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Why He Keeps You Waiting By The Phone & How To Handle It

Has this ever happened to you? You meet a new guy for coffee and have a great first date. He was easy to talk to, had a good sense of humor and had good answers to your questions. You feel tentatively positive. The week goes by. He texts once or twice, but does not ask about the weekend.

Then, he finally calls you, on Friday, to talk about the weekend. “Are you free tonight?” he asks. Well, you purposely left the weekend open hoping he would call. So you say, “Yes”. You go out and have another great date. It is so nice to talk to a man who you can have a great conversation. You smile, laugh and share similar ideas about life.

Then, you don’t hear from him all week, except for some texting. This time, you can’t take it. You want to know what is going to happen for the weekend. You can’t stand this waiting game.

So what’s going on? Click over to our friends at YourTango to find out why men keep you waiting by the phone and how to deal with it.

Written by Sabrina Alexis

I’m Sabrina Alexis, the co-founder, and co-editor of A New Mode. I love writing relatable, insightful articles that help people understand relationship dynamics and how to get the love they want. I have a degree in psychology and have spent the last 10 years interviewing countless men and reading and studying as much as I can to better understand human psychology and how men operate. If you want to get in touch with me, hit me up on Facebook or Instagram.

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I am in a distance relation with a guy .we are good in relation but he mostly makes me waiting for his calls while I see he is on line in whatsApp but he says he was busy at his job. I dont like and want to kept waiting . he dose it constantly although have already told him he is hurting me if he does so but he doesn’t mind. please u help me how to treat with him or should I dont talk to him …or should I give up on him …or should I ignore his attitude…or what.

Reply October 16, 2019, 1:45 am

yvonne trozer

This guy seems to work all the time never had much time for me then I stopped calling he calls on an odd occasion sounds huffy I am friendly towards him when he calls I said we could meet for coffee he said ok and I have not heard again from him for around 3/4 weeks. I leave him alone but he,always calls every now and again once he got mad because I don’t call him but he always says he is busy

Reply November 9, 2015, 1:34 am


I’m trying to figure out how a guy is feeling about me. We went to high school together and have reconnected since then. We went on a date and had a great time. We ended up sleeping together and I stayed the night over at his apartment. We have been texting each day since then. A few days later I went over to his place again and we watched a movie on the couch. He has told me thru text and in person that he could date me and does like me. When I went over to watch a movie, he kept bringing up a wedding he is in and how he asked the bride if he could bring a date. I didn’t know if he was hinting at asking me so I didn’t say anything. He also told several of his friends that he likes me and wants to keep seeing me and can see dating me long term. I am just trying to get a gauge as to how he is feeling. I could see something with him. Am I being crazy? I don’t want to push him away. How do I move forward? Ok so now I need updated advice. He is in the military so he’s been at officer training drill since the 12th. I saw and talked to him on the 10th. Well on the 17th he adds me on snapchat but doesn’t snapchat me or text me or anything. It’s been over a week since I’ve heard from him. What should I do? Is he blowing me off? Should I drop him? Is he really that busy that he can’t text me but he can add me on snapchat?

This boy has me so confused. I think I am more into him than he is into me.

Reply June 19, 2015, 1:22 pm

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