4 months in and suddenly he's gone quiet on me

Oh god this. This is happening to me and it’s starting to tear me up. I am trying to be strong and confident about it.

We met in February on Tinder- I have a busy job, he basically has no work life balance because his workplace sucks, but we’ve made it work and we spend time together when we can, even if it’s me driving to his at midnight after a late shift at work and snuggling up next to him in bed. We have fun, we make eachother laugh, he’s lovely, the sex is fantastic, etc etc.
We’ve not stuck a label on what we are, but we’re definitely beyond the dating thing because he told me that’s what he thinks.

2 weeks ago, something big happened at his work (don’t know what, he didn’t say) and he ended up working all weekend when we had arranged to see each other. I know he’s having to make a decision about whether to sack someone he’s friends with, and I know he’s going through a tribunal case that has gotten nasty. I couldn’t even call him because he was constant back and forth phone calls with every boss he has. Since then, he hasn’t called me (when he used to every day) or messaged me unless I’ve messaged him first, and when we do speak, it’s not for long. He’s gone to his mums out of the blue (she lives 4 hours away) and spoke about needing to get away and needing to think about what he wants and starting afresh (I took this to mean his job).

Yesterday I messaged him asking how he was, and he didn’t reply at all. My plan is now to leave him alone.

I trying my hardest to give him his space, because all of my heart and mind is telling me that this isn’t about me and that he’ll come back. But still, it’s really hard to deal with.

Hello. So I been in a similar situation like this before. Not only did the guy go silent but usually when this happens you can bet there is another woman in the picture. Being that he is a man he wont say otherwise but bottom line he is confused. He does not know what he wants at this point so yes like others have mentioned give him space. All men need space and as women we need space too. Eventually he will come back around because they always do but you also want to be clear to him on your intentions and he needs to be clear on his intentions so that you both are not wasting each others time. Wasting time is the last thing ypu want tp do cause your time is valuable and should be spent on someone who is worth it. Trust me.

This happened to me and i have dumped him. Two months of dating. We had a great time. Then…nothing. It took a week before he called me (after sending him several messages and calling him twice). He didn’t know what he wanted, he didn’t know how he felt. I broke up with him on the spot, but his behaviour has hurt me deeply.