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LaFrance Thibodeaux.
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Kayleigh
Hi there,
So I just want to know something
So a friend of mine that I went to school with who I only reconnected with last year has been dating his girlfriend for 7 years. However whenever we are at braai’s or some get together she is always around this other friend of ours. She basically almost sits on top of him.
So how we reconnected was at a pub close by. Went for dinner with my friend and saw him and got talking and than him and his group came and sat with us. Now at the time I had no idea he was dating this girl (she was the only girl in that group) as I thought she was dating the other guy. Another time I noticed this was at her sister’s house for a braai and once again practically sitting on top of this same guy. Another time was at her aunt’s house where her and him were having a long discussion in the kitchen than all of a sudden they disappeared. They did not come past anyone of us. Either they went to a room or the bathroom or lounge but you could hear there was no one there. Now the only way out the house is to come past where we were all sitting. Another time I noticed was at a another friend of ours’ braai. He was setting up his hub and once it was set and ready she brushed her hand across his leg to grab one of the pipes. It was her than this friend and than her boyfriend. Another time I noticed was them two sitting together at our friend’s birthday and chatting again. A lot of people have this sneaky suspicion that she is cheating
So am I reading into it or does it seem like there is something happening there? My friend gives his all to this girl and she does not even reciprocate at all, except belittle him as a joke in front of people and disrespect him by letting guys chat her up when she has been drinking sitting on his male friends laps and I do not want him having his heart broken.
Khadija
Please know I say this in a gentle way, why is this your concern?
He is a grown man that has been with her for 7 years.
Worry about yourself because he is obviously okay with the way things are going.Peggy
Hi Kayleigh-who knows if she is cheating on your friend? I would say that this is not your business. You friend can see what is happening,so he either is fine with it and it means nothing or she is cheating and he is aware but not “doing anything about it”.
Why have they been dating 7 years with no ring,marriage plans or living together? That is odd to me. Maybe this girl is trying to make your friend jealous so he will fear losing her or make a commitment? And maybe you have a thing for this guy yourself…?
My advice is to say or do nothing. This will play out in a break up eventally likely or it may not. Until then,leave it alone.Kayleigh
I am a very caring person and I do not want to see people I care about get hurt. I am not going to tell anyone anything. I just asked whether or not these were signs of her cheating cause it’s disrespectful doing it in his presence and all that.
No ring, no commitment, no house, no nothing. Both living with their parents still
No feelings I have a boyfriend. I just don’t like what I am seeing that is all and it bugs me because my father and mother cheated on each other and I hate it
Colleen
Ok, you have stated your reasons why you care. But the advice remains the same, focus on your own life. His happiness is not your job. Pay attention to your own boyfriend.
cupcake
No one can answer you question here. How could anyone? but agree with the others keep your nose out of other people’s business. You don’t sound caring you sound judgemental.
LaFrance Thibodeaux
Kayleigh,As long as your bf isn’t cheating on you then you’re good!..Dont get in your friends business allow him to see things for himself..He’ll probably cut you off before he cuts his gf off..
Kayleigh
Everyone! I simply asked if these were signs of cheating. None of you had to dig into my character. I am not judgmental but I have a huge thing about disrespect
Newbie
No they are not signs of cheating. Could be signs of a guy who likes to flirt but in that case your friend probably sees it too. If you friend is allowing to be bellitled by her, Well maybe he closes his eyes for the flirting part too
Newbie
*girl who likes to flirt
cupcake
If you have a “huge thing about disrespect” then how about you respect their privacy and stay out of their business. Or maybe you consider discussing your friends relationship online with complete strangers a respectful thing to do?
Lane
Like other’s said it may or may not be but either way I would stay out of it and let her BF make his own decisions for himself as it doesn’t appear as if they hiding anything so if the BF’s OK with their relationship then you need to be OK with it too.
You can’t protect people from hurt, its a natural process people need to go through to learn life lessons and oftentimes the hardest lessons are the one’s you learn the most from. He has a choice to stay with her not, he’s made it and is staying with her and that’s your cue to not meddler. Just know the *messenger* ends up getting shot in these circumstances so I would just remain Switzerland (neutral) and stay out of their relationship. If your friend doesn’t have an issue with it then you shouldn’t have an issue with it.
LaFrance Thibodeaux
Kayleigh,Just leave it alone dear..
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