… (Previous page – Ask a Guy: How To Fix My Relationship) will make you happy is so destructive is because when you believe that, you also believe you could lose the relationship… and therefore lose your happiness… and therefore somehow be less than you were before, or that your life would somehow now be lacking.
My very best relationships are always characterized by the quality of what it’s like to be with that person. Is it fun, light, and enjoyable? Or is it dark, draining ,and drama-filled? Or did it start out fun/light and end up heavy/dark/drama-filled?
It’s always about what it feels like for the guy… if things feel good in the moment for the guy, he will want more. If things stop feeling good in the moment, he won’t… it’s that simple. If he feels like you are always wanting more from him, and are never satisfied with what he’s giving, then doing things for you and being around you won’t feel good and he’ll stop.
What makes a man feel good around you comes down to your mood. Your mood comes from how you engage with every moment of your life… from how you interact with him right down to the privacy of your own thoughts when you are alone.
Do you relate with every moment of your life with happiness and enjoyment… like you are loving and enjoying being part of the “happy dream” that is life? This is a woman whose mood will radiate an irresistible energy that attracts love from every direction.
Or are your waking moments characterized by moments of fear and cravings, interspersed with very occasional moments of relief? This is a woman whose mood will repel love without having to say a single word….
Your mood… your happiness… and how you engage with life will determine the energy you radiate. That, in turn, will entirely determine if you attract love or repel it, and if you can find true happiness and satisfaction in your relationship.
Hope that helps,