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Ask A Guy: He Said He’s “Not Good Enough For Me”


I’ve been seeing this guy for 6 months and we decided to officially become a couple after about a month of dating.  Lately he’s been withdrawn and doesn’t give me nearly any attention.  When we’re together we sleep together, but recently he became really emotional (like he was going to cry) and was telling me that “I deserve better than him” and that “he’s not good enough for me.”  What does my boyfriend really mean when he says that?

Well, at the risk of being too blunt and direct… he’s basically saying that he doesn’t love you as strongly as you seem to love him.

He’s not saying you deserve a better man than him.  He’s saying you deserve a better love than he feels for you or believes he will ever feel for you.

That’s not to say he doesn’t love you.  He may love you very much… but not feel very “in love” with you at the moment.

As for him looking emotional and tearful when he’s saying this, it’s probably because he genuinely cares for you, he doesn’t want to hurt you or break your heart and there’s still a large part of him that likes having you around.

One way to put it is that he genuinely feels that he’s “cheating you out of real love” and that he no longer sees the future that he once saw with you.

So given that you’re at this crossroads, you have a choice:  Do you fight to rescue the relationship or do you let him go?

If you are reading this article and you’re in this exact situation, I would imagine that you’d want to do anything to create that kind of love with him.

On the dating advice newsletter list, I talk extensively about how to really reach a man so he feels that kind of love for you.  But in this article, I will quickly go through a few things you can try to revive the relationship.

Before I do though, I want to make a point about relationships: the biggest issue I ever see with relationships is that people want to “shove a round peg through a square hole” (so to speak). In other words, before you go trying to force your relationship to work, ask yourself a few questions:

a)  How do I feel about myself in this relationship?  Do you love yourself and your life more while you’re in this relationship… or are you worrisome, stressed out and insecure?  If it’s the latter, that’s a good indicator that this relationship might be worth leaving…

b)  How deeply do you feel you know and understand the person you’re with?  (Note: I am not asking how deeply you love them, how “close” you feel or anything like that…)

Do you feel you can read them like a book?  Or do you feel like they’ve always had a wall up to you and you’ve only gotten to know a surface level of them but have otherwise been at a distance?

True love and intimacy requires that you and your partner can let each other in.  Some guys don’t like to talk about things, but they have ways to show their love (see How Do Men Show Their Love?)

On the other side of this if your guy became closed over time, then it might be because you’ve unknowingly stopped doing the things that made him feel love for you in the first place (let’s talk about that in a moment).

c)  Are you happy, fulfilled and secure in your own life?  For your relationships to work, you must show up first as a happy, fulfilled, secure person.

Think of the women you know who are always talking about how men are using them or the man they’re dating isn’t treating them how they wish he would.  The women who complain about these sorts of things are are usually insecure, unhappy and unfulfilled in their life in general.

If you really want a relationship that works out, then you MUST finally get yourself together.  Fill your life with things that make you happy and feel fulfilled.

And finally KILL those insecurities.  Being insecure about things is both a habit and a lifestyle.  It stems from the belief that worrying or obsessing about something you don’t like will accomplish something…

It won’t.  When you get down to it, you really only have two choices with insecurities:  Either CHANGE whatever it is that you’re insecure about or OWN IT.

If you can change it, commit to change it NOW.  Have a game plan that you are working on every day to have it handled.  For example, if you want to get fit and shed some extra weight, DO IT – get into action NOW and stop driving yourself crazy with feeling bad about it. By taking action and handling what you don’t like, you will feel in control and in charge of your life.

And if you can’t change what you don’t like about yourself… own it.  Embrace it and accept it as a part of you.  I know it sounds cliche, but you must love yourself, all of yourself, before anyone else can truly love you.

OK, so let’s say that you want to turn this situation around and try to save your relationship.

Fair enough, I’ll tell you a few tips that will give you the best shot to save your relationship.  But keep in mind – not all relationships are “meant to be.”  Sometimes in the long run, a relationship is best off ending if it ultimately isn’t a good match.

First, let’s talk about you.  Like I said earlier, you need to show up in the relationship happy, fulfilled and secure. This might be particularly hard for you at this point since you might be worried about your relationship collapsing and that worry is poisoning your mood and mental state.

I realize it’s tough, but it is at this time that it’s MOST important to stand on a firm foundation emotionally.

All to often I see women who are unfulfilled, unhappy or insecure jump into a relationship and start to look to the relationship as the Holy Grail of happiness in their life. They fixate entirely on their relationship and use it as an emotional crutch… their relationship makes them feel fulfilled, secure and happy. Inevitably something happens and then comes the worry.  Maybe the guy didn’t text back right away or he said something that sounded negative.

And very quickly you go from that happy, love-filled woman to an insecure mess, analyzing every detail of your relationship and desperately clinging to every little clue that could reassure you that he cares.

That’s when the big shift happens… you go from effortlessly filling the relationship with your positive energy to constantly needing to suck reassurance and confidence out of the relationship. You go from being fun and carefree to be around to being an insecure mess of emotions, desperately reacting to every one of the guy’s actions and “chasing” the relationship.

Now with all this new worrying and insecurity about the relationship, your focus becomes the worrying and not the relationship itself.  You lose sight of what you were putting in at the beginning of the relationship… and what you were putting in might very well have been exactly what attracted him to you in the first place (and made him feel love for you…)

Again, if you want deeper details on how to do this, get on my newsletter cause I go into great detail.

But the quickest and easiest solution is to first make sure you have a fulfilling, happy and secure life.  So that means having your own hobbies and fulfilling activities, going out with your female friends and having fun instead of staying in hoping that he’ll call you.  And that means either handling what you don’t like about yourself or finally owning it.

As for the relationship, your focus should be on recreating the first days of the relationship… those were the days that brought him in initially, so it’s highly likely that’s what he loved most.

Think back to how you were and what you would do with him.  How did you act?  How did you dress?  What kinds of things did you do together (or did you do for him)?

Whatever it was (even if you did less for him in those days), it’s highly likely that the initial 3 months of your dating contains the “secret formula” of what was working for you both.

It is common for people after the initial 3 months of a relationship to start getting lazy.  They stop doing the things that initially attracted the other person and then they wonder where the love went!

After the initial period of euphoric love feelings wears off… love becomes a choice.  If you’re lazy about it and decide to focus on your own worries and insecurities more than the relationship itself, you will end up draining more and more life out of your relationship.

But if you can rewind your mental clock to those initial days where love was growing, I think you’ll find a lot of things you were doing that you can start doing again.

Hope it helps,

eric charles

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Cha

I had to stop reading the response for this article. The OP wrote that her guy started crying and got all emotional then said, “I’m not good enough for you…” How does this make it the girls problem. Clearly her boyfriend has something he needs to work out, not her. She isn’t being needy/selfish/demanding/insecure/any of the other things you claim women project onto a relationship. He could have cheated on her firstly. Maybe he’s unsure of sexuality. Maybe he’s unsure of himself as a person in a loving and committed relationship (ding-ding!). The problem here is that the guy is clearly insecure in the relationship. He’s being honest and somewhat vague about it (if there was more info from the OP, that would help shed more light) and its very confusing to understand to say the least. I understand the confusion to be honest, and I would also have asked around about that if faced with this situation. Stop telling women that they are the problem when clearly there’s no evidence of this in their statements, and give them a chance to understand what’s really going on from the male perspective. If you’ve never been that guy, that’s fine. All the thing’s you’ve written before doesn’t always apply. Telling a woman to stop being insecure (or whatever else you can project on her) when she clearly isn’t, won’t make her a better half of the relationship she’s in. Help her fix it if it needs fixing but, don’t sit there and write a it’s-all-your-fault-he’s-like-that/said-that response.

Reply June 5, 2014, 1:25 pm

Eric Charles

It’s not the woman’s problem, but when someone writes a question to me, there’s only one person they have control over – themselves.

So I address how they can handle it because that’s what they’re asking for. There is ZERO value in placing blame or deciding who’s fault it is. What does that accomplish?

My complete answer:

Ask a Guy: Why Is It Always The Woman’s Fault?

Reply June 5, 2014, 1:34 pm

Chris

My boyfriend just ended our four month relationship by text for the same reason. “I deserve better”. We started the relationship before the holidays. He went to his parents for both Thanksgiving and Christmas. He told me that he didn’t want to keep in touch over Thanksgiving week. This is when my doubts of our relationship began. Why can’t he pick up the phone and call? Christmas week was better with communication. During that week we talked and made plans for the day he returned to have our Christmas together. That day came and I didn’t hear anything from him. He called the next morning and wanted to stop by for a quick visit to drop off my gift. I was upset about him blowing me off the day before and let him know. He seemed sincere in his apology, emotional and very detailed about family issues on his end. We didn’t talk much all week following because of his hours at work.. His son came to town for New Years, I had hoped we would bring in the year together but he only wanted to spend it with his son. He never offered to introduce us even thou I have introduced him to my daughter. We talked and decided to start over with open hearts and no walls.. His reason for his earlier blow off was now that he is feeling too close and is afraid to let me in. Two fantastic weeks later, he goes out of town for work and I don’t hear a thing from him. Before leaving he called me, sincerely upset about having to leave and wanted to see me before. I couldn’t get away from work. We made plans to get together the evening he returned. I didn’t call or text all week, left it up to him. He returned and again blew off our plans.
I took a few days break from him so I could get my thoughts/feelings together. He comes over we talk, he promises to be better at communication. Two days later, a text breakup. Basically telling me that I am wonderful, his personal and work stress has taxed us and I don’t deserve it. He has let me down too many times and been away too many times to recover. Complete turn around from 2 days earlier.
When I look back, I realize that he was not vested in the relationship. Not to mention the fact that we rarely had sex. I would initiate and he thought he was too fat to take his clothes off. Excuses

Reply February 1, 2014, 10:42 am

Gabriela

When a guy cries and tells you “you deserve better than him” what that means is that he is cheating on you and you DEFINITELY deserve better than him. So Run!

Reply November 30, 2012, 2:15 pm

please help me?

hey what does it mean when you ask a guy out through facebook or another internet source and he responds with”sure but don’t ask me on here”?

Reply November 3, 2012, 1:00 pm

Charm

I need help
my boyfriend never seem to have time for me!
he is always willing to hang out with him friends in fact they go everywhere with us!
and when he is not with them he is playing game!
I am really getting annoyed!!!!!
am I asking too much from him?
help me please cause I do not want to break up a good guy because I am being selfish….

Reply October 30, 2012, 8:23 pm

Taylor erhart

What do I do if the guy I love and the guy I’m dating (same person) recently stopped talking to me without notice but didn’t break up with me? And I have no way of knowing if he’s okay.

Reply October 17, 2012, 9:04 pm

Cayla

My and my bf just brokeup after a year and 8 months. It just really sucks because I never thought I would get dumped!! I am way out of his league and I still got dumped…of course I loved him and looks don’t really matter to me but everyone always commented on it, and he always said that I was better looking than him. Anyways our relationship had always been distant in the beginning, we were both the single type of people who didn’t even want a relationship…it was a hookup thing for 4 months that finally turned into a relationship when he randomly asked me out one day. I honestly to this day think that he just wanted to see if he could get me to love him. Well he was successful in that, and I waited about a year for him to even say he loved me…the whole relationship was me trying to get him to chase me. Thats not what I think a relationship should be like, and I always felt like I had to ignore him when I really just wanted to hangout. Every weekend he would have to go to the bars with his friends, go spear fishing, go fishing, play baseball, ect. I think its good to have hobbies but seriously how many hobbies can a person have? He was obviously into himself from the beginning and I’m sry i never saw it. Well anyways the longer we were together the closer I got to him, but after about a year the closer I got to him the more I kept realizing his feelings remained at a stand point. I started to question everything and questioned if I was being needy, which I figured I wasn’t. He only saw me when it was convenient for him, and I guess I became to available the closer I got to him. I work and go to school, I hardly have any time but the time I did have I wanted to see him because we NEVER hungout till about 10pm at night so most of out time spent was sleeping…it wasn’t the ideal situation. This post helped me a lot because I realized that I was more in love with him because thats the normal way that your supposed to feel. He is just scared and is about to graduate while im still going to be in college till im basically 30 and i think this really scared him. He doesn’t want to be held back and I understand that, and respect it. Its just sad that everytime i would bring up him leaving he would push it aside and I think that was selfish of him. He would say that he was moving to SF and would be able to drive to see me when he left, all that might have been true but I know deep down he just wanted to end it…I wanted it to work so badly and I will miss him terribly…just really sucks. I’m 20 years old and I know I will find someone who fits me more, but it just sucks im going to see him till May and idk if I can take him saying he wants me back and not giving in when I know it won’t work….I just had to get this out and hope it helps someone. If the guy your with is being distant from the beginning then just leave, its not worth it to feel like you have to be “chased” for almost 2 years. You should be pretty comfortable with the guy your with, and shouldn’t feel like you have to get his attention in any way, he should make an effort to see you and he should come to you, don’t go to him to see him all the time. That was my mistake, the guy comes to you not the other way around…pretty heartbroken right now but I know its for the best and all I can do is keep doing what ive been doing but without worrying about getting attention from anyone…

Reply October 6, 2012, 11:06 pm

I'm free

I love this article. I’ve always felt self-confident, content and satisfied with myself however for the first time in my life I found myself in a relationship that filled me with doubts, questions and insecurities. I have a stable career and strong social circle and have NEVER felt dependent on a man. I met this guy a year and a half ago and almost immediately felt a really intense, crazy connection with him on a physical, emotional and spiritual level. We dated on and off during that period and even though we had such an incredible time together I always longed for something more. He told me he was in love with me yet he’d only want to see me once or twice a week. I’m not needy however I want to spend a bit more time with my significant other then just once or twice a week especially when they don’t have anything else going on. We had extreme highs and lows. When things were happy and easygoing he would shower me with love but as soon as I tried communicating to him about something on my mind he would shut down, stop talking to me and threaten to leave me. I finally broke free of this really unhealthy relationship about a week ago. My point here is that it’s so important to trust your gut and intuition. If the relationship isn’t enhancing your life and you feel like something is off it’s time to cut your losses. I felt this the entire time yet I didn’t have the courage to say goodbye for good. We can’t worry about loss. If you’re happy, fulfilled and healthy you’ll walk if you’re not getting what you want or if someone isn’t treating you as you desire to be treated. This site has amazing advice and really good points. I hope I can apply this in my next relationship :-)

Reply June 2, 2012, 11:46 am

Please Help Me

Hello, this is the first time I have ever been on anything like this.i have few questions about Ex-boyfriend Brian. When we first started dating he always had my balc, he was romantic and said the just sweetest words every day, he then would go to work and I got a call everyday at his lunch break and he always told me, I was so beautiful, what r u doin with me? Then he would ask me in the hell have you been my entire life. Sounds like a fairytale? Right? After a year of being blissfully happy, no doubts in my mind, I move my daughter into his house. And the the fairytail went out the window! I didn’t do anything the I was supposed to. I don’t his laundry correctly so screamed at me to stop do any of his laundry. From there on out became seperate pleople, we weren’t a couple trying to live together in harmony, but after the laundry rant, I saw exactly what was coming. He didn’t want share money, what was his was his and what was mine was mine. In the last year and a half he has only paid the mortgage and insurance; approx $650 and he gets the equity for that whole time, me on the other he didn’t want name on ANYTHING whatsoever, except my car. I got stuck with absolutely everything else…..groceries (the man like meals prepared for him) water,satellite, Internet,gas, electictric. Home phone, and cell phones ( only for my daughter And have it together. He has a seperate on plan alone and put a lock to get on his phone so I can’t use it) I am quite sure that. Either of us have cheated with anyone, we are different in a lot of ways, he is 7 older 41 and he loves to get up earlier and I do not, I would if I was properly woken up the right way;) so I confronted him and told him I don’t think is working ( with hopes he would come back say I don’t know, I know we both need to put some effort in some, he was heading to golf and said cool I will try gotta run. Comes home in his mad search for dinner, that I didn’t make. We start to argue, and he say I just do think we can live together anymore. But mad cause I was busy and didn’t make dinner? Mad because My car was parked to deep in the garage, mad because my 11 yr gets excited everyday to tell me
About her day and drops her backpack by the do, al he would have to do is ask her please pick it up. In the other hand he has a son that 5, with real serious issues that have not been diagnosted yet. Althought schools have been recomending him to go special Ed class, he doesn’t them. He is in professional lalalala land, and what makes it worse is Steve is kind of a lazy dad, he get him
Everyother fri sat that’s it, he brings him in terroriZes the house, calls my daughter name and may even throw milk on the way, because he felt like it. I have in 3 years of this never seen or heard him get into trouble!!!! Not once!!! I even bit a hole in my daughters shit WHILE SHE WAS WEARING. He never had a bed time for him, the would lay in the recliner he’s alltime favorite place and this kid went wild. I would typically hide in my bedroom as well as my daughter. I was never felt like I could yell or discipline since nobody else ever did??? So yes 2 weeks ago I found a rental and had majority all at the new house by that evening. Just had 1more day and it would be great! When I walked in, I have never in my life, and the sweetest good ol country boy was MAD and I mean I have never seen such evil mean hatred. We had been getting alon previous in the week we even grilled each dinner together and ate. I said I was name that I will say this I have never been called a c**t in my life let alone screamed up in my face. He told me if I didn’t leave now. He will all of my shit sittin outside the waiting for B***H. So needless to stay considering I didn’t trust what he would do with my shit I was afraid he would have bonfire. But I up at 6am and just started throwing things in my car, then. Called friends and there spouse and we had it done, I rudely handed his, and had forgot that his garage door opener. He new me for 3 years and was with me thru my divorce and I wanted away from everything of his and he was a nuclear pharmacist, walked away from everything, because as far as I concerned, he went to school and worked hard, it’s not mine. But now Brian he is accuse me of stealing pans, suite case, ink, pens, sheets? Toilet paper? Toothpaste all that I did technically bout. So he is still mad ass hell, I sent him an email about 1:30 about what my opinion of him
Was, what are u trying prove, we don’t fight? So he never has raised his voice at me ever, like I said this man made me feel so happy and safe!! He woke up the next morning begging me to apologize and I just rolled over and told not to worry because the c***t will without a doubt have every last bit of my stuff out of ur house!! He was pleading wih me to forgive him for the hateful just horrible things that he had said to me. Personally all I wanted was to get out there quick! And I did, of course we a couple moves apart and u have a bunch of people helping you are going grab so of the wrong dishers, luggage, socks, t shirt. So we have had small contact. But I sent him a message Saturday night if he would allow my daughter and I could take him to the local park for an hour or so, she has a present for him and she desperatelty misses him. I told him I would prefer if he didn’t join us because feel like u said all that u needed to say to me last weak. He said I hav you mail can u come by and let me really truly wanted to sincerely apologize to my face. So I did, we talk for awhile and he put his arms around me soft we hugged for ten minutes just holding each other, tighter and tighter and tighter! Then he wedged in and kissed me, for 5min or so. I use to whine that we never kiss anymore and all night we Probly kissed for over a solid hour, we went to bed, obviously did It over and over and over again. But Sunday morning he jumps up at 8:30am and said he needs to take a shower so and he was supposes to play golf at 9am. So I got up and got dress, he walked down the hall and told me thanks for coming, no hug, I just said see ya round. That was Sunday morning, the first time I heard from him since was tonight. Sente a message because I packed his suitcase and heis leaving for family vacation, there was no sorry I haven’t called u lately, sorry that we didn’t that…something? But nope, he left truck running and I had the luggage outside waiting on u. He said that’s, Ill see ya!
So much question here is was I just a booty call here? It had only been 2 weeks! Or was he thinking if I get her to sleep with me then that to me means apology accepted. He has been down for weeks and really stressing about what he had said until now, I have let him off the hook! Or is he by chance wanting me back as much as I want him back, he said he got mad because we took the furniture and reality had set in. So did I get played, or did I get a sign that it’s not 100% over? Please help!!

Reply May 30, 2012, 5:40 am

Sam

I would like some advice with the withdrawing of men when dating. I recently got divorced and met a 30 year old through a mutual friend. We began through Facebook later texting. I lived in a different state but was looking to relocate an he away from him. We have a 6 year gap and he is. Very successful busy cancerian! Things went great while td ring an during the first month when I still lives in a different state. Do to me moving I did make two trips to the new town and we met up both times and had a great time. He actually helped me move down! I moved and things were still the same we would hang out once a week since he works crazy hours . He would call twice a week just to check in while going to whatever activity he had either volleyball softball shooting trap….work! Things were always good and when he would text I began to give space and not text right away. The phone calls stopped and I decided I could call once! He did answer and it was a quick how are things well great. We haven’t seen each other for over two weeks but currently he is training for a marathon…yea soo busy. His last relationship was long distance and at times would go month without seeing his girlfriend. During the withdrawal I felt I also needed to withdraw. I began to mimic his texting etc. The sweet nothing’s stopped and one day I nicely text him goodnight and that I missed him. His response was you don’t talk much. Well I then informed him that it works both ways and he said he would try harder. I also did let him know I have stepped back but he also has! He knows I like him but I am not sure how modern dating happens! Please help! Oh yea a few times we didn’t make weekend plans and I would let him know I would be going out with my girls etc and he would response well maybe you will find a cooler guy….or cool have fun! When e would do this I would just ignore him! Please help

Reply May 17, 2012, 4:01 pm

Not needy anymore

This write-up really addresses what exactly I am going through now. I just ended a one and half year relationship three days ago. The process to break-up was not easy because I knew this guy loved me but I was more in love with him. The love we had for each other was equal in the beginning but he slowly pulled away because I think he still has feelings for his exes and was finding difficulty in making a decision on who to settle his heart with. Yes can you believe it, he has feelings for two women.
I read all the love e-letters and relationship blogs I could lay my hands on to try to save my relationship. The reverse ultimatum, silent treatment, if he dont call dont call, played hard to get advices all worked but at the end of the day I was able to determine that I would be wrong if I make this man commit to me for the wrong reasons so I had to let go.
How did I come to that conclusion? For the same exact reason your man told you “You deserve more than me” When he made this statement, in my heart I knew it was done. Most women will be flattered but that is really not what a man truly in love will tell you to make you feel good. Yes there are men who believe their woman can do better (but I think this is in terms of finances and gifts and not the amount of love they feel for you) but if they truly want you they will not tell you something like that, they will convince you that they are a better man for you regardless of what any other man can provide for you that they cannot provide.
Two weeks ago, I scared him with a temporary break which prompted him to stop communicating with this other chic as I had desired from him. I was so happy that this worked. Then the emotional imbalance started again. Although he started talking more about settling down, I did not feel the sparks like I used to when we first met. I felt like he was pressured by family and friends to make this relationship work because it was the best they have ever seen him in. I know I am a catch and a good woman so he will never let go of me easily even if he felt it was not right. So I knew the final exit decision is better to come from me now before we hurt and scar each other for someone else.
So after months and months of deliberation and considering if its time to move on, I broke up with him graciously. His exact words were ” Only you can love yourself better than anyone else. I am truly happy with your courage. I think your idea of me not knowing what I want is really funny. I wish you best of luck” Hmm those words lingered on for hours and then I smiled because it kinda assured me that I made the right decision. He did not have the courage or the balls to end it with me so I am glad i did.
I feel more empowered now that I freed him and also freed myself for future opportunities to come my way. I know true love is out there and I will not give up. I have truly learnt my lesson. One thing I will never do again is give all of myself to any man until I get a full commitment even if he is financially low, I will not feel like I am in the position to help me unless I am getting a 100% full blown commitment with him showing all efforts relentlessly. Yes I know my worth.
And please stop listening to friends. They kept telling me that I am in his life to change him and I should not worry about other woman. Bottom line is it bothered me and I should have exited a long time ago instead of accepting crumbs on the table which I did not deserve.
I am happy and have been socializing a lot. I know he will contact me soon, but I am going to be firm with my decision because only I know whats best for me and what I deserve and I dont believe that he can give me what I want even if he loved me. Stay true to your feelins ladies. And listen to your inner intuition. Its powerful!

Reply April 2, 2012, 12:54 am

Thankful.

Thanks so much for posting that. It was so helpful to hear your experience. I admire your strength to walk away from something that you knew wasn’t right. I would love a relationship but I’m not happy and fulfilled in my life right now. I’m desperately trying to change things to make it better but I’m finding it difficult. One of the things is that I’ve never had a relationship or anything close to one. Just dating then the guy starts pulling away or disappears. I guess I just have to keep trying to be fulfilled.

Reply April 6, 2012, 8:02 pm

Debra

Wow these stories are very empowering. Im struggling with myself at this very moment to make a huge decision about my current relationship. Ive been seeing this man for 2 1/2 years now, He is 61 and i am 48. He lost his wife to cancer in 09. When we started dating, it was agreed by both of us that, neither of us had any intentions of ever getting married and that work and our families would always come before us, and we have lived by this motto, never interfering in each others personal business,. But i have fallen very much in love with this man and had made comments such as im gonna be alone the rest of my life to him. I know he cares about me and what happens to me, but now i feel by me voicing my opinion to him, its now changed him. He broke up with me about a month ago, and told me that i deserved better, that he has no intentions of ever getting married, all though he cares and loves me very much, that im a good women and deserving of a man who can give me everything he cant. Ive started seeing him again, however i still feel the shift in the relationship, im desperate to keep him, because i do love him, but i know in my heart that our relationship has changed. The relatonship has from the beginning been equal, neither one of us ever taking advantage of the other,. But now its me that has to have the courage to let him go. I hope i can be as strong.

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