When a friend asks you for an opinion as to whether or not a guy likes her, it’s probably not too tough for you to formulate an opinion. It’s much easier to gauge this kind of thing when you’re looking at it as an objective third party.
Of course, when it comes to deciding if your own crush likes you, the formerly simple notions blur into a muddling mess. You doubt your own powers of deduction, and for good reason. It is significantly harder to examine a situation fairly when your own emotions are part of the equation.
To make this daunting process a little simpler, here are some key signs that your crush likes you.
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Exactly How To Figure Out Whether Your Crush Likes You:
1. He wants to know all about you.
It’s bewildering but true that when you’re romantically interested in someone, the most mundane information about them seems riveting. You’re on the edge of your seat just to find out if they prefer waffles or pancakes.
This is why the “getting to know you” phase of a new relationship can be so much fun. You get to learn all about your new partner, and you get to experience the pleasant rush of being found fascinating by another person.
If your crush is also crushing on you, he’ll be full of all kinds of questions. It will go past what would be normal for a friendly, inquisitive stranger.
2. He finds ways to be around you.
Like a moth to a flame, a guy who’s into you will always find ways to be in your presence. As soon as you confirm that you will be in attendance somewhere, he’ll make it a priority to be there as well.
Sometimes this behavior is even subconscious. At a party, he’ll naturally shift to be closer to where you are. He wants to hear what you have to say, look at you, and hopefully make a good impression on you.
3 He stares at you a lot.
When you have a crush on a guy, you probably can’t resist staring at him. Sure, you might try your best to appear aloof, but we all love to look at the objects of our affection. In this regard, guys are wired the same way. A guy who’s into you will constantly be looking in your direction.
If he’s on the shy side, he might try to disguise this habit. He may only look at you when he thinks he won’t get caught. Even if he does try to sneak in his glances, you will definitely catch some of them.
4. He wants to know your relationship status.
This is likely going to be one of the very first steps an interested guy will take when beginning to pursue you. If you don’t have your status listed plainly on social media, he’ll have to get a little creative. Bolder gentlemen might outright ask you if you have a boyfriend. They may also slide it in with a question, such as “does your boyfriend also come to this gym?”
Less confident guys might try a subtler approach, such as asking a mutual friend. Spending a good amount of time with you is another (very passive) way to figure this out. If you spend enough time with a person, eventually you’ll find out if they are romantically attached.
This is also a good way to figure out if any potential guy is in the picture. Just because you aren’t publicly dating somebody doesn’t mean you aren’t thinking about someone. If your crush has competition, he’ll want to know as much about that guy and your feelings for him as possible.
5. He can’t help but touch you.
In this example, we’re not talking about creepy touches that leave you feeling uncomfortable.
These are the kind of hesitant touches two people exchange when they’re not sure how the other person feels about them yet. Maybe your legs touch when you sit down near each other, and neither of you jumps to correct it right away. He could let a handshake or high-five linger an extra few seconds, or give you a nudge with his shoulder.
Guys love to express affection and interest via physical touch. Depending on how confident the guy is, this could range from an almost unnoticeable gesture to a blatant flirtation.
6. He finds any excuse to contact you.
Keeping in consistent contact with you does a couple of useful things for an interested guy. One – it offers him a variety of instances as to how you react to contact from him, are you happy to hear from him? Engaged in the conversation? Do you seem interested? Two – it works as a nifty technique for making sure he’s on your mind. On top of all this, if he’s crushing on you, he’ll instinctively just want to be communicating with you in any way he can.
This isn’t always going to be as obvious as text message or phone call. He might opt for tagging you in something on social media, sending you an interesting article, or relaying a comical story. However creative his reasons for reaching out become, this behavior definitely indicates that he can’t stop thinking about you.
7. His body language.
Listening to his words will tell you plenty, but there are even more hints to be discovered if you study the language of his body. Many of the signals that our bodies send are accidental. We don’t always realize we’re saying something without actually opening our mouths. If you know what to look for, you can read this unspoken code for yourself.
Eye contact is a big one. That whole “the eyes are the window to the soul” idea is quite legitimate. Our eyes give us away. Notice how long he looks at you, as well as if his eyes wander your face while you’re talking.
Look down at his feet. Our feet declare the direction of our whole body, and if his are angled in your direction, that’s where he’s interested. He’ll likely lean in when you speak. If he’s feeling jittery, his arms might be crossed out of defensiveness. Otherwise, his arms will be open to help project an accessible stance.
(Be sure to read this article for the exact body language signs that mean he’s definitely into you.)
8. He always texts you back.
Quickly and thoughtfully responding to texts is one way to convey interest in our modern world. Everybody is busy, so if he’s ardent to answer your messages in a timely manner, you know he holds you in high regard.
Another closely related clue is if he’s the one predominantly initiating the conversations. A guy who doesn’t like you won’t initiate contact unless he needs specific information from you, like what time a party starts or what the address is. And if you initiate with him, he’ll be quick to end it. Guys aren’t into useless banter. The only time a guy will be enthusiastic about texting for no reason is if it’s with a girl he likes.
If your crush is hitting you up first, as well as putting in an effort to maintain the conversation, take note. If he weren’t interested, he wouldn’t waste his time.
9. He lights up around you.
You know how being around certain people just automatically puts you in a better mood? This is generally true for when you are around the person you like, and it’s hard to hide.
Pay attention to how your crush’s mood or general demeanor shifts when you enter a room. Does his posture change as he becomes more alert? Does he seem to smile excessively, or at least more than he usually does?
This might be a hard one for you to decide for yourself. Employ your mutual (trusted) friends to be watchful as well. They’ll be able to tell you if he seems to change in your presence, or even if he mentions something about you when you leave the room.
10. It’s obvious.
While it can be helpful and fun to look for ample evidence that your crush likes you, at the end of the day you won’t really need to. Even a nervous guy will make his intentions known if he feels strongly enough. A guy isn’t going to let the fact that you didn’t pick up on a subtle clue stop him from pursuing a relationship with you.
There’s no harm in being lightly flirtatious and seeing what his reaction to it is. This might be your best approach if you think that your crush is into you, but is too afraid of rejection to show it. Just be sure not to waste any additional time on this guy if you end up not receiving a positive reaction to your testing of the waters.
If you think he might be into you but just can’t be sure, wait it out and make sure to show reciprocal interest. Eventually, he’ll reveal himself one way or the other. By being patient, you avoid putting yourself in a vulnerable situation. Protect yourself. If he likes you and wants to be with you, he’ll find a way to show you – beyond a shadow of a doubt – how he feels.
I hope this article helped you figure out if your crush likes you back. Before you decide on your next move, you need to know that there is one defining moment in every relationship that determines if it will last, or if you will be left heartbroken, At some point, he will ask himself: Is this the woman I want to commit myself to? The answer will determine whether the relationship deepens, or ends. Do you know how a man decides a woman is “girlfriend material”? Do you know what inspires a man to want to commit? If not, you need to read this article next: The #1 Things Men Desire in a Woman
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Take The Quiz: Does He Like You?
This is How to Know Your Crush Likes You:
- He wants to know all about you.
- He finds ways to be around you.
- He stares at you a lot.
- He wants to know your relationship status.
- He can’t help but touch you.
- He finds any excuse to contact you.
- His body language.
- He always texts you back.
- He lights up around you.
- It’s obvious.