How To Know If a Guy Is Interested: These Subconscious Signs He Likes You Reveal Exactly How He Feels!
He loves me…he loves me not…
If you find yourself counting rose petals to find out if a guy likes you, don’t worry. We’ve all been there at one time or another. The thing is, when a guy likes you he makes it pretty obvious! It’s just that sometimes we get caught up in our own ideas of how things “should” be that we miss some of the most obvious signs.
Before you begin to say, “Why won’t he just be straightforward and say outright that he likes me?” put yourself in his shoes for a while. Maybe he’s shy, maybe he’s afraid of rejection. Maybe you are his coworker or his classmate and he doesn’t want to risk creating an awkward situation for the both of you by making his feelings known. Who knows? There are lots of plausible reasons he might not come right out and say he likes you.
The bottom line is if he does like you, he is telling you one way or another. You just have to pay attention to the non-verbal cues. Even the most discrete guy will be exposed sooner or later. His subconscious mind doesn’t lie, and he won’t be able to hide the signs for too long.
Keep reading to learn the top 35 subconscious signs that he definitely likes you.
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When a Guy Likes You
1. He angles himself toward you
Imagine watching your favorite movie or TV show. You’d probably be glued the screen, eyes, shoulders and body all facing the TV. You’d probably be fully engaged in what was happening on the screen and nothing else around you. It’s the same with guys.
If a guy is interested in you, he’ll want to be fully engaged with you too and will subconsciously angle his shoulders, face and chest toward you so that he isn’t distracted by anything else going on…if his feet are both pointed in your direction, even better.
When a guy isn’t really interested, you might see him angled slightly away from you, looking around to see if there is something more interesting to focus on in the room. But, if a guy seems comfortable fully facing you, it’s a pretty good sign that he likes you.
2. He leans in when you speak
When a man is interested in you, he’ll lean in. It’s just a natural reaction. People lean toward people they like and pull away from those they don’t. It’s something we all instinctually do.
If he likes you, he’ll lean toward you when you’re speaking to him, even if it’s pretty clear he can hear you. He’ll find excuses to come in close whenever you say something to him. Maybe he’ll whisper something in your ear a few times.
The next time you’re with the guy you think might be interested in you, take note of his posture and direction. Is he leaning toward you? Is asking you to repeat yourself as an excuse to move in closer? If he is, he could very well be interested in you and has just not come around to saying it … yet.
3. He smiles at you a lot
A smile can often be just a friendly gesture. But when a guy likes you, his smile is so much more telling.
Is he smiling like a kid in a candy store whenever he is around you? That’s a good sign that he likes you. It means he’s genuinely happy to be around you. It’s really hard to fake a smile for more than a few minutes. And, when someone isn’t truly happy, you can just tell. The next time you see him, look at his smile and if he seems to be constantly flashing you his teeth. If he has a goofy grin that takes over his face, he likes you.
4. He stares at you
Studies show that people look at objects they find attractive or interesting 5 times longer than things they find unattractive or boring. If you catch a guy staring at you, take it as a sign that he finds you attractive, or at least interesting.
Men are visual creatures. When something captivates him, he can’t help but stare at it. It’s just a natural reaction.
If his eyes always seem to be on you, and hopefully not in a creepy stalker way, take it as a compliment and a sign that he likes you.
5. He mirrors you
Have you ever yawned right after someone yawned? Or started laughing because someone else was laughing? We are all vulnerable to being influenced subconsciously by the actions of others to some degree.
If a guy likes you, however, he is even more open to being influenced by you on a subconscious level. You’ll notice him folding his arms right after you do, shifting in his seat right after you or leaning to the left because you just did. It’s a bold sign that he likes you. When we like someone, we unconsciously mirror their body movements in addition to their gestures and even tone of voice.
Subtly mirroring movements builds mutual trust, connection, and understanding. It’s not a conscious thing at all and can be easy to miss if you’re not paying attention. But, if you do happen to notice, know that on a subconscious level he is open to being influenced by you.
6. He grooms himself
If when he sees you coming, he automatically begins to smooth down his hair, straighten his tie, adjust his belt or anything to up his appearance game in front of you, there’s a good chance that he likes you.
When a guy likes you, he wants to impress you. And what’s the most basic way to impress someone even before you open your mouth to speak … well, having a decent appearance of course. This doesn’t mean he’s vain or shallow, it just means he wants to show you the best representation of himself. It’s a good thing.
7. He makes eye contact
Some people claim that the eyes are the window to the soul. And when it comes to attraction, eye contact definitely says a lot.
Eye contact and attraction actually go hand in hand; its simplest way to tell if a guy is interested in you. Does he look at you and only you when speaking? Does he lock eyes with you without quickly looking away? Then you can bet he likes you. Even if his gaze wanders a bit to other regions of your face like your mouth and lips, take it as a good sign! A bad sign is when he’s talking to you, but his gaze is shifting around the room, looking for an excuse to exit the conversation.
8. He does the “eyebrow flash”
The eyebrow flash might just be the most subtle and subconscious sign of all. It’s the quick eye-brow raise a guy does when he sees something he likes. Raising an eyebrow is a classic sign of piqued curiosity and interest. But it happens so quickly. I guess that’s why it’s called the eyebrow flash.
This sign might be tricky to spot, so don’t get too caught up trying to identify it. But, if you do happen to glimpse his raised eyebrows, know that there is a good chance a guy is doing this because he likes what he sees and would really like to get to know you better.
9. His pupils dilate
When we see something we like, our pupils dilate. It’s an involuntary biological response. So, when he’s into you, his pupils will dilate when he sees you. Like the eyebrow flash, this one is hard to figure out especially if the light in the room is very bright or dark. If you do happen to spot this sign, good for you, but if you miss it don’t worry about it. There are much easier signs you can look out for.
10. He touches you a lot
Men love physical touch. It’s how they bond with a woman. When a guy likes you, he will find every reason to touch you. And no, not in a creepy way.
You might find that he does it in a subtle, accidental sort of way. Maybe he reaches over to pick a strand of hair of your shirt or puts his arm on your shoulder while you’re telling a story. Maybe he touches the small of your back as he lets you in the door. Whatever the reason, touching is a big sign that a guy likes you. More cleverly, it can also be his way of testing the waters and seeing how you respond, which might tell him if you’re interested in him too.
11. He treats you differently
You drop your pen and he rushes to pick it up. You put on a new dress and he is the first to notice and compliment. You’re lifting something that is clearly not heavy, but he offers to help anyway. When a guy likes you, he goes out of his way for you in ways he wouldn’t do for just anyone.
Maybe he’s a macho tough guy around everyone else, but is soft and sensitive with you. Or maybe he’s a nice guy with everyone else, but with you, he acts a little “macho.” Bottom line is if a guy is obviously treating you differently than other girls or differently than he treats his friends, it might just mean he likes you but doesn’t want to come right out and say it.
12. He acts differently around you
If he’s a troll when he’s around his friends but Prince Charming when he’s around you that might be a clear sign that a guy likes you. When a man likes a woman, he puts on his best behavior. He goes out of his way to try to impress you, from bragging to doing silly or even dangerous stunts to attract your attention.
If you want to know if a guy likes you, compare his normal behavior to his behavior when he’s around you. You’ll always see a difference, no matter how slight, in the way a man acts when he is interested in a woman.
13. He gets shifty
Guys can be pretty nervous around a girl they really like. And sometimes it hard to remember what to do with their arms and legs. If you notice a guy twitching around when he is talking to you, tapping his heels, sliding his foot in and out of his shoes or something like that, it might be a sign that he really likes you and is kinda nervous.
These kinds of moves are the body’s subconscious way of releasing tension. So if you see him constantly touching his hair, using his hands to smooth his shirt before putting them in his pockets, or playing with his fingers know that his fidgeting might just be his way of working off the nervous energy he feels in your presence because he likes you.
14. He stands close
He’s standing closer than normal. In fact, he so close, his arm can easily brush against your hair or your shoulder. He doesn’t seem to mind having you invade his personal space. If this is the case then it’s a very good sign that he likes you.
Most people are protective of their personal space but this boundary changes when we want to connect with someone. Wanting to be close to someone you like is a natural instinct. When a guy likes you, he actually wants to be close to you and would do anything to make that happen.
15. He likes a lot about you
When a guy is really interested in you, he’s interested in more than just your physical appearance. He enjoys your personality, he finds you funny, he might admire your sense of style, your brain, or even your unconventional skills. And he won’t be shy about telling you.
If you find a guy complimenting you often and not just on your looks, you can take it as a sign he is really into you.
16. He’s always around you
Every time you look over your shoulder it’s like he’s there. Maybe he happens to show up at the movie theatre you and your girlfriends go to every Friday night. Or, you see him randomly at a bar you frequent at the same time you are normally there. Maybe, he’s popped up to your birthday party even though he wasn’t directly invited. Whatever the scenario, he is always there!
When a guy is investing that much energy into seeing you — i.e. going out of his way to position himself in your line of sight — consider that he may actually like you and want to be around you.
Granted, if you both go to the same school or live in the same small town, it might be inevitable to run into each other. But, if the run-ins are much too coordinated to be a mere coincidence, it’s a clear sign he is showing up on purpose because he likes you.
17. He tries to figure out your relationship status
Guys have a lot of “clever” or not so clever ways of trying to find out if you have a boyfriend. You might hear him ask where your boyfriend is or hint that a girl like you can’t be single. He might even be crafty enough to actually ask your friends if you have a boyfriend. Whatever method he uses, the fact that is wants to know if you are single and available. And that is a strong sign that he’s definitely into you because if he wasn’t, he wouldn’t care.
18. He doesn’t check his phone
Let’s be honest, we’re all addicted to our phone in this day and age. So if a guy focuses on you and only you, that’s a pretty big deal!
When he’s around you he focuses on you and only you. He doesn’t care what’s happening on social media or what the latest basketball stats are. So, there’s no need to be constantly checking his phone. He just wants to be present in the moment and enjoy his experiences with you.
19. He looks to you for approval
He tells a joke and immediately looks to see if you found it funny. He wears a new tie or gets a new haircut and wants to know that you notice. When a guy likes you, your opinion means a lot to him. He wants to know that you think he’s funny, smart, well dressed or whatever he has insecurities about.
If you find a guy constantly interested in what you think about him, that is a good sign that he likes you. He wants to impress you or at the very least wants to gauge your perception of him.
20. He is super helpful
He is always willing to go out of his way for you. He makes plans with you in mind well in advance. As soon as you mention you need assistance with stuff around the house like installing your window AC unit or painting your living room he is the first to volunteer.
When a guy likes you, he’ll want to do whatever he can to make your life easier.
More Subconscious Signs A Man Likes You
21. A man that likes you will laugh a lot when he’s with you … even if you’re not that funny!
22. When a guy likes you, he will hold your hand palm-to-palm.
23. When a man likes a woman he will match her pace when walking.
24. A man that is interested will get a little jealous when you talk to, or about, other guys.
25. If a man likes a girl he will be more protective of her.
26. If a man likes you he will be on his best behavior around you.
27. When a man is interested, he will be warm and receptive anytime you touch him (rather than reflexively flinching and pulling away).
28. If he opens up to you and reveals his true self, telling you things he doesn’t share with just anyone, it’s a big sign he likes you.
29. If he talks about you a lot to people in his life (and you’ll know this if you meet them and they all seem to already know all about you), then he is most likely interested in you.
30. A big sign he likes you is he never wants to say goodbye … he keeps the conversation going, he asks you to stay for 5 more minutes, etc.
31. If he blushes easily around you … it’s a strong indicator that this guy likes you.
32. A good way to tell if a guy likes you is if he initiates contact frequently and asks you things he doesn’t necessarily need to ask you.
33. A good way to tell if a guy likes you is he teases you playfully a lot.
34. If he pays attention to your social media accounts, it’s a strong indicator he likes you.
35. If you can just tell that he likes you and it seems obvious to you and everyone else, then you’re probably right!
If you pay enough attention there are a whole host of signs that a guy likes you. The key is to not be so focused on looking out for signs that you cannot be present and just enjoy your interactions with a guy. You also don’t want to get so caught up in counting signs that you ignore your own instincts and intuition regarding the situation.
Looking for signs and clues that a guy likes you can be fun but when signs become more important than what you actually feel when you’re with a guy then it can lead to delusion, self-doubt, and fear.
Remember, when a guy likes you, it’s obvious! There’ll be no need to get an advanced degree in investigation and analysis, you will just know. There’ll be no hoops to jump through, no minds to read, no decoding of hidden messages in what he says or does.
Noticing signs then becomes a cool way to verify what you already know and feel intuitively.
I hope after reading this article you can recognize the subtle signs a guy likes you. Whether he’s into you or not, it’s really important for you to be aware of the one key moment in any relationship that determines if it will last forever, or if you will wind up heartbroken. At some point, he will start to pull away and may lose interest. He’s not as responsive to you, he’s not as excited by you, and it feels like you’re losing him … do you know what to do in this situation? If not, you need to read this next: If He’s Pulling Away, Do This...
The next issue you need to be aware of is at some point, your guy will ask himself: is this the woman I want to spend my life with? His answer will determine the fate of your relationship. Do you know what inspires a man to commit, and what makes a woman stand out from the rest in his eyes? If not, you need to read this right now: The #1 Things Men Desire in a Woman
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How Can You Tell If a Guy Likes You?
- He angles himself toward you
- He leans in when you speak
- He smiles at you a lot
- He stares at you
- He mirrors you
- He grooms himself
- He makes eye contact
- He does the “eyebrow flash”
- His pupils dilate
- He touches you a lot
- He treats you differently
- He acts differently around you
- He gets shifty
- He stands close
- He likes a lot about you
- He’s always around you
- He tries to figure out your relationship status
- He doesn’t check his phone
- He looks to you for approval
- He is super helpful
- He laughs a lot when he’s with you
- He holds your hand palm-to-palm
- He matches your pace when walking
- He gets jealous when you talk to other guys
- He’s more protective of you
- He’s on his best behavior
- He reacts warmly to your touch
- He reveals his true self to you
- He talks about you to those close to him
- He never wants to say goodbye
- He blushes easily around you
- He initiates contact frequently
- He teases you playfully
- He follows your social media accounts
- You can just tell