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Kim – there is no haters here… I call you a person with diff views, and if you call me a hater because I am of a diff view, then that is that….
the main reason this thread gets soooo long is, in my view, because OP does not have the courage to take the facts as is and acknowledge it, but instead try to spin it multiple ways to make it OK… But most posters here are mature adults who were not born yesterday…
Had OP simply come out and say “look, not responding in 4 days is bad behavior, but guess what, I am going to tolerate it because I love this man”, that would have shut down the discussion right there…
Instead, so much time and effort went in to try to paint this behavior as totally normal and fine, and that is what stirred all the debates…because nobody is that naive…we live in a time of digital everything, and everyone checks the phone 100+ times a day…
Sisi, enough already.
“Had OP simply come out and say “look, not responding in 4 days is bad behavior, but guess what, I am going to tolerate it because I love this man”, that would have shut down the discussion right there…”
If you honestly think that would have shut the discussion down, you are the one being naive. Please do not try to pass off that wouldn’t have fueled even more criticism as an excuse to call the OP out for “knowing” but having no “self worth” to do anything about it.
It seems as long as an OP follows the formula of agreeing with whatever is thrown at her, no matter how inaccurate or derogatory it is, all is fine.
It’s one thing for an OP to accept views if she feels they fit. It’s another to dwell on one point in time an OP writes about at the exclusion of everything else she says when the situation changes. To keep circling back to what you think is a weak spot and using that to drill your point in doesn’t make you wise or your advice sage. It says you have tunnel vision and disregard what an OP says when THERE HAVE BEEN CHANGES.
To keep persisting in predictions of negativity to prove your frozen in time point is a form of hating. It’s hating to accept you could be wrong. It’s hating to see someone else have a personal success. It’s hating the idea there isn’t a train wreck to rubberneck. It’s hating someone else chooses to not buy what you are selling.
“What? I am not hating. I just have a different view. And my view is one that says your BOYFRIEND is BAD and YOUR RELATIONSHIP is BAD.”