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Ask a Guy: Does He Like Me Or Am I Bugging Him?


I met a guy about two and a half weeks ago. We had a long conversation, he asked for my number and he texted me the next day. Since we met, I was never the one to call or text him first, I kinda always wait until he does. I don’t mean to ignore him because I do like him but I’m scared I might be bugging him.

Now, he really doesn’t text me as much as he used to (he always responds if I text him though). Do you think he might get tired of me or give up if I always wait for him to contact me? Should I reach out to him more often? How do I know if I’m bugging him?

See our guy’s response after the jump!

Actually… I think he might think that you don’t like him! Meanwhile, you’re trying not to annoy him, but he is interpreting it as you ignoring him because you’re not into him.

I think that if you had a long conversation and connected then it means that there’s potential for you to connect further. The thing is… sometimes you have to put yourself out there and risk possibly being annoying or intruding. Sometimes you have to risk making a mistake or being rejected… If you’re too afraid to take a chance with someone else, chances are that they won’t risk taking a chance with you.

My feeling is that you should talk with him if you like talking with him – if you’re doing something he doesn’t like, he will let you know one way or another. But if you don’t say anything to him, he’s going to feel like you’re not interested.

I would say reach out and try to initiate contact once or twice.  If he doesn’t pick it up and run with it, then I would say forget about it.  It’s worth trying and if it doesn’t come together, you’ll know that you tried and you can move on.

If he doesn’t start initiating contact or making any sort of plans with you, it’s probably not worth it to put anymore hope or effort into connecting with him.

I can tell you as a guy that I’m used to having to make the first move.  It’s just the way it is for guys.  But if a girl initiates contact with me, it’s definitely nice.  Even if I’m not into her, it never come off as desperate or creepy or weird.  I’ve always just looked at it as friendly.

As with everything else though, this is my opinion based on what you’ve told me here.

Hope it helps.

- eric charles

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Cynthia April 4, 2014, 3:47 pm

I met a guy at the grocery store, he’s the manager of the meat department… Every time I would go in he would make small talk, the more I saw him and talked to him the more attracted I was. He analyzes everything. He barely looked me in the eyes while talking, kept looking me up and down inspecting everything. There was a picture was posted with his name. So, I looked him up on Facebook. Since he works at the store I get my groceries from I used a different picture.. Very immature, I know!! I think I was worried about how awkward things would be. I don’t know! Anyways he have me his number and we talked for the next day or two. I did end up telling him who I really was and yes he was a little weirded out that I lied I the beginning, but things seemed to be fine between us. He invited me to meet him up at the gym, he was very flirty, very touchy, in between sets he would come talk to me. I played it cool didn’t go running to him, but made sure he knew I was interested. At the end of our workout he sends me a text telling me he noticed I painted my toes.. and wanted to see them! As in, send a picture…lol I have nice feet and it wasn’t a big deal. I was getting a lot of playful teasing via text. Things were going well, We planned on getting together on the weekend. Randomly the next day I get a message. Saying kindly delete my number, he’s started talking to his ex, then changed the reason to he has enough friends. Fine, no big deal I deleted his number. I saw him at the store later that night avoided him. He came up put his hand on my back and said hey stranger. I saw him at the gym the very next day. I didn’t make eye contact, but from the corner of my eye I could see him trying to get my attention. I messaged him via Facebook and politely said. You asked me to delete your number, you wanted no contact… So don’t go out of your way to talk to me. I’m not playing games… Now he’s totally avoiding me, getting someone else to help me at the counter.
I am SO confused!!!! What is his deal and is there anyway to fix it??
Sorry it’s long and confusing but I tried to give as much information as possible

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Reggie November 22, 2013, 9:44 pm

Hey chickens, NEED HELP!!

I’m 31 female, met a guy 22, we met up had sex.
He didn’t perform too well but he’s so cute and I do like him.
He said he was keen to meet up again.
Not once has he initiated a text I’ve done it all, however
He does reply to every text.
Have tried to make plans again but he’s got things on!
So my question is do I give up, push a little harder or is he
Intimidated cause of my age?
I have no idea where to go from here???

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Lila November 28, 2013, 11:42 am

Younger men… I hooked up with a guy two years younger than me, and 6 months later he proposed. We are engaged to be married on 2 February. Same thing happened with me, like he really liked me and then randomly started ignoring me and I freaked out, I talked to him and he said he thought I was into his friend cause we got on really well, and his friend kept hitting on me…

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ayeesha November 3, 2013, 3:11 pm

Hi everyone basically I started taking to this guy about two weeks ago, he’s a bartender and we have a few mutual friends and he also goes to my school, we flirt a lot and i’ve gone out to a couple of his events and everytime he would kiss my head before i left, we hooked up a couple of days ago and it was nice, no awkwardness whatsoever he even kissed me goodbye and i saw him the next day, we’ve been texting also, he always texts first so i felt that maybe i should too, so i’ve initiated it for the past few days but i don’t wanna seem clingy or needy or anything because i’ve been in situations where after we hook up, they always toss me aside and i’m scared it would happen again, how do i know he’s really into me and not just that he wants to get in my pants, thanks

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Kirsty October 27, 2013, 3:16 pm

I’m very confused about a guy at work! I meet him though going to suppliers meetings he was invited to. Since over a week ago after we got friendly on email which turned to texting after I gave him my number. The chat is very flirty and quite rude but this is not what is bothering me. We would text/email all day and text in the evening over the last couple of days, now it’s weekend I’ve heard nothing from him and I didn’t want to appear desperate and needy so waited until Sunday morning to send him a cheeky text, that was 9 hours ago! Do I take it that he’s not interested??

I was trying to find out what he likes in a girl and I asked what attracts him – he said “Hey… It’s fun just gettin to know you at the mo and gettin a bit flirty and fruity aswell :) that’s what I like. I like to get to know someone first :) a strong personality, confidence and knowing what ya want is an attraction :) . That and a bit of a naughty side to” – do I take this as a positive? It’s difficult as it’s been a very short period of communication to know his true intentions and I don’t get the impression he is seeing anyone else, but I didn’t want to make it seem obvious and ask him outright!

Not sure what to do as I feel we click and have same humour etc, maybe expecting too much too soon??

Any advice would be great!

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jmc October 28, 2013, 3:36 pm

If his texts are “rude” maybe it SHOULD bother you.?? You should really consider why is it that you are willing to accept that from any man. It sounds like his intentions are sexual.. not someone who is going to treat you right. I think he is feeling you out to see if you are going to be Ok with being “naughty.” If you take the bait and respond by flirting back and talking about being naughty, etc., then it’s set.. that’s all you’ll be in his mind. If you want more… if you want respect.. you have to demand it. Don’t respond if he is being rude or dirty with you… unless that’s all you want from him.
As for the texting, I recommend these articles
http://www.anewmode.com/dating-relationships/guy-doesnt-text-back/
http://www.anewmode.com/dating-relationships/guys-disappear-deal/#more-33730

Good luck.
J

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Kirsty October 29, 2013, 11:21 am

Thanks for you response, he did apologise to me saying his weekend had been marred by a family emergency. We hardly know each other so I do think I’m expecting too much too soon, but your right with the sexy flirty talk, it could be that I’m giving signals that that is all I want from him. So difficult over technology, I think getting face to face I can work out his true intentions if he makes excuses then it’s all he’s interested in too I guess!

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Bubbles October 16, 2013, 8:58 pm

I need help please? There’s this guy at my work I’m interested in, we say morning to each other every day I’m there, I have asked if he is single and he said unfortunately he is not, anyway I sent him a FB friend request and waited but nothing happened for a wk so I told him at work that I sent him a friend request, he said oh I don’t use FB much, I said I figured but thought I’d tell u anyway, he said thanks and he’ll check it out, anyway took him 2 days to accept, and so I have sent him some msg’s on there asking general info about him becoz I want to get to know him and be friends I also told him that but he never replies, after a few days I sent him my number saying if it makes him more comfortable texting then here’s my number, but still nothing, he is online quite abit and when I’m at work I catch him looking at me sometimes and smirking, he’s quite shy too and every time I do speak to him whether it’s just to say morning or something about work he goes very red in the face, yes I’m interested but I know he isn’t available and I don’t want to come between him and his GF but I still would like to get to know him and be friends, but how can I when he doesn’t reply? Should I just forget bout it and stop trying or what? It’s very confusing when he shows signs that he’s interested too but won’t talk! What are your suggestions?

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jmc October 21, 2013, 9:20 am

Honestly.. He is not interested. You should never chase a guy this way… If a guy wants to be friends on FB, he’ll find you. If he wants your number, he’ll ask for it. If he wants to talk to you, he will find a way! The more you put yourself out there, the more hurt you will be when he doesn’t respond the way you want him to. Forget about the “signs”.. If a guy is interested, you won’t have to question it.. you will KNOW. So YES, you should forget about him.
Hope that helps.
:)

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CeeCee August 1, 2013, 9:13 pm

I met this guy a week and a half ago. He started off like very into me and I slowly started to crush on him. We contacted each other but lately it’s been less and less and now not at all. He’s been online and hasn’t inbox me in days. I guess the question is “should I move on?” or “am I overacting?” I felt like we had a connection but was I wrong? Why start something that you can’t finish but I want to know from a guy’s perspective should I move on because I have definitely thought about just dropping it.

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Missing him July 1, 2013, 7:41 pm

What does it mean when a man will not answer a lady’s request for sex but will answer her about everything else? (They are in a FWB relationship)

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Michelle April 14, 2013, 2:15 pm

I have dated this younger guy for a year. He recently was in contact with an old girlfriend who said he was the father of her 3 year old and that she wanted to make a family with him. It’s a long complacated story. If this was his child he told her if she wanted a family that she would have to move here to St. Louis from DC. We were very much in love before this happend. If the child wsnt his, his life would go back to the way it was. Some things were said that he miss understood. He does not just want to pay child support and have nothing to do with the child, but he will not move back east to be with them.
So he was under a lot of stress with her and me and his wanting to do the right thing. So he told me that he did not love me as much as he did before. He was not going to be with either one of us. He has never had any friendships with any ex girlfriends in the past but wants to keep me as a friend. He cant say he doesnt love me at all. We still talk, text and will meet for drinks. If I kiss him he does kiss me back. But he says it doesnt change his mind. When I tell him I love him and wont give up on us getting back together he says I know….
This just doesnt feel like past relationships I have had. I always knew they were over for one reason or another. And even though we still have some sort of communication. I cant give up. Something inside me says don’t.

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Natasha November 12, 2012, 4:09 pm

Hey,

So I met this guys at the end of April and we spent the whole weekend together and had a great time. Ever since, we talk every single day. There have probably been a total of like 10 days since that we have not talked to each other. However, he lives far away (about a 6 hour drive) and was only here that weekend we met for the weekend alone. Sometimes our conversations are pretty deep and sometimes they are just stupid drunk texts. It’s almost 8 months now that we just talk about stuff, though. Does he like me or am I just a friend at this point?

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Marie September 19, 2012, 7:13 pm

Does he like me for me and what should I do? A little help please :)

I have been dating this guy for about a month a little more, things are going really well. He is really affectionate towards me and actually is interested in what I have to say and listens. He is my age, I have never date someone my own age because guys my age are so immature but I’ve found that so are guys that are older. I have gone out with him almost every weekend and have met all of his friends. He’s not from here originally, he has only been here 4 months. He has a lot of female friends and co workers which is fine but my problem is that one of these girls seems to like him. She always dances over to him and this last time we all hung out she danced with him right next to me and he put his arms around her for a couple seconds then stopped and came over to me. She had her back to me most of the night and made a jab at us when he asked someone to take a picture of us saying” it’s cute because you’re both wearing the same amount of makeup”. He is an anchor on the news so he has to wear some for tv but he hadn’t taken it off yet and you could hardly tell and I was barely wearing any makeup and I told her by laughing it off that I wasn’t. She left that night by saying “I’m going to leave you two alone” because he was dancing with me and had his arms around me and would smile and laugh with me a lot and he is always like that when we go out and are alone. He hugs me in front of people and kisses me and holds my hand and is very sweet.

Another dilemma is that there is this attractive woman he works with, and he tells me that would bang her a lot. She is older than him like late 30s early 40s. We’re both 24. He told me in the store yesterday that he walks by work after the gym to give people a show. The anchor that he thinks is a attractive ran outside he told me to tell him that her heart was beating fast bc apparently of what he was wearing. It’s things like this I don’t know how to react to or what to say. He cooks for me, he cuddles with me and really is a good fit for me other than these two things.

My life has been filled with tons of horrible role models and big mistakes on my part in relationships by have knee jerk reactions to things I should have reacted better to, and I want to do it differently and react how an adult should. He is about 5’5″ so he’s not tall, and I never date guys that are short bc typically they have a complex. I don’t know if he what he does is just insecurity but I just need help. Please and thank you

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Megan September 6, 2012, 1:11 am

So I’m completely confused, which is not common for me when it comes to guys. I met this guy at a party Sunday night over a long weekend. We really hit it off, he spent most of the night with me and we seemed to have a lot in common. He was very flirty and kept touching my arm, hugging me etc. At the end of the night, he asked for my number. Well after a few days he hadn’t texted/called so I decided to put myself out there a bit and messaged him on FB asking if we wanted to do something this weekend, which we had talked about Sunday. He kinda seemed really standoffish, and didn’t make any effort to make any plans with me and basically seemed to make up excuses. He did seem like a bit of a quieter guy, so maybe he just comes across wrong over messaging, but it really seems like he totally lost interest. Should I just completely let it be or try again? I’ve never been this thrown off by a guy’s behavior before!

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Lizaloop October 31, 2012, 5:50 pm

he is probably just nervous give him sometime and no doubt he will come around!!! hang in there!!!

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Amy September 2, 2012, 4:57 pm

Hey so I’ve met this guy and kind of need an advice. I’ve heard it too many times: play hard to get, don’t be needy but still look interested – just like not too closed, or too open. Why does it have to be this complicated and what’s up with the middle? Anyway back to my point: I met this guy and went out to his place with some friends to party. We were dancing and end up kissing and talking, having fun etc. all night. We did not sleep together. Before I go on I have to tell you I am not looking for anything serious I just want somebody to have fun with. So we were talking about seeing each other later that day and before I went home I asked him if that’s still happening. He told me maybe and asked for my number. After that he texted me and we were talking about going out but he said he’s still pretty much hangover and we should met some other time. So we saw each other after few days and made out again and he asked me when am I free next week. Because I didn’t know that back then he said if I will go out with him when I’ll be off work next week so I texted him one day for a drink and he couldn’t go but he asked me out the very next day. We went out, had fun and he told me he would call me soon. Then he texted me twice, the second time he told me he would like to see me the next day but I left him with saying that I might have to be working so he told me to call him if I’ll have time. So I texted him the next evening but he replied that he was feeling sick and could not go out. I told him to feel better and that was it. So I am wondering does he likes me? Will he call me to reschedule or how can I do that without looking too needy if I am not already? I would like to have some fun with him nothing else but I still don’t want to look too easy, or not interested, so how do I do that? And yes I a mess when it comes to dating, flirting or whatever…Thanks

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Jinna February 27, 2013, 4:14 am

Amy,

Thank yo much for your great question, openness, and honesty. I admire you for seeking answers.

I’m most likely much older than most here- since my marriage of many, years just ended, and I have two grown, sons. One an Army paratrooper medic, one a civil paramedic near Houston. I’m a columnist, photo-journalist, and have a degree as a legal assistant. Being mom is my favorite…no my title as Memom to my four ear old granddaughter is!

Amy, with that all said, you know a bit about me, except that I’m straight forward. If you were together, sitting across te table having coffee, be assured I would not jue you. This creep…is not nearly good enough for you! He is using you to build up his own ego, fill in his spare time, and to feel good physically, even without sex.

He was too hung-over to keep a date? Makes out and then can’t make up – better excuses than he’s sick to keep a date? Not a Gila monster ate his leg? REALLY?? Forgive my bluntness and tough love. Honesty is more merciful than any bitter pain from the lack of it in the future!

Amy, my advice first? Love yourself enough to erase the drunk bum’s texts, all of yours too, and his number. Then, doll yourself up and feel feminine and pretty, grab a couple of girlfriends, head out for some group fun. Why do I know this? *snicker!* This awesome Memom is told she looks 35-40, and younger men hit on her. I deal with these guys …of all ages, younger mostly, and I know what happened with a younger, drinking guy See, they are having a good time,- drinking, laughing, in the presence or arms of a sweet and great girl! He is totally high. Then, It wears off. Sorry. The ruth hurts, but when the spell is broken, the magic is gone. It is NOT you Amy, please believe me. It truth of reality. They are oftentimes spellbound, and we expected it to last. It is in expecting we girls makes mistakes! NEVER DO IT!

As long as I’m sitting across the table…I’ll add, let the next guy know your worth…hands off! No kissy-handsy-huggy stuff…until he proves himself and earns the right. If he wants a date, fine. A real date! The old fashion term, “too easy, gives guys te idea sometimes they owe us no respect! Wrong! We’re to respect ourselves enough to have boundaries that when kept…scream, “I shall be respected!” However, it only works if we respect ourselves by our actions. I believe you do, or you wouldn’t care so much. I admire you for seeking answers and wanting to do the right thing.

One thing I have found to be true in life, darling, is that human behavior follow patterns. Change the way you view yourself and value yourself. Amy, perhaps, you may look toward more worthy men…unless of course, you enjoy a repeat performance of this”next” hungover bum who you will meet, and follow the same path. I know you don’t, so glam up , doll and have fun. Love yourself, respect yourself, but see yourself as THE AWARD WINNING PRIZE. Let a man earn you…you are worth it, darling. Look forward to talking with a good man who is worthy of you! Play hard to get, as we say, let him earn you…because you are mauvelous, dawlin!

Much warmth and love,
Jinna

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Anne August 22, 2012, 10:31 pm

Hello !!

Nearly 4 weeks ago I met this guy at a mutual friend’s birthday party. Me and him were talking and it got flirty. We all then headed to a club and we kissed and his sister and this girl were bothered because I was 17 then, now I turned 18 a few days ago. Anyway, he is 26 and his sis talked to him for 10 min and then he stayed on the other end of our group dancing…and so I went outside of the club and hung out with the bodyguard who is a close friend of mine , 4 hours later, when the club closed and he came outside his friend said bye to me, and i just waved at the guy from far in a way showing I don’t care, and he just stared at me and was surprised to see me, thinking I had left long ago, so we then hung out, talked , laughed, kissed and added me on facebook and talked to me and wanted to exchange numbers. I texted him my number and he asked when I would have time again. So we met up the next day and we walked a lot, and sat and just talked about everything. We texted for a week and then met up again ( because he has a job and works from early until late, so the weekend is mostly his free time) and again we had a great time. I asked him to try to see me during the week (it was either that or see me in 3 weeks, because I was going on holiday ) so he said he would try….we met up 3 days later and again had a great time. We were never bored and there was never a silence or awkward moment, . The next day we texted, friday not, saturday not, and sunday I felt as if he was in a bad mood and he didn’t answer my last text message, so I left him alone, mon, tues, wed passed, and thursday I texted him to go swim with me and friends on saturday and he said he already had plans, we texted a bit and then I asked him when he would have time again and he never answered.
A week has passed. It might seem like I’m obsessing, but we used to text daily/ every 2 days, fun, flirty, nice texts and he never ignored my texts….I took caution to not text too much or annoy him…
I am positive I didn’t do anything wrong in any times we went out. He invited me to dinner the first time we went out and told me he liked me, and didn’t seem like the guy that just wanted the satisfaction of getting me to like him. I also made it clear we weren’t going to sleep with eachother (because I am a virgin, and he knew I was waiting for the right guy and respected my choice and agreed with me) , so that also was NOT one of the reasons, besides he could easily sleep with other girls,….he doesn’t need me for that, just saying. My friends say that the age is probably the reason….and I think they are right, because during our second ”date”/ going out, he said at one moment that the age bothered him, but I made some very good points and got him a bit understanding/convinced and he eased up on it…and after this talk he met up with me again….so it’s really confusing….my friends said to just wait… I can’t say he wasn’t interested just because he wasn’t first to text.because he would text back in an enthusiastic and interested way, …I just really don’t know what to do…I KNOW this guy was/is interested, I could feel it…
Is it the age? If so, what should I do? I’m not sure that if I wait and see what happens that he will text ….What other reasons could there be for his sudden behavior and disinterest?

ps: Sorry for writing so much, pls help me….I wouldn’t be bothering and giving effort into this guy if I didn’t think he was worth it

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Meghan July 22, 2012, 11:02 pm

I’m in University and I lived in a residence for 8 months. There I met this guy.. He lived a couple floors below me and we started off just as acquaintances (mutual friends introduced us). One night we had we went to a club and I was with him the whole night just dancing. After that we became closer. Friends of his starting asking me if I had a thing for him and what not.. But I always avoided there questions. On nights that we went out with friends, I always found myself back at his place by the end of the night and I would sleep over. Even though nothing ever happened, it still felt intimate. We would cuddle he would always run his fingers down my arms or back in a soothing way.

However, we were not dating or seeing each other. He had hooked up with other girls throughout the year and same goes for myself. Before we all moved out he spent the majority of his time with me and has even came up twice in the summer to visit myself and other friends. However, we are growing apart. We talk that often anymore and he is starting to get a lot more closer and friendlier with another friend of mine.I have no idea what I am doing anymore or if he is even interested in me.. or ever was. Please help.

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Anon July 15, 2012, 5:27 pm

Okay, so i recently broke up with my boyfriend and have since been crushing on this guy that i met at a party. I’ve been really flirty with him , we’ve even kissed and had dry sex. he said he was making me wait for the real thing, i’ve since mailed him and he hasn’t replied. He hasn’t replied to my texts either. I’ve seen him in person since we got physically close and he has made flirty comments and suggestions but never any action. I’m not interested in a relationship, maybe just some casual fun. friends with benefits type thing. I don’t want to look like i’m bugging him , he knows i want him, i’ve made it clear. what do i do from here? How can i find out his true desires on me without making a fool of myself, i’ve invited him to my party but there’s going to be other girls and boys there. I don’t know how to get him to pay interest in me. I’m thinking it’d be best to become good friends before friends with benefits? but i’m unsure how and must work out before he is no longer available.

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Monica June 11, 2012, 4:39 pm

I’ve been talking to this guy for four years but we never really dated, I got a girlfriend last November but they broke up February. We were still talking somewhat on and off during their relationship. I never had sex or did anything sexual with him. We came close. He hasn’t talked to me in almost 3 months. I tried talking to him but he ignored me. I texted him twice in 3 weeks and he didn’t respond. I had a friend ask him was he mad at me and he said no. He still hasn’t called or texted me and I don’t want to because I feel like I’m bugging him. What should I do? Does he dislike me?

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Tina June 4, 2012, 2:30 pm

It is true. Just as woman are scared we are bugging the guy, guys get that feeling also.

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Nelle May 17, 2012, 9:49 pm

Well.. I like this boy and we went to elementary school together and now we are in different teams in middle school so I don’t see him as much. We started texting about a month ago and it was him how always started the convo now it’s me. We he started the connvosations it felt like he liked me by the way he just wanted to talk about me not him but now feel like he doesn’t really care as much. I like him a lot and we are both pretty shy so I don’t know what to do! Should I confront him? Or just let him? All of my friends are saying that we should get together! We don’t see each other at all we just text so it’s kinda hard .

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ella February 2, 2012, 5:48 pm

so, i feel so weird doing this because i’ve never really said how i feel in a paragraph but, this boy, lets call him ‘bug’ so, one day i was recording a video to post on youtube and i randomly said in the video ‘i don’t know this boy (bug) but hes spoke to me once just a general conversation, and i’d like to get to know him, but he would never look at me in that way’ i finished recording and went on my laptop for a little while, i logged onto facebook and someone had inboxed me, i looked at my inbox and there was a message from him, i was so confused because i didn’t know him, and hadn’t spoke to him for atleast 3 months. All he said was ‘hey :)’ i replied, and we had a normal conversation, hes in the year higher, he asked me if i liked anyone, i replied ‘i’ve just got over someone really, you?’ he said ‘yeah sort of, but she would never look at me in that way, i dont know her really’ i had NO IDEA this would be me, at all. So i give him some advice, and his friend then text’s me like ‘do you like ‘bug’?’ and im like woooaaahhh what the hell? i reply ‘no, i dont know him why?’ his friend tells me he always talks about me and that he likes me but would feel weird to say he did as he doesnt know me that well. Me and bug begin to text and i started to grow some feelings for him. We kept smiling at eachother in school and i was pretty happy. We both got invited to this house party, we went and was with eachother all night, he took such care of me and wouldn’t let anyone hurt me. He told me how much i meant to him, i felt so safe, we then got kicked out of the party and he walked me to the park and made sure i was getting home safe, it was like i was his main priority. We kissed that night, i new something was going to start, i just new it. We were still texting and it eventually got to the point where we was going out, now, this is where everything fucked up. We had so many arguments and never acted like we were going out, nothing went right and there was so many rumours. We went out for 2 months, we clearly loved eachother as we began to notice faults in the relationship within about a week. we battled through until a rumour which shocked me was that he had kissed and cuddled with one of my best friends, also that he had told her he wasn’t with me anymore and it was her he loved all along, and that he couldn’t wait to get rid of me. obviously, he denied this, and i didn’t think much of it as i always believed him over everyone else. we spoke after school once and i always remember his words ‘so, thats it then? is it over?’ and i didn’t know what to say. Later on in the day he broke up with me. i was pretty upset but it started to kick in later. a week after the relationship was over, i asked my best friend if it was true, that they kissed and cuddled together and said they liked eachother? she admitted it all to me, it was true. I had a massive argument with her. I also had an argument with him. After saying he didn’t love me anymore, he kept texting me saying he regretted breaking up with me and still loved me, and i text back, because i loved him. He then had sex with this girl i am now quite close with, i had an argument with her at the beginning. She really really loves him, and he doesn’t love her. They were fuck buddies or ‘friends with benefits’ but she fell for him. its now 02/02/2012 and i started speaking to him around this time LAST YEAR. the thing is, he STILL texts me saying he likes me and wants to get back with me. and i still do really love him, i cannot deny it, i know i’m only young and ‘i don’t know what love is’ but i do, maybe hes not the man of my dreams, but i understand how a person can hurt you so much and make you suffer but, i mean, if i didn’t love him, why would i keep texting him back when he texts me? why would i think about him every single day, why do i always bring him up in conversations? why do i want him to be happy, even if it means not being with me, why do i feel like i would die seeing him with another girl, WHY DO I LOVE HIM!?:’(

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i just dont know :( January 1, 2012, 7:22 pm

ive known this lad since i was about 5 and we have always been really close friends and before now i have been in a relationship with him but it wasnt very long but these past couple of weeks he has started to talk to me alot more and then we were round a friends house christmas eve having abit of drink but not that much and then he walked me home and then gave me a hug which is normal then he asked me for a kiss but i thought a kiss on the cheak or something because it was christmas eve but he actually kissed me and then got off with me but i just went along with it but the next day he was saying like sorry for it and i was saying its as much my fault as it is yours because i let him so any way we carried on talking as normal then last night i had a new years eve party and he came and stayed over with a few of my other friends and all through the party he was fine with me being like normal messing around and stuff then when we were all going bed and i asked hime to turn the light out and he told me you turn it off and i will give you a kiss but i couldnt be bothered so he said okay and turned if off then when he came back he still kissed me and got off with me again anfd everyone was in the room but then today we were joking about the kissing and stuff and he said sorry and it wont happen again but i told a friend and she told me that he was staring at me all night :/ and i do like him alot i never really stop liking him but he is sending mixed signals and i really dont know what to do, my friends tell me to go for it but i dont want to ruin our friendship and how close we are but i really hope he kisses me again soo could you give me some advice please ??

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Fjolla December 12, 2011, 8:19 am

hey i met a guy in my school i talked to him 3-4 times and he said to my friend that he likes me than one day he said that he don’t want to talk with me anymore can someone help me please what to do to make him talk to me :(

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Freya December 11, 2011, 10:38 am

I have liked this guy for about 6 years, and i really like him. He knows that i like him and everything. But however he is a bit shy. Recently we have been talking, and i seem to get the impression that he may like me. But he keeps hinting stuff like “sexual stuff”, and we met up and obviously “got with him” but…now he’s not really talking to me much and when he does suggest to meet up, i agree, then he change his mind every 5 mins. Is he messing me about? Should i tell him how i feel about him??? what should i do. I don’t know how to approach him etc.

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Nomi December 10, 2011, 6:23 am

I met this great guy and we talked for ages, he kept saying compliments for ages. Then the next day, I added him on Facebook and we talked for hours on there as well and he asked for my number and we texted for a long time. We began to talk for ages every day and he asked me out and I said yes. Then we put ourselves as “in a relationship with ___” on Facebook and his friends all started teasing him and adding me and vice versa with my friends. Then we saw each other again face to face and the next day we barely spoke. Then he stopped putting x’s at the end of texts and we didn’t talk for ages. Then I send him a text and he said that he was in Norwich every weekend until new years so I said “Kay, I’ll see YO. In the Christmas holidays then” and he said “sure” and I said for him to have a good and he sent back “yeah, you too xx” so I thought he was back to normal and sent “speak soon xx” to which he replied “ok” and now we’re not talking again. This guy is great and I really like him and he, and his friends, have told me he likes me too but I’m not sure if he’s going off me or not. Help?! xx

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Becky November 20, 2011, 1:14 am

i met this guy more than a month back. we hung out for 2 weekends and then i got busy with college so couldnt meet him but we texted a lot, he even hinted he wanted to marry me,he invited me over to his place but i couldt come coz i was busy, then we had a cold war. like we just kind of lost contact. after 5 days in which we hardly texted he put up on fb that he’s in a relation with another girl who was also his ex. its been 2 days now. i havent texted him and neither has he. the night before he put this up he tried talking to me, but the convo died out coz i was kind of mad that he hadnt talked for a while, which wasnt his fault entirely. he is mostly the one to initiate conversation. should I text or email him angry stuff? or just forget it and move on? or maybe just wish him congrats?

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aziza November 20, 2011, 9:31 pm

dont foreget about the problem but foreget him and just think of it as a learning expirence. I hope that you feel better soon.peace n’ love ;p

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Becky November 21, 2011, 9:13 pm

Hey thanks so much Aziza!

I feel better already, should I delete him from my facebook too? Or will that make him feel like I still have feelings for him or all that crap?

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Out of Curiosity December 4, 2011, 9:45 pm

delete him… I would say that means you moved on and don’t give 2 pieces about his status or whereabouts. If you keep it… to me it means your still holding on. You can still check up on him. I will agree Aziza cut him loose in every way. Move on and find a good man. They are out there.

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Out of Curiosity December 4, 2011, 9:35 pm

aaaaaaauuummmm…. he hinted he wanted to marry you after 2 weekends of spending time together. I’m sorry but how on earth can you make such a claim. You don’t even know a person in that short of span of time to make such a claim. If a guy said that to me…I would be leery…very leery. Just my $0.02.

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Kitsune November 16, 2011, 9:32 pm

I have read a few of your answers to these peoples questions, you give ok advice half the time but you come off sounding like a player giving advice. Speaking about texting questions why are you telling them to keep texting , how about these chics CALL the person and TALK to them, maybe go on a date experience life, if he’s not in to you you’ll know pretty quickly, I hate guys who rely on texting as the only means of communication, a quick phone call and a “hey wanna go out Saturday night?” is not difficult and if it is then you probably aren’t ready to be in any sort of relationship. Remember texting does not convey emotion and many misinterpreted texts lead to many of these stupid questions.

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gabriela November 7, 2011, 3:45 pm

I NEED SOME HELP WITH THIS ONE. I RECONNECTED WITH AN OLD HIGH SCHOOL FRIEND OF MINE THROUGH FACEBOOK. WE STARTED TALKING HE WOULD TEXT ME DAY AND NIGHT FIND ME ON FACEBOOK AN IM ME. HE WAS REALLY TRYING BUT I WAS NOT INTERESTED IN HIM AT THE TIME. WELL AFTER A WHILE I WENT TO VISIT HIM THINGS GOT A LITTLE HEATED AND I STARTED TO LIKE HIM WE WERE SEEING EACH OTHER FOR A ABOUT 1 MONTH THEN OUT OF NO WHERE HE TOLD ME THAT HE COULDNT DEAL WITH OUR RELATIONSHIP. HE SAID WE WERE TO DIFFERENT HE WAS WAY TO LAID BACK AND I WASNT. WE DID NOT HAVE SEX. SO WE REMAINED FRIENDS BUT THEN HE WANTED TO BE FRIENDSS WITH BENEFITS I AGREED. I VISIT HIM ONCE EVERY WEEK OR TWO WEEKS.WE HAVE WENT OUT ONE TIME SINCE HE TREATS ME REALLY GOOD HE TELLS ME NICE THINGS HE HOLDS MY HAND AND TREATS ME LIKE HIS GIRLFRIEND. WE HAD DINNER, A MOVIE AND YES A ROOM, WE HAD ALOT OF FUN. WHEN I LOOK INTO HIS EYES I FEEL SOMETHING THERE. YET, HE DOESNT TEXT ME LIKE BEFORE, I TEXT HIM MOST OF THE TIME HE WILL ANSWER ME BUT VERY SHORT NOT LIKE BEFORE. IS THERE SOMEONE ELSE, IS THERE SOMETHING IM MISSING. DOES HE WANT ANYTHING OTHER THAN SEX WITH ME. PLEASE HELP ME. I DONT KNOW IF I SHOULD STICK AROUND OR KICK HIM TO THE CURB. WHEN I ASK HIM IF HE HAS FEELINGS FOR ME HE SAYS YES AS FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS BUT IT CAN LEAD TO SOMETHING MORE JUST GIVE US TIME. HELP……………………………..


Thank you,

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ciara November 7, 2011, 1:11 am

i like a guy and he said he likes me back but he just wants to be friends. he can never be straight forward to me but he tells my friend everything he never says to me and they wont tell me what they are talking about. i really like him and i dont want to be just friends so what should i do? should i just only treat him as a friend or try to get him to date me?

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Becky November 21, 2011, 9:27 pm

Since he already told you he likes you as a friend, I’d say hang out with him don’t get all weird around him, or at least try not to. But hang out if he tells you to, don’t be the one always calling him. Also try going out with other people. He might realise he likes you if he sees you with some other person. But don’t play the jealousy game..go out with someone only if you like the person enough, or you might end up hurting some other guy.

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Susan October 18, 2011, 7:53 pm

What do you think?

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Susan October 17, 2011, 5:30 pm

This guy and I have been texting for two weeks nonstop. We aren’t in a relationship but it seems like we were by the texts he would we send. He would always text me first and he would give me cute nicknames but now its been almost three months and if we text I’m the one who has to text first. He says he is busy and he doesn’t want to be in a relationship yet and it’ll be a long time before he will probably be in a relationship. He says that I shouldn’t wait for him and I should date other guys because it’ll be a long time. Now when I text him it takes him awhile to text me back. I told him that I heard this girl talking to her boyfriend, and I asked him how did we get to this point. He responded now what… What does he mean by all this and what do you think is going to happen between us?

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dice October 12, 2011, 6:01 pm

Me and my 2 girl friends when out on a bar to have some fun. We ordered a 1 liter bottle of tequilla and since we couldnt drink it all, we ask the waiter we know to call 2 cute guy who was a band member, one was playing guitar while the other is a drummer. we started playing body shots at the bar then we transfered at my friends house cause the tequilla was still half full. when we went to my friends place, me and the guitarist made out then he started asking me to go upstair but i refused cause i know what will happen but i really like the guy. the other day i added the guy on facebook but he doesnt even pm me, so is there something or what.. im confused!

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nina October 12, 2011, 10:14 am

Does this guy really hate me well me and dis guy were talking about like a month or two. He was cool at first then he asked me to borrow some money then i did it was only like 30 dollars and then i tried to call him back to ask him for the money and know he hates me and i am really ashamed and i feel really stupid and domb does he really hate me or is he guilty for what he did i think he was just tring to use me and it really hurts

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Gabi October 11, 2011, 9:33 pm

I swear this is EXACTLY whats happening to me… like EXACTLY… unless this was my question i sent in but changed around.. OMG SO CRAZY.

But great advice.. when the guy I like goes on facebook i’m going to talk to him.. but most of the time hes gaming.. uhg.

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happy_Chrissy October 5, 2011, 8:02 am

I met a guy last year thru a social function where he wanted my number last year. Last year, he texted me to hang out since we all were going to be in the hamptons for the holiday. He brought his friends over to the house that my friends and I were staying out and he ha never hung out like this before. We had a great weekend. After the weekend finished, I had texted him that we should do this again and he replied absoultely. Well, I didn’t hear from him and this was last year. I just saw him again this August where he didn’t bring up why he did not call and of course, I didn’t either. However, he did not leave me alone at the function that we were at, he was by my side the whole time talking to me, wanting to know what was going on with me, and that he would not move back to Long island, unless he was getting engaged(where did that come from?? i have no clue.weird..) Anyways, till this day, he does not initiate text, he only responds back to me every time I text him and he texts me back all the time very quickly; within 2 minutes..I do not get him? Maybe he is shy, I do not know? Why bother texting me back if you are not interested and why not just ignore my text or just tell me he is not interested??? PLEASE HELP!

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Haleigh September 22, 2011, 2:39 pm

It was my first week back at school (now its my fourth) and I am like in love with this guy, but one of my ex-friends told him I liked him and he is completly ignoring me in the hall but im like his bff in math.He hates that I like him and I had to tell him a didnt like him so that he would stop asking if I still liked him.IM SO COMFUSED!!!! Now him and another girl might go out what should I do?????

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alice September 17, 2011, 3:18 am

so I met this guy in the summer on facebook. we had summer school together so i decided to message him. we really connected and have been messaging each other ever since august 5th. He’s really quiet but he losens up when we IM each other. He started putting smiley faces and laughing more. And i thought possibley he could maybe be interested. I make him smile and we have things in common. But on september 15 we IM each other and he called me a weirdo but in a playful way. so I asked him how was i a weirdo and he said because I talk to muchh but he laughed and put a face like this xD. idk if he was playing or not but i messaged him back and said that i wouldnt talk so much if he wasnt so quiet and messaging one or two word messages all the time. Then after i sent it i realized that i got a little to upset so i sent another message not to long after that one and add a ahaha. But he didnt message back so i decided not to talk to him for the next 3 days and i usually message him at 9 pm because thats when he’s always online but i didnt go online.. and today on september 16 he updated his facebook status and said “man i really f***** up bigtime -___- i need a restart button”. idk who he was talking about. was i over reacting? What does this mean? what should i do? I need someone’s opinion.. I NEED HELP PLEASEEEEEEE!

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Karen September 12, 2011, 11:14 pm

I have been out of the dating game for a long time. Since my divorce 6 years ago my son and I have been living in my childhood home. I recently friended a guy who I grew up with and is now in the same boat. Back living with his mom and going through a divorce. He now lives 3 houses away from me again after almost 40 years. We were childhood friends so my friending him was just meant to be a friendly gesture. He immediately instant chatted me and told me how beautiful I still and how happy he was I friended him. Well we have been texting sporatically for a month or so. He did ask me out about a month ago but never followed up. He has 4 kids and is still technically married. I wrote him off but I found some cute pictures of us as children so I figured I would try the friendship thing again and sent him a msg. Of course he wanted me to email them and since then things have heated up. I got into a car accident and he offered to massage my aching muscles. He invited me over and I went. We ended up in bed and it was amazing. He texted me the next day and said it was great. But now its been 2 days and we havent talked. Do I text him or wait it out. I know two days is not that long.

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noname September 9, 2011, 3:34 am

a guy friend i have for 2 years asks me constantly how i am, what i do and so forth. i tell him the short version and cant add much into it, becase i have the same routine day by day. but he keeps insisting that i should tlak to him more and i dont know whta he wants from me. i told him to ask me whta he wants buit he doesnt. he was the one getting in contact with me with messages, always inititating it, now i keep myself from much openess, baucause he clearly said a few times whta type of woman he wants, and i am not it. but he wantrs me to be close to him and i dont see why?
am i being played? doesnt he respect my feelings?

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Eric Charles September 9, 2011, 1:02 pm

What people say is their “type” and what people actually choose are two very different things.
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Don’t be put off by what guys say are their type. A lot of the times it’s BS that they tell themselves to feel better about themselves.
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Now, just because a guy shows interest and attention doesn’t always mean that he’s attracted to you. But it might.
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If you like the guy, you might as well spend some time with him. He’s already initiating contact and if he’s into you, then all you’ll have to do is show him some “green lights” to let him know you’re open to him pursuing you romantically.
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I’ll size up a situation, but none of us are mind readers. At the end of the day, you need to just take action on the opportunities that come your way. If they pan out, great. If they don’t, you really are no worse than when you started.
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Good luck.

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jade September 7, 2011, 9:35 pm

I like my neighbour allways have he is a wee bit older but so have all my past bf been.. Anywasy we talk n we get along great but.. I really fancy him i dont wanna relationship just a bit of fun but i dont know if he seez me that way since he has know me since we wer babies and he knows my hole fam please help…. Thanlks

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Ana August 23, 2011, 3:39 am

hi i like this guy that i met at school an its almost a year that its been since i met him ,in the beginning we talked hungout went to the park and talked everyday but he had a girlfriend and then 4 months afterwards he told me they broke up because he found her cheating on him and i tryed to comfort him and be there but when he was with her he would tell me how he hated her and how he felt like he was just so attched to her though and i wouldnt say much i would just listen to him but now that hes single we hangout all the time and i have told him i liked him but he says he dosent want a relationship that he just wants to be friends but even though he tells me he likes me and misses me and i get so confused because i really like him and once when we were hanging out i told him that i couldnt go a day without talking to him that i missed him so much he responded with i dont want you to feel the way i felt ? and i got real confused i dont understand if he want anything with me or hes just waiting for the right time but even though he invites me over to his place and invites me to eat sometimes but lately when i call him he dosent pick up anymore like he use to that much and i asked him why he just told me because theres times that he feels down and sad and dosent want to answer anyone but i sometimes think he says that as an excuse but i dont know what to do i reallly really like him should i just keep staying friends with him or should i just try to meet other people because i want me and him to go further in a relationship and he just says that he dosent want a girlfriend well its also been like 6 months since him and his girlfriend arent togetherand i dont know whether i should just let time decide for us instead of me expressing to him how i feel

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stephanie August 19, 2011, 7:30 pm

so for the past couple days i have been talking to this boy, i am interested, we have had good coversations.. hes been asking me alot of questions via text about travelling and we have a lot in common. but the other night we had been texting all day sin 6 am to 11 pm and i just wanted to go to sleep so i told him to text me or something tomorrow he said ok sounds good and its now the next day and i have yet to hear from him should i text him or is he totally not interested, i hate playing these games. ( also he works for my dad and is my best friend from high school’s boyfriend best friend)

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alice September 17, 2011, 3:06 am

just cause he didnt text youu the next day doesnt mean he’s not interested. He might have been busy and didn’t have the time to text youu, but it sounds to me that he’s a least a little interested. I mean a guy wouldnt waste his time texting someone for that long if he didnt care for them or have some type of feelings. so I say text him!

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noname July 27, 2011, 11:23 pm

Fall for the brother of a guy you liked. It just happens, they happen to be bothers. Tell him you like him and hes like not interested in a relationship right now?? I wasn’t really looking for a relationship. Talked to him every night for like 4 months, told him everything and he listened and I felt like he actually cared, so decided to be the first to say something cus thought he wanted me to first. When he told me he kinda figured and I ask him why didn’t you stop it or say anything, he never answered. Im confused and never felt so hurt before. Now we don’t really talk and I don’t know if he feels the same way or not. We never talked really at school but every night over text for atleast a couple hours. He was like a best friend to me I guess, I miss him alot.
I want to move on but I just can’t stop thinking about it.

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destiny July 20, 2011, 1:38 am

ok there’s this guy I’ve known for 3 yrs and I really lyk him. he asked me out a while ago but like a month after that I was gettin mad cuz he was flirtin w/ another girl. so since I was mad ppl asked me “r u gonna break up w/ ____?” I said “no idk maybe” then sum jerk went off and told him that. then lyk 4 months l8r this girl I hate asks him out lyk not joking 6 tyms. he says no evry tym then the next day his friend asks her out 4 him. he doesn’t lyk her! he tlks 2 more in 1 day then he talks 2 her in their entire relashionship (wich is like 4 1/2 months) but he totally doesn’t lyk her! my bff says that he stares @ me alot & wen his gf says something mean about me he hangs his head low. his dad, brother, sisters and best friend pick on me about him n me. it’s almost lyk he has 2 date her. (there is more but I want answers fast!) plz plz plz send advice!

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Caitlin June 23, 2011, 1:52 pm

Okay. There’s this Boy……He always hugs me & he always smiles at me & he like always comes up to me when he ain’t talking to his friends or something and I will always like flirt with him and act like I’m gonna hit him & he acts like he’s scared & then it ends up in a hug. & When he talks to me he ALWAYS says my FULL name. He says it when We start talking & when we end the conversation but the thing is is that he’s really nice & he usually is nice to all girls So I ain’t sure if he just being nice or if he likes me. What do You think ?

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lizzie June 17, 2011, 4:08 pm

by the way, now when we r talking and we get to talk about marrige he just ignores it and says that it’s not time for it!!

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lizzie June 17, 2011, 4:06 pm

I’m feelling terrible, and maybe u guys can help me!!
I met this guy about 7 months ago and after 2 week he said that he love me but i told him that i need more time to get to know u!! he also talked about marrige to me and i said that i don`t know u good enough yet! after a while when even i loved him everything was going well and we used to meet everyday and he was always just trying to make me happy and i told him that i love him but after about a month or so thing just changed and now everything is just the opposite I am the one who tries to make him happy all the time and he is the one who just doesn’t see anything, we rarely even meet. sometimes even once in 2 weeks, and he doesnt put any time for me anymore!!! what i gotta do now! he doesnt even notice me! i want him to be just as he used to be!

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BP May 30, 2011, 11:43 pm

Thanks! Haha…I always thought I would come across as being creepy/desperate/weird if I were to ever initiate the contact… Glad guys don’t normally see it that way.. :)

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Eric Charles May 31, 2011, 12:31 am

No, guys would love for you to approach. At worst it’s flattering and at best it’s a good connection that may not have happened if you didn’t make a move.
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I have never met a guy who wouldn’t want a girl to approach them. Just because you approach doesn’t mean you’re needy or desperate or anything. It just means you’re social, that’s all.

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Lisa H. October 18, 2011, 12:34 pm

Well in that case, Eric you are a stud :) Cheers

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Eric Charles October 18, 2011, 1:48 pm

LOL… I am a sucker for flattery, it’s true.

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olga.v November 13, 2011, 9:18 am

have to agree with lisa there

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mixedrace May 30, 2011, 10:35 pm

Hi,
Thank you for taking the time out to read my dillemma. As i have met this man few weeks ago.We met on line then we kept calling and texting for a while then we met up. We both felt this strong chemistry between us.And then after that time we still kept in contact about a week later we were to meet up then he cancelled on me on the last minute. I was a bit annoyed.Then we texted and called each other and i thought it was cute that we both are that attracted to each other .So i called him few times and texted him but no reply and then he said oh u called me few time.But sure i told him that i liked hearing ur sexy voice.I did invite him for my birthday party and everything and txt him after that but nothin.So do you think that hell txt me or call me back any time soon?I have stopped calling him and texting him the ever since.Can you please help me with this pathetic situation plz?

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lavish May 25, 2011, 2:53 am

Me and my childs father been together 3 yrs on and off and he has been having a 3sum wit me and his ex the whole 3 yrs. When he is with me he creeps around with her and when he is with her he trys to creep around with me so came dec. 2010 i finally said im done with the 3sum and im trying to move forward….but he went back to his ex. (not suprzing) since the break up, he calls all times of da night. Sometimes asking what our child is doing at 1 in the morning..lol ya right. He txts evry other day if not evryday wanting to come over, trying to have sex stuff like that. He also knows that im seeing sumone else and its clear he dosnt care. Even bfor i got with someone else he was doin this. But my question is to you, y is he doin this? We both made it clear to eachother that it was time to move forward and jus acceptd that we have a child together and thats it but at the same time i feel that he wants to have his gf and have his way with me 2. Could i b right?

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Angela May 15, 2011, 11:23 pm

There’s this boy in my school that is a grade older than me. I have a secret crush on him. I’ve texted him only a couple times. We don’t really know each other. I’m scared to talk to him. I think he will think I’m creepy. He just broke up with his girl friend. When I walk in the hallways we both look at each other and smile. At our last dance we didn’t just have one of those glances. We had a oddly long stare at each other, smiling. I don’t know what this means! I’m scared to tell him I like him. What should I do? -Angela

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katie May 15, 2011, 12:10 pm

me and my bf never see each other just because he got picked 4 this football team where u go round england in, (his life is oreddy planed 4 him) me and him r only sch teans im miss him so much and friends cant even help he 9 boys love me but i only love him i need help from a GROWNUP pls help i dont want 2 talk 2 my mum bout it ;(

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Sam May 15, 2011, 10:19 am

I like this guy in my high-school; we used to be semi close then ended up losing touch for about two years. This year we have gotten back in touch and are talking again because we have two classes together. Recently in our gym class we have been playing tennis; for the first time a few days ago while we were walking up to the courts and while jogging around them, he talked to me and only me, we left our friends a bit of a ways behind. Usually we walk with our friends and he just jokes aound and is his goofy self, but this time we actually talked, instead of just joking around, and this time there were no awkward pauses. He even played on my team; usually its me and my friend against just him or him and another friend. And he always asks me which activity I’m planning on playing when we switch, therefore were always in the same group. Before this day I told some of my friends I liked him and my best friend facebooked him and asked “Hey, do you like Sam? I always see you walking in the halls with her from class.” But he said no. Then a few days later my other friend asked if he liked me and he said no again but got all defensive in the way he said it. Does this mean he likes me and just doesn’t want other people knowing yet, or that they annoyed him? Them last night he prank called me; it was the first time he has ever called me. Does this mean he likes me or thinks of me as a good friend?

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brittany winchcombe May 13, 2011, 10:08 pm

i am like totally falling for this guy in my class and me hang out all the time and he always wants to be with me and he carry’s my books to class even if he’s not in it :) every body tells me that he likes me but im not sure ?? i really like him .. he ask’s me how my day was and it actually seems like he cares :) it already seems like were going out .. but we arent officially :P how do i tell if he likes me or not ??

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vanessa May 11, 2011, 9:45 pm

Well i’ve been talking to guy for 2 years but while we were talking he had a girlfriend and i had a boyfriend but we been liking each other ever since. When we see each other we have this special connection i don’t know its hard to explain but we get so happy when we see each otrher and we hug each other so tight! We both are now single and we are talking and told each other what we feel but we text each other whenever he has time and we talked on the phone twice. And i asked him if he was just leading me on and his response was “then i guess you must have not gotten the point?” What does he mean? Do you think we’re ever going to be a couple and start dating? Do you think he really likes me? Please help!!!!!!

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nichelle May 3, 2011, 10:32 pm

I have a friend and lately we both have been flirting. Or at least I think he is flirting with me, I have liked him for a long time and he recently kissed me on prom night (sparks flew instantly) but he also kissed another girl. I tried to make him jealous today and also point out that I knew he had kissed the other girl, but he just got mad. Do you think that he is just keeping me there for rebounds or when ever he gets bored. If so how should I handle this situation..? Ahh.

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Tasha April 28, 2011, 12:30 pm

So I met this guy about two weeks ago. He works a lot in the hospital. He called me as soon as he got my number and then there was a few days we did not talk. I texted him after two days because I was interested in him. We talked for hours, However he says that he likes me alot and that hes glad that we met. But several days have gone by ( three) and I have sent him texts but he has not responded. Im confused because we have talked a total of six days in the two week span and each conversation is at least two hours long. Should I give up and move on or should I try to call him. ( honestly I’m afraid to call but I don’t mind texting I suppose i dont want to be rejected). Any advice. We met on line a paid sight and after we met he took himself off the sight ( he really did I checked, lol) and he said because he was happy with me. I feel the chemistry but man am I soo confused.

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Not Saying April 24, 2011, 9:00 am

Hey i met this guy about 5 years ago and we became really really good friends, i saw him all the time on the weekends and fridays, i noticed he had a crush on me and i like him back, but suddenly like a month later he stopped looking at me and when i go to talk to him he wont look at me or even respond. is this because hes mad at me or is it because he likes me??? if hes mad how do i apologize and save our friendship?

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arun kumar April 11, 2011, 8:24 am

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Ren April 9, 2011, 12:48 am

So i started talking to this guy again after we stopped talking for a bout 3 months? Then we would text each other, tells me im beautiful and i love you. (I know he actually doesnt mean that) but anyways i come to have feelings for him. The only problem is that we are so closeeee when we’re texting, buh in person its totally the opposite! When he walked me to one of my class it was soo awkward, buh when we text we would say ‘iloveyou’ and stuff, and now he stopped texting me. Im confuse :((

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Ren April 9, 2011, 12:47 am

So i started talking to this guy again after we stopped talking for a bout 3 months? Then we would text each other, tells me im beautiful and i love you. (I know he actually doesnt mean that) but anyways i come to have feelings for him. The only problem is that we are so closeeee when we’re texting, buh in person its totally the opposite! When he walked me to one of my class it was soo awkward, buh when we text we would say ‘iloveyou’ and stuff, and now he stopped texting me. Im confuse :(

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confused April 6, 2011, 1:53 am

Okay. So i was with this guy for a lil over 3 months and we never had a fight but we hardly saw each other cuz of his work, and one day we had a random fight and it was over something really stupid so i told him we should break up. Well a month later we started talking again and it was going really well, but he was also talking to this other girl, who happend to have been really crazy and tried hurting him so he broke up with her. well a month after they broke up he calls me though not hearing from him for about 4 1/2 months he tells me he loves me and wants to spend the rest of his life with me, and that hes sorry for ever hurting me. and that he will do anything to make me happy and that he wants me to move in… Should i believe him or should i just move on?

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maya April 3, 2011, 7:55 am

I liked this guy and he sorta kinda asked me out. bit idk if he was playing because i said no and he said “why would i want to go out with a loser like you ?” But then he started talking with me and asking me what i rate him at. then all of a sudden he poked me on facebook and idk why? he has a girlfriend but i dont know what to doo. ANY IDEAS? PLEASE HELP!

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nichelle May 3, 2011, 10:39 pm

Make him want you. If you like him why shouldn’t he like you. You obviously have some connection if you like him. And him sayin “why would he go out with a looser like you ” that’s just his way of trying to regain his confidence after you shot him down. Go have fun talk to a bunch of guys and forget this kid for a week or two. He might just have a girlfriend to try to make you jealous. If you ingorge him and only talk to him when he talks to you first he will want you and you will get him (:

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Kendyl April 2, 2011, 10:28 pm

I really reall ylike this boy and I think that he likes me to. But the problem is he is popular and I’m not. I heard his friends talking and it could have been about me, and how he might like me. I can’t be sure though, science he is popular. I always tell myself that he definitely does not likee, but then I will hear something to tell me other wise, I don’t want to seem stupid in thinking that he likes me. Then again I really want him to like me. I just wish I knew if he liked me or not.

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linda March 6, 2011, 9:41 pm

hiiii i really need a advice from u :(” WHAT SHOULD I DO TO MAKE HIM FALL FOR ME” i will tell u my storyy…i meet a guy he leaves another place far away 2 hourse we talked on msn about 6 months he always sayed that he wanna see me wanna meet me and he likes me and feel smth for me etc etc we ttext all the time…i told him that i want with him 2 but even if we r gonna get out and have sex or smth i dont want a reation ship i will get out with ujust like that..and that was our deal wee get out twice we had sex and he didnt stop telling me that im pertfect that he likes me im special bla blaa butt wee know the deal still..and now i think i fall with him and i wannt to be more than just a friends or our deal ….before one week we talkt on msn 5 hourse and it was everythingg good day afer i text him he didnt text me back next day i text him again he didnt text me back again :S and from than i didnt text himm neather hee theres a 10 days we didnt text :S what should i do should i text him and what?and to make him fall for me 2 cuz creeeeeeeeeep im in lovee plzz help…and sorry if i did a mistakes on writenig and spellng cuz im from macedonia i dont know very much english ,,,bb hope to raplay and help me mwahhh

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Liyana January 30, 2011, 2:00 am

Same situation but the problem is when he stop texting me, i’ll text him back to show my respond towards him. But since that i’ll be the one who text him first.. but he never fail to reply my text and we will have sweet conversation hours long.. i mean he sound so caring, he ask lots about me.. it makes me curious his actual feeling towards me. so i ask him because i thought it seem so obvious but he told me that his feeling towards me just as a friend. is he really into me or not?? coz right now i’m so confuse.. what should i do??

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Rachel January 23, 2011, 2:46 pm

i met this guy over summer and we had a thing , it was like if we were datin but we really werent . he really seemed interested all summer and i really thought this was goin to get somewhere , then school started and the before he said he was still goin to talk to me , but then the first day of school he got suspended and he never came back to school . we didnt talk for like a month or so , wen he finally texted me everything seemed just like it used to be , but one day i decided that i was just waistin my time , so i didnt talk to him anymore (he expected me to always start talkin or txtn) , then i met another guy and somehow he found out , and when i broke up wit this guy i txtd tho other guy and he lead me to think he was jealous , and at the end he told me he liked another girl , but he still would get jeoulus of things i would do , and i havent talked to him since , but now he sends me random fwds and thats wat he used to do wen he wanted to txt , does that mean he wants me to text him ?

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ashley January 8, 2011, 8:01 pm

so me and this guy always text.. and it always takes him a hour to forty fives minutes to reply which makes me wonder why.. but everytime we plan to hang out and that day comes he says are we gonna hang out today and i say sure what time do you wanna meet up then he replys four hours later like around 8 saying sorry my phone battery died or some sorda excuse.. does it mean he doesnt want to see me? but if so.. why would he text me first saying are we gonna hang out today.. he always does this its not a 1 time thing.. its an always time thing..

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Ashley December 15, 2010, 3:29 pm

so this guy that ive liked for a while..i think he just started liking me..he texted me sunday and we talked till 1 am! and then hes been texting me everyday since..and he says really sweet things llike he likes me and at school he was acting like he was my boyfriend or something! he told me that i was really pretty, adorable, funny, and he even told me he wanted to make out with me??! it was crazy..but now today hes being all weird like he doesnt like me or something..i dont know..im so confused

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Emma November 7, 2010, 3:34 pm

I went out with this guy then i broke up with him cause of problems at school and i was scared cause he was older than me cause he was in 8th grade and i was in 6th but now hes in high school and im in 7th well we went out again like 3monthes ago and He boke up with me this time he said he was scared i broke up with him but i wasent gonna then a month after that he texted me and we were talking and he asked me if i was gonna break up with him and i said no then he said he was sorry and told me he never stoped liking me and asked me out i was still kinda mad at him because of that cause i REALLY liked him and i liked another guy so i told him i had a boyfriend wene i didnt then he said he hopes that he treats me well and that was the end of the convo so last month my sister and i pranked called him and he reconized my sisters voice so they started talking and she told him that she thinks me and him should be friends first and she asked if he had a girlfriend and he said no well after they talked i txted him and we were having a normal convosation and then my sister took the phone and said this “I bet alot of girls txt and call u” And This Is What He Said “Not really only one that matters (its you)” then i took my phone back and wrote why me?? cause i know he has alot of girls to choose from at high school the he wrote somthing sweet it said “idk i just really like u alot of girls like me but i choose u” I told him that was really sweet Then we just talked normal after that then the next day i texted him and he didnt text back a whole week after he still didnt txt back even wene i txted him a few times in the week cause i didnt want to sound desprete he did txt me on a wendsday but wene i texted him back he didnt text back so that saterday he called me he told me his phone was turned of in his foot ball bag the whole week so we talked a little and he said he had to ask me somthing but he said he’ll ask me another day i said ok after that we let each other go and he said we’ll talk tomorow that didnt happen i txted him the next day he didnt text back then durring the week i txted him again and he txted back and we talked well that was the only day we talked he lives down my road so wene we would go out we would go walk wene i texted him that day he asked were i was but i wasent at my house wene i got to my house i texted him he never texted back and to this day he still dosent text back i havent texted him at all in like 2 weeks i want to but i just dont want him to not text back plus i think he likes me but at the same time i think he dosent because he never texts me back im so confused i need help on what this means…

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Jane October 27, 2010, 4:14 pm

The FedEx guy that make deliveries to my office and I have been having one minute conversations for over a year now nearly every day. He has mentioned to me a few times how he is lonely and he texts his friends during the day while making deliveries. I finally gave him my cell # and he seemed excited by that. He texted me within 5 minutes. We have texted back and forth but it is mostly one sided (me asking all the questions and initiating more conversation). For the past week I have been the one that has initiated all the texting (not every day). When I do text him, he always responds and seems to enjoy what we are “talking” about. I have made a promise to myself that I will wait the 3 days and see if he will text me. If he doesn’t does that mean he is not into me the way I am into him? Help!

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Sally October 2, 2010, 10:48 am

I have a problem. Here, I know a guy. And I know he likes me. But he didn’t know that I have the same feelings to him. We already have a great time together. We text each other EVERYDAY for months. Sometimes he started to text me first but sometimes I do. That time, I really feel like he is always there for me. Until one day he just text me and ask me not to text him for the next day. He said he has a work to make it done about 2 or 3 days. Now, I really feel like he is avoiding me. I became very confused.. He really likes me or he doesn’t? Now I really don’t know the answer and what I suppose to do. Please help me…

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Andrea August 28, 2010, 10:31 am

I met a guy at work a year ago. Within a month he was asking me to break with him every day. He gave me his phone number. We started hanging out and got close. He shared things with me, saying “you get half of everything I have”.

He was fresh out of a 5-year relationship and crowed about not wanting commitment. I have never expressed feelings or asked him for any such thing. He talks about a “dream girl”, says he will “just know”, and has babbled about girls liking him and accusing him of leading them on. If he acted the way he does with me with these girls – myself and multiple witnesses agree – HE LED THEM ON.

But.. he has lain in my lap and asked if I have a crush on him. He jokes that I do, but why would I admit it? Why would he ask? He promised that if he gets a girlfriend he will not let it ruin our friendship – “unless YOU are my girlfriend”. What???

A few months in he started trying to turn our relationship sexual. I set a slow pace and slept with him only once. He tried to go again but he asked at work and joked about it being bad so I peered at him over my glasses and said “no, thank you”. He has asked me to be forthcoming about what I want but it is very hard for me to be vulnerable under the circumstances.

He quit “our” job and I started fielding “he’s your boyfriend, yes?” statements. I told one girl that I didn’t know how he felt. She said: “It’s obvious”. Not really! I feel like a faux girlfriend, getting close to a guy who will eventually meet his “dream girl” and leave me high and dry. I try not to get close but he is so.. present. He asks about my day, calls to see how I am, and initiates plans with me at least once a week. He even declared that he befriended a co-worker I enjoyed “for you” – which when I think about it is true. Eep.

Worse, he has decided to apply to grad school in MY obscure hometown. Neither of us plan to stay in our current city and I often think of going home, but this is bizarre. A friend of mine said this: “I’ll put it this way: It’s not a coincidence”. I agree. What is he doing???

I want this settled. SOON. But.. I’m scared to death.

Am I being screwed with?

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Kelly August 13, 2010, 9:13 pm

So i’m kinda talking to this guys and we’ve been talking for a couple of weeks. I went out to the movies with him and during the movie he put his arm around me and then gave me a kiss before i left. I really like him and he’s told me that he likes me too and we use to text a lot up until i dropped my phone in the pool! So now the only way i can contact him is by facebook but he’s not always on so it’s frustrating. School starts in a few days and i can’t wait to see him but i’m afraid that he might have lost interest due to the lack of contact but i don’t know. I don’t wanna seem too clingy or bug him by always messaging him when he gets on facebook but that’s the only way i can talk to him and when i do message him, he replies and we talk for a while but i’m just afraid i’m gonna lose him cuz we can’t always talk like we use to since i don’t have a phone at the moment. What should i do??

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Ally August 1, 2010, 6:46 pm

So I really like this one guy. He went to school with him in 7th grade and then I transferred schools and we haven’t talked in about 4 years. I recently got in contact with him through facebook and I really like him. We’re both going to 11th grade now. But I’m not sure if he likes me. He commented on two of my pictures (he doesn’t comment on people’s pictures much, so I was kind of shocked he commented on mine) and said I was really cute and looked different now. We’ve been on cam together a lot. Like on ooVoo and stuff. He asked me if I was single and he always talks to me on facebook if I’m on. But I don’t really like calling him first or IMing him first because I don’t want to seem clingy or anything. He also wanted to go to the movies with me. I recently saw inception and he was like “aw I wanted to see that… but I had nobody to go with” So i kind of took this as a hint that he wanted to go with me. So I said you should have went with me! So he said okay lets go together next weekend. But I don’t know if it’s one of those ‘lets go out together’ but he’s just saying it but not really meaning it. And I don’t know if he likes me or not! I like him a lot but I’m so shy and self conscious! I try and wait for him to contact me first, but he’s contacting me less and less everyday. So what should I do? How should I talk to him? Does he like me? Any tips?

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jen July 27, 2010, 3:31 am

i been with my boyfriend for six months already we live like 20 min away from each other we use to see each other every other day and now we dont see each other at all we dont talk on the phone that much if i dont txt him he wont txt me i love him but he rather be with his friends than me idk wat to do do he still want to be with me or wat he says he loves me but idk apls help ……….

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Jane July 20, 2010, 3:53 pm

I met this guy about 2 weeks ago. We met up for dinner and talked-enjoyed each others company and both seem to be looking for the same thing in a relationship. He recently took a job in another state, so he was busy with the packing, moving, and storing before he started his job. He seemed to be into me, but then again he seems distant. He doesn’t call me or email me or text me like the first few days we met. I really do like him, but I don’t want to waste my time either. What should I do?

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Marie June 30, 2010, 1:54 pm

I’ve been talking to this guy for a few months now, all I wanted from it to start with was friendship and cause we’re both really shy we only talked on msn but after a while he asked for my number so of cource I gave it him. We texted all day for days and were really good friends but as we went to the same school people started picking up on our friendship. It annoyed me but it was only the odd comment so we ignored it, never even talked to each other about it. I’d started liking him a few weeks before this. It struck me as odd cause all I wanted was friendship but now he’s always on my mind, constantly.
People started saying more crap. It’s always ‘____ likes you!’ in every lesson, down the corriddors, in the playground and I dont know what to think any more. I got my friend to ask him if the ‘rumors’ were true and he said they weren’t, after he’s friend asked if I liked him and I said no cause I’m a shy Idiot. We don’t text nearly as much ny more and it’s like I’m invisable at school, I don’t even get a smile off him any more. He still texts every so often but not as much as before.
I dont know what to do. I’ve never liked someone as much as this before but we’re both so shy. If anyone can give me any advise at all I would be seriously grateful. Should I forget him? Even if this fails I still want to be friends, thats the most important thing.

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Gill November 9, 2011, 3:16 am

Hey! I’m a young man/ A GOD fearing young man..

From my own dating past, I’ve seen two types of people.
1. ppl who care too much
– 2 ppl that care arethe best couple.
2. ppl who don’t care at all
– 2ppl that don’t care attract each other. (try this)
But by any means necessary dint ever care for a guy who can’t at least smile back, text and say how’s your week, or be a gentlemen.

So try not responding to his calls/ texts & hang out with other ppl who intrest you & show some intreset back/ & if he’s a guy & not an alien hell wanna know why the heck is my doormat leaving from under my feet. Overall, dating experiences are supposed to be happy & 2 sided. there are 6 billion ppl on the planet, try with the other 5,999,999,999 ppl on the earth. It only takes one Guy not the it guy… If that makes any sense. Lol
Preety much, just move on, & he’ll come back to figure out why you moved on.
God Bless
-Gill

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Jenny May 4, 2010, 3:11 pm

I met this guy a few weeks ago. We had a great first date and laughed a lot. He was really cool and seemed like a great guy. The problem is that I bugged him vis text/phone calls because I was afraid he would loose interest. Turns out that was far from the truth-this guy really liked me. However, because of my constant need for communication, he said he wasn’t interested anymore.

Is there a turning back point for guys? Do they ever change their minds in a situation like this one?

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lili February 26, 2010, 11:08 am

to milly, honestly i think he likes talking to you but just because he says that doesnt mean he likes you the way you think he does, girls seem to interpret many things the way they really aren’t trust me ive been in that situation just get to know him better open up to him be yourself dont be afraid to ask him its better to get response even if its a bad one then to be confused and staying that way never knowing what is really going on in his mind(: i say you should tell him and see how he responds if its a good response trying hanging out with him and see how that goes! good luck

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silly February 20, 2010, 7:39 pm

i like this guy but i am to scared to tell him. he is so hot and my friends all like him i told my friends and they start going up to him and asking stuff and if he likes me or not what do i do?

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silly February 20, 2010, 7:34 pm

there is a guy who is always mean to me and it just annoys me and he is nice to all my friends but me i just don`t understand. So i started being mean to him back and we were going back and forth. Does he like me?

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Milly. December 30, 2009, 9:12 pm

I like this guy a lot but I’ve never told him that. He says he loves to text me but I don’t know if he is telling me that to make me happy or not. I text him and he texts back but our conversations ain’t very long and I wish they were. I want to tell him that I like him but I’m afraid of what he will say.. What do I do?

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Milly. December 30, 2009, 9:10 pm

I like this guy a lot but I’ve never told him that. He says he loves to text me but I don’t know if he is telling me that to make me happy or not. I text him and he texts back but our conversations ain’t very long and I wish they were. I want to tell him that I like him but I’m afraid of what he will say.. What do I do?

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Laurie December 7, 2009, 5:09 pm

So i met this kid that i went to highschool with randomly at a bar one night. We hit it off and we winded up exchanging numbers. We hung out a couple times and it seemed like he really liked me. He said he wanted to do all these different activites with me but all of a sudden he stopped texting me.. I dont get it.. please help!

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Chris November 20, 2009, 12:38 pm

Why does everyone get hung up on texting? For many people, texting isn’t a natural way to converse, even if they do it a lot. A text might not be seen right away. The person’s phone could be off or they are somewhere where they can’t check. Then, the sender interprets the person as slow to respond and reads a lot into it. I say grab the bull by the horns and meet him face to face somewhere. If you are nervous, you don’t have to invite him on a date, but something that might lead to him asking you on a date, like going for coffee, or being invited to a group activity and ask if he wanted to go. Those two things could be construed as interest but it won’t be so bold on your part if you are worried about it and gives him the chance to make a bolder move.

So in summary, drop the texting and get real :)

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Sarah September 8, 2011, 10:20 pm

AGREED

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discussion forums November 18, 2009, 1:30 am

good posting…. thanks

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The Fashionable Housewife November 17, 2009, 10:54 am

Good advice! ;-)

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