Should I be upset?

Now I get it. Yeah. FB sucks that way. Turn off the notifications on Messenger. Then you won’t be alerted.

But I agree. This isn’t a big deal for your relationship.
You’re good.

You are asking us meaning you aren’t sure. Which is not a good place to be in.

You are sitting here anxiously awaiting for him to make plans with you. If you always spend the weekend together call him and come up with a few suggestions of fun stuff to do maybe?

If you play it weekend by weekend and aren’t sure, wait until he gets off work tonight to respond / reach out maybe and make other plans if he doesn’t.
And stick to them.
Don’t give him the power to hold your time hostage.
Don’t be available tomorrow if he doesn’t get in touch today.

And bring it up in person next time you get together, explaining your preference of communication.

Its more than just the texting that is causing you to be anxious.

He isn’t doing his part as a bf. You are reaching out to him trying to spend time with him but,instead he is giving you excuses.

In this case I would go about my weekend and make plans. If he eventually reaches out let him know that you made plans because he never replied back to you.

Don’t sit around all weekend waiting on him.

Whenever you do you see him again I agree that you should discuss your preference.

Oh and as far as an excuse he told me he was busy only because I asked how his week was. He hasnt given me an answer yet for the weekend @Khadija

Since you are seeing each other for over a year I think it was ok that u sent a text asking about wknd plans. if he replies very late, I think you should not meet him this saturday. ensure u have alternate plans for friday/saturday ataleast. you can tell him you made plans for Saturday since you thought he was busy. you could perhaps then suggest meeting on sunday?

so he would know that the next time if he wants to see you, he needs to get in touch with you in time to make plans. don’t play hard. or get angry or confrontational. just put down boundaries in a subtle manner. will help you set tone in this relationship.

Obviously I’ve made plans for my weekend already.. I’m just wondering is he ever gonna text me back it’s been over 24 hours since I’ve asked him about this weekend? And it’s not Saturday… he’s at the gym right now until 11am..

Yeah…. idk it’s weird. I don’t want to think about it like that..

Any response yet?

Better off single… you’re right I made this a bigger deal than it should’ve been.. now that im busy myself I could care less lol! The last couple days I really had too much time on my hands and thought about it too much which sparked my anxiety..

Back story: we actually broke up a while ago bc of school and we are back together (he imitated not me) he begged for me back. And now 5/6 months later here we are. Everything is fine like I’ve said this is how he texts I honestly don’t think he does it to be rude

Thank you to everybody who replied and helped me I’m grateful for you all!

Thank you! I don’t think he’s losing interest at all. This is just how he is and I think I’m going to have to accept it. Before we got back together we even talked about it!! There’s just not changing him… everybody has their one bad thing in a relationship. His is texting…. I’ll call him later this week.. thank you all!

I’m not taking any other man with me!! I have a boyfriend lol!

Thank you for calling me crazy! A bit rude dont you think?

I am not waiting around on a Saturday I am hanging with my family all day tomorrow and today. I’ve said this is his texting habits and I have to get used to it again… which is not a bad thing. He has to adjust to some things with me… thats besides the point.

i usually dont mind but this time i had asked him a question… first strike. it did bother me, but not anymore… he will get back to me when he can.

Thank you to everybody commenting on here! I am ending my post thanks :)

Op – maybe “crazy” is not the best word, but you are madly in love w this man that you can’t see the reality…

If he has time for FB, for Xbox, for gym, andbhe does not have time to text you back? Does that sound logical to you?

The only reason he did not text back is because he does not want to spend the weekend w you..

You ought to wake up and see things for what they are

Tiffany, this is something you are going to have to adapt to. His priorities at the moment are on his Police Academy training and I think you need to back off a bit and give him the space to talk when he’s ready to talk and plan when he’s ready to plan due to these circumstances.

There’s nothing wrong with asking your SO about their day! I do agree it can become mundane if asked too much when they know how your days generally are or at the wrong time such as when you know their engaging in a task or activity when you send it. I love my BF but when I see that text many times I don’t want to answer because it has the tendency to keep going when I’m busy, engaged in something or not in the mood to engage in chit chat so I ignore it until I’m available, have time, or ready.

He like you becomes anxious when I pull back like this but it has nothing to do with him at all, its that I don’t have any more to give at the moment and need space to regenerate when I’m emotionally tapped (overwhelmed). It does pass quicker if you give him the space and room to get through it and highly suggest you pull back too, make your own plans and wait for him to step back in and fill the space when he’s ready to do so.

Humans are complex and not always good at communicating in the best way to reassure someone else especially when they are going through something themselves. I didn’t realize how my ‘pull backs’ were affecting my BF, like yours is with you, until he told me and since then I use a code word “in the weeds” which is my way of telling him I’m going through one and he now gives me the space I need until I’m ready to re-engage.

Just talk to him about how it makes you feel anxious when he doesn’t respond; that he doesn’t have to respond right away but he at least acknowledges you within a reasonable time such as 1 – 4 hours (based on what his day or schedules like). We don’t always know how people feel unless they tell us, so he may not know or thinks you’re OK with it if you say nothing—men aren’t mind readers.