How Do You Get Someone To Like You?
“A great figure or physique is nice, but it’s self-confidence that makes someone really sexy.” – Vivica A. Fox
There is no greater high than being liked by someone you like. This is why it can be so scary to have feelings for someone. The stakes are high and the fear of them not feeling the same way is downright terrifying.
The truth is, we can’t ever fully control how someone feels about us. There are just so many variables that go into what draws someone to you. It doesn’t only apply to romantic relationships, this is true of friendships as well. Think about all the people you’ve met throughout your life. Of those people, a few become your friends, and a very select few become your best friends.
There isn’t much that you do, it just evolves. You can’t force friendships and you can’t force romantic relationships. However, you can do certain things to be more likable in general, which can help get you the outcome you want. If you master the techniques in this article and your love remains unrequited, then at least you know there was nothing else you could have done.
Here’s a list of 26 of the ways to make someone like you.
1. Be aware of your body language.
The last thing you want to do is accidentally scare off your crush before you even get a chance to talk. Sometimes negative body language can stop a guy from approaching you. To combat this, make sure to stand with your arms uncrossed, chin lifted, and body relaxed. When your crush is nearby, keep your stance open in his direction.
2. Be positive.
People flock to positivity like moths to a flame. In a world full of negativity and cynicism, it’s a refreshing change to be around a persistently positive person. Choosing to look on the bright side of life is a very attractive trait.
3. Be confident.
As they say, confidence is the sexiest thing you can have on. I realize that it’s easy to say “be confident” and not always easy to live it, so fake it until you make it (acting like a confident person can actually turn you into one, for real!). If you act like a confident person despite being nervous, no one will be any the wiser. We strengthen our capacity for anything by practicing. Even if it’s hard at first, regularly putting yourself out there will make a huge difference.
4. Be interesting.
It may sound like a tall order to just “be interesting.” In reality, embracing your individuality is what makes you interesting. What seems like a boring part of your life may actually be very thought-provoking to someone who’s had a different life experience.
5. Have a sense of humor.
Laughter is an icebreaker and a medicine. It can slice the tension out of a room in seconds. Being around people who appreciate the power of humor is a joy. Whatever your sense of humor is, put it on display.
6. Flirt with him.
This might seem obvious, but many women fail to take an active role in flirtation. It’s true that guys often enjoy making the first move, but that doesn’t mean you can’t get the ball rolling by showing you’re receptive to it. Hold his gaze for a second longer than normal, maybe through in a lip bite for good measure… you’ll catch his attention.
7. Compliment him.
Women aren’t the only ones who love a good compliment, men do too … and they are on the receiving end of such flattery far less often than women. So share something nice, it’s guaranteed to brighten his day and this kind of ego boost could help give him the confidence to pursue you.
8. Take care of yourself.
This is not a suggestion to hit the gym and dress a certain way so that a guy will find you appealing. By taking care of yourself with good nutrition, exercise, and self-care, you’ll feel ten times better. When you’re feeling your best, attracting your crush will just be an awesome side-effect.
9. Be a good listener.
Have you ever been talking to someone and gotten the feeling that they’re not so much listening to you as planning what they’re going to say next? Being an engaged listener is a rare and wonderful trait. It’s a breath of fresh air to talk to someone and feel like they really care about what you’re saying.
10. Offer help when you can.
Don’t be shy about lending a hand when possible. If he’s having a computer problem and you happen to be a tech whiz, offer your assistance. It’s very compelling to be a giving and kind person.
11. Remember little details about him.
It’s flattering when someone reveals they’ve remembered something seemingly insignificant that you said a long time ago. If he says he loves a certain soccer team, try asking him what he thought of their game last Sunday. He’ll be touched that you put that much thought into what he’s mentioned in passing.
While it’s aggravating to be told to smile when you’re not feeling it, it’s inarguable that smiles are a lovely social currency. When a stranger smiles at you on the street, you get a bubbly feeling for a reason. Smiling even when you don’t feel like it might even help you feel better when you’re down.
13. Give him space.
Guys need downtime just as much as girls do. Even if you love spending time with someone, it’s necessary to occasionally unwind on your own or with different people. If a guy is particularly introverted, he might need more alone time than the average man. Showing that you can offer him that time is an enticing quality.
14. Touch him.
Being willing to gingerly break that physical barrier between the two of you can be a great way to signal your interest. It could be something as innocent as briefly placing a hand on his shoulder when he says something funny. Just play it cool and coy without being too aggressive, which can be a turn-off.
15. Be mysterious.
Keeping a little mystery around you can be captivating, but make sure not to overdo it. If you try too hard you might come across as cold or snobby. Just keep some details to yourself and leave him wondering what you might be up to every now and then. You don’t have to play every card at once.
16. Ask about his passions.
Most people enjoy the chance to talk about their hobbies and passions. Ask him questions about what he does in his spare time and follow up with additional inquiries. Make it clear you’re not just making trivial small talk – you’re really curious.
17. Learn about his interests.
In the same vein, once you know what excites him, do a little research. You don’t have to go crazy with this. Just because he loves motorcycles doesn’t mean you should go get your license. But learning more than a surface-level of knowledge indicates that you’re invested in growing the relationship. Talking about yourself isn’t what makes someone like you. Showing genuine interest in who they are is what piques their interest in you!
18. Be adventurous.
Every day doesn’t have to be a daring bout of spontaneity, but being willing to travel off the beaten path is an appealing quality. Show him you’re up for trying something new. Suggest fun ideas of things you could do together, rather than just watching whatever’s new on Netflix.
19. Make him a priority.
At the beginning of a flirtation, you definitely don’t need to drop other parts of your life to be available to a man. However, letting him know that you’re willing to make space for him in your life can be just what you need to amp up the relationship.
20. Be easy-going.
Certain people seem to possess a magical power to find drama wherever they go. Don’t be the girl who is quick to jump to melodrama. Stand up for yourself whenever you need to, but in general, stay relaxed and lighthearted.
21. Don’t be jealous.
Once you’ve gotten to know someone, a little bit of jealousy can be cute. Before that, though, it’s unattractive. A man wants to feel like he can reasonably live his own life and not be worried you’re going to freak out about trivial details. Even if you’re feeling a little envious about another woman in his life, give him the initial benefit of the doubt.
22. Don’t play dumb.
If a guy likes it when you fake confusion and giggle, he’s probably not an ideal date. A man should appreciate your intelligence and not desperately need to be with someone who seems “inferior” to him. Own your intellect and see how sexy that is to the right guy.
23. Have your own social circle.
Having your own friends to spend time with shows that you’re independent and fun to be around. Even if you end up combining social circles, make sure you schedule time for your own pals. Don’t latch on to new people he introduces you to. He needs to have his own guy time as well.
24. Be upfront.
Playing games is not only immature, it’s also exhausting. If spending time with a guy requires you to be constantly on your toes, how long can that relationship really last? Answer questions honestly and avoid trying to manipulate the situation. You want him to keep it real, so offer him the same courtesy.
25. Have respect for yourself.
The cliché that nobody will respect you until you respect yourself is one rooted in truth. Remember that self-respect is sexy and demand what you deserve. Don’t waste time with guys who need to tear you down to feel better about themselves.
26. Maintain your own life.
Have you ever watched a rock star jam out on stage and thought that maybe you’d like to do that, too? It’s not because you’re meant to be the next Bruce Springsteen (although – if that’s your calling – get on that!).
In truth, the reason we’re attracted to that kind of person is that we see someone in their element. People who are passionate about their lives are naturally magnetic. Focusing on your needs will not only improve your life, it’ll also effortlessly make people fall for you.
Now that you know what it takes to be more likable, I want you to be aware of two more super important things when it comes to relationships. The first is when a guy you’re seeing seems to be losing interest and pulling away. Do you know why this happens and what to do about it? If not, read this:If He’s Pulling Away, Do This...
Another important thing a lot of women don’t realize is there will come a point in the relationship where he will ask himself: Is this the woman I want to commit myself to? His answer will determine everything. Do you know what inspires a man to commit and see you as “the one”? If not, read this too: The #1 Things Men Desire in a Woman
Ways to Make Someone Like You:
- Be aware of your body language.
- Be positive.
- Be confident.
- Be interesting.
- Have a sense of humor.
- Flirt with him.
- Compliment him.
- Take care of yourself.
- Be a good listener.
- Offer help when you can.
- Remember little details about him.
- Give him space.
- Touch him.
- Be mysterious.
- Ask about his passions.
- Learn about his interests.
- Be adventurous.
- Make him a priority.
- Be easy-going.
- Don’t be jealous.
- Don’t play dumb.
- Have your own social circle.
- Be upfront.
- Have respect for yourself.
- Maintain your own life.