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Sun
OMG!!! I can’t believe you can still asks if you should give him a chance.
This type of men are the hardest to deal with and manage as they are not only a narcopath but also a professional con man. Given your past history, you are not in a position to deal with this kind of man. You only have one choice. To leave or be a victim forever.
My stepfather was caught cheating on my Mom in a video and yet still denied that that was him. Not sure if you’d seen RAW but Eddie Murphy and other stand up comedians who broached the topi of men cheating. They all say, that even when their woman had actually seen and caught them red handed, they will deny, deny, deny, “it wasn’t me babe”, “it wasn’t me”. What does that to you? You doubt your own judgment. You question what you’d seen. That’s the way the men expect it to happen.
Please, it’s only been 6 months. You still have time to get out and start over.
Annie1258
I hate these stories so much yet I can relate to so many of them. I’m now 59 almost 60. My true love of my life and I were living together. Engaged (I bought the beautiful ring!!! Gave it to him to give to me. I’m sooooooo dumb!!!). His best friend was a girl he had worked with for 15 years. He hated her body and kept telling me he’d never do her. I knew he couldn’t as he was so obnoxiously judgmental. Yet his primary obligation was to her. So one entire summer he hung out with her every Friday night at her house. A few nights he didn’t come home. I was devastated. What I didn’t know that she was on a dating site and she set his up too!!! She was so jealous of me as I am not pompous but I’m small and been called beautiful everywhere I go. (I don’t like attention!!). So I caught him on the site as I walked behind the couch and saw him texting. He denied it naturally and lied more each day. He started going out at night. Blah!! Eventually I left him and moved back to my own home. Thankfully I didn’t sell it! Yesterday I heard from him as when I left he was in “love”. He has asked me to talk once/mo for the last 3 but won’t tell me what it’s about. So here’s my advice to all you beautiful girls. Please please do not go back to a chearter, a liar. As I KNOW that will continue the rest of your life if you continue to allow it to happen. Please never let a man take your control away from you or make you feel less than you are. Stand strong for who you are and your convictions. There are good men out there who are deserving of you. Please never let anyone take your crown away. Btw. I’m still single. I’ll be 60 at Christmas! I’m happier than I’ve ever been my entire life. I don’t need a man but if I find one… he will have to be all the things I went without. Stand up girls. Be proud. Don’t ever say you are non-deserving to a man. I beg you all to live the life I haven’t lived until now. Hugs to all of you!!! All my best
Tanya
This exact thing happened to me. I do not live with him. He is very good to me. More than I ever dreamed. I decided to believe him (did not see a pof profile) just an e-mail back and forth over a four day span. ABOUT SEX!! So I know I may be making a mistake. But he could have made one too by talking to her.. Anyway that was 5 months ago and things are great. But reading this and all the responses makes me uneasy and feel like I’m an idiot. That im in denial. I have always believed people deserve a second chance. So I’m just going to play it out. How do you check for a POF profile. I should do that..lol
Ewa
and he travels for work, so he probably looks for girls wherever he stays
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