Making Out Tips: How To Make Out With Someone Properly (And Drive Them Crazy With Desire!)
There is nothing like that first kiss with someone you really like to get the tingles flowing. The only thing better is making out with that person for the first time.
It’s exciting and thrilling, but can also be nerve-racking and intimidating. You don’t want all that buildup to fall flat and definitely don’t want the electricity to fizzle out.
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Keeping a make-out session hot and exciting is easy enough when you know what to do. It essentially comes down to making your partner feel amazing physically and also emotionally. It’s about striking that balance between available and just out of reach and mixing it up so things stay fresh and exhilarating. And of course, being confident in whatever you’re doing.
Read on for tips for making out:
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How to Initiate A Make Out
Call me old-fashioned, but I do think its best for a guy to initiate a makeout. However … there are subtle things you can do to get things started without actually going in for the kill.
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Lock eyes. Locking eyes is the most intimate thing you can do without physically touching. The hottest make outs start by building the suspense. Locking eyes is like that slow climb up the rollercoaster before you get that rush of adrenaline.
Making eye contact with him and letting your eyes wander to his lips will not only get the tension building, it will give him a clear green light to go ahead and make a move … which he will be eager to do if he already likes you.
You don’t need to have a whole stare-a-thon. A few seconds of intense eye contact is all it really takes.
Go slow and let it build. While you may be tempted to just attack each other, don’t! Try to restrain yourself and keep the pace slow and seductive to start. The reason why the waiter does a whole song and dance when you order a bottle of wine and is because the anticipation makes the wine even more pleasurable. The same applies to a hot make-out session!
Also, you don’t want things to get off to an awkward start with a headbutt or with teeth crashing into each other. This is especially important if it’s your first make out with this person. You don’t know their style and they don’t know yours. Slow is steady is best and will help you discover one another.
It takes more than your mouth. A hot make out is about more than just your mouth, it’s a full body experience. Don’t be a rag doll with your hands hanging limply by your side.
At the same time, don’t be too aggressive (once again, it’s about going slow and letting things build!). Just let your hands wander and explore his body, gently and deliberately. Stroking his hair is a sexy move that feels amazing. You can also gently run your fingers up and down his back or rub the nape of his neck.
Back off. Teasing is hot … just as long as it’s done in moderation. Too much teasing and he’ll just get frustrated. Just enough teasing will make him ache for you intensely, in a good way! While kissing, pull back for a second and just lock eyes and give him a smile and then resume. Or pull away from his lips and nibble on his ear for a little bit, once it starts to really feel good (and you’ll know by his response), move back to his lips. Then break away and give a sexy smile.
It’s also important to take breaks if you need it. Maybe you just need to catch your breath, or maybe things are getting a little too hot and you want to slow the pace back down. Trust your instincts and do what feels right for you.
How to Keep It Exciting
The beginning of a make out is always thrilling, but that first rush can die out quickly unless you know how to keep the flames burning so it builds instead of falling flat.
Switch it up. Break away from his mouth and kiss his neck for a bit, then his cheek, and slowly make your way back to his mouth before breaking away again. Keep the kissing soft and gentle, and then have a burst of passion and kiss him more strongly, maybe even suck on his lower lip or give him a gentle nibble, then slow it down again. Switching it up is what keeps things sexy and alluring.
Don’t overthink. Don’t make the mistake of getting too stuck in your head. I just kissed him slowly, so now it’ll go fast. I’ve been at his mouth for too long, time to break away.
Just keep these tips in mind and go with what feels natural rather than trying to follow a set of instructions like you’re assembling furniture.
Tell him a secret. Whispering in someone’s ear is hot! It feels good and there is something so intimate about anything said in the form of a secret. Maybe stop and tell him, “Want to know a secret? I’ve been wanting this to happen for a long time.” Or just tell him you think he’s really sexy. Or say whatever feels natural at that moment. Again, overthinking will ruin your vibe so don’t do it!
Be present. Don’t let a deluge of thoughts down out this experience. Don’t get caught in the trap of… I hope he’s enjoying himself … does he think I’m a good kisser? … Are we going to start dating now? … What if I never hear from him again?
Just silence all the noise and be present in the moment and just enjoy!
Send shivers down his spine. Everyone has a “sweet spot.” Try to find his and return to it frequently. Maybe he goes wild when you nibble on his ear. Maybe he can’t handle it when it when you kiss his neck or his shoulder. Maybe he loves it when you gently run your nails down his back. Find that spot and use it to your advantage!
Have a chat. Not a serious chat. But a good way to give your makeup a reboot is to break away for some flirty banter and then get things going again. This will galvanize things and keep it fresh and exciting.
All Good Things Come to An End
A makeout has one of two conclusions. Things will either keep going, turning this PG movie into something more R-rated, or it will have to come to an end. Not necessarily because you don’t want to kiss him anymore, but because you don’t want to move too fast.
Give him a warning. If you’re in the latter group, give him a few minute warning that this will be ending soon, rather than abruptly breaking away. Tell him you’re getting tired or that you need to be heading home soon or be honest and say you want to take things slow. Then resume the make out for a few more minutes while slowing it down significantly before you break away again.
Don’t apologize or worry that he’s going to lose interest. These are just your insecurities talking. Be OK with what you want and how you feel.
Tell him you enjoyed it. Men have sensitive egos. Make sure to let him know that you had an amazing time and you love kissing him, and you’d like to do a lot more of it! Don’t be shy or coy. At the same time, don’t be too aggressive and assume you and him are now in a serious relationship and are make-out partners for life. Just tell him you had a great time and can’t wait to do it again.
Keep him thinking about you. Do one last move to blow his mind before you go. One final deep, sensual kiss, followed by whatever move he seems to like the most. Then maybe follow up with a sweet, yet seductive text message later on to keep his mind on you. Leaving him wanting more will always work to your advantage!
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How To Be Good At Making Out:
- Lock eyes.
- Go slow and let it build.
- Use your hands to explore his body.
- Tease him.
- Switch it up.
- Don’t overthink things.
- Whisper in his ear.
- Be present and enjoy.
- Send shivers down his spine by hitting his sweet spots.
- Have a flirty chat.
- Give him warning when you’re ready to stop.
- Tell him how much you enjoyed it.
- Leave him wanting more.