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18 Signs a Man Wants to Be With You (And He Wants a Serious Relationship)

What are the signs a man wants to be with you and is serious about you?

We’ve all had this thought — I mean, no one wants to waste their time and end up broken-hearted. There is nothing worse than being blindsided, and this happens all too often. You meet a guy, let yourself be overcome by fluttery feelings and you ride a wave of high hopes for what the future will hold … only to discover he doesn’t feel the same and doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you.

Discovering a guy you like doesn’t like you back is crushing. Conversely, discovering a guy you like really likes you back and wants to be with you and wants a serious relationship with you is exhilarating and quite possibly one of the most amazing feelings in the world.

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Fortunately, there are some pretty strong telltale signs that a guy is serious about you, they’re things that pretty much all guys do when they really like a woman.

And here they are…

Biggest Signs He’s Serious About You 

1. He is Transparent

You’ve never met a guy so honest. He expresses himself freely, talks about the future, and tells you how much you mean to him. If he doesn’t talk openly with you, then it’s a sign that he most likely doesn’t feel the way that you want him to feel about being in a relationship with you.

It is also possible he has his guard up, so it’s important to look at this alongside everything else on this list. Keep going.

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2.  He Goes Deep

The guy you like can sit for hours and hours talking with you. He wants to know everything about you. He asks a ton of questions. More than that, he listens and carefully remembers all the details. He’s genuinely curious about you and wants to discover all there is to know.

3.  He Wants to Be Exclusive


He doesn’t beat around the bush. He’s told you that he wants to be exclusive as a couple. You know exactly where you stand with him.

When a man doesn’t make his intentions known, you end up in a relationship no man’s land. You don’t know if you are exclusive, but you think that maybe you are. You’re not official, but you’re not seeing anyone else either.

A man who wants a relationship with you will make it clear that he wants you and only you, he won’t leave things open to interpretation and risk losing you to some other guy.


4. He Keeps His Promises

He promised to take you to a party on Friday night after a tiring day at work and he didn’t stand you up. A man who wants to be in a relationship with you will keep his promises to you. He won’t make empty promises. He doesn’t want to disappoint you.

As he becomes more invested, you become more and more important to him.  He will do everything in his power not to ever disappoint you. And if he does disappoint you, he will feel upset and will do whatever he can to make it up to you.

If it’s obvious to you that he makes you a priority, that he makes an effort not to flake or leave you hanging, that he really sticks to his word (if he says he’ll call you at 7, then he will be calling at 7!), you can be sure that he’s serious about you.

MORE: Signs He’s Just Not That Into You

5.  He Treats You Like a Priority

Happy couple lying in the park among leaves,enjoying in the beautiful autumn day.

This ties into the previous point. You come first in his life the majority of the time. You can’t be first every single time because that’s just not possible. Sometimes other things will take precedence, but even when that happens he will be sure to let you know that you are important to him.

Being a priority does not mean he’s going to abandon everything else going on in his life to spend all his time with you. And you wouldn’t want to be in a relationship like that anyway, it’s toxic, co-dependent, and unhealthy.

Being a priority means you matter to him. Your needs and wants matter. And you’re important to him. He won’t cancel plans at the last minute (unless it’s an emergency), and he also won’t make plans last minute.  He won’t leave you hanging, waiting on him. He carves out space for you in his life, you don’t need to shove your way in there.

When you’re a priority to a man, you don’t question how he feels, you don’t wonder … you just know.

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6. He Shows You Through His Actions

Talk can be cheap. It’s easy to say you like someone … showing it through actions is a different story. A man’s actions will show you exactly where he stands.

When a man is serious about you, it is written all over him. It’s in the way he looks at you and treats you. It’s also in the things he does. He’ll take himself off dating sites and apps when he wants to be exclusive to you. He’ll cut off all contact with exes, booty calls, and girls he was “talking” to. You become the main woman in his life.

MORE: 10 Telltale Signs He’s Ready to Settle Down 

7.  He is Settled in His Life


Your man owns a car, a checking and savings account with money put away, and has a great job. He’s financially stable and happy with his job. He has dishes and even knows how to cook. Maybe he’s looking to buy a house.

For men, timing is everything. If he still wants to go out there and live it up and sow his proverbial wild oats, then he probably won’t want to settle down anytime soon.

The number one way to know if he’s serious about you is he wants a committed relationship and what comes with it.  Attentiveness, commitment, creating a life and future together (and maybe even a family). That’s what he wants, and that’s what you want, so you are both rowing the boat in the same direction. You can’t fight against the tide, you’ll always lose. Remember, when a man says he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, believe him.

8. He Takes Your Opinions into Consideration

When he has a problem, he takes your advice into consideration. When he asks for your opinion, he also listens to it. He cares what you think and how you feel. He authentically respects what you say. Watch when he considers your opinions. Does he really consider them, or does he roll his eyes and makes you feel stupid?

MORE: Biggest Signs He’s Never Going to Settle Down With You

9.   You Haven’t Just Met His Friends and Family, You Know Them

Couple hugging outdoors

You’ve met his parents and family. You’ve met his friends. More than that, you spend time with them. You can tell if a guy is serious about you if you’re tight with his inner circle. He’ll bring you into his world and make sure you meet everyone who is important to him. He wants you to like them and them to like you.

10.  He Cares About What Your People Think of Him

When a man wants to be with a woman, he’ll respect her family. He will want your friends and family to like him. He might get nervous before meeting them. He might ask if they liked him afterward. He is very concerned with making a good impression. If a guy wasn’t serious about you, well … he just wouldn’t care.

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11.  Openly Talks About the Future


He talks about the future and all the things you could do together. His vision of the future is one that includes you in it, and he makes that known to you.

He doesn’t only make abstract, unrealistic plans either, like suggesting you quit your jobs and travel the world together. He’ll talk in concrete terms, he will let you know he wants to move in with you when his lease ends on June 1st and would you like to start looking for a place? He will have clear goals and deadlines and he will work towards a future that brings you even deeper into the fold.

12.  Your Happiness is His Happiness

A sign he wants to be with you includes that he does whatever he can to make you happy. He wants to make you happy, as your happiness makes him happy. He will pay attention to your wants and needs and make an effort to give it to you. A big secret most women don’t know about men is all a man really needs to be happy in a relationship is for his woman to be happy. That’s pretty much it.

But here’s an important point to keep in mind: your happiness isn’t his responsibility, it’s yours. And it isn’t his job to make you happy (it couldn’t be even if he was willing to).

In terms of what he can do, he does. He listens to your requests, tries to accommodate your wishes, and does thinks you say will make you happy. And he does it happily because he wants to make you happy.


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13. He Keeps in Touch

He always lets you know if something comes up, even if it’s something as small as being a few minutes late to hang out. He doesn’t disappear on you, then reappear and act like it’s no big deal and then get annoyed when you ask where he’s been. He stays in regular contact with you. He lets you know if he’s going to be busy or tied up. He factors your feelings in, and he keeps you in the loop.

You don’t get that sick, sinking feeling in the pit or your stomach that he suddenly lost interest and is “ghosting” you. If he does, for whatever reason, go for an extended period of time without reaching out (I’m talking, like, a day, not days), you know it’s because he has a good reason…and he does!

14.  He Loves Spending Time With You

This is a major sign that the guy you like wants to be with you. What determines whether a guy will commit to a  woman is how good it feels when he is with her. Guys move towards what feels good. When he can’t get enough of you, it shows that he is serious about you.

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15.  He Respects Your Boundaries


He hasn’t moved faster than you have wanted to. He respects you. He also respects the pace you’ve set. He respects your needs. If you wanted to wait before getting intimate, he’s okay with it. He does not pressure or coerce you in any way.

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16. He Wants to Share His Favorite Things with You

When a guy likes a girl, he wants her to like the things that he likes. He wants to let her into his world. He wants to show her his favorite things – favorite movies, books, activities, and hobbies. He doesn’t expect her to love these things as much as he does, but he still wants to share his passions. By sharing what he’s passionate about, he’s sharing a lot about himself.

17.  It’s Effortless

Your current relationship with him is easy. You can relax and just be. You don’t need to watch what you say and how you behave. You don’t have to write and rewrite a text a hundred times before pressing send. You don’t stress over the relationship. You can just enjoy your time together.

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18.  It’s Obvious

You just know that he wants to be with you. Other people can tell as well. He’s told you he does. He acts like you’re a couple already and treats you with the utmost respect and care. You might be insecure in trusting this, since you may have unresolved wounds from your past. But overall, you feel safe and secure in the relationship. You know he cares and you know that he isn’t going anywhere.

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If you’ve read this article and concluded that the guy you’re interested wanted to be in a serious relationship with you, congratulations! Now stop worrying about it and go enjoy it, you only get one beginning and you can never go back.  If you concluded that the guy you’re interested in doesn’t feel the same… it’s OK. It’s better to know now, right? Now you can free yourself to find someone who reciprocates your feelings.

MORE: 9 Signs Of A Man Who Will Never Stop Loving You

I hope this article helped you figure out if he’s serious about you. Before you make any decisions, you need to be aware of two key moments in every relationship that will determine if it lasts, or if you get your heart broken. At some point, a guy will ask himself: Is this the woman I want to commit to for the long term? The answer will determine everything. Do you know what makes a man decide that a woman is girlfriend material, as opposed to just a fling? Do you know what makes a man want to commit? If not, you need to read this article next: The #1 Things Men Desire in a Woman

The second relationship issue almost every woman will face is when he seems to lose interest and starts to withdraw. He doesn’t text back, he is less attentive, and something is just off. He seems like he’s pulling away and you might lose him completely— do you know what to do about it? If not, read this right now If He’s Pulling Away, Do This...

Biggest Signs He’s Serious About You:

  1. Signs He’s Serious About You:
  2. He is Transparent
  3. He Goes Deep
  4. He Wants to Be Exclusive
  5. He Keeps His Promises
  6. He Treats You Like a Priority
  7. He Shows You Through His Actions
  8. He is Settled in His Life
  9. He Takes Your Opinions into Consideration
  10. You Haven’t Just Met His Friends and Family, You Know Them
  11. He Cares About What Your People Think of Him
  12. Openly Talks About the Future
  13. Your Happiness is His Happiness
  14. He Keeps in Touch
  15. He Loves Spending Time with You
  16. He Respects Your Boundaries
  17. He Wants to Share His Favorite Things with You
  18. It’s Effortless
  19. It’s Obvious
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My boyfriend didn’t post my picture but he post another lady pictures and still telling me that he loves me,anytime I told him l’m not interested in the relationship anymore he will be begging me, bcos of the love I have for him and I will still accept him back despite the fact that he didn’t have my single picture on his phone except the lady pics. Should I leave him?


Reply July 18, 2021, 2:39 am

bibot rehava

he is not ment for your future,i’ve experience that situation from my ex bf..

Reply July 28, 2021, 11:19 pm


My boyfriend didn’t post my picture but he post another lady pictures and still telling me that he loves me is it true or not. Help me

Reply July 18, 2021, 2:21 am


ihave been with a guy for the past 2 mouths and ilove him most and the wife died so this guy we used to joke at each other even the wife was alive after the wife died he suched me asked ahard of relationship and gave him achance after sleeping with him he showed me no interest in me but when I call him no aswering my phone but when I keep quiet he suchs me and say why am silent but he is so cearing

Reply June 15, 2020, 1:36 pm


Hey he sounds like a jerk one night stand narcissist

Reply August 14, 2020, 12:51 am


Great, i like it!

Reply October 22, 2019, 7:36 am


I’ve been dating a guy for almost two years now (n he now lives with me) n previously we both went thru a bad marriage before we met each other, we were both mentally messed up in our previous marriages so of course there’s some
Things we gotta work on/get past etc, but I’ve shown him I’m nothing like his ex he was married to , n he always says I’m the perfect woman for him but sometimes he makes me feel like my feelings don’t matter, the other day a female friend of his posted a sick joke on his fb page n tagged him in it and this made me feel disrespected by his female friend so when I told him how it made me feel he made excuses for his friend n told me maybe my feelings were wrong… n I’m no expert but when u love someone aren’t u suppost to support them? After I talked to him I got ahold of his friend that I felt disrespected me n explained to her how what she did made me feel n she ended
Up apologizing, n he did too but not til after I told him she apologized and admitted she crossed a line etc, weird?…N also my bf is the type of guy that has ALOT of female friends (which he knows I’m not used to being with guys that have a lot of female friends) n i haven’t met any of his female friends yet nor has he tried to set it up for me to meet any of them yet, n when I asked him to slow down on making new chick friends just til I get used to the idea (I have a previous prob with guy I’m with having female friends cuz I was cheated on a lot, so we agreed in the start of our relationship to help each other etc) he said ok he will try to do that, but he hasn’t tried at all n since then has acquired 6 or more new female friends, mean I’m not against him having friends at all but I’m helping him get thru his past issues so why isn’t he caring to follow thru with helping me with mine? He even gets mad at me for not wanting to go to his kids sports practice with him, cuz honestly I just end up sitting there for four hours while he watches his son n plays on his cell…so I don’t see why I need to be there when I can be home helping my kids with there homework cleaning house etc, (practice is the only thing I don’t do with him, I go everywhere else with him tho) but last week he told me if I didn’t wanna go then he’d just invite one of his female friends to the practice , n he knows what I’ve been thru in my last marriage n knows I’m still working on trusting females and trusting in general so why would he say that to me? (At the beginning of our relationship he actually asked me how I felt about plans he had stuff he was gonna do before he did it so that way it would make me feel comfortable/good about it, but he stopped doing that as of lately, n just doesn’t tell me like he started to before) also he’s CONSTANTLY on his cell phone…I asked him for us to have one day a week with no cells for either of us so that we could actually communicate/ talk to each other no distractions etc figuring it’ll b a good thing for our relationship…well he did it once and hasn’t done it since (like a year) n when I brought it up asking why he hasn’t done it since then he made up some kinda excuse n made it sound like my fault.. n any time I bring something up that he don’t Like, he’s quick to try to throw it on me etc…also it’s weird that if I’m sitting next to him n I say something he says oh I didn’t hear ya but he will hear other things that aren’t even in the same room…idk..it’s weird.. I can’t read him at all n I’m not use to that…plz give me your opinion on how I should handle this relationship..? For now I’ve just been doing all I can for him n be there for him n try my best to give him space etc in hopes he’s just working thru stuff…but it’s going on 2 years he been with me n I’ve accomplished a lot of hurdles for him but seems he hasn’t tried to accomplish his for me… what do I do? Am I outta line to be upset over any of this? Am I just being paranoid etc? Please get back to me ASAP #goingcrazy

Reply September 22, 2019, 12:19 pm


I’m having a online dating friendship after a month conversing he told me he wanted to spend his life with me and he loves me we are middled age both happily divorced we experienced same why we devorced
Our interest are the same our colors ice cream
He tells me I’m his superwoman he wants no other woman to touch him
We have naturally from communication been very open and truthful
Guess what we have not met yet but we are planning to and we both can not wait for that very first kiss and to hold each other in our arms
He wants to be with me he can’t give me the world but I will never regret him loving me
Eric could this be a fairytale come true
Thank you

Reply August 3, 2019, 7:55 am


I’m not Eric lol but I may b able to help from personal experience :). Test this guy…when u do finally
Meet him , do not kiss him or hold each other etc…avoid that at all costs… but instead before U met for first time tell him yes u want to meet him but have recently thought maybe we should take it slow and meet and see each other as friends first for a few weeks or months (I made the guy I’m with now wait 4 months before we kissed or did any relationship type stuff, we stayed strictly friends those few months) n if the guy you are going to meet is fine with taking it slow and waiting til your ready and he’s still there for you after a few weeks or months n hasn’t dated ANY other woman while waiting for you then that shows that he just may be the one for you n it shows he sees your worth waiting for and that will make u feel really good knowing he waited that long for you/makes u feel special the way u should feel. Tell him you just don’t wanna jump into anything to fast and you just wanna do it right, n if he’s as into you as you say then this idea I give you will go off without a problem n ultimately make a stronger relationship for you…me r allow yourself to get swept up into new exciting relationships, u say u known each other for a month online n are taking bout kissing holding and being the one for each other so just remember hun…it’s only been a month so u might be letting your excited emotions take over n most of the time when u rush into relationships you or someone else gets hurt in the end, moving fast is not always better. So i give ya that idea for you to use as a safe guard to your heart/emotions.. remember anything good is worth waiting for n if he truly wants you then he will gladly do as u ask. Good luck Pamelina . I only say this to try to help. I’ve been hurt a lot n I know how bad it feels to be hurt so I give my opinion in hopes it’ll help another woman from getting hurt.

Reply September 22, 2019, 12:43 pm


hahha this is crazy but this is not always true, the man i was seeing showed all of this signs and told me he didn’t want a relationship after… that he didn’t feel ready,

Reply April 24, 2019, 8:59 pm


this is great , I love it

Reply April 3, 2019, 4:04 am


I love this

Reply April 3, 2019, 4:03 am


What happens when he shows all these things but he’s married and can’t seem to get divorced because wife refuses to cooperate and is in a completely different state??? And I as the woman he is involved with will not call myself his girlfriend because of his marital status!!!!???

Reply February 24, 2019, 7:52 pm


MAybe go talk to his ex wife n explain how u feel
About him…talk to her woman to woman as nice as you can, even if u don’t like her..pretend u do lol cuz if he’s the right man then talking to the ex beast will b worth it…worse she can do is say no, go talk to her or call her/video chat her etc maybe that will help her see that she need to let him go n divorce him so she can move on with her life…or worse comes to worse tell her ur dying an being Happy with him is the top on ur bucket list..n u cant die happy knowing the guy u love is married. guilt the witch into divorcing him (joking ;) ) Hope it works out for you!

Reply September 22, 2019, 12:54 pm


Where is the “search” to search your articles?

Reply February 23, 2018, 3:16 pm

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