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Emma.
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tammy
firstly you need to think. why did you guys break off? bec of your close friendship with your ex.? he cldnt handle his insecurities and you dint want to break off your friendship with your ex. so let me ask you. why didn’t you guys just talk it out? instead of drama and fights and breakoffs? and even if you do approach him after giving him some cooling period. what is your stand going to be? I think its ok to approach him after a cooling off period. but shouldn’t you first figure how would you tackle the problem this time?
and another thing. how can anyone say whether he will get in touch or not? that’s for you to figure. there is a 50 percent chance. he may or he may not. so then what? if he doesn’t get in touch even after 4/8weeks?
kaye
Monu,
Having to check in with him, send him pictures, change your lifestyle and essentially walk on eggshells due to HIS insecurities is no way to live your life. If he says he can’t trust you then there really is no relationship. And constantly fighting and breaking up should show you the two of you aren’t compatible and can’t make this work. Sorry to say but he did you a favor by finally ending this. Can you really imagine a life married to a man where you have to keep jumping through hoops to make him happy?
Emma
I am sorry you are hurting, but how do you expect to feel? Breakups are always very hurtful, burning your soul out alive. Everyone goes through this, you are not alone.
You just have to endure this, and yes, this means you might not get back together again. But as kaye said, it is for the best for you. What starts this way would not lead to a good marriage.
You can go after him again, and experience round 3. But it will still end the same way, and it will hurt AGAIN just as much when you have to go contact AGAIN because he’d end things and would block you. In the meantime you’d get angrier and angrier and acquire more baggage that would be harder to shed off. It would take you longer to get over things and feel free to meet someone new.
There is no easy pain free way out.
I have a feeling you are going to go after him and beg him to come back. If you are going to do it, then do it now, do not wait and drag it. Go through round 3 faster, you’d get out faster. Good luck.
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