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What Guys Really Think About Texting

… (Previous page – What Guys Really Think About Texting) make dating healthy and longer lasting. First of all, try your best not to text in the beginning. So much gets lost in translation that it can really end something before it begins! Pick up the phone to make plans for the next date! And only text if it applies to the dating plans. If you have a question about the location of the restaurant, for instance, just throw him a text like, “Where’s the place again?” If he starts to initiate more flirty conversation, slowly start to text less frequently and keep your responses short and sweet. He will get the point. If he doesn’t get it I would slyly text him that you like to get to know someone in person.

Also, keep in mind that everyone has lives away from their phone. We have jobs, or go to class, play basketball, or simply are trying to spend time with family without the weight of our vibrating imaginary friend. Unless he has proven to be a neglectful person, give him the benefit of the doubt if he does not reply. If 24 hours go by, either call the police or text him again…your call.

QUIZ: Why Doesn’t He Text Back?

I started seeing someone recently and found myself reaching for my phone during work and play time every hour or so and we only went out once! All the sudden I was making jokes I wouldn’t have made, being quicker than I actually am, and worst of all, I was building a relationship over What’s App. 

How much respect did I gain for the girl when she looked me in my metaphorical cyberspace eyes and texted, “I don’t like to text in the beginning.” BOOOOOOOOM!!! A girl had never said it to me before and I absolutely loved it. She was honest. She was bold. And she was seeing long-term instead of only living by the seat of her pants. That’s a girl you pick up the phone for.


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Actually…not quite.

And there is a little bit of over step here in assessing what it is that is the bottom line problem. And it’s two fold. She did not make a clear statement as to what she wanted and he did not respect her time. We are not all the same, we women. Nor are men. Some of us are savvy enough to know what we want and how to state it.

Here is how it should have gone.

I had a great time….

Me too…

Let’s hang out…

Sounds good… what time?


Make it 6. Meet at Swank?

Yes! We can get appetizers and enjoy the sunset!

Sounds good, see you then.

And then they meet. It’s not rocket science peeps. Take it from an old lady dater. Just say it, don’t overthink it.

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Reply March 9, 2017, 12:04 am


I’ve been seeing someone for 2months now and we spoke about this yesterday when we met up. At first we were constantly texting until we first met in person. After that we started to text less and less. During the times when he texted less I over analysed thinking he had lost interest. I was being vague when answering and getting upset when our conversation didn’t seem to go anywhere. Each time we meet he always says how much he misses me and treats me amazing so for me I get confused each time I went home. He then said to me yesterday ”I think I’m ready to get into a relationship with you soon. The only problem is I think if we dated for real you’d end up texting me and calling me a lot more… I don’t really like text chatting. I like our level of communication daily now.” I was in so much shock because I honestly thought he had lost interest all this time. We were going to be nothing more than just two people who met on tinder.
That’s when it hit stupid I was basing his interest in me over how many texts he sends me. It made me realise how obsessed I was with his messages when I had nothing to worry about all this time.
It’s interesting though… how different we preserve things. So now, I leave it at that. I text only when I miss him. He texts only when he misses me.
Ladies, if he misses you he’ll make contact with you. If he misses you he’ll make time to see you. If he misses you he will come to you! It’s that simple. Don’t worry and just go with the flow! :)

Reply September 15, 2016, 9:36 pm


My crush told me first he is in love with his girl. No chance for me to go out with him. One week after, when I saw him again, he told me he just broke up with her. Now he tells me we can chill out but no serious relationship. I like him would like to chill out really with him. But until now he is acting weird, same behaviour. We make plan to chill telling me he will text me, but never text me. What should I tell him next time I will see him to the bar he works for? I m confused….I see him only when I go to that bar and he is always excited to see me there!!!!!!

Reply September 12, 2016, 9:04 am


I’ve been texting this guy and he always responds but I have to initiate.
He gives one word responses and acts like he genuinely thinks it’s Ok
I know not to over analyze because he says he’s interested.
but does this mean that we won’t share a lot of communication even though he likes me
And if I stopped texting him would he leave me to the dust
I’ve had women tell me he’s stringing me along but now I need a man’s perspective

Reply August 13, 2016, 1:26 pm

Elizabeth Wald

Great points in this article! I have more to add. Men are hunters. They see their prey and they go get it. The chase is the thrill, adrenalin is at its highest.

If the prey just stood in the field waiting for it to get killed there would be no hunt.
This would completely disrupt our Neanderthal existence.

A man is a hunter. He wants what he can’t have because the chase is in his genetic code. Once a woman is too easy,writes too much, too often……without reciprocity, there is not hunt. And no relationship.

Reply March 30, 2016, 6:31 am


I agree with Sydne and Kat. He’s just a BOY, an immature one. Nothing here to do with relationship skills or communication skills or mindset. We girls don’t need such a BOY.

Reply January 26, 2016, 10:46 pm


Girls, you’re bashing the guy, but really Mel was never anything but vague with him.

In the morning, she should have said, “Yep, had fun too. Will be available this afternoon, what/where/when do you suggest?”

To which he’d have answered by making plans.

Same when they text during the afternoon : the way she communicates, he had no way of knowing she was waiting on him – she looks like she’s absolutely happy all the time, and probably busy with a life of her own.

About meeting up for drinks “after”, she could’ve said “Sure thing, I’ll be free at X hour”. That way he could have either had a drink with his friends and met up with her after that, or told them he had a date and couldn’t stay.

Why do girls expect men to be mind-readers???

Hilarious article by the way. Well done Noah, a pleasure to read you :)

Reply June 8, 2015, 5:23 pm


The problem here is that the boy she is texting with is just that…he is a BOY. A MAN would have called and said “I would love to take you to dinner. When are you free?”
An immature boy will send texts like “hey uh maybe we could do drinks?” or “if you want we could maybe get together later”…you know why? BECAUSE THEY ARE IMMATURE AND NON-COMMITTAL. these are huge red flegs. RUN.

Reply December 10, 2014, 5:40 pm


Thanks for the article….found it entertaining as i have found myself in that type of textathon at times. However, Can you please provide advice how Mel should have handled that situation so that Boy would have made concrete plans instead of her waiting around for him? I know your article says to pick up the phone, but sometimes its not that simple and am wondering how she could have changed the sitaution via text?

Reply October 20, 2014, 11:27 am


I disagree to a certain point. Yeah we shouldn’t over analyze, but come on! Everyone has things to do, and time is money. I would get really upset if a anyone did this to me 1. He’s texting he’s out having fun, 2. He’s wasting my time and 3. If he’s serious about wanting to see me he should be able to give a time and place.

I have done this to people, sad to say. It really comes down to one simple thing ….. I just didn’t care enough to make it a priority and plan a time and day. It’s selfish really and I don’t do it anymore. It’s just wrong to keep stringing people along until I decided if I really did want to see them.

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Reply September 2, 2014, 5:34 am


I’m sorry, this is not about how much he’s into her. This is about being inconsiderate. HE initiates plans, then he makes other plans. Fine. Stuff comes up and he doesn’t even know her. But….. HE again initiates actual solid plans (drinks after), then makes other plans again! SO rude. Rude to do that even to a regular friend. Good for her for cutting it off.

Reply August 28, 2014, 2:24 pm


Great article, but how do I go about getting this guy I’ve been seeing a couple months now to text less and call more?
We’ve only spoken on the phone once after I suggested we really need to talk on the phone more. I don’t like this feeling of a texting relationship more than voice and in person. Texting ruins a lot with dating.

Reply August 1, 2014, 12:33 pm


I’m in the same boat. Often times I chalk it up to his stuttering issues. I’ve noticed that once he becomes anxious he tends to stutter.

Reply August 5, 2014, 6:17 pm


Issue of mine solved… We’ve talked on the phone daily since I posted that lol. I do understand we won’t talk some days on the phone and I’m totally ok with that.
It’s just he’s super busy and often texting is easier because he can reply when he gets a chance and now we’ve managed to leave texting for the fun and flirty stuff ;)
He originally thought I expected long conversations via phone due to the lengthy topics via text but I assured him that’s not the case because if I say stuff, it’ll be faster than reading a ton of words on a screen. More dragged out :)
We are now missing each other more with texting less so, nothing to lose really!!
It takes work and a lot of communication sometimes. Just talk to him and say it’s difficult for you to get a feel for how he’s meaning things via text and you think you’ll both benefit from chatting on the phone at least once a week. Suggest it, don’t say it should happen.
Thanks to this site, I have learned a lot and am able to better understand my guy… Thank you, Noah!

Reply August 5, 2014, 7:46 pm

Noah Williams

Wow. Awesome feedback for everyone! I’m glad you were able to use this to help! Sounds like you’re doing an awesome job balancing the phone and the text. I like the flirty touch as well.

Reply August 5, 2014, 11:26 pm


This was so funny, and SO true! Thank you Noah!

Reply July 31, 2014, 9:50 am

Noah Williams

Thanks so much for reading it Jessica! I hope to put out a lot more soon. Hope you like em!

Reply July 31, 2014, 3:48 pm


Amazing advice, hilariously put. Basically everyone just needs to pipe the #$%@ down, not over think it, and enjoy life. I think that’s a good idea too to avoid texting too much in the beginning until you know the person better- too much room for misinterpretation otherwise. I’d love to see how the average man would react if they were privy to a woman’s inner psyche over their texts haha!

Reply July 30, 2014, 2:18 pm

Noah Williams

Linds, I really appreciate the feedback. I think you’re spot on that everyone should just get to know a person before the mass texts begin. That way nothing is lost along the way and you get eachothers humor and what not. And yes we need to stop overthinking everything! Thanks for reading. I hope you like my next one coming soon

Reply July 31, 2014, 3:46 pm

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