For those who need help with NC and letting go.

Everyone of these posts have the same thing in common. It takes time! Keep reminding yourself that you are worth more! You didn’t fall in love with him overnight, you won’t get over him overnight! It’s hard to go through the day without having those reminders and memories but eventually they will fade and be replaced with better times. I’m trying to stay positive and making short/long term goals to better improve myself and it’s actually helping me forget about him. I’m so grateful to have found this forum and able to have some support from all you women! Thank you it truly helps! I’m on day 4 of no contact and hope to keep it going.. I’ve started to accept it and move on :)

I am currently going through this phase. Its not easy i must admit.
Broke up with him , i have gone NC for week until he called and i picked.He said he was just checking up on me, we haven’t seen in two weeks but i cant get him off my head. I am determined too because i have analyzed this would only cause me more harm if i choose to let go off the warning signs already.
i need to stay close to this thread.
Reading all the words from Harley and others encourages me.
Thank you for starting this thread on this topic.
I know This Too Shall Pass
And i hope to come off stronger.

But when you love so much and the memories are constantly bringing you back ., it still hurts so bad your willing to do anything just to get what you had back knowing it’s not going to happen ., how do u stop the memories ?? How do you stop hurting ,??

Congrats! All you guys……we should all be proud of our accomplishments……We Will Beat This!,,,,

Yes, it is certainly feeling better after no contact for three weeks. And…..guess what….my friend introduced me to one of her friends who has been interested in meeting me for quite sometime…..we met I really dig him and he wants to see me again…….everything happens for a reason. There is a reason why we are broken up. It’s hard I know…but very doable. I am at peace, now.

Hi all.. It’s been a week of NC since the marine broke it off. (Previous posts & recap we were together exclusive for 3 months, a weeks ago he told me he loved me, however our schedules were horrible, we saw each other one-two times a week for a few hours).. we didn’t have time to go on dates.. but the trust, respect, communication, integrity was all there). This has hit me extremely hard because I feel deep down its still a mistake, my intuition tells me.. If he wants this back he has to realize on his own terms and what I need to feel more comfortable in the relationship. I can’t seem to let go… and envisioned so much great potential of our relationship- I need to focus what it is right now.. we broke up… NC first time ever me doing this and holding strong to my values.

dd, everytime when i broke up w someone. i always ask advice from my mom. she is older, wiser. my mom also would said sth harsh but true to me. i listen everytime. when we fall, family is just there to help us up. i know they worry abt us. but they know they should let us try everything even if they knew its not going to work out or they knew we will fall sometimes, but they still trust us to do whatever and support us when we need them. u know a couple years ago i have decided to work in another country. i went here alone, but i was always very happy. then i found my ex. we fall in love. but after 1.5 year. he said he doesnt want me anymore. now i m alone again. this xmas i went back home and before i come back. i was wondering y i leave my country, leave all the ppl who loves me, my family, my friends. and going to a country that nobody loves me. i was feeling very sad but i came back to work and want a fresh start this year. i knew it would b alot easier if i just go back to my country and move on. but i also think y cant i be strong and stay here. make effort to my job and keep myself happy like i was before i havent met my ex?
now i wanna just say we are not alone. broke up is very casual things. and we r beautiful woman and has a good heart. i m sure things would b great if we accept wht happened and try to b open minded that something else would replace this hole sooner or later. do sth for ourselve happiness. dun let other person to affect us. focus on ourselves. the rest the god will b taken care of. ?

I stopped thinking about my ex….I am happy on my own…and booooom …. My friend called me and said my friend from work wants to meet you….I met him when I least expected. I didn’t expect for him and I to hit it off so well. I am sooooo happy…he is simply wonderful, calls me everyday and treats me special….

Suave…Great news.

AJ. ..read all the posts here. ignore him. stay strong.at some stage he’ll be in touch. only then will you know if he wants another chance. I doubt it. just keep as busy as you can. do not text.it will only turn him off and make him run further. by not Contacting him you get time to work on yourself. see if the relationship really was as good as you thought.. and he wonders where the hell you are. win/win all round for you.

Although it sounds like you felt betrayed…..wow….that sounds serious. Don’t put yourself in a position where you forgive your betrayal…..go back…..and it happens again. That’s what happened to me….I forgave and three months later we broke up again because of his lies and betrayal again…..this was a learning lesson for me a life lesson…but I’m done for good. Be very careful. NO CONTACT

Good for you…..he sounds manipulative too. I’m glad you made that decision. Four years…. Wow! That is a long time. Keep up with your strength. You are stronger than he thinks. If he was a liar, he wasn’t worth it. He hasn’t changed, which means he will never change. Move on…….take care of your self, pamper yourself. Go do something for yourself that you haven’t done in a long time.

Hi ladies
Bf broke up with me on nye.
We loved each other but every couple of months we would have arguments where I would want to call it off and break up with him because I felt like he didn’t appreciate me enough and I was putting in all the efforts to make plans etc. I made it easy for him. He likes playing video games all day and we hardly went on proper dates but we talked all the time on fb. I love him so much and I miss him. I officially started no contact 2 days after we broke up. And then I broke it 2.5weeks later texting I wanted my stuff back from his house and he said he would post it. And then 3 day after that I lost my mind and called him and it went to voice mail and I asked him to tell me that we had no future together so I could move on because when we broke up he said maybe we could give it another go in the future and I’ve been unable to let go because of that “maybe”… He didn’t reply to my voicemail and left it at that. So it’s been 5 day or so since I left him that message and am trying to start NC again. Blocked him on fb. Deleted everything. But I still think of him and I check my phone for messages etc… But nothing …I journal all my feelings an am seeing my psychologist just because I am quiet anxious and he was very laid back which made me insecure not because I was worried he would cheat on me but more so because he might have found me smothering and too clingy….I did lose myself when I was with him. I did nothing by myself just because I wanted to be with him. I felt fulfilled but it was tiring because my parents didn’t know that I was sleeping over at his house all the time. Having to live a double life is so hard… I don’t know what my hobbies are…trying to learn skate boarding and hiking and hanging out with friends and catching up over meals to keep me distracted…but I still miss him. He hasn’t ever contacted me since that day we broke up… I guess it is over… Just trying hard to accept it.

Hey Suave.
Starting NC again and it’s been a week. He will be at a party where I will be too. I don’t want to not go because I want to hang out with my friends at this bday party and I will see him but I don’t know how I will react when I see him. I feel like if I see him flirting it would kill me on the inside even if we aren’t dating because I can’t bear the site of it… I still will have feelings for him even though it’s a month away. I know it will come back if I see him. What should I do? I’m guilty of looking foward to seeing him because we wouldn’t have had contact for Atleast 5 weeks by then… I’m dumb enough to even believe that somehow I’ll get something for valentines day from him :(
I’m a wreck. I’ve Cried less now. I feel like I know I need to move on but I don’t know…it’s a month away…