if you’re not open to being on the dating market and you don’t allow other men access to you, then you don’t give men the opportunity to fight to have you and win your heart. You want to be on the market… you want to be in demand… you want to be that “hot, limit-edition item” that guys are fighting to have all to themselves.
Even if you have your sights set on one guy, it is still best to be on the market. Why? Because when a guy knows that another guy could snap you up if he doesn’t bring his A-game and lock you down, then he brings his A-game and locks you down.
Conversely, if he knows you’re not going anywhere and you’ll chase him no matter what he does… he may put in effort, he may not… he may lock you down, he may not…
The truth is… if a guy knows that you’re on the market and that another guy could snap you up and he still doesn’t lock you down, then that’s good news! It shows you that he was never going to lock you down, and therefore, he just saved you weeks, months, or even years of heartache. It shows you proof that he never would have committed to you in the way you wanted.
Drop all the thinking that is making you feel unhappy.
Yes, I realize that those kinds of thoughts have a momentum to them and that it might take time to drop the thoughts, beliefs, and perspectives that are making you unhappy. I also know that you can do this. Let happiness be your guide – if what you’re doing and thinking doesn’t feel happy… clearly, truly, fully happy in that moment… then cut it off and take a deep breath and give yourself 2-5 seconds to just blank out your mind…. relax… and then find the happy thought and perspective.
Train your mind to be OK instead of being in that yucky analytic and anxious mood. Cut the cycle.
Make your mood and your happiness your top priority in life. Men fall in love with happy women. Men marry happy women. Men find happy women irresistible. Be a happy woman. Be OK.
Finally, open yourself up to new possibilities. Really, truly be on the dating market.
You don’t need to talk about it or shove it in your guy’s face. Just be happy, single, and “on the market.” When you are truly in that place, then that is what will have your guy come around and want to lock you down in a committed relationship… and if he doesn’t, then you will know for certain that he never would have committed.
As a final note, I have to make clear that in order for this to have that effect, it can’t be an act. You need to find that true happiness – that place where, even if he ended up finding another girl and getting into a committed relationship with her, you’d still be happy. You’d still be OK.
You need to find that true happiness where you can say, “Things will work out for the best, even if I don’t know what that is yet…”
You need to find that true happiness that says, “I am open to all possibilities, including other men being interested in me…”
If you can find that place, then I guarantee you that your love life will transform into what you have always dreamed it to be. If you want that, then you have to follow everything I explained here. Not just some pieces here and there. ALL of it.
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Hope that helps,