Taking a two week break

Sofia,

May I ask, what happened when you saw each other on the 17th?

@Hannah – I was thinking the same thing; not that she is not necessarily isn’t strong, but she any man worth his salt would not leave a girl hanging for 2 weeks. 1 week, MAYBE and that’s if he had other things going on, but even then, something of such importance. Anyhoo I was curious and hoping that this would be a situation where the dude did need this time away to actually think and miss.

I am afraid that he didn’t agree to her “ultimatum” but instead fed her a measly words, and Sofia agreed to what he fed her, and this may be perhaps the reason she hasn’t come back. So, she didn’t get what she wanted but still stayed with him anyway. I hope I am wrong.

Sofia, it sounds like you are a much stronger and braver woman than I am.

I’m going through perhaps a similar but less traumatizing experience. I’m not young, and my partner is jittery at best on commitment.

God, I’ve seen enough therapists and read enough online help to know the ultimate solution is to love ourselves, and our happiness depends on ourselves more than anyone else, any man or woman may give you.

I’m not saying what he’s doing is right/wrong, men have their way of thinking and it’s often illogical or inconsistent to women. I wish to God that we as a human race didn’t have 2 genders and so many world problems (not just relationship wise) would be solved if there is a unified less manly gender controlling the world.

BUT there they are and there we are.

FACT: You are awesome. From the messages and how you are handling the situation, you sound awesome.
FACT: You can’t control the outcome.
FACT: You will survive this no matter what

Can we ever end up in a meaningful relationship with a thoughtful other partner ever? I don’t know. But that doesn’t need to define us (I hope).

I wish you all the best and just want to let you know that you are not alone, there are tonnes of us out there battling with the same (and some of us not even brave enough to admit it). So kudos to your courage.