What are the signs a man wants to be with you and is serious about you?
We’ve all had this thought — I mean, no one wants to waste their time and end up broken-hearted. There is nothing worse than being blindsided, and this happens all too often. You meet a guy, let yourself be overcome by fluttery feelings and you ride a wave of high hopes for what the future will hold … only to discover he doesn’t feel the same and doesn’t want to be in a relationship with you.
Discovering a guy you like doesn’t like you back is crushing. Conversely, discovering a guy you like really likes you back and wants to be with you and wants a serious relationship with you is exhilarating and quite possibly one of the most amazing feelings in the world.
Fortunately, there are some pretty strong telltale signs that a guy is serious about you, they’re things that pretty much all guys do when they really like a woman.
And here they are…
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Biggest Signs He’s Serious About You
1. He is Transparent
You’ve never met a guy so honest. He expresses himself freely, talks about the future, and tells you how much you mean to him. If he doesn’t talk openly with you, then it’s a sign that he most likely doesn’t feel the way that you want him to feel about being in a relationship with you.
It is also possible he has his guard up, so it’s important to look at this alongside everything else on this list. Keep going.
2. He Goes Deep
The guy you like can sit for hours and hours talking with you. He wants to know everything about you. He asks a ton of questions. More than that, he listens and carefully remembers all the details. He’s genuinely curious about you and wants to discover all there is to know.
3. He Wants to Be Exclusive
He doesn’t beat around the bush. He’s told you that he wants to be exclusive as a couple. You know exactly where you stand with him.
When a man doesn’t make his intentions known, you end up in a relationship no man’s land. You don’t know if you are exclusive, but you think that maybe you are. You’re not official, but you’re not seeing anyone else either.
A man who wants a relationship with you will make it clear that he wants you and only you, he won’t leave things open to interpretation and risk losing you to some other guy.
4. He Keeps His Promises
He promised to take you to a party on Friday night after a tiring day at work and he didn’t stand you up. A man who wants to be in a relationship with you will keep his promises to you. He won’t make empty promises. He doesn’t want to disappoint you.
As he becomes more invested, you become more and more important to him. He will do everything in his power not to ever disappoint you. And if he does disappoint you, he will feel upset and will do whatever he can to make it up to you.
If it’s obvious to you that he makes you a priority, that he makes an effort not to flake or leave you hanging, that he really sticks to his word (if he says he’ll call you at 7, then he will be calling at 7!), you can be sure that he’s serious about you.
5. He Treats You Like a Priority
This ties into the previous point. You come first in his life the majority of the time. You can’t be first every single time because that’s just not possible. Sometimes other things will take precedence, but even when that happens he will be sure to let you know that you are important to him.
Being a priority does not mean he’s going to abandon everything else going on in his life to spend all his time with you. And you wouldn’t want to be in a relationship like that anyway, it’s toxic, co-dependent, and unhealthy.
Being a priority means you matter to him. Your needs and wants matter. And you’re important to him. He won’t cancel plans at the last minute (unless it’s an emergency), and he also won’t make plans last minute. He won’t leave you hanging, waiting on him. He carves out space for you in his life, you don’t need to shove your way in there.
When you’re a priority to a man, you don’t question how he feels, you don’t wonder … you just know.
6. He Shows You Through His Actions
Talk can be cheap. It’s easy to say you like someone … showing it through actions is a different story. A man’s actions will show you exactly where he stands.
When a man is serious about you, it is written all over him. It’s in the way he looks at you and treats you. It’s also in the things he does. He’ll take himself off dating sites and apps when he wants to be exclusive to you. He’ll cut off all contact with exes, booty calls, and girls he was “talking” to. You become the main woman in his life.
7. He is Settled in His Life
Your man owns a car, a checking and savings account with money put away, and has a great job. He’s financially stable and happy with his job. He has dishes and even knows how to cook. Maybe he’s looking to buy a house.
For men, timing is everything. If he still wants to go out there and live it up and sow his proverbial wild oats, then he probably won’t want to settle down anytime soon.
The number one way to know if he’s serious about you is he wants a committed relationship and what comes with it. Attentiveness, commitment, creating a life and future together (and maybe even a family). That’s what he wants, and that’s what you want, so you are both rowing the boat in the same direction. You can’t fight against the tide, you’ll always lose. Remember, when a man says he doesn’t want to be in a relationship, believe him.
8. He Takes Your Opinions into Consideration
When he has a problem, he takes your advice into consideration. When he asks for your opinion, he also listens to it. He cares what you think and how you feel. He authentically respects what you say. Watch when he considers your opinions. Does he really consider them, or does he roll his eyes and makes you feel stupid?
9. You Haven’t Just Met His Friends and Family, You Know Them
You’ve met his parents and family. You’ve met his friends. More than that, you spend time with them. You can tell if a guy is serious about you if you’re tight with his inner circle. He’ll bring you into his world and make sure you meet everyone who is important to him. He wants you to like them and them to like you.
10. He Cares About What Your People Think of Him
When a man wants to be with a woman, he’ll respect her family. He will want your friends and family to like him. He might get nervous before meeting them. He might ask if they liked him afterward. He is very concerned with making a good impression. If a guy wasn’t serious about you, well … he just wouldn’t care.
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11. Openly Talks About the Future
He talks about the future and all the things you could do together. His vision of the future is one that includes you in it, and he makes that known to you.
He doesn’t only make abstract, unrealistic plans either, like suggesting you quit your jobs and travel the world together. He’ll talk in concrete terms, he will let you know he wants to move in with you when his lease ends on June 1st and would you like to start looking for a place? He will have clear goals and deadlines and he will work towards a future that brings you even deeper into the fold.
12. Your Happiness is His Happiness
A sign he wants to be with you includes that he does whatever he can to make you happy. He wants to make you happy, as your happiness makes him happy. He will pay attention to your wants and needs and make an effort to give it to you. A big secret most women don’t know about men is all a man really needs to be happy in a relationship is for his woman to be happy. That’s pretty much it.
But here’s an important point to keep in mind: your happiness isn’t his responsibility, it’s yours. And it isn’t his job to make you happy (it couldn’t be even if he was willing to).
In terms of what he can do, he does. He listens to your requests, tries to accommodate your wishes, and does thinks you say will make you happy. And he does it happily because he wants to make you happy.
13. He Keeps in Touch
He always lets you know if something comes up, even if it’s something as small as being a few minutes late to hang out. He doesn’t disappear on you, then reappear and act like it’s no big deal and then get annoyed when you ask where he’s been. He stays in regular contact with you. He lets you know if he’s going to be busy or tied up. He factors your feelings in, and he keeps you in the loop.
You don’t get that sick, sinking feeling in the pit or your stomach that he suddenly lost interest and is “ghosting” you. If he does, for whatever reason, go for an extended period of time without reaching out (I’m talking, like, a day, not days), you know it’s because he has a good reason…and he does!
14. He Loves Spending Time With You
This is a major sign that the guy you like wants to be with you. What determines whether a guy will commit to a woman is how good it feels when he is with her. Guys move towards what feels good. When he can’t get enough of you, it shows that he is serious about you.
15. He Respects Your Boundaries
He hasn’t moved faster than you have wanted to. He respects you. He also respects the pace you’ve set. He respects your needs. If you wanted to wait before getting intimate, he’s okay with it. He does not pressure or coerce you in any way.
16. He Wants to Share His Favorite Things with You
When a guy likes a girl, he wants her to like the things that he likes. He wants to let her into his world. He wants to show her his favorite things – favorite movies, books, activities, and hobbies. He doesn’t expect her to love these things as much as he does, but he still wants to share his passions. By sharing what he’s passionate about, he’s sharing a lot about himself.
17. It’s Effortless
Your current relationship with him is easy. You can relax and just be. You don’t need to watch what you say and how you behave. You don’t have to write and rewrite a text a hundred times before pressing send. You don’t stress over the relationship. You can just enjoy your time together.
18. It’s Obvious
You just know that he wants to be with you. Other people can tell as well. He’s told you he does. He acts like you’re a couple already and treats you with the utmost respect and care. You might be insecure in trusting this, since you may have unresolved wounds from your past. But overall, you feel safe and secure in the relationship. You know he cares and you know that he isn’t going anywhere.
If you’ve read this article and concluded that the guy you’re interested wanted to be in a serious relationship with you, congratulations! Now stop worrying about it and go enjoy it, you only get one beginning and you can never go back. If you concluded that the guy you’re interested in doesn’t feel the same… it’s OK. It’s better to know now, right? Now you can free yourself to find someone who reciprocates your feelings.
I hope this article helped you figure out if he’s serious about you. Before you make any decisions, you need to be aware of two key moments in every relationship that will determine if it lasts, or if you get your heart broken. At some point, a guy will ask himself: Is this the woman I want to commit to for the long term? The answer will determine everything. Do you know what makes a man decide that a woman is girlfriend material, as opposed to just a fling? Do you know what makes a man want to commit? If not, you need to read this article next: The #1 Things Men Desire in a Woman
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Biggest Signs He’s Serious About You:
- Signs He’s Serious About You:
- He is Transparent
- He Goes Deep
- He Wants to Be Exclusive
- He Keeps His Promises
- He Treats You Like a Priority
- He Shows You Through His Actions
- He is Settled in His Life
- He Takes Your Opinions into Consideration
- You Haven’t Just Met His Friends and Family, You Know Them
- He Cares About What Your People Think of Him
- Openly Talks About the Future
- Your Happiness is His Happiness
- He Keeps in Touch
- He Loves Spending Time with You
- He Respects Your Boundaries
- He Wants to Share His Favorite Things with You
- It’s Effortless
- It’s Obvious