My boyfriend told his ex that he loves her too

No but if he’s supposedly trying to make her jealous why would he decline when she asked to see him… he clearly didn’t want to see her bad enough

Well, we sometimes tell people we love them without giving it another thought….it just comes out automatically after someone else tells us they love us. He possibly meant to love her as friend….there is nothing wrong for a man to have female friend and the other other way around. I also stayed friends with 2 of my ex-boyfriends and with my ex-husband. My present boyfriend is going out sometimes with his female friends he knows for years and I have no reason not to trust him. If he changes his behavior towards me….pulls back, then yes, I would be suspicious. Three weeks is very short….give him a chance. Don’t question him too much about his ex g/f….men don’t like it and may leave you if they have to deal with your insecurities.

I ask you again, what exactly is your question…

You asked me what I meant by knee jerk – I mean he heard she’d been disclosing things about them, and got angry and ended it without proper consideration.

He’s possibly a very black and white kind of person, so as soon as he’d said it was over that was that, can’t go back now kinda guy – but it doesn’t mean he doesn’t have feelings for her, or things to process, or regrets.

I think you’re on dodgy ground with a man who doesn’t know what he wants and you are likely to end up hurt if you continue to emotionally invest in this man.

How is that disrespectful if he doesn’t want her would you stay if you didn’t wanna be with them

Besides the obvious everyone has told you so far, its puzzling to me why you would go along being a gf to a guy you only know for a few weeks. You barely know the guy. Those fast swoop in guys almost always are gone again after a few weeks. And maybe for the better in your case.
I have seen a few cases of a guy and girl becoming a couple early on and made it work. But its very very rare and in these cases they knew each other already as friends

@kaye i understand what you’re saying wow yeah i need to get out of this

Yeah but sometimes we can love someone as a friend. I wouldn’t have told my ex i was dating someone else if i was open for reconciliation. Right now we don’t know if he loves her as a genuine friend or their still lingering feelings. He did have enough respect to tell her about me

Well why would he hop to someone else so quickly?

Milton –
1) You snooped on the FB messaging between the two of them. He dumped her because he felt betrayed. Don’t you think he’ll feel the same about your snooping?

2) The reason he hopped is because men hate to be alone right after a breakup. Your presence allows distraction for him from his feelings of betrayal. But he will process them in time.

3) He told her he was with someone new or he’d be hanging out with her if only she hadn’t messed up was to hurt her feelings. Payback for hurting his. By making her jealous she’ll apologize more and contact him more, right up until the point where he’s calmed down a bit, processed some feelings, realized he may have made a hasty decision, and sees her again.

4) He told her he still loves her. Enough time hasn’t passed for him to simply love her as a friend. He still loves her romantically.

5) You say he’s said he is angry with her. The opposite of love is not hate, it’s indifference. For him to say he loves her too is very very far from being indifferent towards her.

Reread Kaye’s example.
You are definitely his rebound.

Please don’t be his pawn. I don’t want you to get hurt.

It’s only been three weeks. Break it off and you’ll open yourself up to meeting someone new who isn’t so entangled with his ex (regardless of what he might say to the contrary)

Protect your heart.

If they dated for two years, broke up a month ago and you’ve been dating for three weeks. That means he supposedly got over a two year relationship in seven days.

No way Jose! That’s impossible. Please end this now for your own self protection.

Ending things thank you