make dating healthy and longer lasting. First of all, try your best not to text in the beginning. So much gets lost in translation that it can really end something before it begins! Pick up the phone to make plans for the next date! And only text if it applies to the dating plans. If you have a question about the location of the restaurant, for instance, just throw him a text like, “Where’s the place again?” If he starts to initiate more flirty conversation, slowly start to text less frequently and keep your responses short and sweet. He will get the point. If he doesn’t get it I would slyly text him that you like to get to know someone in person.
Also, keep in mind that everyone has lives away from their phone. We have jobs, or go to class, play basketball, or simply are trying to spend time with family without the weight of our vibrating imaginary friend. Unless he has proven to be a neglectful person, give him the benefit of the doubt if he does not reply. If 24 hours go by, either call the police or text him again…your call.
I started seeing someone recently and found myself reaching for my phone during work and play time every hour or so and we only went out once! All the sudden I was making jokes I wouldn’t have made, being quicker than I actually am, and worst of all, I was building a relationship over What’s App.
How much respect did I gain for the girl when she looked me in my metaphorical cyberspace eyes and texted, “I don’t like to text in the beginning.” BOOOOOOOOM!!! A girl had never said it to me before and I absolutely loved it. She was honest. She was bold. And she was seeing long-term instead of only living by the seat of her pants. That’s a girl you pick up the phone for.