… (Previous page – Ask A Guy: Can A Girl Say ‘I Love You’ First?) I believe that it is a bad strategy to think about relationships in terms of who has “the power”. I do think there’s value in thinking about the level of openness each person can offer.
Finally, a question comes up as to whether a guy will just say it if he loves a girl. Well… a big problem is that “love”, as a word, is very loaded and it can mean a hundred different things. You can love ice cream. You can love your dog. You can love your mother and father. You can love your best friend. And these are all legitimate and different forms of love.
And in terms of romantic love, the word can still mean a ton of different things. “I love you because I am loyal to you,” “I love you because I want the best for you,” “I love you because you make me feel good about myself,” “I love you because we have a deep connection and understanding for each other,” “I love you because I am really excited by you,” “I love you because I am infatuated with you,” and the list goes on and on.
My point in all of this is that it’s one single thing a guy is saying to you. It’s not useful to focus on without taking the whole relationship into account. It’s not a magical phrase that will make all of your dreams come true. It’s not a promise of “forever”. And it doesn’t mean the same thing for every guy – it is very personal.
Look at the context – the big picture. Context will tell you what you really want to know.
All in all, I would say make things easy on yourself: Look at the relationship as a whole. If it’s good overall, don’t sweat it. If it’s not, whether or not he says it isn’t going to change anything.
– eric charles