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    Beth

    I know I want more than he can give me right now
    It really sucks
    I’m right now not going to reach out…
    I’m upset and mad and don’t want to act on emotion- even though he had
    I told Kate and Hannah i need to think
    I don’t like how things are- but I really need to think about things -and also what I want/need to say to him –
    I see therapist on Tuesday

    #492885 Reply
    Beth

    I’m going to be starting another therapists next week the one person I had was 4 free sessions through work

    #492886 Reply
    Beth

    I still really care for him

    #492892 Reply
    redcurleysue

    Of course you care. That would be standard for this very moment.

    I am glad you are posting what you are feeling…maybe you could start a journal about how you feel about this and post some of it here too. It may help clarify your mind writing it down. It will also prepare you for what you want to say when the time is right.

    #493753 Reply
    Beth

    Saw him the other day again…

    #494084 Reply
    Beth

    Still confused …..
    We’ve seen each other
    His dog just died
    Gave him the xmas gifts….
    Idk what’s going on

    #496325 Reply
    Beth

    It’s over – totally over

    #496334 Reply
    Tallspicy

    Well, thank goodness. Now you can pick yourself up with no hope. Take good care of you!

    What happened?

    #496345 Reply
    Jessica

    Beth,
    It’s going to be okay. You will get through this. What happened?

    #496350 Reply
    redcurleysue

    Beth…what happened….we want to know.

    What is going on?

    #496387 Reply
    Beth

    He was supposed to come over again last night and about 15 minutes before he was going to be here he sends a txt and said
    “Hi. I’m very sorry but I’m not coming over tonight. It doesn’t feel right. Sorry.”
    I asked for an explanation he said
    I just haven’t had and don’t have a good feeling about us. I’d rather we not see each other. I’m sorry. I do not want to talk.
    I said I wanted to come and get my stuff and I could come and get it and he said
    I’ll give you your stuff…of course and no problem. Please don’t use that as an excuse to demand a reason to come here. I’ll need time to find whatever you left here and can meet you tomorrow to give it back. No. I specifically started by saying I didn’t want to be there tonight. Please don’t come over
    He is supposed to bring my things today

    #496388 Reply
    Beth

    I feel like crap

    #496393 Reply
    Beth

    Worse than crap…

    #496404 Reply
    Tallspicy

    I am confused, were you pushing to see him last night after he said no?

    #496426 Reply
    Beth

    We had plans

    #496427 Reply
    Tallspicy

    Beth,

    I know you had plans, but your story above seems like when he cancelled you pushed and he thought you would push to see him. “Demand to come over”.

    I hate to be harsh, but this seemed like the likely outcome off all of this mess. He never recommitted and you agreed to crumbs.

    I am happy it is over so you can really move on. I hope therapy is helping, but it does not seem that way…

    #496478 Reply
    Beth

    I’m not happy

    #496479 Reply
    Jessica

    Beth, you really have to let him go and have faith that the universe has something better in store for you. This wasn’t it – and it’s okay. We’ve all had heartbreak – I have – so I know how you feel. You will get through this. You do not need him in your life to be happy.

    #496487 Reply
    Happy

    Ladies.. Can we let her therapist handle this? This is beyond what anyone here is trained to handle,

    #496489 Reply
    Ashley

    Beth I’m sorry you’re hurting but you really need to let this go. This has went on far too long. Don’t you want to move on & feel happy again? You can’t be happy again if you continue to dwell on this man. This is not the man for you, that is a good thing, that means there is better out there for you. We all have had breakups & heartbreak. Some go through many heartbreaks, far far worse than yours. It happens, but then it ends, & life goes back to how it was before that person. This is over, you need to stop giving this situation power over you & let it go like he has.

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    Lexi

    Codependent relationships are very unhealthy. It’s likely that this guy felt very smothered by you and couldnt take it anymore. It’s too much pressure on a guy to be responsible for a woman’s happiness.

    #496547 Reply
    teri

    700 posts and counting….WOW. its good to see how involved and invested these women here are. I hope all good things come to you Beth.

    #496778 Reply
    Beth

    I don’t know what to say…

    #496966 Reply
    beth

    I know it is stupid but my thoughts are so jumbled

    #496967 Reply
    anonymous2

    Beth, not to hurt your feelings or insult you or anything, but at 700 posts you could try saying thank you for all the support. While you don’t owe anyone here a response as Eric has said, you’ve gotten a great deal of attention and concern and a little gratitude would not only be welcome, it might help you feel better too.

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