Texting someone you met online for almost 3 weeks without meeting.

“Met what I think is a good guy online” wow, you come across naive. Do not make assumptions and judgements based on an online persona. Online, isn’t representative to real life. He may not be that ‘good’ in real life. Drop your expectations & don’t put your eggs in one basket.

A man that wants to meet you, will make arrangements to meet you.

If this is bothering you, I’d simply say to him “Can we lock down a time to meet up because I don’t see the point in communicating online, for nothing”.

I have so much to say about this. OP this is a total waste of your time! Actually more than that- thus is no good for your heart! You’re attached , its oozing out from your post. You haven’t met, and there’s no plans to do so. In three weeks? Yet you text all day? This is company- nothing more.

Please pull right back here. Pull away before you have a real problem because women get hurt with this pen pal arrangement. Unless he puts a meet up in the table this man is a waste of your emotions

The man explained to you over messaging that he has kids and a busy job.

So WTF is he doing wasting a nice lady’s time online?

By continuing to message him you are showing that you are flakey.

Because a real woman would not waste time yakking.

He obviously tries this with any female he can get online, and the others have dropped out because he’s all talk.

You are the only sucker left that will talk but not meet.

I definitely wouldn’t have high expectations. If were me, I would either move on now or start ignoring his messages, and after a couple messages, if he hasn’t asked to meet, move on, as it is a waste of time.

I think u can tell him straight that its been 3 weeks yet no meeting. so lets go slow on texting till we meet in person and see how things are in real. if he persists in messaging you pls ignore those. this is a waste of time. I would suggest that you also do a background check of him on social media and verify if he is indeed who he says he is.

Hello, thanks for the replies so far. I went to Highschool with him. He was a senior and I was a Freshman. We weren’t friends but I know exactly who he is. He didn’t state on his profile that he’s always busy. He basically told me he’s going with the flow and is open to a relationship if it comes to that. He’s firefighter. He’s been one for 13yrs and works a lot of overtime and getting a major certification at the moment. On his free time he likes to spend it with his daughters that are 8 and 6. I just wanted to give you guys some back story. I don’t want to pressure him into meeting me I guess it will happen when it happens. He is not the only person I am talking to but he is my favorite to say the least. He has a career, owns his own place, has his s**t together. As apposed to some of the men I know. So yea. There is the backstory. Thanks again

I agree with anon. If in 3 weeks he has not found the time to meet you for a cup of coffee, how will he find time for a relationship? He can text you all day, but can’t spare you 1 hour for a meeting? If he were motivated to meet, he would have already suggested it.

It’s not pushy at all to state what you’re looking for. It will save you a lot of wasted time and possible hurt feelings.

the busy man and the 2 kids = a man who is unavailable.

You haven’t even met him & already you’re not happy. Why progress?