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Hailey
Hi guys, I’m dating an older man. He’s about 5 years older than me. He never posts with me on Facebook. He posts about work or sports but never about me.
I’m asking for one picture here.
He never untags our photos together that I post. When I asked him about it once, he said he just doesn’t post like that. But loves my pictures.
We are in love and I feel like I just want him to be proud of me. Just for once for him to post a Facebook picture of me.
Can someone give me advice? I don’t get it. I really don’t. What do I do?
Warasen
He’s ashamed to be with you so he’s hiding you from his friends and family.
Tallspicy
Has he put up photos of other women he has been with?
How long have you been together?
I guess you have to decide how much this means to you.
Have you met his family and friends? Do people in his life know you exist? If so, you may want to drop it. Is he making you part of his life in all other ways???
cupcake
I really don’t understand what the big deal here is?! You say he uses facebook only for work and sports. So im assuming he isn’t sharing his private life at all on fb? correct?
Lots of people dont. I don’t share personal stuff on fb. He isnt untagging your pics and is liking them so i don’t see how he is “hiding” you from anyone. In fact i don’t understand why that makes you so upset. FB means nothing. Its gone the way of the Dodo years ago. So are there other issues that make you insecure? How old are you? I would have presumed young, but then you are on facebook so maybe not that young?!Liz Lemon
I totally agree with cupcake. I don’t post personal stuff on social media and neither does my boyfriend. It has nothing to do with how much we love each other. It’s absolutely meaningless.
I know multiple people who post lovey-dovey photos of themselves with their spouses/partners on social media who have the most miserable relationships– cheating, fighting, deep mistrust. But from looking at their FB or Instagram you’d think they were madly in love.
You said your boyfriend only posts work and sports stuff on his FB. And he doesn’t untag photos you tag him in, and he likes the pics you post. It doesn’t sound like he’s hiding you to me.
Liz Lemon
I will add, I would let this go because you’re trying to micromanage his social media use and that’s not fair. You don’t get to control what he does with his social media. I don’t think he’s doing anything wrong. You sound very insecure, to be honest. Are there other issues in the relationship that make you feel insecure?
Khadija
He’s obviously a private person and told you why.
Let this go because in the grand scheme of things, posting pictures on social media isn’t important.
There are people who post their gf/bf all the time and their relationship is in shambles.
Hailey
I am insecure because I’ve been cheated on before and just don’t want that to happen again. All his family knows about me and friends. His family even invites me over when he’s not there.
He is semi private at his job because he doesn’t love it there.
But for a few months I wasn’t sure why he was so private.
I guess I’m overthinking this. I’m 26 btw. He hasn’t posted with a girl since 2016 but he used to.
Colleen
I think its dorky and annoying to see other people’s posts bragging daily about their perfect fuc, n relationships
Shut up already. What, you wanna brag to everyone you have a boyfriend? We don’t care. Grow up.LaFrance Thibodeaux
Personally I think social media is overrated that’s why I’ve never indulged..It seems that you’re trying to prove a point to others but in return it may only make your relationship a target..Work on those insecurities & keep your business to yourself..
Lane
Let it go. He told you that’s its not important to him; whereas he’s an adult grown man and able to decide what’s important and not important to him on social media just as you are.
Him posting a picture of you together is not going to prevent a man from cheating! I don’t even know how you can came to that conclusion as cheating has been going on long before the electricity and telephone came into existence so there is zero correlation between the two.
My BF and I don’t put any significance on Social Media where he rarely ever posts and just lets others do it, and I post occasionally. We pay so little attention to it that I recently noticed we both had “single” as our relationship status and we’ve been together over three years! Our Social Media relationship status had zero to do with our relationship as we are fully committed to each other, all our friends and family knows it based on the time we’ve spent with them, and are in the process of making it permanent, so you’re insecurities are unfounded.
If he treats you really good and is integrating you into his real life then that’s the sign of a man who is committing and the only sign that matters in the grand scheme of life.
Liz Lemon
Guess what, people post pics of their bf/gf on social media all the time, AND STILL CHEAT. There is no correlation between posting pics of your significant other on social media, and having a healthy relationship. You are most definitely overthinking it.
It sounds like your boyfriend used to do it (you said he hasn’t posted pics of a gf since 2016) but doesn’t anymore. That’s ok. People change their levels of social media use. I used to post a lot several years ago, and much more personal stuff. I pulled way back a couple of years ago. I just decided social media wasn’t enhancing my life. Coincidentally this happened around the time I met my current boyfriend. He’s never posted much personal stuff on social media so didn’t care that I wasn’t doing it either.
If your bf’s family and friends know about you and invite you over, then I would take that as a much more important sign that he is serious about you.
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