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Six Annoying Traits Guys Wish Girls Would Get Rid Of


If I’ve learned anything over the years as a relationship writer, it’s that men and women really have no idea what the other side is thinking. Each gender also seems to have the same kinds of complaints against the other. And thus, the war of the sexes rages on!

On ANM, we spend a lot of time addressing the issues women have with their men. We talk about why guys act the way they do  (we even wrote a book on it!) and uncover what’s really going on inside their thick, manly skulls.

While that’s all well and good, I’ve decided to take a different approach with this article by revealing the common complains men have against us gals (as much as we hate to admit it, we also have faults!). I’ve consulted with our resident male-mind expert, Eric Charles, as well as some of my other close guy friends to find out some universal grievances men have. I have to admit, I’m totally guilty of committing a lot of these but whatever, you live and learn!

Read on for six annoying  traits guys wish girls would get rid of.

When a girl doesn’t take care of herself and just complains about her appearance. Don’t complain to a guy about your weight and get mad when he suggests you join a gym because what you really wanted was for him to tell you how hot your body is. If you’re not happy with it, why should he be?

• Making him feel guilty for things when really she’s just insecure. For instance, trying to force him to compliment you more and/or be more romantic because you are insecure and don’t trust his feelings for you. Guys don’t want to have to feel bad about your insecurities. If you’re struggling, he’ll be there to support you but don’t make your issues his fault.

• Not loving herself and having low confidence. A girl can be absolutely gorgeous with a killer body, but if she has no confidence, she will be unattractive to a guy and he won’t want to be with her. A woman is 1000x more sexy when she believes she has a hot body that he wants. Most girls don’t realize that true sex appeal is almost completely mental.

• Talking him out of compliments. Take his damn compliment! If he tells you that you look beautiful, don’t tell him you don’t and point out the breakouts along your chin. He’s not complimenting you for sport, he means it, so smile and say thank you!

• Trying to get him to do things by comparing him to her ex or to things he used to do. The worst way to do this is, “You used to bring me flowers every day, why don’t you do that anymore? My ex boyfriend brought me two dozen roses every single day.” This is the number one way to ensure he never gives you so much as a rose petal he found on the floor.

• Nagging and constantly complaining about his ways of doing things. Guys are all for self-improvement, but if you nag them, they will only grow to resent you and will do the opposite of what you want. If you want him to change a behavior, come from a place of love and appreciation, not criticism and frustration.

• Not showing appreciation. Men may come off all big and tough, but deep down they are starved for
appreciation and acknowledgment. They can’t stand it when women only hone in on the things they’re not doing rather than appreciating the nice things they are doing.
The moral of the story: love yourself, be confident, be proud of who you are and more importantly, what you look like. Also, try to put your gratitude goggles on and show your man some love and appreciation for all the things he does to make you happy, both big and small.

Yes, it may take work to break old habits and grow into a better version of you, but the differences you’ll experience, both in your quality of life and in the quality of your relationship, will make it all worth it.
- SABRINA ALEXIS

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poo yee

i did talking out of a guy compliment in the past XDD .NOw ,i did not anymore ,i say tq ;p

Reply December 25, 2013, 9:12 am

mary annie

Seriously? Women have this kind of presentation for the men in their lives? Is there any chance that accepting people as they are is part of the art and science of being with someone who is not exactly like you? And what is it with this self-centered female that she would need to bounce every dysfunctional insecurity off on a random guy? It sounds more like people throwing up walls and digging moats and stocking them with alligators in self defense as women walk the mine fields filled with the flakiest type of player men to move in civilized society since the free love bs of the 60′s. The only things these player doinks are missing these days is the lame polyester suits and the gaudy-awful gold chains.

Reply December 18, 2012, 8:08 pm

Jaz

Thank you for advising us what we shouldn’t do. But could you give us alternative ways to act in such situations? I mean other than saying what we shouldn’t say to a guy, could you include some examples of how we could say it and it would help? For instance in a situation where he stopped working as much around you, complimenting you and doing romantic things. Instead of saying “why’d you stop this..” Or “my ex would do that..” (which to me are obvious mistakes) how do you actually make him understand that you miss that in a non-accusing way? That’s what’s more tricky for me to know.

Reply October 31, 2012, 3:35 am

Jackie

First of all I think you need to evaluate the whole situation & what are the other things that your guy does for you other than those romantic stuff. Men express their love more by actions than words & its unfair to judge a man by simply giving out compliments or some romantic stuff. Second is you also have to look at the way you’re acting around him. Coz lets face it, we women are more emotionally driven & sometimes the things that we think are pretty normal for us & our girlfriends are to a man, it appears more like being a needy or clingy which isn’t good. I’m not a guy but I have a lot of guy friends who pretty much hates those stuff their women are throwing up on them.

Reply November 7, 2012, 2:55 am

Jaci

Ha! This was funny, and so true!

Reply October 30, 2012, 5:06 pm

Jaz

Hey, thanks for the replies, I especially agree with Kristina. One thing I have to say though is that I see you guys have kinda assumed that this is the situation I am currently in..which is not the case. Quite contrary. I have never been in a better relationship than now. My current boyfriend is caring, loving and romantic. He hasn’t stopped doing anything. I show him appreciation for all of his doings and I am happy with him. It’s just I know as well how bad things can be with a guy, and I don’t want it to head that direction with him. My point was really that I can see dating experts everywhere but what they tell us is what we should NOT to do, but not so much giving us examples of what to do and how. But thanks to the both of you for your replies.

Reply November 7, 2012, 1:03 pm

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