FWB dumped me

I did go for help last week and the last time too.

I got handed out tranquilisers and sleeping pills and the phone number for a counselling service that is useless. They do a basic phone service and it really is no good.

Private counselling is the equivalent of $150 a session and I cant and i can’t afford it.

What am i supposed to do.

THANK YOU MISTRAL!!!

OK Alex. Disclaimer – I am not a medical professional and you need the advice of a medical professional!! I’m going to do my best to guide you according to what I have found in my extensive experience with depression does and does not work. I took my journey to get to know my mind and my body and what works for me; each person including you must do the same.

Reading: clinical dash depression dot co dot uk. I read all of the site and that helped me understand what was happening to me. Good resources there. You can always call them and ask what they think – I did that and they helped me. Anything from Martin Seligman is helpful.

YouTube and Google: best search terms are understanding depression, curing depression, things like that. I also listen to isochronic and binaural beats to help me balance. WARNING! If you start listening to something and it makes you feel weird, STOP. You should feel better by listening. Anna Wise’s book The Awakened Mind can help you understand brainwaves and how they affect your mood.

Basically, if you are diagnosed as “clinically” depressed and not “situationally” depressed, the neurotransmitters in your brain are on the blink. You are making too much or too little of at least one of them. Google “neurotransmitters” to find out what they are. Serotonin, dopamine, endorphins.

Go tell your doc what your symptoms are. Sleeping meds are not the answer I have some but use them sparingly. Me, I sleep way too much and eat too little when I feel depressed. It sounds to be like you need some kind of meds to get you up and moving and thinking straight again. There are many on the market to help with that. Remember they are a crutch not the cure and you shouldn’t be on them forever. But just a you couldn’t walk without a crutch if you broke your leg, you may need an anti-depressant. No shame in that.

Sorry for all these posts. The system wouldn’t let me post what I originally wrote and I had to weed out the offending words (still not sure what they were!) by trial and error.

Sorry I forgot id beem but no help really available

Alex, listen to me. If you can’t cope then you have to go the nearest A&E and tell them you must receive help. Call Samaritans and ask them to tell you what to say and write it down and GO. I’m very, very worried about you and there isn’t anything else I can do to help you in the cyberworld here!!! PLEASE go and then let us know you are OK.

Hi Alex,

Do not break contact please. Stefanie is trying with everything she has to stay with you here. We care.

Stay with us…it will get better…I promise….

Keep talking to Stefanie.

Im an atheist. Church is BS.

I know it sounds crazy but I want him back so badly :(

I think this post is out of line and it’s kind of scaring me a bit. I don’t think anybody here should be playing the role of therapist, or depression hotline and I fear that is worse than simply directing someone to the right resources. This is a dating forum and when someone’s needs are beyond that they need the right resources and not counseling online from unqualified people.

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Alex, Is there a reason why you are not discussing your issue and depression with friends and family? Can you call a hotline for depression? Can you google free resources? You do need someone to talk to but you need someone qualified, qualified means they have training, a degree, or such. You also need to talk to friends and family in person and tell them of your thoughts and feelings and let them help you through this.

Ivy. Its pissing me off a bit too.

Im depressed yes, suicidal certainly not. Im getting a bit tired of being spoken to as if im about to jump off a building…..go to a&e ffs?! Why would i do that.

I cant go to family and friends as Stephanie is right. It’s a big taboo.

I came on here as i wanted to tell my story to moan to a load of strangers about how much i likef this guy because my friends are of the view i should forget him.

I wanted to talk to a load of strangers instead and go over it to come yo terms with it. But instead i got stfu from you lot too.

Jesus. Why cant i talk about the f***wit on here? Why not?

Go over it until im sick of it. Thats all I wanted to do.

Stefanie, you are out of line not me, this is not your forum and you are not a therapist and you do not have a right to tell anyone that they should stay out of it. You don’t own this board, this post, or this interaction.

But I will stay off this post, cause I said what I had to say and I am done.

And Alex, I wish you all the best, heartache is difficult and I truly wish for you to be happy and find whatever it is in life and love that you are looking for. All the best.

Ivy, there was no call for you to jump in on this post and say what you said. I wasn’t talking to you and I’m handling this matter ethically. If you don’t like it then report to sys admin.

As I told you on another post, this isn’t about you or me or being right. You really really seem to need to be right and it’s best if you and I don’t interact any longer directly. It’s not my forum… nor is it yours either. Best wishes.

Alex,

I presume that I’ve given you enough info on how to deal with depression if you want to go and do that. I’ve got nothing else to say on the matter unless you ask.

If you want to vent about the guy go ahead and do so.

I really hope you will deal with the depression issue when you are ready.

best, Stefanie