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Ask a Guy: Does He Like Me?


There is this guy who I see often but have never actually spoken to. The only contact has really been him indirectly talking to me. One time he told someone that I was a “good kid”, when I was standing right next to him.

He also stares at me sometimes and then doesn’t look away when I catch his glace. There are other things along those lines as well.

Does he like me or am I overreacting?

To answer your question from the information you’ve given me… I honestly can’t say.

From what you told me, my read on what you’re trying to figure out is one of three scenarios:

a) you want to know that he likes you because knowing someone likes you feels good,
b) he is indifferent to you (in the romantic sense), but you want him to like you and you’re seeing what you want to see,
c) you don’t know whether or not he likes you, but you’d be open to starting something with him.

I’m going to go with the assumption that you like him, mainly because if you didn’t, you wouldn’t have asked.

So let’s assume that I’m right and you like him and you’d like it if he wants you back. I would even bet that you’re probably hoping I write back that he does like you.

But deeper than that, what you’re hoping is for me to confirm that I see things the way you want them to be – “he loves me, he loves me not, he loves me, etc.”

You ever play those games? Look at horoscopes? Look for “signs” that it’s meant to be?

At the heart of all of these games and guesses is doubt. It’s a sense that you don’t really believe that it could be true, but you really want it to be.

A lot of the time, women fall into the trap of playing “emotional detective”: They dig into their memories and observations and go through EVERY insignificant detail to try and uncover some “hidden message” or “secret code” that the guy is sending.

The reality is that playing emotional detective usually only succeeds at doing one thing:  Making the girl go absolutely crazy.

My suggestion is rather than trying to “solve the mystery”, assume that things are the way you want them to be. At the heart of it, that’s what confidence is…

Worrying what the other person thinks usually just creeps them out… but assuming that they like you in the way that you want them to… well, that usually leads to them actually liking you! But you have to get good at believing in yourself and assuming that what you want to be true, is true.

I’m not saying to delude yourself or to totally ignore reality. But if you don’t know one way or the other what he thinks of you, assuming that he likes you will automatically cause you to act in a way that’s more… “likable” and attractive.

And as a result, there’s a really good chance that he’ll end up liking you back (in the end) if you assume that he does like you. In psychology, they call this a “self-fulfilling prophecy”.

Put your focus on really liking yourself and believing that the types of guys you like also like you… The more you like yourself and believe that you can have what you want, the more likely you actually will.

Now, in the remaining part of the article, I’m going to talk about ways that you can tell if he likes you. If you’re going to read it, keep in mind that how you think and your mindset is way more important than what you do.

So make sure you let the first part of what I said sink in.

OK, so what are some signs you can tell if he likes you? If he does several of these things, he likes you. Here’s a checklist off the top of my head:

  • Does he start conversations with you?
  • Does he ask you things that he doesn’t necessarily need to ask you? Questions he could ask anyone…
  • Does he look at you/check you out? (Sounds like yes, in your case.)
  • Does he tease you? (Most teasing is flirting… and I would encourage you to interpret teasing that way regardless… It’s not every guy’s style though… only some guys.)
  • Have you ever heard of him asking anyone else about you or bringing you up to someone else?
  • Does he act differently when he knows you’re around than when he’s just naturally going about his business (when he doesn’t know you’re around)?

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That’s a pretty good list of things that can let you know if he’s into you. Some guys play it cool and don’t overtly show a lot of signs, so if you don’t notice these things it doesn’t necessarily mean he doesn’t like you.

Now, what can you do to up your chances of him “making a move” with you? For starters:

  • Smile. Smiling is sexy and inviting, it is super attractive to guys. I think it is really sad these days that magazines, movies and the modeling industry push the idea that looking pissed off is sexy. It’s not, it REPELS guys in real life. Don’t try to look like some model who’s all cold and couture – it sends the message to guys to stay away. NOT sexy, not attractive, DON’T DO IT. If you don’t believe me, go on hotornot.com or facethejury.com and post two pictures of yourself – one with a straight or “model” straight-face look and one with a nice smile. I guarantee that the smile picture will score much higher.
  • Look your best. Guys respond to it, that’s a no brainer. It’s not to say that guys only care about looks, but it is important. Working out will give you a positive glow, inside and out, so definitely work that into your life. You will look and feel better – both are important. If you’re on our site, looking your best will not be a problem. :)
  • Tease him a bit in a fun way IF you can make it work with your own personal style. Again, teasing is not for everyone, but if you can incorporate it into your style while still having the vibe that you are a nice girl, you can usually stir a guy up in a good way. Guys like a little challenge to wake them up – just don’t go overboard. What’s good teasing look like? In a nutshell, it’s pushing on areas where you know he’s strong or takes pride. If he’s good at something, you can tease him in a fun way about it. If he’s bad at something, DON’T tease him about it. Simple enough.
  • Balance your pushes and pulls. OK, I say this next part with caution – do not abuse this. There is a truth about people (men and women) that we value what we have to work for. In the beginning stages of dating or attracting a man or woman, it can help spark chemistry if you mix signs of interest with signs of not being interested. People refer to it as sending mixed signals or playing hard to get. What’s a good… (continued on next page)

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heather

I have a male friend that I have known for about 12 years.

In the beginning we were just getting to know each other. About 2 years ago he started tutoring me alone at his place for my physics class. That was when I really started to fall for him. Before he was just the cute guy friend.

Over the last couple years we saw a movie alone, did other one on one activities and in my opinion flirting with each other.

The one thing that has always thrown me off is the fact that I need to start the conversations most of the time with him. We have some things in common- movies and music taste, same opinion of morals and we are both loyal people.

Over the last couple years he has stared at me longer than needed, showed off to get my attention, let his hands linger when passing me items, been protective of me when strange men(to him, I know whom they are) approach me to chat, stand shoulder to shoulder with me, hold an umbrella for me once, pays for everything and always stay back to help me carry stuff.

He recently has taken an interest in the freaky sexual stuff I am interested in. He also confided in my recently to the point where he broke down.

It seems like he likes me but I can’t tell

Reply September 19, 2014, 10:09 pm

V

Please help, I know this guy for about three months now, and though I am always the one that gets emotionally attached very quickly, I decided to myself that I will have to take another route with this one, as I don’t want to get my heart broken again. Also I just have to mention that we have a long distance relationship, but for the past three weeks we have been traveling up and down to see each other. He told me that his last relationship has hurt him a lot, when his ex cheated on him, so he just want a casual no “feeling” relationship for now. I was open for this, but I am receiving a load of mixed signals, so much that I feel I am getting whiplash from moving back and front with this guy. After the no feeling relationship he wanted for now, he has asked me three times to leave my pills, so that I can have his baby, he has suggested five times that I move in with him and that he will buy me a car etc. I am very independent and he has a lot of money, but this does not matter to me, and even though I really like him, I feel very insecure, as when I start hinting in a direction that I am having feelings, he just reminds me again of the non-feeling relationship we have. What should I do?

Reply August 25, 2014, 7:41 am

Elaine

I REALLY like this guy, Danny. I’ve known him for about 2and a half years now. I met him the summer after my freshman year now I’m going to be a senior. Right now he’s 22 and I’m 17. He’s Said he like me but he said it months ago but at the time I didn’t catch on so he thinks I don’t pay attention to when he talks. I ride the bus for 2-3 hours to go hang out with him at his place, nothing really happens but usually I stay with him from 9am-8pm. One of my friends asked me to date him 6 separate time

Reply August 6, 2014, 11:50 pm

muddslinger

Had a guy boarding at my house a few years back, like over 10 years ago. I think he did like me as I felt him staring at me on the sly quite a few time. Nice guy and I did like him but could say or act on anything at the time due to going thru personal issues & a divorce. Long story short he moved out after a year and within the next year following had married someone else (second marriage for him).
Well lately I’ve run across him a few times and now he just plain stares hard, doesn’t even try to hide it anymore. Far as I know he’s still married. So wtf is up with that. It’s actually starting to creep me out in a way.

Reply July 28, 2014, 9:09 am

muddslinger

Ooops….that should read ‘could NOT say or act on anything’

Reply July 28, 2014, 9:12 am

Tira

Hi Eric,
I really hope I can hear from you. In my past I have been in some bad relationships and so has this guy. We both like each other, we’ve told each other this, but then he tells me that he doesn’t want to hurt me and pretty my friend zones me. I just understand why this is happening and was wondering if there was anything at all I could do to change this. Please help!

Reply July 12, 2014, 1:30 am

Kari

So I’ve known him for 3 years and he knows that I used to like him. I’m pretty sure that he liked me briefly last year. Now my friend has a crush on him and stuff. She hangs out with him and other people in their neighborhood often. When I see him he seems to glance at me a lot and tease me. My friend was upset an told me that he talks about me all the time. Does he like me? What am I supposed to do?

Reply July 5, 2014, 10:12 pm

Sophie

Help. Please. I’m a senior in high-school, he’s a sophomore, We have class together and are in marching band together which means we spend a lot of time either alone of almost (its a small school). We joke, play-fight, tease, compliment, and are pretty close to each other. We talk about everything, even the difficult stuff. He’s told me how attractive he thinks I am, but we’re just friends. Here’s the thing. He has a girlfriend. We’ve been like this for years. My ex and I just broke up because he’s going far away to college. It was a 3 yr relationship. I don’t know if I’m friend zoned or not. His girlfriend hates me and claims she’s losing him to me now. The stress of their relationship makes it hard for us to be friends because I don’t want him to have to lose a girlfriend for me. His friendship is worth too much for me to throw away, but I don’t know how to tell if he wants more.

Reply July 1, 2014, 12:52 am

ashmi

I like dis guy from work.. He was so nice to me a couple of days.. Complimenting about my smile n how cheerful I was.. Then he just gives me tat look..I can feel he’s not tat into me anymore.. Not starting a conversation like he used to start before. But he always looks at me n seems to notice Wat I’m doing..He has noticed me talking to a couple of guys from. Tat place.. I’m so confused.. Does dis guy reli like me.Pls help..

Reply May 26, 2014, 2:46 am

Kim

Wow. I love how the article says don’t over think things. Then there’s like a hundred posts from women who share six paragraphs of over thinking and analyzing. I think we all instinctively know if someone likes us. If we’re rationalizing too much it means we’re trying to convince ourselves they like us when they really don’t.

Reply February 19, 2014, 12:19 pm

Eric Charles

Yeah – I agree with you.

I don’t mean any disrespect to the women who took the time to write comments here (believe me, I appreciate it)… but most of the time when someone is coming to me with a relationship issue, it’s because they desperately want the situation to work out and it’s not a situation that was ever working in the first place.

Another way more accurate way to put it would be to say that they were never on the same page. Maybe the guy wanted to have a casual, no-strings attached fling and she wants him to get down on one knee and have babies right now. Or he’s not that into her and she’s decided he’s her soul mate.

It’s what I call trying to shove a square peg through a round hole. And to your sentiment of women knowing instinctively if a guy is into them, I agree… it’s just that in most cases when a woman WANTS a guy to be into her, she has this idea that she can make him into her. I blame Hollywood for this perverse notion…

Reply February 19, 2014, 2:42 pm

Sam

Hi Eric,
I need some help… I feel so silly doing this but I have gotten to a point where things have got weird. So one of my childhood friends got in contact with be in December and we’v been talking none stop for the past few weeks. He I guess made me feel like he likes me but I’m not so sure about it no more. I have tried to ask him out I put my self out there for this guy and he like wont respond. I guess I came on to strong for him. I only say that because he’s tolled me he is shy when it comes to dating so I took the lead and asked him out on a double date. I thought it was a good idea and that if it was a double date he wont feel pressured. But even so I don’t see why he will feel any tip of way we have hangout. I mean it was once. I guess I came on to strong, I just don’t know. I need some advice…

Reply January 17, 2014, 11:00 am

Haley

This guy I thought was cute started to flirt with me and I flirted back, we were like this a couple days, he complimented me a lot, updated his status with things related to me and we laughed a lot. He told me my smile could make him fall in love, and we joked that we were together. He tend today flirted with me further, implying he felt something but then he told me he only liked me a bit and that my personality was awesome but liked a lot of girls the same way. Then I reacted because I hate getting screwed over and I said it was okay and that I was still hooked on my ex. He then reacted to that saying he never meant he wanted a relationship with me. So i said everything was cool and we continued as if nothing happened. Lie, it did hurt me I really thought he really liked me. But I do know that he likes me, that’s pretty obvious by the way he talks to me. Did I do it right? Can I still pursue something with him?

Reply December 23, 2013, 1:49 am

Mercedes

Silly boy. Of course you thought he was trying to pursue something. When he said “Your smile could make me fall in love, blah, blah, blah,” it sounded like he was saying “Hey! I’m falling for you. Just thought I’d let you know!” The reality is, he probably really does like you, a lot. But as a silly boy, he also likes flirting with other girls and getting reactions from them too. You did good by playing it cool but now you have to be true to yourself.. This boy hurt you. That’s not ok. He can’t just say things like that & then turn around like “Dude. I never wanted a relatiionship with you!” He’s playing games. Don’t play into his game girl. He’s having too much fun. You did everything right and now you’re all the wiser for it. Next time he tries flirting you, laugh it off. If he really, truly wants a relationship with you, let him pursue the heck out of you. You’re a gem with an obviously gourgeous smile. You’re worth the effort. :)

Reply December 23, 2013, 10:03 am

Confused

Alright. I’ve been doing bjj for about 2 and a half years now and there’s this guy (who used to be my coach) that I’ve liked since I first saw him. At first I thought he was the best looking guy in the world, but now I found out he’s really cool and has an extensive sense of humor. He’s always knew who I was because I continued to rise through the ranks of my gym, but we never really talked until about Spring Break of my sophomore year in high school (I’m a junior now). It started when he asked me to play baseball with the camp kids everyday during break and we had fun. We would play on a team against the kids and were super competitive. Then school ended and I left for a week to go visit family so I missed the first week of summer camp where I assisted all day every weekday. As soon as I got back he said “oh look who’s here” and then we talked a little bit that day and everyday forward. This was super new to me because he almost never talked to me. The conversations were always pure humor unless he felt like disciplining me for whatever reason (he’s my superior. I’m 16 and he’s 19). As summer camp winded down in the last few weeks we went on two field trips together with the kids in the same car and he would always sing all loudly and we would talk about Vine videos (we still do). He would always take me in his car when he could and sometimes complimented me on my bjj. So summer ended and time went by he began to open up to me more. He went from disciplining me to respecting me and from treating me like a student to being playfully violent and making weird faces and sounds to get my attention. I noticed that he used to get all mad when I argued with him while we played a game but now he doesn’t even care, he just laughs and playfully argues back. During the course of summer camp, I got to see his personality and just about fell in love with it. But it seems like the closer we get, the more problems I have with him. He got a girlfriend that lives in Puerto Rico and she visited us at the gym. She was super cool and I liked her, but I noticed when she was around he got really red faced and barely talked. It seemed like he talked to me more than her (from what I’ve seen). By the end of her visit he denied liking her and realized she was a lot older than him (never heard him talk about her again). So I’m assuming they aren’t together but before he was all about her. Then one day after class we were all giving each other hugs and when I got to him he just shook my hand and hugged the person behind me. -_- Of course I tried to be all mad and ignore him, but it didn’t work because he asked me if I was ok and I sat next to him and we started taking about random things and his leg injury. Now, to this day, he has a record of lightly hitting and punching me, lightly hitting me on the head with random things, pushing me off a couch, making weird and loud noises around me, dancing around me, showing me some Vines, asking me if I’m ok when I look serious, looking at me (sometimes he stares and when we lock eyes, he doesn’t look away), and making me go play games with him and the kids everyday for the kids aftercare program. At this point I might tell him how I feel or ask him how he feels about me because I see him almost everyday, BUT I can’t. Not because I’m scared, but because we’re now coworkers and I see him almost everyday, he’s really close friends with all the other coaches while I have decent relationships with them,
I only see him during bjj related events, and he’s 19 and I’m 16. So I’m waiting, but I guess my question is, What does all this mean? I’m sorry for writing so much but I’ve been confused all year. My main confusion is he touches me, threatens to beat me up, and fake punches me all the time (it’s all out of humor because I do it back), looks at me, and never goes a day without some type of interaction, but at the same time, he’s sometimes an asshole and seems like he doesn’t care about me because we never have serious conversations about anything other than bjj while he talks to the guys all the time. Also, he’s blond haired, blue eyed, and super good looking while I’m a tomboy (more personality wise) with average looks. My friends all say different things but I can never draw my own conclusion. Please help!

Reply December 7, 2013, 11:15 pm

Helping Hand

Hey I had the same sich. All u have to do is be a little weird when u r texting like me for example:
Me: OMG who do u have a crush on?!?

Him: (he tells you my guy told me he liked me) Who is your crush?

Me: Brayten and You

Saying another guys name also makes him jealous (the guy u r talking to) so it’s easy and simple and worry free just be you but weird I’m always weird so it’s easy for me lol

Reply December 8, 2013, 1:17 am

Amanda Wayne

I’m a high school senior who recently transferred to a new school. There’s this guy in my class who I recently developed feelings for. We’ve known each other for about three months now and we’ve been texting/chatting everyday for two months now. We use to text each other paragraphs, but now its a few lines. He’s a nice guy who gets along with everyone. But he confuses me. I really like him, i can’t tell if he feels the same way. I don’t want to tell him because I haven’t picked up clear hints. I dislike feeling vulnerable and putting my heart out on the line. Ive been hurt before.
He’s never complimented my physical appearance but he has called me extremely smart, modest etc. Im not completely sure if he treats me differently but he does tend to get a little awkward around me sometimes. When something is wrong with me, even though i don’t make it apparent, he always asks if I’m okay. I asked him once how he knew, he said he watched my body language. I always assumed that he occasionally looks at me in class, but i was never really sure.When i do catch him looking at me, we have this mini stare down, where we both squint until someone blinks.
Here are a few things he’s done before: 1- He always asks me if I’m okay. 2- We have a lot of things in common and he always points that out. 3-He nicknamed me. 4-I didn’t reply to his text, so he facebook messaged me. 5-When he’s around me, I can tell he’s looking in my direction, but i can never clearly tell if he’s looking at me.

Reply November 19, 2013, 7:40 pm

confusedaboutthisguy

A guy at work flirts with me and shows all signs that he likes me..teases me a lot, makes me laugh all the time, enquires whether I like something or not, talks to me all the time, sits next to me, puts his hand on my shoulder, keeps looking at my face, touches me on my arm or back etc. I like him too and flirt back with him. We are always laughing whenever together. I think he knows that I like him too. The only catch is we work in different cities and meet only during team meetings. I met him 4 times last 3months. He remembers everything about me and refers to our previous conversations. He told me on his own that he is a divorcee and has a child. He said he likes my sense of humour and jokingly enquired whether I have a boy friend. In our last meeting he took my phone no and texted me something funny about other guy who is in the same room. This was two weeks ago and I thought he would keep in contact this time and pursue me. But I didn’t hear from him. Exactly at the end of two weeks he sent me an invite to connect on a professional network! I thought it was such a lame move or is he telling me that this is only professional connection! I am the only woman in a large team so I don’t get to observe whether he flirts the same way with other women. Or is he hesitating because I am a coworker! .He has all the qualities that I am looking for in a man and would love if this progresses into something more. But I am hanging back and playing it cool to see whether he would make an attempt to contact me. What do you guys think of this situation? Hopeful or should I write off?

Reply October 23, 2013, 8:06 pm

Vanessa

I have a guy-friend who i have like for a while now, but i dont know if he like me back… We usually hang out in a group of all female (excluding him) but we are all friends with eachother. We have inside jokes, but we’ve known eachother since preschool and hes really close with a couple other girls in the group too… do you have any advice?

Reply October 23, 2013, 6:55 pm

Cara

So there’s this guy that I really like. He goes to my church, and most of our youth acitvities. He jokes around with me a lot, and hes really nice. And he is only like 3 months older than me. He says he likes my friend (not giving names) but she doesn’t like him back. He is also homeschooled and I don’t get to see him much. Please help I really really like! Hes like perfect for me but I’m not sure about him! I’m too young to date too. Plz help thanx!!!

Reply October 12, 2013, 12:15 pm

Julia

I’m so confused. I met this guy through a mutual friend and I before I left for school he texted me and wanted to go out unfortunately it was too hectic and I didn’t have time to go out with him. He still texts me everyday while I’m at school and he is always the one to start the conversation. One day he told me “I’m so glad I started talking to you you’re awesome” and my friends told me that at that point I was friend-zoned. But I am unsure, I am pretty sure he’s into me and we talk all day long about anything and everything. Is he just looking for a friendship? What do you think is going on?

Reply September 6, 2013, 3:29 pm

Paige

Eric:
I like this guy a lot and I’m pretty convinced he like me. I met him at a camp and he was one of the counselors. At camp he’d be always doing these things that made me feel out of this world. (I later learned by help from my friends he was flirting. XD) some of the things he did were hug me, complement me on my hair,wrote the hair out of my eyes, tell me I had pretty eyes, hold me by my waist, HE really wanted to slow dance with me, and much more that I can’t remember. (Sorry this camp was months ago.) Everyone I’ve asked have said that he likes me but the thing is theres a twist… We are six years apart; I’m 13 he 19. So a little while after the camp I saw him at warped tour and everyone he saw me he would give me a big hug. (: I’m probably insane, but I am truly convinced that he likes me…but I’m scared to ruin our friendship. Please help! Thanks. <333

Reply August 23, 2013, 12:14 am

Paige

We also have some very intense eye contact going XD

Reply August 23, 2013, 12:20 am

heythere

Hi Paige. It sounds like he likes you, but the age difference is important. I’m also a teenage girl, and yes, its exciting when a slightly older guys shows interest in you. But you have to keep in mind, that he may have eh he hem “dishonorable intentions”. He is older and might want you in the wrong way. Its important to choose a guy closer to you age who will respect you and your comfort zone. I’m 16and I am a completely different person than when I was 13. I guess what I’m saying is to wait it out and find a guy who can change and grow with you. He’s 19, he’s already lived through most of his teenage years. He may be great, but he’s been there already. You could make incredible memories and a better future with someone who you can be a teenager with. I don’t want to be all momish and annoying lol, but just be careful! I would do anything to be 13 again, so choose who you spend your time with carefully!

Reply August 27, 2013, 2:42 am

Kristy

Strap yourselves in, this is very long………. But I desperately want some advice… Please Help!!

I have been married for 5 year (together for 8) with 2 small children. I recently found out my husband has cheated on me – again!! A year ago I started getting my car serviced at a new place, the owner immediately caught my attention. Everytime I go in there he is always really nice, smile, etc. Most times he offers to give me a lift somewhere (even home, which is 6kms away) it is in my car, but still. In the car he talks about a lot of personal things with me – like his relationship with his fiance and the fact they have nothing in common, things that I don’t really need to know, he glances across at me whilst hes driving and always smiles at me. I asked him how old he was and discovered that we are both Aquarians born in the same year. When I call to book my car in for a service he knows its me by my voice.. He always appeared to be flirting with me and made sure he was available when I picked up my vehicle. His partner was the office lady and she was always there so I don’t know if he was flirting or if thats just him.

Anyway I went in there thursday night to pick up my car, I rang earlier in the day and said I couldnt get there by 5:30 he told me the other mechanic would be there until 7pm working on his own car. When I got there he walked out. He seemed happy to see me, he gave me the price but said he couldn’t give me an invoice because he was training a new office lady, he then went on to tell me about him and his partner having dramas and after 12 years, she wanted a break. He told me how upset he had been so I told him about what had happened with my husband we spoke for at least 5-10 minutes before someone pulled up out the front. So I left in a hurry and said “well if you ever want to go out, give me a call” he smiled at me and I said “I’m serious” then left. He said “no worries” and I left.

After I left I realised I had a new number he didn’t have, so I sent an email to the business saying if you ever need to contact me for anything heres my number. He pretty much immediately sent a text to my phone asking how the car was. One thing led to another he told me he loved my bluntness and it got him going and we should catch up soon, I suggested the Friday night. He said yes but have to go out with his sister first. We agreed to meet later in the night at a particluar suburb, but not where. his last text was “nite, sweet dreams”.

Then on Friday didn’t here anything at all. At 9pm I sent a an sms saying where I was. Didn’t here back until 11:50pm he said “I’m on my way baby xxx”. Then at 2am he still hadn’t shown up I sent a couple of messages saying “are you still coming? If not i’m outa here”. Got nothing so I sent another one “we are in the car are you still coming” Got a msg back about half hour later saying “just dropping my sister at her house”… So I said “So am I going home?” He said about 15 minutes later ” sorry I can’t make it in bed at my sisters place”. I didn’t reply. The next day I heard nothing so I sent an early evening text saying “sorry for the drunk texting, I was sporting a massive hangover all day, lol”. He said “No that’s fine I had a bit of an upset night just 1 of them things”. I said “I hope you’re okay and our conversations haven’t made things more complicated for you?” He said “No just a lot going on can’t seem to get my head right”. I said “I’m in a similar situation, things can change so quickly.. I’m staying at a gf’s tonight to much awkwardness at home. If you ever need to chat we can compare stories x”. He said “Thanks I will keep that in mind”.

I can’t stop thinking about him and I’m really annoyed he was so keen and then gave me nothing?? If he had never shown interest I wouldn’t feel this way. Should I have not sent him the texts?

I have the car booked in again for Thursday, but the conversation got really off topic and I don’t know if it was booked. Should I send a text confirming the booking? Or cancel the booking, give him some space and let him chase me?

Reply June 24, 2013, 1:45 am

Mercedes

Omg Eric Charles. I f****** love you. =D

Reply March 20, 2013, 11:21 am

Eric Charles

Haha, I love you too. ;)

Reply March 30, 2013, 1:40 pm

JAZZ

heyy!
so theres dis guy i like and he is always around me ! he is my best friend and i reallyyyyy
like him .. so ive seen these signs
1. he blushes hard when he is talking to me
2. he can chat wid me from abt a minute till a week continuosly nd ofcourse once we did chat for 2 days no break (except sleep) :P
3. he takes my problems just as his own and helps me really well…
4. he in a friendly manner makes kisses and i reply him with one too!
5. we have written sometimes iloveyou to each other in a friendly manner again
6. and almost 30 ppl ( my friends and acquaintances asked me how long ive been wid him to wich i have replied we r frnds )
7. my friends link me wid him and he always blushes
8. i never wave him but he comes and greets me
9. few days bak i did nt msg him for a day so he msged ” forgot me so soon ”
10. he shares everthing wid me
11. he often fyts wid me in a joking manner like eg. huh is my word no its my word etc etc only on group chats
12.but on personal chats he cracks jokes…makes jokes on his own and makes me laugh
13. he finds ways he can talk to me or see me … like i was standing in the corridor and his class was across mine but he came looked at me smiled and came to me shook hands nd went back .

pleaseeeee helpppp…i have nooo idea!! does he like me ????????????!!!!!

Reply March 6, 2013, 12:21 pm

Lily

Obviously! Go ask him out!

Reply October 31, 2013, 11:25 pm

Andie

PLZ HELP

k so I like this guy.a lot. He’s a friend of mine and I have one class with him and we talk a lot and he’s so funny. I also talk to him in the hall, and after school, since we are very alike and do a lot of the same sports and activities. He might like me because…
He stares at me(when I look back he usually either freaks out and looks away, or smiles and looks away)
He compliments me
He took up a whole page to sign my yearbook with inside jokes
He nicknames me
He high fives me
He randomly appears wherever I am
He slouches and acts comfy when I talk to him
He laughs at my jokes
He agrees with a lot I say
And we just never run out of thing to talk about.
The thing is today he told me about this other girl his friends were trying to get him to hook up with (date) but he said no last minute and called her a slut and told me EVERYTHING. Well, does he just see me as one of the boys? He is an outgoing guy in general, but when were together, things just feel different. I don’t want to doubt it’s there, but after today I feel kinda friend zoned because he tells me about other girls… :’(
He’s honestly just a great guy, but I have no idea how he feels. Aarrrrggg guys need to show their feelings more.
Thoughts? advice? Anything? Ppppplllllllzzzzz?

Reply February 28, 2013, 4:47 pm

shelby

ok so ive liked this guy sense july and we have became really good friends…..we talk everyday he comes to the band room before and after school (thats where im at then) and we take time to see each other in between classes……he is always making me laugh and is really sweet to me…..we skype all the time…..and our convos normally last around 3 or 4 hours or more………..so do you think he likes me

Reply January 23, 2013, 11:18 pm

Madeline

Do you think he like me?
I met this guy last week (I know, I’m crazy). I’ve never been so infatuated with a man.
I’m clueless as to whether or not he likes me. This is my last resort.

He loves (likes) me not
1) his responses are often shorter than mine
2) a lot of times he doesn’t ask a question in return to one I’ve asked

He loves (likes) me
1) he’s an introvert by admission, but he talks a lot to me
2) he revealed something very deep in his heart to me
3) whenever I had to leave, he gave me a very warm hug
4) he said I was very smart
5) often after I’d say something, he’d compliment how well said it was
6) we have almost everything in common

Reply January 7, 2013, 8:30 pm

Anonomous

Well There is this guy I have been in love with forever and he ound out by the people around us. And I always always find him staring at me but never says a thing. I don’t know what to do ?!?! I mean like does he like me or does he not?!?! It’s really confusing!

Reply November 29, 2012, 6:33 pm

Helping Hand

Hey just start a convo or bump into him (literally from behind and look away so it looks like it’s an accident) and then say oops and all and then start a convo and look for signs if he messes with his hair a lot or his shirt,shorts,looks down ect. It means he is nervousness wish is a MAJORETTE sign ppl need to look for right away then look for signs that say he likes you then find out how close you guys are by staying in touch and all then when the time is right be weird and start a convo like this.

Me: OMG who do u have a crush on?!?

Him: (he tells you my guy told me he liked me) Who is your crush?

Me: Brayten and You

Saying another guys name also makes him jealous (the guy u r talking to) so it’s easy and simple and worry free just be you but weird I’m always weird so it’s easy for me lol and when he is jealous his face gets red or his eyes get darker or lighter but watch his eyes and if they don’t change see if his face is red or he might grit his teeth or clench his fists

Reply December 8, 2013, 1:30 am

Person

Theres this guy, (no kidding) lol.
So he smiles lots and we text a few times a week. and when we see each other, mostly in passing we talk for a bit. He asked my advice about another girl. just saying “this girl” not mentioning any names or anything. Do you think he is interested in me or is this other girl actually who is is interested in. cos i read somewhere that sometimes they do this to find out what you think?

Reply November 1, 2012, 1:48 am

Something

I don’t think he likes you in that way.. Usually when guys ask you about another girl it means he isn’t interested~ best of luck!

Reply March 30, 2013, 6:26 pm

BOY RELIEVER

WRONG not true I had the same sich my crush asks me about this girl all the time (no names but she is a BFF) but I asked him who is crushes r and he said me and the no named girl (lol) so he is just getting closer to you he wants to know if you will be there when he needs you most so good luck

EMAIL ME IF YOU NEED MORE HELP

Reply December 8, 2013, 2:09 am

kei

I don’t think he does romantically. He just thinks you are a good person.

Reply October 31, 2012, 7:16 pm

Ashley

Hi, I need your help for this situation. So, this guy is my “best friend.” Or thats what he calls me. He made a cute nickname for me and is always smiling when we talk. He talks to his friends about me, and I know because I am his friend’s friend. Problem is, he is shy and would probably NEVER make a move. We used to talk for 7 hours everyday and when he didnt talk to me for one day, he apologizes and really feels sorry. Everytime my friends that are girls and I walk around and we see him, he always looks away because he is super shy. We don’t have any classes together this year, which is completely different from last year, we have one class together. I feel like we are growing apart from each other and since we dont have any classes together this year, he is forgetting about me. I feel like he does like me, but i can’t really tell. HELP please?

Reply October 25, 2012, 12:38 am

Allison

I have the same problem as you:( it’s funny because im his “bestfriend” too:( he told me he liked me, but he doesn’t really show it, he isn’t exactly shy soo, ya, but are you guys still texting alot? Because that helps a little. But just keep talking to him, and keep an eye out for any “signs” he may give off? But don’t stress over it:)

Reply December 28, 2012, 10:13 am

Emily

i am really confused on my situation with this guy. we live a small college dorm together and are pretty close friends, but didn’t know each other before we started school. he’s in an “open relationship” with a girl who goes to college a few states away. so he can hook up and date other people, but he often talks about how much he loves his “girlfriend”. HOWEVER, in the past 3-4 weeks he’s gone from just being an acquaintance, to trying to get me to hook up with him (while he was drunk), to actually kissing me and snuggling with me and flirting with me all the time. here’s what he does usually:
touch my face A LOT
stare at me all the time
tease me
make an effort to hold conversations with me almost every time he sees me
compliments me
laughs at my lame-ass jokes
takes care of me when I’m drunk
eves drops on my conversations
talks to me about everything and anything
treats me like a close friend/bro

also, a few night ago, I was a little drunk and playing with his football, he took it from me in a flirty way and when i was trying to get it back, one of our dorm-mates said (and I quote) :”dude, emily and jack are totally gonna hook up, look at them. I dare you guys to kiss right now.” and we both just kind of blushed and didn’t say anything. so, obviously other people notice and both my friends and his friends seem to hint at it.
I don’t necessarily want him to break up with his gf because they’ve been dating for a few years, but I also really want to be more than friends because we have a really awesome relationship!
HELP!
I am relying on your cyber advice to tell me what to do!

Reply October 20, 2012, 10:05 pm

kinda like hym

Hey eriC. Der is a guy I hv known 4 2 years en we were close bein friends in the first year but dis year he started teasin me en annoyin me en kickin my @$$ en he stares A LOT en he says he liks sum1 else but da thing is 1 minute he is angry wid me coz me en da guy I sit next 2 r kinda gettin RELLY close at times den he makes me laugh en acts lik notin happened. Den durin class we ask da EXACT same questions A LOT of da tym en every1 tels him da hate me thing is gettin relly OLD but he carries on en EVERY1 says we like each other. But we ARGUE a lot en his otha friend says we argue relly badly but I hv asked him 2 try 2 b nice or 2 leave me alone but he just won’t. He also recently had a fight wid da guy I sit next 2 coz he trew my book on da floor en da guy I sit next 2 stood up 4 me so I stood up 4 him en he got relly angry but he said da guy I sit next to is my BF but is Sooooo NOT en den I told him not 2 b jelous coz da girl he liks liks sum1 else pls help I’m LEAVIN schl soon en we r in grade 7 en he is just soooooo ANNOYIN coz wat the flower is wid da starin en ALL……..PLZ I’m SO CONFUSED :s…PS he anoys a lot of otha gurls but me da MOST……

Reply October 16, 2012, 3:06 pm

Mai Mai

No. Just… No. Please learn English.

Reply May 9, 2013, 9:41 am

Carrie

well, there is a boy i have known for ages, and i have always had a soft spot for him. he has always teased me, and recently has become more sexual towards me. He began sexting me a few months back, but then i found he did it to loads of other girls who all seemed to gang up on him and so i decided to stick up for him, however… since then he has spoken to me but he just seems weird. sometimes it is serious and other times, he askes to meet up and wonders what we could do when we would get there (he would ask for sexual favours basically) – but he teases me at school, and often i do catch him casually staring at me, and mocking me,… today for example i saw him leaving our class first with his friends and as soon as he walked out the door he look through the glass panel and he stared at me … when there were other pretty girls around. i just don’t know what to do, he is a popular kid at our school and im just merh – retarded. i’m really confused and i have no idea how to behave when im with him, on facebook and texting him i can just mock him without thinking about it and i know it makes him laugh, but when i see him at school i go red and my heart beats so fast. i can’t think when im near him and just resort to calling him an idiot or rolling my eyes if he gets to be a nuissance, which i don’t think he likes much. i have confidence issues, and if i was really confidence i feel like i might actually have a shot, what do you think?

Reply September 26, 2012, 5:01 pm

MJ

So I am in grad school for psychology and there are not many guys around, but there is one guy in particular in my program I can’t quite read or figure out. He was the TA for 2 of my classes and he is a year ahead of me in school, although he is actually 6 years older than me, but anyways. I have had so many interactions with him that baffle me that I don’t know where to start. But in general I usually see him at school or at school functions. My last name is Justice and I had a conversation with him once about my last name and how people always make a big deal about it bc we are in a forensic psychology program. From that point on he started calling me “Justice”. He will shout across the student lounge to say hi to me, he also calls me “kid” if he doesnt use my last name. He is a very friendly person and says hi to everyone, but he seems to make a big deal out of saying hi to me, at least I think so. Also when ever I talk to him he always shares a lot of personal information I didn’t ask for.

So today he decides to sit with my friend and I in the student lounge so he could eat his lunch. He sits down and says I just thought of a joke do you want to hear it, he says the joke and we cant figure out the punch line so he tell us, and it was bad, not like inappropriate but not funny. I laugh at him and tell him it was bad and he told me I should write down because its not bad but its awesome. He then offers me some of his food and then starts talking about all the things he knows how to cook. We also talked about how we both miss the fall because we are both from the east and now live in LA. Then he started talking about his ex girlfriend and how she wanted to move in with him after a month and how she was hard to deal with because she wouldn’t compromise on anything, which is why she is now an ex. He also mentioned that he was single and that single life is better than dating her. He also mentioned that that was 8 months ago when hey broke up. Mind you i have known him for a year and have been struggling with whether he likes me or not this whole time. We end up on the topic of kids because there are a lot of girls in our program and a lot of them are pregnant. We talked about how grad school would not be an ideal time for kids and what not. We end the conversation with him telling me that he doesnt like most of his classmates bc they all think they are the best when they arent and that he liked my class because we are moe laid back.

I am just trying to figure out if he likes me he picks on me and jokes around a lot with me while also telling me a t of personal info about himself. We both have an interesting sense of humor that i thin people usually find odd but I feel like we think a lot a like. There are a dozen other situations like this where I leave wondering if he likes me. But then again I think if he did he would have done something about it by now. Although I think there may have been a time when I missed him attempting to ask me out. After he was working with a group from my class he was a TA for we were talking and he was like I feel like doing something spontaneous and fun. And I was just kinda like of yeah and didnt say anything else. A friend of mine afterwards was like i think he was trying to get you to say yeah me to so he could ask you out on a date but once again I am not sure.

I then end some of my friends keep saying I should just ask him out or ask him if he wants to hang out to try and figure him out. I have kind of done this before, in high school I asked a guy to prom and he said no. But that was when I as a teenager asking out a teenager. Withe an actual man I dont know how to ask hm out or if I should, I have read a lot of articles saying that women shouldnt bc if they liked you they would make a move,and others that say you should and that guys like that. If I was confident in knowing that he liked me I would be more willing to do it. So my problem is figuring out if he likes me and if I should just ask him out. I am concerned because I do not want the next 3 years of school to be awkward if he says no or if it doesnt work out because I like talking to him and him calling me by my last name.

Reply September 26, 2012, 4:14 am

Boy Reliever

Look he is a weird guy (the good kind u want to hang on to) so do what I do to find out if my crush likes me for example:

Me:who is your crush

Him:you (he might say someone else or u and someone else but look in their eyes to see if they sparkle or suddenly change shade or see if they r blushing or playing with something) who is your crush?

Me:you and (say the name of a guy u had a crush on when you were in high school it’ll make him jealous if he likes you so he will either grit his teeth clinch his fists play with his hair or something he might suddenly look down and get a dark look on his face or in his eyes or see if his eyes suddenly change shade)

Reply December 8, 2013, 2:36 am

Isabelle

There is this guy, he’s a very close friend of mine and I’m totally in love with him. He’s been through a break-up a few months ago, because his girl wanted something real serious and he freaked out and decided he was young and needed to have his fun. So he’s “elected” this girl he tells me about, saying she’s his “short term” contract, and after he’s had his share of uncomitting relationships he could go for something more with someone else.
Ok, so we started being friends two weeks before he broke up, and we spent already at the time hours and hours talking at night over the internet. Than it became a habit, we’re always connected together, whether on the internet, or we see each other. He’s asked me to change from fbk tchat to messenger, he said because he thinks fbk is untrustworthy, but I’m the only one he talks to on messanger, and now he’s not over facebook more than twenty minutes a day. I know his ex used to harass him over facebook, too.
So, even when he’s miles away from me on holidays, he’ll text me, message me, tell me about everything and anything. He’s already “implied” I was his type and desirable, recently he’s said he’s lost, but did not tell about what. Then a few days ago, told me this big secret about one bad habit he has and is trying to cure, so he’s a bit edgy and distant with me, cause he’s the proud type and feels a bit ashamed now he’s told me.
He’s jealous of each and every man I talk about, saying he’s better, but if I start to get jealous when he tells me about this girl, he picks at me.
A few days after he broke up with his girlfriend, he was telling me he needed his fun, and live his young life, and realised through the conversation I was attracted to him ( at the time it was mere attraction).I had already had a crush on a friend of mine that wasn’t reciprocated, so as he was telling me about this girl, I thought it would kill our friendship as it did the other one I had. I was expecting some “I’m sorry, we’re just friends” and distance, but what he said was “there’s absolutely nothing wrong with you but I’m young and I need to know I’ve had my share of complicated and stupid things before I settle.” I was waiting for distance and awkwardness, I got to get even closer to him, to have him always needing me for everything and repeating me “a couple in the same class is hard too handle”. (we’ve got another year in he same class left).

So……………….. is the guy into me with feelings he denies or what??

Reply August 31, 2012, 4:27 am

Napralina

There’s a guy I met about a month ago. Here’s what he does:
Starts conversations
Makes jokes all the time
Talks about serious stuff like his parents divorce but also stuff like baby carrots
Makes eye contact
Stares at me but when I glance up doesn’t look away
Says my name a lot when we talk
Smiles a lot
He is a friendly person to everyone…. Does he like me?

Reply August 27, 2012, 5:18 pm

Flora

THAT’S THE MOST EASIST ANSWER IN THE WORLD. YES!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Reply August 28, 2012, 1:34 am

Taelyn

ok so im totally confuzed!!!! theres this guy i really like… but i dated him a year ago for a round 4 months. he always screams my name down the hallway at school, and he always gives me high fives. and in class he always sits next to me and like shows me his new shoes or is just acting funny! he also is really cute, he has blone hair and blue eyes. And he plays football!!! :) lol but i dont know if he likes me or not….please help me!!!!!!!

Reply July 27, 2012, 8:48 am

BOY RELIEVER

Dude seriously HE DOES its obviouse

Reply December 8, 2013, 2:16 am

Mireka-chan96

Hi!I’ve been reading your article a while ago and this question keeps bugging me..A year ago,there’s this guy in my class who’s 20 cm taller than me that always make me annoyed sometimes..I don’t know why he doesn’t do anything to me but I still feel annoyed..one day,during the first term exam,one of my boy classmates named F (I don’t want to mention he’s name here) wanted to change seat with me..knowing him,I know he only wanted to change with me so he can cheat on the exam..at that time,I’m a really,really,really shy girl and I don’t talk much in school..unluckily my usual seat is surrounded by my boy classmates so without thinking,I agree because I don’t want to stuck sitting around boys for 3 days..I won’t survive that long..and since F’s seat is at the back of my bestfriend’s ..and the next day,I happily sit on F’s seat knowing that I will be sitting behhind my bestfriend..Wee!!I’m soo happy..but at the same time,I have make a big mistake..you see,the guy I don’t like is sitting behind me and I didn’t noticed!!I was surprised!!
During the 10 minutes before the first paper exam starts,he lean behind me and whisper’Eizza,you give the answers to me,okay~’.I was surprised at that time because at that time,I know he is a SMART guy and well-known for his mathematic solving problem brain since he always get an a+ in the exam..he wanted ME!a typical absent-minded girl to give him the answers..I was very displeased..then one of my girl classmates said that he’s doing that must mean that he likes me..’LIKES ME?! PFFT’ I can’t believe my ears..5 minutes before the exam starts,I heard a screeching noise behind me and I can’t believe my eyes..he’s pushing his table closer to mine and I don’t have enough space for me to get out..I said to him to move his table a little away for me and he responded”Why should I~” with his flirty smile..I was in rage at that time..during the exam,he always kicks my chair repeatedly and sometimes he often spread he’s legs around me..I FELT MY HEART BEATING FAST WITHOUT KNOWING WHY..Three days before the exam eneded,my friend who’s sitting a few seats away from me asked him this question ‘What does she mean to you?’ I was curious too of what he will answer to that and then he answered’ She’s my GF’. the classroom at that time gone wild and me?Me?I blushed so hard to his answer and I think he is looking at me at that time..and that is when I started liking him..
That’s not the first time it happened..It happened again in my birthday..
At first the classroom were full with happy birtday songs and I was very happy since I never felt this before and I noticed he didn’t even sing that song..I was pissed and then I told myself’Why should I get pissed with him’ then it all happened..you see.. one of my classmates started to shout to vote for that’person’ in a AF..I don’t know why they did that in my birthday..after my recess time,I noticed him behind me,writing something at the ice-cream board..I ignored it at first but when the japanese class started..I over heard my classmates in front said he is being obvious writing ‘that’ at the ice-cream board..I was puzzled and soo I turned back..I was very,very surprised when I saw him writing ‘Eizza <3'..I tried to erased it but he wrote it with permanent marker and so one of my friends said that she will keep that paper in the mean time..I glared at him and saw him smirking at me..I blushed..
Actually there's tons of things he did that made me puzzled like when I didn't come in school for a week,he asked my friend,E of where is my whereabout..when we're alone,he poke me with his paper and many other things..
But when we reach the next grade(this year) we're in separated class..he didn't spoke to me,he didn't tease me like he always do..he didn't look at me..does that mean he began to hate me or….
I don't want to have these thoughts but since it's driving me nuts..I can't keep thinking about it..I love him but I don't know if these feelings will reach him someday..
I wanted to talk to him but I'm to scared to opened up my mouth..
What should I do?What can I do?Please reply back..

Reply July 25, 2012, 6:12 am

Andie

K well, he def used to like u…but idk if he does now, since people change and u haven’t gotten a chance to talk YET. but don’t worry, there’s still hope! Just find an excuse to talk to him and his friends too if u can. I know it’s hard but ur never going to get anywhere if you don’t talk to him. Good luck Hun!

Source: experience :)

Reply February 28, 2013, 4:27 pm

Mireka-chan96

Hi!I’ve been reading your article a while ago and this question keeps bugging me..A year ago,there’s this guy in my class who’s 20 cm taller than me that always make me annoyed sometimes..I don’t know why he doesn’t do anything to me but I still feel annoyed..one day,during the first term exam,one of my boy classmates named F (I don’t want to mention he’s name here) wanted to change seat with me..knowing him,I know he only wanted to change with me so he can cheat on the exam..at that time,I’m a really,really,really shy girl and I don’t talk much in school..unluckily my usual seat is surrounded by my boy classmates so without thinking,I agree because I don’t want to stuck sitting around boys for 3 days..I won’t survive that long..and since F’s seat is at the back of my bestfriend’s ..and the next day,I happily sit on F’s seat knowing that I will be sitting behhind my bestfriend..Wee!!I’m soo happy..but at the same time,I have make a big mistake..you see,the guy I don’t like is sitting behind me and I didn’t noticed!!I was surprised!!
During the 10 minutes before the first paper exam starts,he lean behind me and whisper’Eizza,you give the answers to me,okay~’.I was surprised at that time because at that time,I know he is a SMART guy and well-known for his mathematic solving problem brain since he always get an a+ in the exam..he wanted ME!a typical absent-minded girl to give him the answers..I was very displeased..then one of my girl classmates said that he’s doing that must mean that he likes me..’LIKES ME?! PFFT’ I can’t believe my ears..5 minutes before the exam starts,I heard a screeching noise behind me and I can’t believe my eyes..he’s pushing his table closer to mine and I don’t have enough space for me to get out..I

Reply July 25, 2012, 5:45 am

Chiara van rensburg

There’s this guy,he’s about 4 or 5 years older than what I am! We haven’t reali had a “one on one” conversation before due to him being friendz with basically every1! I added him on f.book and somehow he didn’t accpt me but accepts every1 else! He doesn’t talk to me but like I say,he talks with everybody else! We wouldn’t rli be near each other but we do make eye contact but then it seems like he flirts with other girls but not neccesarily in front of me so I don’t really notice it! I added him on bbm and we haven’t really spoken as for him not really showin some signs of wantin to speak to me coz our conversations die after that! People say that he’s avoidin me coz he likes me but I’m not so sure! Help please!

Reply July 13, 2012, 9:33 am

Anshi

Hi
i’m actually going mad about a guy of 22 years old. Well i go to college and he works.
I knew him since very long but its strange that i didnt get a crush on him.
3 weeks ago i participated in a competition and he was the one to drive my friends and I to our destination. When he looked int0 the mirror in the van, i looked into his eyes directly and since that time i just cant forget him..I’ve started having a crush on him..There is not even one day i haven’t dream about him..I’m so lost in him..
I get to see him everyday.But i actually dont like the way he looks at me..
How will i know if he likes me or not??
{sorry its a bit like an essay ;) }
any help plz???

Reply June 20, 2012, 8:59 am

anon.

Please answer this, I’m doing my head in thinking about it. So there’s this one guy I really like and people think he might like me as well. One time a friend flicked gum at me and it got stuck in my hair (ew, I know) and the guy I like spent fifteen minutes with his fingers threaded through my hair picking it all out. He also spends a lot of time talking to me when he’s normally quite shy around me. He laughs at all my rubbish jokes and he teases me too. One time another guy was threateneing to push me into the water and the guy I like picked him up, waded out to the water and held him an inch above the water before dropping him off on dry land again. Please… I could really do with an opinion from a guy or indeed anyone. I can’t stop thinking about him.

Reply June 14, 2012, 4:20 pm

Sydney

Alright so my friends and many other people tell me he likes me and this is what he does around me.
-cares about me
-makes me feel special
-sticks up for me
-asks my friends if I am ok when im sad
-starts conversation with me all the time
-talks to me whenever he gets the chance
-acts stupid around me
-pokes me (Poke wars)
-talks to me 24/7 on FB
-video chats with me whenever he can
-and 22 people (yes my friend counted!) think we are dating or should be a couple!

So do you think that he is into me or is this average?

Reply June 9, 2012, 6:11 pm

Nina

Lol, Sydney

I’m no relationship guru, but judging from you wrote I’d say: OH YEA BABY HE DEFINITELY LIKES YOU. Now reciprocate if you like him to ;). If not, go easy on him.

Reply June 25, 2012, 6:53 pm

kk8

theres this guy at my school, i didnt know him, but he somehow knew me… he’d like randomly called my name in the hall once, and i thot that wuz pretty creepy, but apparently one of his friends is in one of my classes, and thats how he knows me… and everytime i see him, no matter at the bus stop, hallway or class, he would call “Hi (my name). now sometimes we hav a class together, so me and him had gotten a bit closer, now he likes to pop up behind me, grab me by the shoulders, and scare me haha ..and a few days ago when i went to social class after school to ask teacher something he was abt to leave the class, but he waited for me, walked me to my locker, where i said “bye” cuz he had to go to his locker and to his gf…but he told me “naaww, i don’t need to leave yet, and my gf may come this way…” and stood there talking to me while i got my books into my backpack. after that i closed my locker, i started to walk away, assuming he was gonna stay there to wait for his gf, but he followed me, and walked me downstairs, in which we continued our conversation… he speaks a language i didn’t know soo i wuz laughing at him, and i told him my parents knew the language, and hes like yea id go like talk to them and be like im your daughers friend, and im awesome and such, and im gonna marry her in the future… i told him “yea rite i hardly know u…” and hes like “r u sure?” this guy, i never really had feelings for before but im starting to like him, but im not sure if he feels the same way…since he has a gf?

Reply June 9, 2012, 12:06 am

Sabby

SO THERES THIS GUY THAT WORKS AT THE LOCAL WALGREENS HES A CASHIER AND LATELY IVE BEEN WANTING TO GET HIS NUMBER BECAUSE I FEEL SO ATTRACTED TO HIM. AND I HOPE HE FEELS THE SAME BUT I DONT KNOW IF HES BEING NICE OR IS FLIRTING WITH ME BECAUSE SO FAR HE TEASES AND JOKES WITH ME, HE ASKES ME QUESTIONS ABOUT SCHOOL AND STUFF, AND NOW HE GIVES ME DISCOUNTS AND AS WELL ILL ASK HIM FOR SOMETHING AND HE’LL GO LOOKING FOR IT WITHOUT ME ASKING HIM FOR HIM TO DO THAT, AND ALSO HE MAKES ME LAUGH HE ALWAYS TALKS TO ME WHEN HE SEEMS ME.. IS HE INTO ME? OR HOW CAN I ASK FOR HIS NUMBER??

Reply June 6, 2012, 4:01 pm

Andie

Ask for the store’s number then wink

Reply February 28, 2013, 4:31 pm

Lona

First thing you gotta do is to stop shouting and remove the caps lock.

Reply March 11, 2013, 4:05 pm

Confused Kat

So I just met this guy this year and he is in one of my classes. He pokes me in the side and says the sounds that I make are cute. He also pokes other girls. He texts me everyday and we joked that we are ‘married’. Our friend keeps saying that we should just go out already. We’re pretty close but I don’t know if he does. He’s told me a secret about himself. It would really help if you could give me advice

Reply May 27, 2012, 11:12 pm

anonymous

ok theres is a guy which you slready know. he started as friends with my cousin in school and stopss hanging out with his friends in the morning to hang with us. recently when we walk he is by me. my cousin says he like me but im not sure. twice we were walking and talking kinda ahead of my cousin when she randomly disapeared or turned around. we kept walking and saw her. she just walked past us. we both wondered why so i continued my way. he said he would walk with me cuz it would be awkward having 2 guys and a girl walking together. my cousins reason is it was his excuse. just today i didnt technicly admit i liked him to my cousin but she started going all freak. she said she was going to his class which so happened to have its door opened. when she went in i didnt go or watch feeling wierd. she came back out and said she told him i liked him and he said he liked me. i cant really believe her and i didnt watch her say it or hear him say it. now im kinda freaked for monday if she was telling the truth. the guy i like now walks with me even if my cousin isnt there and when he leaves we say bye and stuff. he is cute and funny and can make me laugh. surprisingly we had a nice chat about batman (Because batman is awesome :)) i dont know if he really does llike me and its driving me crazy

Reply April 27, 2012, 6:19 pm

anonymous

to add on today he walked with us and started off with “how r u?” and victoria told him but i said nothing. he smiled at her and turned towards me and asked again. later on my cousin said she felt awkward walking with us cuz she said we kept talking to eachother and barely talked to her and is saying we are perfect. i like this guy so much since he, as i mentioned, is funny. we talked about everything from being tired to all the singers we hate (ADELE)

Reply May 4, 2012, 6:12 pm

I want more

I broke up with my ex two years ago. Since then, I have tried to go no contact multiple times. All times, he says he wants to stay friends and keep talking. He gets upset when I won’t talk to him. I get so confused by his behavior! Recently, I told him I can’t talk to him and this time he’s listening for the most part. I told him I can’t be friends with him because he calls/texts everyday, says good morning and goodnight, took me to his family’s house for a holiday, when his dad came to town he asked if I wanted to go get dinner with them, has gone on dates but has not officially had a girlfriend in the two years since we’ve been broken up, wants to watch movies at night, we don’t have sex except for once MAYBE every 6 months when we have a slip up, when my phone somehow blocked him, he asked a mutual friend if they’d heard from me and was worried about me, etc. etc. He sees nothing wrong with this and thinks it’s us being friends. I got upset because I found out he went on a date with someone multiple times and told him he should have told me so I could step out of the way, he got mad and said there was no reason to tell me as we’re not there in our relationship. So now, we haven’t talked for a week, well he text one day twice but I ignored both times, and then the next two days he pocket dialed me which he has never done before, I didn’t answer either time. People say to watch people’s actions and not their words, I have been, and now I’m sad but I know I wnat more and I won’t settle for less at this point. 2 years is a long time to wait for someone. We initially broke up because I was really hesitant about making things “official” so when we had a fight, I was quick to break it off. I realize that, but now I feel like he’s still making me pay for it. When we talked he told me he was fighting something and was scared to say it… but wouldn’t tell me what. What the heck do I do? Just continue with this? That’s my plan.. I just want more.

Reply April 24, 2012, 9:04 pm

amy

I really enjoyed reading what you wrote.if i were in your shoes i would probably continue to like him and see were it heads no matter how long.the second option would be to find a boyfriend and see how he reacts.try to get him jealus.then theres the last option which should be your last.tell him you just cant be with him anymore and cut all ties.i hope you think long and hard about this decision because it could affect you for your entire life

Reply April 24, 2012, 10:48 pm

Hairi

Eric:
Hey so I’m just asking for some simple advice. I’m 15 and I’m very confused with this guy and myself. I noticed this boy who my friends knew at the beginning of high school, he’s a year older than me so we’re never in any classes together. For some reason I’ve been noticing him, but we don’t ever talk! Once in a blue moon we’d speak when he’s standing with one of my friends. My friends always told me that he’s looked at me and turn away smiling. They said he’d change his body language when he noticed me, and how he always glances at me. I’ve been noticing him looking at me too. But I find whenever we meet eye to eye we both look away quickly. I’d asked my friends that if he did like me, why doesn’t he do something about it? They told me it’s because he’s shy and he acted the same way with his last girlfriend when he liked her. Sometimes I think he’d smile at me but I’d look away stupidly not sure if it was at me. I realize that I really like him. But I have NO idea why. I think he’s super nice and he’s very smart. But I don’t know what I see in him. I’ve tried to ignore him but everyday I find myself looking for him. What should I do? Does he have a thing? Is that why I keep holding back?

Reply April 24, 2012, 8:36 pm

Lolala

Lol not a real good advisor but how about you try talking to him? i know we all have ego issues and stuff but try it If you want a relationship cause he obviously likes you. or just go and kiss him? :p

Reply January 4, 2013, 6:59 am

Crystal

I’m in High School, and I am very confused. There is this guy in my class that has been joking around with me and has been doing all these crazy things. I have never been in love, and I didn’t see the signs he was putting off. I didn’t have feelings for him, so I thought. It’s been awhile sense he’s done anything to annoy me. He started calling me mean names. He’s been hanging with one of my friends. I didn’t really care, until he started sitting by her at lunch. One day he got up and looked for her. My heart felt like it was damaged. I had never felt that before. It felt like some one just hurt me, I guess. It was very undiscribable. Anyway, I started asking my cousin for help and she told me he really liked me and that I should talk to him. I was so nervous to talk to him, but I faced my fear. I talked to him. Well really just stumbled on words. My mind went blank. I felt like a fool. I tried talking to him again, to tell him how i really felt about him. I just don’t know what to do. Please help.

Reply April 23, 2012, 12:06 am

joanna

girl …. I’ve been through dat 2…..i’m pretty sure dat he likes u n he’s hanging out with ur friend just to make u jealous so u would make a move…..i think u should wait n see what he does next and if he doesn’t do anything, that means he’s probably scared to talk 2 u……but u should go on n talk to him but only when he’s alone….
good luck..:)

Reply April 24, 2012, 12:12 am

babykay

i have a question when a guy keeps asking u if u like him and u keep saying no but i really do think he is hot but does tht mean when he keeps asking me if i like does it mean he likes me or am i overreacting because he kinda is nice to me and he does tease me and talk to in my art class and he keeps saying that i think his hot and i tell him no i just dont want him not liking me and i like him i am fat so tht makes a differentence to so thts y i want to knw.

Reply April 20, 2012, 10:40 am

babykay

also i have heard when guys tease u they like u

Reply April 20, 2012, 10:41 am

JASMINE

ok. its this guy i like we live next to each other, go to same school, we are the only 2 at the bus stop for my area. i gave him on valentines day, said from a secreat admirer, he smiled and ask it was it me, i said yeah he rubbed me on my back and thats was the end of it,
then one da i got my cousin to take him a note from me and i didnt get no reponse.
i ask him one day was he ever scared to say some to someone but you got scared,he said yes
so that got me thinkling he just scare to approach me about it
he smiles at me
stares inmy eyes from time to time and we have a lot of things in common
we never run out of things to talk about
hes in 9 grade im in 10
im a little on the thick side and black
he skinny and white
so that scares me that he might like me but scared what people are gonna say

GIVE ME ADVICE PLZ IM DESPRATE

Reply April 16, 2012, 11:11 pm

meg

i had a huge crash on a guy in my year but we don have any class together. my friends went to him to let him know that im interested in him and he thinks it as i like him (though it’s true). i started to text him but not a lot cuz im worried he would find me annoying. then one day he started texting me first for asking my msn, after that we chat on msn till now. we didn’t chat many times, but every time we talks for hours. even when he’s very tired he still says he want to talk to me. when i tell him to sleep, he would ask “you sure?” “you want me to sleep?” of course i dont, but i reply”if you want to” then he went to sleep. im thinking if he actually wants me to say “no” or im just overreacting?
At school, we rarely meet, and he doesn’t look at me when he actually can see me. last time we went on family meal, everyone sit in the same table, he chose to sit far away from me and talking to other people except me. is he being shy cause he likes me too or just feeling awkward seeing me?

Reply April 6, 2012, 3:06 am

Caitlyn

There’s a guy that’s in many of my classes. I really like him and when I’m around him I usually blush and laugh a lot and he notices. My friend has been trying to set us up (she very much doesn’t take no for an answer) and they talk about me a lot. Although he acts interested to her, when I’m around he doesn’t talk to me. I catch him looking a lot, though. Anyways, I just need some help catching his eye, he knows I like him and just need help getting him a little more interested. I would love it if you would help me, thanks!

Reply April 2, 2012, 7:31 pm

maria

hey . So there’s this guy i really like and ihave him in a class . But iwanna know if he like’s me. He play’s around with me like poke’s me everytime he see’s me in the hallway’s. And in class he playy’s with me like fightinq with me but he just playing around and stuff. He hold’s my hand’s during he fight’s with me . And try’s to hug me too. I sit infront of him . And he sit’s behind me and he bother’s me alot . He poke’s me alot . And when i put my head down to sleep he try’s many way’s to wake me up. And he only does this to me .. Does this mean he like’s me to or no.. /:

Reply March 31, 2012, 11:15 am

lory

hey, im going crazy for a guy at work. hes 7 yrs younger than me. i cant stand him cause im married hes single. were endin up every shift togheter and hes divin me nuts.. im trying to hate him cause idont wanna fall. and i dont know his felings for me. when he with me always tries to bump his leg into mine. he told me if i m single he d go out with me bu thats ll he ever sad except he complimented my hair myy shoes my skirt. i drive him home but notin hapens.. hes trying to stay out of my marriage but im not happy with my hubby [long famlystory]. pls help. where this situation can end?

Reply March 19, 2012, 10:55 pm

ugggg!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

ugggg im 12 turning 13 soon there is this guy in my class i still like him which ive like him since 5th grade now i am in 7th grade and so is he and i think he is so hot he is blonde with blue eyes and i dont know if he likes me or not he stares at me alot and i dont know if I shud ask him but the last time i tried he said no and i told one of his best friends that he probaly wont date me because he is not ready and when his friend went to talk to him he said he was totally ready but i am too afraid to ask him out because i dont know if he likes me or not so i need some help please somebody helpppppppppppppppppppppppp!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! P.S. he stares at me alot and i like him alot did i mention that before???!!!!

Reply March 19, 2012, 9:33 pm

babykay

he more likely likes u

Reply April 20, 2012, 10:42 am

Joanna

hey,
there is a guy in my grade who i like but i don’t know if he likes me. when ever we are paired up for projects in class he comes too close to me like he wants to hug me but I’ve seen him staring at other girls too & my friends tease me about him saying that there might be a thing between u guys by d way u both act when u r together. actually i get very fidgety n i cant stop smiling when im with him or talking to him…its really embarrassing…i personally don’t think dat he likes me because im a very very shy person and i barely talk to him except for when we r in class but i like his personality ALOT…..
what do u think?? does he like me or not….??

im way too confused to even think…..so i need ur help…. plzz reply ASAP…

thanks alot.

Reply March 14, 2012, 4:18 pm

Sara

Ive Send a anonymous message he responded and after a lot of chats he said its mutual!
I need some guy advise to help me through this untill I meet him again

Reply March 14, 2012, 10:51 am

Angela

So obviously there is this guy, and we are pretty great friends. We don’t have any classes together, but we do ride the bus together. We are a year or two apart, him being older. In the mornings, I sometimes catch him looking back at me (In a effort to make me laugh, he does it all the time and knows it doesn’t take long for me to realize) and we will just smile at each other. Before school starts we’ll sometimes talk to each other, sometimes he seems to sneak up on me by surprise. After school, he’ll be waiting outside of the bus for me and walk with me to it, insisting I sit beside him. We always chat, and lately he has taken to ticking me in mini-wars. Very funny! He baked me some cookies for Valentines day; and when will sometimes randomly pat my head and mess with my hair. I just can’t tell if all of this is just his way of being my friend or if he likes me! My friends think he does, and a few people on the bus have commented that we seem to be really, really good friends.

Reply March 4, 2012, 10:40 pm

hopeful

can you tell if he likes me from this
we have known each other since pre-school and i have liked him since ive known him. he liked me when we were little but i don’t know anymore. lately he has been super nice to me but i have always seen him as a nice person. he seemed worried for me because i might be hurt for awhile and said he felt really bad for me, especially because we have P.E. together. when a different guy tried to make me do more than i could when we were doing something in running, he said that i have a condition and he doesn’t want me to get anymore hurt than i am. then, when my
P.E. teacher was being really mean about me trying to go back to sports, i was really upsets (in tears in everything, Cuz the teacher was being really mean) when we went to the next class we were partnered up to to the problems half and half, he offered to do all of them so i could rest. the next day, when i was walking instead of running, he passed me and said good luck and the teacher is being a real jerk. everytime he says something i get all happy cuz its always that nice.
pleas answer soon

Reply March 4, 2012, 4:11 am

Aly

This guy I’ve been hanging out with a lot…is fun, seems like there is a spark/connection. Some of the things he does and says makes me think he likes me, but then other things make me think the opposite. I asked him if he would be my date/+1 to a friend’s wedding. He said “I guess I can go with you.” He later asked what he should wear to it. I don’t see a whole lot of guys going to weddings, was just wondering if this could mean anything for potentially being more than friends? If it is a big sign or anything. Your thoughts Eric?? Please :)

Reply February 29, 2012, 10:07 pm

confused

so theres this guy i jus met 2 weeks ago. weatrted hangin out afte one night of drinkin n i fell asleep on his couch. in the morning he woke up wen he heard me wake up to come check on me n brought me into his room to lay more comfortably…instead of trying to have sex he held me n cuddled for the remainder of the morning. it wasnt until mid afternoon and hours of cuddling he kissed me….we cuddled for 2 days straight ….

that next monday i was textin him bt hiss evening plans n he was gonna jus go home n so i was like ok nevermind then but he decided to stop byafter all….

forgot to mention the night we went out unlike any other guy ever he came up to get me insted of watin in the car…

anyway so he came to my room n we watched a movie for a lil nthen ended up cuddlin n foolin around

the next day we didnt hang bc after work he ended up being pretty tired but we went out to dinner the follwing night n again i stayed at his place n we cuddled ( we always cuddle)

he always tickles me n messes wit me n jokes n stuff

we eat lunch at work almost everyday together

anyway we hung out again that fri-sat morning n then after a long drive he slept over my place that sunday

then that week i spent some nights over his house n one fri he told me not to eat bc he was takin me out….we both paid but

then i found out bt another girl n got all upset n he told me im the only one hes been screwin but hes single n we aint anything serious so to calm down n do whatever

n tht he dont want a relationship right now

so all was back to normal and that thursday i slept oevr again bc that weds he stopped by but didnt take me back home wit him like usual

that thursday he seemed a lil uninterested at first during sex but then was back in the swing of things

we didnt hang that weekend bc he was really tired n i was busy

and dint want me over monday n then

at work i foubd out hes dating this girl…n he is he told me wen i asked

but idk how its possible to spend 6/ of 14 days with me and 6″ home relaxin”
and be dating her for those same 2 weeks….

what is dating? ive read online a few diff meanings….bc he still claims singledom but yet hes dating her n seeing me n “foolin around” with me….

idlk if i shuld end r fun bc it might cause work place drama or continue it

its buggin me bc im into him n clealry hes somewhat into me and hasnt fooled aorund wit her in a while so again i ask what is DATING

thanks

Reply February 29, 2012, 3:10 am

ACK, I'M CONFUSED

So, I really like this boy, and I have for a while, (since grade 6) and we’re good friends, even though he’s a year younger than I am. We were put in the same class this year, and we sat with each other at the beginning, but we talked too much, so the teacher has never let us sit together again. We talk all the time, and I catch him looking at me in class sometimes, and all of my friends say he likes me, even though I think he doesn’t. He also flirts with pretty much everyone but he teases me A LOT and grabs my arm while we’re talking and stuff. But he also, like, hugs my other friend all the time, and she asks him to let go and he won’t, and once he told her he loved her, but when people asks him, he looks dead serious and says No, I don’t like her, so that’s also really confusing…
I’m graduating this year and since he’s in 7th grade, I won’t see him again when I’m in high school, but I think I’m in love, pretty much.
HELP.

Reply February 26, 2012, 4:26 pm

Lora

There is this guy that I really like…once I caught him looking at and when I did he didn’t look away so we stared for like 5 seconds and my friend was like what the hell come on lets go…I don’t know if he likes me but he told e that he likes my friend but my friend kinda likes him and they don’t even talk. The only time I talk to him is on Facebook which is online he always trys to get my attention like he walks past me once he even touched me on the back! I wish I knew if he liked me

Reply February 25, 2012, 12:52 pm

~Kenzie~

So obviously I’m having a guy problem. I’ve known him for a while and we always talk and text. When there are plenty of other seats in the room he comes and sits right next to me during classes. He also ditches his friends to come and talk to me. I’ve caught him looking at me a couple of times and he gets really close to me when we talk like he’s about to lean in and kiss me. He also grabs my hand a lot and rests his head on my shoulder. Apparently all my friends say we flirt with each other but I don’t think I do, on purpose anyways. I admit I think he’s cute but I only see him as a friend. He says he isn’t interested in anyone right now, but I want to know if he likes me or not. It’s driving me crazy. I’m not obsessing, I just really don’t want to hurt him if he asks me out.
Advice?

Reply February 22, 2012, 2:55 pm

Joanna

hey,
so there is a guy in my class….he is really popular and i think i like him… I’ve caught him looking at me once in a while and since his initials are the same as mine we both are group partners alot of time…it’s really embarrassing as i’m really shy …when ever i’m talking to him he looks me in my eye and i look down for some reason….
i was not feeling good once so i didn’t do PE in school and he came up to me n asked what happened…..he usually only talks to me in class but not when his friends are near him or not in the hallways or anything….he’s dated alot of girls before which i dont like at all but he’s single right now….. he used to be really loud even in front of me but now he’s more sophisticated and nice….we never used to talk before but now we do maybe because we r in the same groups….can you tell me what’s going on…..really need help….

Reply February 21, 2012, 10:11 pm

Ashie

this is carrying on from the other one i did, im so scared to talk to him im fridget, i asked my friend to ask if he liked me but she didnt, and still tht would make things wrose, cuz i have popular up them selves girls in our school, tht made a big deal of liking the guy cuz they found out. and i got really REALLY nervous! so im just a pussy lol…. its true. i just fuck up ya no….. idk what to do anymore, if i just had a wingman O.O or watever u bluddy call it..like a look out person to come and help me, cuz i dont have much friends, and most of them changed schools -____- im peed off. and i dont even know if this would even help me i just joined a random site like this to talk about it and see if it could help me, im desperate xD (sorry if im annoying you or anyone)

Reply February 20, 2012, 12:54 am

Ashie

Hey, im 14 year old girl right, tht goes to college, well i have my eye on this certain guy, and well one day at athletics he kept on staring at me from a distance, and when it came to relay, he came over put his hand on my shoulder and said “go well” to me! and i was thinking (OMG) lol as ya do, and then he said to this other guy that hurt me last year for athletics “dont stand on anyones foots okay?” bcuz he stood on my foot with spikey shoes and i had to get stiches. and so i thought he was like ya no, watching out for me, but when it comes to school, he just like doesnt stare at me as much, well maybe at lunch time and interval time, if im near him but, im in his class he just doesnt stare at me, but maybe im in an awkward sitting place so i probably cant notice him, but still, when im near he jist doesnt, and hes like one of the popular people ish and im just like un-popular but im kinda confused cuz one day he does like me and then the next he doesnt. its like wat da fug, and he doesnt really talk to me, but yeah. i think hes just to scared to ask me out bcuz im like un-popular and hes like popular and other people will think thats weird…. ya no so help me out here, just saying…. c(:

Reply February 20, 2012, 12:37 am

Marissa

There is this guy I really like in my grade and somehow he found out that I like him. We were good friends before, but now he is just totally ignoring me and has blocked me online. I didn’t confront him and now I don’t know what to do. I am fine with it if he doesn’t feel the same way about me, it’s fine if we are just friends. However, I can’t even tell him this, because I can never find him! Two of our friends have decided to help me, and they said that they would talk to him…but I don’t know what to do at all…Please help!

Reply February 18, 2012, 2:42 pm

confused, inexperienced teenager

I know it’s stupid that I’m even on these websites when I should be working it out myself but it’s driving me crazy.

I thought this article was really helpful and a lot of what you said really made sense. I’m really unsure of whether he likes me or just as a friend though. I have band with him twice a week and since he’s older we don’t see each other at any other time but when I walk past him at random times or he’s having a conversation with someone else he doesn’t seem that happy (not sad, but not smiling either) and his tone of voice isn’t that gah, I don’t know. But when I’m talking to him he’s smiling and his tone of voice sounds that little bit happier. (and he has the most gorgeous smile). Like the signs have said, he has started a conversation a few times (note, I’ve only had band 4 times this year because it’s a new school year) and he has said general things to me a few times when one of his friends is sitting on the other side of him.

I’m just scared that I’ll do the same thing I always do, ignore my feelings until they pass. But what if there’s even a small chance of it working? He finishes school in 2 and a half terms and I don’t wanna feel like I wasted my own time and let myself down once again.

I really want to do something, SOMETHING for once but 1. I don’t know what and 2. I don’t know if there’s a chance of it working. And he’s not that much older, 2-3 years. And I know I should at least work on my confidence because my confidence is close to non existent, only with a few of my friends am I more openly confident.

Anyone, I would really love some advice.

Reply February 17, 2012, 9:25 am

Eric Charles

Hey “confused”,
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A few things…
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First, if you think there might be a chance, then go for it. The mistake that holds most people back from going for it is they turn it into some huge ordeal. It’s not – just try to find ways to talk with him and connect with him and gradually try to move things forward one baby step at a time. Baby steps.
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For example, if you don’t talk much, find ways to see each other more and talk more. If you aren’t friends on Facebook, try for that. Or try to exchange numbers so you can text.
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But if taking a “next baby step” still feels like too much, then do whatever you think needs to happen before that step happens. If you feel that you need to be talking frequently and spending quality time together before you add each other on Facebook, then put your focus on spending great time together. Get me?
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Also… you will never really, truly know how another person actually feels about you. Even if they’re very vocal… you’ll never know for sure.
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But that’s OK because amazingly, people judge others heavily on how the receiver *reacts* to them. It’s an odd phenomenon, but it’s true.
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In other words, if you decide that he DOES like you and that he’s into you, you’re going to act (and react) confidently when you’re around him, which will make you attractive (or more attractive) in his eyes.
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So make the decision that he likes you, he’s into you and he wants to have something with you. Make that decision and respond to him accordingly.
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If you can take baby steps towards getting closer and you can DECIDE to believe that he likes and wants you, you’ll be fine. Good luck.

Reply February 17, 2012, 10:20 am

confused, inexperienced teenager

Thanks heaps for all the help :D I will certainly try all that

Reply February 17, 2012, 11:54 am

O.E.R.O

So theres a guy who i really like but He really likes my friend but hey dnt talk at all , and well she doesnt really like hime , she thinks hes creepy . well he told me he likes my friend but the thing is ..they dnt talk and she ignores him alot. Me and him are always together . he walks me twe my classes ,waits for me and everything. we get along So great ..once in a while we would be talking and he would call me babe or honey ..nd yeah… well ive asked him who he likes and he always says my friend . hes not one of does guys that are after more than one girl at a time. ive asked myself if he likes me and i would like to know if he does. i would just ask him but i dont want anything to be awkward or something so ill rather just stay quiet and see if like one day he would mention something. So do you think he likes me or what ?

Reply February 17, 2012, 12:27 am

Secret sorry ;)

Wrote on my paper **

Reply February 9, 2012, 12:45 am

Secret sorry ;)

And At the end of last year he wrote on my that I’m amazing and on Facebook on this app he called me amazing :) good sign? Please help. Thx.

Reply February 9, 2012, 12:44 am

cynthiangela

you see, i really love this guy, okay i’m still in high school
but we had been classmates since grade 4 until we graduated but now we are far apart
i started having a crush on this guy but i dont know if he really likes me, every night i dreamt about him..about that we are together talking….last time…my crush and i seldomly talked,,,he just talked to me when he needs something….but i just blushed
sometimes i would caught him staring at me but when i am able to look at him…he glazed away….what is this feelings for?

Reply February 8, 2012, 7:05 am

Secret sorry ;)

Super sorry but I forgot to mention that we have known and gone to the same school since preschool so 10 years :) and lol I think he liked me in preschool too :) and he always smiles at me ;) but I’m super sad cause we are going to different high schools next year :( and I had his number but we both got new phones and I’ve been kinda to shy to ask for it again but when we did have each others numbers, he got a concusion so he wasn’t at school so I texted him ” where were you today” and then he told me about his concusion so I repiled ” aww now I feel bad for you :(” and he wrote ” naww don’t feel bad for me” is that a good sign or what?? Sorry I’m bugging you about this so much :/ please reply though :)

Reply February 8, 2012, 2:01 am

Secret sorry ;)

Hehe also it seems like he is very confident around his friends then when he’s around me it seems like he’s toned down or something.. And I know that my feelings for him are true cause it’s been a year that I started liking him and I still do :) and 2 days ago he was in my class during reccess trying to get this bottle from a boy in my class and so they were like ‘fighting’ for the bottle and the one I like was like hey “my name” :P get the bottle for me so I grabbed it from the other boy and gave it to him, so what I’m getting to is that he asked me to do something for him so is that a good sign?? Btw he knows my name but I’d like that to remain a secret :) and last year when we sat beside each other he would always make his knee touch mine and I never pulled my knee away and he didn’t either :)) good sign??? Please respond cause I really want him to like me or I really would like to know if he does like me before our grade 8 grad cause there’s a dance during that so I’d kinda like to dance with him :)))))) thx :)

Reply February 8, 2012, 1:47 am

Secret sorry ;)

Ok so I am like completely in love :) I’m in grade 8 but still, I love this boy :) it all started in grade 7 so last year, when we had to sit beside each other for the whole school year :) so from that we bonded. Now in grade 8 we arent in each others class so I never get to talk to him except for after school, on the bus ride home. So ya we go on each others bus but even there I don’t really get to talk to him cause he’s got some friends from grade 7 that go on our bus and I have some friends from grade 8 so we never sit with each other very often…. So far this year we have sat with each other 2 times and still barely talked :( but when we don’t sit with each other I will find him looking at me and once we looked in to each others eyes for about five seconds :) and today i think i saw him look at me about 5 times and my friends on the bus told me that we would be a cute couple and one of the girls told me that she really thinks that he likes me too :) but I’m not sure.once he accidentally spilled yogurt on me and he was like wiping it off of me :) I need some help I dream about him every night please comment some help :) (:

Reply February 8, 2012, 1:15 am

Leena

I think this guy in my class is flirting with me..he always does silly things like messes with my computer when I’m not looking and i also noticed him starin at me from his seat…and when I catch him in one of his little tricks he gives me this what seems to be a flirtascious smile(this is almost an everyday thing)…but I haven’t acted on this because I’m in a very committed relationship and though this other guys sweet….I’m devoted to my boyfriend of 2 years.

Reply February 7, 2012, 7:41 pm

Sarah

There’s this guy that I’ve been (best) friends with, and like others, he stares at me. We’re in the same classes and whenever I catch him looking at me, (I think) he grins with big eyes right at me to cover his caught action. (Doesn’t want me to know that he’s staring at me???) He also tries to hold my hand when I’m unaware. I don’t even know what he wants, but could anyone answer this? It really bugs me. LOADS.

Reply February 5, 2012, 9:22 pm

Jay

So im wondering if this guy is interested in me. He is drop dead gorgeous and im unsure if I stand a chance. We never talked at school, then one day while I was talking to a mutual friend of his he jumped in the conversation, although it didnt last long. The next day on facebook I posted a status and he commented on it with something from the conversation we had the day before although it was completely irrelevant to the status. The comments exceeded 300 comments before we finally stopped. A week later he messaged me on facebook and we have been messaging for 2 weeks now, although the conversation is just random things. Could he like me, or just wants a new friend?

Reply February 1, 2012, 1:05 am

Kaitlen

well, it all started in year 8… at school we were reading the book “coram boy” however this was the adapted play version… if you have read the book this will be easy to follow… okay so i got to be Mellisa Milcote, and then this boy got the part as Alexandar Ashbrook… and yes the 2 characters like eachother and they had a baby, however The boy now keeps going around school saying “i had it with you” and wherever i see him thats all he ever says. and now he stares at me constanly in English and i get the feeling that he is kinda stalking me… okay so now im nearly finished year 9 and he still goes on and on about it and then to make things worse we read another book when mine and his character had it and yes he said those things again but i dont know why he is doing this? and now he is paying attention to what colour my hair is or how much mascara i use… So does he like me or does he not…. thanks

Reply January 30, 2012, 9:12 am

I Don't Usually Do These Things

Well, obviously there’s a guy I’m into, or else I wouldn’t be here!

He’s in my class, and we don’t really talk that much. However, I keep catching his eyes a lot during class or in the hallways. I know that this is going to sound like I’m being too hopeful or that I’m looking into things too much, but once when he was in the front of the class reciting an improv speech, he was looking at my eyes the whole time.

And now for the part where I go completely bonkers and read into things too much.

I don’t know if this is teasing, but during drama, he continually blocks my ideas when we’re improvising onstage. Once, when he had the power to “control” the people on the stage, he even made me sing. I refused of course, but he smiled at me afterwards.

He’s also very good at sports, but recently whenever I’m in his group for basketball, he seems to have trouble getting the ball in net. Though I suppose he could just be having an off day… But once when he was on the other team, he actually passed the ball to me intentionally (but another more likely explanation is that his team members sucked and I was a decent player).

There was also a time when he was one of the science fair participants I was researching on. At first he kept messing around to mess up my results, but he stopped when I asked him nicely and scored much higher. I’m not sure if this is a sign of interest, because he’s just one of those guys who looks to joke around. The fact that he only messed with my testing makes me wonder if he likes me or if he just plain out hates me.

A possible reason that he’s not interested in me is that when I asked for his number for a dare, he smiled and told me “I’m not telling YOU.”.

I like to smile at him in those instances in class web we HAVE to work with each other, but I think I might have said something to make him mad. A male friend in my class (he’s not into me) wad trying to prove that my crush wasn’t attractive to the entire female population of our school. This was several months ago, so I was still a new student. When he asked me if I found Anonymous attractive, I told him no (downright lie, now that I think about it), and my crush heard me.

The same male friend asked me if Anonymous had hit on me yet, though I may have heard wrong (my friends chose that moment to have a loud debate over Harry Potter and The Lord of the Rings). Or he could have been speaking to the girl beside me.

But it’s obvious he thinks I’m smart, and he told me so when we were working on a group project.

Anyways, you don’t have to reply, as I’m pretty sure you have better things to do than listen to the problem of teenage girls.

Reply January 28, 2012, 6:41 pm

April

Hey Eric,
Okay so there is this guy that I met a few weeks ago in school. Ever since then we have been talking a lot , and getting to know each other . He initiates conversations with me and is always looking directly into my eyes when he speaks to me. He tends to lean in when we are sitting together and is cracking jokes when I’m with him. I caught him staring at me today, and our eyes met and he didn’t look away and I catch him looking at me frequently. I really like this guy and I’m pretty sure that he likes me . But, I am waiting for him to make a move. I’m wondering what I can do to really let him know that I’m interested without seeming too much? Thanks !

Reply January 25, 2012, 9:04 pm

i am too cute for this

Eric Charles help me please…. so i am in high school and i am in 9th grade (15 yrs old) female and he’s in 11th grade (17 yrs old) maybe idk…. well anyways i really like this guy and i kinda think he like me too… he always staring at me ALWAYS staring at me and i never stare at him even thou i like him… he talk to every girl (my friends) but he doesnt talk to me like one day his friend sat at my table at lunch time and he move…and one time his cuzzin told me he said i was fine and he think he have a chance with me but he doesnt know how to approach me… then i went from being attractive to just decent which i am okay with… his friends are always staring at me it’s like they watching me and telling him everything i do…. i am just tired of the stares i don’t know if i am ugly to him i really need your help… one day i broke the ice… sooo one day i was walking to spanish class and i see him so i hung out a little in the hallway…. and i caught his eye and i ask him can i talk to him he say yeah and i told him i have a crush on him, i thought he was cute and he was blushing and smiling soo hard i swear… it was cute it was… and i also told him i wanted to get to know him more and he told me i can but i never talk to him… so after that day i use to say hi to him and then i stop because when he seen me he’ll never say hi first it was me doin all the work and so it last until a week in a half ahaha i kno…but now it’s just staring again… and i am losing my interest in him and i am not gonna take this any longer… also he has a lot of girls that like him and that always on him but me i am not the type to be all on you i am a relax chick…. and he just always following my ways and tryna get close to me and copying me and if i leave to go somewhere here he comes… but then he play the ingoring game and i do too but i am trired of it now…. sooo what you i should do!!!!thx u=)

Reply January 24, 2012, 7:38 pm

Kate

Okay so theres this guy who says he fancied someone else to his friend, yet he always mucks around/flirts with me and loads of other girls, Recently he adjusted the school headphones so they fit me, took my work and wouldnt give it back and put his basketball bib on my head so i couldnt see. What does this mean? HELP!

Reply January 23, 2012, 12:40 pm

Anj

I have this classmate of mine who is my crush. He’s a nice guy and treats girls nicely. Whenever we see each other in the hallway, he can’t look at me and act like I’m invisible. We never talk in class because I am shy and he always try to talk to me by asking senseless questions. He’s a mysterious guy and lots of girls like him. I’m wondering why he acts nice and cool with other girls, but when he’s talking to me or near me he can’t talk neither look at me in the eye. What does it mean?

Reply January 21, 2012, 2:22 am

Anj

I have this classmate of mine who is my crush. He’s a nice guy and treats girls nicely. Whenever we see each other in the hallway, he can’t look at me and act like I’m invisible. We never talk in class because I am shy and he always try to talk to me by asking senseless questions. He’s a mysterious guy and lots of girls like him. I’m wondering why he acts nice and cool with other girls, but when he’s talking to me or near me he can’t talk neither look at me in the eye.

Reply January 21, 2012, 2:20 am

Chloe

There’s a boy… :)
We started talking and texting about a month ago and we would text every night and he would flirt with me and it was really sweet :) after we came back to school from winter break we kept talking and texting and then one of my friends talked to him. he admitted that he kinda liked me. when he said it he blushed & smilied. I really really like him. We talk every day at school and we make each other smile and laugh. I wanna know does he like me?

Reply January 20, 2012, 9:02 pm

Katie

Hi, I’m 11 and there is this guy I kinda like…. He is really funny and weird but I really like that about him :) Were not really friends though, he doesn’t be mean to me or anything but today we kinda had contact I suppose?? I am like overweight anyways so nobody would like me. But idk maybe he is different?? But nobody likes people like me. Should I just leave it? I have just recently asked to be his friend on this social networking site. I like him, but he wont like me ever!!

Reply January 20, 2012, 1:09 pm

Karen

Awwww girlie … there is someone for everyone :) And your weight doesn’t inhibit people from “liking” you …. you not liking yourself is what keeps people from seeing how beautiful you are :) I say go for it … get to know him better … talk to him :) You never know until you try … and let your inner beauty shine! Good luck!

Reply January 23, 2012, 2:10 am

ali

theres this boy i really like but i dont know if he likes me, we talk a few times a day at school and when im not at school he will text me and ask if im okay and he pokes me and in music he hit my butt with a drum stick one day and he always pokes me and he calls me goth(because im quiet and i always wear my hair down but im not goth) and he always says i flirt with all of these boys (his friends) but i dont and we can text for hours at a time and he has touched my leg before and he flirts with me and stuff but he flirts with alot of girls and he calls me short (not in a mean way tho) and him and one of his friends lockers are by my locker and they always try to close my locker when i get it open (not in a mean way) and when we text he always talks about gross stuff and he has said that he doesnt have a gf to ppl in front of me b4.

does he like me?!

Reply January 19, 2012, 5:11 pm

Haleigh669

i like this guy..I’ve never talked to him before at all.He’s really cute.And my friends know him and said he’s super cool and nice.I’ve seen him around school alot.Some of my friends told him I liked him and he just said ”ok”.I was with my friends at my locker and i went to put on my makeup when i came back the guy i like was right there.I got so scared i ran to the nearest bathroom.i waited and came out he was still there and i ran again!Then one of my friends took a picture of me and i tryed to get her to retake the pic but she had to go.The problem was the pic was blurred and from the angle it was taken it made me look like i had a big fore head.So she came back the next day and said she showed it to him and he said he didn’t like me because I was shy,wore too much lipstick and had a big forehead(because of the pic).But the thing is I’m not shy at all.Im like the life of the party.So I kept trying to make up my mind to at least say hi or wave to him.But every time he passes me i freeze.And when he walks by its like he doesn’t even see me.He acts like he has no idea im the girl from the pic or like nothing ever happened and im scared to say hi because he might think im weird or something because so many people already told him i liked him.and that i wont take his no far an answerWHAT DO I DO!!!HELP ME!!!

Reply January 12, 2012, 10:43 am

Elia

I liked this guy who I thought was quite odd at first.. He always pretended like he didn’t know my name at first and he’d randomly compliment me. He always ask me random things and he’s such a gentleman, always holding doors for me and picking up things I drop. Then I realized he acts Different around me, in a good way. He teases me, and I guess he’s just grown on me. His friends tease him about him liking me and he always says hi to me in the halls. And frankly I love it. <3

Reply January 11, 2012, 8:16 pm

Mikayla

I like a guy his name is Gavin and I have talked to him online a lot but rarely face to face and he ” checks me out ” in the halls of school. He’s always got a smile on his face when he looks at me does this mean he likes me or could like me or not?

Reply January 7, 2012, 11:01 pm

Haleigh669

Well,I look this guy at my school.I never talked to him before…I think he’s cute and my friends tell me he’s really cool.One of my friends told him I liked him and he just acted indifferent.He just said okay.Is that bad???

Reply January 3, 2012, 7:53 pm

amy

hi so i met this guy in guatemala which im recently visiting now to see my family. i live in florida. well my cousin has been talking to him without my knowledge and she asks him if he likes me. all he says is why dont you tell me first if she likes me. so she tells him yes and he says he doesnt know what to do and then he had to leave so i didnt find out anything more. later that night my cousins were going to spend the night at his house and they came back a little while later calling me. so i go down to where they are and my 2 cousins are there with him. they tell him to say it and he finally looks up and wishes me a good night. i dont know if they forced him or they were there for support but my cousins wont exactly tell me. then the next day my aunt wanted to take a pic of both of us together but we didnt exactly cooperate. finally i gave in and sat down but we were far away from each other and my aunt starts complaining so he scoots over more. after she gets the pic we both get up and walk in opposite directions. everyone says hes just shy and that he likes me but i dnt know. he never looks at me, and everyone always teases us when were together. he avoids looking at me when he enters the house or sits behind something so i dont see him but everyone says he comes to the house more often. i just cant tell, can you please help and give me some advice.

Reply January 2, 2012, 3:30 pm

ChRiStInA

Hi!
I have an issue, can u help?
There is this guy i like, of course. And he texts me just about every night, we have long conversations and there not of any importance. But just the other day he started getting a little bit deeper and deeper.. I thought i was getting off lucky! I thought i may have had him hooked. But he has started to involve my best friend in most of the topics.. I tried just shrugging it off and moving on but it doesnt seem to change, Did i blow my chance? Can i get him back?
Thanks for listening. :)

Reply December 30, 2011, 2:58 am

Giselle

I’m a junior in highschool and tend to not care about guys or “relationships”, but somehow I ended up taking an interest in my friend who’s a senior. I’m almost 78% sure that he atleast has an actual interest in me, however he’s sort of “involved” with someone else. This someone else is a freshman girl who I became friends with after becoming friends with him. he doesn’t want arelationship with her , he just wants to have fun. I completely understand why considering she constantly “yes mans” him laughing at everything he says , and he just got outof a 7 month long relationship and will be leaving for college in 6 months. Honestly i dont care that he’s leaving for college soon, I dont want a “serious relationship”, I mean come on im in highschool.. The only thing getting in my way is her. This guy is really smart and loves conversation and challennges, both of which I give him. I just dont know how to handle a situation like this. I think i need to show him that aside from conversation, I can also give him the same attention -physically- that this other girl can. How can I send this message across, or deal with this other girl ? maybe it’s not even worth it??

Reply December 26, 2011, 12:14 am

Jaimee

So there’s this guy… I’ve known him for about 2 years now, and we’ve become really close friends, but lately something feels different. He told me he has something important he needs to tell me, but that he’s not quite ready to tell me yet. What can this mean? Does he like me? And if he doesn’t tell me soon should I tell him how I feel?

Reply December 21, 2011, 1:58 am

Eliza

Hello Eric,

Ok so there’s this boy I really like. I’ve like him for about 2 years now. We met through a choir, and we see each other once a week, and he asks me to sing with his regularly. Anyway, I’m not sure if he likes me. He hugs me whenever I see him, and not just once, multiple times. (he hugs other girls but not for as long, and only once) He always wants to be with me when he can, and we tell each other everything. We can talk for hours, like just last night, we talked for about 3 and a half hours! And lately he has started to say I love you babeh, and just I love you, and also calling me sexy (mind you, I’m not that good looking xD). There’s more, but I will stop there. Anyway, last night while we were talking, he said something that really confused me, because I was sure that he liked me, EVEN MY PARENTS THOUGHT SO!! Anyway, he’s been writing his own songs, and last night he said ‘I need song ideas. One of them is going to be about the struggles in life, and one of the others sounds like a love song, but I’m not in love so I will just pretend.’ I know he doesn’t have to love me to have a crush, BUT DOES THIS MEAN HE DOESN’T LIKE ME? He is 14 and I am 13. Please, please help me.

P.S. I’m too shy to ask him out, so it would be really good if you could give me some tips on how to show him I’m interested without telling him.

Reply December 20, 2011, 9:01 am

Chloe

There’s this guy that I have known since 1st grade, and we’ve always been on good terms with one another. I asked him to a dance last year, but he cancelled a few weeks before saying how he wanted to wait to date, but that if he were to go with anyone, he would want it to be me. now here we are a year later, and when we text each other, he seems really flirty, always complimenting me, saying we should talk more, etc. But what has me confused is, I’m always the one that texts him first, it’s never the other way around. What does this mean? Am I being pushy by being the one that texts first? Help!

Reply December 19, 2011, 1:52 pm

Abby

Hey,
So there is this guy I like A LOT!!! But, he has rejected every girl that has asked him out in our grade… I mean he always starts a conversation with me, asks for a pencil with acute smile on his face, and many other things like today he walked me to my locker. But, I don’t know if he likes me or not?!?!?! It is so confusing… People says that he knows and he likes me back and my friend is blackmailing me about it… What she is going to do is ask him out for me!! But I am too shy to ask him myself…

Reply December 12, 2011, 10:20 pm

TS

Hi,
I have this guy who I feel is giving me signals that he likes me, but he has a girlfriend. We are in highschool, and they’ve only been together 2 months and have had a fight. I don’t wish them to separate, I just really like him. We are friends and talk and whatnot. We lost touch over summer, but started to talk again recently. I feel all gooey inside around him and I feel like I love him! He is amazing! He is funny, sweet, sincere, cute, everything.
When I’m having a bad day and I text him, he will respond and listen to me. When I told him an issue and felt unimportant… his response was that I am important to him. Him and I hug, he’s gotten into my personal space before as well purposefully. We stand next to each other in chorus and when he had to move he was sad and extended his arm out looking sad. He seems to like to make me laugh and be with me. There was an electric tension spark between us last time we stood next to each other. He is glad we are back in touch. I’m important to him he says… he smiles at me, talks to me about his life as well, seems to trust me. He plays around with me, joking with me and whatnot… gives really warm hugs. When I came into school with a cast on, he walked up to me and asked if I am okay and hugged me and signed the cast .He looked concerned and when I went up to him and asked for a hug he gave me a really great hug and seemed into It and wanted to know what was up and seemed truly concerned and like he really does care.
He has a girlfriend. My friend says they make out around the school. They’ve fought once already…
And when he talks to me, it’s like he’s willing to talk to me, but he NEVER mentions his girlfriend. These all must be signs. And he’s done so much more.
I REALLY like this guy! He’s my friend, but when I think about him I am grinning from ear to ear and feel all good inside and yeah…
I like him SO much! What do you think?

Reply December 11, 2011, 6:13 pm

Michelle

Hi
So i like this guy about 2 months younger than me and I’m wondering if he likes me. He like touches my hair once in a while, he makes me laugh a lot, he stares at me like 24/7, and we talk a lot just the 2 of us. I have liked this guy since 3rd grade. I just need to know. Please tell me.

Thx

Reply December 10, 2011, 9:35 pm

Anonymous

I have a friend who I’ve been friends with for about a year now. We’ve hung out before with other people and he has given me rides and hung out during school events. But he never gave any impression of him being interested in a relationship with me. Since he graduated, we only talk every so often. We’ve been talking constantly for a few days now and he said, “We should go to the movies.” I said yes, thinking nothing of it. But it will be the two of us. It’s just a little shocking since he has never asked me to the movies before. So is it a friend thing? Or is it a date? I just want to know!

Reply December 8, 2011, 9:03 pm

Tiffani

Ok. I have an utterly confusing situation right now. I’ve liked this guy Logan since we met and now my best friend has started to like him and she doesn’t know that for three years I have begun to fall in love with him. Now she’s obsessive over him, always talking about him, telling me how he calls her beautiful and all this other stuff. Do you think she could possibly just like the idea of someone liking her since she’s never had a boyfriend or something? I honestly dont know what I should do and it is heart crushingly painful to watch. Can you help?

Reply December 7, 2011, 10:11 pm

Taylor

I went to turkey for a holiday with my mum dad and brother .. In our complex there was a small bar where everyone went to with two working bar men called erhan and ozi now ozi is 27 and erhan is 38 while I was over the bar ozi was looking at me up and down then hugged me, then another day he was staring in my eyes and I kept looking away because I always feel uncomfertable when someone stares at me in the eyes he told me to not be afraid and look in his eyes and he had a wierd look on his face like he liked me..then another day he started charging at me (joking ) with a serious face I walked backwards and hit the table so I couldn’t move he was pressed against me and he pinched my belly while he was really close and stll staring in my eyes.. Then another day I was leaving the bar and ozi shook my hand but held on to it for a Minuit while still talking to me does this meen he fancies me ??

Reply December 7, 2011, 7:29 am

Greg

Lol this is actually kinda fun reading all this stuff.
@ Snickers
If you were that cold to me I would just give up. Don’t pretend shit or anythin like that. If he’s pointing at you and laughing that’s not really good tbh. But I mean if your just ignoring him then he’s gonna distance himself from you. That simple. If he doesn’t have the balls to straight up talk to you then he’s not worth your time.
OH YEAH. If a guy says your pretty then he basically likes you. We never go for a compliment that will mean a great deal as just that, a compliment. If were gonna say your pretty then we have some sort of connection with you. Now if he says your “nice” “good at basketball” “pretty cool” “really chill” “smart” etc. It doesn’t really mean much. Now if he deliberately looks you in the eye and directs something like “Your beautiful.” “Your a great person” something with a little more..power to it..I don’t know it’s hard to explain. Go by tone and use of words that are descriptive. The more descriptive the better I guess you could say. IF YOU LAUGH IT OFF THAT’S THE EQUIVALENT TO KICKING HIM IN THE NUTS.

Reply December 6, 2011, 5:10 pm

Greg

If you give a girl a really long hug THEY* will usually nestle into your arms.

Reply December 6, 2011, 4:55 pm

Greg

Whoa. I was looking through how to write a book and I typed in guy then this website showed up. I know this isn’t a request like all the others and I probably don’t have much of right to post this..thing. But still it’s REALLY refreshing to know that there are girls who don’t go around giving out blow jobs because you give them 20 bucks (That’s legit not even a joke. I know six different girls who do shit like that.) Anyway, I kinda just want anybody who’s actually reading this to know something. Sometimes it is our objective to make a girl go crazy. To mess with their head. It means one of two things, they either a. Just want to screw with you or B. Want you to enhance your own emotions towards him so you will “glorify” him. For B. We usually do something like that (and this is kinda mean) for sexual reasons or we do it because we think you are out of our league. I, myself, have done stuff like that. For instance, really really graceful, nice, just a good person overall. All that good stuff, well anyway she basically fell for me and I found myself getting smothered 24/7, at first I was HELLA HAPPY then after like two weeks I was straight up annoyed. Don’t fall for the tricks, we are all idiots and don’t think ahead. I can truly admit that hahahaha. So first off if you continuously text a guy and he only texts you back on certain days or times that is the basic trick. It actually works pretty well. Usually what happens is that the girl gets aggravated and will wait for a response, once they get it they are actually happy. (I can say all this with absolute certainty, by the way) Another one would be simply giving a hug. Sounds pretty stupid. In my experience if you give a girl a really long hug and will nestle into your arms and stay there. If they pull away once that happens you know that they are just using another stupid trick on you. The list for this stuff just goes on and on. Oh yeah and IF A GUY IS TEXTING YOU BACK IN 20 MINUTE INTERVALS IT BASICALLY MEANS HE’S PLAYING COD. ACTUALLY IF HES TEXTING YOU BACK PERIOD IT MEANS HE LIKES YOU. COD IS COD. Yep. Well it’s already really weird that I’m a guy posting a well-thought-out comment on a specifically girl website sooo..Probably gonna end it here.

Reply December 6, 2011, 4:52 pm

Eric Charles

No shame in posting on a girl site. I do (but then again, I also own the company…) :)
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It’s actually nice to have another guy posting his two cents.
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If you really want to make your head spin, check out the dating advice forum… The girls would love to have another dude in there posting his thoughts:
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http://dating.anewmode.com/
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Thanks for the comment.

Reply December 6, 2011, 6:27 pm

CAT

So there is this guy in my accounts class. When ever i see him at college, he stops to talk to me. He teases me, i have caught him looking at me a couple of times and when he knows that i have seen him he just smiles. He has mentioned to a friend of mine that he feels special that i added him on fb to a group. He asks me to go into town with him and we joke a lot. We are constantly teasing each other but at the end we always say we luv each other really. But as soon as we leave college, he barely starts a convo on fb or anything. when i do write him first he always answers. He also hugs me and leans on me. I am confused as to what he thinks about me, he has given me a compliment before on how he thinks i am pretty. Please help me and try and understand the situation. Thank you.

Reply December 4, 2011, 5:18 pm

britt

ok so i like a guy but my friend likes him to and we both know each other likes his but she went out with him any ways and dident ask me if it was ok with me and when she did go out with him she didnt even tel me so i had to find that out on my own then another one of my friends told him that i like him and i didnt want her to so i dont know what to do pease help me any one please

P.S the guy that i like is nova my freid who is going ou with him is leslee the girl who told nova that i like him is amani and i am brittney

P.P.S PLEASE HELP MEEEEEEEEEEEEEE

Reply December 4, 2011, 2:03 pm

Snickers

Hi my name is Snickers(fake name). I have this boy i like. I’ve only known him since September. We have gotten to know each other. Before he even knew i liked him, he used to show me lots of magic tricks. And well, he and i used to be in cross country. I was a loner in there, but he would always try to talk to me. Towards the end of the season, he kept asking if i am going to join basketball but i keep tlling him no. And he kept convincing me.too. so basketball season start. And well i told him i liked him…. This was recently. From mon.- tues. He would always look at me. And my friend(without my permission) texted him if he liked him.. he said idk and she repeated it and he said as a friend. and her last question was why do you look at her then? and he never wrote back. So like wed. to today i would be coming out of health class last, and he would be like second out. When i go out, he would be standing right there, and when he sees me, he pretends he was doing something else. Or he would be slowly walking out. When he turns the corner he would look back thinking it was me or someone else. One day we did a skit, he was in the front of the class, he was watching me so turned around and closed my eyes, and last on my friend came up to me and said when i turned he was staring at my head. i was freaked out.after that hour one day, when i got to my locker, i looked up to see who was standing right there, i saw it as him,, when he saw me i think, he went to his locker. His locker is like 10 lockers away from mine. And when i was getting my book i could feel he was looking. i made sure to slam my locker loudly. On tues. after 4th hour, he tapped me on the shoulder and said “Clare do you have my notebook?” with the biggest smile yet, and i said no and he said “oh well oka” and i said “i gave it to ms.Charles.” and when i said that i turned and left as quick as i can to health. also today um… i was in advisory(he’s in every single one of my classes) i was readn a magizine with my friend and i saw his head go a little back and he was looking me. & When i was writing my essay in there, i looked up and i saw him well, turn around and look at me. ALso when the bell rang, i was still doing my essay, when i was done i looked up and saw him still there,when i started getting ready to leave he did the same. and before he hit the door , i went to talk to the teacher and by then he was out. when i got out to my locker, he looked at me. Also considering he has a recent girlfriend. i tried to forget him within that week but he keeps popping into my head, and i would catch him looking at me. i don’t really know what to do and i just want to come up to him say “Why do you keep looking?” but i can’t. Also, one more thing, i am a cheerleader and well i don’t look like one because i were black clothes and all but at one of our games, he would watch me. And when i changed at the last game, i was watching the game and he was across the court and i guess when i looked at him once, i saw he was pointing towards me and looking at me and i pretended i didn’t care… Does he like me? or what? if he doesn’t, what should i do? if he does, what should i do?
P.S. sometimes when i go to bed, i dream about him and my dreams are always long.

Reply December 2, 2011, 11:22 pm

layla

there this guy! and my friends say he likes me.because he talks to me when he sees me.
he asked me where i lived (probably because he wanted to walk home with me)
the first time we meet he asked for my number.
he touches me in a playful way eg. touches my leg.
his called me hot and cute before.
he all ways stares at me (in a playfull way) and doesnt trun around when i look at him.
hes laid down on my lap before.
however hes touched a guy infrout of me in a playfull way but i was laughing.
also hes bi.
does this guy like me? or not?

Reply December 2, 2011, 1:01 pm

FeeLingLoved

I have been liking this boy for 6 years now and for the past 3 years ive been sitting behind him in class, We Talk and joke around almost everyday.,And told him i liked this guy and minutes later he asked me if Why did i like this boy.,and Everytime my Friend teases him that he likes me they said he blushes and smiles like this time we were playing truth or dare they asked me to hug him and i did and he smiled and blush. does this mean he likes me? or his just ashamed

Reply November 30, 2011, 10:04 am

Rockkyy

Heyy guys I really need some help!!
So there’s this guy and I think he likes me but I don’t know! So we play soccer together and we made a bet, that if he didn’t get scored on then I would kiss him.. And he didn’t get scored on. So I still owe him. He doesn’t text me often and when he does it’s because I texted him first. We don’t have much to talk about but he’s sexy and I like him. The coach told me that he has a girlfriend at school but I haven’t asked him about that. That’s all the info I have… Does he like me???

Reply November 22, 2011, 6:14 pm

Brianna

There is a boy in my class who I REALLY like. And, after the past couple of months..I Was positive he liked me back, too. Flirty game things we did back and forth, and he always made sure to say something to me at least once every day. Well, my friend was feeling gutsy so she walked up to him, said we would be cute, and asked if he liked me. He said not really. Things after that have been weird and he barely talks to me. I don’t understand how though, after how much flirting he has done. He’s not the player type, either. I catch him staring at me in class still even if we don’t talk that day. Could he have just been put on the spot by how abrupt it was? Or does he really not and I guess he just likes to flirt with his friends? Thanks for the help :)

Reply November 21, 2011, 12:26 am

Roxxi Blueberry

there’s this guy im good friends with at church who im starting to really like :3 . last week he was staring at me nonstop while in service. it creeped me out but i kinda liked it.. so i kept making funny faces and then he made those same funny faces back. i dunno he looks at me like as if im the most beautifulest gurl he’s seen in his entire life. and hes always talking to me… :o does this mean he likes me?? :o plzz reply

Reply November 20, 2011, 5:32 am

Lynn

There’s this guy that goes to my school. On the day of visitation we both noticed one another, but did not speak. Now everytime we see each other we continue to stare, but still have not spoken. What does this mean? Is he interested in me or not?

Reply November 19, 2011, 4:58 pm

taterizzy

Okay… I really like a guy and for about 1 week every time i thought about him my heart would skip a beat…weird i no… But at the beginning of the year I noticed him looking at me alot at 1st i thought it was weird then i started liking hi and we made eye contact in class a few times but he would never talk to me so i went up to him and asked about the spanish homework because i have history and spanish and i started blushing a ton when i told them, and i never blush at all. But i really like him but he has kinda been like looking at me in class then just randomly not for a while then doing it again and now I’m confused but noe i really really like him and he is still looking at me and his friends keep getting his attention when i sort of look his way and look at me funny and smile if i look at him…. And today in spanish we were working by eachother and someone said something and he laughed really loud and turned a little in my direction… Like i said i really like him and I want to talk to him but not in person but i dont have a facebook…i’m not allowed ti have one but he has one… When ever he looks at me to like pass papers to me he smiles really big and when I talked to him he was smiling really big and looked at me for a really long time then i ackwardly was like ok never mind then but thanks anyways… and he seemed more interested since but idk…should i talk to him but like what should i talk about i dont know what to do I’ve never liked anyone like this even the guy i asked out for 4 periods at school then kinda freaked out and broke up with him…but we are best friends… but i like this guy more than the other guy and i asked the other guy out but i freeze around him… idk wut to do please help!

Reply November 15, 2011, 12:44 am

KARAZ

@ AP you know when a girl and a guy looks at each other in a special way there is always something there. You think he would even bother looking at you if hes not interested? A guy who would not look away when you look at him is either just a brave cocky prick, or he has a crush on you. But when you look at each other a lot then you both gotta solve that problem. Life is too short for any regrets so the next time you catch him looking at you and he doesnt look away, hold it and look at him directly in his eyes then move closer to him without looking away. Then say, are we gonna talk or look at each other?

Reply November 14, 2011, 8:36 pm

Elle

i meant class helper lol and also he randomly cOmes up and talks to me making an easy conversation I hope this extra bit of info helps!

Reply November 14, 2011, 7:20 pm

Elle

Hi Eric :)
I really really really need your help. I really like this guy and I was almost positive that he liked me back up until a few days ago, here’s how it started:

So it’s my first year of highschool, so I didn’t know him before. We always play wrestle and “argue” and in gym class he was my partner for dodgeball and we had this thing going on, I try to watch if his pupils get bigger but I cant focus on his eyes quite yet. He texts me everyday and he talks to me atleast 10 times a day, one day in gym class we were flirting and one if the class Hellers asked my friend if me and this guy had something going on. My friend said no and then after she told me she told him… And he wanted to know more about what the teacher had said, so did I but my friend said that nothing else was said by the teacher. Things didn’t get awkward at all we still talked still texted. But it feels like he has been not flirting but joking with other girls kinda slightly treating them the same way and I’m really confused, we also catch eyes with eachother in class and hold it there for a bit and he always smiles when hes around me but I’m sooo confused maybe he’s just a flirt? I asked my friends what they thought and they said they think he likes me but idk it feels as if one day he really wants to talk with me and hang out, but then the next day he doesn’t. Please can you help me?
Thanks and I love your webpage too!

Reply November 14, 2011, 7:16 pm

AP

So, there’s this guy who’s been looking at me for a long time. I always noticed him too, but was already in a relationship. Now, I’m single and ready for a new relationship, I’ve been looking back and smiling when we pass each other (same office building). He locks his eyes on me with a very direct and intense look whenever we pass. But this a.m. we ran into each other unexpectedly. He was with a colleague and I was alone. I noticed him there first; when he clamped eyes on me, we held each other’s gaze for what felt like an eternity. I was too stunned to even smile. Ergh. He even stopped in his tracks. It was almost like we both wanted to stop and talk, even though we don’t know each other’s names.

Anyhow, he looked away first, then walked to catch up with his friend. He didn’t even look back over at me. That felt brutal. I’m disappointed I didn’t get a chance to say hi or even smile.

Was that a sign that he’s really not interested after all? Or was he just taken off guard too?
Should I give up now or smile and say hi next time I see him?

Reply November 8, 2011, 11:45 am

Tara

I like this one guy and I told two people I liked him about a week ago and he already knows I like him. I have to sit by him in math but he didn’t show any signs that he knew. The only reason I know he knows I like him is because my friend told me that he went up to her and asked if she heard the news that I like them, but she was nice and pretended that she had no idea what I was talking about. So mostly can you tell me the best and/or worst case scenarios?

Reply November 1, 2011, 11:15 pm

Nisha

Whoops.. News does travel fast, eh!?
First go and check on the two people you told your news to.
Are you & this boy good friends? If you’re at least decent buddies, you could not be in a bad fix as it seems.

Reply November 2, 2011, 2:52 pm

shariell

if i ask a guy if he thinks im cute and he smiles does he like me??

Reply November 1, 2011, 4:53 pm

Hollie

Hi,
I am in a really weird situation.
I like this boy, but he has a girlfriend and his girlfriend is really over protective.
His girlfriend is really mean to me because she knows I like him.
The boy I like and the girlfriend that he is with have broken up and got back together 4 times now, which yes is really strange.
I really like this boy, but as you see the situation I am in is crazy!!!

Reply October 25, 2011, 3:47 am

v

Hi Eric!
So I like this guy in my class (we go to different schools though). He’s three years older than me, I’m 14 and he’s 17. He seems like the out going guy, because I checked out his Face Book and he has a few female friends who he…seems pretty close with. And so lately he’s been really nice and we share a couple of laughs together.
He’s been asking those ‘questions that don’t need to be asked’ and starting convos, which include “When do you start school?” and “When do your holidays start?” I asked when his last week of class was and he said that it was in a week’s time. He then added that he would be going to my school’s ‘Year 12 graduation/awards evening’ and asked “Are you coming?” …and so I’m just not really sure if he likes me or…if he’s being nice?
Thanks, much appreciated! x

Reply October 24, 2011, 8:11 am

Kelsey

I like this guy.. I’m 13 and he is 15 … he is so shy but soooo friken hot(he is a “emo” I am between “emo nd scene”) well I extremely like him I have had a major crush on him for about 5 months now… the only thing is … I CAN’T TELL IF HE LIKES ME D: we will hang out and he will ask me random questions and see what I’m interested in .. he is such a gentlemen to me and is so kind he will randomly say “MeLuvssYou” all the time :P and calls me cute and adorable.. he talks to me a lot and gah I juss love him lol x)) but he asked my BEST FRIEND one day if I had a “type” of guy,what I would do if he randomly kissed me and then he told her if he liked me or not and of course she won’t tell me D: so from what I have told you do ANY of you guys think he likes me?????? and what should I do about it??? I need help :(

Reply October 21, 2011, 1:23 am

maria

i have a crush on this kid in my fourth period, i only have him for that class. i sit across from him so we are pretty visible to each other. hes kinda the new kid and doesnt really know anyone yet, same as me. ive been single for a while and everyday this crush grows a little stronger. i once caught him looking at me from the corner of my eye, then he looked away. then when i looked at him, its like as if he went to go look at me again and then when he saw that i was looking at him, he turned away really quick and kinda smiled. but other than that, that is the only time we have ever somewhat made contact. i have also noticed that his friend sits infront of me and now he comes up every so often just to ask his friend dumb little questions. and though it may sound like something might be there, he hardly ever looks at me. anyway, i honestly dont think he likes me. it just seems as if he doesnt. and it has gotten to the point that every little thing he does that can sorta be directed to me, i overreact and get all pathetic. and its one of those classes where you dont really interact with the rest of your classmates, so its kinda hard to talk to him and i dont just want to go up to him randomly one day and seem desperate. i know i prolly sound insecure, but infact im really not. its just im starting to really like this kid and i cant seem to read him. everyone tells me to just wait, that its only the beggining of the school year. and something in my gut agrees. anyway, im basically just looking for your honest opinion. should i bother wasting my time? should i just be patient? is there something you recommend? please help!

Reply October 12, 2011, 10:09 pm

GSK

Eric! I need help!!

There is a 15 year difference between us, we’re both of very different cultures and we work together, so it’s really complicated for me.

5 months ago, I met him at a work event. Based on first impressions, he was really nice to me and tried to get to know me better, but sadly, due to the hectic workload, I didn’t manage to respond to him at the time. I thought he was a nice guy until I later heard rumours about him being a lone-wolf type that doesn’t talk much to anyone unless its work related.

After this event, we worked much more closely with each other on special projects, and I grew to respect him for his capabilities and found him more attractive by day despite having some work conflicts with him sometimes.

Then, suddenly it started, we’d have silly bantering and teasing back and forth, make silly bets (an action which is not exclusive to me, he does that with a lot of people), he’d tell people like my boss behind my back that I was great at my job (he’s in the same rank as my boss) and he’d compliment me on my looks. He said I was pretty twice, once, when I was asking him a question one on one and he ended it with “By the way, you’re very pretty today”… and then once more, in front of a lot of colleagues he jokingly told everyone that the room was filled with ugly people, except me, who was pretty. At one point, one colleague pointed out that he liked teasing me, he just shook his head and said “Yeah” in the most cutest awkward manner.Recently, he offered to make me coffee when I was sick at work, which I declined because I just felt it would be unacceptable to have someone on a boss level making coffee for me. By this point, my attraction towards him has turned to a mad obsessive crush.

I have always been able to brush this idea of “he’s into me” off, with the excuse that he’s just generally a nice sweet guy, who sees me as a cute kid.

But it has also become evident to colleagues that he sometimes lets me off easy if I have made an error or I’m particularly standoff-ish with him, he still lets it slide. In fact, if he knows I am pissed off, he tries to mend the words he said for it to sting less. To dismiss this, I explain to everyone that he still thinks I am young and has a long way to learn.

Then last week, he came over to my office for a meeting and came bearing gifts. He would usually get candies for my team to share, but this time, after passing the candies along, he came directly to me with a box… he got me merchandise from my alma mater (which he knows I am very attached to). We talked about this before, his mom lives nearby my alma mater, and since we are both out of the country, he got his mom to buy it and ship it to him so he could give it to me. It wasnt pricey but the idea that he did that blew me away. Is it possible to have a guy that sweet do something that amazing for no reason? I am both smitten yet confused.

I don’t know if I should take it as a sign that he likes me or that he’s just being nice because he’s naturally a nice guy or that he sees me as a kid.

Reply October 11, 2011, 10:58 am

Katherine

I have a big crush on this guy. He’s actually my neighbor. He’s really sweet to me and stuff like that. The problem is my friends asked him if he liked me and he said no. I’ve been taking a lot of quizzes about this and most of them say he likes me back. The thing that Is throwing me off is that he is complementing me in soccer, no one else just me. And he makes direct eye contact and smiles when I’m around. Sorry I this is too long but I need ur help! Oh yes and we also text alot and he often asks what we should talk about now signaling that he likes talking to me.

Reply October 8, 2011, 12:55 pm

kahlia

Hey,

The guy I like has a girlfriend but he seems to flirt with me alot.

He always:
-asks for high 5′s
-gets into conversations that I’m having even when he’s on the other side of the room
-pushes and teases me
-stares at me over his girlfriend’s shoulder when he’s dancing with or hugging her
-asks my friends if I’m ok when I look upset

I really don’t know what this means, can you help me?

Reply October 1, 2011, 6:12 pm

Eric Charles

I’m no rocket scientist, but…

He’s probably into you.

Reply October 1, 2011, 7:42 pm

T

Hi,
Im curious to find out if my guy friend likes me other than just a friend. It seems that I get mixed signals from him. So here goes. When we’ve gone to the club he usually does his thing and I usually do my thing but at the end of the night I usually drop him off and we chat for a bit which is nice but this isn’t what confuses me. There’s been times when we’ve gone out to watch the UFC fights and stuff and he’ll like hug me tightly then there was this one time where he brushed the hair out of my face or there’s been times where ive shown up and he seems happy to see me and insists on hugging me. Then theres times where he just seems to stare at me. But after he’s done these types of things, he seems pretty aloof after which needless to say ends up confusing me. I start to like him when he’s being sweet but then i like lose interest when he acts all indifferent. I dont know if I should bother telling him I kinda like him or just forget it.

Reply September 29, 2011, 6:48 pm

jolie

there this guy at work who I don’t know if he likes me or not but I am guessing it is the latter.
he does pretty much everything on the list and some more like: saying I love you to me whenever he asks me to do him a favor and I do it, also hugging for no reason (this happened several times). he only invites me to hang out with him when he hangs out with his group of friends and I would say no because I don’t want to hang out with a group of his friends who I never met before because I’m not good with strangers in a group hangout. also, he has my phone number but he doesn’t text/call just to say hi or w.e, he would only answer back when I text him about whatever; I rarely text him though, only about something for work. I hope my explanation makes some type of sense. Please answer back if you think he like me or not. thank you!!!!

Reply September 23, 2011, 9:20 pm

Emma

Ok i am younger then most of you, I am in 8th grade. so there this guy I REALY like I think he likes me but I am not hundred % sure that he likes me I mean we had a pencil top eraser fight in tech ed (Just me and him). He said that i am a good Clarinet player and i told him that he is a great trumpet player. I catch his glances now and then. He keeps moving closer to me in tech ed We sit next to each other now. Rereading what I have written i know he at least values our friendship but every time another girl comes around he is a completely diffrent person well not completely but ignores me i am confused if he does like me what do i do should i ask him out or wait

Reply September 16, 2011, 9:19 pm

Eric Charles

Hey Emma,
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He might like you… I mean, he moved closer to sit near you in class, you and him have moments together.
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He might like you a little bit… or he might like you a lot and just be shy.
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Rather than drive yourself crazy trying to figure out if he likes you or not, be concerned with whether or not you like him.
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If you do, your best strategy is to keep laying bait for him to get closer and closer to you… like give him an “innocent” reason to call you or to hang out… if he keeps taking the bait and taking baby steps toward you, then he definitely likes you and wants you.
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And if he doesn’t take the bait, then nobody’s embarrassed and you guys can just be friends. And being friends with a guy can be good in itself.

Reply September 16, 2011, 10:09 pm

rae

Hi everyone….I know u get tired of u asking if this guy likes us…but I want ur opion..so please email me ur answer…my email is at barefootwithJesus@gmail.com.
There is this guy that I have very strong feelings for…He stares at me and when he and i catch glances he will jerk away real fast. We do not talk…i mean we talk like in a group or just when we have to but not like for pleasure….we both know each others family…we both have the same friedns …for the most part… I have heard from my sister that he smiles at me when we walk past each other in the hallway…or that he mentions me in his converstaions …like she is very competitive or stuff like that…I am just wondering ..is there something there that I can not see???? Oh and thank You to anyone who replys…Thanks in advance.

Reply September 13, 2011, 9:09 pm

Kerry Shaffer

My ex and I were together for 8 and 1/2 years (off and on). We just lived together for the past 4 and 1/2. We broke up at the end of June and I moved out at the end of July. Ever since then, he continues to send me texts about dumb stuff every week or so and I never responded to any of them. Oh, by the way, he is already dating a chick 10 years younger with a 3 year old child. I am 40, he’s 37. Anyway, two days ago, he sent me a text starting with, “well, it’s been 45 days since you left”….and went on to say he hopes I found a good guy and hoping that I’m realizing I’m better off without him. He said he hopes someday we can be friends….not!!!! He said he was going to send me a message on facebook, but realized I was no longer on it and was hoping that I had learned some valuable lessons from our breakup. Meaning, I was ALWAYS on the computer and facebook and he thinks that’s why I am no longer on facebook…not the reason. Anyway, when I didn’t respond to the first message, he sent it again 5 hours later… I responded yesterday with a very nice message. Told him I am NOT looking for a good man, I am just enjoying spending time with my friends and family. Told him I was not sure if I could be friends, EVER!!! I hit send and felt SICK!!! My friends said they thought he’d “play games” and he’d wait to respond for a day or two….3 minutes later he responded….ugh!!! Bottom line, I called my phone carrier and had him blocked immediately. Please, can somebody, anybody tell me WHY he sent me a text like that if he has moved on???? I am hurting so much and am so sad about our breakup.
He keeps saying he hopes we can be friends…how can you be friends with someone that was just your lover/partner for the past 8 and 1/2 years? How can you be friends with your ex if you’ve already moved on??? I’m thinking his new chick would NOT be real thrilled. Please tell me why he is doing this…should I count my losses and move on??? I just don’t understand why he had to start the message with the EXACT number of days it has been since I moved out….ugh!!! I hope someone can help me figure this out…. Thanks in advance.

Reply September 11, 2011, 10:45 am

Monica

Well, I say I did everything and he responds. And the checklist , I put a checkmark on them all…. It’s with a close colleague who has a girlfriend..:( What do you think?

Reply September 3, 2011, 12:40 am

Eric Charles

Doesn’t mean he doesn’t like you better than his girlfriend… it happens.

Reply September 3, 2011, 10:23 am

Beth

Hey, would anyone be able to help me out? Went on 2 dates with a guy (well, the second one was just a last-minute invite to hang out with him & a few buddies). Both times he was romantic & a gentleman but made absolutely no moves — barely even kissed me on date 2 (he seemed nervous). When next weekend rolls around, I have no set-in-stone plans with him, but then I get a text from the bar asking if I want to come over & hang out. I go, but when I get there, he’s clearly pretty drunk & still drinking a beer after I arrive. I don’t know what to do, so I make out with him for a while but say up front that it’s “too soon” to go upstairs/do other stuff. He gets a little distant after that night. Eventually we have a chat & I tell him, “hey you were just drunk that night, but I am still interested in sleeping with you/seeing you again… not anything super-serious but I liked you & enjoyed hanging out with you.” He tells me (when I ask) tht he’s “not reeeally” looking for a serious relationship. I tell him “hey if you don’t want to ever hang out again, it’s not a big deal, you can just let me know we aren’t on the same page.” He said “no no, it’s just that the timing is bad right now.” He has a lot of legit things going on in life, keeping his life hectic, and I get the sense that he knows he doesn’t have what it takes to be a good boyfriend right now. But do you think he’d ever come around and want to be with me when the timing’s better?

Reply September 1, 2011, 12:02 am

Alex

Hey Eric,

I really need your help. I met this guy through a mutual friend of ours (this friend and I no longer speak) at the store. He had stopped to speak to our friend because they had known each other from years ago but he ended up talking to me about religion. He’s a Jehovah’s Witness and I didn’t know much about it and wanted to know. So I ask for his number so we can talk some more and we talk about his religion but then we talk almost every night for hours on end. I eventually decided to go to his Kingdom Hall (the place of worship for JW’s) but he said I can’t sit next to him because I’m a girl and it would look weird since we aren’t dating or anything. This was fine with me but as we continue, I notice that he just didn’t sit around me at all. I started a Bible Study with one of the women there. I told her about our long conversations at night and about one time in particular where he met me at a restaurant and we chilled for hours outside this restaurant. He walked me ot my car so I could leave and he leaned against the car and pulled me against him by my hips. I didn’t really think anything of it but after I told her, she told me that the first day I came he was talking about me coming and then when I left, he went out of his way to let everyone know I was coming back. She said that she also believes that the men in the congregation told him to calm it down with talking about me to everyone because it sounded like he liked me. But he had told me before he can’t have a girlfriend until he is baptized and he isn’t baptized yet. And I’ve asked him before if he liked me and he never said yes or no, he just kept saying he wasn’t into that because he was trying to get baptized. But I didn’t ask if he wanted to date me, I asked if he liked me and he kept saying that right now, he’s trying to get baptized so there’s no point in answering that question. This was all back in February of this year. Now, yesterday, I was talking to him and I was about to leave the restaurant we were at (he’s a server and he was my server), he thought I had said I was going to go see a movie. I said I didn’t say that, I actually just had every intention of going home and going to sleep. Then he talked about going to see a movie with his friend and he went and asked if I could go. Then he came back out into the dining room and said ‘Well, I told my friend that you asked if you could go’ and I totally didn’t say that…I actually didn’t even mention the movie. I just asked him if he needed a ride home, which he didn’t. And when I was at the restaurant, my friends that I was with kept saying they thought he liked me because when I was looking at the menu and he was explaining it, they said he kept glancing at me even though he was talking to him. And then after the movie that night (yes, I went), we stood outside for about 3 hours just talking about stuff. Then I took his hat, playfully, and he chased after me for it. He’d put his arms around me to try to get it back and he pushed me against my car to get it. Then there was one point where he was behind me and he leaned on my back with his arm and basically made me bend over so I’m standing at a 90 degree angle and he’s leaning over me to get the hat. Also, I’m going on a diet and I asked him if he thought I was fat. I didn’t really think anything of it, I ask everyone that question, at work, my friends, at school, my family. So I asked him because I knew he’d tell me the truth but he said ‘thats a bad question to ask’, apparently because no matter what answer he gives, I wouldn’t believe him. Which…wasn’t true…but whatever, he said I wasn’t. And I noticed when I told him that my dad didn’t like when I wore shorts, he made it a point to say ‘I don’t know if they were too short, I wasn’t looking’. I asked him if it would have been ok if his niece was wearing the same shorts, then he said he wasn’t looking. And he hugged me like 6 or 7 times before we finally parted ways.

So…does he like me or not? I understand he can’t date me for religious purposes but right now, all I’m concerned with is whether or not he likes me.

Reply August 17, 2011, 1:40 pm

gee

I need help too! So, I’m a single mom and just moved to a new apartment in May and my neighbor is a carpenter and making shelves for my daughter’s room. (He is also single & has kids). Whenever we talk, he seems to be flirty and into conversation with me and I’ve been interested so I recently asked him to hang out sometime. At first he said that he wasn’t sure & things in his life have just been crazy and indefinitely not getting better and anyone trying to get their life together should probably stay away from him, etc (his ex gives him a hard time about everything). So after responding with that I said that if it was me he could just say no, there would be no hard feelings …in which he then said, you know what why not, yes. What does this mean?? Is he into it or not?

Reply August 15, 2011, 10:18 pm

sarah

i just started talking to this guy about two weeks ago now, we work together…he told me i have pretty eyes, im pretty, im mad cool, a fun person to hang with.. he even paid for me on our date at the movies. the first date was at a fair and he asked for my number at work that day and we went on rides and had agood time..the second date was the movies and i laid on his shoulder and we hada good time, he paid for it all..walked me to my door and NO KISS…then we hung out at the mall a few days ago and when he left..NO KISS, just hugs…he said he likes me when i asked but idont know..thing is im always texting him first and it makes me think he dont like me..but once itext him we text for hours.. what does anyone think???

Reply August 4, 2011, 10:07 pm

Alissa Knight

I think you have got the same situation your in except he has been friends with me since 5th grade and now i am in 7th grade i dont know how but i think i am in love with him already and his name i braden he has blue eyes that sparkle that you would be lucky if he looked at you and you get this amazing feeling and you get goosebumps i love him so much i just dont know how to say it i think he likes me to because he always stares at me please ill answer if you answer me please i think he likes me i just dont want to ask him out because i dont know if he really likes me!

Reply March 19, 2012, 9:40 pm

eda

there’s this boy i like and he is a cholo and lots of other girls like him whats one way to ask him out and one way to figure out if he has felling for yuh too!! i meed him on Wednesday and that same day i told him what i feel about him and he reasponed like if he did like me i just wanna make sure he do so i can ask him out

Reply July 22, 2011, 9:07 am

Laurita

hello!
So there is this boy I am really interested in. We started to hang out since the 4th of July and everything has been smooth in a way. Well on our second hang out we went out to the mall and ate and afterwards we went back to his home to kill time because we wanted to catch a movie. While we were waiting around for the movie we were listening to music chilling and talking. I dropped a couple hints that i wanted to hold his hand and we did, but he started to touch me in my arms and legs (which I did not mind.) Afterwards he invited me to his room to lay down and talk (which I was fine with.) So we were laying down talking on his bed and well he started to touch me in my tummy and so on. I kind of asked him if he was trying to turn me on and he laughed and said no. but i told him that i did not mind it at all (but I told him I was looking for a boyfriend, he said he wasn’t.) so yeah there was no sex involved because I am saving that for a special someone (though he DID want to do it, I did not allow it.) We then saw each other the next day at his best friends party and we were inseparable that his friends kept smiling at us. We went out to my car and talked inside because it was chilly and there were too many people at the party that we couldn’t hear ourselves. He again wanted to mess around but I didn’t let him. So when we hung out again the same scenario from last time at his house happened but this time I didn’t even allow him to mess with me, making out and cuddling was all good for me. We still continue to hang out (matter of fact I was just with him lol) but now we just watch movies and talk about him and me (only once he used my belly as a pillow, which I think is cute.) but anyways what I am trying to ask since its been like 2 weeks that we have hung out, I want to ask him if he likes me. I already asked him if he finds me boring and he said no because he is the one who always asks me to hang out. I really want to ask him if he likes me though, or I simply want to tell him I like him. I am kind of scared of doing so because I am scared of what he will say especially when he told me he doesn’t want a gf (and he is in my town for the summer so he will be back in the city for school which isn’t so far from me.) I am not really used to these kinds of things. and I rarely like some boys. so picky.

btw his friends told me to play hard to get, and told me not to be easy. they told me this after we messed around. do you think there might be a way to actually initiate a relationship in the future? oh and he is also a really popular guy with girls.

when we were messing around he told me I was cute and that he liked my unique style, and that he is rarely interested in hispanic girls. which I also find weird about myself because I rarely like hispanic boys.

(sorry for the lack of punctuation and whatnot I was kinda in a hurry lol)

Reply July 19, 2011, 4:40 am

Paige

P.S.
I prolly should have added this but we hugged twice but I went to him he didn’t come to me. And I almost alwayd caught him staring at me. I have no clue why he would like me because I’m awkward and I don’t think I’m pretty and were almost complete oppisites so idk thanks agian
-Paige :P

Reply June 20, 2011, 12:20 am

Paige

Hey I’m pagie and I’m 15 years old. I just went to a camp last week and I met a guy there and I don’t know if he really likes me or if it was just a camp crush. I never really talked to him but just hey and school stuff because we don’t go to the same school. But one night he came up to me and asked if I would go out with him and I said maybe. I got his number and I’ve texted him a few times and were going to an amusment park together with friends next week. When ever I text him he never sends smiles or hahas but I think that’s just how he is. I don’t want things to move to quickly but I also don’t wants things to come to a stand still. He’s super cute and I like him but he isn’t making to much of an effort to continue to ask me out. Maybe I pushed him away. I hope not :( please help
thanks -Paige

Reply June 20, 2011, 12:17 am

Terribly Confused

Hi, there’s this boy,of course, i have a feeling that he likes me but, I really don’t know. He talks to all the other girls more than he talks to me. He sometimes pops up around me and starts the conversation. Sometimes he initiates the conversation or I do. He comes across the room to tell me something unneccesary, for example, “Do you have a pencil ?”. We also shared this moment, just staring at each other, smiling for a few minutes. We also always stare at each other during a conversation, complete eye-contact. His pupils are huge. He also tends to look at me and sometimes when i catch him in the act he look away or keep the glance. I know these are sure-fire signs, but he still won’t do anything. Thank you for reading and please help me.

Reply June 19, 2011, 8:44 pm

elise

good advice… but i think you have the wrong idea of what a feminist is.

Reply June 11, 2011, 10:21 pm

Eric Charles

I went back and reread that line and I don’t like how it came across so I took it out. It came off sounding anti-feminist, which wasn’t my intention or message at all.

Reply June 12, 2011, 12:08 am

nash babiieee!

i am so confused. there is this other guy in my class
im not sure whether he likes me or not.. he jus came to ma xool at the start of the year and since he came, whenever he sees me, he says hie and i love yuh, he is always looking at me when we hve a same class (mst of our classes are the same) but we don’t spent much time together. we dnt sit together at recess ad lunch but whenever he sees me even outside he calls my name juss to say hie and i luv yuh. sometimes he goes to tlk to his friends inclass after he says hie to me,i feel like they talk bout me cz they wil b lookin at me, i dnt know whether they wil b tlkin good bout me or bad bout me. one of his friends once told me that he likes me and i shud go ask him out (but i’m the shy kind), i dnt know whether he likes me or not

does he like me or not?
he sometimes go tlk to his friends after he says i luv yuh to me, is he doing it to show his friends that i like him?
is he tryin to prove something?
does he like me but cant ask me out?

Reply May 9, 2011, 5:20 am

Karen

Hi Eric Charles. Would you please tell me if this guy likes me or I’m just seeing things, since I have lack of experience? There is a guy, he and I work in the same place but different sections, at the begining, when he just started to talk to me, he always tried to make me smile,(since I don’t do that a lot, at all), he talks to me rarely, and I think sometimes he is looking for something into the section I work in, also everytime he sees me,(for the first time of the day), he smiles at me, but recently he hasn’t done that; so this is me asking you if is there any little chance that he likes me or he is just being nice or I’m just a desperate 26 years old woman who doesn’t even know what is a kiss, I’m just tired of see my colleagues/friends getting engaged/married, getting pregnant and still I have no one in my life. I am starting to believe that NOT everybody has a match, as in fiding the significant other. We almost never talk, so is it safe to say that he is not into me? and that, is he just being nice right?

Reply April 2, 2011, 1:36 am

JC

Hi Eric,

First and foremost let me tell you I love how your advice is so real and informative. Next, I think I am getting a strange vibe from a new co-worker at my office. I invited him out as a friend after work one day becasue I thought I could give him some tips on the ins and out of the office (not gossip), just who to go to for help, corporate culture and unspoken rules in the office. He and I went together to college (he says he remembers me but, I can’t say the same)and I thought he might need a mentor in the office until he is comfortable.

I will say we hit it off very well as friends and we were both open about having a girlfriend/boyfriend. Nevertheless he has been giving strong signals he is developing other feelings. He hangs up on his GF to join me for lunch ( I never invite him over), stares into my eyes for long periods of time – basicly doesn’t break eye contact unless I do. Is always slightly bragging about his toys, sports abilities and financial stability and has since asked me out to dinner. I will add when we did go out to dinner I had to remind him his GF was waiting for him and it was late – 3 times, I ended up telling him I had to leave.

Still nothing more than just 2 people getting to be good friends becasue they get along. Here is where things start getting strange – he brings his GF over to the office becasue she wants to meet me. On one occasion we carpool for lunch to a restaurant close by to meet the rest of the office and I happen to touch his arm because he had a scar I asked about and his whole body gets goose bumps and he gets very serious about it’s not funny that I gave him goose bumps. That coupled with comments like ” I was just thinking what you said” “You are so like me it’s scary” “you are so refreshing” “I’ve never met anyone like you before” followed by quiet moments and funny looks, this is makeing me wonder.

Last strange thing that happened was we were gonig out for a quick drink after work and when he calls his GF to tell her she basicly gives him some lame story about it’s windy outside and she is worried about him driving with high winds so he should leave immediately home (we are in California. I kind of figured it was probably me so I was cool about it and told him I apologized if I sent the wrong vibes but, I would never disrespect her that way. Which is true I don’t date guys who aren’t single never have and never will. Anyway, I had to pry the truth out of him because he was at first lying to me by saying he had a problem at a rental house, that his car was acting funny but, after I made him relax he tells me it’s his GF and the wind story. Next he invites me over to his house to hang out the next day becasue he wants to show me his motorcycle and other stuff becasue he can’t come into the office the next day. I had to be a little blunt and told him we didn’t know each other well enough for me to be comfortable comeing over to his place (especially after what just had happened).

Next day (his day off) there he is in the office but, doesn’t talk to me just walks by my office several times. Since then I am cool about things by always saying hello and continue to be friendly and professional with him. We didn’t talk for a couple of days after that until I was working over in his area talking to another engineer about an urgent project that came up when he comes over to where we were and blurts out “I like my GF because she doesn’t like to shop”. Needless to say the other eng & I looked at each other a little funny because it was out of nowhere. It was a bit awkward so I walked with him over to his desk and he tells me how he is not really trying to get to know me and he is very happy that his GF doesn’t like to shop and how they like to do the same things. All the while I am telling him thats great but, I’m trying to change the topic to current events becasue, frankly it sounds more like he trying to convince himself.

Am I reading too much into this? I do like this guy and had never thought about him in that way until this started to happen. Of course now I’m just slightly perplexed because of the last incident – I mean he just told me he likes his GF. So right now I am totally being friendly and professional with him but, don’t know what I should do if he asks me out again. I don’t feel I can go out with him as friends if I am starting to think of him in a different way and stay true to my boundries. BTW – in one of our long conversations he confessed he has only had 3 GF (1 in HS, another that only lasted 1 month then this chick who is 6 yrs older than him).

Reply March 30, 2011, 2:45 pm

Cracky

Hi Eric,
Please do help me out with this situation, its literally driving me insane-
My brother got engaged and the girl’s brother is kinda cute and I’m definitely interested in him. He took my number from his sis and started texting me . He shares his problems and all with me and has also told me about his ex girlfriends and his past relationships. I know this is what someone does when u consider the other person as your friend but I’ve a feeling like it is something more than friendship or maybe I’m just seeing what I wanna see.
He appears to be too interested in my personal life and seems to be way too protective about me. Is it because I’m his friend/ would be relative or is there something more to it? He texts me almost all the time and sometimes he also calls up just to say hi or makes some excuse for calling up. When we meet up, he appears too shy and doesn’t speak much (or maybe he’s just dumb!).
The problem is I really really like him and want to get into a relationship with him(as desperate as it may sound) but he never seems to confess his feelings at all. I haven’t told him him anthing about my feelings either but I first wanna be sure if he is interested or not.
On one hand he acts like he is interested in me as well but on the other he never says anything. Its driving me crazy.
Please tell me if he is into me or or am I just assuming things. And either way how can I get him to ask me out ?

Reply March 2, 2011, 5:31 pm

Cracky

Hi Eric,
Please do help me out with this situation, its literally driving me insane-
My brother got engaged and the girl’s brother is kinda cute and I’m definitely interested in him. He took my number from his sis and started texting me . He shares his problems and all with me and has also told me about his ex girlfriends and his past relationships. I know this is what someone does when u consider the other person as your friend but I’ve a feeling like it is something more than friendship or maybe I’m just seeing what I wanna see.
He appears to be too interested in my personal life and seems to be way too protective about me. Is it because I’m his friend/ would be relative or is there something more to it? He texts me almost all the time and sometimes he also calls up just to say hi or makes some excuse for calling up. When we meet up, he appears too shy and doesn’t speak much (or maybe he’s just dumb!).
The problem is I really really like him and want to get into a relationship with him(as desperate as it may sound) but he never seems to confess his feelings at all. I haven’t told him him anthing about my feelings either but I first wanna be sure if he is interested or not.
On one hand he acts like he is interested in me as well but on the other he never says anything. Its driving me crazy…
Please tell me if he is into me or or am I just assuming things. And either way how can I get him to ask me out ?

Reply March 2, 2011, 5:30 pm

Britt

Eric:
i reallyreally likethis guy and we kissed just the other week but now he doesnt text me even though he thought i tasted good and wants to kiss me again we are not going out but i want to and im so confused about him all he does is tease me and make sexual remarks what do i do and does it sound like he likes me because i am so confused he has acted like this since forever and i play along just because he is funn please help

Reply January 13, 2011, 8:26 pm

Eric Charles

Glad you caught my drift. :)
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I will be blunt here: if you are hot enough, a guy will put up with anything. And if you are cool enough, a guy will put up with anything. So where you can be hot… be hot. And be as cool about everything as possible.
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I wouldn’t mind dating a single mom if she was hot, had her life handled and was a cool person. If you strive to be the best possible version of yourself in the dating world, being a single mom won’t hold you back.

Reply December 24, 2010, 1:40 pm

kyla

Good advice! Thanks..I like how u implied ur all famous “needing” remark. Made me laugh. Just one more thing though, what’s guys point of view of dating a single mom? His father and I are cooland he takes care of his son. I’m not looking for a daddy, and I make that clear.

Reply December 24, 2010, 12:51 pm

Eric Charles

No. Don’t act like you don’t care. Stop obsessing about him and fill your time other things – the problem here isn’t that you need to manipulate him better… it’s that you need to stop obsessively focusing on him and trying to figure him out. Just focus somewhere else and stop “needing” to figure him out.

Reply December 24, 2010, 12:19 pm

kyla

Eric:
Is it a good idea to act like you don care and your to cool..when first seeing a guy non-exclusively? Even if he knows your playing that game? I need a good game plan for a very confusing guy..who does half the I’m Into signs, and the other half not Interested. I can usually read guys but not him.

Reply December 24, 2010, 1:46 am

Devon Brown

I am sorry, but I have to say that if he tells people that you are a “good kid,” then he is probably not interested romantically. That kind of statement is very condescending (even parental in a way) and if he is interested in you, it is probably at a purely physical level.

Reply December 15, 2010, 4:56 pm

Chris

I’ve been in a similar situation for about 8 months now with a co-worker. I’ve been going crazy, looking up silly horoscopes, advice articles, etc. This is the best piece of advice I’ve come across. Thank you so much.

Reply August 21, 2009, 11:14 pm

Ms. Rose

Wow. You totally hit this one on the head. I am currently going through this situation in my current ‘relationship’ however over time when trust gets built all this comes as a piece of cake!

Reply April 28, 2009, 9:11 am

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