I met a guy about two and a half weeks ago. We had a long conversation, he asked for my number and he texted me the next day. Since we met, I was never the one to call or text him first, I kinda always wait until he does. I don’t mean to ignore him because I do like him but I’m scared I might be bugging him.
Now, he really doesn’t text me as much as he used to (he always responds if I text him though). Do you think he might get tired of me or give up if I always wait for him to contact me? Should I reach out to him more often? How do I know if I’m bugging him?
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Actually… I think he might think that you don’t like him! Meanwhile, you’re trying not to annoy him, but he is interpreting it as you ignoring him because you’re not into him.
I think that if you had a long conversation and connected then it means that there’s potential for you to connect further. The thing is… sometimes you have to put yourself out there and risk possibly being annoying or intruding. Sometimes you have to risk making a mistake or being rejected… If you’re too afraid to take a chance with someone else, chances are that they won’t risk taking a chance with you.
My feeling is that you should talk with him if you like talking with him – if you’re doing something he doesn’t like, he will let you know one way or another. But if you don’t say anything to him, he’s going to feel like you’re not interested.
I would say reach out and try to initiate contact once or twice. If he doesn’t pick it up and run with it, then I would say forget about it. It’s worth trying and if it doesn’t come together, you’ll know that you tried and you can move on.
If he doesn’t start initiating contact or making any sort of plans with you, it’s probably not worth it to put anymore hope or effort into connecting with him.
I can tell you as a guy that I’m used to having to make the first move. It’s just the way it is for guys. But if a girl initiates contact with me, it’s definitely nice. Even if I’m not into her, it never come off as desperate or creepy or weird. I’ve always just looked at it as friendly.
As with everything else though, this is my opinion based on what you’ve told me here.
Hope it helps.
- eric charles
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Good advice!
good posting…. thanks
Why does everyone get hung up on texting? For many people, texting isn’t a natural way to converse, even if they do it a lot. A text might not be seen right away. The person’s phone could be off or they are somewhere where they can’t check. Then, the sender interprets the person as slow to respond and reads a lot into it. I say grab the bull by the horns and meet him face to face somewhere. If you are nervous, you don’t have to invite him on a date, but something that might lead to him asking you on a date, like going for coffee, or being invited to a group activity and ask if he wanted to go. Those two things could be construed as interest but it won’t be so bold on your part if you are worried about it and gives him the chance to make a bolder move.
So in summary, drop the texting and get real
So i met this kid that i went to highschool with randomly at a bar one night. We hit it off and we winded up exchanging numbers. We hung out a couple times and it seemed like he really liked me. He said he wanted to do all these different activites with me but all of a sudden he stopped texting me.. I dont get it.. please help!
I like this guy a lot but I’ve never told him that. He says he loves to text me but I don’t know if he is telling me that to make me happy or not. I text him and he texts back but our conversations ain’t very long and I wish they were. I want to tell him that I like him but I’m afraid of what he will say.. What do I do?
I like this guy a lot but I’ve never told him that. He says he loves to text me but I don’t know if he is telling me that to make me happy or not. I text him and he texts back but our conversations ain’t very long and I wish they were. I want to tell him that I like him but I’m afraid of what he will say.. What do I do?
there is a guy who is always mean to me and it just annoys me and he is nice to all my friends but me i just don`t understand. So i started being mean to him back and we were going back and forth. Does he like me?
i like this guy but i am to scared to tell him. he is so hot and my friends all like him i told my friends and they start going up to him and asking stuff and if he likes me or not what do i do?
to milly, honestly i think he likes talking to you but just because he says that doesnt mean he likes you the way you think he does, girls seem to interpret many things the way they really aren’t trust me ive been in that situation just get to know him better open up to him be yourself dont be afraid to ask him its better to get response even if its a bad one then to be confused and staying that way never knowing what is really going on in his mind(: i say you should tell him and see how he responds if its a good response trying hanging out with him and see how that goes! good luck
I met this guy a few weeks ago. We had a great first date and laughed a lot. He was really cool and seemed like a great guy. The problem is that I bugged him vis text/phone calls because I was afraid he would loose interest. Turns out that was far from the truth-this guy really liked me. However, because of my constant need for communication, he said he wasn’t interested anymore.
Is there a turning back point for guys? Do they ever change their minds in a situation like this one?
I’ve been talking to this guy for a few months now, all I wanted from it to start with was friendship and cause we’re both really shy we only talked on msn but after a while he asked for my number so of cource I gave it him. We texted all day for days and were really good friends but as we went to the same school people started picking up on our friendship. It annoyed me but it was only the odd comment so we ignored it, never even talked to each other about it. I’d started liking him a few weeks before this. It struck me as odd cause all I wanted was friendship but now he’s always on my mind, constantly.
People started saying more crap. It’s always ‘____ likes you!’ in every lesson, down the corriddors, in the playground and I dont know what to think any more. I got my friend to ask him if the ‘rumors’ were true and he said they weren’t, after he’s friend asked if I liked him and I said no cause I’m a shy Idiot. We don’t text nearly as much ny more and it’s like I’m invisable at school, I don’t even get a smile off him any more. He still texts every so often but not as much as before.
I dont know what to do. I’ve never liked someone as much as this before but we’re both so shy. If anyone can give me any advise at all I would be seriously grateful. Should I forget him? Even if this fails I still want to be friends, thats the most important thing.
I met this guy about 2 weeks ago. We met up for dinner and talked-enjoyed each others company and both seem to be looking for the same thing in a relationship. He recently took a job in another state, so he was busy with the packing, moving, and storing before he started his job. He seemed to be into me, but then again he seems distant. He doesn’t call me or email me or text me like the first few days we met. I really do like him, but I don’t want to waste my time either. What should I do?
i been with my boyfriend for six months already we live like 20 min away from each other we use to see each other every other day and now we dont see each other at all we dont talk on the phone that much if i dont txt him he wont txt me i love him but he rather be with his friends than me idk wat to do do he still want to be with me or wat he says he loves me but idk apls help ……….