on all this stuff I posted stopped reading m private messages. being he was a close friend i could see his newsfeed . that was an accident. he commented on other girls picks and made to new femal friends.He had told me he would be here on the 19 and he didn’t want to communicate on facebook. i did anyway. He deleted alot of stuff including a haircut pic which is like a yearly thing that he posts pics before In the before pic i said don’t you dare on the comment. Then ne posted at the barber or hairdresser. And we had a whole conversation about it. he deleted it and a bunch of other stuff. So I took all my personal stuff off his timeline and left the friend stuff.He took a photo album he posted for me down. And then he showed up on the 21st.Told his brother that he was drunk talking o me and din’t realize how deep he got . i say bs. he knew who he was talking and where i was going and he would not make that mistake with me. not a chance because i have a business relationship with him as well and he has to run into me in the neighborhood.So he shows up . Not for me but for dinner at the taco stand next door with his 2 little brothers.Came in , while they were waitng and he said he would be back but i had to close up. He was in the next day i was at work. pretense sodas for hjimand little bro. but it as obvious little bro knew he was supposed to wait. Then he came in again. With another brother. Brother got a call from his cousin who can’t stand stand me.Made his brother wait and his cousin wait. then he sent his brother off. said he would catch up with them later.I stayed awhile longer and left. Said he would see me tomorrow. I didn’t realize I don’t work tomorrow. But he came back. Pulled up the chair in front of the counter and started talking to me.Backed off when customers came in.Polite to customers.Itting there in my store like it was totally normal for him to be there. My male customers checking him out. Didn’t phase him. I asked him on fb to tell me his hopes and dreams. He told me over the last few days. told me problems and obstacles and financial and legal stuff. Navajo law.I took a pic and asked him if i could post it before he left the 2nd time he said yes. go ahead . when he came back i showed it him and he made sure i TAGGED it. Today evrything is gone from his news feed but I stuuf I shared with him is on his timeline. plus family pics I took and sent him from my store.So the whole 1.5 hours he spent with me the 3rd time during my 15 hour shift, he made his bro and cuz wait for him outside. He went out and had a smoke and dealt with their objections once. So my questions is what is up with him ? I mean there are obstacles. I am way older than him and I am white. and now he knows I am Jewish and that carries some weight for him. Yeah there is predudice but that is besides the point. Then there is peer pressure.his family and friends liked my pics of the bro and little sis and some friends/relatives, but no one like the pics we posted together that he is here in town with me. He did not come back here for me. there is a compelling reason he is here which he explained to me. I just don’t know what to thing. He will see me the next time i am at work. That is as far as it has gone. I mean he is getting to know me and letting me get to know him. W have always talked. we can tell each other anything. There is no such thing as platonic. i has been told.Is this guy considering me or what? what does anyone think?

Reply September 24, 2014, 11:57 pm

dwiyan

I hope my boyfriend want to be say honestly me!!

Reply September 13, 2014, 9:58 am

Grace

About 2-3 weeks ago, i began crushing on O because of the moments we have had lately.He teases me a lot, does lil pranks on me, and every time we would walk by each other, we smile or laugh for no reason. Also I’ve caught him looking at me from afar in the store, then i look at him and he just keeps staring.That has been happening in the days we have worked together. Also he checked me out because he said “damn that ass” when he was standing behind me, but in a playful manner. So its just small things like that that has happened recently, and we haven’t had the chance to talk about ourselves. Except that he also works in a gym and used to study culinary. Then this past monday he initiated the conversation, he asked “sooo, how old are you [my name]?” and we had that lil chit chat. So do you guys think he might like me or is he just being friendly? I think he might like me, but then i think about how he is a pretty boy, fit, muscular, and hes about two inches shorter than me. I’m like 5’9, “thick” not obese or super fat just a lil chubby, trust me lol. I’ve been called beautiful and pretty and stuff, but I’m just insecure at times. So what do you think?

Reply September 11, 2014, 11:25 pm

Rachel

I met this guy at work an we’ve been chattin for over 2 yrs now and started seein each other on an off when possible..I’m separated now an he stays over odd times..he seemed to be very attentive to my messages and everythin else but since he found out my age..I’m older than him..he thought I was same age..and I never told him cause he never asked and I never lied either..just seems he is on an off with txt messages..not as attentive ..although he is very carin..doesn’t show much or say much bout feelings..can anyone help..I want this to work ..he’s like my prince charmin..an I do tell him that..

Reply September 7, 2014, 4:31 am

ClassicReader101

He’s been texting me and I’ve been texting him. I even left my phone alone for a few days to see if he still wants to talk if I’m not the one starting the conversation. So far everything is positive, but he’s across the country, on a NAVY base in south carolina. We both have admitted to eachother that we want to cuddle with eachother, but him being the one with the more reliable bank funds, doesn’t try to visit. Lately I’ve been thinking he only likes me because i am over here and not right in front of him. I’m safe, it just puts a major damper on my self esteem….

Reply September 3, 2014, 6:54 pm

zainab ali

So I have known my best friend for over a year now hes liked me an expressed it but stupid as I am I thought it wouldn’t work as he lives 3 hours away I had a problem a few months back N spoke to him about it tbh he took it to the next level of caring about me now he’s protective anyways he has a gf but he’s not happy with her I told him I liked him but it was a shock to him as he was with someone at the time my mates say he likes me but I think he dlesent he has family problems an when we planned to meet up he cancelled as his parentd eeded him there he hasent told me he hates me he just cant decide how he feels unless he sees me he wants to see if we get along like we do ober internet and bbm he calls me beautiful whistles at my pictures but lately he’s not been answering his phones or text whats going on please help I need to know if I should stay or leave btw hes not that spoken meanin like he bottles all his feelings up and doesent say anything for example when canceling on me he didn’t tell me he was upset cause he really wanted to see me instead he told my male friend another thing im concerned about hes cjanged a lot cause when I used to date my ex he hardly reacted to it now if I have other male friends who flirt with me he gets all hyper about ig an frustrated its like he doesn’t want me to talk to them he even asked me who that lad wad the one who spoke to him for me please help me :’(

Reply August 31, 2014, 8:31 pm

michaela

Ok so there was this boy who i thought loved me but now he wants to be friends telling me what’s wrong being friends or why are you mad or that I will satisfy your needs and wants and I care about you I just don’t love love you anymore and that he was cold and really didn’t care how I felt he’s changed and I don’t like it what should I do?

Reply August 28, 2014, 2:42 am

shaz

Sounds to me that this guy does not love you im sorry to say , but wants to be your friend… So you have a choice – Walk away and dont speak or see him again, Or tell him ok, it will just take time for me to see you as a friend because you meant more to me than just a friend, please give me time ok and then walk away …. (i know its hard but hold your chin up and walk away with pride act like the grown up that you are). When your ready and after you have dealt with the pain of rejection, and you are ready to be friends with this guy you will know when the time comes.

Reply August 28, 2014, 6:27 am

Puzzled

Ok here’s the deal. We both work for the same company, but at different places. He found me in the end of July, I was doing some work over there. Any ways he comes to see me, tells me he’s been looking for me for a couple of years, every time he comes to my work I’m not there I’m all ways out, well he goes on to say he that he’s been wanting to talk with with me so I gave him my #. We’ve been on several dates, had sex several times . He makes feel like no other man has. It’s like I found my sole mate. Were done having kids neither one of us want any more, all of his are out on their own, on they other hand I have a revolving door my kids are grown but they have problems of some sort that brings them back home for a month or 2 some times longer. There’s more about me and he knows all of it well most of it. He wants me to go with him on weekends but I haven’t been able to go because of work, so now I wanted to do the holiday weekend with him. He’s going to visit some relatives, so I told him I could go with him there he said I wouldn’t like it. So of course I’m asking why is it getto or worse or is it high class and he has not responded back, the only thing he said was for the following weekend. But little things like this has got me thinking. He treats me with kindness and respect and I to him . I know our relationship is just beginning, ,,,, but there is that BUT Oh I almost forgot next month we both go back to work full time and he stated that there won’t be time for us maybe a weekend but no week days, this was mention about a week ago. I really believe he’s my solemate, we have so much in common. When he does come back from his weekends it’s like I can’t wait to see him, he seems happy to see me to. Am I reading to much into this? Or am I jumping to fast. He’s like the best that’s happened to me in a long, long time….Thanks for reading!**!

Reply August 24, 2014, 9:48 pm

Nikki

I started dating a guy who is in the navy about two months ago and is say we got kind of serious quick. I would see him night before he left for his underway then when he got back we continued where we left off. He recently decided that he wanted to get out of the navy sooner than planned and asked me to move with him to another state. After that night, work was really busy for him and he wasn’t texting me at all. I texted him asking if he was mad at me for some reason and he told me he was sorry and that work has just been crazy busy. He used to text me whenever he could but now it seems like I have to be the one to text him and he hasn’t made plans to see me again. Should I be worried or just wait it out?

P.s. He hasn’t been in a relationship for a while and the girl he was with was for 3 years and she cheated on him and had gotten pregnant. So he has trust issues.

Reply August 24, 2014, 5:06 pm

Nikki

Oops I left out that we would see eachother every night until he left for his underway

Reply August 24, 2014, 5:08 pm

shaz

Just wait it out, dont text, if you feel the need to text, quickly do something to keep your mind of texting, as you could spoil the relationship if you get cross or angry and say it in a text message, so dont text what ever you do. I have made the same mistake and very much regret what i said. It could be that the Navy is causing him alot of problems and thats why he wants to leave, his not happy for some reason? And maybe he thinks things are moving to quick for him… so his backing off a little as not to get hurt again. If he does have trust issues he would be worried where you are and what you are doing and who you are with ? but it seems that he is not worried about any of that as he would be texting you night and day… So i doubt its because of trust. I would just sit and wait and give him time to work things out… thats all you can do for now.

Reply August 25, 2014, 10:02 am

Mr.cat

Forget it.. The ship just sunk way too deep.. I have now been officially placed into the bro or brother-zoned.. He will only think of me as a bro… Talk to me when he is bored.. Completely ignores my messages to him and views them tommorow.. And we got way distants to the point that even i could care less what he will message me cause i know its just going to be more and more bullshit.. I can delete him anytime i want to.. But that will only make me bitter or worse.. Defeated.. He wants a bro.. I’ll give him a bro.. A bro who will just joke around with him but never sent out caring messages.. No more cute stickers to send each other like we use too.. And if he dares to call me in skype like he used to id hang up and make up a lie like he always do when i try to talk to him… Sometimes fight fire with fire is tough but you must learn to do it… Sooner or later one will crack.. He will start to miss our chatting video days or our days when we would share pictures of our visits to places.. Yes we were super close like this.. He even sent me heart stickers… And confessed that he got really close to me for some reason.. Winking emojis and cupid struck heart emojis… Goodmornings to each other ever day.. No more.. Im done being ignored when im pouring all my careness to him.. Even had the nerve to post his sick and in the hospital.. And says he isnt ignoring me but simply cant look at the screen for too long…. And then i see him online in skype and in fb for hours.. ( obviously having a good chat with someone eles ) i wont be bitter and say rude things to him.. But one thing i will say is.. I just wished that he would be prepared because karma will get you.. Someday he too will feel this feeling i felt to someone he will crush over.. And when he needs someone to cry on the shoulder too.. Well he wont get one from me..

Reply August 16, 2014, 6:36 pm

hilarious

Amen sister… be a lady about it. And keep your head up…

Reply October 29, 2014, 7:57 pm

luz

hi, my boifriend and i have been going out for a year now, the first time i saw him was at a friends howse. i inmediatly loved him. after that night i saw him three months after at the same friends howse, they were both friends. i made a move and told him i liked him and we started to go out. my problem is that i feel insecure , jelous,doubtfull and sad most of the time because i think he does not like me as much as i do. i adore him! The reason i feel insecure is because i asked him out he dint.. that makes me think that he may have never asked me out if i hadnt… i feel jelous because i think he likes my friend, he talks abot her like if he knows her very well and comparing that to me it seems he knows me very little. she is also very funny and i know she likes him.i feel doubtfull because he did say he does not like her but when she is arround he gives her full attention, not only that he also looks happyier. he gets exited when she is comming, and they stick together when i get drunk and smak my head and bleed. so yes i feel sad because i am in love with him and dont feel the same back from him even if hedoes tell me that he does. thanks for reading.
luz

Reply August 9, 2014, 1:34 pm

Mr.cat

Waoh.. Okay first off red flag for him when getting too excited bout your friend and talking bout her all the time.. That right there sounds like he is thinking about her more then you.. I havent been in a serious relationship. And personally im into guys then girls.. But i do know the fact that my brother who iam ashamed off.. Have used my friend.. They became bf and gf.. And in the end broke up with her because he really wanted the friend of my friend… He got closer to her through my friend.. And honey i dont want to be the bad person here.. But if you had the courage to ask him out and not him them another red flag.. Signs you need to watch out: was he into you when you asked him out.. Its possible he might be shy thats why you got the first pitch.. But it could also mean that the guy is just being nice and doesnt want to be a jerk for rejecting you ( which is also very jerky to accept your proposal and not like you ) and the worst kind is yes.. Became your boyfriend because he is only interested in getting close to your friend.. Does he laugh at your jokes? Even though its not funny.. When a person likes you they will laugh at your jokes no matter what and are more interested in your background / history then others or his.. Also does he confess alot to you ( meaning his past/ story etc ) that means that he really likes you and that he trusts you with all his secrets and stuff… Now if his avoidable with those questions it could also mean his insecure bout it and that he likes you alot so he doesnt want you to distant away due to his troubling or disturbing past.. Confront your friend. Tell her that his your man but at the same time dont make it sound too jealousy.. You dont want to lose your friend aswell.. Also confront him as well.. But this time not about you.. But about your friend if he likes her. Because he can repeat ove rand over that he likes you words wont mean nothing its by actions.. But you need to confirm if he has feelings for her too.. Have you met his parents? Thats another rule that the guy wants to be in your life. ( goes with any gender ) does he like to cuddle with you alot? Hold hands? Kisses?? ( in public? ) does he do that to you when your friend is around or is he distant with you when she is around?. Peoples emotions can change rapidly.. Try to make him feel special! But also try to show him that you are also special. Show him that if he loses you.. It will be a regretful one… Its okay to be jealous thats understandable but guys doesnt like being push around.. They dont like being grabbed by the neck.. Let him hang loose and make it seem like you trusr him ( ofcourse dont let him on a loose too much… That will give him an idea that he can do whatever he wants and that it will be easier for him to break up with you )

Reply August 17, 2014, 12:29 am

Annoymous

One guy in particular at was and is nosy and curious about my romantic life.One day durning break he asked “Do you have a boyfriend?” I responded with a No.He asked if I ever had one, I said yes, he then proceeded with what did you like about him? Do you miss him? Do you plan on moving back to be near him.I responded with “His personality, the fact that he liked me for me and not my looks.” I said “A little, but he obviously wasn’t the right guy” I said, no I will be staying here.That was that.I thought it was odd he was asking these, but just assumed he was a really nosy co-worker lol.

4 months later, my brother in-law was in a bad accident.I was waiting to punch in and so was my co-worker.He asked if I was okay, I said No, but I will be.He asked what happened, I told him, He pulled me in and hugged me, kissed my hand and said he was there for me.That was even stranger than the question, but again passed it off as a friendly co-worker.

Then one time I was in shopping with my mother, and He was the bagger, he came behind me and put his hands on my shoulder, then walked away, I brushed it off as him just trying to get by.At this point I was kind of interested lol, and thought I was reading into it too much. Its been 7 months now, and this past Sunday we had break on sunday, he asked me how old was too old of a guy for me, he then said one of co-workers said we should go out.

I was taking off guard, I wasn’t sure how to respond because he didn’t actually say “Will you go out with me.My response was “Mark’s teasing you”

Then he has held my hands, rubbed my cheek, has called me beautiful etc.He did ask “How about going out with me?” I said yes and we scheduled a date, but he had to cancel due to his brother having a heart attack.We haven’t rescheduled, but he keeps bringing up, saying “Just let me know when you want that rain check! I haven’t forgotten about it you know”

Then on Sunday, he told me about a dream he had.We were in the break room upstairs and I was texting, he started laughing and here’s the conversation

Me: “What’s so funny”
Him: Oh nothing -continues laughing-
Me: “Why are you laughing?! Is it because I’m texting?”
Him: “What?”
Me: “I like a good laugh too, what’s funny”
Him: “I had this dream last night about….you”
Me: “About me?”
Him: “Yeah, you were texting on your phone and I said “knock knock” and you let me in, we talked and had a good time…then you kissed me, I said “I loved you, and loved working with you, your a hard worker” and then you responded with “I think the samething.And by the way, you owe me dinner from when we had to cancel”
Me: I just mumbled on and didn’t know what to say.

There are times when he doesn’t seem interested.But then there are.Like last week, he was constantly in the same area I was, I was outside bringing carts and stuff in, and he was out stealing my carts.I jokingly responded “Stop stealing my carts” he laughed and said “I just wanna help you”

So I’m so confused on whether he is interested or not.XD

Reply August 6, 2014, 10:48 pm

Annoymous

I could really use an answer.

And the past few weeks he’s began to tease me… a lot.
Yesterday, he kept getting real close, I was bagging and he was so close that my hand almost touched his lower back, I had to pull the bag holder closer to me, so I wouldn’t accidentally touch him.He turned and looked when I backed away a bit.

Reply August 25, 2014, 11:38 am

shaz

Do you like him ? if so pluck up the courage and ask HIM out……… this guy likes you alot and your backing off for some reason…….. do you not like him ? do you not trust him ? are you scared of what might happen ? because if something is holding you back then you need to sort what that is thats holding you back.

Reply August 25, 2014, 12:59 pm

Annoymous

I just keep thinking he doesn’t like me, that he just feels bad for me.
There’s times when he doesn’t seem interested, but as soon as I’m not giving him attention, he seems interested again.

Last week, he asked me to let him know when would be a good day for our raincheck on that dinner, so I texted him and told him my days off, but he completely ignored me, I waited 4-5 days, then sent him a facebook message, and he ignored that. So I assumed he wasn’t interested, so I started backing off, and as soon as I did, he was like “What’s wrong? Are you mad at me?, Why won’t you tell me what’s wrong Sweetie?” I’m very confused, I tried rescheduling and he ignores, but he is the one that brings it up.

Reply August 25, 2014, 1:51 pm

shaz

If his ignoring your messages to arrange another date, then asks you whats wrong, then his messing with you just playing games,. Men get a ego boost when women like them, when women are not interested they think whats wrong with me ? im a god and all women should fancy me…. Does he act the same way with other girls / women ? where you work ? if so i would avoid him like the plaque

August 25, 2014, 2:12 pm

Annoymous

Nope, he doesn’t. In fact, he does the flirting in front of everyone as well.

I didn’t let the facebook message bother me too much because I noticed that he didn’t respond to any posts on his page, not even to his siblings who wished him a happy birthday etc. But the text message, he could have responded to.

August 25, 2014, 3:14 pm

Annoymous

I also notice he gets offended if I don’t let him help me with things.
For example when I was checking out at the register, he was the one bagging, I mistyped my pin for my card.He asked if I was okay, you need help, I said Nope, I’m fine.He was like “I just wanted to help sweetie”
And he’s always trying to impress my mother.One day she finally said in the car “Does that guy have a crush on your?” lol

Reply August 25, 2014, 3:19 pm

Tam

Girl….he obviously likes you and wants you to tell him when you’re available for that date he needs to make up to you. You should flirt with him back to let him know that you’re interested in you. Maybe he doesn’t know how interested you are. He did say you owe him dinner for that canceled date. Did you tell or ask him when he wants to make up for that date?

November 7, 2014, 11:20 am

Mr.cat

Im gay and i have a guy friend and he doesnt know im gay. i met him online. He was the first to interact with me. Very attractive i dont know him at all and then added me on FB. I always add friend request but they never talk to me. But he is different.. He talked to me and we started having a nice long conversation.. At first he asked for my skype and said he wants to hear my voice cause he thinks i have a cute accent.. So we chatted in skype video.. And went on for hours and we said our goodbyes.. Couple of days past i got more and more interested in him because when i do dirty jokes he would play around and do dirty jokes as well.. He would always be the first one to call me in FB or do a video chat in skype, we got very comfortable with each other as we would sent funny pics to each other or pics of places we go to.. He even confess to me one time that he had a co-worker that is a guy and had a crushed on him. He said he doesnt know that until that co-worker quit and confessed it to him.. He wasnt also very close minded about it.. He didnt say stuff like eww this gay guy liked me.. Because obviously he has some gay friends in FB. Now days passed im the one doing the effort on chatting him first and commenting first.. But he keeps becoming distant.. Takes him hours now to reply to my comments.. I would often catch him online in FB and skype and id be online but id wait a min or an hour and not reply to him and he wont reply to me at all.. But when i reply he reply back but it would take a min. He wont even say goodbye when he logs out or wont even say he will be back.. He would only say that if i chat with him. Is it possible his just those type of guy that is very friendly and that he may be leading me on but he has no clue at all.. I wondered that he probably broke many hearts and he doesnt know it.. His comments would consists of ( cute huh ) ( i appreciate my friendship with you ) ( when i joke to him about me sleeping in his bed and that im a heavy sleeper *which is obvious im flirting with him* he would suprise me and comment back like ( i will bite your ear and wake you up ) he would send me emoticons like the winking one.. The heart emoticons.. Blow kiss or blushing emoticons.., but i still cant figure him out. Its eating me slowly because im now crushing over him badly and he doesnt know it but im afraid if i confess i might end our friendship.. But he would make me feel special sometimes but other times makes me feel like a fool because he wont comment at all.. He would rather end our skype call just to answer the other friend who skype call him.. Yes im felling jealous.. When we are doing video chat i would see him making expressions at me like raising his two eyebrows repeatedly. He would laugh at my jokes even though i know its not even funny.. I often got hid in his pillow when someone went to his room and talked to him.. I heard everything and i was shocked that he hid me for no reason.. After the conversation he took me out of the pillow and talked to me like nothing happened.. Im really confused now

Reply August 5, 2014, 1:02 pm

cara p

It sounds like he likes you alot but isnt sure if he’s gay? Have you discussed this? The reason he hid you is probably because he didnt want people to see him talking to another guy on cam. You can tell if two people like each other. Maybe he’s still in the closet and trying to stay there, which means distancing himself from you. Try talking to him, tell him how you feel. Sometimes you just have to put your heart out there you know? Thats what im doing with the guy I love, we used to kiss and hold hands all the time, always flirtflirting and teasing each other. Then we didnt see each other for a week and now hes distant, we still tease each other and flirt but its not as heavy as before. And when I hugged him he seamed suprised, but still huggrd back. I guess both our crushes are confusing huh :) still, you should talk to him xxx

Reply August 14, 2014, 3:52 pm

Mr.cat

Wow tnx for the reply.. Honestly i didnt know id get a reply. I know this blog is meant for girls.. But since i was soo confused and needed some answers or motivation i searched online and found your blog tips! I too am a closeted gay.. And its hard for me to come out because my family and i are religous.. Anyways it really irritates me going to his fb pictures and seein all the girls hugging him and stuff.. My gosh i cant tell you how attractive he looks… And thats why im afraid id lose him just like that.. But its not just his looks that hooked me.. Its his very down to earth friendly attitude… We have only been talking for weeks and it felt like we have known each other for years.. He explained to me that he had his internet cut off and will be back on somewhere this week.. I miss talking to him.. But i feel like im the only one who misses him.. I do admire his effort when he uses his data and and have a little conversation with me.. I guess im just thinking too much and assuming too much.. To be honest his very verry different when chatting with him in video then chatting with him through fb messages.. In the video his lively and energetic. In the fb messages he only comments 1 to 2 words and very dull ones.. I dunno… I really really wish i can do what your suggesting me cara p.. But you see.. Its kinda hard because the situation is long distance relationship.. His all the way up in canada and im here in vegas.. I dont want to confess to him and scare him off.. Cuz that might be the last time id be able to talk to him.. We have never met each other out of the net.. I told him i want to go and see him and he also said hed like me to come to his place… But that was before we had a great chat…. Now that we got distance more often.. He started calling me his bro!! Omg i dont want to be friendzone hahaah im crying while laughing depressed and confused.. ~sigh~ i wish you all the luck on your relationship cara p :( ty

Reply August 14, 2014, 4:44 pm

Vivica

Only sum of these are true about me and my crush#sad

Reply August 4, 2014, 2:23 am

Vivica

Only like a few that were on this list were true btw saddnes

Reply August 4, 2014, 2:18 am

Talia

Okay so I have a question. I’m wondering if a guy likes me.. we have been good friends for about 5 years now and we hang out with all the same people. He has said in the past that he wants a girlfriend but it wasnt directed to me. recently I started crushing on him. Quite often i find him looking at me and we’ll make eye contact then i always look away. and we hang out almost every weekend. We dont really text at all but when we’re together were always with our other friends and we can talk about anything he loves to talk to me about farming which he does for a living. Also when we’re together. ..with our other friends He is always wanting me to rub his back.. idk if it’s because he wants me close to him or if he just wants his back rubbed. A fee weeks ago He asked me for a picture of my boobs and I told him no and he apologized immediately and said he was sorry he asked and was also happy i didnt do something that i will regret. Things were never awkward between us after that.. it wss like nothing ever happened. went to high school together and we also attend the same church and have the same beliefs. We share many hobbies. My confusion is that he’s never dated so i don’t know if he’s just not sure how to ask me out or if he’s even interested in me or if he’s worried about ruining a friendship. If you could get back to me that would be great! ! ?

Reply July 26, 2014, 10:12 am

Joi..

What does it really mean when someone says you always choose the same type of men. Does that mean, mentally, physically. I dont.know.if I truly understand that.

Reply July 18, 2014, 1:15 am

patricia

i have dis guy who he said he loves me and wants to be with me…at first i insisted and told him am not into that but he continue pressing me that he really loves me and wants to be with me so i agreed to be with him that was on campus…meanwhile we were doing it secretly since we didnt want our mates to kw about it….we talk,we chat, he advices me…we kissed several times but we didnt have sex..but the lat time in the course of french kiss he asked me to have sex but i denied…because i have not have sex before….when we vacated and came back to the house i started sendin him some flirts but he told me to stop my nonsense for he is not interested…and he also said he is a religious man and he loves god more than anything else and he also said the more i know the better for me…..lastly he said that the feelings that i have for him is lust…….pls what does he mean and what should i do too…

Reply July 8, 2014, 12:31 pm

patricia

pls i need a reply

Reply July 8, 2014, 12:34 pm

shaz

He loves god ? but wants sex outside of marriage ? He just wanted to bed you i am sorry to say and is just giving you the brush off because your not putting out. More like he is saying to you, the feelings he has for you is lust and he just wants sex. Find a man that deserves you, this one does not you are worth more than that, Please do not txt him, even if he txts you, because he may think he still has a chance of bedding you if you txt him. His a player and a loser !! No real man would treat a lady like he has and is.

Reply July 8, 2014, 3:14 pm

patricia

again he also said that i should focus on my future in heaven first then my future as a career woman before handling this fire that i know will surely burn me …and he also said that the earlier i realize that he love god first before anything the best for me and also i should focus on my life and build it first and he also said we have a long time to talk about things like this….i can say that when we were on campus he forced me to love him but now i dont know what he is thinking about now…….sometimes he behaves as if he love me, then other time he behave as if am just a sister to him…..is kind of confusing to me …….serious i love this guy….i have given my heart to him but it seems he doesnt care about me at all…..pls what should i do……because he doesnt call me or txt me..am kind of worried……pls i need i reply…

Reply July 9, 2014, 6:25 am

patricia

pls i need a reply

July 9, 2014, 7:04 am

eldon

Shaz is telling you the truth…he lied for sex and since you aren’t putting out now, he’s not working on you anymore. He’s playing games and you are looking for something that is not there…Go on with your life and put all of this energy into someone else. The infatuation/love/crush will leave but shop fueling it….let it go…

August 10, 2014, 10:43 am

Ms.adorn

There is guy in my life named DJ.At first we started talking then we started dating a few weeks after.He seemed like the right one but then he stop replying to my emails.I really love and very afraid of losing him.i have no idea about if he still loves me.I hope he still does.so can someone reply and tell me what I should do cause I do not want to lose him

Reply July 5, 2014, 3:47 am

kathleen

I have been talking to a guy for about 6 months now. When we first started to talk we told each other that we liked each other. He wanted to take it slow get to no each other more, I agreed because I thought it was a good idea to. He asked me to be patient with him and I have. Still am. We have gotten really close. We talk about everything and anything and are completely comfortable with each other. When we are around each other we hold hands and act like we are together. He always says things like your perfect and between us it always will be. When he hugs me he says I wish I could hold u forever and when we arnt together he says he wishes we r. But the past couple of time that he has said let’s chill he never texts with a time and I’ll texts him to ask if we r and never texts back. The other night we made plans too hang after I got out of work. I texted him after and no reply back. He texted me latter that night and said he was really sorry and that he wants to make it up to me. I told him its ok and he can if he likes and he said he pinky promises to. After we stopped talking that night he hasn’t talked to me since. I don’t want to jump to conclusions so I figure he is busy, but its very confusing. Because I feel like one minute he likes me and the next it seems like he doesn’t want to see me. And when he says he does he never goes threw with the plans. I tryed talking to him about my feelings once and that I was confused and he said he didn’t have to deal with this, so now I don’t want to ask why he never goes threw with seeing me. Does he still like me or is he over me? Am I just over thinking it? Please help!!

Reply June 30, 2014, 1:39 pm

kathleen

I have been talking to a guy for about 6 months now. When we first started to talk we told each other that we liked each other. He wanted to take it slow get to no each other more, I agreed because I thought it was a good idea to. He asked me to be patient with him and I have. Still am. We have gotten really close. We talk about everything and anything and are completely comfortable with each other. When we are around each other we hold hands and act like we are together. He always says things like your perfect and between us it always will be. When he hugs me he says I wish I could hold u forever and when we arnt together he says he wishes we r. But the past couple of time that he has said let’s chill he never texts with a time and I’ll texts him to ask if we r and never texts back. The other night we made plans after to hang after I got out of work. I texted him after and no reply back. He texted me later that night and said he was really sorry and that he wants to make it up to me. I told him its and he can if he likes and he said he pinky promises to. After we stopped talking that night he hasn’t talked to me since. I don’t want to jump to conclusions so I figure he is busy, but its very confusing. Because I feel like one minute he likes me and the next it seems like he doesn’t want to see me. And when he says he does he never goes threw with the plans. I tryed talking to him about my feelings once and that I was confused and he said he didn’t have to deal with this, so now I don’t want to ask why he never goes threw with seeing me. Does he still like me or is he over me? Am I just over thinking it? Please help!!

Reply June 30, 2014, 1:33 pm

sharon

Can some one try and shine some light on this for me , and has it ever happened to any one else ? …. i have been just chatting to a guy on facebook over the past two weeks just general chat about things we have in common, he doesnt say much and never talks about himself at all. This is fine i do not mind at all, as i know its a sign of him not being into me, its just the friendly chat i like. Yesterday he messaged me and said “Hi” i said Hi how are you ? no reply then he said “Hi again – no reply………. ok not talking then i thought fine by me, so just left it at that, then low and behold out of no where he shares MY timeline, direct link to my time line on his page ? ….. this has got me stumped,…. His not doing it for attention, because he would message me and not ignore me, so why has he done this ? never have i come across a guy /girl doing this,,,, i am wondering is it him showing me off to his mates ? …. anyone else had this, i mean i am pretty much in touch with men and there behavior but this has got me stumped. maybe some one can shed a light on this ? am i right ? in thinking his showing me off ? hopefully it may help others if they have come across this.

Reply June 26, 2014, 6:17 pm

Brittany

I had too many red flags that the relationship was only gonna crash and not be the same again. I met this guy on fb and we got alone real good, he was eager to meet me and told me and others that he liked me. He was always texting me, calling me beautiful and said that I would give him butterflies whenever I would talk to him. We finally met 2 weeks later and it was a double date, we got alone fine and had our 1st kiss and told me how much he enjoyed himself on his fb status. We hung out a few days later went to his place and watched movies, and made out. Afterwards I haven’t seemed him a couple weeks bc I was busy. We were suppose to hang out again but he didn’t wake up in time bc he was out late partying he stood me up a couple times always hanging out with his best friend who was a girl. I got jealous over that. We hung out the 3rd time and he seemed different. I confronted him and wanted to know what his problem was and he finally told me that he that was having second thoughts and said that he could see us together for a while but not forever and said that I needed someone better than him and kept distanced. I find out bc he was a heroin addict. I was so heart broken bc he led me on to vanish later. We didn’t talk in 5 months And met again at a funeral, he looked shocked to see me he hugged me but would stick around me and stayed cleared like I was intimidating to him. I contacted him on th and said that I accepted that we didn’t work out and wished him the best and that I wasn’t mad anymore. He messaged me back and told me that I caught him off guard but that it wasnt weird seeing me saying that he missed me and kept me in his thoughts and sometimes wished that we would of worked out. Still says that I’m beautiful and amazing. I tried asking him if he wanted to hang out this Sumer just as friends but he never got back to me so I feel stupid and shouldn’t of bothered. I won’t ever do that again but someone please tell me what you think?

Reply June 8, 2014, 5:16 pm

Jessica Lee Hughes

Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 5 months tomorrow we have 5 kids toget ther 3 are his and 2 are mine he works and i take care of them my 2 go to there dads every other week but his 3 live with us. But i really want him to love on me more or help me with thing when i ask i do everything he askes me to do and he dose nothing i ask but the mane thing is when we get ready to have sex he wants me to just please him like he dont kiss me or anything to get me ready he just wants me to suck him off wich i dont mind but i just wish he would like kiss me and rub on me first but its like there is no real Passion for me what should bi do?

Reply June 4, 2014, 11:24 am

eldon

Why are you taking care of him after only 5 months? Why are you allowing him to do NOTHING but babysit he and his kids? And the loving ain’t all that either? Go back, read your post and ask yourself what do u want..

Reply August 10, 2014, 10:52 am

sharon

Sounds to me this guy has the perfect slave ? it takes two to make a relationship work not one – (you). if you want to be a slave then let things be, but you have posted a comment about it , so your far from happy at being a slave to this so called man who thinks his GOD” (Show the guy) the DOOR…. right now. if it was me he would get my size 8 on the way out.

Reply August 14, 2014, 4:40 pm

Cute

Just to clarify on the question below , it’s only been a month since we started texting and we haven’t talked face to face in the one month.

Reply May 1, 2014, 5:26 pm

Cute

There’s this guy I’m totally into, met him 2 or 3 years ago where I used to work. Our interaction wasn’t much, but I bumped into him a few times over the last few months. And recently I realised that I actually like him, and he is friends with some friends of mine. So I got his number from my friend and sent him a text to say hi. We chatted a bit then next day he sent a text asking what made me text him and asked me if I had a thing for him, which I admitted and then he said he’s always found me attractive and wanted to get close to me etc but hadn’t wanted to do make it awkward because of my work. So we continued chatting everyday, he would text to say good morning etc although sometimes he would take long to respond to my messages but I understand he had work. Then there was an event over easter and I asked him if he wanted to come ( I had no one to go with but also thought I would enjoy his company) but he said he wouldn’t make it. After that I felt like maybe he didn’t really like me that much and after the whole easter thing it became awkward, and I also felt like maybe I pursued him too much by sending him that very first text to say hi and also asking him to go with me to the event. So I decided to lay off. Then the Tuesday after easter he called (until then we had never spoken on the phone, we would only text) to apologise for his silence and that he had a lot of pressure at work and he tends to withdraw when under pressure so I should not think he doesn’t want to talk to me. And we talked again the next day but I had still continued with my decision to let him be the one to pursue me. But since then he has been completely quiet and it’s a week now. Could it be that he really doesn’t like me? I don’t know if he expects me to reach out to him just because he told me about his work pressure, which I can’t do because I need to know that he’s interested in me by making an effort. At one point he told me that he ended an engagement last year, the girl really hurt him and he now has issues with trust and commitment. Was it a way of saying he doesn’t want a relationship? Please help, I don’t know what to make of all this. Thanks

Reply May 1, 2014, 5:18 pm

emma

i met this guy online… i know it wasnt planed. anyways we chatted and set it off flirted like crazy. then i messaged him and never got a reply… a week later after i stopped giving him attention he messages me and is even keener, and then is like can i kiss you wen we meet, and then asked to meet up in the next week, he then procceds to ask me if i thought he was hot (he would go to the gym alott and send me progress shots) i mean i found him attractive. and im not going to lie i am not ugly… but then he stoped txting me and i txt him asking wen he wanted to meet up and we arranged a time at night, and he suggested we go lay down on the beach, i sent a txt that day to confirm (heard nothing back) then it was begin to reach 6.15 pm and i got a txt saying sorry quit my job in the morning really stressed out and messed up cant make it…sorry.and then we did not speak for 8 weeks, i sent him a fb post wishing him a happy easter then got a reply 3 days later so i messaged him just being friendly asking how he was, he message back surprisingly and then i asked about the gym and yeah would say things like awww so proud of you babe. “you would look adorable in anything” then he started flirting with me, and asked me do u think friends with benefits ever works? i said well depends on the situation, some people develop emotions and thats not good” he said i just honestly can’t take the time out for a relationship at the moment and i replied “mmm dont know how thats going to work” i think he got a little cut. then we flirted again after that and the next day i messaged him (heard nothing) then sent another (heard nothing) what i wanna know is what the hell is his game? seriously , i no longer like him i am just curious

Reply April 25, 2014, 3:55 am

Jennifer

I met a guy that’s 39 yearsold on a dating site a couple of months ago. I’m 42. We went on few dates we get along great. I’ve held his hand twice and he put his arm around me. I met his family. He hasn’t ever dated anyone else and is a virgin. We had a conversation the other day where he told me he really respects and likes who I am but I’m not the type he is attracted to normally but him attractive enough. He asked if it came down to it would I marry a man that I was best friends with but didn’t sleep with. He also said he might eventually want to but as of right now he isn’t sure he would want to.

Reply April 19, 2014, 4:47 pm

Jenna

He’s gay.
Hun, what kind of man is 39 and a virgin and meets a beautiful woman such as yourself but doesn’t want to throw you on a bed and ravish you? Tells you you aren’t attractive enough?! I’ll tell you what kind. The gay kind. Ditch him.

Reply April 22, 2014, 11:01 pm

Meredith

He could also have erectile dysfunction, fear of scaring her away with his poor technique, or even be asexual and trying to clumsily cover for any of the above. Remember that he says he’s 39 and never been in a relationship, which is honestly a bigger deal to me than than being a virgin. Why don’t you just ask him what his type usually is? He COULD be gay, seeing as how he’s perfectly fine with you meeting his family but may never want sex with you. I always feel better after getting something big out in the open with boyfriend. And we’ve had some pretty comically big misunderstandings. If he means enough to you that you’re wondering about this instead of breaking up with him no questions asked, talk to HIM.

Reply May 2, 2014, 5:42 pm

Meredith

Now that I’m thinking about it, it’s possible that he may have a sexual hangup or kink that he doesn’t feel comfortable talking to you about yet. My advice stays the same: Ask.

Reply May 2, 2014, 5:53 pm

sharon

Sounds to me that this guy is being honest with you, he is a true GENT. Some people meet and are not always attracted to each other, but they get on like a house on fire …. this guy is telling you he doesnt fancy you but values your friendship he is being honest. But its possible that if your friendship grows, love might blossom.

Reply August 14, 2014, 4:52 pm

CuriousGirl

Okay,I’ve recently just started talking to this guy online(for about a week). He contacted me first actually wanting to get to know me! (Nothing sexual) He always told me “if you had anything to talk about,call me,wether im at work or whatever,i wanna be there for you”! Everything was goin good untill the 3td day,he started talking about sex! Like,he would say things like ‘When we get to that point,can we………’. Now all he talks about my butt,aha.Its turning me off!

And it kinda has me thinking he just want sex!

But i dont wanna come off as mean or pushy,because he told me “How you treat and talk to me,is how imma do you”.
Because he can.be a little sensitive! He’s white and im black,im 18 and he’s 23!

Does he just want sex? Is he a good guy? Should i stop talking to him?

Reply March 25, 2014, 3:20 pm

Jenna

The man is a straight up DOG! Be mean and pushy girl. He doesn’t deserve you. He only wants one thing, and it’s definitely not your heart….

Reply April 22, 2014, 11:04 pm

Lauren

I’ve been in a long distance relationship for 2 years;but we lived only a couple of hours away so that’s not so bad. We’ve decided to move in together next year because I had to stay for professional reason.
Although last week, before he said he didn’t want this relationship anymore. So I went there to talk it through and he said he needed a week to really think about what he wants. He has an ex gf who he stayed with for 4 years but it was over a few years ago. Now he said he misses her because she has the same hobbies and she’s perfect outdoor sports woman like him (but i’m not so good at them).
So he thinks she’s better match and he doesn’t know if i’m the love of his life. But he keeps saying i’m the perfect woman and that he misses me but he’s too confused and can’t ask me to wait so we broke up a few days ago. The thing is, his ex gf is not even single and she’s been in a committed relationship for a few years too now.
Is it wrong that i still want him in my life? that i still think he’s my perfect man.. I know it sounds wrong but yet I don’t care because I had my doubts before and now he has his.. I wanna support this through but I don’t even know if that’s a good idea. Advice?

Reply March 24, 2014, 4:53 pm

mia

so there is this guy that got back in contact with me out of the blue, after a couple of years. Initially, the few months after, we would chat. He would occasionally ask to meet up. then one day we did. Afterwards there was very little contact with him. He would never be available to chat. I didn’t mention anything since i figure he was busy with work and whatnot. This continued for months. I would always check for messages, or leave ones, but got short responses. We haven’t had a real conversation, let alone chat, in a long time. However, a few months back, we met briefly since he was around the area. Afterwards, again, hes never really there to chat. Im tired of mentally making excuses for him. I just want to talk to him as friends, but how can i if we dont talk? What does this mean/ why is he distant when he was the one who got into contact with me? Should i ask him about it, and how so? Is it a lost cause? I would like to know whats going on.

Reply January 24, 2014, 11:28 pm

Sapphyreopal5

I would move on with your life. If someone actually likes you, he will keep in contact as opposed to playing B/S games like this. I think that when people forgive things they actually do not appreciate at all and keeping doing such (and also making excuses for the person), they are doing themselves and the other person a disservice. It makes people more likely to try taking advantage of you. I think this is more of a lost cause honestly. It’s up to you what you do and asking doesn’t hurt, but I honestly would not get your hopes up about him.

Reply January 25, 2014, 11:07 am

Emily

Please the guy I like toled me he likes me. He would talk to me then it was Christmas break and we did not see each other when I got back he started to ignore me I will see him stare at me then whin I look at him he looks away like nothing happened when I talk to him he will answer then look away and whiny say any thing else

Reply January 24, 2014, 6:41 pm

Caroline

Ok so I’m a freshman and I met this junior, Bobby, in student council this year. He plays soccer. It’s January and our relationship has been building very well. He sits by me everyday usually and we talk and laugh and I even asked him for advice on this guy that liked me but I didn’t like him.also he had me as his secret Santa and he went so it off his way to make sure he got me something good that he asked my brother for advice and he’s not even really depends with my brother anyway.then the day we were supposed to exchange gifts he couldn’t be there cause he had the flu but he was so concerned that I want going to get my present that he came in that morning and dropped it off with a 100 degree fever. Another thing is last night after my bros basketball game I went down on the court to say hi to that guy that liked me because Bobby was down there.I was like hey Bobby and he was like hey Caroline. I was going for the first bump but then he hugged me! The hole time I was talking to the guy that liked me Bobby was making faces behind him cause he knew about it and I was like shut up Bobby playfully and he laughed.also we snapchat all the time.I always start out but he usually replies but some times he doesn’t which worries me and I really don’t want to be that annoying little freshman that has a crush on him.sorry this is long but any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Reply January 4, 2014, 11:21 pm

Abby

The boy I like has never spoke to me. We always, I mean ALWAYS make eye contact. I sometimes wonder if he’s maybe too shy to talk to me? I would try talk to him but I’m afraid he thinks I’m a creep..
I got moved to his group in one of my classes with 2 of my friends and he only speaks to them which then again makes me think that he dosent like me..
Then again, when I never liked him, I never seen him around.. But now I have feelings for him and after all the eye contact we make in classes he’s always there when I turn around!!
Any suggestions?

Reply January 1, 2014, 7:56 pm

Kay

For one keep calm and don’t make it too obvious to him that you like him. Since you’re in his group, ease your way into his conversation by laughing a bit at something amusing or saying a small comment about w/e. See how he is with you in conversation wise and maybe things will go well after that if he isn’t a jerk.

Reply January 1, 2014, 11:49 pm

Sara

I’ve liked this guy for about a year and over the summer we texted a lot, and they weren’t just flimsy conversations. When we saw eachother in school this year we had almost every class together. He walks with me between classes and we texted almost every night about homework or just to say good night. Then he started gving me mixed messages he would always tease me for liking our mutal friends who were guys, which I would deny and he even joked about holding my hand . Recently I went to suport him at one of his matches, he acted really excited to see me and I sat next to him while he waited for his turn. He then ignored me and only talked to the girl on the other side of him, but he kept taking pictures of me. I am so confused. I thought maybe he didn’t know I liked him so I’ve been trying to talk to him more and clue him in(basically everything short of saying I like him). So my questions are: does he like me? and what should I do?
Thank you,
Sara

Reply November 22, 2013, 11:57 pm

Jane

I met a guy like three years before. I liked him so like after one and half year i proposed him. He said no but we became friends and then after sometime we were in a relationship. it has been almost a year and half but i dont feel same anymore. The problem is he never did the thing i expected from him then we have fights and he promises to never make that mistake. I believed but then he does it again. I am so tired of all these things. Today i don’t wanna meet him and i hardly call. Whenever he calls he says he misses me so much and i feel so irritated. but when we have fights its again me who fix it up. I can’t breakup with him nor i wanna be in this relation. What should i do please help me

Reply November 5, 2013, 10:14 am

Jane

I met a guy like three years before. I liked him so like after one and half year i proposed him. He said no but we became friends and then after sometime we were in a relationship. it has been almost a year and half but i dont feel same anymore. The problem is he never did the thing i expected from him then we have fights and he promises to never make that mistake. I believed but then he does it again. I am so tired of all these things. Today i don’t wanna meet him and i hardly call. Whenever he calls he says he misses me so much and i feel so irritated. but when we have fights its again me who fix it up. I can’t breakup with him nor i wanna be in this relation. What should i do please help me

Reply November 5, 2013, 9:53 am

Stephanie

I’m a Junior in High school. I can say that I’m known by a lot of people and friendly to everyone. I’m a cheerleader and I have a major crush on this football player. Let me be honest here, I’ve never noticed him until recently when we were on this college trip for school. I was going up the escalator to the 2nd floor with my friends because they were wanting to order some smoothies, I look down at the cafeteria, we were sitting and eating lunch at the school and I see him staring at me as I leave the area. It was full on eye contact. Not sure on how many seconds it was but it was for some time. That’s when I started noticing him more. Yeah, I said many times before to everyone, “he’s adorable.” but I meant it in a friendly way and all of a sudden, I’m just starting to notice him. Anyway, that night it was a away game and my friends & I decided to go with some parents to the game and cheer on the boys since we’re cheerleaders anyway and my one friends boyfriend is on the team so that’s also another reason. I was talking to my friend and I was telling her, “Yeah, T (1st initial of his name) is adorable” and cheering him on after he got off the field. Later finding out that his father was sitting next to my friend and heard everything that I was saying about his son (and it was all friendly things, nothing mean). Weeks pass and its just been small glances at each other here and there. I feel like I’m being shy around him but again I don’t, I’m just being myself. Recently at the a away game that we had to cheer at, I noticed him glancing over a few times but I’m not relying on glances to indicate anything. So, I decided to man or woman up and message him on facebook, I said “Hey T. We haven’t talked in a while, but how are you doing?” Really, I haven’t talked to him much but still I said small things to him before and he had English/History with me last year so he kind of knows me/my personality a bit. He saw the message but didn’t reply. My friend said it was good that I messaged him and I planted the seed in his head, as in me making the first move to be friends with him and to get him to think about me. On facebook, if you know where it shows friends box and few people, well he sometimes pops up on random things on my facebook page and it feels like he goes to look at my page but I’m not sure. What does that mean? Should I even be worried that he didn’t reply or maybe he read but forgot to reply? What do you think or maybe it’s better if I start talking to him in person 1st?

Reply October 29, 2013, 5:39 pm

Tyra Robinson

I must say, I have a crush on a guy that is popular and as for me Im just plain old me. But the thing about him is that it was freshman year in high school and he came to my table in English class and he started talking to us then I was the only one that talked to him the most and honestly I started to develop feelings for him. This year I’m a sophomore and everytime I walk pass we..well he glances at me and I look down because I’m afraid that he might scowl at me but I try my best to run because my body language gave it all away and I saw him today and he walked the other way far from usual. Plus hes around a lot of girls that seem popular plus he’s a football player. Another thing is that at times I see him grinning at me. Idk its blurred lines for me right now I’m just confused and a little hurt. Does anyone have a clue of what he is doing?

Reply October 29, 2013, 3:20 pm

Kay

Has anything happened since then?

Reply December 8, 2013, 8:47 pm

Christina

I have a crush on this guy. We don’t talk at all. He’s popular and i’m just…known. I catch him staring at me sometimes or trying to steal glances at me and we always do this eye contact thing when we look at each other at the same time, but it’s purely accidental. He laughs with his friends and he would be like red and about to die from laughter and as soon as i walk by he immediately looks at me with a straight face as if he was never laughing. It’s weird to me because we don’t talk and he just gives me these blank stares like he’s trying to figure me out. What does this mean?

Reply October 28, 2013, 9:30 pm

Tayla

So theres tis guy i met at a pure events party, we clicked and he asked me for my number, i felt nothing then up until he started to make moves on me like hugging me from behind and all that ish, then i started to fall for him, hes one of my best friends friend and they go to the same school. he told me he felt something for me and that that night wasnt a hook up, i told him the same. all of a sudden he stopped messaging me, so i said hey when i saw he was online… but he ignored me, i asked him why he was ignoring me and then he ignored me again. i dont know what i did, im really confused, any one got some ideas as to why hes ignoring me…

Reply October 15, 2013, 8:14 am

anonymous

. I met this guy online and at first he was very sweet to me. he Is a very busy with work and school so we hardly had time to see each other often. at first, I really didn’t feel anything for him but he kept texting me evryday and even sending me pictures of what he is doing and things like that so I negan to like him. we ve had sex 2 times but recently he has been so distant. he didn’t message me for 3 days and when I asked he jst told me he had been busy with lots of eork. but after then I was the only one initiating contact. I’m just really confused because he did tell me that he was interested in me and I told him also. sometimes I see him online and he woundn’t even message me. I just also made up my mind not to message him and live my life. I just wish he would tell me if he isn’t interested anymore to save me the stress of not knowing.

Reply October 9, 2013, 5:45 pm

Kristie

This guy sent me a friend request on Facebook I accepted. Then he asked me if we had ever met before my answer was no. Then he says want to. I really reply to it. Then we actually start messaging back and forth a lot. We’ll I agreed to meet. So we set a place and time. We meet things go good. He ask me if I wanted to meet again I said yes. He tells me that he’s free every evening except on a certain day. I said ok. When I’m leaving he tells me to call him the next day. And of course I did . He said he wanted to meet but he was working late. I said ok. The next day he txt me and says his girlfriends back. I told him I hope it worked out and wished him the best of happiness. Then 3 days later I see him at a football game with her. He had to walk in front of me to get into the game. After they pass me he looks back at me and smiles. Then watches me the rest of the game. He keeps on his close friends list. And he checks out my timeline. I really like this guy but I don’t know what to think. Ihe keeps tabs on me I know for sure. Is he trying to keep me on the back burner in case they don’t work out again. Please help!!

Reply September 26, 2013, 10:42 pm

Kate

There’s this guy that I used to work with and he would come up and talk to me quite a bit. He was quite shy but when other girls started to join our conversation he wouldn’t really talk to them the way he talked to me seeming a little bit disinterested. At the time I didn’t really think about it then all of a sudden I had this massive crush on him. He then quite where we were both working to focus on school. While this was happening I was still instant messaging him.

I’ve found out that we have heaps in common such as music, sport and subjects and other little things. Except I’m always the one starting the conversation and asking the questions. He doesn’t ignore them but i’m still the one doing the work. This has been going on for a couple of months in hope that he would start a conversation first, but it hasn’t happened yet. So i’ve decided not to talk to him for a while because i’ve been quite busy.

What I want to know is if he is interested in me. Because I think he definitely was before but ever since he quit and i’ve only been talking to him on Facebook it seems different. He is also really shy so i’m not sure if thats a contributing factor aswell. It could also possibly be that its our last year of school (we just have some exams in a couple of weeks then we’re done) and he doesn’t want a relationship at the moment. Or is he disinterested???

Reply September 26, 2013, 7:03 pm

stacey

I had a huge crush on a guy when I was a sophomore in high school who showed no interest in me whatsoever. He was a football & baseball player. I used to hang around the ballpark all the time just because of him. He knew I had a crush on him and eventually became irritated that I was showing up to his games all the time. He even told his friends that he had no interest in me. When they told me I was heartbroken & igot on with my life.

About a year later later, in my junior year, I had a guy friend who was also friends with this same guy tell me that one day I was walking by them hanging out during lunch and this guy suddenly flipped out and told him I was “hot” and that he would love to go out with me but was too shy to come right out and ask. I thought that was strange because he had told people he had zero interest in me a year before. I remember whenever he would see me at his games he would get this irritated scowl on his face like he wanted me to get the hell away & now he is telling all his friends he wants to go out with me! Very strange!

By that time, I had moved on & was dating someone else. This guy now was the one who started showing up everywhere I went. He would walk by my classes all the time. He would stare at me the entire lunch period & wait for me after school. He found out where I lived & started driving by my house, especially at night. His friends would tell me that he talked about me non stop. It got really weird. This went on for over 2 yrs, even after graduation. It’s now been almost 30 yrs ago and a mutual friend from school, who I ran into a few weeks ago, told me this guy still asks about me to this day and wants to know “Whatever happened to that good-looking girl?”

Maybe my story is the exception, but sometimes they do an about-face. Same thing happened with a friend of mine & her husband. He used to hate her and thought she was a “leech” who wouldn’t leave him alone. They’ve now been happily married for over 25 yrs and have kids and grandkids. So yeah, it can happen sometimes.

Reply September 22, 2013, 2:53 am

Joe

I researched Softmore high school age, so assume you was 15-16 at that time, how old was he? Only thing I can assume is that at that age a year later can make a difference in a girls attractiveness. I know when I was that age group many 15 y/o dawky girls ended up becoming very attractive a few years later, and vice versa some of the most beautiful girls I remember when I was 15 had lost it within a few years later. But the stalking aspect and fact that he still goes on about you 30 years later makes me feel that his life screwed up and he sees you as the one that could of been.

Reply September 24, 2013, 3:01 pm

Confusedgal

It’s been about 9 months that I keep seeing a guy from my uni everywhere, he stares at me everytime he sees me and looks away when I look back. we see each other on the same train to uni or in the train station and at the start he used to look at me and instead of sitting facing me he would change seats so he would have his back on me, then turn around every few mins and check to see if im looking at his direction. This then changed and he started sitting opposite to me at the far end though, and just stare and look away. recently hes been smiling and walking past, but he has some sort of an arrogance in his behaviour, that tends to make me confused as to why he stares and smiles if hes not interested ??? he looks away like “I’m too good for you” then keeps looking back to see if im looking at him…. and well of course I AM ! :/ he has never approached me and stands as far as possible whenever he can, but still continues to watch me. is there a chance that he has a gf and that’s why he hasn’t approached me yet, but just likes to look at me, or is he playing hard to get ? and what should my reaction be from now on? sorry for the long question i’m just way too confused. I come home smiling and continuously remember hes looks and smiling, its getting way too much :/

Reply September 15, 2013, 4:14 am

Joe

So true. Considering linking this to my fb wall! Its exactly the signals I have been sending both subconsciously and consciously to a girl that I think might be interested in me. We are friends from Uni, since Uni finished I have only met her once, I have never been attracted to her in anyway but in Uni I did occasionally get the sense that she might of been attracted to me. Since we finished Uni, she would occasionally message me once in a while and we would chat on text/whats app or facebook etc and I had no problem with that, but then the messages started getting more frequent and more mundane. Just random hello how are u every couple of days etc. Before this she had a habit of imitating certain things about me, e.g I once mentioned I had a pet bird and then a week later she messaged me telling me she had bought a bird, she also seems to like going on holiday to places that I have previously visited etc. So once the messages from her became more frequent I thought the best way would be to just snub her politely, by not responding to her hello’s in a way that would lead to a conversation etc. E.g Her: Hey, how you doing? Me: Good thanks, hope your well. Instead of taking the hint she tried to adapt and find a work around, and resorted to asking random questions that she hoped would at the very least arouse my curiosity e.g one was “Hey what do you know about North Korea” to which I responded “not much” pretty certain she was hoping/expecting a “why” in my responde, also started inviting me to random facebook events, randomly liking pics I uploaded on FB months before at 3am, randomly messaging me telling she told a photographer friend she met on facebook to add me because I might be able to help him, even thou I have no clue about photography, but I do a lot of photoshop stuff etc. That was my last contact with her yesterday and the first time I have straight up ended up blanking her. I responded with: I don’t accept friend request from people I have never met, i looked at the link she sent of the guys work and really from the pics i saw felt indifferent to it but told her his work looked nice to be polite, I mentioned I don’t know much about photography but, being the polite guy that I am, I told her to tell him he could message me if he had questions and if I could help I would try. Thought that would be that but then she replies with a message trying to initiate a conversation, using his work and her analysis of it, and I just didn’t bother responding. Not out of rudeness but frustration that someone can miss such obvious stop annoying me signals! If the same annoying messages and behaviour continues I will probably just post this article on my FB wall, cos describes the news perfectly!

Reply September 12, 2013, 9:59 pm

Angel

I think you should post the article. Thank you for being polite to her, that’s a great type of character to have, but you’re also letting the situation continue. She probably stalks your profile, so after reading this, hopefully she’ll stop and won’t ever repeat her behavior in the future. Just my opinion..

Reply September 14, 2013, 1:44 pm

Joe

Lol, kinda hard now cos the minute she scrolls through these comments she will see mine and know its about her. Thankfully since i ignored the fb message i mentioned, she has not messaged me any personal messages or made attempts to start conversations per say, her only communication has been two messages with just the links to articles and no nonsense that she usually sends so that was cool and left me not feeling obliged to respond. So I think she has gotten the hint and now hopefully her response is not the usual resentment that some girls seem to resort too.

Reply September 21, 2013, 3:33 pm

Joe

Found a work around and hey presto no messages for 3 weeks now. Got a girl to randomly ask me that question on my wall saying she was researching male behaviour etc and I responded with my hints n other guys mostly agreed. The funny thing about my unwanted admirer is that the next day she sent me two messages just with links to articles, I am pretty certain not to appear ‘guilty’. Since then my news feeds have shown a couple of cryptic posts from her, but can’t say if she’s cursing me cos even before she was the type to regularly be posting cryptic attention seeking posts etc .

Reply October 19, 2013, 9:41 am

Angel

Haha smart move, & at least she has stopped. Hopefully she has learned a lesson on what not to do when you like a guy!

Reply October 20, 2013, 4:27 am

Fazela

I met this guy online at first he said he want to be serious and he says all the nice things that a girl would like to hear. I thought that I met prince charming. After 2 months he started logging off on me because I don’t want to send him a private picture then after a month he said forget about the picture he is just testing me to see if I am a decent woman. Since then we hardly get to talk I have sent him a lot of e-mails and messages and he said his working really hard to finish his contract job so he can fly and come to meet me. I keep telling him that when a man loves a woman he make time for her no matter how busy he is. He hardly log in to chat with me and when he does it is just for a short time and he gets angry when I ask questions. I seems he is stressed with his job and taking it out on me. He also swears sometimes and he tell me I don’t appreciate the time he is giving me. I feel like he is doing me a favour by spending time with me. I love this guy but i don’t like the way he is treating me. He logs of or threaten to log of on me somtimes. It seems he just want me to listen to him and respect him. He feels that he have the upper hand. I love this guy. I want him to see my true value and treat me like a queen and a diamond. What do I do? What do I say to him? When ever I tell him how I feel he says I am nagging. He sometimes send short messages that he is thinking of me day and night and I am always in his heart. Also the message says he misses me. I am confused if he misses me why does’nt he find the time to chat with me 1 hr a week at least. I put my self on hold for him for months. How do I get him to chase me? I want him to realize he would lose me and I want him to start thinking I do not want someone else to have her.

Reply September 5, 2013, 1:23 pm

Helen

I would just move on. What he is doing is abusive and if he is doing this now without even had met, he will be worse in person. I also have a feeling that he is fake. This is online dating right? I was chatting with a guy online and something similar occurred like your story. I would just move on. There are many people that will give you the time of day you deserve! Love yourself.

Reply September 10, 2013, 2:40 pm

zahra

no, he is not intrested in you . he is looking for some good time , he tried but you refused so now he has no intrest .you want him to treat you like a queen , how will you ask him ,well you cant, a good man will treat you like one , you dont have to ask them.

you are going to see a better man , a gentleman , who will love you and treat you better because you deserve one .and you will find him if you act wise ,dont make rash decisions and wait ….

Reply October 11, 2013, 1:48 pm

Cs

I had exactly the same experience like yours. I am true to my feelings, after few chats with some guys before him, he was the one I found really comfortable with. My dream is always to have a white bf. I am Asian,by the way. But, he was busy. After 2 weeks, I could hardly notice that his messages sounded just “COLD”. I knew the fact that he’s no longer interested or has no interest since the beginning. I did not ask him about that, I can take it that he is not serious.I gave him my time to talk, with all hope and my heart. It hurt me that he was not true. At least he should let me know that he did not like me. Boys are like that, they don’t want to admit their true feeling. They think it is a best way not to hurt girls and not having girls treating them as liars. Or they lose their manhood. In fact, we girl just want truth. It hurt me, but I want to move on. No one has right to break my heart. You should move on and you will find a man who will want to give you all his time, no matter how busy he is….

Reply April 22, 2014, 2:45 pm

Girl

There’s a guy that I like, he told me he liked me, and we hung out and flirted and had tons of fun! Then he ignored me, we haven’t talked in forever or hung out. He won’t answer my texts or anything. I’m wondering is he over me or is he playing some kind of game. Cuz whatever it is I don’t like it!

Reply August 21, 2013, 11:38 pm

Astrid

Been there. Best thing to do is don’t over analyze things. What happens happens. If you two truly we meant to be it will happen. Until then live your life each day to fullest. Make your life so amazing people will want to be in it with you. First step in that is positive thinking. Recognize just how beautiful and amazing you truly are. One in a million, and if he doesn’t want to meet back up with you, his loss. You would think he would have the decency to say why…but he is a guy and they are a different species. I’m sure a better one will some along, you were probably too good for him anyway. : )

Reply August 22, 2013, 5:40 pm

Izzy

So there’s a guy and he started talking to me towards the end of the year. He started talking to me but I’m afraid he thinks of me as a friend. I texted him and asked if he wanted to be a part of my quinceanera. He texted back saying that he was sorry but he felt he would embarrass me and that he can’t dance but he said that he didn’t want me to forget him and he would still like to be there to celebrate with me. A few days later I thought I’d text him. So I did a but he never responded. I’m a little confused…

Reply July 30, 2013, 5:22 pm

katy

I have to say Eric, I really wish you would just go ahead and write a book! Would buy that in a heart beat!

Reply July 28, 2013, 9:45 pm

lily

So there is this guy, we started texting for a while and he was so sweet.he put my name in his contacts as “babe* he kept on saying ilove you, but then he said i think of you as a sister! And then he kept on flirting with me in a physical way , lile holding my hand hugging me tight , he whispered i love in my ear.. And then he said as a sister! And he kept on flirting alot.. Then he stopped texting me at all.. And ignored me for a couple of times when i saw him and he always leaves early and i dont get to talk to him alot.. And i really have a crush on him.. What should i do please help:( please..

Reply July 10, 2013, 6:45 pm

Sapphyreopal5

I hate to break it to you Lily but this guy is playing you. His behavior is rather cruel and he is not into you. If he really liked you, he wouldn’t ignore you, find reasons to leave early, etc.; in fact, he’d be doing the exact opposite. He’d be looking for reasons to talk to you, hang around you longer, etc. The fact he telling you “loves you as a sister” is his way of letting you know he does not have romantic interest in you but is sending mixed signals with his hugs and holding your hands.

This is someone you should move on from big time. I don’t want you to get played, so please for your sake forget about this guy.

Reply July 27, 2013, 8:31 pm

misty

hi, I’ve known my current bf for a year and a half and we’ve just celebrated our one year anniversary. I am moving away for four years to somewhere that is an hour and ahalf flight from him. Weve been having confusion regarding what will happen in the future with respect to our relationship. Leading up to me leaving he has expressed that he’s had dreams of me cheating while I’m away etc. A month later while we had drank a bit after a romantic dinner he had told me that he is curious about other woman , wants to experience other ppl & misses the chase…I was shocked all the while he was telling me this, he wouldn’t look me in the eye. I tried to leave but he insisted on trying to make things better & talk. Eventually I talked to other men feeling rejected and he found out & became very emotional. We made up but I eventually began ignoring him. He flew in from a work trip to talk- I tried to break up with him several times but he insisted he did not mean what he said & that he realized he would never want that-Is he telling the truth? Did he really mean what he said about experiencing other ppl? Or did he say it out of fear and confusion over our long distance relationship to come?
Note: what he said was extremely out of character-throughout our year together he’s very loving & respectful

Any advice would be greatly appreciated! I need to know wether to let this go & believe or know that it is bull

Reply July 3, 2013, 12:24 pm

Sapphyreopal5

I don’t know all the details to your relationship or how things were before you moved. With what you said here, it does seem like he was feeling this way because of being confused and upset about your moving away so far away (not sure why you’re moving [school?]). Long distance relationships are pretty difficult to maintain for a multitude of reasons, one of the most difficult ones being that well you just can’t be near each other as much as you’d like. Can’t touch, hold, kiss, etc. each other and it can be rather painful and difficult.

To me personally it sounds like he is afraid of you leaving. I personally dated a guy for 2 and a half years only for him and I to discover I am moving to an entirely different state 650 miles away (am a college student currently living with my parents and felt it was best for my future to go with them for those reasons and more).

It destroyed our relationship the last few months we were together because both of us were very upset about my moving. He felt very betrayed and was thus very angry at me for “leaving” him. May be your guy is feeling the same way deep down, like you are “leaving” him behind and are “moving on” because of being so far away in the future. A lot of people wouldn’t want to know when their connection with life or with others is going to end. When people are given ultimatums like that, it really can wreck havoc on relationships (and people in this situation get fearful, hurt, highly insecure, etc.).

As the sad story goes, he ended up actually cheating on me a few days before I moved for me to have this fact discovered months later, some of the reasons including that he had serious abandonment issues and has severe fears of being alone. My point is that situations like this can really pluck away at people’s heart strings and that very well could be the case with your guy (being afraid of you ultimately leaving). I mean he DID fly out there to go see you after all; you can’t just not take that into account, you know?

Those are just my personal thoughts and something I can greatly relate with you on. I hope my post helps you out at least somewhat

Reply July 27, 2013, 8:19 pm

Sapphyreopal5

My point is, it sounds like he cares for you and said that out of fears of abandonment and well you leaving. I mean he might have curiosity about experiencing others and whatnot (by the way, are you his “first love”? This could have something to do with it too) but to tell you the truth, I think he cares a lot more about being with you than experiencing others.

I hope this helps you out and that my word of advice is not too late! Good luck with everything and hope everything turns out for the better no matter which route you take.

Reply July 27, 2013, 8:24 pm

angie

Mixed signals!
One of the boys at school started talking to me early this year.in fact,he started texting quite a bit and stuff and even walked me home from camp.i’d even heard from some people that he apparently liked me for a while but then again that could be a joke.At one point,even his brother started teasing us -,- .this guys not exactly much of an extrovert.Infact he barely talks to girls and mostly sticks around with his guy friends and plays bball.Suddenly, a week or so ago,he stopped texting me.These days,it’s just the customary “hi”or a few awkward glances.he never initiates a conversation and it’s kinda leaving me confused.i mean does he like me or NOT?!

Reply June 27, 2013, 5:55 am

Sapphyreopal5

It sounds like he does like you but is afraid to say it or act on it. Is it possible that may be the reason he doesn’t initiate conversation is because he is afraid he might be bothering you or possibly just doesn’t want to be rejected? He could’ve stopped talking to you because he doesn’t think things are going anywhere (like you aren’t getting his way of saying he likes you). I think you should say something like “why haven’t you been talking to me as much this past week?”

It’s unfair to expect him to make all the first moves, let alone to expect all guys to always make the first move. That can be very intimidating for many people (not exclusive to women either).

Reply July 27, 2013, 8:44 pm

zayaa

I am kinda having a liking for this guy because of how he treats me.

I am really confused.

There was this time when he knew that I was in a certain place and he texted me that he just arrived there. I told him(by text) where exactly where I was. And he told me that he didn’t know the place. I was waiting for his reply. It took so many minutes when I received his three texts that read “I don’t know where that is.”, “Oh wait. I know where you are.”, and “I’ll go there.”
I asked him where he was but we couldn’t seem to find each other. We were texting and texting what color was I wearing where he was. Until I saw him and called his name. He smiled. And I asked him if he wanted to come with me he said “No it’s okay.” And when we were a stone throw away he texted me “I didn’t come with you coz I’m kinda shy around your friends.”

There was also this time when we passed each other. I was walking on the catwalk when I saw him. I saw him first so I was just looking at him as we walk closer to each other. And then he saw me and he smiled and said something I didn’t understand ‘coz people were noisy. But I smiled back.

Also there was this time when we were coincidentally in the same place. I was standing behind him. So I called his name and he said “Oh! It’s you!”(His tone was really different) and after that sentence there was a really awkward silence. We were just staring at each other while he was smiling so I smiled too. I didn’t know what to do so I just said “Hi.” and walked away ‘coz his friends were at his back.
And after that he texted me immediately “I was out of words because I was stunned to see you there. Haha.”

(P.S. The tone of his voice was so diff. I was really expecting him to tease me. Because he does. But this time he’s serious. I’ve never seen him like this.)

I asked a guy a bout this and he said “Can’t you see that he likes you?! It’s obvious! The effort he made just to see you! And next time if you’re both in the same places at once, make sure you’re alone. Because he wants to spend time with you.”

But seriously. I don’t want to really start liking him if he doesn’t like me back. Answer me? :)

Reply June 21, 2013, 5:19 am

zayaa

Well, there’s this guy I am kinda having a slight liking to because of how he treats me.

When he knew we were in the same place, he asked me where I was and I told him he said “I’ll go there.”. And when we saw each other I asked him to come with me(while I’m with my friends), he didn’t come he just smiled and said “No, it’s okay”. And when we(me and my friends) were slightly far already, he texted me “I didn’t come coz I’m kinda shy towards your friends.” I asked a guy about this and he told me “He obviously wants to spend time with you alone. And next time, when he asks you or tell you that he’ll come to you. Maje sure you’re alone. Ok?”

And there was this time that we ran into each other I saw him first (so I was looking at him while he’s coming towards me) and when he sees me he smiled and said something I didn’t really understand but I smiled back.

And also, when I saw him and he was just 2 feet away from me (but he didn’t see me yet coz he was looking in front and I was at his back) I was surprised to see him there. So I called his name and he looked shocked and said “Oh it’s you!” and smiles. There was a really awkward silence there. We were just standing there looking at each other. And I just said “Hii!” and walked away(coz his friends were behind him and I was to shy). After that he texted me that he was out of words when he saw me coz he was stunned at my pressence.

(P.S. I was expecting him to tease me coz he usually does. But this time he’s serious. The tone of his voice isn’t the way it used to be. He was serious when he said “Oh it’s you! :)”. That’s why I was also out of words coz he was really silent while we looked at each other. Never expected that to happen.)

I asked about this to another guy and he said that “Can’t you see? The effort he did just to see you! He likes you and I’m saying this because of “guy intuition”.”

But I don’t really know. I’m confused and I don’t want to like him is he’s not gonna like me back. So answer me? :)

Reply June 20, 2013, 9:39 am

Destany

If your guy friends are saying, “yes, it’s obvious he likes you,” then you clearly need to take their word for it. I really don’t understand why you’re so confused about this guy. From a girl’s perspective, I can tell he likes you as well. Go for it!

Reply September 8, 2013, 8:00 pm

Madaleine

Well this just ruined all my hopes. Now I know for sure that the person I love so much really doesn’t reciprocate the same feelings. That’s really depressing…all my hopes have been officially crushed…

Reply June 5, 2013, 7:57 pm

Astrid

Do not assume Anything, this goes for anything in life.

Reply June 7, 2013, 4:38 pm

Ku

So I met this guy on Facebook and we were talking for about a month and then we started texting and we have been texting every day for 6 months. I really like him but there’s a problem he has a girlfriend of 7 months. Every time I would be like ooh how is your relationship and he would be like ooh it’s okay. Or he’ll be like ooh she always gets mad for everything and she wants to be with me 24/7 and he’s like come on I need my space but I told him that’s your girlfriend your supposed to spend time with her and he said no so I changed the subject I have asked him if he dad had any feelings for me and one time he said he liked me in a way but the last time I asked him he said not yet. I am super confused & idk what to do my friends say I’m just goanna end up hurting myself & I know but I like him a lot

Reply May 31, 2013, 2:54 am

Mya

I told a guy I liked him and he said that he doesn’t feel the same way. I apologised and he saidhe was sorry too. I said if he felt awkward then just tell me. He said its aawkward but it’s okay. Then I said don’t worry I think it will fade away. He didn’t replyme for two days then he ssuddenly pops up and says sorry I took so long to reply. Now he takes hours to reply one text but when I give him one word replies he still continues the conversation. Does he feel bad for me or smth? I’m just really confused if he doesn’t want to talk then he just doesn’t have to.

Reply May 30, 2013, 1:02 am

Chica-Advisr

Maybe he likes you as a person and wants you to stay in his life as a friend, but doesn’t like-like you. It’s pretty simple, really. If you think of yourself with someone who said “I really like you in that way” and then you said “sorry I don’t feel the same” but you think they’re funny/smart/nice otherwise in general, you’d just take a short break, let the awkwardness blow over, and then (try to) continue the friendship right?

Reply July 10, 2013, 6:20 pm

emva

I can relate to 9, doesn’t say I love you blah blah blah, aka i know you won’t react well to it….

thing is I calmly broke things off because I told him he’s not very affectionate….a week later he’s begging for me back….telling me it’s me that he wants etc….so what the hell does THAT mean.

Because if he didn’t like me wouldn’t me leaving him be perfect for him to leave and never look back?

Reply May 10, 2013, 3:58 pm

lisa

i have the same problem with my current boyfriend. he’s not as affectionate as i was expecting/hoping him to be. friends tell me i’m supposed to teach him by being patient and by telling him what i want. but i want him to just be affectionate and sweet and caring all the time naturally. i mean, come on. my ex was like that. he used to take care of me and cater to me. that’s my type of guy. so i always break up with my boyfriend because he’s not good enough for me. but he always begs for me to take him back. so it’s like a cycle. i really want to end this. right now i’m blocking his texts… so that i wouldn’t need to communicate or hear whatever he has to tell me……..

it all just sucks. the worst thing is, i might be pregnant. shit!

Reply May 19, 2013, 7:01 pm

Theresa

I have been a relationship with a very nice man for two years this June. We met on play station home of all places through his daughter. We have gone slow learning about each other not rushing things. He and I both feel that we’ve known each others for years. I’ve been having doubts about where we stand with each other since we haven’t spent time together on home so to speak. He says nothing has changed, still feels the same even though we are not spending time on home. He says he’s bored of home. So now he’s always on a Xbox game forezamotorsport, we’ve played. But I get bored of the game. I’ve asked point blank does he want to be together and he says yes. Bottom line I’m more social than he is and because he is not a talker it’s hard to tell what is going on. I think part of it is that he is comfortable and taking things for granted to a point. Just so you know we have met, and will be meeting again we get on great. I’m just concerned. I hear what you say about men and the way they are wired and agree wholeheartedly. He displayed his love by being with me through the game, giving me things. We say we love each other ll the time. Long distance is hard to say the least. He has already asked me
To be with him so it is a matter of timing when it happens, just there are times when I have doubts and I don’t think he gets it because men don’t think as women do.

Reply April 24, 2013, 11:43 pm

Ashley

Okay so I have know this guy for two years and we have a connection. I was not meaning to fall in love, but I am also very attracted to him. He lives in Va and is in the army. I live in Nc. Once a year I go up there and we see each other. Neither of us currently are looking to settle down by any means. I know he like me a lot, and I am confident enough in my self to realize if he feel the exact same way as I do, we will be together for love always finds a way. I got a little nervouse when I saw him last but in a cute way. I was very pretty that night, but at one point I had that thing happen in back of my through making it hard at one point for my words to come out. We held hands on the way to his house and made out….yes while he was driving, hot I know right! As he brought me home hand in hand, my palm began to sweat and he noticed…and im not the sweating type. I told him to text me anytime or i will just text next time im back in va. I might be over thinking this but would it be wrong to text him first? I get butterflies from this guy! Help me out gals!

Reply April 16, 2013, 9:04 am

Hello:)

the tone thing got me… he does the same thing with other girls U_U :’(

Reply April 6, 2013, 8:59 pm

Kiyana

So me and this guy liked each other forever until I moved then it got fuzzy and then I wasn’t allowed to date and now I am so we start texting him and we were just having the time of our life getting to know each other again I was so happy but my friend gets a hold of my phone and asked him if he still he still had feelings for me and he text back no not really and so u know I was crushed and I told him I did not ask that and he said it was okay and we don’t text as much any more he doesn’t talk to me the same as before and then months after I saw him at an important event and I saw and acted like I didn’t but then he came Nd sat next to me and my family we joked Little and then he left and I didn’t speak to him the rest of the night but we kept running into each other but any ways I think he doesn’t like me as much as we liked each other before what should I do.

Reply April 6, 2013, 5:25 pm

ann

I met this guy shortly after almost gettn married and still living @ my ex’s apartment; I liked him and he sorta startd asking for my number and wanting to be close I opened up n told him I needed a litl more time cos I wasn’t ready to be close @ dt time . He rememberd my birthday n got me a huge cake which gt me so emotional all so I told hm I didn’t wanna lead him on n I was sorry bt m just so scared of being close to any guy at the moment, he stopped calling n chatting wt me as often as before then . 2months later, I feel sorta better then he startd pestering bout us dating again so I agreed then I notice he only wants to visit @ night and he smokes pot . Talked to him bout stopping that but he doesn’t listen and once he tried smoking it when I came visiting. Lately, he doesn’t call for like 3 days in a row,doesn’t initiate chats even when I know he’s online, I ignored him for 2 days n he suddenly startd calling n acting good but the moment I startd chatting with him as usual he’s gone back to his no calls and no chats.don’t know what to do cos I don’t wanna be too impulsive and end the relationship but all of this just gets to me and I don’t know if am risking my emotions and should have waited a longer while before getting in a relationship. What do I do?

Reply March 30, 2013, 2:19 am

Iris

I believe you can do better than this guy. He is obviously now using you. Trust me I am speaking from experience. If a person truly cares for someone they wouldn’t be doing what he is doing to you. Forget about him and find somebody else.

Reply March 30, 2013, 12:32 pm

Chica-Advisr

I agree with Iris x 1000

Reply July 10, 2013, 6:42 pm

Brittany

Well i have been talking to this guy for a month now, im really starting to like him & we talk everyday but i use to make all the effort till i stopped then he did but lately he hasnt been keeping conversations going. Also when i would try planning to hang out he cant or doesnt seem to try. I mean i understand he is busy but still. So what should i do?

Reply March 25, 2013, 7:34 pm

Niki

Hi…what sighns You have written here are True… I am going through this in my life now. My ex keeps on talking about He having relationship with other girl and I know that very well that he is not interested in me or not into me. I m very hurt… I know he dosent want to be with me , He wants to give those things to the other girl. I have cried a lot … and i always wanted him to come back to me but i have realised its all about priorities and I am not at all his priority. After joining New Mode , I have realised many psycological things which are applicable and True. Well i have learned a lot from all This.
Anyways its high time for me to be an option in my ex’s life , when i know that he wants to be with some other girl and he dosen’t want me in his life. I have decided to walk out of his life…

Reply March 8, 2013, 1:49 am

RI

Hey all. My story is probably the opposite of this. I broke up with my boyfriend just almost a week ago (we were on and off) but it feels like this is final. I just have a feeling that he still loves me. But how do i know that when he hasn’t called me or ask how I’m doing? Has he stopped loving? We broke up because we both said something bad to each other so it was mutual.

Reply March 7, 2013, 3:31 pm

Mery

and what if the guy seems really comfortable with ALL the other girls around him? I mean, he touches and hugs them casually with no problem, he compliments them a lot, he’s kind and he like all of their pictures on Facebook?
And with you, you only, he teases you instead of making a compliment, he seems really troubled whether to touch you or not, he tells you in a straight way to avoid staying too close to him when you are alone, but at the same time he keeps on staring at you and watching every move you make and listening and remembering everything you say, he’s really hard to make you a compliment and never likes any picture of you on Facebook?
Does he like the whole girl world, except you?

Reply February 26, 2013, 8:01 pm

Lisi

It sounds like he likes you more than the rest of the world :)

Reply March 13, 2013, 12:17 pm

Romii

i have a crush on this cool guy who studies with me but the problem is that he’s always alone and never talks to anyone he doesn’t have friends in our college so i added him on facebook and we chatted twice he was nice a bit quiet and mysterious as usual , he said it’s just his nature being not talkative and he doesn’t mind people talking to him he’s not complicated , i also saw some of his pics on facebook with a lot of his friends having so much fun and mostly they are girls so he’s not a loner or anything he just doesn’t have friends in our college and i’m not sure he’s interested in making new ones he rushes out whenever he’s done in order to meet his buds and doesn’t hang much around there , so what should i do? how should i talk to him and get him to talk to me? cause i really like him and knowing that he still doesn’t know me in reality should i reveal myself out of the blue or wait for him to ask me to introduce myself?? please guys i need your answers real soon and thanks

Reply February 7, 2013, 5:47 am

Serena

I really need help. A couple of weeks ago a boy just talked to me at facebook. I didn’t really know him, but he was once at the same party like a half year ago. So he asked my number and we texted a lot, he’s was always texting me first and I actually found him annoying. A week later we got our first date, he asked me. It was fun, I was shy and we didn’t talk like much. We sheared a kiss at the end of the night. For 2 weeks we texted each other all the time and he asked me to go on a second date, so I said yes. It was fun and we kissed again & he walked me home. But after that date I got confused. He didn’t text me anymore, I always had to start a conversation, so I asked him; what do we have together? And he said, I want to try, but only if you want too. I just wanted to know where I was with him, if we’re a thing or I could still meet other guys.

But after that nothing changed, if I didn’t text him first we don’t talk with each for days. And if we’re in a conversation, he just stops texting me for 3 days. So I had nothing to lose and asked him if he liked me & he said yes I like you. But he’s still not showing it & I’m getting really tired and don’t text him anymore till he text me first. I don’t know what to do, he says he likes me, but he’s not putting effort in it.

Also, I’m very insecure about myself & he’s making that worse.

Sorry for my English! We’re both 16 btw.
I have always been marture for my age, and he’s not, and it’s really annoying.
My friends tell me I should stop with him, and I agree with them. Only I can’t. I don’t want to like him, but I do.

Reply January 13, 2013, 6:08 pm

vanisha

hey! why don’t you ask a guy friend of yours to act as your romantic interest? maybe that will get your guy to notice you! let him burn a bit, and hopefully he’ll realise :)

Reply February 3, 2013, 12:55 pm

Cassie

My problem is that I went out with this guy when I was younger (6 years ago) and now we are chatting and flirting again, He approached me by asking me about a cutesy nickname he had for me when we dated the first time and spoke about different things we had done together (days out etc.) He calls me babe and he arranges to meet (general, not specific) but I saw him when I went out with friends and he was quiet the next day (texting.) and he didn’t say hello to me that night when both sets of friends were there but he checked on me a few times during the night and asked me how I was etc. . When we talk he is sweet, looks at me and appears to be listening and all of his texts have kisses, but I don’t know if they mean anything. Also he is on holiday right now but we had a brief chat a couple of days ago and he seemed aloof, still polite but not as interested, if that makes sense?

I guess I’m asking, does he like me or should I give up? Because I am confused as to why he approached me how he did if all he wanted was a friendship, why bring up happy past memories of when we were together, for no reason?
I’m so confused!

Reply December 29, 2012, 5:48 am

nura

Hi all,
I need som advice/guidance (don’t we all!)
This is my situation; I knew this guy from the age of 15. He and I were friends, always have been. Fast forward to age 23; he likes me, I told him I like him too. Anyway we quickly become boyfriend/girlfriend, and we have sex (yes I lost my virginity to him). The problem is tthis guy is horrible. Not in the sense that he’s mean, he just never says or does anything nice. What I don’t understand is I’m way out of his league, and I’m not saying that because I’m delusional/cocky its actually the case; I’ve been told I’m very attractivee I graduated from one of the top universities in London, I work as a consultant, I’m very respectfule, etc. He just does not appreciate me. I’m convinced he’s using me for sex? He never makes time for me, claiming he’s busy but he will go out with his friends. And they last 3 times we met we had sex IN THE CAR. Gosh I’m disgusting. I want to punch his face . How do I get away from him? Honestly his dismissive ways are so attractive to me.

Reply December 19, 2012, 7:30 pm

Sabrina Alexis

I’m gonna be straight with you. People in general value that which they have to work for. That which is readily available isn’t nearly as special. You can be a supermodel, but if you act needy or are always available to a guy no matter how badly he treats you, he’ll continue treating you badly and won’t start appreciating you despite the fact that you’re way out of his league.

By sticking around, you’re telling this guy that you’ll put up with bad behavior…..so you’re getting more bad behavior. You’re letting him see you when he wants and call all the shots in the relationship. The only way he’ll start appreciating you is if you stop condoning his behavior and take action. If he acts like a jerk, then don’t hang out with him or answer his calls for a few days. If he doesn’t make time for you, don’t make time for you. This relationship is running on his time-table, it seems like you’ll show up when he decides he wants to see you. That’s completely unbalanced and unfair. Take back control and make yourself available to him only when you want to, not when it’s convenient for him.

Reply December 20, 2012, 1:21 am

Teddy

Nura,

Not sure how I stumble across this site but one of my favorite quotes goes ‘Never allow someone to be your priority, while allowing yourself to be their option.’ He’s really not that into you. With that being said you deserve someone that treats you with respect.

On a completely unrelated note I’ll be travelling Europe for awhile starting next month and if you need a good looking guy to treat you with respect from the States, you let me know!

Reply January 29, 2013, 10:54 pm

HoneyBee

Okay, so here is my question: met a guy in June, he hung out for a while. it was just about sex, i set it up that way. it was easier than getting emotionally involved. however, the more we hung out i got to know him and i started to like him for more than just sex. i tried to tell him but whenever i openned my mouth crap just came out and it didn’t even make sence. i decided that we needed to chill on the sex. we still kept in touch, he hung out a few times but nothing physical. recently we have been with mutual friends a lot and im seeing what i originally liked about him. okay, here’s the issue: when i met 2 of his friends they both said oh so you’re **, your name has come up in conversation, he talks about you no worries it a good thing… and another one said “he reminds me of myself, just give him some time”… he flirts with me and when i ask him about another girl, he quickly says they are friends, he knows her BF, been friends for a while, etc. He doesn’t always return text, but he does most of the time. is he interested?

Reply December 18, 2012, 11:29 am

Yukina

Ok, well…where to start? I’ve had a huge crush on this guy for 2 years. Last year in one of my classes, I only had him for that one class, it really made me happy! ^.^ He sat behind me in class,but I was WAY too shy to ever talk to him. I tried to work up the courage, but i only talked to him a few times. I turn red, thats why. And my friend smiled at me when he walked through the door knowing yay he’s in my class! Sadly…before winter break of 2011, two of my friends told him that they had a friend who liked him, and dude it got him alllll curious and he wouldn’t stop asking who it was!!! Then suddenly over winter break, they gave him my number and he TEXTED me asking who was I, and with friendly texts and smiley faces. I was kind of shocked and happy at the same time. At one point, I couldn’t take it anymore and I told him and he texted, “oh” and im like “I;m sorry” and he’s likes ” for what?” And I’m like for probably making you feel akward” and he’s like ” it’s cool.” then after winter break, omg my heart was freaking racing!!! xD when i walked into class he had his head down lol. after like 2 days I HAD to talk to him and i did work up the courage to do so, I turned around and said, hey. But he had his head down and I kind of took a deep breath and tried again lol. so i poked him and im like hey,can I ask you something..? and he’s like yeah? And im like about what happened over winter break, i just wanted to know if your not akward about it? and he’s like no its’ ok. And i’m ok, then im like so it’s cool between us.” and he’s like yeah. then i offered to shake hands, which we did lol. the after that i just felt like smiling lol, cuz i was like yay i did it :)!! and that’s not the end of it, my friends have been telling me that he’s talked about me with his friends in class sometimes last year after that. Then my silly friend asked him would he ever go out with me!! And he responded, “hmm…i don’t know, yeah i would.” I was like OMG!! Then idk, along the way i was still so ever shy to talk to him, then on valentines day, my friend gave me a silly idea to give him something , this cupcake, And i decided to do it, cuz i kinda did wanted to give the guy i like something for V-day. So after class i did, i was like hey! He turned around and i was like I kinda wanted to give you something, i was acting all shy and i looked down…lol and he’s like oh yeah? and i handed him the cupcake, i was like happy valentines day and smiled. then i suddenly noticed his friend was watching next to him. lmao! And he took it and smiled saying thank you, and he walked away smiling, i felt SO good after that, i was hoping he’d talk to me the next day, but no…then so on and so, no talking has ever happened between since….on the last day i tried to talk to him, but he said he had something to do, and i was like next time? and he’s like sure. but that next time never came, suddenly today he never tried saying anything and he’s been sort of avoiding me..i can feel it like yesterday when he saw me during lunch, he went the other way with his friends and walked away. I felt kind of hurt, I mean he’s never ever told me if he would be interested in me, or not. :/ I mean i can take it after all, and i can finally move on, but he hasn’t! In school, everyone looks at me as the very cute and super friendly sigh..innocent looking one. my friends r like saying he’s retarded sometimes and mostly is, i have to admit he can BE VERY stupid sometimes, but i’ve seen passed that in him, which makes me love him. honestly. But now…i don’t know what to do…plz help?

Reply November 7, 2012, 11:28 pm

Lyanne

If he is avoiding you, stop chasing him.. And I know it’s hard but if he was interested in you he would’ve done something ‘cuz you did the first move. My advice would be just to stop showing him you like him, stop looking at him and see if he starts talking to you.. And if he doesn’t then don’t put any effort trying to make him like you. If you’re in class or in the same place just act happy don’t look at him.. Ask your friends to keep an eye on him just in case he does look at you.. But if he really doesn’t do anything.. Move on and I know it’s hard but you’ll get hurt chasing him..
I hope this helped you and sorry for any mistakes but my English is not so good :p

Reply November 14, 2012, 11:59 am

Laura K

I know a guy in my class. I’m not sure if he likes me or just as a ‘friend’. What are the signs that you’re not in the friend-zone?

Reply November 3, 2012, 11:10 am

Lyanne

So there’s this guy I like but I’m not sure if he likes me too…
I don’t know why but I think there is a chance he might like me…
sometimes he is shy, but he talks with cute girls and doesn’t talk to me, he sometime looks at me and walks slow when I’m walking behind him…
I’m really confused because he talks with a lot of girls but as soon as he’s sitting next to me he gets uncomfortable…
(sorry for my English)

Reply October 27, 2012, 5:08 pm

Ely

I just broke up with someone very dear to me and the reason I did it was because things were not the same anymore he became very abusive with his comments. Every time I would tell him how he made me feel with a comment that was funny to him, he would call me dramatic. The last conversation we had he got mad because I said I had giving half of my life to helping him and being there for him and he still dare say I wasn’t committed enough to help him succeed. He got upset and as usual he ignore all my messages. Even those I sent apologizing for something I don’t have fault in. So, I sent on last message saying that I love him but I will not denigrate myself to beg for his attention and that to not further annoy him I will not be talking to him unless he message me or if he needs my help. I said I love him and I really do, but God knows I did all I could and beyond for us to work out, for him to simply stop talking to me. I guess my question is did i do the right thing? I really miss him and I love him, but he hasn’t even text me since this.

Reply October 20, 2012, 6:41 pm

Angela

It sounds like he was manipulating you. He was using your kindness to emotionally drain you. You did the right thing and you honestly deserve better someone who will treat you with respect with words and actions. Be strong in your decision because in the long run you’ll see that it was worth it. I honestly think that since this damage has happened to you, I don’t know how your confidence is but you should take this time to work on yourself and find out or do the things that makes you happy. Remember “alone” isn’t a bad thing and no one else can make you happy but yourself. I hope I’ve helped. Much love to you. <3

Reply October 21, 2012, 1:10 am

Ely

Thank You Angela it really did help :) Blessings!

Reply October 21, 2012, 4:11 am

anna

ok,so theres this guy,we talk to eachother all the tlme.allways tries to make me laugh,teases me alot.always stares at me,always says sexual things to me,always seems to be following me,always getting in to my convos, but,he talks about girs infront of me all the time.i dont think hes trying to make me jealous.plus when people ask him does he like me he says something like hell no or she ugly as f**k.(gy the way i want him to stop talking about his dick it is annoying)

Reply October 19, 2012, 11:10 pm

kimberly

girl try tasking to him about how you feel and how its getting annoying and if he doesn’t listen or walks away when you mention the topic just completely stop talking to him.

Reply October 26, 2012, 10:38 am

lulu

So there is this guy, we started texting for a while and he was so sweet.he put my name in his contacts as “babe* he kept on saying ilove you, but then he said i think of you as a sister! And then he kept on flirting with me in a physical way , lile holding my hand hugging me tight , he whispered i love in my ear.. And then he said as a sister! And he kept on flirting alot.. Then he stopped texting me at all.. And ignored me for a couple of times when i saw him and he always leaves early and i dont get to talk to him alot.. And i really have a crush on him.. What should i do please help:( please..

Reply October 7, 2012, 10:42 pm

Jamie Wood

Hey. So there’s this guy that I’ve been friends with for about a year and I really like him. Idk if he knows, Im pretty sure he likes being around me but only as a friend. Lately, he and I have been staying up late texting and that has been really awesome cuz he’s really funny and sweet, and I know he loves me as a person but not in a romantic way. I’m not going to act any different, Im just gonna stay the way I am and see what happens. Because I think he sees potential in me. And if I just gave this some time, I bet he will start to have feelings for me. <3

Reply September 28, 2012, 7:38 am

Ashley

There is this guy I really really like and we hung out with eachother for the 3rd time. We kissed and cuddled. I was actually kinda surprised cause we did that the 2nd time we met and during the summer, it felt like he wasn’t interested in me cause he didn’t talked to me as much and if he did it was short. And now he’s making me feel like that again. I told him I really really liked him and he said” I like you too you’re tons of fun to be around.” But last week I said I wish we could hang out more often and all he said was “me too always fun.” Like I wish he would ask me to hang out and ask me to be his gf. I feel like I’m just being paraniod a lot but at the same time I feel like the only time he wants to see me is when he’s alone. I feel like I’m being used… I thought he really cared about me. Maybe he does and is afraid of sayin anything or taking things to the next level. I haven’t told him how I felt abou it cause I’m scared.. Idk what to do. I start cryin randomly when I think of him or see fb posts when he’s hanging out with a girl.

Reply September 26, 2012, 10:10 pm

Maria Sanchez

So there’s this guy that i really like ,, He stares at me all the time across the classroom , we have another class together and i sit behind him , and he turns and talks to me and stares at me. idk if he likes me though he asked me for my number i gave it to him , he txted me that same day and he walks me halfway to my bus , hugs me really hard when we have to go. and one day he huged me we almost kissed,, as soon as i got on the bus he txt me saying that i should of kissed him , he calls me boo , bae , babe , when we are not in a relationship… he asked me bae send me a sexy picture please i told him no i aint like that txt some other girl that does that stuff he said no that hes good that he was testing me and thats good im not like that because he doesnt want a girl like that sending dirty pics , please helppppp meee please ,, does this mean he likes me :(

Reply September 16, 2012, 7:39 pm

( that it girl )

~* why do i always gotta get hurt *~

Reply September 9, 2012, 2:48 am

Ely

Because you are looking in the wrong place. You gotta make sure you know what you want from a relationship and stick with your standards. Figure out who you are, love your self and find out what you want. Then with that in your heart set out, but don’t get desperate because being desperate make us always loose sight of our morals and values. Let your smile and your past experiences be the mirror you use to not get hurt again, but also let go of the past forgive but don’t forget. Every relationship has teach you something valuable. :)

Reply October 20, 2012, 6:28 pm

deja

Hi there,
i am in a relationship and its very complicated. i just dont understand why
he dont show that he loves me but he tells me that he love me. i dont know what to believe because does anyone on here knows what kind of soccer pratice ends at 12:00pm cuz if yall do pleaz let me know. but he hangs around my bestfriend more than he hang around me and now my bestfriend is starting not to care about me anymore. i sit and stay up all night and cry over him and ask myself is he cheating and lieing. so does he love me or is he just saying that 4 letter word to me just to say it.

Reply September 9, 2012, 2:44 am

Mahima

Well i chat with this guy who is my cousin’s cousin. We dont meet often, we last met about 3 months ago. Since then we chat on whatsapp, he tells me about his flings, his girlfriends. he tells me things that no one knows, not even his best friends. he sends me ‘:*’. i tell him my problems and all. and he sends me kisses ‘ :* ‘ , like in every sentence. what does that mean ? is he flirting? or he actually likes me? please hellpp :)

Reply September 2, 2012, 3:32 am

deja

he is showing that he loves you very much and that he wants to be with you so show it back because i am in a very crazy relationship i really love this boy and i dont know if he really loves me he say he does but how do i know if its true…HELP PLEASE !

Reply September 9, 2012, 2:19 am

kimberly

he is showing that he loves you because he has lots of trust in you if he actually tells you things that no one else knows about you.show him that you love him too and show that you care about him and maybe he will end up asking you to be his girlfriend.

Reply October 26, 2012, 10:44 am

bonnie

Theres this guy i really like, he’s in a different class than me so it’s really hard to hang out. We only talk and hang out a bit but he always keeps wanting to play basketball with his friends so i always have to sit and watch him play allll~ lunch!
Its really hard to tell if he even wants to be my friend because when we talk, he can’t really understand me that well (because he’s from a different country so he can’t speak english very well) It’s so hard to communicate and he doesn’t so me much signs that he’s interested in me.
He tells me i’m beautiful and when I asked him to be friends, he was really happy but after we hanged out abit he’s been acting really weird. Like he ignores me and when I say hi to him when we meet, all he does is stare at me.
just last week I got really upset with him asking him “Why do you ignore me? do you hate me?” He say’s no but when he say’s it, he doesn’t give me any eye contact. He just turns away. When he quickly left to go play basketball with his friends, I felt like he really does hate me.
I was so upset that when my friend came up to me and asked if I was okay, I bursted out crying so much say “I can’t do it, It’s just to hard”
Im pretty sure he saw me crying but all he did was play basketball.
A few minutes later he came back to sit with me but he said nothing. He just looked at me probably feeling sorry for me.
I told him I was really angry at him and that I was so confused but all he said was why I was angry. He should of known.
After I decided to leave, he waved to me smiling. Normally he never smile and wave to me when i wave and say hi to him.
stupidly i waved back giving a fake smile.
I’m so angry and upset at him!
what should i do to be friends again because i dont want to give on him.
I’m pretty sure he saw me cry but he didn’t do anything but play basketball.

Reply September 1, 2012, 5:04 am

kimberly

girl let him go he’s showing that he doesn’t care about what you are feeling because if he did he would have talked to you about why you were feeling the way you were feeling he probably just wanted to have some fun.try hanging out with other guys and see what he does .theres other guys better than him that will treat you the way you deserve to be treated don’t cry for him because he will feel like he got his way.just move on with life and have fun.

Reply October 26, 2012, 10:51 am

tina

I could use some advice when it comes to dating guys. I seem to always get the ” I don’t want to be in a relationship speech”. I will back off and just move on when I’m told this but then a couple of weeks later I’m being contacted again by the guy. I will give it another go and then again the guy backs off and stops communication once again. This has happened at least a couple of times. I am not one to constantly text, usually when I send a text message I leave it up to them to respond. I am however guilty of trying to decode mens actions and what a text message means. I try to look at my dating experiences as lessons but I seem to be attracting these men who are hot and cold with me. I am really looking to improve my dating skills as I have not dated very much. If anyone could offer up some dating advice I would really appreciate it. Thank you for listening. =-)

Reply August 23, 2012, 10:01 pm

Tamara Holoveck

I need some help with a couple I things:
1. Most ppl have 1 groups of friends well I have 3. The ppl in the first group I hang out with in class and normally at lunch and after school(not really popular), the ppl in the second group I hang out with them rarely at school and sometimes after school(popular). The third group I don’t really like (not popular).so here I am right in the middle of the groups and I don’t know what to do.
2. I hang out with groups 2 sometimes and they don’t like the ppl in group 1, but they like me.
3.i have a best friend in each group and some of the groups 2-3.
4. I don’t hang out with this one group normally but I went off grounds with them once and I was invited to 2 parties and most of them were guys.
5. At the parties everyone was dating except me and this other guys. Everyone was trying to set us up but we weren’t interested at all.
6. My best friend texted him and said “Will u go out with Tamara?”, and he said maybe if I get to know her better.
And those r my six problems I need help with. Any advice.

Reply July 16, 2012, 7:44 am

Beth Malloy

There’s this guy and he has a girlfriend but they aren’t really a couple because they ignore each other and don’t do or say anything. Well this guy makes excuses to talk to me all the time and if I don’t reply he will say something random like falalalalal. He loves to spend time with me all the time and his cousin who is his friend is also my BFF. So instead of saying hello to her, he will come right up to me and say hi and try to start a conversation with me. What do I do?

Reply July 16, 2012, 7:31 am

Maria Sanchez

I would keep talking to him b/c his relationship aint worth it if they keep ignoring eachother you know a relationship is for two and not for one like im saying he just not with her but with you ,, He’s probably interested in you and wants to talk to you more..

Reply September 16, 2012, 8:58 pm

Patch Contou

I have read on the Internet that if a guy talk to you about girls easily he doesn’t like you, but he also protects me.
So here’s the story we went out for a bit and he dumped me because someone told him 2, he was upset for a bit and I told him to move on. He talks to me about everything and everyone, but he protects me, but he says he protects all of him friends. Which is true but everyone says he protects me like no other. I don’t know y he does this and he’s really confusing me. He also said he likes this one girl and he says ily all the time to her but she doesn’t like him like that and in the past 2 months he has liked 13 girls and dated 2. He is really nice but he is confusing me and I just want to know what is happening.
P.S: we were really close friends about talking about suff and we stills but it’s just awkward now and he doesn’t like it when I ignore him or avoid eye contact. What does that mean.

Reply July 16, 2012, 7:24 am

Lisa

Ok Ive been talking to this guy for 3 months now, we have had sex 3 times, he is a security guard at my job, he initiated contact looking me up on Facebook, after we had sex he became distant always making me contact him first, I got tired of that game and started ignoring him, he knows where I live and drives by constantly and at work always drives by me when he’s driving the security truck around, he seems upset and angry with me for not talking to him anymore and is even initiating contact and trying to get with my friends to get my attention, total hot and cold here and I’m confused, he’s shy and quiet, and totally makes eye contact and follows my every movement when he sees me but ignores me now when I’ve texted him a couple times, the time we have talked I’ve grown to like him, help please.

Reply July 16, 2012, 2:55 am

brittany

so ive been talking to this guy who is older than i am for a month and a half that i met online and just last week i told him how i really felt and he told me it was sweet but that im moving to fast, and now he’s been totally distant from me and hasnt texted me or called and ive been upset because i really like the guy, so ive been the one to make an efffort to text him but he has not replied, i dont know what to do bc he doesnt live where i live and before we used to skype and stuff and now he says he busy and he told me if he did find someone he would tell me i dont know what to do? help me please!

Reply July 14, 2012, 2:22 am

Cassie

My guess is that he got panicked by the incredibly fast time in which you told him you loved him, a month and a half is pretty quick by anyone’s standards. But anyway… Don’t text or call him, make him put in the effort, if he does he really wants to get to know you he will put the effort in; if he doesn’t however you are likely being used as an online ego boost

Reply February 24, 2013, 2:57 am

EMMA

HI! ACTUALLY, I LIKE A GUY FROM LAST TWO YEARS, WE MEET EVERY SUNDAY IN THE CHURCH,HE TALKS WITH ME HE SPENDS TIME WITH ME SOMETIMES, HE ALWAYS ASKS ME ABOUT MY STUDIES, ABOUT MY DAILY WORKS AND OTHER ACTIVITIES, THE FIRST TIME WHEN I FELT THAT I LOVE HIM WAS WHEN WE SPEND FEW MINUTES ON TALKING ON SOME TOPIC,HE ALWAYS ASKS HELPS ME IN EVERY THING, WHEN EVER I HAVE ANY PROBLEM I TAKE SUGGESTIONS FROM HIM,WHEN EVER I LOOK AT HIM I SEE A STRANGE LIGHT IN HIS EYES AND HE DIRECTLY LOOKS INTO MY EYES , I REALLY LOVE HIM A LOT, HE IS HANDSOME, GOODLOOKING, SIMPLE,AND A VERY LOVING PERSON I HAVE EVER SEEN IN MY LIFE, SO PLEASE HELP

Reply July 9, 2012, 7:00 am

Kim

Ok, doesn’t do any of those things but one. Am I supposed to still put him under the category of “he does not like me”?

Reply July 5, 2012, 9:01 am

alyssa

One more thing i forgot to add is he goes to a different school than me but lives near my family members house.

Reply July 3, 2012, 1:41 am

alyssa

I am a teenager and i really really like this guy and i cant tell my friends that i like him because of what happened to me b4. I told my friends who i liked years ago and they told him so i don’t know what to do. I used to be obvious when i talk to a guy i liked. But now i just hang out like we r friends he has so much prettier friends than me on face book . He is not even a year older than me just 10 months please please help me

Reply July 3, 2012, 1:35 am

Cassie

Facebook friends mean very little and quite a few people will edit their profiles to make themselves look better.
All I can recommend is that you ask him directly, you won’t know otherwise and do this by yourself… worse comes to worst there’ll be some awkwardness. But you won’t know unless you try!

Reply February 24, 2013, 3:01 am

Danae B.

So, he is my classmate, and we talk often, sometimes he is very kind and smiles when i’m around, but he also talks with other girls in the same way..he asked me out once with his friends but i wasnt able to go, and then he did again but he let it go, so we havent gone out together..he tells me about the girl he likes and i have my attitude is pleasant, he trusts me in general but these days he doesnt treat me the way he did..i guess he doesnt like me, but he keeps confusing me! i really like him and we have many many things in common..i dont know how to approach him more! anyone, any advice would be really helpful, i just wanna know how to make him see me in a different way..

Reply June 28, 2012, 12:09 pm

Cassie

I’m sorry to say this but you’ve probably been friend-zoned, he’s treating you like one of the guys

Reply February 24, 2013, 3:05 am

Tabitha

So heres my question/problem:
I’m 17 and met this guy Jeremiah at church. He went a few times and I hung with hm for a bit, but that was it. Fast forward to May 4th. Him and I are both on the wim team but we go to different schools that are like 10 miles apart. When our schools competed against eachother on May 4th, we hung out together the whole time. I kept giving hints that I wanted to pull him away from the crowd, and I finally succeeded. We made out behind a wall and no one saw. He got my number and texted me nonstop for a week and called me twice. Heres where I probably messed up: On May 14th I asked him to prom and he said he’d like to take me but his parents said no because of his grades. He seemed genuinely sorry and said that he owed me a date. Since then, i’m lucky if he texts me twice a week. He says he’s really busy with work, but i know he doesn’t work past 8 yet I hardly hear from him. On June 15th I asked him how he felt about us and he said “I’m not sure really cause it feels like your really far away”. I live like 15 min from him, yet he says it like we live in different states. Is he worth the fight? I feel that we could make this work. He told me that ‘m on standby, which by his definition means “you just have to wait”. He says he’ll take me out when he has time, but that seems like never. Should I take him on a date to a baseball game? He loves baseball, and ME taking him out is different right?
Please help me, I’m a lost teenager

Reply June 24, 2012, 5:59 am

Paige

My boyfriend drives fifty minutes to see me. And he can’t drive fifteen? He should have asked YOU to prom. A guy is NEVER too busy to make time for a girl. If he wanted to see you, HE would have suggested a time or place, not you. Guys like a chase, and he is obviously not chasing you whatsoever. If anything, you’re doing all the work. If he was into you, he would definitely jump at the chance of doing anything with you. You didn’t do anything wrong, it’s his isues he needs to work out. I wouldn’t pursue it any further. If a man was into you, he wouldn’t DARE ever to tell you, “you’re on standby”. What kind of smart ass remark is that?! I suggest you stop texting him, delete his number, and show him that you’re not someone who can be put on a backburner. Find a guy would will pursue you, and find you worth it.

Reply July 25, 2012, 10:57 pm

nanthinni

i like one guy in facebook..bt he nt yt approve me also n i do poke him and he do poke me back..after that i dp poke him back..but he didn’t response.what should i do??PLZ DO RESPONSE I LIKE HIM VERY MUCH…

Reply June 22, 2012, 7:12 am

Sonali

I started talking to this guy in January. He has tried to talk to me through text before that but I avoided him and didn’t show him any feelings. We started texting each other a lot. I met him a week ago. I didn’t feel the way I did with him. Before he met me up he did mention about moving to another state where his family is. I was and still am upset. He told me more then once he likes me a lot and he doesn’t know what to do because h e wants to be together but his moving. He got a little mad when I mentioned about him just wanting one thing. He said no he didn’t just have sex but made love to me. His acting not like he was acting before. I really want to be with him and I think I don’t just like him but have fallen a bit in love with him. I want to know if he feels the way I do, like if he is starting to love me… and if that’s the reason he is trying keep a little bit of more distance from me. I am a very picky person but when he was over and when we went out he did exactly what I or any girl would want a guy to do. I also loved how he would look into my eyes and talk to me with his eyes. His eyes said a lot but don’t know if it’s true. Sigh :(

Reply June 21, 2012, 8:51 pm

Sarah

Okay so here goes…

I recently turned 17 and I stayed over my best friends house for the long weekend last week. Little did I know that her brother was there to until I went over on Friday and saw him. That was the first time of ever met him and from the start we hit it off. There was a lot of flirting going on between us and it continued on for almost two days. My best friend didn’t notice anything going on and I felt really bad because after all I’m her best friend and thats her brother. So when I was making breakfast he came into the kitchen and brushed up against me in a playful way and kept doing it. So by the second night we had realized that both him and myself had a lot in common. He is cute, nice, funny and has eyes that are to die for! All the flirting continued till Sunday night when my bestie put a romantic comedy on in the loungeroom and then said that she was goin to bed. I was really interested in the movie so I told her that I’d be in her room after it had finished. ( or at least that was the plan) so after my friend left her brother and myself in the room alone with the lights off we just started talking. We talked for like an hr and by the end of it I felt that I knew everything about him and that he knew everything about me. I started moving closer to him and I didn’t even realize it until he slid his hand under mine and started rubbing my fingers in a cute/flirty way which made me blush! He then kissed my hand which gave me butterflies because he’s not like other boys. We held hands and cuddled for a while until he suddenly kissed me. But it wasn’t an ordinary kiss it felt full of feelings and love which made me blush even worse (I was lucky the lights were off because I swear I probably look like a tomato) . Anyways we kissed and cuddled till 2am and it was so romantic and sweet the I put my head on his chest and we then made out. Now here’s where it gets confusing because I did something that I’m not entirely sure weither its good or bad but we did IT and many other things and everytime he kissed me it send shivers up my spine and I felt like I was a giant firework. After all that was finished we went and sat outside and watched the sun rise, cuddled in a blanket up next to each other. I was pretty tired by that stage and said I was going to bed so he said he’d join me. We ended up cuddling and falling asleep in each others arms and he didn’t Once let go of my hand. The next morning we just cuddled and looked into eachothers eyes until my friend woke up and then we couldn’t keep our hands of eachother. He was always putting his hands around my waiste and kissing me whenever we were in a room together. He had to leave to go back to his dads (my friends parents are divorced) and as soon as he left my friend told me that she knew what had happened because she hadn’t seen either of us that happy in ages. I admitted it to her and felt bad about it but all she could say was if you like him then that’s okay with me. I was so shocked because I’d expected her to feel betrayed and stuff but she didn’t. Not one bit. So it’s been a week now and we talk on Facebook everyday and he tells me everything and so do I. The only problem is that I can’t stop thinking about him! His laugh, smile, eyes and humor everything about him makes me blush. His sister told me that he talks about me non stop and keeps asking her when I’m sleeping over again. The hardest part is that I don’t know what he thinks of me and I’m too afraid to ask because rejection sucks!! I guess I need a bit of advice on how to ask without sounding needy. I wish I could just come out and say it but as I said before I’m a chicken when it comes to admitting my feelings. So can anyone HELP ME PLEASE!!!! :3

Reply June 21, 2012, 12:17 pm

Cassie

Write him a sweet note or wait till he’s not on line then ask him on there, if you really can’t face it

Reply February 24, 2013, 3:11 am

Kendahl

Hi Eric!

So, I’m not exactly ‘old’, because I’m in my teens and as I was reading this, of course, I was thinking about a guy that I really like. A simple crush, if you will.

This isn’t so much of a story-scenario-question, but considering the guy I do like a lot does and doesn’t do a mixture of all the things you listed, what does that mean?

For example, he was around me. It is summer, and unfortunately, I was too shy to get the boy’s number, but we ate lunch together with a few other guys and we talked a lot. He teased me, I teased him. It was a mutual teasing fiasco, but the problem is, he didn’t talk about other girls with me, yet sometimes I just felt like ‘one of the guys’ in the group so there were days when he would just talk to me very casually. He doesn’t put me down, he’s really a good guy, but I really never know if he flirts with other girls because I never see him interact with other girls because I only see him for certain parts of the day. Like you say in a lot of your article, girls try and over-analyze little details to try and convince themselves that there’s still hope that the guy likes you, but I’m trying SO hard not to do that. I guess I’m just confused?

Anyway, more or less, I felt like all we were, were just friends. He’d ask me random questions that he could have asked anybody else and there were times when I actually dressed up in a dress or something, when he’d talk to me more or seem more interested, but he’d also told me that high school relationships are so ‘stupid’. And I completely agree. Or at least, where I live. He says that they only last for a short amount of time, and if he really wanted a girl, he’d get one so I really do try and convince myself that he’s just a friend. But. . . I like to have a second opinion. And a guy’s opinion. I’m probably right or something and I sound very stupid, but I thought I’d might as well ask.

If I am right, and he just doesn’t feel the same way about me, then what’s the best way for me to get over him? I’m trying to cut out all hope of us actually working out and for some reason, for the first time, I can’t seem to do that. All my friends always think I’m not a girl, because I typically don’t like guys at all because I don’t like high school relationships, but for the first time, I seem to be stumped.

Thanks for the help!

Reply June 21, 2012, 1:10 am

Rebekah

There’s this guy I’ve been seeing on & off for almost 3 years. Recently he’s been “busy” & doesn’t return my texts, or calls. So I told him what was up, I snapped, & he hasn’t talked to me since. I texted him last night, apologizing. & no response. So, I know where I stand with him. GOTTA MOVE ON.

Reply June 7, 2012, 5:40 pm

Jordan

Yea, you can’t see guys “on and off” and expect them to respect you long term.

Reply February 24, 2013, 1:46 am

Amber

blah, this helped, but i kinda wish it wasnt true..
its so confusing with this one guy though cause he does some stuff(like hes with me almost all the time, stands suuper close to me, makes a lot of eye contact, jokes around with me) but then BAM! he tells me “that girl was cute” or “I hope a cute girl comes in today”(at work)
Its annoying! cause its like hes flirting but its all just a lie >.<
thanks though, now i know!

Reply June 7, 2012, 12:03 am

yowhatsup

Lets just put it this way i hate shy guys. period they sayy oooooooo im soooooo shy around girls and bam he talks to his crush all perfectly normal. Men are so frustrating.

Reply June 2, 2012, 10:01 pm

Emily

I’m totally crazy (I think I’m in love…) with my best friend’s twin brother. We’ve been friends for five years and I started crushing on him a year after that. He’s so nice and funny and just amazing, but I don’t know if he likes me back.
I was tired of pining after J, so I tried hanging out with my one of other guy friend who was really nice and sweet and I used to like him and my dad thought he liked me (Needless to say he wasn’t very happy about it.) but I couldn’t get my mind off of J.
Since his sister is mine and my older sister’s best friend, she and her family invited us to go to Mount Rushmore with them, and we did. When we went to the actual monument, J and I hung out the entire time, laughing and talking. My sister pointed out that we totally looked like a couple. When his parents and the other girls were looking around, he and I were completely alone and we found each other staring into each other’s eyes. I swear I thought we were going to kiss but I got nervous and ran off, which I totally regretted and practically cried about later.
He always starts up conversation with me when we’re together and recently we started texting a lot and he almost always replies even when I texted him at midnight the other night. (He was still awake on his laptop.)
I seriously think I love him. I think about him all the time and the other day when he texted me I swear I smiled as big as possible for the rest of the night and all he said was ‘Hi’.
Should I tell him I like him? A year or two ago he was going on about how these girls at his school had told him they liked him and he wasn’t interested in dating or anything.
Another thing, his dad took us and our sisters out to get ice cream and he and I were bored so we went to the car to talk. He claimed he called shotgun but when we closed the doors he moved to sit next to me. I thought of telling him how I felt but then my best friend walked to the car and got in. x(
Please help. Please please please. Everyone says I should tell him but there’s one more problem.
We’re both thirteen.
My parents act appalled at the idea of dating this young, I hinted by saying that if I liked a guy I wouldn’t want to ruin our friendship by dating and my mom scoffed and said “No, your parents wouldn’t allow you to.”
I just can’t get him off my mind, I’ve tried for two years but I gave up. Saying I’m in love sounds crazy, because I’m only thirteen and everyone I know says saying you’re in love this young is just hormones. I don’t think it is at all. I just wish I knew how I tell him without screwing up our beautiful friendship permanently.

Reply May 28, 2012, 1:14 pm

Fiona

Aw Emily, this is not ridiculous or anything at all. I just turned fourteen and this is what all the adults have been telling me. They think we’re too young to get things… even ourselves. But i dont think we are. Try teasing him a bit? Go like “hey look that girls hot!” or sth like that and see what he says ;) this is one method i tried on a boy, though i was just joking- he kept asking me who i like (cuz everyone else are doing the same) and i just went like “YOU!”. lol he didnt believe me at first but after a really long chat… he confessed to me. LOL crazy, i know.
But I’ve got a problem too. I’m in this really weird situation right now. Well for starters.. We’ve been pretty good friends and everyone is saying that he likes me. I thought i didnt but now i realize, i really do. I think i LOVE him. i know i know, stupid. but hes just so funny and nice.. and he really gets me. He does. he knows how i feel about.. everything. But then he kinda ignores me in front of our friends when we’re out (not at school though) and online. i dont know why…
help? :)
best luck to you and that guy! :D

Reply June 20, 2012, 10:48 am

Emily

Thanks, but now I’m rather convinced he has a crush on one of his guy friends. xP (I’ll feel awful for thinking it if he doesn’t.)
I think, just maybe, he ignores you because he doesn’t want anyone to know he likes you. Maybe he’s freaked out that they’ll make fun of him or something.
I’m not the best person at giving advice, I barely have any guy friends myself.
And yeah, I showed him a picture of this guy and claimed as a joke that he was my future husband, and J (The guy.) started saying stuff like, “Hey, I look like him.” He doesn’t. At all. And, “If my hair was lighter I would look just like him.” I really thought maybe he liked me, but then my sister pointed out that that’s how he acts all the time.
Hope you have better luck with your guy. I think you should tell him. He’d probably understand. J doesn’t, he got so freaked out when my sister made a small (Funny IMO.) joke about us being ‘together’.

Reply June 20, 2012, 11:13 am

Ariana

Okay so i like this boy named Roberto. I told my friend and she told him, only beacuse she is his bestfriend(But at the time i didn’t know) and so he told her that i seem cool and he wants to get to know me more. he also told her that he likes me and he thinks that i’m “Really pretty” sometimes my friends get him from playing basketball and make him hug me, he has no problem with it and he hugs me for a long time. but we don’t really talk, i kinda think its my fault because i get shy to talk to him. sometimes i see him staring at me but once i see him i look away… i really like him but i don’t know if he likes me still! he thinks i don’t like him! i know this because my guy friend danilo was talking to me and he said that he was talking to roberto and danlo asked him if he’d ever go out with me and roberto said “I don’t think she likes me though” so what do i do?!?! p.s my friends are 100% honest and trustworthy

Reply May 26, 2012, 4:36 pm

May

Theres this guy i like. He looks at me but not all the time. He has lots of girls hanging out with him. He never notice me. Whenever i look at him his always turned away. He already knew that i liked him because of my friends. I just dont know what to do. I want him so badly. I cry everynight just to hear his voice say “hi” to me. He never goes near me. Every night i wait for his friendrequest to be accepted i wait for him to answer back to my messages i sent him but i got nothing….

Reply May 26, 2012, 3:55 am

lory

its so difficult to have this crush. i pray to stop wantin him cause now he s trying to make me jealous with his old fat friend. i dont know if hes going out with her but once he told me he doesnt like her and she just an old friend of his. i know i m not supposed to want him but im only 27 and we stopped foolin around me and my hubby, no sex no fun no love im tired of this work work work all d time, wheere there i see this guy who breaks my heart. how can i make a spark or something to see if id fall for him? If he was another guy hed go for it. I dont think he likes me. please help cause im fallen apart. dont judge me i never cheated.

Reply May 19, 2012, 9:19 pm

lory

I m married. I dont have much comunication with my hubby but hey i never cheated on him ever. But theres this guy @ work & he so handsome and cute and beautyfull manners everything is so special in him. i see in his eyes kindness love and comfort. He told me if I wasnt married he d go out with me for sure and im not d only one who wanna be with him. I wish I would know whats goin trough his mind, today he told me he loves me cause i help him alotttt in work. i know he doesnt give a …. about me. I m imagaging being with him all d time, but not to have sex with him, theres more in him than just sex. help i dont know how i will cope with him around. i wish he never started to work with us.

Reply May 19, 2012, 9:12 pm

vvn

what if it’s long distance..? Which one of these apply..?

Reply May 18, 2012, 2:11 am

edrey

i like this guy and he is very nice to me so i guess he does like me and im not in his category so i feel bad for other people who r not loved also i think we all should give people time to meet them because if we see him or her and we like that person right away their going to think we are desperate thirsty ass people we all have enough time to get to know people all my frineds have a boyfriend or girriend and i was alone but u need to have time to actually know the person

Reply May 15, 2012, 11:15 am

lydia

The first time we met was about a month ago, our mutual friend was the one who introduced us. Few days after that, he started calling me and texted me and we met few times. And we both had a really good time. About 2 week ago, he got a job and he stop contacting me. But he replies whenever I texted him. I thought he’s busy since he just started working. One of my friends told me that he’s just backing off alittle bit, my other friend told me that he needs time to get use to his job, so I should just ignore the situation and wait until he contact me later. But I don’t know. Does it mean that he’s not that into me anymore, or he’s really busy? I don’t want to be a nuisance to him. Please reply…

Reply May 8, 2012, 2:33 pm

Taylor

Hey,
I need help I’m 14 and I’m in love with a 19 year old. He is amazing I can’t stop we both can’t fight or ever get tired of eachother it is amazing but, we are breaking the law. We want to run away but don’t know how like without getting caught by the cops I’m so screwed I need help!!!!!

Reply May 1, 2012, 5:03 pm

yowhatsup

you just posted on the internet ur in love with a 19 year old and u just said u didnt want to get caught by the cops…. HELLO THIS IS THE INTERNET I BET U THE PEOPLE WHO ARE READING THIS IS PROBABLY TRACKING U NOW TO MAKE SURE YOUR NOT HURT AND THAT HES NOT A SEX OFFENDER or something.

Reply June 2, 2012, 9:59 pm

yowhatsup

all i could say is be careful sorry

Reply June 2, 2012, 10:03 pm

sweet gurl

hey i have a boyfriend n we r in an L.D.R. (long distance relationship). we usually chat on a social networking sight. we used to call each other but now as he is in navy, he is not allowed to take phones n not even allowed to log in to net. so i haven’t talked to him since a long time. he had got a break of 1 month from it n he said that he would call me but he didn’t. and he went back to the campus (navy)….now i dont know when will he come!!!
he even declared our relationship officially n he used to send me very cute msgs but after sometime he stopped replying and when i asked the reason he told me that when he doesn’t reply it does not means than he dont loves me……..!!!
does he still loves me or not? m totally confused plz help!!!
(P.S.- he also told me very honestly about his past relationships n confessed many things!!!)

Reply April 26, 2012, 2:31 am

sam

not to be mean hun but he said e doesnt love you. dw im in the same situation and its not going to be easy

Reply April 30, 2012, 10:47 am

Yi

…….. sam is that U?

Reply May 19, 2012, 12:29 am

Leila Song

There this guy i like and we talked a lot before everyone found out and started telling him! I was so embarrassed i didnt know what to do then everyone started pressuring me to go to him and talk to him but i couldn’t because i would be so embarrassed in front of him!:( Some times we make eye contact for about 10 seconds but then he looks away. I am not sure what to do please help!!!!

Reply April 25, 2012, 3:40 pm

Tammy

There is a guy I like I’m about 4 years older than him and we’ve worked together for a few yars but I’ve always felt he was too young but he’s of age now and I’m really crushing on him, he’s a more reserved person but these past few months he’s really opened up but not to me, I’m really shy but I will talk to someone who talks to me and I do try to start conversations but he doesn’t seem to want to talk to me, he will talk up a storm around these older women when I’m around and I’m never included he never says more to me than hello and see ya later or general work related questions. I think he knows I like him and I feel the the women I work with know as well and they talk to him like crazy when I’m around. Do you think it’s to make me jealous? I’m such a nice person and I never get a chance, it hurts. I’m sick of this cycle whenever I show interest in a guy he backs away. :( I hate seeing him now I feel hopeless, can you help me at all?

Reply April 20, 2012, 10:49 pm

Kay

Tammy what happened since then?

Reply December 8, 2013, 9:28 pm

Patch Mcay

My boyfirend and i have been going out for 2 weeks now and he always use to follow me, but now he doesn’t, does this mean he doesn’t like me anymore or he just doesn’t think he has to be around me for 24/7.
When he is around I feel like he is keeping me company but when he isn’t I feel like I want him. What should I do (PS: This is my first boyfriend )?

Reply April 20, 2012, 7:09 pm

jesus

I have an idea, how about not trying to read signs and just ask us if we are into you or if we would consider dating you. its that simple…women are always just misreading what doesnt need to be over analyzed. Stop with the games already.

Reply April 19, 2012, 3:14 am

Eric Charles

Yup, I agree. Women make themselves crazy playing “emotional detective” and reading into a bunch of signs that mean *nothing*.
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Usually when a woman is telling me about a dating issue and throwing in tons and tons and tons of little details, it’s because she wants to talk herself into something by beefing up a bunch of “empty evidence”.
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“He must love me, he looked at me this morning…”
“He must be interested, he offered to let me stand under his umbrella when it was raining outside…”
“He must think I’m cute, he hugged me first before hugging the rest of the girls in the room.”
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And on and on… But at the end of the day, if there’s one thing I’ve learned as a dating coach it’s to give people what they want and then slip in what they actually need.
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People want to know about signs… so I give them signs. And then I try my best to explain that caring about signs is total BS. :)

Reply April 19, 2012, 10:00 am

themissus

Ha-ha. Men are simple creatures. When it comes to them, I don’t over analyze. I’m an old married lady now, but when I was dating I just took the guy’s behavior at face value. If he didn’t call he wasn’t interested, if he was standoffish, he wasn’t interested and I would just move to the next guy. There’s always a next guy! I never tried to figure out what his behavior “meant” cause at the end of the day I didn’t care that much. I was on a mission to get married and find the guy who felt the same way. When it hit the three year mark of dating I told my now husband that If we weren’t moving forward I would have to make alternate plans. That’s all I said and let the chips fall. Within months I had a ring on my finger. I say, observe what he does not what he says and make your choices, ladies. You’re in charge, and there’s always a next guy!

Reply May 9, 2012, 1:14 pm

marie

Well that doesn’t always work because i really liked this guy but he stopped talking to me so i straight out asked him if he didn’t like me and he said no he does….and then he never spoke to me again!

Reply September 6, 2012, 2:41 am

Joe

He just wants to keep you close enough for a booty call, when he wants it.

Reply September 30, 2012, 8:04 pm

annie

Let’s just get something straight here, shall we? Cause frankly I am sick and tired of this shiz. It doesn’t appear to change no matter how old you are, 12, 16, 24 or 31. It is the same thing over and over again.. MIND GAMES.

When you give someone attention, they disappear. You get hurt, ask yourself what you did wrong..did you wear the wrong outfit? did you have a case of bad breath or smelly hair when he came close? did you somehow fall into bad lighting when he saw you across the hallway?

The answer is simple. Sometimes in life things don’t work out, just believe in the fact that sometimes, yes sometimes, these things happen FOR A REASON and that DESTINY IS ACTUALLY GIVING YOU A QUICK WAY OUT OF A POSSIBLE PAINFUL SITUATION.

Some things are not worth the pain, life is short. You can be sitting here in your pastel dress with your orange-red lipstick feeling a little bit confused and hurt, wasting all these time when you could cuddle your cat or talk to your Dad. Life is precious, you wouldn’t know what you are missing out by wasting your time with garbage people like these.

Reply April 17, 2012, 10:40 pm

Paris

So right!

Reply May 17, 2012, 3:19 pm

jessica

There is this boy in my school that I just can’t get off my mind I think about him when I go to sleep sometimes he’s in my dreams its driving me crazy but the problem is he flirts with me a lot but he also flirts with other girls and I get jealous I don’t know what to do I know I like him but does he like me?

Reply April 15, 2012, 9:46 pm

Michelle

Well, there is this guy I like in school and I have NO IDEA if he likes me back..I need to know this because I dont want him to think i freak him out or something. I cant help myself by not looking at him, i always take a glance or 2. All my friends I know think he is really wierd or something. Exept for his girl friend. So I just play along with them. Should I tell one of them that I like him or something? Or should I still keep it a secret? I dont feel comftertable with my friends not liking him. I cant share my secret crush with anyone because im afraid they wont wanna be my friend anymore. I always have these wierd dreams about him kissing me or something. I tell my friends about these dreams but I act like its gross. Inside I think it is really sweet and it is a sign that he might like me back. The only problem is his girl friend.

Reply April 14, 2012, 1:01 am

jenna

Hi there is a boy in pretty much all of my classes that flirts with me (he constantly grabs my waist) I pretend I don’t like it but I do. I think I like him but he also does this to other girls (more to me) the thing that is confusing me is I don’t know if he likes me or that’s just his natural behaviour please help.

Reply April 13, 2012, 8:13 pm

Emma

the guy i like told my friends he liked me and might ask me out, but when im sitting with him alone or with another girl he talks to her and ignores me and he always is talking to my best friend and his best friend asked me if we were going out and i said no and im just soooo confused!! can someone please help!

Reply April 11, 2012, 6:23 pm

Tanya

I am 18 and joined these tutorial classes for a month. My “coach” (lol) is in his early 20′s. He graduated last year and just started working with one of his older friends in his learning business. He is a very smart and attractive. I did some really stupid and embarrassing things, in the first few times we met. Like one day before his birthday, I texted him to ask about the payment and of course I went a bit of topic and told him that I knew it was his birthday.
He replied, “nice research skill you got there…”. The next day, on his birthday I had to see him to do the payments and I was expecting him to literally hide from me. But he was all cool about it and laughed it out.
While he was typing away the invoice on his computer I asked him what he was up to?
He said, “Oh I don’t have any plans yet.”
I said, “Oh I meant what are you doing on the computer right now?” and I laughed
He replied,” I thought you meant later today haha.” and turned all read
I am pretty sure he has guessed I have a little crush on him. I had 2 classes since that day; we both talk normally and he sometimes even teases me about some of the silly things I did or said. I have been texting him about something or the other, and he replies back but with huge timing gaps and all formal. Today I jokingly, asked him if he was a bad tipper and he said he had other classes he was teaching. I told him he should have asked me to not disturb him, but then he says that it’s not a problem because he replies between the breaks. He texts back and we do talk about other things than tutorial work, we have some inside jokes and after classes when I wait for my ride to come we have nice light conversations. But when he texts he is all formal and I sometime feel that he is trying to either keep a distance or make it clear that he isn’t interested but it’s confusing at the same time as he replies to texts un-related to the work. We talk through his work phone, because I don’t have his personal number.
My friends say that because I am 6 years younger than him, he probably thinks it’s cute that I have a crush on him. And that is why he is nice about it. I think it could be true. But when we talk, from his body language I feel sometimes like he is sort off attracted to me.
I am pretty confused! What does this guy want!

Reply April 8, 2012, 4:01 pm

Eric

He is really goin crazy and would love to get u in his bed …. but he’s afraid that he might have problems with the law lol …. enough said

Reply April 18, 2012, 5:51 pm

Awua

18 isn’t illegal, dolt

Reply June 11, 2012, 12:24 am

Iris

Hi there!
I am really confused about this one boy, he has been with many girls I think but I have only
Had one relationship which I’m still in but this isn’t about my boyfriend! A few years ago we were at a party and apparently when someone told him that I was interested he got straight in the car to come see me, he is a really lovely guy and not an arrogant horrible boy at all really lovely. Anyway he didn’t try anything with me we only kissed and being 16 and 18 I thought he would have but he didn’t because I think maybe he either knew I wasn’t
Like that or maybe respected me? I don’t know.
Anyway when we woke up the next day he held hands when me in bed and when he left he took one of my belongings and wore them ?? Never really got this.
Every time we had met before this we had talked for quite a while and he always seemed kid of flirty but never ever tried anything on which I quite liked like he respected me? Anyway after this we both went or separate ways and I moved away for two years. But every time I came home and saw him he was friendly, once offering to give me one of his expensive bracelets. Anyway… What I want to know is… The other night I saw him and realized I had
Liked him all along, he wasn’t following me or looking for me across the room or anything that I was doing for him but was still nice. He asked for my number so we could party afterwards and he said he’d call really early in the morning but he didn’t! I just got a text and then when I replies a few hours later he never replied.
I want to know if for a guy to like you at all does he have to make an effort to look for you across the room on a night out and flirt? Or make any communication at all because I never text him but he never texts me.
Maye because I don’t really get with many people I am attached but he never felt anything to begin with…

Reply April 5, 2012, 10:00 am

Becky Leigh

I really like this guy. We met up had a couple of drinks, he kissed me.
Met up more, he kissed again. This happened several times and he even came to where I work and kissed me again. Couple of weeks ago, we were out. Sane thing happened. But at the end of the night, my friend told me she told him to ask me out, but I don’t want to rush things and neither does he. My friend keeps saying she’s sorry she did that but he might still like me. Since then , I’ve always been the one to text him. He did say last week, he wants to see me more but never texts me. I want to see him again, but has he lost interest?

Reply April 1, 2012, 2:05 pm

themissus

Yes, he has. If was interested he’d be texting you. Move on to the next guy.

Reply May 9, 2012, 1:16 pm

deja

hello themissus,
i just had to say that you must not understand how hard it is just to move on tot he next guy it may be for you but maybe you just havent found LOVE yet. love is not something that you just throw away just letting you know and heres my advice to you i think you should just try to talk it out and work it out and see what goes on from there !!!

Respectfully,
deja the lover <3

Reply September 9, 2012, 2:27 am

Maria

Hey Eric, please help mee /: ok , i really like this one guy iwanna know if he likes me though , i think he flurt;s with me . he poke’s me everytime he see’s me . and ihave a class with him and he sit’s right behind me , and he bother’s me alot he only does this to me not no other gurl. when i put my head down the desk he try’s many way’s to wake me up.. and then when we play around he fight’s me but we are just playing around , when he fight’s me he all trying to hug ma and hold my hand , and also keep’s poking me alot. sometime’s he look’s at me at class and hallways.. does this mean’s he like’s me too /:

Reply March 31, 2012, 1:28 pm

brit

Just enjoy the friendship. Some guys start getting all werid once you tell them u like or ask them do they like you. Because afterwards it wont be natural and then the fun is gone. But I think he likes you and your making his day a lot more intresting because he gets to play with you . Start playing too !

Reply March 31, 2012, 5:59 pm

Maria

soo you think i should keep playinqq ,, i really like him /:

Reply April 1, 2012, 2:40 pm

Maria

Please comment back :’(

Reply April 9, 2012, 6:15 pm

Ariel

So I’ve been dating this guy for about a month now and i really, really like him. Listen I’m in highschool and I have 6th perio with this girl named Sarah. I have no problem with her at all. She’s super nice, but sometimes my boyfreind would come into my class 6th period and talk to her and just not talk to me. I feel like he forgets I’m here. It makes me mad a little but it like hurts more. I like him a lot and he treats me better than my last exboyfriend. I just don’t know what to do. I’m so confused.

Reply March 29, 2012, 9:32 pm

mizredbone

Hey, i have been dating this guy for 6 years and we dont talk like a normal couplle should. We live together and he more stand-offish. We live together and we dont talk all that much. He talk to his friends all the time more then withme. He be on facebook all day long on his phone talking to people. He talks to males and females more then me. The only time he tells me he loves me is when i say it first. Im lost in words what to do. I love him and want to marry him one day. I just dont know if he into me anymore.he dont talk about his feelings to me or what he is thinking. He just holds it in. Everytime i say something he get all mad like i did something wrong. I just ask him a question and he gets all mad at meand go off the deep end. I really dont understand whats going on in his head. We did broke up for 6 months but we was still living together and doing everything that we did when we was in a relationship. He was talking to a female and some how felt in love with her, but she went back with her baby-daddy. Since she went back to her baby-daddy we got back together. We been back together for 3 months now and things still the same. We dont really talk at all but a word ot two every once in a while. Please tell me whats he thinking or what to do.

Reply March 28, 2012, 12:41 am

Awua

I’ve had quiet boyfriends, but quiet boyfriends talk to the woman in their life. They don’t get angry when I talk to them. They don’t talk to other women, never mind flirting with them or acting like they’re in love with them.

Get out. He’s not into you and he’s using you for the nookie and having a domestic servant until he finds someone better.

Reply June 11, 2012, 1:27 am

Elizabeth

There’s this guy from work that strange enough I can’t stop thinking about him and is really irritating. I know we could never be together since we are in different states, he’s different than me and he’s not even my type at all. We talk during the process of fixing issues and the conversation sometimes turns flirtatious. I try to treat him kind of like crap so that he doesn’t notice that I like him. I try to go on a time periods of avoiding him by ignoring him so that I can get him off my mind and so that he doesn’t get a clue that I like him, but somehow he always comes back with either a comments like “Are you ok?” or “Oh I see you still work here” and tells people that he misses me, what puzzles me is that he will tell me I had a date this past weekend, like I care we are not even close enough friends to discuss such things. What does this guy want? Does he like me or not? Personally I think he is a waste of my time.

Reply March 27, 2012, 10:26 pm

Anonymous

Hey,

I’m a woman and I have the same problem as you. It sucks. Like you, I’ve talked to this guy about our respective issues/problems and that is how we became friends. He shares things with me he doesn’t share with anyone else, and vice versa. Slowly, the conversations have also become flirtatious. He’s told me he likes me, and I have told him the same. However, about a month ago, something about him changed ever so slightly. I guess having a woman’s intuition, I picked up on it. Anyways, he will text me but not initiate an actual phone conversation. Sometimes, if I wanna talk to him on the phone, I have to ask him. A couple of times he said he doesn’t feel up to it (he’s going through a tough time)…so I play it cool and say it’s okay but really inside I’m wondering, why can’t he talk on the phone, doesn’t he want to hear my voice, etc etc. I can’t really stop thinking about him either. I’m caught in some limbo where I think of him all day, and I can’t help myself, I want to initiate contact with him. Anyways, he says he misses me too when we don’t talk, and we also live far apart so I don’t even know why I care this much, but I do. I am 26 and even though I’ve got a good amount of experience in relationships, I feel I don’t always understand men. I think this guy seems like he likes you, but he’s clearly sending out some mixed signals. Maybe, if it’s anything like my situation, and you guys talk about “issues” and fixing them, he could be going through something where his mind isn’t on having a girlfriend/relationship, but he can’t help his attraction for you and it comes through in the conversations with you. It’s hard because if you’re friends with a man and you’re attracted to him, and vice versa, it’s like you are more than friends but less than boyfriend/girlfriend. As a woman, I know it confuses me because I want a relationship and at the same time, liking this guy is preventing me from wanting to meet anyone else, and I worry that I will get my heart broken.

I think only you can be the judge of whether or not he is a waste of your time. If he’s stressed and has other things on his mind, I’d maybe try to figure things out more and take my time. Focus on your own life, your friends, things that make you happy in the mean time. If you’ve had enough, maybe talk openly and honestly with him, telling him how you feel, and that you’d rather have a straight answer of if he likes you or not so that you can move on. Many times, men and women play games with one another where one doesn’t want to feel vulnerable, by putting their feelings out there, so both people can end up playing mind games and pretending not to care. That can’t end well. The best, mature way to handle it I think would be talking to him directly, telling him what you’re thinking/feeling, and asking if he feels the same, and that you wouldn’t want to move on without knowing how he really feels. That’s his chance to tell you if he feels the same, if this is just something more casual, if he sees you just as a friend, etc. Life is complicated enough, just be up front and ask him directly. If he is honest and likes you and wants to have a relationship, great. If not, at least you know you’re not wasting your time and energy that you could be spending on someone who will reciprocate your feelings. If he plays the game where he doesn’t want you to know he likes you, so he gives you some sort of mixed answer, I’d say move on and try to leave him in the past (as someone you’d think of pursuing as more than a friend/relationship-wise) – because if a guy can’t see you as so special that he can’t tell you how he feels even when given the opportunity (ie. when asked by you) – then he isn’t worth it.

I feel your confusion, and I’m going to follow the same advice I gave you if I still have these feelings for him probably in a month or so. Eventually, I’m going to have to ask him how he feels about me relationship-wise, because I know he does like me. I can’t continue talking to a man who flirts with me but doesn’t want to be with me. In the future, would the man you’re with want u to be talking to a guy you once liked more than a friend and flirt with? I know most men wouldn’t. I say give this guy a chance if he wants the chance to make you happy, and if he doesn’t care to take that chance, move on. Good luck!

Reply April 4, 2012, 3:40 pm

Awua

1) It sounds like this is a work situation. Why are you flirting with a co-worker or colleague on company time? Knock it off. You’re there to work. Save flirting for lunch or your breaks, or after work.

2) It also sounds like you don’t know yourself or what you want at all. Why do you have a “type”, anyway? Can’t you appreciate a man for who he is?

3) He says he has dates. That means he’s not into you. Get the hint.

4) It sounds like he has sense to go out with other people, because you are a total nut case. Do you know how I know this? You lie to this man and push him away, and then you have the audacity to claim YOU don’t know what HE wants?

Are you for real? You should be ashamed of yourself for even daring to type that.

YOU’RE the one who is making things difficult because 1) you don’t know what the F you want and 2) you’re a liar and a manipulator. What else can anyone call your behavior when you tell him you don’t like him–when you do (LIAR), and push him away–when you don’t want him gone (MANIPULATOR).

Get help. You need it. Desperately.

Reply June 11, 2012, 1:19 am

Sapphyreopal5

Wait, so you are the one who is avoiding/ignoring him, treat him like crap as you put it, saying he is a waste of your time, etc. yet YOU are the confused one? Forgive me for being confused here but it sounds like the one who is playing anyone is you playing him. Get your sh!t together, figure out what on earth it is YOU want from HIM.

Reply July 27, 2013, 9:50 pm

Sarah Lee

So i knw this guy, we have been friends since form 2. I met him in spanish class & after dat we haven’t stopped talking 2 each other. I never liked him back then but i do nw & i told him & he also said dat he felt d same way… & after dat day wen i confessed 2 him i liked him, things were different. I mean we always wanted 2 see each other. I cant even remember one day dat we neva talked, i mean i loved talking 2 him…. & nw we barely talk. Back then wen i used 2 message him, in a split second he wud reply but nw in 2 days and more he replies 2 me. If I am on facebook, i see him online but yet he neva replies 2 my message but still puts up status and talks 2 his friends but guess wat? i brushed it off! & jus yesterday he puts up a status saying ‘CANT BE FRIENDS’ and i thought he was talking about me, but i was quick 2 come 2 conclusions because after dat i saw a picture with him and dis nex girl, Holding Hands :( I mean, i feel stupid! I dont knw hw 2 feel actually because he is nt even my boyfriend. I thought dat we were actually getting somewhere but i had my hopes up 2 high & nwi feel crushed…… hw do i solve dis…. shud i jus talk 2 him or leave him & move on……….. wat if my assumptions about this girl is wrong??

Reply March 26, 2012, 4:13 pm

Fay

Hi. I have a question. My boyfriend and I broke up 6 weeks ago. I actually broke up with him then immediately changed me mind. Well since then I called, texted and emailed a total of about 25 times. I know… toatlly pathetic.
Dring this time he responded nicely (not saying stop..were done… nothing) more like nice vague comments. Finally he texted me after I asked him to please just tell me its over and he did clarify at that point. Why would he respond those other two times?

Reply March 23, 2012, 2:17 pm

Eric Charles

Stop obsessing about this… you are guaranteed to drive him away and drive yourself crazy in the process.
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The answer is: YOU DON’T KNOW. You can’t know – you’re not a mind reader.
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Stop acting so needy and move on with living a happy and fulfilling life. If you want any chance of him coming back, you will destroy that chance by not giving him any psychological room to breathe.
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MOVE ON.
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He knows you’re there for the taking. It’s probably as obvious as the sun in the sky. Ease off and focus on something else. If he wants you back, he’ll make the move.

Reply March 23, 2012, 3:23 pm

Awua

Because he’s probably feeling sorry for you for being an immature neurotic who doesn’t know what she wants.

And maybe–just maybe–he’s tired of your manic mood swings.

Look, cookie, YOU BROKE UP WITH HIM.

If you didn’t mean it, tough. Maybe next time you’ll think before you break up with somebody willy nilly again.

Think of it as a life lesson. You desperately need it.

Reply June 11, 2012, 1:06 am

sexymama

how to tell when a guy doesnt like you and do like you

Reply March 21, 2012, 3:02 pm

becky

just like to add he wont stop liking my status’ and its starting to annoy me coz if hes liking them then why isnt he talking to me :@

Reply March 19, 2012, 5:07 pm

becky

theres this guy, like there usually is, and we met at ice skating a few weeks ago. We’ve been talkin on facebook for a couple of weeks flirting, hes been saying im pretty etc. He then posts a heart i my inbox saying he fancies me and i told him the same and weve been on skype during all of this flirting and getting to know each other. But the other day i posted in is inbox a LMS (like my status) and since then hes been really weird and egnoring me slightly and not making conversation, its like as if ive just told him i like him. Its like he likes me but is trying to forget me but the problem is i cant move on because i like him so much. Does he like me? Is he avoiding me? i dont know what to do because it just went from being really close and talking all the time and flirting to hardly any interaction what so ever and i dont know whether i should contact him first or what all i want to do is talk to him and see if hes out at the weekend but im just worried hes rejecting me!

Reply March 19, 2012, 4:21 pm

Ally

I just went on a date with a guy that showed 90% of these signs (this was our first date). He stared at every girl that walked by, never looked me in the eyes, flirted with the waitress he knew, and stood me up before we met. The problem is he actually likes me…lot.

Some of these signs are misleading. I even do some of those things on a date/ in a relationship, but it doesn’t mean that I’m not interested.

Reply March 16, 2012, 3:33 pm

Eric Charles

It’s true – to be honest, I’m not a huge advocate of looking for signs whatsoever. Much better to ASSUME that you’re hot and the guy wants you than to play “emotional detective”, obsessing over subtle, often meaningless “clues”.

Reply March 16, 2012, 4:00 pm

Awua

Well, that explains why I never lacked for a date when I was single!

I expect men to want to be with me–and by damn, they do. Even though I’m married!

Not a week goes by that I’m not asked out. I went out with a bunch of people at work not too long ago–and had three guys fighting to buy drinks for me, despite how there were a dozen women half my age (I’m 50!) in our party who would have loved to have the attention.

Any man who doesn’t want to be with me is a moron. That really is my attitude!

It’s amazing how many men think a particular woman is worth having when the woman herself thinks she’s worth having. Funny how that works.

Reply June 11, 2012, 12:42 am

Sara

So I really like this guy and he’s in my homeroom and a lot of my classes at school. So a little while ago he would like flirt with me and make me laugh and everything, but now its changed and I don’t really talk to him anymore. We’re not best friends and I’ve only known him since school started (about 4 or 5 months) and I think he might have liked me for a while and I like him too but I’m not sure how to flirt with him if he seems uninterested. How do I flirt with him? How do I know he likes me or not? Please Help!

Reply February 23, 2012, 10:34 pm

hottie

My boyfriend and ? A?????r? planning to get married,he is jobless but searching for work,? love him and he says he loves ???????????? too but in all our conversation he talks about his ex too much and that get ???????????? worried eventhough it is about Ho???? she dis appointed him but i sometime feels that girl has a part of ???????????? than him,he had engaged †?? girl but refuses to engage ???????????? with †?? excuse he has no money and now my problem is A????? scared if he gets a job and his ex needs him he might dump ???????????? for her. Pls help ???????????? on ??ã†?? to do

Reply February 6, 2012, 8:08 pm

chibiabos

I have a penis, and this article is asinine. The fact that someone doesn’t effusively crawl up your ass mean absolutely nothing other than that single fact

And FYI sniping out greetings when someone passes you by does not make you two friends and it doesn’t mean you’re a good person. If you really want to screw someone, which I’m assuming is the ultimate motive here since none of you are going to rush into a sexless relationship based on mutual respect and grokking (as it were), and you really feel like you could give it a shot then have the decency not to play some stupid game.

You don’t need to be vulgar about it and you don’t need to go harassing random people like some drunken fraternal dipshit, though that is the path some girls seem to choose, but people in this society need to start recognizing the difference between acknowledging their sexual wants and letting them consume your entire life.

Sex isn’t evil, and if it works out for you then great, but even the free love crowd tacks on so much overcomplicated crap to justify the getting someone else to get them off…

If you want a guy so damned bad then try treating people with respect instead of pretending that you’re somehow bound into this convoluted bullshit

Reply February 5, 2012, 9:30 pm

Summer

I like a boy and we have became very close friends recently again because we kinda just stopped talking to each other last time and now we became friends again but last time before we stopped talking he got a girlfriend and I think that’s what caused our friendship to slip! Any way the past couple of weeks we were talking to eachothermin school and I sit right beside the bin and he keeps coming over and pretending he needs to sharpen his pencil so he could talk to me but I didn’t know if he liked me. the weekend after he asked me to go to the cinema with him and his friend who is going out with my friend so you could see it as a doubl date but it wasn’t really. Then my best friend broke up with her boyfriend who we were at the cinema with and then out of the blue my crush announced that he liked my friend. I was gutted when I found out because I really thought we were going on to something. Anyway their dating now and now he doesn’t talk to me so he’s done it again. I just think I shouldnt talk to him again because I feel like he’s leading me on when he’s singl then ditching me when he’s in a relationship. I don’t know?

Reply February 3, 2012, 2:35 pm

Confuseddd!

Okay, let’s give this a shot, there’s this guy, and I am in love with him, and I know a lot of girls my age say that and in a month they’re over the guy, but I’ve liked him for so long that I just can’t stand this anymore.
Okay, so I’m actually really close with him as a friend, I know a lot about his past and him now, I know who he likes and everything, and he knows almost everything about me execpt that I love him, everyone thinks I fancy him, but I’ve been denying it, because I don’t, I love him. He always messes around with me and talks to me, I have so much fun when I’m around him and I feel he’s the only one I can trust, and when I’m around him, I feel like life makes sense again. And he put as his status on facebook “I wish that i’d be liked for who I am and for one girl to put me before any other boys” So I messaged him saying “Hey, I put you before any other boy, and I like you for who you are!” And he didn’t even reply after half an hour, when normally it takes him 10 minutes max to reply so I sent “Okay, ignore me then”

He still hasn’t messaged back after an hour.
Am I over-reacting? And will this make him hate me or something?
Please help:(

Reply February 3, 2012, 11:39 am

Confuseddd!

the hotmail account is .co.uk not com please change that if you reply thanks xx

Reply February 3, 2012, 11:42 am

Awua

Are you stupid? Why did you put that on facebook?

Do you realize that 1) It’s a public forum more or less, and you might have embarrassed him; or 2) that things don’t always come across the way you intend in print the way they would if you were talking, face to face? Print doesn’t have smiles or softness or tenderness. Print is print!

You’ve probably confused the hell out of him, and he doesn’t know if you like him as a man or as a friend, or if you’re joking with him, or what!

What’s wrong with you?

Reply June 11, 2012, 12:47 am

May

I’m actually interested in two guys right now. [I mean, it doesn't hurt to look around my surroundings more right?] Wells, before i get into any details… i wanted to know if GUYS [you boys] talk to girls your not interested in.

Anyways, boy#1 actually said he has a girlfriend a month ago when we were getting into a conversation. But the thing is, he and i have a class together, and he always ends up talking to me. It looks like he talks to me more than any other girls in the room and always tries to get out of class the same time i do so we can both talk to each other casually after class. [cause i usually leave really fast cause idk what to do.. i mean i would REALLY love to talk to him after class all the time but if it doesnt look casual, im kind of afraid you know?] So like, i talk to him almost everyday now… but the thing is….. WHY IS HE TALKING TO ME when he has a gf? Whats going on here? is he interested in me or what? I really want to ask him whats up with his gf and him… [they both go to DIFFERENT college/ i have never met the girl] I mean like… are they still going out???!?!?!?! I want to ask him but i dont know how to start up that kind of conversation.. -_-xx sighh

Boy#2.
Okay.. so im kind of interested in this guy too. [Not as much as #1 lol] the thing is, He always use to say stuff to grab my attention.. Hi May!! and i’d just wave back.. and when i leave he’d be like BYE may!! and i’d just kindly smile back… and he did this 5 times before he finally got tired i think..cause i never said hi/bye first and never really tried to continue his conversation. BUT thats only because he made things awkward.. he’d like randomly blurt out that he can match me of what im wearing that day the next day and stuff.. i mean, what in the world am i to say to that? i dont even know him THAT well.. and yes,, im attracted to his looks and his clown like personality right now haha. i dont really know much about him just his major and how old he is…. BUT ASIDE FROM ALL THAT!! the most important part is…. his flirting with another girl now. LIKE WTH? i thought I THOUGHT!!! he was interested in me??!?!?! Like he talks to this other girl more now and today he even hugged her twice…[he never did that to me!] i heard that boys find many ways to touch girls they like, is this true? idk why but i kind of got jealous of her!!! Im sad/pissed and i dont even have the right to be. -_-x so my question is.. wthell is he doing? was he just playing nice to me or being a jerk? im confused..

so from #1 and 2…how do i go forward with my relationship? Advice me pls!

Reply February 3, 2012, 4:05 am

naomi

It has been over 4 years since I’ve had a crush on someone and having this teenage feeling is weird it sometimes makes me act clumsy around the guy I’m crushing on now. We work together and he is super hot, he’s very friendly with me and others. He also flirts a lot with me which is how I ended up liking him so much. The problem is that he now knows that I like him or atleast he can see that I do because I’ve been pretty obvious around him. I know he doesn’t he doesn’t like me because he sometimes takes days to text me back or sometimes doesn’t text me back at all. I never ask him why when I see him I just carry on as if it doesn’t bother. When I textd him my bbm pin and he never textd back or even invited me on bbm it hurt me real bad. So now I want to know HOW DO I WIN THIS SITUATION?? I tried to distance myself and flat out ignore him but because I am soo used to talking to him ignoring him just makes it obvious that I’m hurting. It makes me seem like I need his pity for not liking me back. How do I gradually ignore him?

Reply December 29, 2011, 3:04 am

Susana Ontiveros

Hi Naomi,

Its funny to mention but I was actually in a similar situation recently. I truly liked this guy at work and all of what you mentioned in your post happened to me. The way that I got distance myself was the fact that he obtained a job elsewhere and I can truly now say that I am actually happy it happened that way. He was completely playing mind games with me. The sad part about it was that we are both married which carried more guilt which was one of the reasons for me not wanting to have him around anymore. I hope that you pray on this and you will see that if you do it will be answered the way it did to me.

Reply March 12, 2012, 12:43 am

Awua

Why do you have to “win”? It’s not about winning and losing. He’s just not into you. That’s just how it is.

Why would you want to be with someone who doesn’t want to be with you, anyway? Why would you let it hurt you? There are over 3 billion males on this planet! Plenty to choose from! Stop being a child, grow up and GET OVER the fact that he isn’t into you!

It’s really that simple! He doesn’t like you! SO F’N what? The world doesn’t stop spinning on its axis because you don’t get what you want, cupcake.

You say he flirts with you all the time? Why do you let him? Give him the cold shoulder the next time he tries it–he will never stop if you keep letting him treat you like a toy. Tell him his behavior is inappropriate, and you would appreciate it if he dealt with you in a more mature manner.

STOP TEXTING HIM! Why do you do that, when you know he’s not into you? Has it occurred to you that you’re being a nuisance and borderline stalking? Would you want some guy you didn’t like to be texting you endlessly? Did you ever put your place in his shoes, and imagine how utterly deranged or self-loathing you seem to him to be texting him when he’s made it clear he thinks you’re someone he can use?

What is the matter with you?

Reply June 11, 2012, 12:58 am

Susy 84

So there’s this guy at my work who I began working with closely in a case together. Both of us are married and I have a child and he doesn’t. From the beginning I began to notice that he would do random things like try to ask me about my personal life but would act shy by not making eye contact while engaging in conversation with me. I have also noticed that he will often pass by through my work station about a million times but can’t tell if it’s on purpose or he really needs to get through. My supervisor happens to be his friend and I have heard from my supervisor that this guy will often compliment me about my work often. He will also tease me here and there usually when i’m alone and not around my other co-worker friends and call me on the phone for some absurd reason. Recently while holding a work related conversation with him he told me he had told my supervisor that I was the best employee he had and learned that if he could have me on all his cases he would but then he ended our conversation abruptly to throw something to the trash and seemed a little nervous. I don’t know what that meant? Any feedback would be greatly appreciated.

Reply December 23, 2011, 2:00 pm

Awua

You’re married. He’s married. He isn’t your concern. You don’t want to be his.

Stop thinking about him, because you are going to hurt a lot of people if you don’t stop obsessing about your fantasies.

You don’t know what he feels–and it really isn’t your concern, as a married woman.

Forget about him, and get back to work.

PROBLEM SOLVED.

Reply June 11, 2012, 1:01 am

treionna

PLEASE HELP!!!
There is this guy i really like, like omg and he is sooo freaky fine man
but lately i am getting tired of him because he act like doesn’t like me
he always staring at me and i even heard from my friend he was talking about me and i ask his friend was he talking about me in a bad way and his is like no in a good way
and then he is always checking me out and i talk to him a few times i told him i had a crush on him and i thought he was cute and he smile and i told him i want to get to know him cause i am always hearing about him from other people and i am just getting tired of it and he says i can talk to him but i never talk to him like i try….
and he smiled at me like 2 times and i always use to say hi to him like for a week in a half and i started to see he wasn’t saying hi to me first at all so i stop saying hi to him i mean he say hi to me if i say hi to him
and i like i am so confused like i don’t want to like this guy no more but for some reason something keep pullin me back and i don’t know what it is
and i just need to stop this before i end of crying again cause i feel like he likes me but he doesnt know how to tell me and he’s friends i know think i am so freaky hot
and he told his cousin he thought i was fine and he think he have a chance with me but he doesn’t know how to approach me wtf
he can talk to every other girl accept me…
like he wouldn’t seat at my table at lunch time but his friend did…
and like i don’t know anymore
i don’t think i never have a chance with him
i want to be over him i swear i do….

Reply December 21, 2011, 6:51 pm

Riley

This guy, never stoped talking to me and now he never “has time”
I really like him and I know hhe really likes me but my friends say Play-Hard-To-Get
But how?

Reply December 17, 2011, 12:33 pm

Eric Charles

Right now you’re fixating your focus on the guy 100%. And all that’s going to do is make you nuts.
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Stop focusing on the guy. Focus on your life. Focus on your own happiness and enjoyment of your life.
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It’s not necessarily a matter of “playing hard to get”, it’s really just giving him room to reach for you. And to make that room, your best bet is to have a full and fulfilling life that keeps you occupied and engaged in the meantime.
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Hope that helps.

Reply December 17, 2011, 1:46 pm

isabel

i agree

Reply December 26, 2011, 7:35 pm

MariLu

It’s all about intuition! How we do that? No idea! It’s so easy for us, women, to analyse every single detail trying to came out with de perfect reason why the guy went from hot to cold or smth like that! Believe me, girls, when you know that guy likes you it’s probably because he does!

Why he doesn’t make the move or he just disappears? Probably he’s got a lot on his mind or he’s scared or he thinks he just not that into you or actually he isn’t! But what about you? What do you feel? Do you like him? Did you act upon it? Go with you gut! If you feel like to talk to him just do it! Keep it in a light conversation! Are you intense: you go girl, give it hard! :p

Every case is a different story! Every story has unique characters! Every character has it’s own personality! So, girls, can you personality be described by “that guy”? Of course, not! You’ve got your work or/and your studies, your friends, your family, your hobbies and so on!

So, here’s a quick tip: it’s this situation annoying you? Yes! So act upon it! Don’t know what to do? So perhaps it’s because you shouldn’t do anything! Did you act the way you think you should have? Good! Girls, our thoughts, attitudes and behaviors are who we are! In this early stage of the “relationship”, if a guy doesn’t like your attitude or you don’t like his attitude it’s because right now it wouldn’t work!

Keep it simple! Do you want to move on? Do it! You don’t you know what to do…Well, I bet you’ve got friends to go out with or that dance lessons you’ve been dying to take…perhaps, that project you’ve been postponing :p

Note: sorry if this look like a know-it-all text! It wasn’t my intention! I’ve been trough a couple of these maddening situation and somehow I got to this conclusion! Right now I’m trying to do that! ahahah aahh ahahha

Reply February 4, 2012, 11:42 am

magdalena

okay so i like this guy very much, we have one class together and he flirts with me a lot. we make a lot of eye contact and for a long time too. But sometimes i feel like he is just not paying attention at all,sometimes he wont really talk to me. is it because he might have problems at home or somewhere else? it is really hard to read him. he tells me a lot of secrets about himself. I really don’t know what is going on in his head. I really want to find out if he likes me or not. sometimes it hurts because i always think to myself someone will steal him because he is very good looking. all the other girls like him because he is hot but i like him for the right reasons.please help :( what do i do?

Reply December 14, 2011, 6:15 pm

Brit brit

Ok , so my aparment neighboor as i walked by his doorstep opened his door and said ” what was ur name again ” ( i previosly introduced myself to him before when he approched me ) I told him my name and then he asked me where was i going, i said school. he then asked me what am i doing after school. i said i had to do some things with my mother lol. and then he was like ” theres always tomorrow” , i was kind of hessitant and thinking what to say. There was a pause…then he said , Can i get your number ? . now i wanted to give it to him but i keep thinking to myself this would make me look easy .like all he has to do is ask a couple questions a BAM he gets the digits or I kept thinking to myself he’s your neighboor this is a bad idea your already socially challenged what if you screw up ur hang out and cant hide cause he’s ur neighboor. sooo basically i just said ” I’ll see you again you live right there ” and then said i had to go so i wouldnt be late for my class. I was sooo happy that he asked me to hang out when i left that i couldnt believe i didnt just say yes. ANYWAYS , I didnt bump in to him for a couple of weeks less sooner than i thought. when i finally did he was in the parking lot getting someting out of his car and i was outside too with someone about to get a ride to work. He didnt say nothing , he was looking down at the ground. i wanted to say hi, but once again i was hessitant. He did go on the otherside of his window and peeked through at us . ( i saw him do it when i looked backed ) sooo, after we pulled off around the front of the apartments he was walking back to his place. i looked at him again … i think he was looking at me too. and then he started putting on his shades LOL and as we drove by i threw up the peace sign and he threw it back up at me and laughed and smilled while he did it.

SO what i want from this is you guys is feed back on what i shared. I do like him but i do believe he’s much older than me im 21. im guessing he’s in his late 20′s or maybe he’s 30 he has a mature but young look i cant tell.

I NEED ADVICE what should i do just leave it alone?
i dont walk by his apartment door anymore i take the back parking lot ally because i dnt want to look like im looking 4 attention or look like a stalker lol

Reply December 1, 2011, 3:15 pm

Crystal

I like this guy at school, yet I don’t know him or anything about him other then he’s a Raider’s fan, cause of a shirt he wore one day, I’m too shy too confront him and I have anxiety, I’m not sure how to go about initiating a conversation with him, but one day I was at the hospital tim hortons and he was there But I didn’t see him, I felt his presence sounds weird but it’s so true, There’s been allot of times where I’ll like a guy and there’s no interest on his part, But I feel different in this situation, I’ve never felt a guy I like’s energy before, And I’d like some advice, He’s looked at me then noticed me and glanced several times, But I’m not sure how to go about it. Help! :)

Reply November 30, 2011, 10:29 am

Crystal

He purposely met up with me at the door so he could open it for me!
????? Need advice!

Reply December 1, 2011, 2:38 pm

Mary

I sent this guy a birthday text message at 7.30 pm & called him out of the blue. No respond. He gave me a missed call at 10pm. I trying calling back but the line was busy so i text him asking: ” umm is it kurt :O ?” he replied: ” yeah, who’s this?” i replied:” :D ah forgot its mary. He responded:” hai how are you?”…
I began to feel awkward as if i were cheap or hard up according to his respondance. I’m still uncomfortable about it. I didnt reply him after that. Infact he didnt know who it was as it was my first time to text him out of the blue.
I was just wondering if he was bored or annoyed with the birthday text. :/
what impression did it give him?:O what was he feeling/thinking/reaction?:-| what/how does his conversation sound? What does his conversational signs mean? Please help!
:P:|:) :S thanks!!! :D

Reply November 30, 2011, 1:49 am

Annie

Ok i really need help with liking boys.
So me and this boy his name is Brandon Holmes,we were talking for about 3 or 5 weeks now,then all of a sudden he stopped talking to me and that me upset. It was 6 or 5 day ago.He is 15 and so am i.Did I do something wrong????

Reply November 29, 2011, 8:45 pm

Tiffany

Same thing happened to me the guy I’m talking to stopped talking to me but he still talks to my friends.. :/ you should ask him why he stopped or maybe hes just really busy just give it about a week see if he texts or talks to you.. if not then ask him whats going on?

Reply December 20, 2011, 12:47 am

Rubi

HEY PLEASE HELP ME!!!
well theres this guy i like, lets call him M, he knows i like him my friends sometimes tell him he should ask me out and stuff. He flirts with me and shows off a lot even his friends say his showing off at me :) but i find out he apparently like this girl, lets call her K and they have a class and she always sits on the table in front of him and flicks her hair :/
I also hang out near him at recess and lunch and we sometimes kick the footy to each other and his shows off my kicking it really high and making its twirl and if im not kicking it and im sitting down he will aim at me and smile and laugh, he is so sweet to me, but he confuses me so much!!! PLEASE HELP also im 14 and he is 15 we are in the same year

Reply November 25, 2011, 1:38 am

Alison

hi :) I have a crush with a guy who is a year and a half younger than me, we are in high school, Im 16 a he is 14, well i stared to talk to him in facebook, at first he looked interested, then i continue saying hi at school, but after that he begun to flirt with another girl {comments in his profile} and he did not care about talking to me. well this girl have a boyfriend so the guy i like seems to give up. Then i begun to talk to him again {facebook}, it seems that he doesn t like but he doesnt ignore me, so yesterday i approached him to say hi, while going to school, because he was in the same way, he was serious, at first he did like he doesn t see me but then he answered me and we walked together for a while, there was an akward silence so i said WE ARE GOING TO ARRIVE EARLY uh? and his reaction was like from serious to a smile ..end of the story .. also in all that time he didnt make eye contact, he was looking at the floor all the time, and he is not shy. so he is not interesed in me? or what?

Reply November 22, 2011, 1:30 am

Morgan

Ok, so there’s this guy I really like but I don’t know if he likes me. We’re not in the same class so I don’t hang around him that much. But one time he sat by me while I was drawing in my notebook and we were laughing and he even drew something in my notebook. Then he left and I thought it was over but he came back. Like I said I really, really like him, so I’m thinking of asking my best friend to ask him if he likes me. Is this a smart idea?

Reply November 20, 2011, 2:59 pm

Kate

There’s a guy at my school which I’m really interested in. He used to look at me in the hallway and once he even smiled at me but not anymore. He totally ignores me. I don’t know what to do. I’ve never talked to him and I know I’ll never have the courage to do so either (I’ve never done anything like this). At lunch, he sits one table AWAY from me and my friends and he just never looks at me anymore. I’m so lost and sad and I don’t know what my problem is and why I just can’t forget about him. Please help me, is there anyway that I can get him to talk to me? Or just find out if the slightest chance of him liking me exists? Does he like me or is he simply not interested?

Reply November 14, 2011, 3:56 pm

Astrid

I am in a relashionship a fell for someone else. I currently living with that peorson while my crush pretty much knows how i feel. My crush worked with me and we would flirt and get along too well\. He is my perfect guy. Problem is i don’t know i he like me for sure. He told me he loved me casually in front of my cousin. He left town and i had plans of moving into my own apt. the apt did not follow through because of financial reasons. I’m friends on facebook with him and sent a message but he never wrote back . It kills me not to know. I need to know if the person who made me find problems with my relationship was for the best. I would do anything to be with him. Hurts to know that he just left even though we said our goodbyes. Should I peruse finding out how he feels? Or do I need to get over it? Feel like we could be soul mates and i think he realizes that too.

Reply November 12, 2011, 6:31 pm

john boy

I just want to interject that these are not cast iron rules and will depend on the context of the situation. For example a girl I work with and absolutely adore definitely believes in the first rule ‘he’s not around you’, because if I didn’t go and talk to her she would take it to heart and read to much into it. The problem was I spent a lot of time going and talking to her when I should have been working, but some days I was busy and had to work so couldn’t talk to her or ‘be around’ her. Nothing to do with me losing interest or whatever she thought was going on, I was just busy doing jobs that couldn’t be left.

Reply November 8, 2011, 12:09 pm

Carla

If a man doen’t have feelings for me anymore, will he loose his time arguing with me at 5am in the morning after a night out with his friends about my mistakes (that he think I did) in our past relationship?

I thins he still likes me, but I realised (at this argument) that he thinks I did a lot of things wrong. He was yelling at me about things I did wrong in our relationship. And it was 5 am and we were both tired from the night out. When I started crying saying that I couldn’t beleive what he was saying, he just said “I can’t argue anymore” and drove off very quickly with a lot of tires noise.

Would he loose his time arguing with me at 5am in the middle of the street if he didn’t stil have feelings for me?

Reply November 7, 2011, 1:54 am

Ben

Some of this is absolute rubbish. Guys get shy too. Sometimes if we don’t make eye contact or an effort to talk to you it’s because we’re afraid that A. we’ll say something stupid B. we’ll make an idiot of ourselves or C. we’ll annoy you. We can’t tell if you like or hate us either. Sometimes we may even talk about other girls to try and draw attention away from our feelings for you. I’ve been there. I’ve done all that. Sometimes we’re afraid of screwing up a friendship.

Reply November 6, 2011, 1:09 am

Eric Charles

I completely agree. SOMETIMES…
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But the point of the article isn’t a guidebook on becoming a better “emotional detective” to figure out if a guy likes her or not – that’s the sort of thing that drives women (and sometimes men) crazy.
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I give the most common signs, but I go on to say that playing the detective role is a losing game…
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My main goal is to give women a focus on something that they can control and have power over, versus worrying and feeling powerless. So that’s part of the reason I didn’t go into every possibility – it’s really a moot point anyway.

Reply November 6, 2011, 10:33 am

Caitlin

Ok, so me and this guy talk to each other like everyday except for sometimes when it kinda feels awkward for no reason and I don’t talk to him cause I feel awkward too. Hahaha. I think he likes me because he comments about my eyes, always gives me direct eye contact, sits near me, makes jokes with me, teases me, and we just feel comfortable with each other. He always smiles when we talk, and I find myself smiling for no reason while were talking for no reason too. Like one time we were talking about something serious, and we were both trying so hard not to smile for some reason. The only thing is I’m afriad were just friends. I have no idea if he’s into me, and I’m scared to ask him because last year my good friend asked him out and he said they were just friends. And it was really uncomfortable for them. (Although when he told everyone in this one class about her asking him out, when I walked away from the group cause icouldnt hear anything, he called me back and was like “WAIT I HAVE TO TELL YOU SOMETHING.” But I’m really not sure if he likes me. I think he knows too, since my friend deiceded to hint obvisously about it, and I think he told my friend too, cause whenever she sees me now she starts smiling for no reason. So he knows I like him but still he talks to me. And I just love the way he looks at me. But I’m afraid to ask him out becaus e I know he has lots of friends that are girls and I don’t want to lose him altogether. he even has this special tone of voice for me that I love. But I’m still not sure, I know I’m his type and everything. Sorry this was so long, haha, but help?!

Reply November 6, 2011, 12:40 am

Caitlin

Oh yeah, and I forgot to metion that sometimes when I don’t talk to him I notice him glancing at me a couple times seeing if I’m gonna talk to him, which makes me wanna laugh. And one time I was over his house and we were sitting on the steps and his little sister came out and said something cute and we just looked at each other and laughedtogether. Oh yeah and he always says hi to me first whenever imwith a person he knows. The day that my friend hinted around that I liked him, he was in my next period class and was all extra happy to see me. But I was embarressed cause I thought he knew so I was awkward. So this is kinda driving me insane, and I can’t take it anymore. Haha I can’t think of him without smiling or laughing, I can’t even look at his picture without laughing.

Reply November 6, 2011, 1:17 am

Ann

5 months ago I started talking to this guy and I felt we had a connection. We met up for lunch or dinner sometimes and he had a lot going good for him too. Well 4 weeks ago I went to his place and we kinda took things to the next level, no we did not go all the way. For me it was special and he even said he wants to keep seeing me. Well I talked to him once after and after that when I texted him 2 times he never replied? Should I text and see what’s up, it’s been 4 weeks, or should I leave it and move on?

Reply October 30, 2011, 10:51 pm

sarah

So My mom talk to one of the guys that im friends with an asked if he had any guys to set me up with. He said yes an this one guy quickly said how bout me. Well i started hanging with them every weekend an he started getting made when i talk bout my ex an always talking smiling making eye contact . He said how bout me to date im a nice guy, The other night he hugged an kissed me an danced with me an we cuddled all night. his friend told me to make my move. So does he like me?

Reply October 26, 2011, 7:07 pm

kiara

i mean realy not meaning to be a hack or anything..

Reply October 14, 2011, 12:13 am

kiara

no offence ladys but this is not a confetion booth but there are a bunch off old worn out sackmen trying to pose as sad percy girls no one u dont know shood be seeing this kind off deep personal feelings

Reply October 14, 2011, 12:11 am

Sandra

HElpp! I ment this guy and he made sweet comments that I was pretty And stuff and he started getting closer and closer to me day by day. Like we have partners and he tries to talk to me more so we can be partners. And hes ALWAYS saying to me we will go on a date confidently. And when we walk he touches my hand or gets near me all the time. And he makes a big scene that I want to hold his hand and stuff when its him. Then I picked a diffrent partner that was another guy and he totally got butthurt at the fact that I left him. He starts appearing everywere I am now. And he stays near me. He pokes me and stuff in a flirty way and calls me his girl. and his friends act all funny about us. He acts in a jerk to get my attention. but still does flirt alittle with other girls. I dont know if he Likes me or not?? I really need help On Thiss onee, Anyone?? :)

Reply October 13, 2011, 10:29 pm

Nessa

Hey Eric, I hope you have time for this, you are a guy so you need to help me.

ok so I’ve been talking to this dude since June 2011, yes that long. I’m getting mixed messages from this guy. At first all he seemed to be interested in is sex, yes sex sex sex, it was driving me crazy. When we first started talking he was in another city visiting his daughter, so we never went on a date. He got back at the end of July and we met up, and he seemed really shy it was kinda cute. Anyway he would text on and off, he would stop texting for 3 days and then lo and behold there he was saying “hey how are you beautiful” …. ok. He said he was moving and wanted me to help him look for a place and eventually he found somewhere really nice. Anyway he stopped texting me for two weeks but I did’nt care I was in Europe having a blast, men were the last thing on my mind. What do you he text me from a different number saying “hello beautiful” so I said hey I’m in Europe. Anyway I got back we kept texting and he started his sex talk again and saying I should come over. I told him I was not going to come to his house any hour of the night and if he wanted to see me it would have to be on my time. He stopped texting for 3 days and then he texted back saying how sorry he was and he wanted to take me out. I let him but I can’t read this guy he seems to like me and I like him but I’m not sure. He treated me to a nice dinner and everytime he texts saying he’s sorry he didn’t text me earlier but he was just busy…. Is this dude a joke, creep, or a lost soldier?

Reply October 4, 2011, 5:46 pm

britney

Wow. Honestly, this is the first time i had a crush and they did not like me back. It kinda burns lol. I got like 10/10 on this one. Oh well…cant have’em all. Its confusing though. I talk to him and he seems annoyed or when he says hi it seems fake or he’s mocking the way i greet people. Lolol. But at the same time it feels like he’s listening to my conversations or keeps me in his view, or talks to me randomly . Like get a lime soda, or hey brit u going to bible talk. Lol but anyways i think when we like someone we anaylize their actions 100% more and often times interpert them they way our perception see things which is blinded with the fact that we like them and we want all their actions and words to be directed toward us. But anyways im just going to ignore him , and only talk if he says something to me. Or only if were in group convos akd he says something funny, or just to be more pissed because i cant take not being liked lol. I will call him out on it . And ” do i annoy you when i talk to you, you act real stand- offish and uninterested “. Lmao hehehe

Reply September 30, 2011, 12:06 pm

unknown user

I just officially started dating my boyfriend a month ago, but we were like getting to know each other going out having fun for 2 months. 2 weeks ago I found out that he cheated on me. I saw a picture of him kissing a girl , he got his friend to take it off. his friend did.. i made him beg for 3 days he apologize he told me he was drunk, but he had told a friend of mine he got carried away in the moment, we went out to eat and walk around and I brought the subject up and he said he wasn’t going to do it again i was like okay, well last week he changed his relationship status to single, at first i was surprise i thought i had said somenthing wrong maybe, he was like no babe you didnt do anything somenthing happen that’s why i had to change my relationship status then this girl commented on it and was like i totally like this and I got mad i went off on him and told him that if i find out he is cheating on me again i was going to find the Btch and fight her LOL , i got carried away in the moment i guess. getting to the point i broke up with him and he said quit getting jelous, im fed up with it. i told him he gave me reasons to think he was talking to some other girl he was like Ima go bye i was like fine bye he said i dont beg so its up too you i was like neither do I, then he tryed to talk too me after he said bye i blew him off . our anniversary was the after i was really sad i went to visit my cousin 4 hrs away from where i live. when i got back on facebook he was like are you still mad and he told my cousin he still loved me and everything we got back together. well the next day he didnt talk too me at all he didnt even say happy anniversary he said happy anniversary 2 days later. i told him to come to my house so we can hang out and he said no i cant im getting my hair cut. then i was ok how about tomorrow and he said okay. he said but ima go now i was like awwh okay bye i love you he didnt reply too it. he actually didnt logg off til 10 minutes after it.
can someone give me an advice????????

Reply September 20, 2011, 11:57 am

Anonymous - girl

Ditch him. Permanently. *Nobody* deserves being treated like that. Tell him to shove it. He wouldn’t hurt you like that if genuinely liked you. Let me know what happens, okay?

Reply September 27, 2011, 11:54 am

Anonymous - girl

It’s funny, a guy in my class used to ignore me, but now listens avidly to every word that I say. And before he used to have a massive ego, until he discovered that he wasn’t the only top student in the class, since I started kicking his butt into the ground, and now his ego is really deflated. If he hadn’t had treated me like s*** for the past few months, the charming side of his personality would’ve won me over…as he’s trying to do now in order for me to share my notes, but since I know full well his true personality i.e. a using bastard, it’s really pathetic. Everyone in my class can see it…except for him XD. So yes, I agree with point 10, if he ignores you for months, then suddenly acts all friendly, ask Why. And learn to trust your gut instinct…mine told me for months what he’s truly like, and I’m all the better for it.

Reply September 18, 2011, 9:04 am

Eric Charles

Haha… what a jerk.

Reply September 18, 2011, 9:42 am

Anonymous - girl

lol I know. XD

Reply September 27, 2011, 11:50 am

Hollie

lol!

Reply October 25, 2011, 3:52 am

shilo

Confused! I met a guy through work. He repairs our large equipment. We have talked on the phone alot. It always starts off about work then rolls into a personal conversation. He some
times flirts and i flirt back. There are times though when he is in total “work mode” then he treats me like everyone else. I found out he lives on my street. He has stopped by several times regarding work and once just because i needed his help. I have two kids and am recently divorced. He has never even been married & is a few years you
nger than me. I cant figure out #1 if he likes me & #2 y hasnt he asked me out. Please advise.

Reply September 1, 2011, 10:26 pm

Chrissy

Hello,
I am in a similar situation, Can you e-mail once you get this and I will tell you all about it?
Thanks!
Chrissy

Reply November 21, 2011, 7:31 pm

Mandy

There is this guy i really like at my school, but I’m not sure if he likes me. I laugh at his jokes all the time. I don’t talk to him much at all. I don’t have very many friends because I’m not a big talker. He is the clown of the class. Once i gave my writing utensil to my teacher instead of my pop quiz paper, and i heard him start to laugh and so did I, but I’m not sure if he was laughing at the same thing. He sometimes glances over at me at lunch time for about 3 seconds and then I catch him staring at me and a few seconds later he turns his head the other way and starts talking to his friends. He doesn’t talk to me much at all, but when he accidentally bumps me with his backpack he says, “Sorry.” He talks alot to this other girl in my class that has blond hair and blue eyes. She is a tomboy and is really smart. She is one of the best looking girls in my class. She is kind of the type of person that has the personallity of “look at me, I’m the best, and no one is better than me.” The guy i like likes her and she likes him i think. Even though I’m smarter and younger than her, people look down on me more than they do this girl. I’m not sure to do about the boy i like. Should i ignore him totally or make him like me? If i try to make him like me, how should i do it?

Reply July 11, 2011, 10:49 am

Anonymous Female

My advice? Get yourself a brand new outfit and make yourself feel good about yourself. It seems like you have some hatred towards this other girl who didn’t do anything to you from what it sounds like. Then, after your make over, ignore him! Trust me! If he DOES like you this will make him like you more. He will be so confused as to why you aren’t giving him the time of day. Now, when I say ignore him, I don’t mean be rude. Say he asks you to do something, as HARD as it’s going to be to do, tell him you can’t because you already have plans but maybe another time. It will work if he likes you. If it doesn’t work? He wasn’t interested in you for the right reasons honey. Any guy that generally likes you will put the time and effort into getting to know you and such. Good luck.

Reply November 20, 2011, 9:05 pm

Anonymous

There is this guy that I like and I think he is giving me signs that he likes me but it’s kind of confusing to really tell. When I am in the same room with him I always catch him staring at me. When I am near him he never talks to me and looks extremely nervous. Most of the time he will avoid me. He makes eye contact with his other friends but seems to have a hard time looking me in the eye. He has talked to me online alot but when we are face to face he won’t say a word. My girlfriends tell me I am intimidating to look at because I am pretty. Could this be why he doesnt talk to ms face to face because I am intimidating? And about the other things he does, what is up with his behavior? Please help.

Reply July 8, 2011, 3:00 pm

Wanda McCartney

I have been flirting with a married man for over 4 years and we finally met. He said he has a rocky marriage. We had sex and now he has withdrawn. I know this is wrong. He hooked me in and now I don’t know what to do …. i know I need to drop him like a hot potato,, but help

Reply July 8, 2011, 10:56 am

SEZ2011

I like this guy and i thought he felt the same way about me, it was great at the start and well really its only just been over a month and already things are drastically stating to change. He will take ages to reply to text, drink and start arguments and say nasty things, but apologize about it later and make sure he expresses how sorry he is, his phone will just miraculously be switched off the day he’s supposed to come over, i will analyze whether its something i may have said or done and always have a way of making excuses for him and someone always putting it back on myself thinking there was some way i could have done something different because im confused as to why these things happen because i never get any explanation. Which like i said leads me to make excuses for him and valid reasons he could have for his actions or just feeling like its me even thought it really isnt!?
I am so confused and torn and i love every minute i am with him when i actually get time to spend with him, but i think the feeling of all the in between times of seeing him and the what if’s and buts, are starting to over power my feelings and energy to really want to try and make this work.
I’m exhausted!

Reply June 26, 2011, 6:31 am

LilMizBreh

I don’t understand if this guy I am interested likes me or not, we used to text and he lives out of town and mind you I work 3 jobs, and don’t have much time, and he would drive in to visit watch a movie then drive me to my night shift job. We kiss, we hold hands (all this in my own home) never really had a chance to go out and do stuff during the day due to how busy I am and he is etc. But .. I have’nt received a text or message from him in 2 days, it honestly is driving me insane, because I usually am scared of commitment but this is different I WANT to date this guy he’s basically everything I could ever hope for charming, funny, independent, has a job, very stable mind, close to my age as well just a bit older then I am. He has said he missed me, but he never asks to hang out I am usually the one to ask and he would say OK, and now its (I am not sure if he is joking around or not but he would be like I’ll see if I can pencil you in, then I say :O and he says you know I am kidding.. but is he really?) Please help me wrap this outta my head.. Thanks…. I would appreciate it a lot.

Reply May 13, 2011, 9:54 pm

Juztine

GUYS HAVE WEIRD MINDS THEY CAN GO FROM LICKING ONE MINUITE TO NOT WANTING TO SPEND TIME WITH YOU THE BEST THING TO DO IS JUST TO KEEP TRYING AND MAYBE ASK HIM WHATS GOING ON ASK HIM IF HE IS SEEING OTHER GIRLS BECAUSE ONCE YOU’VE DONE THAT EVEN IF HE SAYS HE DOESNT HAVE FEELINGS FOR YOU YOU WILL STILL FEEL BETTER BECAUSE YOU KNOW WHATS GOING ON AND YOU WON’T BE CONFUSED ANYMORE.
HOPE I HELPED
GOODLUCK
JUSTINE

Reply October 24, 2011, 5:29 am

Mishka Fishka

Hello, This is Mishka Fishka, i really like that post, you are doing a great job. Thanks.

Reply December 30, 2010, 1:32 am

Ash :))

Okay, I’m talking to my crush on facebook and he sending the one word message. What do I do about that?

Reply May 29, 2010, 11:20 pm

Ash :))

Okay,
How would I know that a guy is not interested in talking with me?

Reply May 29, 2010, 11:16 pm

Me

Someone on here please give me some kind of opinion. I don’t usually do this but this site came up n I thought I would see what kind of advice or opinion I get. I’ve been seeing this guy who I knew in high school we hit it off good and later I heard from a few of his friends that he had always kind of liked me but at that time I was with one of his friends. So things were going good the first month or so. We saw each other on the weekends when he would get off work and I would stay with him and a few times here and there he would stay at my house in the middle of the week but I didn’t think it was overdoing it. I did blow his phone up at first I wouldnt txt him unless he texted me I started to give a little more and txt him and ask how his day was. I asked him about a 2 months in if he felt that we were spending too much time together to get we’re we were at and he said that he had thought about that to and didn’t know if it was good or bad the amount of time we were seeing each other but he thought we weren’t so things went on as normal. So now we have been seeing each other for about three months and keep mind that he still had never made us official what ever that is. Basically I wasn’t quite being considered his gf. So a few nights ago he txts me at 1 in the morning saying u still up babe kinda want to talk to you and I said k call me and he said nothing so I called him and no answer so I said well when you ready to talk let me know. Never heard back so I waited it out for a day and a half n got antsey to know so I texted him asking how his day was and he said ok and I asked him what the 1 in the morning txt was all about n no response. So my gf asks me about it and asked if he invited me up to his house because her and her boyfriend are going up there and I told her no he never asked me. So early this morning before he goes to work I texted him saying that the person I thought that I knew would be an adult n just say if he was not interested n that if I did something that bothered you let me know n that he can’t blame me for wondering because he kinda three me a 180. So he txt me back saying that he’s sorry that I feel that way he just was giving some seperation for us for the better to slow it down. What the hell. Please I’m a grown women I shouldn’t have to be some mind reader. So I told him that’s all u had to say n I brought that up to u before and I don’t know what your thinking if you don’t say anything so be strait forward. So I figure it’s done right?

Reply March 10, 2012, 9:11 am

Arianna

I like this guy, and we are really close family friends, but he is a couple years older than me. I am 15 and he is 18. He really seems like he likes me, and he shows all the “signs”, but he has a girlfriend… he touches me a lot, makes physical contact, and even holds eye contact for more than 5 seconds. He always seems to want to be by me. How do i know if he likes me?

Reply May 26, 2010, 8:42 pm

EM

i met a guy few months ago, i really really like him cant control the way i feel around him, hes got a different type but we’ve got pretty close recently and i got mixed emotions and feelings, he thought i liked him before but i lied and said only as a friend, im scared if i would tell him the truth we might not be tight no more and he may see me as a lair and the funny think i found out he liked a girl and have been trying to hook them up just to prove to everyone that i dont fancy him, which would make me look like an idiot, what do to do ??

Reply March 18, 2013, 10:48 pm

michael

true!

Reply May 16, 2010, 9:53 pm

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