Had sex, got ghosted, can I get him interested again?

Also, why did you continue texting him after finding out he was in a relationship? If you would have done the right thing from the beginning you would have avoided the frustration of watching him block you in WhatsApp. If I were you, I would block him now to avoid anymore embarrassment. He screwed up his relationship so let him deal with it.

What was the purpose of saying to speak when you come back? There is only one conclusion to draw… to see how things go. I’m am sad that you think so very little of yourself that you want a man who treats the woman he is in a relationship with in this manner, and you feel his contact some kind of victory to your ego.

You’re an embarrassment.

“where he just texts you when he want sex” HAH, I saw it coming. I think we all did tbh.
And L said it, the good old “buhhh uhhh im in a sexless relationsship, please feel sorry for meeee… even though i could break up with my current girlfriend, but im not going to, because then I have no excuse to not be serious with you”
Dude do what you want. If you want to be the “little secret, whom he unblocks when his gf is out of town, so he can have sex with you, cause thats all you are good for” then do it. But it wont make you feel any better about yourself.

I was really curious as to why you would continue to text a man you slept with once you learned he was in a relationship. The fact that you are entertaining the idea of still communicating with him is not a good thing on your end. You haven’t started an affair with him, but you also didn’t end things with him. On the contrary, you hoped he unblocks you on WhatsApp when his girlfriend is out of town.

I don’t know if you are aware that your behavior is questionable. And people are reacting to your behavior. Personally, I don’t want to attack you. I just hope with you coming to this forum you will eventually become aware that this man is bad news. Your continued interest is worrisome because it shows you either A)lack self-awareness B) lack self-esteem C) lack any moral compass. I think it’s either A or B. Listen to what the people on the forum are saying. These are strangers who think bad about your behavior, now imagine what your POI thinks about you. Trust me, he isn’t thinking good things about you. Learn from this. Good luck!

What do you think women’s reaction would be? Pat you on the back And declare you victorious whilst you now knowing crap over a fellow woman? Because he’s an ass and so are you. You share in it as you are now aware he has a girlfriend, yet you engage with him chasing you still- hoping he will actually – for your personal ego kick. you ARE an embarrassment- no cyber bullying to be had, I’d say it to your face as easy I promise you that. What a disgraceful way to behave.
When you are cheated on by someone you care about it will be karma, so look in the mirror and expect no sympathy. People are rea ting as they are because they can’t believe your lack of insight and desperation for his attention at all cost.

@Preston, all luck to you finding what you’re looking for!

Regarding your advice:

“To provide the “more” that a woman desires– commitment, relationship of the heart, etc, takes a different kind of man. The guy you encountered would likely not ever provide that for you.”

This is completely off-base. You say “that a woman desires” as if all women desire the same thing. All women do not desire what you say they do. All women are different. The OP in particular clearly stated she didn’t want a relationship. She wanted a FWB situation for a short period. A lot of posters are acting like that’s not really what she wanted but I see no reason to doubt her. All she wanted was good sex, and she was disappointed when what she thought would be an easy FWB setup got so complicated.

It’s patronizing to ignore what a woman says she wants and instead say she wants exactly what ALL women want. There is no “all women want.” We’re all different.

I am hearing the good advice, not that I am ignoring everything and definitely not expecting encouragement. @Junior’s point on emotional affair was a very good one for example, much like the suggestion that I need to leave him to deal with his relationship issues.

But many of the other posters are abusing me assuming that I am craving him to contact me again and desperately hoping that I will have sex with him again – which is not true! If these assumptions are based on the fact that I haven’t blocked him and I replied to his text trying to to ease him when he texted me about gf finding out let me tell you this – I have never blocked anyone on my phone or on any social media platform. Not my abusive ex bf, not my ex husband, not friends I fallen out badly. No matter what a person does blocking him as if he had never existed in my life feels like an over reaction to me. I can see why people might do that but I have simply not felt the need and I hope I never will.

You are obviously free to think or believe into anything even that means misinterpreting my post. But it’d be nice if people remind themselves that there are real people on the other end of the screen before calling a stranger an embarrassment, a dishonest person, a stupid woman or a wh@re. It’s such a disappointment to see that people are still attacking me and each other. If this is how posters here are choosing to communicate I am not engaging in this conversation anymore.

So I’m a bit confused here. Are you planning to keep in touch with him or ignore him? I hope you’re going to ignore the creep. Sex won’t be fun knowing he’s got a girlfriend who’ll be devastated and that he may well have put his thing in her just before he saw you anyway.