Please put some sense in my head!

Newbie, you are right. Thank god I ranted here. Phew!!!

I ll start with that when I speak to him. You gals are awesome here!! Thank you!

Well I’m glad it sounds like the two of you are on the same page! Like you I’m not good with hiding my feelings and my husband could read me like a book when we were dating and of course after we married if something is wrong in the slightest! I usually feel it’s better to sit on things for at least 24 hours to see if it’s still bothering me (which you did by venting here!) but he’s usually asking me before I can even take that time!

It is good he recognized these cues from you and asks. And it’s okay to show your disappointment in not getting to see your boyfriend for over 2 weeks. If he is working out of town until late at night that explains why he can’t just come to you after work. It sounds like he understand and respects your concerns.

I would encourage you though to make each other more of a priority. Like some others have said I don’t really see meeting once a week after 8 months as much progress in the relationship. Certainly there are ways you two could spend more time together. Do you even feel integrated into is life? Are you meeting family, friends, co-workers or is he keeping you separate?

Kaye, yes I m sure we ll work it when we meet and talk. It’s only 8 months old and we are still learning about one another. This was his first vacation since we got together. So I think it is also a learning curve for him. Like many pointed out, him making an effort to be in touch while being on overseas vacation is major plus point. We are slowly integrating ourselves into each other’s lives. I m in no big hurry to speed that up as I too want to be sure that he is the right one first.

Peggy, what can I say. Life gets in the way sometimes.

Every relationship (and every person) is different. Kaye was spending plenty of time with her husband at 8 months mark. I think when I was with my partner at 8 months mark, it was much more like Michelle’s situation. We would see each other once a week, sometimes two, but sometimes once a month. I remember worrying too, sometimes, lurking at this forum and reading about man’s priorities and how often we should see each other. But soon I realized that what was working for us, was just different. We are both very devoted to our jobs, which also involve lots of travelling, very very busy. That’s sounds a bit like Michelle’s situation. We also both like our me time, so we honestly just didn’t have the need to be in constant touch or see each other as often as some describe (5 times a week, I would find exhausting.) I think it’s good that you didn’t hide your worries, OP. I didn’t either when I had any doubts and it worked out. What really helped in my relationship was moving in together. We are still very busy, but at least we have nights, breakfasts, dinners together. Anyway, I am very happy in my relationship and I wish you all the best too, Michelle. Personally, I actually think that relationships were both parties are busy (aka have their own lives) have the best prospects. (By the way, I can’t believe that a medical student with 16-20 hours shifts would have time for dates 5 times a week, unless it was a very crappy student who really didn’t care about doing their job properly. With my partner we’re in academia, still in early career stage which is very competitive, and really, once a week was often the most we could dream of before moving in together.)