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Raven
Hi P, it’s good to hear from You!
I’m glad to hear you’re working on your stuff… I hope you find what ever it is you need to find to move forward from this exhausting ‘relationship.’
ANM StaffKeymasterHi P – admin here! I’m sorry you had trouble posting. I’ve been trying to fix-up the quirks of the forum recently, so when you mentioned you had trouble posting, it caught my attention.
I took a look at the forum logs, and I think I may have seen what happened. Did your post happen to contain the phrase “https://” from a URL? If it did, then the anti-spam-robot may have just rejected the whole post outright, without me even seeing it. (There are always some really aggressive spammers trying to post on the forum, and so the forum rejects some things right away so as not to bog down the system. Sorry about that!)
If you still have your text ready to post, try removing that URL and see if it’ll go through.
And if your post really didn’t contain any URLs, then I definitely will need to look deeper. In that case just let me know.
Also best wishes to you, I hope everyone has more insight when you’re able to get your post through!
ANM StaffKeymasterWe solved dating problems, now if only admin could solve the forum coding problems. ;)
Raven
Thanks @Mod, I figured something was up…
Harley
Bahahahaha…I’m back!!!!
Kathy
0MG! It’s Harley! What have you been up to girl?!
Harley
Ah, I got kicked out of here. Life us good. Still single. Had a good few hookups…nothing serious.
Just moved house again as changed my job and wanted to be nearer family and friends. Am in a town now….lots of hunks everywhere!!
House needs complete renos. Wee 33yr old builder has an rye for me.. or my bank balance !!! But he’s running scared.
Time will tell. Very flattering…as I am 54!
He’s on other jobs for a few weeks now….so see if he misses me…and the bank balance
He’d only be a roll in the hay anyway…too young.But.. its all good, clean fun.
Raven
Hey Harley, Welcome back 🎉
Harley
Well raven,
Not many of the great original posters here.huge sigh.
Kathy, khadja, tall..yourself…that’s about it.
Sad.
Raven
Eerily quiet here lately…
Who’s seen the Barbie Movie & what did you think?
P
Hi all,
well I have an update… I’m no longer with my girlfriend. I was in the midst of breaking it off as I had enough of her erratic swings in mood and angry meltdowns.
She was diagnosed with borderline personality disorder when she went for an assessment at the psychiatrists for possible ADHD. She took it so badly they had to call in a CAT team for help with her aggressive behaviour. She had no idea that she was that bad.
This is my second BPD person in a row that I have opted into a relationship with and stayed for a bit. This highlights a major issue with my obviously unresolved Co dependent personality and how i seem to want to play the rescuer role. There was a few of you pointing out to be the issue, thank you for trying. I feel lucky that her diagnosis really reflects my gaping deficit in my tolerance to what would send a normal/healthy person running a mile.
there is a lot of literature on the dance of BPD and Codependency and why BPD are attracted to us. We never leave! She is getting the help she needs finally and I’m off to do the same.
Raven
Hi P, Thanks for the update…
I’m sorry things didn’t turn out like you hoped AND in my very same breath, glad that you are finally out & are seeing the type of help you need.
Good luck & please update us 🙏🏼
AngieBaby
P, big hugs and thanks for the update. I’m relieved for you. You were trying so hard to make it work. I’m glad to hear she got a proper diagnosis and is getting help now. This is time for you to breathe, recover and heal whatever it is inside you that feels it must rescue others. Keep letting us know how you’re doing, you have friends who care about you here.
P
Thank you Raven and AngieBaby
you both put in a lot of effort over the years with a few of the others, very much appreciated and I’ll keep you posted. There will be no more relationships for sometime though. Time to rescue myself ! x
Raven
Any New Year’s resolutions?
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