So what happens after the 30 day no contact rule?

Thanks Andrea, I appreciate it. I just need some one to tell me what I already know in my heart. You know the heart plays tricks on us sometimes.

Darn ego!!! This sucks!! I’m 41 years old. I thought he and I were on the same page. We both have kids. We don’t want anymore nor do we want to be Married. I guess at his old age he still wants to play the field. I’ve been playing it for too long. I want something serious and I thought he had potential.

Girl you need to put your trust and believe in God and leave it in God’s hands I would not waste my time it’s more fishes in the sea just have trust and believe in yourself that you can do better

Thanks Tina, I have put my trust in God and I know things will eventually get better. It’s just the in between that is hard to deal with.

Ms. Independent, I want him to contact me, but at the same time I know if he does it’s going to be for the same reason (sex) so at times I wish he doesn’t because I’m afraid I’ll give in again and then I’ll really be in a mess!!

I think if he wanted to be with you, he’d be in contact with you. If you text him just to say hello, he’ll know you’re just sitting around waiting for him to come back. He needs to experience life without you and miss you. And if he’s not feeling that, then you need to be free of him to move on with your life. So I vote, keep the no contact. Only text him if it is in response to his text.

After the 30 day no contact you move on. If a relationship is not working then why bother?

If you’re doing it to get someone back then i dunno, I’ve never attempted that.

If he comes back to you with more to offer then yes, talk to him but only if it comes from him.

30 days is for you to get your head together.

No contact gives you the breather you need from the vicious cycle. It gives you time to think clearly.

Contact confuses things. If a man is not treating you right what is the sense in going back…you will only get more of the same. He will not change. That is what to understand for yourself.

Dear Sonia, i can understand wats going on there deep in ur heart…for sure it must be aching coz evn i hav gone thru such heartbreaks in past. The longer u wil recall the memories spent with ur love interest, the more ur heart wil pain. And the main point here is the one whom u r desiring a lot is not at all bothered to call u or evn message u back. How insensitive! Such men are termed as casanova or playboy or philanderer …but i call them skirt chaser….sonia, if this is how he expresses his respect for u then i must say u being so good and tender at heart who feels the pain, needs special treatment and that to from Mr.Right. The one who has taken ur attention for these many days is nothing but some tom-dick-harry. Just dont waste ur precious energy, time and money on such fellows ever, my dear.

I’ve been dating this guy for 4 months, it’s been a rollercoaster. I finally broke it off 3 weeks ago, he said thank god. I texted him a response and we ended up texting each other some cruel things. But I need it with I’m going to be the bigger person and not respond like that.
A week later I texed he was still mad so I didn’t text back until Tuesday (2 weeks later). He hadn’t responded. I broke up with him because he called me a crazy bitch. I did get anxious in the relationship and he warned me several times. At that time I didn’t realize I was acting that way. Now I realize what happened and if I was him I would have ran for the hills too.
Now back to the last text. I told him I see now how I was actingthat I was being a bitch, crazy and I would have ran for the hills too. I called him jerk the worst person on earth. I didn’t apoligize I just owned up to my mistake. I told him Ive changed I’m nor that person anymore. I havn’t heard from him yet. Now I feel like I should’ve told him that. Also I asked him how was his weekend and what I have been doing.

Do you think I made a mistake?

Kim, some things can’t and shouldn’t be saved. This is one of those situations. You dated the guy for four and you described it as a roller coaster. That’s not good.

It’s good that you realized where you went wrong and how you would do better. Take that knowledge to a new relationship. I have a feeling that this guy wasn’t that nice to begin with. Any man who calls you a crazy bitch and says thank god when you break up with him is not a man you should be with.

Block his number and move on. Continue working on yourself and someone better will come along. I promise.

To Sonia…..stay strong and never settle for less that all that you want from any man.

To everyone else who commented…I love this thread. Great women supporting great women!