I met a guy 4 months ago when I was on holiday. We connected instantly and ended the night with a kiss. He mentioned that he was seeing someone but she was in another country for 6 months for work.
Soon enough, we were texting each other every day and it was only a matter of time before emotions grew, we met up and spent some amazing (and intimate) time together. I think we both knew it was heading somewhere special. On the last night, he received a phone call from his gf saying she was pregnant and coming home. Disaster and heartbreak….
He said that he cares for her and therefore must give it a go and do the right thing. I agreed and walked away, admittedly very sad.
I thought it was over but he won’t stop contacting me! Sometimes 5 texts a day, mostly about what he is doing, eating, thinking etc. – so nothing emotional. I don’t understand. I gave him an easy out and the option to leave and have a life with his girlfriend and baby.
Why is he staying in contact? Is it his man way of saying he misses me? What should I do as I really care about this man…. Horrible timing I know.
I’m sure you’re disappointed. Just when things look like they’re starting to get going, life throws you a curve ball.
To the guy’s credit, he’s doing the honorable thing in the grand of scheme of things. There are unfortunately many men who wouldn’t step up to the responsibility of being there as a father to their unborn child.
Your question was about what his texts mean, specifically if it means he misses you. I’m sure he misses you. I mean, if he was texting you regularly before and you had an amazing time together, there’s no doubt that he wanted it to continue.
He obviously wasn’t expecting his girl to get pregnant. I don’t know how serious they were, but if she’s having his kid, it’s serious now.
I can totally understand you being saddened by this whole situation and I’m sure deep down you’re wishing that something could still happen with him somehow.
I can tell you that I give opinions in my column and I refrain from giving “advice”, but in this situation, I have to say that I think it would be a very bad idea to continue pursuing a relationship with this man. His life is going to become massively more complicated given his situation and there is no way that this other woman will be out of the picture now that she’s pregnant.
He probably will miss you. He may even continue contacting you. But the odds are massively stacked against you in terms of this leading to a good place.
Again, that’s just my opinion, but if you decide to keep this guy in your life I can’t imagine this being anything but a long road of heartache and drama. Tough situation to say the least but the best thing you can do is distance yourself, move on and keep your options open.