Getting to know someone in this day and age of hiding behind out screens can pose a unique challenge. In many ways, the art of conversation seems to be dying, and the sad consequence of that is people are feeling more isolated and disconnected than ever before.
Whether it’s a guy you like, a guy you’re dating, co-workers, or your friends — how much depth of connection exists in your relationships? How well do you really know the people in your life, including those closest to you?
A lot of people feel awkward or nervous in conversations, especially a conversation with someone they’re trying to impress. You end up talking about nonsense and no real connection is formed.
And here is what most people forget. Conversations aren’t meant to impress someone, they are meant to discover someone.
You don’t need to do tricks or play games to make him like you, you just look at what’s there and take it for what it is, and you let things unfold naturally without force or agenda. When you can do this, it totally takes the pressure of you and you don’t have to worry about “failing” with a guy, or being rejected. You are just talking and discovering what another and seeing if it’s a good fit (this also applies for networking and job interviews).
Now that you have the right mindset, let’s look at some specific things to say so you can be a master conversationalist and actually form real connections and get to know people on a deeper level.
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