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May 7, 2015 at 5:39 pm #426158
Is it just me or do all women hate when men ask for pics? It really annoys me and turns me off when a guy I just started talking to asks me for pics. Is this good or bad?May 7, 2015 at 5:45 pm #426159
Hi. Do you have no pics on display or do they just want more ? xMay 7, 2015 at 5:46 pm #426160
You are not alone. When I was doing the online thing that was my major pet peeve.
I would tell then to refer back to the site and that I didn’t feel comfortbale sending pics to a stranger.May 7, 2015 at 5:46 pm #426161
* comfortableMay 7, 2015 at 5:46 pm #426162
Your feelings are your feelings – but think of it this way:
Men are visual – that is how they get attracted. Period. It is a matter of biology.
Women connect through learning more – what he does, is he close to his family
So, to men, asking those questions are as intrusive and indeed mean you are asking for a resume.
If you want to date men, you have to be willing to show them what you look like, or date women, and even women care what you look like.May 7, 2015 at 5:48 pm #426163
Amy S, I have 6 pictures on my profile(4 body shots); I think that is more than enough.
Khadija, RIGHT! its just creepy to me and annoying.May 7, 2015 at 5:50 pm #426166
Amy S, They always seem to want more pictures of meMay 7, 2015 at 5:51 pm #426169
Talllady, Now that you go into detail it makes sense, but why can’t they just ask to meet up? They’ll get a chance to see the real thing in person.May 7, 2015 at 5:51 pm #426170
Talllady, Now that you go into detail it makes sense, but why can’t they just ask to meet up? They’ll get a chance to see the real thing in person.May 7, 2015 at 5:55 pm #426173
6 pics is more than enough.
While I understand men are visual, once I know them for some time they can have a few but, not right off the bat.
That’s why the first date should happen soon enough so that they can see in person what you look like or get a reminder if they already met you.May 7, 2015 at 6:00 pm #426174
Its a strange one. I came away from the online dating as it was too exhausting for me. The pictures it could be that some girls put on old ones where they look younger and slimmer than they do presently and they might be wondering if that’s the case. I don’t know, I would always say meet first as a picture is only one dimensional and personally I could never gauge attraction from a picture as they could be good looking but dull, quiet, shy or thick or lacking personality in which case looks don’t really matter lol x Do I sound brutal ? Good xMay 7, 2015 at 6:03 pm #426176
Hi ladies, I think if you have enough photos on a profile for a man to judge whether to initiate anything then it is creepy, otherwise I think it is valid. Because we can be pretending we don’t care about looks, but I need to feel attracted to a lady, and frankly, so do you to a man. Why wasting time.
(if he asks for kinky photos _RUN! I mean it!)May 7, 2015 at 6:27 pm #426196
yes!!! you could give them 10 and they still want more!! soooo annoyingJuly 2, 2015 at 6:17 am #439851
I absolutely hate it. It’s so creepy that I stop talking when they ask. Usually I’m not intetested in the guy anyway..it’s just a wsy to kill time. Asking for pics will get you on my shitlist and I’ll most likely ignore you.July 2, 2015 at 7:24 am #439856
I’m not sure why this is happening to you I’ve never once had a man ask me for more pictures. Are you on the verge of overweight? I don’t ask this to be mean, I ask it because that might be the issue. I’m pretty tall and slender and its very very clear from my photos if that’s the case, men want to know whether or not you are overweight or not. This is because women often misrepresent what they look like.
Six should be just fine especially if you have some full body ones. Don’t send any additional pictures.July 2, 2015 at 7:43 am #439859
it’s not about overweight. When they like your pics they want more and more. And they are never satisfied. I’m slender and had clear pics when I was online and the same happened to me. Some men are like that.July 2, 2015 at 9:22 am #439873
I’ve got plenty of pictures, and specify that they’re recent. Some guys insist on asking if I have Snapchat… right after we’ve started talking. No, dude. Just no.July 2, 2015 at 9:27 am #439874
Girls… asking for more pics, it’s mainly a ploy to get you talking off the site and get an email address from you. If you have enough photos up already, that’s probably the motive. I never send pics to people I don’t know, you never know where they will end up. There are horror stories about that. I also don’t answer men with no pics. Had one guy hand me a line about having trouble uploading them and when I pushed him he admitted he doesn’t want to post them. Guess what – then you shouldn’t be online dating! They don’t get, for a woman, it’s a safety issue.December 18, 2015 at 6:46 am #489249
Sure, but they can wait until they meet me.
I hate that they are so visual.
And not because I’m ugly.
I’m the opposite.
And it’s all they freakin well care about.
I hate them.
They suck.December 18, 2015 at 6:48 am #489250
I hate it too.
Ruins their chances with me completely.
I’m on this site because some creep just sent me a message.
Looking forward to chatting, but can I see some pics in the meantime?
No.December 18, 2015 at 7:30 am #489258
I hated that too! There was a time, when I only had one profile pic, and I realized, only one pic can be enough for men to approach me, no matter what. Jeez, when I had like 6 photos, there were creepy guys who would saw my pics many times a day without writing me….(disadvantage of the dating apps is, you can see who saw your profile and how many times lol)
(I sent only, when a guy sent me back or sent me first,then I responded back.(but only when we knew each others cell number and talked on the phone too!)December 18, 2015 at 10:39 am #489306
Any time a guy asked me to send him pics my assumption was that he was hoping I would send something racy.December 18, 2015 at 10:48 am #489307
Argh, this happens to me all the time. I politely tell them that “I do not like sending my pics to strangers, but we can plan a meeting” if they become defensive etc I stop talking to them…. Some actually ask for more pictures even after first date so…. its mysteriousDecember 20, 2015 at 3:45 am #489852
Problem is, this online and text crappola has become their substitute for meeting and dating.
That’s what offends me most.
If you want to SEE me, (and between you, me and the gatepost) I am worth ‘looking at’ however long that might last, so do the right thing and look at me while I am there with you, while you are buying me dinner or some other such thing.
Men are cheap and sleazy today.
I don’t like most of them.
At all.December 20, 2015 at 2:41 pm #489966
oh thank God. I thought I was the only one feeling like this. It is so bloody annoying and then when you deny them they think you’re being difficult.