I contacted my ex after no contact was over.

Hi! I know this post was old but it is also my situation right now. After NC, I tried to contact my ex. We’ve been in a relationship for 2 years. We are from different nationality and country. I broke up with him because I think he needs time to decide for himself. He got stressed after losing his part-time job, he is a graduating student, too much stressed made him ignored me and treated me badly by saying to leave him alone or to live for myself. But after that I can see that he was meeting friends again which made me happy because I think he needed it that time. But the sad thing was I waited for him to make it up to me and didn’t. If he can be happy with friends again, at least we should be also talking again like before. I did not talk to him for 3 days then he was scared and called me to save the relationship. I agreed but I was still distant to him because I am still scared that he will ignore me again. After a week, he gave up making up to me. He wanted us to be apart because I was so cold to him but after talking again, we did not break up. After 3 days of that scenario, I can feel that we really need a break. We need to rest so I broke up with him. We need to think well. After 2 weeks, I contacted him. Because I heard from friends that he was having a hard time. At first we talked awkwardly but the next day our conversation was like before.. I was happy but he accidentally sent a video of a girl at the park. I sent a question mark. He said he was with a friend and the friend’s girlfriend. I don’t know what to think but I did not react. I just said okay :) then at night, he sent a message but I did not reply anymore. What do you think?

Sorry for your pain, but there is nothing can be done. You have to endure it like any other pain, only there are no painkillers for this one. it is a real pain, hurts worse than physical, because it goes deeper, and stays in every fiber of our being for a long time. There are things you can do to numb it, and the more of them you’d do, the easier it will be. Get busy! Take up on new hobbies, get in the best shape of your life, new hair, new wardrobe, revisit old friends, travel, flirt with other men to get some boost for your ego. Block and remove him from everywhere so that you don’t peak at his social media. make sure that you can’t see or hear anything about him for a couple of years. Yes, that long. If you want to recover and move on, then stick to this regime. And stay strong. It would take 3-4 months and you’d feel better. if you stay in contact, any type of contact, even indirectly, you’d prolong your misery.

My ex broke up with me a week ago I texted him for 5 days with no answer from him not knowing about the no contact rule I stoped texting him 3 days ago after I found out about the no contact rule. Did I ruin my change of him wanting to get back together with me ?