I’ve had a “casual” thing going with a guy for 6 months, mostly sexual. Two months ago, I told him I couldn’t do the casual thing anymore and since then things have been heading downhill fast. Today was my birthday and he didn’t even wish me a happy birthday!
I don’t want this anymore but I’m getting mixed advice from people. Some tell me that I should text him and tell him that I don’t want to do it anymore and others tell me that I should just stop texting and just ignore him if he reaches out, which I find particularly cruel.
What should I do?
If you don’t want this anymore, then it really doesn’t matter what you do, does it?
It sounds like you’re pissed at him, but there’s a part of you that still wants something to happen and thinks there is a chance.
Maybe not necessarily a relationship. Maybe you just feel like you lost a part of yourself with him… and you want to get that back.
The answer is in finding how to be enough without needing him to do anything in order to feel happy and content with life exactly as it is.
When you can find that place within yourself, then dealing with him won’t be an issue. You won’t need some kind of strategy or game plan – it’s your emotional state that’s causing you all the anguish… it just looks like it’s him causing the problems.
Only you can change your emotions and it starts with drawing fulfillment from other areas of life and loving your life and yourself in general.