I met a guy about two and a half weeks ago. We had a long conversation, he asked for my number and he texted me the next day. Since we met, I was never the one to call or text him first, I kinda always wait until he does. I don’t mean to ignore him because I do like him but I’m scared I might be bugging him.
Now, he really doesn’t text me as much as he used to (he always responds if I text him though). Do you think he might get tired of me or give up if I always wait for him to contact me? Should I reach out to him more often? How do I know if I’m bugging him?
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Actually… I think he might think that you don’t like him! Meanwhile, you’re trying not to annoy him, but he is interpreting it as you ignoring him because you’re not into him.
I think that if you had a long conversation and connected then it means that there’s potential for you to connect further. The thing is… sometimes you have to put yourself out there and risk possibly being annoying or intruding. Sometimes you have to risk making a mistake or being rejected… If you’re too afraid to take a chance with someone else, chances are that they won’t risk taking a chance with you.
My feeling is that you should talk with him if you like talking with him – if you’re doing something he doesn’t like, he will let you know one way or another. But if you don’t say anything to him, he’s going to feel like you’re not interested.
I would say reach out and try to initiate contact once or twice. If he doesn’t pick it up and run with it, then I would say forget about it. It’s worth trying and if it doesn’t come together, you’ll know that you tried and you can move on.
If he doesn’t start initiating contact or making any sort of plans with you, it’s probably not worth it to put anymore hope or effort into connecting with him.
I can tell you as a guy that I’m used to having to make the first move. It’s just the way it is for guys. But if a girl initiates contact with me, it’s definitely nice. Even if I’m not into her, it never come off as desperate or creepy or weird. I’ve always just looked at it as friendly.
As with everything else though, this is my opinion based on what you’ve told me here.
Hope it helps.
- eric charles