Should I be upset?

Lane,

I said I wasn’t going to reply anymore but your advice to spot on. I don’t think people realize it doesn’t bother me, I was getting anxious about it the first day not sure why… but yes you are right.

He doesn’t really have to reply to me anyways… he’s in the police academy and I read a lot of wives/girlfriends get ignored a lot since they are busy blah blah. We’ve spent the last 4 weekends together Saturday and Sunday All Day! So I understand him wanting to take this weekend to himself.

Sisi, it’s been one day now yes. I don’t necessarily feel like he is treating me any less of his girlfriend..

Sisi this question was about texting and feeling anxious not a bunch of ladies asking for the relationship barometer. The mayority here seems to think all relationships are a dime in a dozen but thats just not true. Not everybody is the same or want the same in different times of their lives. If Tiffany had asked about her status you could call it she was brushing you off. But she didnt ask. Youre pissed because she dismiised your advice she didnt ask for. And now youre still on here advocating your unwanted opinion.
The truth is you dont know. Tiffany is happy with how it is going, understanding where both of them stand but can work on their communication in the future. Whats wrong with that? You think you should suddenly call it quits because you dont think its normal?
Its the same on your own threat. You ask how to deal with your ex children and you get the advice the relationship is probably doomed anyway. Did you like that? Im glad lane answered because she made perfect sense to me too. Sometimes ladies here seem to think that the advice is more important than the question. I disagree. I would say that it probably doesnt even help in current relationships but maybe in future ones

Newbie!

Very well said thank you! What works for me may not work for everybody else! I honestly really don’t like good morning and good night texts feel so routine… while other people like that kind of stuff.

Yes we can work better on our communication of course. Relationships you always have to work for. But again he needs to destress. He even told me it was a terrible week for him (and knowing him) when he has a bad week he just pulls back and does things for himself! Nothing wrong with it. He will text me when he can :)

not too sure what to make of this thread…tiffany you know best whether the guy is interested in you or not. and you know best whether no responses to your texts are alright too. and if you think this is ok then this certainly is ok…:-) but just ensure that the bf doesn’t start taking you for granted that’s all..

Hi Sue!

Yes he eventually texted me back. His schedule at the academy changed from 7pm-4am he told me. So he has been getting 3/4 hours of sleep for the past week. And towards the end of the conversation because he was going into work today he said “I’ll text you later if I can, maybe hang out this weekend, not too sure of my schedule yet” which is understandable. :) it was good to hear from him, and that he does want to hang out. I’m pretty sure at the very least we will get lunch. The academy gets hard next week for him. So fingers crossed!!

Tiffany, I haven’t followed the whole thread, but just wanted to say – one thing that is also valued in relationships is patience.

I really liked Newbie’s advice.

Trust in him and in you as a couple… as long as you don’t have any proof against it. why not? trust it until he proves you wrong. maybe he won’t. it happens very often that men have to just learn how to be in relationships.

Emma I really do disagree with you I’m sorry… but I will have a talk with him about it believe me. But I do not expect anything like better off single said…. he doesn’t need to reply to me after a long stressful day. Sometimes I forget to even talk to my own mother after a stressful busy day… and I just work 9-5!!!

He does police academy which is very hard… I’m not mad or upset with him… he needs me time, guy time, and family time, and time to study!! His family and studies should come before me period. That’s how it is for me.

I believe he has thursdays off because he is online playing video games again… which I do not mind at all! I’m glad he’s relaxing :)

some very extreme views here. :-). if the op is currently ok with the bf’s texting patterns, then whats the problem? I guess she understands that she’s a part of his life and the whole life. she understands that he needs to do other things besides her. and that’s fine. as I said, it shouldn’t happen that he always starts putting her at the lowest rung of priorities, since she always understands.. just ensure he doesn’t start taking you for granted that’s all. that’s not a nice feeling. all the best. and yeah its good to see a patient woman who could hold back her anxieties and wait for the bf’s revert. all the best

hey don’t get so heated up. all have different views based on their experiences in life. at the end of the day, its your life and your decision. :-). if both you guys have reached a certain level in understanding and communicating then that’s great…

Agree Devils Advocate. If everything was ok with her relationship then why waste the time to ask for advice on this site?

Hate to say it but I agree, too. He’s probably not trying to be rude or disrespectful but that’s exactly what he’s doing. Shooting you a quick text takes just a few seconds and shows you the respect you deserve… I’m sure this slight lapse in communication styles can easily be remedied with an in-person conversation with him.

yes most lawyers that work w corporation, as opposed to individuals, charge $800 to $1000..if that is news to you, sorry…

And yes he never left me waiting for more than 5/6 hours… and I never left him waiting for long neither…