stops going to the gym. She starts eating crap food and gaining weight. She stops putting effort into her looks and stops putting effort into sex. Basically she just becomes a lazy slob because she feels so “comfortable”.
Now any time I mention weight there inevitably is some woman that reads this and flips out, saying that I’m cruel and insensitive and that she developed an eating disorder because some guy said she was fat.
Listen – I’m not saying this to be cruel or to place blame. Believe me, I’ve gotten sloppy before… I’m not perfect. But honestly I wouldn’t be helping anyone if I didn’t at least voice one of the major complaints from the guys side.
Hell, I know some women that have gotten so “comfortable” with their guy that they’re comfortable going to the bathroom while he’s in there.
I can’t think of anything that would repulse me more from sex than my girlfriend making bowel movements right next to me.
Anyway, I’m sure there are other great examples of this, but if you can think of any “comfortable” behaviors you’ve started engaging in, you will want to cut them out and get back on track.
From what you said in your question, it sounded like you were putting in the effort to “keep things exciting”, but I wanted to toss out that last part of my answer for the benefit of anyone it might apply to.
To tie it all together: It doesn’t sound like anything is wrong – it just sounds like you have an opportunity to communicate and through communication, gain a deeper relationship from it.
Hope it helps,