why is he not responding?

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June 23, 2023 at 3:53 pm #941893 Reply

Lily

So I went on a study date with a guy from a language class. I knew he was interested in me and we had some nice (of course short) conversations during class. I bumped into him on campus some time later and because it was exam season, we just studied together.
After that, he came up and asked for my Instagram so I thought he might like me. I asked him if he wanted to study some other time, so we did the week after.

When I came to the study space we planned to meet up, some of his friends were there too and it felt kind of weird to me since I thought we might be a bit more ‘alone’ but its fine. Is that a good or a bad sign??

After we studied, he said he would gladly want to meet up some other time so I thought he might be interested. I knew he had an exam so I asked him how the exam went but I haven’t got a response from him yet (it’s been 4 days already) even though I can see he is online on whatsapp a lot.

Does that mean he lost interest and what do I do??

June 23, 2023 at 4:06 pm #941894 Reply

Raven

Unfortunately, he’s not interested…
What should you do? Move on

June 23, 2023 at 5:42 pm #941896 Reply

Maddie

How did you know he was interested romantically at first? Sounds like he thinks you’re a cool classmate and wants to be friends, and that may have been the case from the start (rather than he lost interest). Nothing wrong with that, but move on and don’t bother being friends if you want more than that, otherwise you’ll be torturing yourself.

If he comes back and asks you on a real first date and makes it very clear it really is a date, he’s initiated asking you, made solid plans for a specific day and time that he takes you out somewhere without other friends, and (depending on where you’re located) he pays for the date activity, then you know he’s interested in more AND ready to pursue it. But unless that happens, again, either assume you’ll be normal friends and that’s it, or move on and don’t get hung up on him if you want more.

June 23, 2023 at 5:55 pm #941898 Reply

Khadija

How did you come up with the idea that things between you are romantic? I remember having classmates who I met up with often to study with but, it was never romantic.
If a guy wants to ask you out he will and he’ll make it clear that it’s a date.
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